Only The Best Version of You Can Answer This Question

Hey, if you find yourself showing up at work and you're just not being productive to the degree that you should be, you're not showing up as your best self, you're showing up with that fake smile and the true you is not shining through. You're being suppressed. You're going through a difficult time. And the reason is because you are not happy at home. You might have great work conditions, but you're not happy at home. And you're bringing in that baggage with you at work. That is not fun. That is difficult. If you are not an employee, but you're an employer, you are an HR manager, or you're working with people, maybe even colleagues, and you notice that they're going through a difficult time at work, and it might be because they're going through a difficult time at home, in their marriage, or in their relationships. I want to share with you a couple of reflective questions that will put you on the journey toward being closer to your best self so you can show up at work being the best you, be more productive, and show up and just be a happier person. A happier person at home, a happier person at work. This one question is not going to solve everything. It's going to put you on the journey toward being able to solve everything because I do think you have the answers within you. And I believe the questions I'm about to share with you will start putting you on that journey so you can just relieve a little bit of tension and allow a little bit of the best of you to kind of shine through. I want you to imagine that you come home after a long day of work. You're exhausted. You're exhausted not feeling like you were as productive as you should have been. You might even be afraid because you're not as productive as you should have been. You're exhausted interacting with people knowing that you are unhappy inside. You're putting on that fake smile and it's just not cutting it and you're exhausted from entering back into this perpetual cycle of negativity at home. So, I want you to think about this. Imagine you walk in at home and for some reason something's different. For some reason, you feel like there's a little bit of hope. For some, I don't know why, but just go with me. For some reason, you feel there there is a chance of you being closer to your best self. and your spouse is on the couch when you walk in. You thought he or she was sleeping, but she wasn't kind of dozing off, but he or she is awake. Your spouse is watching you and you don't know that. And he or she doesn't necessarily know that you're in a slightly better mood and for some reason slightly feeling slightly more hopeful. What would you be most proud of for your spouse to catch you doing at that moment? If he or she were to see you at home, what would you want her or him to see you doing? What kind of person would you want him or her to see you being? And I want you to actually think about this deeply. Like even write it down. It should be really concrete because what I'm really asking you is what kind of person do you want to be? And if you were to label that in concrete terms, like do you want to be a more confident person? Do you want to be a kinder person? Do you want to be a more disciplined person, a more caring person? And I'm just throwing out examples, but I want you to think about the kind of person you want to be and where you would expect evidence of you being that kind of person. Answer those questions and you are going to be closer to being your best self. You are going to relieve tension. Your spouse is going to see a better version of you. You'll probably see the better of him or her. and you'll be able to bring that into work as a more happier, productive person and radiate beyond and even impact company culture. There's a misconception we usually think, well, I first have to get rid of all the pain, get rid of all the distrust, get rid of all the betrayal, get rid of all the hurt, get rid of all the emotional baggage and negative feelings and heal. So, before I figure out who I am, before I figure out who I want to be, before I can even think about being happy. And it's actually the opposite. If you can figure out how to be happy, and by happy I mean like be closer to the best version of you. In order to do that, you have to define what the best version of you is. But if you can be closer to the best version of you, you are going to be on the journey toward healing all that negative baggage. So I want you to think about what kind of person you want to be and try to label it with one or two words and think about where you would expect most to see evidence of being that kind of person. So if you want to be confident or you want to be kind, you want to be caring, you want whatever it is, the kind of person you think you are, where would you first expect to see evidence of you being that kind of person? Answer those questions for yourself and you are going to help relieve tension at home. You're going to be able to bring in that joy and that spirit with you at work. Be a more productive person and that will radiate beyond. You are going to inspire better company culture.