Rabbi Mordechai Kraft - Korach

we just you know i just want to take you just for a few ideas this morning in in the uh in back and um let's see if we get just a deeper vision continue to expand our vision a little bit of of of the parsha just interesting ideas so you know visual justice to yesterday we we spoke about just something which seemed very very strange in the story and uh you know just to review it for a moment i just want to add one more additional point if i make and you know maya you worked in the class yesterday this will be new material but it's it's um great the review so you know it says that the plastic begins that comes and he says the motion he says you know coulomb could ocean which is actually a very reasonable reasonable tightness reasonable objection to motion you know why why are you in our own season you know seizings the positions of the nussey and the cohen and the leader and the coin what are the kings so to speak and they're calling what are you doing we all stood in our sinai and therefore we all heard hashem and by all hearing hashem there's an element that that we were on a very enormous level of kadush of holiness why should somebody have more you know should have a greater position than somebody else it should be a complete democracy as a work everything everyone should be completely equal in this world that's interesting argument because there's some truth in it the only problem it's true from the vantage point of the next world and not this world this is an idea that sadaka kohin says santa claus says that you know kirk's argument of there should be notice that that really person you know there should be complete democracy we should all be equal that is true but not in this world in this world you know who you give you know if someone has more total knowledge he's going to get more honor someone has more money he's going to get more honor in this world there is going to be a distinction a person is you know like in the medical community if someone is a greater doctor you go to him for the questions and ask him this world depends on expertise and some level positions and jobs will be given based on you know based on greater knowledge you know even intelligence at some points or you know and there's a little bit of unfairness in it not not everybody is born with the same capacity so why should they have a lesser position right that that's kind of cork was arguing that we all stood in our senate we all witnessed the almighty so we're all kadoshan and all holy so the truth in that is that yes that is true but that's the truth that we're going to witness in the next world in the next world we're going to understand that hashem is going to judge us absolutely based on what we succeeded vis-a-vis what he gave us no for example you know if you give somebody an oil rig and you tell them to look for oil in saudi arabia and they come back let's say with a um you know with the barrel of oil he said wait i gave you an oil rig you know you went to saudi arabia the best mode the best place it did for oil all you can come back is one barrel you should have a million barrels however i give somebody a shovel and i said i need you i need for you to dig up queens boulevard for oil and that person digs and digs and comes up with a you know a cup of oil we say wow that's amazing work so depending on one's environment depending on one's life situation like circumstances depending on the tools that hashem invested hashem will reward a person in the next world this world doesn't work this way this world is a world where we're rewarded based on accomplishment and you know and that that there's a reason for that you know the reason for that is to understand that i have a significance i have a purpose and then the person has to get in touch with their own uniqueness and and not look over their shoulder compare themselves to anybody else and and to accept the humility of the reality that that that's that covert and honor support school is the most important thing in this world but the next world is going to be a world of exactitude and that means that we're going to be rewarded for exactly that which we achieved based on what we were getting so when koro comes with an argument and says you know kulam kadosh well holy like why are you making distinctions why should someone even be a nasty why should someone bitcoin gobble what's the point of that what do we do that for we're all holy so he's right in a way he's he's right but not from the vantage point of this world this world we need distinctions we need to understand that there are certain things that you have to accomplish and one has to have the ability to accept that other people have other jobs in the next world there will be complete equality so you know and every good argument always has some element of truth in it otherwise it's not a good argument a reasonable argument and you know so you know likely say that that um the word for falseness in hebrew is the word sheker shin kufreich so it says in the dominant czar that the letter shin looks like this it's three points and number three we always understand is the the beautiful uh the bureau tertian quid that the beautiful beautiful balance point we love the number three because three represents the two outer extremes so to speak and that beautiful synthesis in the middle we love threes we love putting it all together in harmony so shin is that beautiful letter for us so the question is so why shin the first letter of the word for falseness checker what did the word checker do to merit that beautiful letter shin so the answer is that because what makes it false what makes a checker is that contains something which is true containing anything that was true it would just be um ridiculous be silly ridiculous what makes a checker is there's you have to work around what's true and see well that's it's being spun in the wrong way or it's too much emphasis on one side and that's why it's false you know a good checker a good check or a good lie contains some truth in it otherwise not a good lie it's a very fascinating concept so i always think that you know in terms of like you know when i discussions and when you want to debate somebody or are you going to discuss points of judaism and get into questions and answers and arguments what i do as a technique is i always focus on the shin when a person says something which is wrong i try to find the shin in what they're saying what's the element of truth in in that statement and let's see if we can agree on the truth and we agree on the truth then let's see if we can reanalyze and see how we can position it in a way where maybe what the person is saying isn't fully correct and can be analyzed and perceived in a different light so you know like for example you know let's say you have an argument with somebody um a person says you know i i feel that you know that the torah is uh the reason i don't want to be term observant is because i can't accept the fact that the torah is is treats women as second-class citizens so my response to that would be is i would also not want to be part of a system that treats anybody as a second class i can't accept treating any human being in a way other than to see that person create an image of god i would agree with that 100 percent so they said oh mr rabbi so then well what do you do with it also let's understand the difference in men and women let's understand what it means to to be a man to be a woman you know and to understand what what what what what the spiritual energy of a man is spiritual value of a woman let's see if we could bring that down in a way that we understand why there is real distinction and and and why the two harmonized together to create a beautiful synthesis so again my approach will always be let's focus where we have agreement and agree on something i agree with you i i'm against any person being treated as same class 100 plus to define why this is not so so that that's that's that's looking for the shin karaoke his letter of shin was equality is something which is true but the next world will be absolute quality and what's equality equality really means that based on what you were given you achieved and did your utmost and you're going to be rewarded in a way you know by by the success you achieved vis-a-vis what you were given you know and that's why you know it says it's a beautiful gamer the gemara says that with the son of the great rabbi and the talmud so he died and he had a near-death experience and he went up to heaven and his father and he came back his father said so what did you see so he said i saw an upside down world a world where those who had a great honor in this world didn't have so much honor in the next world and those who didn't have so much honor in this world an enormous honor in the next world so his father said to him you didn't seem upside down you saw the true worlds the next world is going to be the mirror image of this world that's to say somebody who isn't just an honor to this world but it utilizes their potentiality and achieves that's what god gave them god says wow that's enormous your what looked like small success here is enormous success because you did more than i expected from you you utilized what i what i gave you and you did you achieved with it where someone was giving enormous talents and then achieving half with their respect to jesus and they won't be unfortunate god will vote complaints against the next so it's not the next world is is the world of truth and that's the world where we're going to see that that everything comes together sort of this beautiful democracy this beautiful coulomb where everybody is equal so again that was korach's argument and um you know and and again it's it's an attractive argument right it's a very attractive argument the only problem with korach is it wasn't motivated really from the point of of genuineness it was motivated from the point of really a slight he felt that he would like to be that coin that he felt that he would really he was the person that should have been chosen and not our own so it it's again sometimes you know the argument whenever there's a good argument and always has to ask a question you know what's behind the arguments you know what are you saying like what why are you upset about it are you really upset about it or really do you happen to gear as we say and the gear means a bias you know if you have a reason why you're choosing to to come forth this argument okay so that that's core now just to jump back if we can to to something we saw yesterday we we saw that statement that it says that kirk presents before moshe said ocean why are you seizing power you an island there is ishmael upon and moshe heard and he fell in his face so the question that that our cities are bothered by why did we have that extra statement in the torah by ishmael moshe and he heard of course he heard so i'm standing right there speaking to him why do we have to know that eddie heard ishmael upon it so it looks like it says i'll say what did he hear he heard a rumor the word he wrote doesn't just mean heard it means a rumor that the entire jewish nation suspected him of being involved with their wives interesting what a ridiculous charging his motion as david malek says it to hillary and they were jealous of motion that each man was jealous of moshe concerning his wife shenamar and that's what the positive says actually had to take his tent and camp outside of the camp he left the camp because people were suspecting him that of of inappropriateness with the wives maya you hear that that was we dealt with yesterday this year that's a good question it sounds like that was somehow um enabled motion it enabled korach to to come forward someone enabled claude to come forward was this accusation against moshe that you know that that that everyone's suspecting him of involvement with their wives and that kind of empowered him to think you know to say what are you seizing all this power for what do you see this powerful you know utilizing this power to you know to to do for inappropriateness you know like we see you know oftentimes in society it happens right i really started yesterday that that powerful leaders conduct themselves you know feel that no boundaries no limitation on what they can do entitled where it's entitlement so somehow this shamu in the camp in korach you know empowered to come forward with you're seizing all the power for yourself what are you doing yeah when we hear this complaint it's it's it's it's absurd we talk about absurdity you hear that that's i think what so let me just throw something else just into the mix a little bit isn't it interesting that moshe married somebody from idya hakkam didn't marry a uh a a woman from the the shot from the sentence of yaakov there was nobody amongst the shephard the twelve tribes what you could have buried would that create a lot of internal problems if you chose one tribe versus the other like i guess you could create a lot of problems because you didn't choose anyone to dislike them all but better maybe a slight to them all than slight all of them but one that's interesting what you're saying that's good that's very much online what's going to be going on here but maybe you could have chosen from levy here's some lady okay and we said that i wanna cohen would arnica marry he married um [Music] actually was the one who jumped into the city and he married elijah so you know he married somebody from the tribe of you though actually you know he got married outside of his own tribe so so why why did moshe marry somebody from media so again so we think the reason is well because he had to flee the mystery he ran away from the egyptian because he heard you know the difference was striking jewish man and therefore he fled from india he was at the well and uh he moved the stones and the the daughters of utro were able to get water and he came back to the house and he said who was that man you know and yesterday you know well what a great guy you know i have all these daughters over here son and daughters and let's narrow her up towards the door marry him also and daughters that's embarrassing but i think there is there is one point nobody and you hear nobody can could say anything bad about her maybe marry somebody from the schwarzenegger for the viceroy yeah sure no history so that's interesting why that's that's the that's this is what the marawi tribe is about her there's so many wonderful women in the jewish people what's the jewish nation so so why do we have to go and uh marry somebody from ninja you know when she has to convert in and come in nice and significant actually is um you know we had a good relationship with well no so they must have been nicer than moab yeah they must have right mo later is going to show their true colors because in the desert they didn't come out to greet us with water and and and bread as a result they should have had gratitude to us because of what alvin did for their great great grandfather was loved he rescued lot it's the fact they were lacking his fundamental element of card to top of gratitude that's why it was decreed that that wolf could never enter the jewish nation the men at least like the women wanted to women wanted to come out to give bread and water the men stopped them and that's why roos was a rook was allowed to be the cabin from off but the men could never cover it couldn't hurt but it didn't apply to me jen had a certain demonstrated a certain um licentiousness you know and and uh immorality but there's a reason why midian can't convert videos is able to marry the jewish nation and i guess this is this is pre those events because you know so and isro is from media and so yutro is a you know is a um is somebody was here for a video night or he was a kanani but i guess you know again i can't answer the question fully but the question that mar albert deals with is why does does moshe have to marry specifically a woman outside of the jewish people in fact she was from india he doesn't address but what he does address is that he wasn't part of the schwatten which is very fascinating so again we always read the story that's that well it was circumstantial you know moshe moshed to rodney he was in medium and so that's with his wife but of course everything's deeper than that right everything is that looks like it's only circumstantial but there seems to be a very deep spiritual reason a very deep um root at the source for why moshe needed to marry somebody outside of jewish people and could have married somebody for within the jewish people and what did we expect moshe robeno to marry you know to marry a very very wonderful jewish girl you know because we talk about jewish girls a very wonderful prominent family someone that saddakis grew up in the you know with the the you know with the masara with with with you know grew up in the lap of of the terror transmitted from abraham to the client you know what do we expect that oh this is the first convert which is the first time no it's interesting maybe maybe maybe this is opening for converts that judaism accept converts yeah what's interesting about that sipura is we know we see the conversion and the earth is pre-turret he marries our pre-torah so we don't have a turret yet so once we receive a torah now we have hilhos garrison gehring now we have the locals of gary of of converts do we ever see that that support actually converts do we ever see it i don't know i had a question about that the other day i was thinking about it we don't see i mean unless it happens automatically that the transformation takes place because um now we see the torrent she's married to motion she becomes now a member of kleistrom where did she become a member of class from you know she was uh it sounds like there's a need for a conversion process and we've never seen anytime i'm wondering about that was there conversion did that record cast aspersions on uh on her two children garrison of azer unless we understand anyone born pre-tour as automatically goes it could go after the father or after the mother until they have to receive the torah that specifically goes after the mother and we want to say that but what where is the conversion i don't know i don't know i have that question i'm you know irena i'm asking you that question you know you'll look good research that for me but i think i'm going to say something that i think is basically might i might address it okay so we'll think about that a little bit is that a good question everybody's like a question good question to bother us this morning okay so let's see if we can just be bothered a little further so there's this fascinating hazal this fascinating piece of terror from the governors and headroom and the commerce and headroom in the curfew 110 if this we could find it if you want to look up the english under 100 so it it is that the accused moshe of of asia means being involved another man's wife so we said two approaches yesterday um approach number one was that was saying you know that the jewish nation has a marriage to hashem in other words we're all married to hashem hashem is the husband as it were and the jewish nation is the wife we can envision that that motion now is stepping in the middle and sort of being the interloper that that that middle man between kaiser and hashem is almost like he's interfering with the marriage moshe what are you doing interfering with the marriage between the jewish people that's the way that one shot tomorrow wants to say one shot of morale is that moshe is the finest actually that in other words you're interfering with the marriage jewish people are married to hashem what are you doing here now you're the spokesman for hashem you're that you're mixing in people's marriage we're all connected to hashem now that that's that by the way they accused jeremiah of that also jeremiah when jeremiah was prophesied at the time of the destruction of the first temple he also said you're violating you're violating the laws of asia's ish the accused of sitting with it with another man's wife and again tomorrow explains that as again it's because he was trying to communicate god's will and therefore he was sort of acting as that intermediary between god and and uh the jewish nation and that's like you know if you can imagine that's like a frame of the marriage because god's the husband and the jewish people the wife so just so if i kind of feel that you know it's interesting number one that we're supposed to experience that that hashem is there's a marriage going on and and and therefore moshe's saying well i'm the spokesman they're saying to him you know what are you doing messing around this marriage so each man accused him of of violating by the laws of of uh of marriage of cure you know what are you getting about with our our our marriage as it were now we could hear the way korach would use that right kirk would use that now if that's the charge against millionaire could play on that charge or could you aggravate that charge and say coulomb kedoshan right you have no right to do this you're the spokesman for hashem we're all holy we all still are c9 so we can hear this feeling could be aggravated could be entity it could be could be exaggerated by motion but by quran in order to have a charge against motion so that that's one shotgun tomorrow second shot was that which which i kind of liked more just because i feels more it defines a little bit more the relationships of malaysian men and women and we explained like this and we said that you know that in in marriage there's an aspect that the morale uses and this is his code word means in literally raw material and surah in hebrew means form so the world works in this way that we're always trying to give form to material and this example is for example you have a tree a peach tree so the the raw nature the raw material is the tree the purpose the form the what's supposed to be to come out the perfection of that tree is the peach that's giving it a form so in marriage it's really it's a male role to give a spark of inspiration that allows his wife to activate her homer as it were to activate that potentiality that she has and a man supposed to bring it out that's his job just like he gives over that seed in creation and that activates a an egg that expresses a whole new creation that's the physical manifestation of it the spiritual manifestation is a man supposed to inspire his wife through his devotion dedication and terror and his love and to to to allow her to to bring out her real self that that's a man's and a woman therefore for being open to that she's in the cave vine where the cable needs open literally absorption that gives a hole to be opened spiritually to to letting him letting him give over of himself that enables a man to perfect his uh self as well by her allowing him to to give over he perfects himself and she perfects herself by by by by receiving from him as a word so there's this beautiful combination will be called surrender so really it's the job of a a husband and marriage to be providing for his wife that that spark of inspiration as well moshe of bano this is the morale says and this is what he said yesterday he's called the nishama clovis he was able to relate to every nishama of the jewish nation this by the way is very much you know the morales you know preceded about a hundred years 150 years so i don't know much about jesus but i you know but this this concept of the ready very much comes from this idea that the rebbe in hasidic thought also is able to be a shamrock which means able to have to to touch the shama of all of his qasima that means that he could provide a spark to ignite the potentiality of every of every one of his husband that's that's very much a hasidic idea and uh there seems to be some truth in that that moshe albania as expressed by maharal which precedes sinister by 150 years this is very much a jewish philosophical thought that that moshe bingo understood every member of the jewish nation very well men and women and he could touch that part of the neshoba to help them activate themselves now what korach did or perhaps aggravated was to say listen oh look at this it looks like moshe understands your wife better than you do or the men felt it that moshe understands you know devotion understands their wives more than they do what's motion getting involved the intimacy of our marriage how why does moshe understand my wife more than i understand her that's a violation of of of marriage that's infidelity like a spiritual infidelity do we hear this a little bit we have we're on target maya okay okay do you hear that drop you know this is this is this is this by the way is it it's it's it's something one of us always think about you know even in uh in marriage counseling today whether whether it be a psychiatrist psychologist or clergy or pastor or a want to be very careful that that in marriage therapy marriage counseling that the therapist or the clergy or the rabbi doesn't express an indication it does indicate that he understands let's say the man's wife better than he understands her because that's dangerous that could create disharmony why does somebody else understand her better than me so really the one has to be very sensitive to that can i say something yeah uh you know rabbi azza harrell valerstin yes he talked in his lectures long time ago that when you travel when you have vacation it's better to spend this time with your wife alone i mean no couples because somebody can be very close to your not people should know available right you know it's not like you know it yeah you know that causes chemists just because there is you know again a healthy relationship or has a wife if it's if it's healthy there's a confidence in each other too but if they're coming to you because there's you know if they're coming to you because they're problems you know that that's sort of an indication that maybe he doesn't understand her properly all of a sudden the therapist you know or the clergy you know or the rabbi you know it's the artist understands her better like that all of a sudden that that could be an enormous source of keynote almost the language is called spiritual adultery you know that's that's that's that's something they look very sensitive to and and you know enormously aware of and again like everybody's expressing yeah it could happen in the world too just couples getting together and all of a sudden she sees wait a minute like he's more sensitive than you are you know like it starts comparing and not necessarily a healthy place to be and again you know the delicacy and balance of the beauty of marriage is that that trusting each other and that respect for each other and you know we never want to undermine that so again this feeling that moshe gets them all expressed this way god forbid this motion excuse him you know but the language that our sages use is a very very bold language there's an act of this feeling that that the people have winging it moshe with his general this nishama klit understands my wife better than me cause to create jealousy why does he understand better and karachi seems capitalized on that feeling to say wait a minute he's seizing too much power look at this he wants too much for himself we're all still our c9 why is he getting involved where he shouldn't get involved do you how this fits right into his argument why is he getting involved in a place we should get involved interesting so that's the idea of this you know again the same same language is expressed and i mentioned this yesterday tomorrow says it by it says gracious when and julius for repeating it but i feel this poisoning clarification it's that you know when when adam is told to go out and name the animal kingdom so the language over there is a very interesting language is that he goes out and the moral brings us and says that you know what's the language over there it says that he went out and rashi says that he came upon all the animals the language over there is a language of of intimacy as if to imply that adam had an intimate relationship with all the animals now god forbid right that that's in fact the morale says the first commandment given to others we did somebody command them part of that word and he commanded includes in it all of the seven laws eventually given to noah and one of course is arrios which is you know which is forbidden relationships one of those relationships with animals god forbid right so to say that that is you know there's an absurdity morale points out but why then does the turtle seem to allude to a language that implies it so to that he explains because the animal kingdom is like a is there to serve mankind the animal kingdom exists in order to create an ecosystem for the human being to be functioning in this world the purpose of the world is us that we should utilize our free choice to have the greatest relationship with hashem for effort that's the purpose of creation doesn't need the animals the animals are there in order to create a world which enables us to be here so therefore the animals fulfillment of their potential comes when they're needed by man so to speak man gives them the surah the language of the wrong they're liking potentiality and when they serve man properly so that gives them their greatest the greatest form that brings out what they're created for like when that chicken ends up on your table on shabbat that chicken has basically fulfilled his purpose and creation it enables you to to the chaves so you know don't feel too bad for the chick it just fulfills purpose of creation you know you gotta be nice to you but don't don't feel too bad so it it's it's it's that that concept of of marriage to the animal kingdom isn't that an intimacy doesn't mean a physical intimacy it means the whole spiritual intimacy of what's going on that adam is there to bring out the potentiality of the animal kingdom to give them form as it were and that's what marriage is all about and that's why because i'll use that language describing how he went out to the animal kingdom that's a very important concept to know you know the moral uses this sort of idea over over over and over again so this korach played on this he played on on this this under this feeling that moshe seems to understand every woman better than their husbands now what was that that could have been very positive it should have been very positive that in other words in fact the moksha understands everybody he's a shama claudia he can help you activate kinesham that could help their marriage that could improve their marriage it could it could enable a man to understand his true just his true spiritual greatness and help her understand her spiritual greatness and together they could achieve something or or his followers are played on it that's looked around understanding a little bit you know that that the old cues motion and you know and they were feeling why does much understand them picked up on that he's taking he's getting involved in places he shouldn't get involved although she's like shocked by this you pull up on it he falls on his face it says like falls down what type of accusation is this you know even on a spiritual accusation i'm i'm i'm bringing out from the shoulders i'm not interfering with marriages i'm enabling the marriage to be as harmful as it can be this is the idea of the clause and again very much you know picked up on this a lot with the rebbe it's that very much a vision of what it what what a rebbe is you know and and a very deep concept which i think is very helpful also understanding men and women a little bit the man is there to provide surah and what is open to allow a man to to to to to give over you know and it's able to make herself vulnerable and have a strength and to remove her ego to say i'm willing to listen i'm willing to to want to to to receive that that's that's a harder place to be in life to say i'm willing to want to receive from you it's easier to want to give over you know express your ego it's hard to hold back you say i'm willing to receive women have more much greater spiritual strength than me that's a greater spiritual cause very spiritual place to be so that's two approaches so again to this this question there's two corporations we looked at yesterday approach number one in answering this and trying to understand this this this statement from our sages which is is so uh explosive you know number one there's a marriage between the jewish people hashem and moshe by being that spokesman for hashem has support is interfering with the marriage and the second approach of tomorrow says that all the more on the track again about five was due to lowie he lived in the years in the 1600s 20 years did he lived uh between 1520 and 1609 basically in prague he did the whole 16th century was the maral and wrote his writings today are so uh so significant in in like this he's the voice of the 21st century it's amazing rabbi the 16th century is the voice of the 21st century and this in the way he combines the written law and there isn't a reveal to it but almost in a logical way in a way that you can get your hands around your head around and think about it and see the depth of life and and that's why i'm very attracted to it personally and i think many people are you know just you look at the world differently to the eyes of the moral and i have the merit to be in prague a number of times with damage groups and i we always go to the synagogue tomorrow we go to the camera of the mala and i've had a few times where i've had the privilege to teach tara in the in his synagogue which is still there in the heart of the old city of prague i always give a little sure there to feel that while i'm teaching so those are two those are two approaches the approach number one we're all married to god motion warrior interference approach number two motion is that nishama claudia that general that shaman that can detain only and as a result why does he seem to understand my wife better than me no that's like like a spiritual adultery what again but it wasn't that it shouldn't have been that now can we hear from this by the way why he had to marry somebody outside of the jewish nation what are we here there do we hear something what do you say maya why did he have to marry somebody outside of the jewish people who hear something what's that what's the vision and maybe even married somebody who never even converted maybe maybe do we hear this does anybody want to weigh in a little bit with it with a theory yeah go for it yes all right say that again because i don't understand how i sit down once in the link okay good let's let's clarify at which at which point would which which point by the link to what have all this relates to his marriage with his wife okay that's what i want to answer right now okay so again so so the question being you know we asked the question we said look how interesting it's not my question to my all the products the question is why is motion married to somebody outside of team outside of the tribes like how interesting that the league of the jewish people should be married to somebody outside of the tribes you know i just realized by the way i forgot to put a i forgot to send my class today okay oops um thank you for coming on anyway everybody thank you i forgot the post though i didn't check um it's it's the again the question being why did he have to marry somebody outside the jewish nation there was nobody amongst the jewish people like elisheva you know not why you know aaron narrated a jewish girl couldn't motion marriage girl so i we built just a structure right now and let's see if we could just we could fill the missing gap we built the structure said moshe isn't is a shama a general his job was to touch the shama of of every member of high school his job so to speak was to be involved in the marriage of everyone because he understood how to activate the neshama he was supposed to be there so to be part and parcel so to speak of of of the marriage of everybody and when utilized properly there could be enormous fulfillment of of of of the couple's potential but he's accused what he's accused of no you know you know my wife better than my wife then i do you know played on that fear if it were true or not but do we hear now why for a moshe obama who had a neshama calling contained within the ability to touch every neshama of every man and woman of the jewish people why he would have to marry a woman who's not part of the jewish people what might be the reason did that it would be uncomfortable for her for her husband to know her better than she is herself it would be uncomfortable for his wife to what is it it would have been too uncomfortable for his wife to know that like whoever marries moshe if they're part of the jewish people he knows them better than they know themselves but not always or or you know i guess oh you're saying that that um maybe he's gonna really know her really know but that would be a good thing wouldn't it isn't that the complaint that most women have a marriage like you know you don't understand me yes but she knows he's gonna know oh it's too scary a little too scary like i remember we always have it emmett we always have these mental metalists come through a lot of things ramen we like mental it's stunning whenever we do our couples retreats so we do fall off we bring in these famous medalists like david uh black and other guys that we bring also um what's the name of israel that israeli guy uh if you guys name but you know so i think david labson one time his wife said he's obligated when he when he comes home at night he has to shut off the mentalism in other words he can't come out home knowing what she's thinking before she thinks it he said he goes before i walk in the house i should i have to turn it off because you know so you know like you know maybe maybe it's a good thing you know it's not everybody maybe should know what she's thinking she know what she's thinking again i think he's just saying it i think he doesn't really know what people are thinking about but it would be a positive thing for moshe bandleton to understand his wife better i think the danger though is this the danger the danger would be for if he married someone from the jewish people so what would happen he really is obligated to be in the shema clothing to be able to relate to the shambles of the other women as well that would be almost unfairness to his wife why why are you connected to other mishamas and not just to manage them so to speak his job is to be there for all of christopher all the wives as well and therefore he can't just he's not allowed to focus on just one or shouldn't folks just want it so it seems like he has to marry somebody from the outside in other words some of the outside who could sort of accept that that you know he's married to her you know and she's not part of that whole the show mccullough's unification she's on the outside do we hear that though let's say let's see the words about all this if we could just kill them mclaren it says he said the mouth sounds like there's a divorce hashem it says he says god forbid that moksha doesn't have a civil product someone specific just for him which is fitting for him but rather his ebook so to speak his ebook his is joining together um yeah okay he said but rather he really belongs to entire jewish people he has a certain degree of a marriage to everybody as part of the jewish nation so therefore to say i'm married to you but not to everybody there's a degree of unfairness in that reseculation motion because he said that moshe was shocked he was weighed against the entire jewish people he had an aspect that the whole jewish people was part of him in a way he was that general person who had the ability to give form for everyone english suspected motion why do you understand that my wife better than me because they thought because he seemed to know their essential spiritual nature man feels threatened by that it's his job to know his wife's spiritual nature is entering in their territory as it were of the ms interesting says that's what moshe says remember the language over there when moshe mayor turns to kodak and he says i haven't taken anything from the jewish people i haven't even taken one donkey that never belonged to me no she took nothing to take anything so the mural wants to sing when he says i didn't take one is language of a donkey it's also language of homer which means that the raw potential i haven't taken one homeowner so to speak i'm taking anyone that doesn't belong like this it's because of the fact that moshe is supposed to be helping every woman in the jewish people he's supposed to be connected to the men and women therefore for him to specify one and say this is my evil this is my partner that i'm connected to of the jewish people so to speak would be denying his role for the other women it would be almost like limiting himself he's not supposed to do that and therefore by marrying someone from the outside so to speak he's able to say look you know i have my marriage with you and i have my separate function which is to be in the shop of colors for everybody there's some movement to that do we hear something i have a slightly different question if moshe was a person who was meant to understand everyone's uh nasham and like spiritual nature maybe spiritual mission do we have one like that nowadays is that the role of the rabbis time to say a again it's not it's not our approach so to speak it's not the approach of the the world not acidic world you know it it could be that that there are great rabbis in the world and others who can grab into your shaman and just understand you and help you bring it out there's such a concept like that again really focus on this hasidic thought very much so the rebbe is is the is the shaman called of everybody he understands you and he's able to look at you and and touch that the cool in you and that's why he has to and that's what's happening in the back again on friday night and we'll walk give shawn to the rebbe he looks at them he sees them and he's he will say a comment you know with each one and there's very much a feeling of thought that the rebbe is is there to bring it to you so this is again this idea is is is it seems to be a part of jewish thought in general that has picked up on this in a much greater way than the narcissistic world you know you know this today in the world is more more the aspect that you know yeah we help advise somebody to to understand themselves you know we probably have very few you know very you know we have great people in the jewish nation no question who can help you find discovery but those are the great greats of the nation you know it's more the job of allowing them to help a person work on themselves and develop their personality and understand who they are and hopefully understand what their you know what their mission is and that's not done through sort of spirit you know a supernatural way it's done through a concern and a care but the truth to the matter is it's you know hashem gives the shamaya in a sense that special assistance in in the relationship of the talmud and uh review gives him to help bring out a person's potential you know like we say that hashem only gives you you know hashem gives you torah based on the fact that you have students is if you're going to be if you're going to give our torah so jump fills you so anything that's the the says it says that you know that that once turner one receives is is because he has tommy because he has students if he doesn't have students don't give as much turn gives you the tour that you need to help your students so therefore there's a see after the shamaya another step with it and i think this aspect of the ready understands the neshama he's he's part of them is part of the revelation there's a fusion of that and that might be a true concept it's sort of it's not our approach for those that's not in the non-pacific world but we certainly see for the maharavi frog you know again there's 150 years before the bell shamed out for not talking about the citizen we're talking about basic jewish philosophy to joshua that there's such a concept and that's the way he wants to explain the complaint against motion you know my wife better than i know my wife you understand her her your her becoming her surah you're giving her form i'm supposed to give her again the reason he's able to know that is because that the shovel clothes because he um he they're all good part of his deshaun very kind of very deep idea and again that's the reason it seems why he had to marry somebody outside the jewish people because all the jewish people were all part of him and therefore he couldn't designate and say your mind but not everybody else you have to know somebody on the outside where he's able to have his private relationship his private marriage that's outside that arena where all the shambles are part of his great mission kind of difficult concept to hear but it's kind of the movement a little bit you know yeah that makes sense a little bit it's difficult it's a little concert yeah this is getting the world a very very spiritual world of this idea of nashua this day you know it's not an easy idea because it's not really our approach it's not really our approach yeah but but morale seems to say it's true about motion so it must be there's truth in it there's a truth in it rabbi if you look at today's world especially in his word you see how many sexual scandals in this world exactly because of right that's that's the abuse of this conversation yeah this is it and specifically because it is more yeah yeah could be unfortunately you don't hear about the reviews you don't hear that but again this this you know this this concept you know it can again one has to be always very careful and you know i'm speaking to women right now and one has to be very very careful these in these ideas if you know if um any man besides your husband seems to understand you seems to profess that he understands you you know better than you understand yourself that could be helpful in some ways but it could also be an enormous power play you know and the atahara could you that power could be utilized to to create something very very inappropriate you know that that and that's why there have to be enormous durham more enormous that means fences in in all types of relationships like that whether it be therapeutic relationships whether they be uh you know psychologists whether it be you know with teachers rabbis that have to be strong strong fences that are set up so they shouldn't so that it shouldn't violate it shouldn't uh these these concerts shouldn't be violated that people could talk to each other and help each other and assist each other but it's very clear where things begin where clear things end very clear very clearly and then the abuse of that is that it's like when those those fences are broken down yeah that could be a very evil very very disgusting abuse of power and that's something you want to always be alert alert to you know i remember one time for example i was upset by the fact that president girl told me that uh she went to speak to somebody and a man about and and um that you know and the course discussion you know which would dealt with very you know very private things he put his feet up on the table and i was like i'm very disturbed by that i was too relaxed opposed to to you know where these very personal discussions are taking place it has to be very serious a very formal you know the therapeutic type type approach once you break it down and say we're going to talk here like uh like you know like chums so to speak and and all of a sudden you know that that that is breaking down offense that is bringing in a barrier that needs to be there and when i heard that i was very very disturbed by that that i spoke to somebody about it who you know thought this person shouldn't she should not be doing what he's doing someone has to be very careful again this dynamic you know and i agree with you 100 every now and then the first to say i'm supposed to be very very cautious in serena at the same time you know we want to just we're trying to bring out a very just a beautiful spiritual insight that there could be a concept where moshe albania on his lofty level can understand the roots of someone else's and we could hear the way korach and his followers capitalized on that to say he seizing he's mixing into the place he doesn't belong he's violating married women you know and our sages aren't afraid to use that language you know the the confidence of our saviors to express it that way when really they're expressing something much more refined and much more soul and something which wasn't true moshe being of what's not that at all but because he had this understanding of the shambhava very cloud member classroom you can hear how this accusation could be utilized against it looks like continuation of a problem with miriam she said that they are equal and here and after that i think and the they in the history they choreographed before their the spies and this is exactly miriam said that we are the same and this is what uh cora said they are equal idea of being equal as was very hard yet about the question at this time you see it's repeating of this team ah interesting right i mean miriam sort of thing not seeing the greatness of emotion you know as we spoke about the other week not understanding you know that when the understanding that moshe had a different mission and therefore he required a separation from his wife to be available to communicate with the coach barbara any moment he said we're all the same all prophets you know why is he different than the rest of us you know i mean that's almost like at it that's the first cousin of this argument why is moshe acting differently you know that's really what they were saying and here comes korach and uses a very similar argument why is mojo acting differently why is he why is he doing things that the rest of us don't do and the way this is expressed is you know he sees his power he points his brother he's violating married women uh you know why is again they didn't appreciate the greatness of emotion you appreciate who he is how lived out he was how separate he is from the rest of the jewish people and and even he has to marry outside the jewish people because he's he's separate from them because he has a different mission he needs to be the jewish people there's a tough thing in moshe being a tough threat you know you you know you really had such an important role and it required a certain degree of separateness and misunderstood you know misunderstood so you know his whole life is just giving over to the beloved people and and again misunderstood along the way by miriam irena as you're pointing out very excellently by miriam and and again by even the jewish nation this this uh very interesting statement from the sages right that you suspect in the issue of violent married women everyone every ever you know that's a complete misunderstanding of much purity and his mission okay good may i give you one more explanation of of of this great thanks bye i'll give you one more again from the bar i'm on tomorrow don't get all i'm thinking i'm a big i'm a student tomorrow i mean i'm trying to be stupid it's very difficult but i'm trying to so just for me it just touches at the core of the depth of the worst look at the world i just see the world with depth with the eyes that can penetrate beyond you know that's that's the beauty excitement of life when you see that everything in the world is has a depth to it you know it's nothing superficial like we spoke about colors for a long time you know the colors are there too to engage us into to make us look at the world in different ways the whites and the reds and the blues you know it's it's the excitement of seeing there's something beyond is the excitement of awakening yourselves to a spiritual reality and that that makes the shaman so so happy so let me give you one more explanation again somehow he says a little differently and he deals with this state this statement or sage is emotionally accused of being over violating marijuana and five different places in his writings he deals with it you know i see he's he's he's it's something which he addresses in many different places so this isn't what he addresses the last place he addresses that it's like this he says i'm fascinating that this is called this is a statement from our sages they said finance govern so anyone who is arrogant someone's arrogant is as if he's violated arrios what does arios mean rise means inappropriate relationships someone who's arrogant arrogance is as if he violated arios arios means forbidden in interpersonal relationships such a relationship says kasim as it says to abuse hashem called it says that anyone who has an arrogant heart is called toy for an abomination and then it says by the different arrivals means forbidden relationships use the same word he has called to able so evil all of these toys all these abominations so whenever the torah uses two words it's called a hakkish which means that you're allowed to compare them conceptually if you talk one way to god communicates information is by utilizing a word in one verse and you use the same word another verse and therefore the same word allows you to kind of go back and forth between the verses and say that there must be some similarity it's called a hackership comparison that's one way god communicates information the tool that the talmud uses all the time so the fact that the word abomination is used in conjunction with arrogance and the word abomination is used in conjunction with forbidden relationships teaches us that someone who is arrogant as if he has violated a violated a a a forbidden relationship okay good nice what's the connections very nice but what is the connection on that one so let's say about the mountains let's listen to his to this the voice of he said yeshua there needs to be understood yeah we can explain that which the torah says certain relationships are forbidden marrying one sister you know things like that um one's mother god from the married woman interesting it's because through marriage what happens to marriage the world unites one way god wants to bring complete unity in the world is by different families marrying each other the way the jewish nation becomes like one family is families marry each other and they become one bigger family which is a very beautiful thing isn't it you know but you know that when you marry somebody all of a sudden you know you you that not only do you marry the boy you kind of you're connected to the whole family family becomes your family and then become connected the parents become connected and you know oh son their family you never knew his family before and there you are like going to their simcoes their weddings their bar mitzvahs and their bosom and uh sending mouse and tubs when they're children that means like you know like my son-in-law's they're their parents you know i go to their things i go to their their family affairs because i feel like my family my family expanded that's a very beautiful beautiful concept of that which the mazel tov said we're still very close to each other and that's that is very beautiful so it says therefore it says osteoarthritis aroused the turf for bids certain types of forbidden relationships for example if a person were to marry his sister so the person marries people just in his family in other words the whole purpose of marrying outside your family is to create this unity this is a connection to others something very interesting about marriage trump creates the world in a way where he wants us to marry outside of ourselves he wants us to expand our family as it were now by the way genetically it works that way too if one marries too close in the family the gene pool is weakened because any gene that might have a weakness in this is is aggravated or is um enhanced by the weakness of another gene which is similar so by marriage families outside of ourselves we strengthen the gene pool so there's a physical phenomenon that's healthy to marry outside one's immediate family but as we see like all the royalty in europe they all married their their first cousins and all these genetic defects seem to be passed down to generations and you know these crazy people so we're supposed to try to not that shame our first cousin but you know you the fact that we do marry out of direct relationships isn't is is healthy physically now the reason it's healthy physically because it's healthy spiritually there's always a correspondence if something is healthy spiritually it's also going to be healthy physically you know not not it's not the reason why the gene pool is strengthened is because it's spiritually a good thing because what does it create it creates a world of unity it creates a jewish nation where we can really say we're family and isn't that fun like you say all relate to this person you're going to talk to two jews and before you know it you're related to each other you know you realize that that you played your geography and you realize yeah you know we're all we have this married this person oh yeah that's my second cousin you know all of a sudden there you are one big family wait i have a question that slightly relates you you said the reason something is healthy physically is because it's healthy spiritually yeah is that true always like my family loves eating healthy food is there like a spiritual component behind that and if someone's going to be healthy through eating healthy food or i'm curious well if something is spiritually healthy there will be something about it which is physically healthy as well you know for for example you know the you know we're not you know milk like big but it doesn't mean the whole world isn't dropping dead because they're eating kazir but you know we do understand that there's something in the house which isn't fully healthy that that they eat you know the the eat whatever they want to eat and therefore they you know there's something inside of them which you know they just they might have just eaten uh you know something unclean or therefore a person could be ingesting that you know or for example um oh i get that my mother okay i wasn't raised with a kosher household yeah but my mother after a quick time if i've been my father from buying non-kosher meat she said it wasn't healthy for him he he was getting this weird glow he was gaining weight and she wanted to be more jewish she didn't really know how but she knew no more not kosher meat like she just stopped that head-on it was very interesting wow wow that's interesting like for example you know studies have shown that mixing milk and meat isn't healthy but the enzymes that one needs to digest meat are different enzymes when these are just milk so when one drinks milk directly with meat those that like that enzymes kind of cross over there and becomes something very unhealthy so you know the reason why god commands not to eat milk and meat is is not for health reasons it's for spiritual reasons right you shouldn't kill you know that not to kill not to cook the calf in the milk of his mother there's a cruelty in that but it if something is spiritually healthy we'll also discover that there's a physical health so it has to work that way because the physical world follows the spiritual world you know um so for example continue studies on that you know we you see that mixing milk and meat is physically unhealthy on some level okay so that that's what it means so in other words the fact that the gene pool is weakened close relatives married is because what god wants us is that spiritually we should marry outside of our families so therefore the fact that it's considered forbidden to marry a sister you know it's in our mind it's disgusting because we understand that you know we're so you know it's impulsive and it's it's physically not going to be healthy because of weak in the gene pool and it's spiritually not healthy why because god wants this interconnection of families and therefore god said this is abomination it's not good so the fact that hashem what hashem wants through marrying outside and looking for people outside but forbidding close personal you know forget to marry your aunt for example it's a minute about your sister it's forbidden to you know you're trying to expand the family that's what he's saying and again it's physically it it's also going to weaken gene pool and destroy things because it's not only spiritually it says now what's this comparison he said therefore one who is gasos ruach one who's arrogant about colorados it's like he came upon all the forbidden relations in the torah that's that's to say because a person is arrogant it's busy saying i don't want to connect to other people i don't want a connection outside of myself i'm only interested in in in me and my own ego i just want me the whole purpose of not being able to marry someone forbidden to you is to expand yourself expand the family expand your whole world view bring in families that weren't there before bring it all together arrogance says what i just want me that is compared to all the arrows in the torah interesting in other words let's hear this thing one more time it's a little bit very subtle but we said because when a person said i want to use a sister for example as disgusting as is in our mind the person said he wants to marry his sister what's he saying i don't want to expand outside of myself that's arrogance the whole purpose of for one of the purposes of forbidding these relationships is to expand the family to create a greater world vision for yourself bringing families into your life that weren't there before unite the jewish nation by doing so and therefore become a bigger person expand yourself be involved with more human beings make them part of your family but when the person says i want to marry god forbid my sister what's he saying i just want to stay in myself that's what arrogance is all about gossip says i'm only interested in number one with me so he says like this here of him hey bus without some hand because one's relative is really part of you that's why the language of torah says when it talks about forbidden relationships that's called the remainder of his flesh is called that person that like sister is a remainder of you the russell obama as this means to that type of relationship like a sister government or a mother whatever might be an ant it's just you it's a it's a remainder of your own flesh oh listen what it says arrogance what's arrogance isn't arrogance the same thing to be arrogant because i'm only interested in me i don't want to expand myself only my position the way i look at where i see it you're nothing in my eyes i'm only interested in me oh that's the same thing as marrying someone who is forbidden someone will direct relative because you're only interested in your own flesh and arrogances are more interested in me and that's why hashem used the same word by arrogance as he does by forbidden relationships because it means you don't want to expand outside of you oh this is what he says over here when the accused moshe were baner of your jealous of martial that he's interested in all the wives he extends this idea he says in motion and this was the great jealousy that they were jealous of motion for the um doesn't want to be connected to the jewish people he's separate he separates himself like we mentioned before he's he acts differently he like as irena pointed out he has all you know he he you know he separates from his wife he does he has his own level of prophecy he's not really part of us he's separate from us he doesn't want to be connected to us that's arrogance isn't arrogance arrogance is you don't want to be connected to others you're just understood you just want to be connected to you and isn't that what forbidden relationship's all about you know you don't want to expand outward you just want to think about you so they for the they use this language of he's involved in a forbidden relationship the language was a married woman he's involved in from their relationships but they don't mean really a forbidden relationship but they really mean this there's an arrogance to who he is because he wants to be lived out he wants to be separate he's not what arrogance is it says so let me just conclude the thought for you he says like this it says that you you don't want to be part of us that's an arrogance you don't want to expand outward you just want to be you you know isn't that like bearing a sister you don't want to expand outwards so they accuse them of of violating the the principles of what what forbidden relationships were all about called everything he busted and says [Music] it says it says this was the jealousy of what you do or should have a kind was to be separate he had to be different he had to be outside the jewish nation he had a unique function and irena pointed out miriam didn't even understand that and again we could hear the way this feeling is who is moksha he's he's separate from us why is he being so arrogant and arrogance is like marrying somebody forbidden from to you because it shows you're only interested in your own family yourself you don't want to expand outside it's excused by something they're jealous of him is really kind of pointing about is really being arrogant they're accusing them of arrogance but they didn't understand motion he was there wasn't americans he had to have a unique position unique mission where yeah he had to be separate from the jewish people as we spoke about many times he had to go up outside the jewish nation he had to be raised in the palace he had to be a most of his life and and for many reasons he had to be a place where he could inspire the jewish people to some place higher than themselves and that did require separation but we could hear how the followers of korach would play on this and see if there's an arrogance here and this arrogance is just like being involved with forbidden relationships you're only interested in you i have a question they want to use that to format the rebellion yes so i think it was irena who said that this reminded her of with miriam and the same kind of lack of faith like this whole he didn't understand motion that's why korach fell well then with miriam she didn't understand moshe either because he was different like if he is the such a paradigm of like being the highest level you can be and he had such a connection to hashem and no one understood him then we can't say that now how could the entirety of the jewish people if their great leaders could be so mislaid about understanding moshe and maybe he just wasn't understandable i don't want to like well right right or or you know i mean again he should have been understandable the fact that coach brock with the austin arcena what did we hear at our sinai we've heard hashem say ain't nobody commercial that he's going to be the navy he is going to be my communicator and god says that in front of the entire jewish nation so they should have appreciated that motion is different and they probably would have appreciated that had a jealous first cousin named karach who had his own real motivation which he really wanted the power and he really wanted the culvert and he not stepped in fomented and mixed into to ignite this this rebuild these rebellious concepts people might even say yeah of course moshe's different you know it could have been understandable and the proof is everyone heard hashem say it at arsenal that moshe will always be the the emotions by communicator he he is he listens to motion it's he's sorry he's going to fall through emotion and that's really the main message of garcina hashem appears reveals himself and says that moshe is the nothing you know and that that uh therefore everything moshe says you have to listen to he is communicating my message so douche people should not have had a problem with that they were all there they all witnessed it but when you have a jealous first cousin stepping in and fomenting rebellion one could understand how maybe they're playing on that that on that difference in order to make moshe look like he's only out for himself yeah that's i think question is going a little bit oh can i say something connection to the what you're saying about being separate and in hebrew uh the same word used for prostitute for for prostitutes yes this is same this is good and this is bad but that's right this is this is connection with sexual relationships right that's right that's right that's the famous concept to because we always say where it means this is close to the right right kadosh means you you're separate usually separate separates yourself so to speak but by separating yourself you know makes yourself available as a you know right you know yeah it's it's it's interesting you know it's it's motion i think what we discover from this shirt is motion was very unique there was a uniqueness to motion and and and that unique just needed to be appreciated he really appreciated that that he was someone living a little bit above the nation and being that communicator of god's sort of so to him and the great gift now again remember the whole syndical in calf was when he surveilled doesn't show up on time everyone's like where is he we need him you know there they needed it and we've been wearing emotion we need a calf we need something to help us relate and now the same kind of now that you decided that now the cordox kind of capitalizing it for his own his own benefit oh look at moshe he seems to want to be in places where he shouldn't be in people's marriages you know people start you know or look emotions the arrogance of why to be separate from us doesn't want connection the whole purpose of uniting without other families is to connect and that's why forbidden relationships are forbidden because it denies this connection it's only about you and you're you know you don't want to expand so they're utilizing moshe's difference in order to to capitalize on his own really his own ego some desire for the power but it really comes down to a little bit of understanding how different motion was a special emotion was and appreciating that greatness and what a motivator was okay everybody i think uh went so uh so long here and um you know thank you for listening this particular uh particular hazard from me this was very intriguing because it has so many different aspects in it in high school relationship to hashem's idea of surrender and how it relates to marriage in general you know and how all marriages are really the idea of expanding and community and oneness and arrogance is is is like a violence because it's all about you so many different lessons and it's not different points and such wisdom in our sages and and the how our sages say things in such a is such an interesting way and we are it's our job to penetrate it to analyze and understand it through the lens the toe and i think when we do we see a whole depth and a whole vision and a whole radiance behind it and that's kind of the message i try to communicate as well okay buddy wishing you a wonderful shabbat and uh and a wonderful day as well thank you rabbi thank you god thank you okay take care well thank you you're welcome