Rabbi Mordechai Kraft - Moshe & The Rock Part 2

um all right craft good morning hi my how are you good good good thank you for getting up so early oh yeah i've been we got brother anyways alex i'm not new york time you're a narrator right what time is it there in the in seattle 9 a.m 9 00 11 12 california three hours west coast yeah okay i hope you're getting up anyway so um that was hard though said sorry you know summer time so now schedule okay it's one moment okay uh so we'll just do we'll look at a couple things this morning um just um just different ideas in terms of you know i guess in terms of personality development into something from last week's parish or something this was parsha and um you know kind of tie up a few story ideas that we've been looking at and um just a couple of insights that i think were are just really valuable to uh to look at so the first one i'd like to see is something from last week's parsha just to get going back to the rock we're always going back to the the hitting of the rock over there can't uh can't seem to shake that one so quickly so let's see we have one second okay okay so let's go back back to the rock and it's interesting how that that piece by the way is just so foundational you know it's such a small piece of tour over there yet you know when you when you go into it it it i mean like every aspect of thai show conceals so much wisdom and information but i just feel that particular piece contained so much about the you know the insights into into education and child rearing and and you know that then again the main theme i think we brought out front was there was a change from a generation that came out of egypt to a generation that's going to come into the land of israel and in essence it was a it was a new generation and a new generation required a different mode of communication and that communication has to be speaking and speaking means again we inspire another to bring out that which they possess just like the rock possessed water within as we saw the word seller remember seller we looked at the word samick and the middle letter of each of those words when the written out was mine so selda just a beautiful reference to it but but a cell is an aspect of a rock that contains something inside of it and there has to be communication and speaking and we look at the life of moscow and his greatness again you know just just thematically if we look at the theme of moshe we don't see moshe as a speaker right we see moshe as a hitter you know the first thing we learned about him you know earl early on is he goes out and he sees in mitsuri you know he did beating a jew and the first thing he does he strikes he hits whether he hits but shame or flourish whether he hits physically it's not clear but he hits and and he he's that seems to be the way he he operates again on a deeper level the idea of hitting her means there's an open communication because moshe can't speak remember he sees he's saying he doesn't he's not a he's not a speaker and the reason why the morale says he's not a speaker is again it's not because he had a cleft lip or maybe he did but the deeper vision of that was that he was so close to the source that apparently he was so he was so of he was so connected to hashem that he couldn't confine the experience in words where some times could be a limitation as we know and that we've we've spoken about a little bit that sometimes silence is the way to bring out real real real thoughts you know like for example like we said you know person goes to the grand canyon and says wow they just ruined the experience they tried to take this enormous magnitude of god's creation which is very hard to get one's hand around by the way i've been to the grand canyon very difficult to to try to explain it to oneself it's just so awesomely beautiful and big and something you're in awe of the creation but the wow the word wow just just just killed it because would try to to confine it in an expression sometimes the only the only communication there is silence so mosh robingo was not a speaker in in the sense in the morale sense of the word that his closeness to the source was such that he couldn't confine it into words so speaking is not his fortitude his speaking is is being able to convey a direct message and in essence the desert was a direct message direct messages open miracles that's a hit because you know one one is almost you know in some ways forced into submission when you see a direct miracle it does compromise free choice i believe it's the metric who says that that the doradea that the generation the desert as as wonderful as it was it was extremely lofty generation because of its connection and and awareness of god's presence on some level their free choice was compromised on some level because of the openness of the miracle now of course it doesn't mean they're not going to misload them they're not going to complain they do they're not going to make errors they're the ego so they're going to calf on the different levels they will make mistakes as we know in the the the is nothing but a list of the trials and tribulations of of the of clients throughout the desert but it's on some level one's free choice has been reduced in fact one of the tenants in the um says he dominates that he shouldn't be live during the time of the muslim what do you mean he shouldn't live to the times the days of we all want to live in the statesmen he doesn't why because when with the coming of on some level there will be a diminishment in our free choice why because hashem on the day his name will be one and he'll be one his name will be one you'll look at your hand and you'll see the almighty so that that open awareness of hashem will on some level diminish free choice now maybe it's worth it it's worth it we're going to sacrifice a little bit of our free choice for the honor to bring back hashem into the world hashem should be seen he shouldn't be an exiled war he should be his glory should be known to everyone and and uh we shouldn't be as revolver describes it in ali shore in a different place we shouldn't be like the polish army in exile you know if you know what happens when the germans took over poland so there was no government so the government went where they went to london so the government was operating out of london i think the home army they called the home government out of london there was no country we were operating in exile like guerrillas behind the scenes in essence that's what the jewish nation is like we're all in this sense operating behind the scenes to bring coach baruch into the world a little small band of guerilla guerrilla warriors you know 14 billion jews in the world of 7 billion and so we're willing to to so this idea that we're kind of like fighting behind the lines you know secretly to bring god's comfort into the world we want it to be ultimate revelation so we're willing to sacrifice our free choice a little bit for that but again one month or more i forget dom and he shouldn't see that so just just a very interesting insight that that moshe was was more about the aspect of of hitting and not speaking and and the new generation requires speaking and in fact this idea is expressed very beautifully by the cle yachter the cleokar one of the great um before a a um i believe just the the that port maybe somewhere between the richard and therefore so the cliaker writes and he actually uses this he says that it's like a child he says a child that you have to talk to your small child differently the way you speak to your adult child your little children so sometimes the way to communicate is you give a little bit of a smack you know it doesn't have to hurt it's not spilling but it's supposed to be a communicative form they can't understand dialogue they're not yet ready to hear to hear a discussion as to why you shouldn't walk in the street so the only way to communicate that sometimes is a is a there's a patch direct communication that's that's given out of love that's a hit that's not the way one communicates with one's older children most older children one needs dialogue one needs to speak to and as children as you know as children become real adults you know and you know like you know 20s and young 30s and and you know you you your role as a parent changes you have to communicate you have to speak you can't demand you know we we have all those jokes and stories about the jewish mother who keeps demanding from their children with utilizing guilt you know with all shoulder why did you ever visit me that's a hit that's that's hitting you know utilizing a weapon so to speak to to force to to control behavior but that's not the way we we educate our adult children we we we're always parents being a parent never changes you know it's um hashem right it never changes i i have older children you know it's like teenagers but i also have children late twenties and it's it's you know you're always teaching and communicating but the modality has to be different one has to do to speak one has to to do it gently one has to let the other bring out the idea for themselves not necessarily say what you think the idea should be the client writes this very interesting he writes this you know over 500 years ago so we've always been ahead of the game conceptually in in in education we've always been uh injustice just such at the forefront the understanding there's a change in the way one has to educate as a child grows older and again one needs to go from that direct communication of what we call a hit to the type of communication we bring out from within the other which is called speech so you know we're so very progressive you know i said my mother who is a my mother is a speech pathologist and also a phd in educational psychology and you know was really at the forefront of kind of developing even speech therapy in america back in the in the 60s and you know since she's now retired but you know she she was very impressed by something that she saw the laboratory say and the the the chabad went up to my hometown of manor but maybe 15 years ago and my parents started going to chabad so i'm not sure the robotniks but they're you know they're certainly the there's a young rabbi there was very dynamic and a very good guy and a very special very special person and and my mother told me she she saw something about what rebbe said in writing this also it must have written the 1950s and he said you know if it if if a family has a downs child so a downs child you know apparently you know we can't relate this today but there was a time when people felt the best thing for that child was to send that child to some sort of institutional institution that get the child out of the home and put the child in an institution which to our minds here today sounds very cruel but that was a apparently that was an idea sometimes ideas are in the world and i just changed but the rebbe was writing way back when the 50s that's wrong so a child needs to be in the home the child needs to have the love of the parent needs to be part of the social fabric of of of the house with the other children and that's how you best care for a child like that and of course i think that's today across the board understood amongst those who are sensitive these issues of course you do that but my mother was so impressed by it to see that that you know over 60 years ago that the rebbe had understood that concept which she always understood was so true and and you know and she always uses that example of the education the torah understands always transcends whatever the popular vogue is popular trend and so we see going back to the torah you know going back to the episode of motivation on the rock this is this is this is teaching us how to the how to raise children how to raise students you can't hit you can't hit verbally you can't hit with guilt you have to encourage and bring out that which is in the other and that's such an enormous message you know you know just on that point again i remember hearing once in the name of the channel that revolution was the great talmud of he's died as krish hashem in the club no ghetto considering the godolyador of the previous generation he was actually in america when war broke out in poland and he went back from america to england back into poland even though the nazis already arrived because he said that a captain doesn't assert the doesn't desert the crew who doesn't deserve the ship an enormous leader he was killed in the club the ghetto and uh apparently said the blessing hashem before he died inspiring his nominee so his son of simcho wasserman did escape did make it to america and he said that they asked him he's an expert in education and he said that he said that um he said his father did hit him once and he said what did it look like so apparently he did something which i guess was inappropriate so his father in a in a very calm way said to him you know what you did was inappropriate and as a father i'm obligated to uh i'll get to punish you he said please put out your hand and he said he stuck out his hand and he said his father went patch like that on his hand as they broke out into tears so that the the patch doesn't always have to physically hurt if it demonstrates the displeasure of the parent what hurt him was that his parent was father was displeased with what he did and that was the message communicated so again what a uh what a brilliant insight into what you know what education has to look like you know as we say sometimes we say that even that in education for a child a patch isn't for the past apaches for the future you're directing it the child you're not punishing it directly that's the way it needs to be okay so it just so this this point this is you know this is really where we've been working i'd like to take just one more look at southern legion which interests me right there at the story line and it says like this that again moshe bano is stuck he doesn't know what to do people are clamoring for water and he you know he he knows that hitting works 38 years ago but he's concerned right now what do i do so let's just take a look for a second so he says like this so there's a there's a safer called the divreitard the divrei david which was written by the tourist so isabel is one that we find him as one of the commentators of norfolk but he also wrote a safer homage called the the divreit of it so he says like this that at the rock what happened is so we know that he hit the rock twice first of all twice you know why not once if a miracle would happen by hitting let it happen once though it happens twice for two weeks number one again whenever you force something to happen it doesn't happen right away you know when you yell at somebody it doesn't it doesn't respond to you have to scare the person next time that's that's a hit and and secondly it says that there was an element of anger in it that apparently moshe was frustrated and rashi said she because because of that anger he felt frustration no sherman was level still a human being but he felt a degree of frustration and the frustration was such that he he came to an error in other words had he not been frustrated and been in a state of some level of anger he wouldn't have made that mistake and what do we say he says he says please listen you murder him you rebellious ones again that's good that's always viewed as a sign of his anger he's a very harsh term so he gets the seller my as a result he hits the rock and doesn't bring the water forth of speech and from here we learn also that part of this the error was because of his his anger was he spoke to a different rock supposed to speak to this rock not that rock specific that had been following them around the well of miriam below yonder and he writes no doubt that the two errors hitting and not identifying the right rock came from what came came from the the anger that he felt the the the echo the fact that he was he came to hit zilco of the macy's the sin was almost called the mason was was intentional on some level because shem said speak but come on doctor who said anything about hitting he should have understood something i'm speaking on the wrong rock should have waited in order for what my yo d also to discover what will hashem tell him to do in this situation he should have waited waited as he has the nation clamoring for water he sees he wants to satisfy them they're thirsty he feels there's a hashem going on you know that that without trusting that hashem's going to provide is providing for them and what does that do very david say the times he says well he was angry because the lack of faith apparently and he made two errors he one of the errors he didn't realize he's speaking to the wrong rock and he hits the rock and he said both errors could have been avoided how both errors could have been avoided if he did one thing he should have realized the speaking isn't working here and he should have understood that i must be speaking to the wrong rock so you should have understood something number one you should have understood you know i must be i'm doing something wrong over here or even if he didn't come to that realization but he said it's not working heidel the haunting machi odio he should have waited until he received instruction from hashem he should have waited let's understand what that means he should have waited this is really what i wanted to view at the moment what's he waiting for he should have stopped somehow and waited the time said waited for information that waiting would have achieved something well what would it achieved so let's see if we could understand that i think it would have achieved two things number one you've got information that either hashem would speak to him and communicate exactly what he needs to do or he discovered in his silence from inside himself that there's another solution something would have talked to him either from without or from within there would have been a power in his silence in not acting at this juncture but in waiting he would have received information in other words never leaves us alone we're always he's always helping us he's always there we sometimes maybe experience or feel that we're alone but we're not hashem is is there and will give us solutions because he he has to you know he he's our father he loves us he's watching over us he wants to give us solutions he wants to give us advice he wants to to to inform us as to what to do the difficulty is we don't always stop to access that information had moshe robano stopped and said listen there was a direct command to speak excuse me yes there was a direct command to speak not to it something is going wrong in the plan over here either i'm speaking to the wrong rock you know you know but but trump didn't communicate to me anything else he never told me to hit he told me to speak so it must mean something is wrong now so what does he do apparently his anger his frustration caused him to be overwhelmed and not stop and wait just act a little bit impetuously by motivated level obviously but it it's it's that waiting would have allowed him to experience a moment of silence and from within that moment of silence he would have been able to access hashem's information where that information would come from well either god would have communicated to him look it's not that rockets this rock or something he would have heard something inside himself and maybe something inside of himself would have been the clarity of you were told to speak not to hit you must be doing something wrong over here you know it must must be so still continue to look for the correct rock so let's see if we could just understand this point a little bit deeper and just hear the words he says like this he says harry moshe because he had a remembrance of that i did it iraq 38 years ago and i produced a miracle it says it's not working speech it's not happening so it must mean maybe god's you know maybe i'm supposed to hit be awful and high so to vlog she said but there was a complaint but trump said no you did the wrong thing and the taj writes two explanations it says my said tavia what was god's complaint what appeared to be on who she mentioned circle having moshe should have understood should tamsula you're some mayan because she deeply seller and not because i need to hit it and the second explanation was the second tina the second complaining of motion shimoshi had circular hampton or she shouldn't have waited actually oh dear lord college broadcast with sono until hashem communicated his will oh marshmallow replies from this that the second explanation seems to argue on the first expedition what does that mean should have realized you know i'm speaking incorrectly i you know it's the wrong rock not to hate it this is you know that's never worth hashem's will hampton below he should have waited until he shall communicated his will something those if he doesn't know what to do so don't do anything just wait so let's what does that mean it says what does it mean we should have waited in other words you know again he's under pressure emotionally he's promised waiting for water if water doesn't come out it's going to be a great pain to the people and it will be a but listen to what he's saying this is what the the the i think that the s very interesting from this sometimes the proper course of action is doing nothing it's just waiting just to wait sometimes we always feel that we have to take initiative in terms of you know we have to control the situation sometimes we do but sometimes our job is to say i can't control the situation and my positive act of taking control is doing nothing hampton to wait achieves until it will become clear what to do even under great pressure if he had waited hashem certainly would have revealed his will he certainly would have feel revealed as well so again here this is what i think is so important that hashem creates the world in a way where he doesn't leave us alone he's with us he's there with us he's the shadow of your right hand and he's following us you know hashem's not up there we say he's he's coming he speaks to us from within ourselves he's our shadow like our shadow you know follows us as we walk you know the story of the the little like the little boy was trying to escape his shadow keeps following him coach parker follows us he's he's with us and he wants to help us and if we don't know what to do sometimes the best thing is to do nothing but not to do the wrong thing just to wait and to try to access that information in the case of moshe bayno he has he was a prophet hashem could have spoken to him hashem would have would have revealed to him what to do and moshe therefore did the wrong thing by by not waiting now how does that apply today you know in the world that we live in today again we're not prophets and you know we can't wait for that divine signal to come as a war but it's interesting the villain says something very interesting to us the villain tells us and actually it's based on a apostate initially the villager says initially he says that today we've lost prophecy however if a person is in a situation where he's honest he's compelled under pressure there's no one to to ask and to ask vice of great torah scholars it's also accessing divine will give us another advice make the virus so know how to clarify his will the guru rights against the policy initially says in proverbs you can find this in dallas which is um it's a it's uh 16 chapter 16 verse 4. there are every human being has the path briefly outside everyone has their own journey to dominion our minds are different as an expression just like our faces are different the nature of two people is going to be different we uh prophets so we scored a prophet ask the prophet but what should i do imagine what type of world that was very beautiful world speak to the prophets that the prophet would advise us through the prophecy apparently we had over one million prophets in the jewish nation the 24 that are mentioned in in tanakh are mainly those who prophesied about the destruction of the temple so will the feet have a goof and the nature of our individual personalities when the when the left the world you know that nebula prophecy left the world the same time that the fire of of idol worship left the world two left simultaneously he says nonetheless he says there is inside of israel and every human being knows from within themselves what to do yesterday phil nagon is telling us that even though we've lost prophecy we still have a vestige of prophecy called rocha kurdish and that ruach and kodish lives inside of us and sometimes we need to access that and the way we access that is through silence the way we access that sometimes is by just waiting until we discover from within ourselves what the proper course of action is how do we have that today we still have a code now we you know we have to be careful you know were we hearing the correct voice the wrong voice but if we if we're sincere and we're asking yourself for help there is a voice that could come up with inside of ourselves with hashem speaking to us from inside of our minds that is called the rule of the quotation and we have that it hasn't been taken away we're not profit it's the prophet like we had an arab prophecy it's not the world we live in today but we haven't lost that aspect of and how do we access that well sometimes we ha access it by just stopping and listening and creating the silence the space to let it be heard and apparently that the taj is telling us was really the mistake of mushroom in other words on his level his anger illustrated with the fact that he said shimon na hamarin says please listen to me you you rebellious once illustration of his anger it it it stopped him from having that weight in his case that way would have been direct communication but god would have communicated in our level we're not going to hear a direct communication as it were but there's going to be a kodish could be that we could access that will inform us what should i do what's the right thing to do right now hashem will speak to us from with inside of ourselves and will give us that vision that wisdom if we do the work of creating the silence that's part of what could happen when we create space for ourselves to listen to our internal messages and that's really the point i'm trying to bring out from this this idea of creating space to hear from ourselves the wisdom that god the wisdom we possess which is really you know with the wisdom that god speak to us from within ourselves but we have to allow silence to do that and in motionbeard's case that was the weight there was a little bit of a weight had he just waited just a little you know he would have realized that you know either he would have realized wait a minute i'm speaking the wrong rock or should i just thought you know we'll communicated so the wisdom would have come in that silence we wouldn't access that wisdom so again maybe the wisdom could be that you know we we really possess a lot more wisdom than we think we do but we don't allow ourselves time to access it or the wisdom is that it will hear a divine voice type voice in advising us instructing us what we need to do but the only way to achieve it the only way to activate it is by creating that type of silence that space for it and that's you know that's how we that's why it says perkiamos it says that you know that the donna says in turkey he says i never found anything better for the body except silence and that statement is preceded by a statement that says i grew up amongst the wise men i guess he was the child of his time and he grew up amongst the sages the greatest message i learned from the war the sages of israel was utilized silence so the maharaja writes on that he says isn't that interesting you know you grew up amongst the sages and you're telling the most important lesson you learned you should have learned how they argue how they speak how they you know synthesize a a a a a discussion you know the wisdom you acquired this is not the greatest wisdom i understood from them is they knew how to be silent they understood the power of silence and against how silence can is is is not a it's not a lack of a it's not a lack of doing something active silence is an active mode to quantum off it's an active mode where one can truly listen either one is listening to what someone else is saying which we don't always do right my version she used to say all the time used to say you know he goes i know what's inside your guys minds right now he said you're looking for 10 reasons why i'm wrong used to say during which give me a sure class he says you know you're listening for 10 reasons why i'm wrong he's just to say goes just listen to what i have to say and just just first understand what i have to say and then later if you want to see that's wrong you're welcome to do that he said but don't listen with a mind to say is wrong just listen to what i'm saying just say with a smile but in his own way he was communicating this concept that if you're silent and listening you can hear the other person if you're not sign we're not going to hear the other person has to say secondly the science could create space to discover that which we possess inside ourselves and a wisdom that that that that we our mind we get clarity to to discover really what we're thinking and finally it's that silence that allows the space for us to access the idea of god's word coming from within and therefore to have that ultimate clarity and that's all created in the space of something we call shtica which is silence and it seems that moshe robano has been criticized by hashem for not waiting your anger drove you to act your anger caused you to get upset and the result of your anger is you didn't wait you didn't wait to discover the wisdom which you possessed or i would have communicated to you you didn't allow that moment of silence again i just said to i think for me that's a very powerful powerful concept to really learn to know how to create silence to to to listen and to hear the the internal voice inside of ourselves and that eternal voice is so powerful we all possess it and again the villain is teaching us that yeah also allows sometimes in our lives that they're being wealthy in that again we don't always know if we're receiving rural kodashia okay i wish we we knew that we don't always know it but sometimes there is a voice that just advises us he tells us that's wrong that's the wrong thing to do but that's the right thing to do or something is is wrong with your decision you know that again if we allow the space for that communication we'd be so surprised to to realize how much wisdom is coming from within and that's the power of silence and and apparently that's what went wrong with bonjour over here he didn't allow himself to have that moment to achieve it how are you doing that questions on that is that uh is that point clear yeah we're okay with that thank can i say something please yeah can i for the first time listening uh about this event this what happened to this moshe first time for many years i just uh understand that this is how he can behave the leader when he became old this is a sign of uh getting cold in hebrew getting old means you stop functioning like you did when you were young and this is how we should respect rabbi who all their life gave lectures gave their wisdom out and then they became when they become old they should respect their wisdom even though their got old this is this is what i want to talk getting old and you should respect it we cannot talk about martial like he is our age and he is 80 he was 120. he was younger than his sister and his brother he was younger but because of his responsibilities he became older at at 120. and this is i just wanna for us to understand how old rabbi can behave and we should be patient this is my my lesson of it's not a question this is point i just want to make a point yeah um right we need to yeah to respect the wisdom yeah david um i was gonna ask you about creating the space to be able to listen to the inner voice um just as a seeing the phenomena phenomenological part of it i mean it's it's not actually a voice that we hear right because some people would would uh start using uh like other kind of cues that or what is it right right psychological terms yeah good point right you know again right there's an excellent point david that if we you know we're utilizing words in in defining something which is extraordinarily spiritual experience so you know the only thing we could we have to shape it by by by utilizing a concept like an inner voice something like that but you're right it's it's it's not necessarily a voice as much as it's a you know um or could it be some kind of crystal clear voice i mean i i don't know if it i remember once again the framework i have for this is always my work achievement and he always would tell us that in the 1960s so he used to say that he felt that the shiva and he felt that shiva wasn't wasn't going anywhere that wasn't attracting tell me them that that you know so he wanted to make aliyah and go there to israel and be a posek and just be a private sen and apparently could have sold the building and he would have enough money to live on so he just i should go to this rally said and just um be a private citizen and help clients throw from you know people come to me and ask me advice i'll be a post-sec he felt that he had a feeling from suck and to help in issues and he said that something inside of him said you're a greater to your father's legacy like he said the father of david labovitz had been one of the great tell me about the uh the ultimate goal and he came to um yeah he's muted so you know his his you know his father came to america to build yeshiva his father died somewhat young and he inherited the yeshiva in this in the 1940s and there's something in the back of his mind that said if he's just going to leave america he's a traitor to his father's legacy so i'm a traitor i was left to yeshiva i'm supposed to build the yeshiva my my taffrey beckham was told to my father which is you have a yeshiva you know and i want you to continue that legacy and you know create talmida ones to the depth of understanding downloads and and and not to say well i'm a failure and therefore i'm going to abandon this project and go to ericsson be a private citizen and just help clients fall from behind the scenes you know be opposing but that feeling that i'm betrayed into my father's legacy said he said almost like he heard like a a reoccurring voice again i don't know if we need david it means a voice of you know a voice a voice you could put some sort of sound on it as much of that voice in one's head where something a thought keeps emerging i'm a traitor to my father's legacy and he said that stopped him from going to ernest israel and he worked on building the shiva even though it wasn't um so successful and this issue eventually didn't rise to amazing success now you know is you know thousands of top meet him so it's it's again i don't i don't know if it's a voice it's a thought it's a feeling of some communication we're getting inside our head and i think we experience that sometimes so we that sometimes are sort of just a voice something that dialogue we dialogue with ourselves a lot right we we have discussions with ourselves we are hearing a voice something speaking to us a thought speaks to us yeah is that helpful yes it is yeah yeah thank you rob right because anyway yeah you know i again i you know you know i i know the world is quick to to condemn thoughts in the head right that's what you just you know you're hearing voices sure you should be like you know offering claims to hearing voices all of a sudden we jump to some sort of psychiatric analysis you know and and diagnosis oh this person must be crazy yeah they sometimes they might think if they're claiming they're hearing you know god's speaking to them i think if they're claiming on that level it's probably not real because the village is telling us it's a vestige of ruach it's a remnant of rural kokoda it's it's a voice but it's subtle it's a subtle voice it it doesn't it's it's not it's not allowed pronouncing it if it's loud and pronounced it's probably um it's probably not real you know that might be that that might might require diagnosis but but if it's if it's a subtle voice and a sincere voice and it's coming from a person who's balanced and every aspect of their life and there's something which is saying it's not the right thing something is wrong here you know again that that's why you know i i encourage a lot that that you know when people are dating as they get married you know that that and they don't know what to do always you go out with somebody and you meet someone and you don't always know you know what's the right thing you know should i continue not continue it's not like always you know it's not always like the beatles do you believe in love at first sight type experience right it could be much more much more slower and cautious so again we have to utilize different techniques in order to get clarity so what one technique is always to ask advice advice is a very powerful form of gaining clarity speak to somebody wise and and try to listen and someone who's not that doesn't have the guilt doesn't have our biases it could listen objectively to to what the problem might be and ask the pers but maybe it's not a problem not an issue but sometimes it reaches a place where a person just feels i have no issues but something is stopping me in this relationship and um you know i don't know i'm not sure what to do again sometimes it may be fear so again that might require another form of analysis am i just afraid you know making a commitment or is it uh you know just a fear of something new or you know and that might require analysis if he's a great person or she's a great person so what's stopping me what's but there might be something beyond that sometimes which is i still don't know i still can't do it something is saying no something is saying that's not right it's not where i should be so that might be it on some level an aspect of royal coalition that's trying to prevent us from making a mistake you know and and so i always i do advise that people to listen to themselves again listen to ourselves objectively because we have to understand maybe we have an idea or we have a fear or something like that that has to be filtered but if we can listen to ourselves really objectively we do hear that inner voice is it right is it is it wrong you know and uh you know i've asked that question sometimes to people who unfortunately say went through a marriage and it didn't work out and and you know and i've asked that question i was come up with a discussion did you feel it was 100 right when you went into it and and almost you know i i i think in all situations i've always heard or maybe i've always wanted to listen to that that answer which seemed to always be that i always felt something was wrong i i knew inside my parents i always asked were your parents in favor of it you know you usually tell me no my parents weren't in favor they telling me to see this do you see that i always that's it that's a negative sign parents love us parents care about us you know listen to our parents parent parents are trying to be very objective for us you know they want the best for us and and then i you know personally said there was something inside of me also that i i didn't feel it was 100 i didn't i didn't you know so again we have that that that's the rule i think that's the villain that we hear in our lives you know and and again hashem never leaves us hashem is there for us and and again that that's really the lesson you know that i was trying to just bring out from the top you know that that it's really a sign of hashem's enormous love that he doesn't leave us stranded he allows he's he will communicate to us the correct course of action if we'll let him in you know if we'll allow it will create space to hear and even at moscow you know even on his lofty level and his enormous level of his enormous spiritual madriga he had he just stopped and listened and waited he would have come up with the correct course of action just just just one more time just to review the words he says but you know just like i'm really actually a piece that she's a peacemaker by russian shiva cleveland he writes like this he says he says this is the way who conducts himself in the world hashem informs his creation of his will hashem does not want us to does not want to leave us in a situation of doubt hashem does not want us to be in doubt doubt is a very painful place to be as the murderer says it says there's no joy greater than removing the heart making decisions created the world in order to give us the greatest pleasure the truest pleasure the idol and the greatest joy all the pleasure that can be found because that's the opening line of the cell as we know right it says to rejoice and that's what she wants and that's the evidence that connection to hashem shall create this world for one reason he wants to give us the greatest possible pleasure like that's what it says that says he says like this that's what coach paul created the world we should find the greatest pleasure in this world but the singular path to achieve the purpose of the creation of the world he is the greatest pleasure in this world is when we're plugged into the will of hashem when we make hashem's will our will we're plugged into his will we'll plug on his experience the greatest possible pleasure the experience in this world and that requires of course that says keeping the mitzvos so he writes certainly hashem will make his will known to us or that we could fulfill our tafki and bola and to and therefore to to to merit to have the next world so mario shiva is this is his piece he's writing you know he said like you know what's up the greatest pleasure how can we have the greatest pleasure it doesn't tell us what to do if we don't know what to do there's no greater pain than being pacific in doubt so it must mean that hashem is there to supply us with information to to to remove doubt and it's there waiting to be accessed yet the only way to access is through creating that space forth and mojobano could have avoided this catastrophe on his level of course had he just waited so i think that's interesting uh interesting insight i think to um in the story it is something in there about about where will where real wisdom comes from it's it comes from what's inside of ourselves it comes from doubt we have to listen but there's wisdom that we contain as well you know maybe that's the idea of the seller again seller was water inside the rock as we know there's water inside the rock bring forth that water that's the way we teach that's we instruct we inspire to help someone else bring out the water and we can bring out the water we contain also because of course powerful is so he does inside of us too okay everybody i'm going to stop here right now i wish everybody a wonderful day and uh i wish buy an easy fast tomorrow it's going to be a uh fast date tomorrow so um long along fast you know so just everybody should have an easy fast and um you know i would say i would say have a meaningful fast but um one of my friends pointed out to me i'd rather um blasting a friend of mine he said one time he said that uh you know you know he said solanter says he says the way i get the next world is by considering this by caring about your this world you know we tend to look at the other way that we get the next world by caring about your next world care about a person's this world don't care about the person's next ones make sure they have what to eat make sure they're emotionally taken care of of course you need to also for this world too right it's pleasurable territory helps us live but when we're interested in somebody's this world that's how we get the next world in our own mind we should be concerned about the next ones but when we look at another person we see your my olam hamba is that the way i get the next world visa for you is to be concerned about you in this world so when someone's were fasting you said a person you know have an easy fast i hope it's easy for you i hope it's it's not painful for you you know as opposed to meaningful if you want to make it meaningful that's your business that's your next world my next world is to make sure that you you're safe and you have an easy fast and and uh you're not in too much discomfort so everybody have an easy fast and uh mr trump will pick up wonderful day wishing you a wonderful day thank you easy first amen thank you very much everybody thank you thank you so much