Rabbi Reuven Kigel - Parashat Vayetze

okay hello everyone we are here at the beautiful Ocean Place Resort on the eve of our annual shabbaton we're talking about par which is full of on one point towards the end after yob was already settled Mary spent almost 20 years with love on as many children things get worse over there I don't know if they were ever good but love on is mean to him the sons are mean to him and now he doesn't know what to do and Hashem comes to Yakov in a dream and he says Yakov it's time to get up and go go back to your father's house go back to erell so I would think that yako would just gather his wife and kids say great news the she says let's go to ell pack your bags we're leaving but that's not how it works whenever you have to tell your spouse something that's going to be disruptive you can't just say like okay we're doing this you have to at least say you know this what I'd like to do what do you think about that and if you're really good then you would actually get your spouse to be on board to feel like wow I'm fully behind It's amazing And if you're really really good then you get your spouse to think that it's actually their idea so he gather he has Le and R called to the called to him in the field and he talks to them he 10 lines of the T talk about how yako was telling them that you know things aren't great and I had a dream and an angel came to me and and all these things and after the 10 lines Le and r a look at themselves and they look at yakob and they say you know I think we should go back to AR TR and it's almost like it was their idea this is leadership this is Godless and this is really how we should try our best to conduct Our Lives we always have to do things that are going to be disruptive we always have to do things that are a little outside the box but remember when we're doing this we have to get our spouse on board and if we really can do this well then we can make it feel like it's actually their idea