After Hours with Rabbi Yaron Reuven (41)

[Music] you said tomorrow tomorrow we have a we have a sh down the street no uh in Miami in Miami the White House no not lighthous in Miami in a house I I have a question you said about the Messi and this and that I understand but then you said the person ask you have to ask like that you have to cry for but of course you have to ask for but the point is to make an make a thing is that a person that's always praying for instead of praying to understand why he doesn't have a or to fix himself as his fixes do CH fix herself there's more than just praying for there's more than just praying for what we want no you just gave a k example like Messi and soccer and no it's it's F speech it's not a prepared speech it's off the cuff it's not a prepared speech I'm not reading speech it's the thing is though is to understand I can relate to not cheer from though I told you I did it before part you pray for especially which is so important to like so like you know 100% per most important thing the person needs to pray for is to get closer to Hashem once a person prays for that once a person's prays to get closer to Hashem and closer to his Amit the rest of the things come the rest of the things come now sometimes to get to the emit requires difficulty now you don't know what kind of difficulty hasm is going to give you you don't know what kind of difficulty so sometimes hasem is going to give you a difficulty that you don't want in fact most of the time it's the one you don't want so you're going to pray for you're going to pray for p you're going to pray for a kid you're going to pray for certain things that you want and many times it's going to cause you to neglect other things so you're praying for but you're not focusing on the rest of Chua you're praying for a Pala but you're not focusing on Li mood you're praying all different things something you want which many times causes you to neglect something else and the problem is is that you are now extending your problem so someone came to the almost a hundred years ago and asked him is there a ticket to G meaning is there like a shortcut is it like one thing you can do and you got ganen you know like you can finish I don't know five times 10 times I don't know like you if you learn the the entire by heart or something if you are your beard is reaches the floor I don't know is there something you can do you know you're in geden what you guaranteed geden is there anybody know says someone's happy with a share but not a happy with a share like we think happy with a share not happy with a share like we think happy happy with a share means to us oh he has five bucks he's happy with five bucks he's he has $10 he's happy with $10 he has 10 million he's happy with 10 million no that's not happy with a share that's not what was say he's happy with AEM means that when hasem gives him problems he gives him a broken leg he gives him a broken window he gives him a broken marriage he gives him a broken child he gives him a broken head he's happy why this is exactly where Hashem wants me now meaning hasem could have given me every possible opportunity in the world to do to serve him this is what he's giving me these problems now he meaning he wants me to serve him under these conditions with no money with no wife with no kids with all the problems I have right now is exactly what Hashem wants me now that's the ticket that's the ticket being happy like that being happy meaning I'm GNA not only be happy not I'm going to serve him the best under these circumstances never say oh if I would have had more money than such and such or if I would have had such and such then such no no no that is why that's a person can never say if I had such and such then I would do such and such that you're not allowed to do that why because in essence what we're saying is that hasm is making a mistake hasm made a mistake if he gave me more then I could do better job for him which means that you know better than hem we don't know better than you talk about we did we did already we did it already no but what you just said about he said that he asked a question how he does all the Torah yeah all his world is his so how does he do so said yes all the world is God's world but God has a special share which is each Jew and that's how so because he's happy and E Jew and helped me to do when it says it means I thought about it God helped me to think about it that that's my share that I'm Jewish that's how I'll be happy because it doesn't matter if I have a million dollars or $10 I'm still going to wake up as a Jew and that's how I can because every second I'm really rich because I'm Jewish that's how I'll do right the only I'll be rich because I'm Jewish you can't take my Judaism away from me it doesn't matter how much money I have I'm still going to be rich no the Judaism can be taken away from a person if if if a Jew is not is not practicing Judaism if a person is if a person is a then his Judaism is on suspension jewi no he's judged a person that's a person that's a person that even goes against the sages against the rabbis on a regular thing on a simple thing like shaving with a razor shaving with a razor Pinas from wrote a book tiny little book about the different scho different things but also the different teachings from kadish kadish tiny little book cute little book and he does different many different sources big he says what about if a person if the Kazan or the person that says kadish shaves with a razor what if he shaves with a razor it's a real question it's a question it's a real question If a person is he drove to sh and he says kadish are you allowed to say Amen not allowed according to you're not allowed to say Amen to him if he's the only one that's saying kades you're not allowed to say Amen to him why he's considered an idol worshipper he's not allowed to say Amen to a person that says kadish this is the reason why in every sh there's always one kosher Jew that says kadish along with all of the non- kosher Jews are not saying it there's always at least one guy why because everyone saying a man in reality they may not realize it they're saying Amen to the koser Jew not the all saying kadish to their grandfather that died or something okay so that's one second thing is what if a person is notab no he DW he he doesn't drive on Shabbat he just he likes the way he looks he wants to look like a baby he wants that baby skin and he wants to sh you know you shave with the machine doesn't uh today's machines are better but it's it's it's not smooth like the razor razor M makes your face look like a baby's butt so he wants the baby's butt to be his face right he wants to look all so he wants the razor it says kadish if he says kadish are you allowed to say Amen not all to say Amen why how do you know if he does that you know everybody knows all guys know who saves with a razor once you look once you know a person not the first time you just met the guy you have no no right to judge him once a person comes to yeshu on a regular basis you know you know you get to know people you know and people know who does who doesn't who say am not allowed to say Amen you're not even allowed to count them for minan not allowed to count them for even why because a person that decided to go against in a in on a permanent basis he has put himself in the same Dean as a as an idol worshipper as a person that's outside of Judaism why because this person is decided to go against the sages on a regular basis what does it mean regular basis if violated Shabbat once he can go back to being okay tomorrow why like oh no I viate Shabbat I'm doing CH if he ate not Kosher tomorrow you can do cha he can do Cha tomorrow but if he's shaving with a razor this is something that he does every day or every other day it's not something you can just simply stop it's simple to stop but it's not something he's simply going to stop why because it's something that he's it's a sin that he's making on a regular basis once a person has decided that a certain sin is going to be part part of his daytoday life he listen for me I'm going to make the sin once you've decided that you have removed you yourself have removed yourself from clly why you're not allowed to say I'm gonna make this sin you can't say I'm gonna make this sin I'm gonna live with it with this sin no I'm gonna try to do chuva that's one thing you fail that's one thing but I'm going to make this sin and uh maybe one day I'll do something about no can't do such a thing once a person shaves with a razor that's something that he does every other day and some cases if you're a wolf like many spartic every day so what happens is is that now you are sinning against the tah every day you have a problem so even something that's you we think is small it's a big deal that's also why even shaving with a machine you have to be careful ful with because you have to make sure the machine itself is kosher go to kosher shavers.com and it tells you which one's a kosher Shavers most importantly tells you if your shaver is uh is not Kosher it tells you how to make a kosher by breaking off the the lift technology either way it's very very easy very easy to lose our share in the world to come unfortunately because it world to come is a big deal and you want it so anything that's a big deal is hard to attain it's hard to attain but the good news is that Hashem has a lot more patience than me and a lot more patience than anyone and he's going to give us a chance and another chance and another chance and another chance to do chuva another chance to do chuva another chu but at least do something don't stay the same Golem for uh five years keep doing something get better get better get better get get better get better and the things that you're not good at say okay I have to get better on this don't like deny it don't no no sadik you know how much money I donate no no sadik you know how I did don't count yesterday's uh prophets that's yesterday today what about today where about today it's just the first part tomorrow we'll do the other three unless you has any any other thing Amos Amos usually has one or two is good today wrote notes last thing I want to go ahead it says that we should love the biggest like I mean the biggest loves the bigest so if he does any like shap with a knife whatever he does like he does something so like we can't disqualify him because he just like we're not disqualifying him AEM is the the uh if you look somebody comes to the he does all he comes for one hour once in two weeks to listen to it means he does something just like you know the it's not it's not us when when a person a person needs to know that there is rules in the tah it's not about hating him personally it's hating the sins but once a person sins against your father and spits in your father's face if you still love him there's something wrong with you that means you don't love your father soem writes in the end of that he pays his lovers he pays his lovers and which are the keeper of his mitv for thousand Generations thousand Generations but for for his haters which means the opposite of his lovers he pays them to their face why to destroy them yeah but people just people like the brother there was a guy coming to shabbat every Shabbat with two phones look here and here two phones every shabb they didn't tell him nothing then after a few years the guy became a hug and has Co and everything and like if we're not going to look at the good side of the Jews like you have to look at the good side because any Jew can do a tra in every second and say and then one second God will accept him so who are we not to accept somebody because he sh it's not about it's not it's not about who are we to accept or not accept the sages the sages say what does Hashem say Hashem says that a person that does not sh person that violates Shabbat says 12 times a person that's AEM said not not we said not youru said not uh anybody said doesn't make a difference does doesn't make a difference doesn't make a difference what he has the fact that he has pretty eyes does not make it or that he's generous does not make it okay for him to steal that's true okay so now in 31 verse 12 1345 first verse says to saying now you speak to the children of Israel saying however you must observe my Shabbat for it is a sign between me and you for your generations to know that I am AEM who makes you holy so kazal says over here hem says Shabbat is the sign meaning that's the agreement between me and you thear says that what does it mean that's the sign when a person keeps Shabbat he is the sign he is the witness that hasem created the world in six days and rested on the seventh yeah but you weren't there yes but I'm testifying by me keeping Shabbat that I don't have to be there I trust hashem's word he created the world in six days and he rested on the seventh but what if I don't what if I drive on Shabbat then thear says then that person is like a person that's running in the middle of the streets screaming at hem I don't believe in you you didn't create anything I created myself he's PA why you drove on the cup he's a nice guy you know how much money he gave you know how he's such a good-look guy he's so funny makes everybody laugh put he puts on his head on his arms on his legs on on the toes everywhere hasine he's full ofine does it make a difference e scream to my Father in Heaven I don't believe in you so you know what I don't believe in you either you don't believe in my father I don't believe in you either and that's why the verse continues and says so now let's explain this verse hem says the following he said You shall observe the Shabbat for it is Holy to you its desecrator shall have death upon death for whoever does work on it shall be cut off from among its people so now what does it mean now death you could only die once in life you could only die once in life everyone now so explained like said a person that dies has has dies early in this world and has no share of the world to come what does it mean have no share of the world to come page 17A says he goes to Gom the seventh level and never ever leaves mashia comes mashia comes other Gom gets closed his Gom doesn't get closed he stays there forever that's that's now okay he died twice he died here he died there okay but what's the cut off from the nation what's the cut off he died already how can you cut off somebody that's not part of you no as soon as he died that's a different story but while he's here is he's not considered part of the nation he is cut off from the nation he's no longer considered part of Judaism he's no longer considered part of you cannot count for you cannot say amen for his kadish if he touches your wine you have to throw it out he cannot use him as a witness for your wedding he cannot be involved in any holy Jewish event do you understand that's it's a big deal well you want me to love him no why love him I'm trying to love him I'm trying to tell him that he get yourself together look what kind of trouble you got yourself into you're considered an enemy of hem Who Wants to Be an enemy of hem Who Wants to Be an enemy of hasem yes you say something okay so this [Music] is so each person needs to know that the stories that we have in the Torah are not just stories because of stories they're stories that teach a few things number one everyone that's righteous has a difficult life abob Moshe David scho everyone that's mentioned the to had a terrible life according to our standards of what we think good life is all of them had a difficult life M Moshe everybody thought he was stealing the wies stealing the money AB they threw him in the fire his father tried to kill him yob lost his son for 20s something Years everybody had a nightmare life your in jail right yourself in jail so the king everybody had a difficult life everybody had a difficult life difficulty does not change anything it's actually required to have a difficult difficulty is required in order for you to get to your goal so that's one second thing is is to show us that we cannot use it as an excuse for not being the full potential of us we can say listen I was born in a secular family that's why I'm not abrah ainu well abah ainu was not only born in a secular family his father was the Walmart of idolatry his father sold all the idols for Walmart over there his father sold the idol you had a Walmart of so what you our brother was Lavan does it get worse than laan does it get worse it's the grandfather of bam Lavan the worst person on earth is her brother sh comes where he tries to kill him sh comes no I want to my boss he's Rich he wants to marry his sister okay come come come eat us he tries to kill him he tries to kill so what you g to say is you're worse brother than him so that's the thing so a person needs to know it doesn't matter what everybody else does why CU R still find the way found the way to bees she still was modest she still was still found a way to be inside the fire them to Inside the Fire you seeing Inside the Fire Inside the Fire but it hurts no it doesn't hurt why I have a so a person cannot say all the generation of the first time they everybody has but under the same token even if your father was sadik is that mean you're going to be sadik by default like a lot of people oh you know my father what a rabbi he was yeah you know what there was also somebody his father was the biggest Rabbi in the world his brother was the next biggest Rabbi in the world and his grandfather was bigger than both of them but his name was asav as his brother was jakov his father his grandfather AB but he's still and says on says I hate him why his father's sadik oh his father's GED no share of the world to come so that's hasem gave us such a beautiful T all the answers are in it to answer all of our excuses of why we can't be yov why we can't be S we can we can be we just have to fight the we have to fight it we have to fight it we have to fight it and even if everyone is not good around us doesn't give us a justification so what we have to do first and foremost we have to realize that we have to disassociate we have to remove ourselves from danger spiritual danger is more dangerous than physical danger if there was a fire shalom a person Knows by default run away even a a dog knows to run away from a fire the dog knows it it's an instinct a person sees a fire runs away now if it's a spiritual fire if he has a friend a colleague a roommate that's a Kel that's a atheist that's a missionary he has to run away from this person run away that's spiritual fire you're not allowed to put your life at risk no I'm trying to help him no you're not allowed to help everybody there are certain people you're not allowed to help there certain people you can't help if they're not if they're just non-believers they're just clueless they're ignorant they don't know anything like I didn't know most of my life it's a different story try to help them try to make them but if they're if they're if they're aggressive and they're you're not allowed to help them even said it it's not like it's like ra it's the entire you're not allowed to help everybody why because even says the is not allowed to put his at risk to help the rash if he's gonna help the rash it's only if he knows he at a level that he's not going to sacrifice himself you're not allowed to sacrifice yourself you have no right to sacrifice yourself not even for your kids not even for your kids so of course of course you help them you give him a CD you bring him to a you do whatever you can to help people but you're not allow to sacrifice yourself you bring them closer you don't go to them you don't go to the clubs to start uh start doing K there's only one Rabbi in our generation that can do it but uh it's like it's like Gman Gman did it for many years I don't know if he still does it now but many years he did it goes to clubs he went to clubs in and he did famous story tell a story he succeeded too but it's a very very rare rare individual it's uh might as well say it was no other person should allow themselves to even take the test to even think about a club but he actually went he went he went to the certain cafes bars whatever it was and you actually go to all the aaran all of the criminals and comes to next to them and they all look at him like ra what are you doing here I'm here for you come so start learning he takes them one after another out of the club one after another he takes them out of the club each one of them does get whack unbelievable unbelievable but this is this is this is this is this is rare this is like saying oh yeah M came to my sh today it's R it's not stuff like doesn't exist really in general most people don't care enough about am is to go to the Gom to take them out without becoming burnt also you know cuz you know they go into the club and then they end up dancing with a couple of girls then maybe we'll have to drink too you understand so don't try it at home don't try at home so as far as difficulty around us difficulty that's the job in life difficulty is part of the thing it's difficult to make money but we still try hard it's difficult to raise kids but we still try it's difficult to be a wife to be a husband but we still try same thing with being a Jew it's difficult but we still have to try our best why because that's the point that's why you came to this world to do this this is what you came to the world this is game time there's theoretical tah we learn from the from from the books and then there's putting Torah to actually to play to practice and that's the difficulties in your life hasm says okay it's good you're learning from the books good good you learned from the books good for you great you learned five years straight you didn't even close your eyes you're like a mini y good okay now I'm going to give you a bunch of problems why shouldn't I get uh shouldn't I get like ganeden yeah ganeden is a different world so why am I why am I getting problems oh you're getting problems because now we're going to put all that stuff you got from the books and from the lectures and from all that stuff we put that to practice let's see you use it let's you use all those stories you learn let's see you use it in real life stories are nice but let's you use it learning from a book is nice but let's you use it if if you had a life Shalom a life-threatening surgery which doctor do you want do you want the doctor that's been reading books for 20 years but never touched the body or the doctor that's been uh reading books for five years but has been uh you know practicing on people for the last 15 he doesn't have as much book knowledge but everyone will pick the second guy why I need knowledge on the field I knowledge on the field not just the book book is nice Hashem says I need knowledge on the field how do you get knowledge on the field problems Hashem gives you problems Hashem gives you difficulties money uh kid whatever I can list a list of problems from here the world will end and we're still not going to finish the problems but that's putting the Torah into life that's putting to into our life so it's important to know that when AEM is talking to you the most is when you're having the most difficulty when you have a really lot of really Difficulty says you stick and your staff those are the ones that give me Comfort why stick and staff give us Comfort stick for the Sheep you hit them with it staff you direct them with it says the stick when you hit me with the stick I know it's the staff it gives me Comfort why because I know this you have to hit me sometimes you have to direct me with the staff go right go left go right go left that's what I'm reading the books it's easy it's easy to go one page one okay page one page two page three it's easy the book is easy the book is easy to read the book it's easy to come to sh and listen to sh it's easy even though I'm not that interesting it's easy to listen now that's the easy part but the stick is hard why stick it hurts why flat tire money the wife yells at you the kid doesn't want to go to school the husband doesn't want to go to school no one wants to go to school the teacher doesn't want to go to no one wants to go to school hey ah says the stick and the staff they bring me Comfort why because I know when you hit me with the stick it's necessary it's a replacement for the staff because the staff in that condition doesn't work the nice way doesn't work the nice way doesn't work it's not going to make me it's not going to make me so sometimes we need a stick sometimes we need a smack in the face why shem's trying to build us shem's trying to build us next question answer welcome back this is probably the strongest way I've ever heard for the last 20 years that I learned to anybody explains about the Shabbat like that's why I'm going to if it's on YouTube I'm going to watch it again like the way you explain about Shabbat it was so powerful thank God and like I know you were about to finish the class but like the last we don't finish we finish when you guys are finished the last 20 minutes were so powerful when you start explaining about make a clip out of if you want the sh so sick I'm so I have actually a um I've been like I came from and I was like about to leave and I stand I'm so happy because like the way you explain about the like yeah I mean I want to love him but he hat does it to my father how am I going to love him and like you explained it so good like I'm definitely watch it again it was so strong and powerful I'm so happy and blessed to be here and listen to It's Miami I think tomorrow right the one that's uh the one the one that's far far the one that's far if after the shoot today's sh you still don't go for tomorrow oh if you still don't go tomorrow what kind of was strong but the last two I was like those was we actually have a movie we have like a a short a short film that we did about uh about about Shabbat includes this stuff and other things send me give me your number I'll send it to you anyone that wants to come to you tomorrow let check out the uh WhatsApp groups the Facebook groups the emails a bunch of different places that we have the sh up come to the sh tomorrow night we're going to finish it at that point this amen amen [Music] [Applause] [Music]