Authentic KINDNESS - MUSSAR Iggeret HaRAMBAN (25)

[Music] we're back here at our uh Tuesday night uh today sh will be for also for for for griel Ben and also for Kine B Hazel Katherine B also for Leana Batar Doris Bora uh and to gab and their wives and their children and also for to all of them so uh continues we uh we have a little bit of uh uh different uh aspect of it to go over today but also connected to kanuka we're in the uh middle of kanuka almost for anyone who has not lit the candles uh the AL is that you could light the candles all night uh even though it's best to light to light it right after arit um about 15 minutes after AR or right after depending when you pray if you pray early you pray late but if you missed out for whatever reason you could light the candles and you have to light the candles when you get home doesn't matter if it's 1:00 in the morning or 12:00 at night uh also as a side note on Friday obviously you can light you cannot light the uh candles uh on Shabbat so you have to light the candles of kanuka before you light the candles for Shabbat you have to light the candles before you light the candles of Shabbat this is not really reality for most people but I'll still say it just in case in case people don't know if a person is very poor and does not have enough money to uh to buy uh new candles for for the kanuk and only has two candles so for Shabbat what you would do is you would Light One Candle for the kanuk and one candle for the uh for Shabbat but if you only have one candle if you only have one candle uh then you actually light the uh the Shabbat candle uh yeah you like the Shabbat candle so um as far as the um the of kanuka are not very extensive they're not very massive but uh you still need to know them you still need to know what to do how to do um many people uh make a mistake on uh lighting the candles where they light the candles Without Really calculating how much oil they put in the candles and uh the candles go out after 5 or 10 minutes because there's not enough oil if you did that then you did not fulfill the mitah OFA uh you have to make sure that there's oil for at least a half hour now on Friday since you're lighting it earlier than usual you need to have oil that's enough for one hour enough oil for one hour uh that's a another aspect of it to know and uh kanuka and lighting the manora is an obligation for everyone meaning it's an obligation for men and for women so whether you're a man or you're a woman or you're not sure whatever it is you still have to light the candles still have to light the candles uh if you have any more questions about it you could ask uh send me a text message but uh it's not too difficult now we've asked this question a few times in the last few shim as far as why do we actually celebrate kanuka now so far we've asked the question we've gotten some answers that really were celebrating the spiritual uh battle that we won bashem where uh the uh both the yanim the uh the Greeks and the meim which were the uh Lefty liberal Jews that joined the uh uh the Greeks uh went against the toah they didn't necessarily want to kill uh Jews but they ended up trying to destroy the entire Torah which caused the death of many many people including Jews now when uh you look at the Torah you'll find something very interesting now the five books of Moses is when we say tah we're not only referring to the five books of Moses we're also not only referring to the tanak the 24 books in total five books of Moses plus 19 other books when we say Torah we're actually talking about the written Torah and the oral Torah oral Torah being the the M the the um all of the mid M books this is all different parts of the oral Torah nowan Shalom he uh wrote in K in the beginning that if you notice the entire which is the most critical part of our oral tah that's where we learn how to get how to think like a Jew that's where we learn all of the details of the secrets of M that's where we also learn our without there's simply no understanding whatsoever of how to be a Jew and how to understand Tah we learn many mid from there we learn about the history of is and even other nations in there we learn different secrets about medicine all types of beautiful things are in thear now if you notice the different debates that are being made inside the gar all of theim that are named in the gar they're at the time of H and after it's the time of H and after which is about a hundred years before the destruction of the bet mikdash the second bet mikdash now his rabbis you know the the zot the uh all of the Giants that live before him we don't have their Torah what we have today is the teachings of the students of Shay ofon the te the students of the students you know ofu but we don't have their Torah per se we have what was happening 100 years before the destroy the bet mikash now why is this mini history lesson critical for us to understand because this is the time of kanuka meaning that the Torah that we have today is only thanks to the battle that we won during kanuka if if it was not for the sadim winning the miraculous one of the battle against the millions of soldiers Greek soldiers and Lefty liberal anti anti- Tor Jews if it wasn't for the few rabbis that won that war it's not that there wouldn't be Jews because there wouldn't be Jews physically there wouldn't be Judaism period Shalom why because we wouldn't have the oral T that's actually what we're celebrating during kanuka we're celebrating that we won the oral to we won the ability to continue being Jews because without the oral Tora without the we would simply not know how to put on we wouldn't know if it's supposed to be a round box or a square one or what color the leather needs to be or uh What uh what type of leather needs to be where to put it it says what's you don't even know what it is do we have to put do we have to just now that it says it says in theora you have to put a one of the strings needs to be but now that we don't have the ability to know what really is is anymore we don't know what it is anymore it does it ceases to exist in the world because they used to be an animal the that they would take the blood from this to make that animal we don't have it anymore we have no idea where it is so that means that we cannot get anything that's now there are some people that are guessing a very educated guess of what is and they sell it for a lot of money $80 $100 $200 per but the reality is you go to none of them are wearing it why because they don't believe this is the so the question is do we cancel the entire because we don't have the like it says in the so if we don't have the of the can we actually wear the without the without the you would never arrive at a conclusion you would know so you would have people walking around with no thinking that oh is abolished it's canceled why because we don't have the anymore we wouldn't know how to slaughter animals we wouldn't know how to uh whether to pray where were they're allowed to pray uh at different places different times and so on and so forth all of the rules that you know today in the T that are not Customs come from our oral T there is not a single rule in the Torah that you could understand by simply reading the written Tah for example in the oral Torah it gives us details of what do the Ten Commandments mean now if I tell you read The Ten Commandments and give me your explanation now when it says don't steal what are you going to say that means no give me some answers don't steal commandment don't steal think it's like don't steal from a store don't steal from a store exactly that's what people would think but it actually means don't kidnap somebody don't kidnap somebody also it says look don't be a adulterer don't be an adulterer so you would think oh okay don't be an adulterer meaning don't cheat on your wife and don't be with somebody else's wife that's the best that our logic can get to says otherwise has two aspects of it one is the one that you understand the other one actually is don't waste seed meaning don't be an adulterer with yourself with your leg or your hand and so on without the we would simply not understand it most people first time they hear about wasting seed is not allowed like okay if it's so not allowed how come it's not in the Ten Commandments it is you just don't you never read it so our oral Tor is simply the Torah that g that created Judaism that's what we have if you go against the oral toah in essence you are going against Judaism all together and that's why it's very very ridiculous when people make comments that are against the against the oh no I don't agree with rambam I don't agree with RAB AKA you know you uh ask one rabbi question he gives you one answer and you look somewhere else there's a different answer so everybody has their own opinion I'm going to throw my opinion to as if you have the right to throw your opinion anywhere as if you're in the same world as these big rabbis so the holiday of sukot of kanuka is our celebration that we have Judaism still which is also funny because one of the favorite or probably the favorite holiday for uh for for Jewish people today that are not religious is kanuka that's their favorite holiday what it shows is how ignorant the generation is because the holiday itself is celebrating the defeat of the secular people the religious people the few the few the weak beating the many secular people the many haters of Torah the many people that want to go to the beach with their wife and girlfriend at the same time this is the lack of knowledge that we have in this generation we don't even know what we're celebrating and why most people think that celebrating kanuka is you light some candles you eat some uh Donuts go for it you're religious for today now are different parts of the Torah that discuss the oral Torah and but there are very interesting things that connect to Ouran now thean has arrived at a section where the ran says so the ran writes almost 850 years ago and if he is poor and you are richer than and wiser than he consider that he may be more righteous than yourself if he sins it is a result of an error while your sins your transgressions are deliberate so in essence what is the ramban teaching us he's teaching us he's teaching us to give people the benefit of the doubt now the benefit of the doubt giving people the benefit of the doubt requires kindness requires an extraordinary amount of kindness that is almost unheard of today you see most people are so selfish that even when they do somebody a favor it's not really a favor because they want something in return so when you give somebody the benefit of the doubt that oh this mistake that he made he made it because uh he slipped you know he didn't pay attention why do so many people do that because they know that they want them to give them the same benefit of the doubt they're not really giving him the benefit of the doubt because they really believe he made a mistake they think he did it on purpose but they want to give him the benefit of the doubt why because they want to get it back in reality this is not really benefit of the doubt this is just you taking care of yourself the kindness that's there is not really kindness it's selfish so the ran teaches us that the root of giving someone K is kindness but it's also having the right perspective of yourself and how you view other people last week he told us that e if a person is wiser or smarter than you you have to honor them if someone's a someone learns T all day all you do is maybe watch sh once in a while you pick up a book you can enjoy your sh you can enjoy your books but if he's learning all day he's tell me doesn't matter if he's 20 years younger than you or 20 years older than you when he enters the room you stand up when you talk to him you say not like some of these people's like wait does he have a does he have a I don't know why should we call him Rabbi does he have a SM it's so ridiculous that people have no problem calling some guy that barely graduated college with a C+ average doctor the guy pulls teeth for a living they call him doctor DDS but they still call him doctor the guy passed some classes in college and he got a uh PhD they still call him doctor he's not a doctor of anything he just learns how he learns a bunch of books he doesn't operate on anything but they call him doctor but to call someone that learns T Rabbi they have a problem with why they want to ask wait does he have a SM or he doesn't have a this also shows us our limited knowledge our ignorance because number one there's really no SM in the world anymore the real SM of the time ofu putting his hands on yesu hasn't been around for over 2,000 years the smas that we have today where you get a certification from a mid from a like uh we did at last year with rabac and also has many of them already that stuff is yeah you get it but that's not the same SM as what we had since the time ofu that's more of like okay we checked you you know what you're doing go for it there's a few subjects that you're good at you have a SM in that issue and there different levels but that's not the same type of SM but there is one SM that does not need to be given to you by anyone and that's the of teaching I believe it's page 33 a says who is his Rabbi he says oh his Rabbi is the one that that uh who how do you determine who your Rabbi is so it's between and and the first says the rabbi is the one that taught him the most amount of Torah and the second one says says no no it's not the rabbi taught him the most he's he's good but the rabbi is really the one that taught him the one that taught him because that's the most difficult but then comes with he says no no no we know from who is his Rabbi who is his Rabbi someone who taught him a single somebody taught you on from now one you have to call him Rabbi what do we learn from there we learn from there that anyone that teaches T is a rabbi no required no required you teach people T here Rabbi congratulations now of course people don't NE necessarily need to uh do this for for egotistical reasons thinking that just because they have three or four YouTube uh videos of themselves with no crowd uh they from now on they're uh you know they make sure that their kids and their wife call them Rabbi uh you know don't be ridiculous but the point being is that we have a very very hard time being kind to rabbis being kind to being kind to people that Toil and toil over the Torah which in essence gives a a reason to let this world continue existing and one of the reasons is because we do not give them the benefit of the doubt we're also very egotistical ourself and last but not least kindness is almost like an unfound art we don't even know how to be kind the right way because the way most of us are kind is more like business I'll do you a favor so you do me a favor when I need you I'll give you a ride so when I need you to give me a ride you'll be there for me I'm going to lend you money so you lend me money when I need you that's not kindness that's business kindness is doing something selflessly you do something just because it's the right thing to do you give him a ride because he needs to go somewhere someone one time I was giving him a ride and I made a mistake on the Road I didn't make a right or a left or whever it was I don't really usually pay attention very much and uh I make mistakes a lot when I drive my mind bash is somewhere else and I made a mistake and he said to me oh no okay you know what you could just drop me off here and I'll just walk I said well I'll just drive he goes no it's out of your way what am I carrying the car in my head I didn't want to mention it was you but fine why am I carrying the car in my head I don't care what the upside I'll drive around take me 5 10 20 minutes who cares what do I care I'm driving the car people make such a big deal out of giving people rides why you carrying the car and you had you pressed the gas pedal and sometimes not even that anymore with some of these cars not a big deal but that's the problem when you're doing people a favor because in reality it's business then it does matter it's like you know what get off here no no no I'm not going it's too much already it's too much for me to press the gas pedal for an extra 5 minutes why because when you're going to give me a ride you wouldn't want to do it for me why cuz it's business now but if you do something right just because it's right there's no limitation there's no limitation now how can we get ourselves to that point of doing the required self- accounting to get ourselves to our mindset the raan tells us he tells us it's all based on how we view other people if the person is wise if the person is Rich it's easy it's easy it's easy to uh to be nice to them why because usually we want something from them but here he says you want to develop true kindness you have to be just as if not more kind to the people that are below you people that are poor people that are weaker than you people that are not as wise as you how by looking at things and giving them the benefit of the doubt that even though they lack in this one thing they definitely possess something else that's Superior to you so he says if he's poor and you are richer or wiser than him then consider the fact that he's more righteous than you you see a person that's poor don't look down on him why he's probably more righteous than you it's probably a bigger sadik than you and actually statistics show it's probably true why the most religious people in the world are the poorest people you go to some of these poor countries even though they most of them worship idols nonetheless they're very religious people it's very easy for a poor person to become religious why they don't have all of the yet of money and ego and all the nonsense that everybody else deals with they deal with life and the problems with no falsehood this is also the reason why most of the organizations in the in the world that do good are funded by poor people not by rich people the $100 donations the $200 donations the ,000 donations those are considered the lifeblood of most organizations it's not the million and the 20 million 30 million dollar donations that make organizations it's the ones that actually are small and the reason why is because those million and two million and $3 million donations that come come randomly usually come with some kind of a contract I'm going to give you a million dollars so you're going to publicize my name and you're going to pretty much obey my commands and every time I come in you're going to kiss my feet and every time I say something you're going to jump and so on and so forth they expect you to uh become their pet because they're donating a lot of money whereas people that simply do something good just because it's the right thing to do and they have $100 to give $1,000 to give $500 to give whatever money they have they don't ask for anything they don't ask Hey listen I'm G to give you $100 but from now on every time I call you pick up unless they're Delirious unless they're delirious and they actually do thing that they can control you with $100 which by the way happened to me today all of these things you know is spoils me spoils me with this I'll tell you the story in a minute now don't worry you won't miss out the story it's a good one but the ran teaches us that you have to look at the poor as someone that's more righteous than you you have to look at them in such a way that if you see them in your bitet coming in late late to never ever think ah this guy's half religious this guy might as well not even come why did you even come how you already here we already almost finished amid this guy came this guy this guy I'm not even counting man anymore never ever do that why ran says do the opposite opposite he came late why cuz he was doing he was helping somebody that you didn't want to help you know that broken car on the road that you passed by saying hey okay good luck to you okayy oh you didn't even say that he stopped and helped him that's why he's late in your mind that's what you have to do but you on the other hand when you come late give yourself on the head I can't believe I'm such a loser I can't believe I can't even show up the prayer on time what a loser I am that's what we have to do that's what the ran says the perspective that we have is the exact opposite of this what do we do usually they are the losers we are the winners we're late because we have a legitimate excuse come on Rabbi I was busy that's why it came late I was tired that's why I fell asleep in a shoe I was tired him on the other hand oh he he's a loser he he's a he's always this he's always that opposite if we have the right perspective little by little you will see yourself start to develop pure kindness you give people the right type of benefit of the doubt only if you have the right amount of kindness now the page 151b has an interesting story between Rabia and his wife Rabia tells his wife that anytime a poor person comes to our house don't wait for him to knock on the door if you already see that he's coming from the window run to the door open the door and go out to him with something give him something don't wait for him to come all the way here why because maybe our kids are one day going to be poor and we want hem to judge us measure for measure since we were extra kind to the poor people hm will treat our kids extra kind that people that they're not going to have to go all the way to certain people people come to them and give them money so just like a typical Jewish mother's wife is like hey you're cursing my kids you're cursing my kids what are you doing go no no no you see we have a rule the rule is the wheel that rotates through the world meaning that no matter what you do whether it's you made a lot of money or you didn't make a lot of money in your life at some point someone that's connected to you or you yourself will suffer from Financial issues says how so it could be that you made a lot of money but you're kids didn't really know how to preserve that money like for example the Rockefellers and the uh the carnegies and the the all of these people that made millions or billions of dollars a hundred years ago 150 years ago many of their descendants are completely broke some of them still have a lot of money but many of them are completely completely broke very rarely do you see wealth transfer over several Generations it's very rare generally speaking that wealth ends within one or two generations from the one guy that made a whole lot of money or the one woman that made a whole lot of money I mean historically speaking it's been usually more mostly men but the point being is is that generally wealth does not transfer very well because the guy that made the money and preserved it and did all he did knew how to do all of that stuff he didn't necessarily always teach his kids the same thing and even if he taught his kids his kids did not give their kids which is his grandkids the same education So within one or two generations they start wasting the money and before you know it a lot of them go to an extent where they literally become completely broke homeless so that's one way one way that we've seen historically many times where a person works really hard in order for his kids to have everything that he never had and only to see that his kids or his grandkids or at some point someone else has less than what he had so says that's one way that wealth ises not transfer and The Descendants can be poor so we need AEM to have be have kindness for them so they don't have to go door to door maybe somebody's going to help them out they don't have they have to deal with a limited amount of embarrassment another way though another way is tells us is re Carnation a person could be decreed that he or she is going to have a lot of money in this Gil and they passed the test they passed the test of money they had money they gave money they were generous with it they publicized toah but they failed the test somewhere else they failed the test with their eyes they failed the test with their Shabbat wasn't 100% they fail the test with K they fail the test with SCH they fail the test somewhere not the whole test they're not going to gain them for eternity but they fail the test somewhere so in his kindness has to reincarnate them bring them back to the world again but since he doesn't want to give them the same test that they had last time what does he do he does them a favor what he makes them poor because they already passed the test of money and he knows that having a lot of money is more difficult than not having money because you have a lot more opportunities to make sins so he can reincarnate a formerly rich person as somebody that's completely broke why because their test is no longer the money their test now is schom their test is Shabbat their test is something else it's not money so a person could be reincarnated as a poor person and not have the same the same luck as he did last time but this is again kindness from hem so tells us we have to be kind to the poor because again it could be us could be us or our kids now the in says that when a person sees a poor person pass by him and we're talking about a poor person that not a poor person that's just a uh some uh some guy that came uh you know from I don't know Saudi Arabia or something and uh he uh he's only poor because he hasn't gotten his terrorist money yet no we're talking about like you know person that's lives in B in in different parts of New York religious person but he's poor comes to the B the P says stand up for him give him cavod stand up for him why because we learned from in Psalm 10931 that the almighty himself stands at the right side of the destitute meaning this poor person who is walking with him he's walking with him wait you think that this guy's a nothing who's right next to him because he's poor he's the destitute why because when we pray what do we really pray for what do we really pray for B seriously let's do some to laugh at us ourselves a little bit what do we pray for give me you know the house is not big enough I need another room you know another room for the kids to play in so they don't mess up the whole house I need another room so they could do nothing with and also please do me a favor teach my wife how to cook and please please do me a favor my boss kill him give me the job and do me a favor you know that customer that customer make him like you know like give me all of his money without realizing it and my car I don't kind of no I'm a Jew after a son he had to give me this this G this garbage car come on I have to have at least Alexis or or mexus or something come on what are we praying for it's a joke what are we praying for we go to we pray like this this what we pray for give me more more more like homeless people that's what we that homeless person that poor person when he prays to what ises he pray for he says give me some food so I could live under these conditions but live give my wife somehow some miracle that she'll have health to continue this miserable life CU I want to live why does he pray for this poor person he prays for real stuff us we pray for extras extras we pay for it's a joke walks with him with us maybe walks away from sometimes because of the the stuff that sometimes we pray for what do we pray for I had five texts a day Rabbi is there as Gul to make more money this year five out of six texts is there is something I could do to make more money this year now if the guy is poor he's struggling and so on no problem okay listen got to pray got to do this got to do that but the reality is most people that tell me that they have money problems would all do respect they make a bunch of money we're talking about people that usually make 100,000 plus they complain they want more they want 200,000 plus 400,000 plus a million dollars funny thing is none of them donate but that's a different story is not funded by rich people I don't want you guys to think that we're funded by rich people we only funded by poor people best people on Earth why they give for with their heart now the tells us that who's standing next to these poor people already know if a person carries this knowledge the next time they see some guy with a keeper that's from 1937 walks into the Sho and he looks like he just came out of a garbage pale and he's asking for a little Saka instead of saying no no no let let me finish let me finish I'll talk to you after instead of giving him this dishonor this disrespect this disgusting Behavior if he remembers wait a minute this guy with the 1937 keep who's right next to him he came in who came in all of a sudden you look at the guy different all of a sudden you look at the guy different you want to give him why because is watching for sure he's right there this this type of knowledge is priceless if a person wants to become become kind but if a person doesn't want to become kind then I would refer them to number 84 I won't spoil what the name of the sh is though so now a person needs to understand that it's all about how you perceive yourself and then others be critical of yourself kind to others now of course I'm not saying start self-deprecating you know some people like to insults that's not allowed that's completely ridiculous you're not allowed to say about yourself you're not allowed to say listen I'm such a loser like these things that I say is really more for entertainment purposes I'm not telling you you should start calling yourself a loser not start making fun of yourself that's that's not that's just for joke some people take me word for word they start uh that's the only thing they write down the wrong stuff no you're not allowed to insult yourself but the point is is that you have to always think of yourself as in the middle one mitvah you're going to the right side one sin you go to the left side you're always in the middle always in the middle and even after you made the one Mitzvah still you're in the middle you're always in the middle don't ever look at yourself as someone that's a terrible person unless you really did something terrible but the point being is that this is the right perspective you should have for yourself and never think of yourself as much more than what you are which unfortunately happens very very often with B it happens very often with people that don't have any type of real leadership they don't have a real Rabbi that they listen to they have rabbis they listen to but no Rabbi they listen to the difference is if you listen to rabbis that means you like different speeches you like his style of speaking his style of speaking his uh mindset his mindset but you care less about what they say about you you just care that they say stuff and you think that they're talking to everybody else and you'll pick and choose what you want that's someone that has rabbis someone that has a rabbi all you care about is what does he think of you and everything he says is about you why because your job is to take everything he says and apply to your life whether you agree with it or not is irrelevant you have to treat that Rabbi like it's God why because God sent them to you how many people are willing to do that the sad part is is that one of the ways that the fools us is with how so spoke to one of the theim in this generation and probably for the last 30 or 40 years recently and he said what would you say is the biggest obstacle that b cha have now B cha doesn't necessarily always mean someone that didn't do any MIT his whole life was secular and then now started doing chva no that doesn't necessarily always mean that B cha is simply someone that's elevating himself even if he grew up or she grew up religious her whole life she didn't really know what real religion was she didn't really know what real is until the last couple years when she started learning mus so that's still a b Chua even if she or he considers himself FR from birth he knows that over the last one two three four five years they've elevated themselves tremendously that's still about cha so asks this and also someone that's been in the uh industry for over 30 years what would you say is the biggest obstacle for Bala and surprisingly he says the biggest obstacle is that have a different than anyone that's been religious for a while why the guy that's been religious for a while bother him with average things average standard stuff maybe don't go to sh maybe go to sh maybe pray today maybe don't pray today maybe look at her maybe don't look at her regular stuff the B CH he doesn't bother him once the guy is on fire once he's on he wants everything says I'm not even messing with this guy go you want what what do you want to pray 3:00 in the morning go goab go go pray 3:00 in the morning nobody's there except you go you're the by itself why you want to watch five times a day go go learn it go go with you watching with you yeah yeah I'm there right there it's good it's good right you like it doesn't bother you for a bit learn go learn learn yeah finish this that go do it yeah is cheering you on where does he come to him he comes to him he sneaks up on him sneaks up on her with Gava pride and how they view the world and they start viewing everybody else as zeros no one all of a sudden is religious enough for them this Rabbi is not good enough this Rabbi is a k this Rabbi is a monkey this raban is a this this uh K is not good enough for me that K is not good enough for me I'm not good enough for that's it I'm already above everybody I'm only a I'm only about youa for a year but I already know more than all of you guys that's how he comes to him he comes to him not don't learn don't go pray don't go this no he says go and give yourself the illusion that you're actually better than everybody else start canceling out rabbis for no good reason of course there's many rabbis that are not rabbis the Heretics that call themselves rabbis that we talk about many times but the problem is is that now people start looking for something wrong they're not watching the rabbi to learn something from him they're watching the rabbi to see what is he going to say wrong so I can make fun of him what is she GNA say wrong so I can make fun of her they look for the wrong in everyone they don't look for right why because they already know the right as if they know everything already they learn one two 5 10 three 100 a thousand sh online or they think of themselves this one is this one is he walks in you should you should you should levitate not stand this is the problem this happens this happens every single day and one of the saddest things that you deal with when you're in the kiru world helping people do Chua for an extended period of time and actually have real results of people changing one of the saddest things is to see people drop off he or she has been watching your one two three years straight you see them come go from being as to yov this person was am when you met them all of a sudden this person is wow you praise their name all of a sudden missing an action no emails no text messages no 500 phone calls no questions anymore all of a sudden they know everything bys no Consulting no advising nothing stop coming to the sh if they come all of a sudden they're on vacation but an extended one three six 8 months a year that's the saddest thing why is it this saddest thing it's not because you need them it's not because you need them to come to you it's not because you need them to send you more text messages God only knows how I need less text messages it's that you know that it's only a matter of time before all of that work that they did in three years to get themselves to become aik goes right in the garbage all of it and many times they end up becoming coming much much worse than they started why because now they think that they know it all now they think that they're righteous enough they've graduated they treated your Torah like it's college class they thought they completed the course they went three years four years I finished I graduated now I'm on to bigger and better from such people bigger and better learn learning T learning M working on yourself is a lifelong commitment there is no graduation you could be learning it for 80 years 80,000 years 80 million years you're still never going to be finished there is no graduation there is no unfinished there is no higher level you go Toki he reads an enormous amount of Tor enormous amount of seven pages of the seven pages every single day bunch of and so on and so forth he has such a regiment of T he completes more in one day than most people do in a year he completes more in one year than most people do in a lifetime but you look at his books what's the most recent book m m teach that's what we WR in the book how to be a decent human being how to be is how to be honest how to have integrity how to be kind and so on and so forth that's what he writes about why which means what which means he himself also learns it he himself learns it every single day why does he have to worry about being kind and generous to people he's at home all day learning T who are you going to be kind who are you going to be generous to the people that come in whenever they do this rabai is one of the things that if you don't pay attention to it the Satan can sneak up into a person's n and literally destroy them from within you start having a perspective on people especially especially people that know Tor in such a warped way that you're just going to cancel people out eventually just by their looks just by where they live just by what congregation they're a member of without even hearing a single sentence of Torah you decide you already know more than them you decide you already know better than them this is a very very serious disease and it's very common unfortunately now if a person has the right perspective on people whether they tell me or not obviously this problem will be dealt with but as long as a person does not have the right perspective he doesn't have the right amount of kindness towards other people he bound to fail now why does this matter so much and what does this connect to kanuka so much because if you notice kanuka we fought just a few rabbis we fought in order to save the oral Torah now the oral tah is very interesting in that the was already spoken about in the Torah itself the prophet HOSA chapter 8 verse2 says that says to the prophet if write for him great quantities of my Torah the Jews would be considered like aliens says if I give is all of my Torah not just the written Torah the five books of Moses and eventually the tanak but I give him a large portion of my meaning everything in writing everyone is going to start looking at it there's not going to be any difference between Jews and non-jews and everyone is going to treat it as if it's available he for everyone because the greatest portion of the Tora is the oral T you look at the tanak the entire tan is this book that's it this is the entire T oral T you could fill this building up a million times from floor to ceiling with books and you're still never going to be finished a million times this this building a million times you fill it up with books still never finish with the oral made it so that the the oral tah is not only endless but it's also incomplete why incomplete because wanted us to know that when you look at a mishna there's a rule you'll notice the mishna without commentary doesn't make any sense most of the time you look at the mishna it's some it looks like half a sentence a sentence and a half three and a half sentences there's always like something missing it's like they're speaking in code sometimes but then you look at the about this mishna endless arguments end debates of what who what when how and this is like a condensed version of the arguments the rest of the millions of books are the expanded version of the argument and who what when and how the really is why didn't just tell when he wrote the mishna rebi do me a favor write the whole thing write the whole thing reab a kadosh in this generation they had hundreds hundreds of tractates of the mishna all we have is six six not because he didn't know it but because he condensed it as much as possible he condensed it as much as possible and therefore the mishna when you read it the when you read it you have no idea what's going on until you go to the commentary until you go to the rabbis you go ask Rabbi Rashi you go ask the to you go ask your local Rabbi that's learning with you you go ask your Rabbi that you watch what does this mean what does that mean how come it says here this and over there that and who and what and what wait how come you can't do by yourself why can't you do by yourself because doesn't want you to do it by yourself you're not allowed to do it by yourself you will arrive at the wrong conclusion by yourself the whole point of the oral Torah is to show us that we need the rabbis like we need life we need the like we need air in our lungs there is no Torah without you have to have somebody to learn with have to without the commentaries you're going to start reading like the Christians just based on the verses when whatever you understand out of it guess what you'll become a Christian you won't become a Jew you read the weekly par five books of Moses the easiest part of the Torah as far as to understand literally because it's the clearest prophecy not that it's easy toah but it's the highest level of Prophecy if you notice the difference between the five books of Moses versus any of the prophets Isaiah Ezekiel Jeremiah and so on is you see that the further the prophet is from the time of mosenu the more difficult it is to understand what he's talking about now when Ezekiel explains to us that he saw what's happening in heaven how Hashem opened up the sky and showed them what's there when you read what he says you have no idea whatsoever what he's talking about no idea you you can imagine whatever you want and everything you imagine is wrong and right at the same time but you're not even sure which one it is you're so confused by the time you finish it you actually think that you've become like during the actual reading because you have no idea what happened here how did this happened to me how did I read this for three hours and I still don't know what happened but then you go to mosu you're reading it like oh hasem spoke to Moshe Moshe tell said to make with corners and easy to understand what did mosu speak a different language than Ezekiel no the r in elaborates on this point and he says that there is different levels of Prophecy the higher the level meaning the more I can't really say righteous because you can't judge them by unrighteousness but in essence the more perfect the human being is the less flaws they have in their character the more clear their message was between them and God so mosenu that was the humblest human being that ever existed there was in essence virtually no separation between him and Hashem as far as when they spoke it's like me and you speaking I speak you understand as long as you're listening and not sleeping you understand what I'm talking about that's how spoke to M on the other hand some of the later prophets even though they understood the message but the way they understood it because of certain flaws they had if you will in their level their extremely high level Al we would be the dust under their feet but in their extremely high level the way they understood it wasn't as clear to us so when we read their prophecy it is almost impossible for us to understand unless we think with the mindset of the sages we look at the we look at the Mish we look at the MIM we look at all of the rambam and so on you see how the sages interpreted each and every single word that they said and then we finally understand what Ezekiel Saw to a certain extent what Isaiah who saw the same thing how come he's using different words what is really the message with this TI and why is it mentioned three different times why this and why that we look at all these different things and when we look at it from the eyes of the rabbis of our sages we start understanding the picture clearly and that's what the Shalom says is the the beauty of kanuka that most people simply do not understand Judaism was nearly destroyed by Lefty liberal Jewish people that befriended the IIM befriended the Greeks and they literally tried to destroy the T but not the the written tah they had no problem with the written tah they had a problem with the oral Torah and unfortunately in the beginning many other Jews joined them and they judged the rabbis very unfavorably and literally almost helped the enemy destroy the Torah alt together and he says here that the oral tah that we celebrate today is a celebration of the fact that we have a connection to the sages we have a connection to today you don't have to look too far to find someone that learns T it's only a phone call away it's only an email away sometimes it's only a text away you don't have to worry about whether someone's going to kill you for talking to him you don't have to worry about whether this guy is alive or dead there's plenty available to us so what's the missing ingredient how come we're still fools how come we're still struggling we're still struggling because because we do not appreciate these we do not appreciate these sages because our ego is getting in the way and we're not judging people favorably now we're looking at people in a way where automatically when we look at someone we look for their flaws we look for their weaknesses why because we want to make sure that we're better than them and even if we can't find something we still find something we create something out of nothing and even if we can't create something what do we do okay well he's my Rabbi he's my so he's not everybody else's so in essence yeah he's good he's perfect he's the biggest Rabbi in the world but that's only because he's my Rabbi your Rabbi is homeless your Rabbi is your Rabbi needs to go to some shelter your Rabbi needs to go to a zoo my Rabbi is the best meaning he's only the best because he's yours not because by himself that's not a value for him it's a value for yourself and your judge of character and that's a flaw that's a flaw in our mentality it's a flaw in how we perceive the world Feinstein Shalom was one of the people that in his generation if somebody would have said he has to be the Gil ofu nobody would have doubted it he was so humble that some of the things he would do enamor us till this day now Feinstein was very very careful with how he treated everybody so much so that one time he was uh going to a uh a very important meeting as Thea and right before he ENT he was going to enter the car a poor guy walked up to him and asked for takaka and I have my M Feinstein stops takes money out of his pocket and gives the guy a few dollars but then the poor guy insists on talking to him starts talking to him okay one minute two minutes three minutes he's talking to him the driver and you know the couple of people that were with the started getting frustrated like who's this homeless guy go away sh sh he gave you some money no go celebrate already you have a few dollars from the you shouldn't even spend it like go already know what are we hold up the biggest Rabbi in the world to talk to him right now you didn't find anybody else to talk to so after a few minutes they started getting annoyed and they started telling the guy listen the rabbi is busy he needs to go Feinstein shes them away sh go not the homeless guy them his helpers go away let him talk and he continues talking to him for 10 minutes now this may not seem like a lot because we waste a lot of time just in the morning waste 45 minutes figuring out what we're going to do for the day by the time we figure out what we want to do for the day we forgot so we start a whole new plan that's how much time we waste every day for to waste 10 minutes it's like you wasted a whole day so maybe more 10 minutes for is a lot of time so after he finished talking to him in 10 minutes he says okay I now need to go the homeless guy was very happy taking and he left so the people asked the rabbi when he got into the car like lambi like you know teach me why did you spend so much time with this poor guy he says for him me listen listening to him and to his trouble was much much more valuable to him than any money that I can give him because he wanted me to care about what he's saying so that's what I did because my mitaka was to listen to him not the money the money was an extra Thea that I really gave him was and what he was looking for was a listening ear and for someone important to care about what he's saying only the mind of a sadik thinks like that why because the average person says hey guy listen $10 now go okay why you want my time how about this I'll give you 20 you go faster why I'm busy go one I'll go buy fast food that's what you're busy what are you busy with what are you so busy with you don't want to give me a time of day you don't want to talk to him you don't want to talk to her sometimes people call me and say listen I have problem I have slum bite problem okay so talk to your husband about it why you telling me tell your husband you have SL body problems he's usually the one to fix it with you he's the husband she goes no that's the problem he doesn't talk to me so what do you mean he doesn't come home no he comes home after he comes home usually there's I don't know hi sometimes so you eat together yeah kind of and then what quiet was quiet after his two sons died he was quiet the husband's quiet doesn't say a single word why not why doesn't say a single word oh maybe he's upset maybe he had a long day maybe has nothing to say what's the matter with us we sometimes think that our problems are the only problems that we that exist in the world we never think that the other person our spouse our wife our husband our kids our partners we don't think that they have problems either we think that the whole world was created for you and only you it's the wrong mentality it's the opposite of kindness sometimes a listening ear is all that somebody needs they don't need a solution from you they don't need advice from you they simply need you to listen to them a Jew came to a rabbi that was and said to him I don't know what's going on but I keep praying to Hashem nothing's happening it's almost like I'm praying to a wall none of my prayers are being fulfilled I don't know what I'm doing wrong I come to I pray Nets I put on also Shabbat I keep an hour before I keep R extended everything my best in the world I'll spend extra just to make sure I get bet or this or that the that I had I already ordered a year before all the all this the love that I have people were praising me for they people thought I got it from Heaven [Applause] All I pray to for this for that nothing was a serious but someone that tells you how it is he says wait aren't you the one that told me that uh your wife is very annoying she's like a child goes yeah yeah for the exactly that's what I'm praying for hasem is not answering my prayers goes no he is he is goes what do you mean for love he says you're the one that said your wife is younger than you he was like 10 15 years apart between you you know and and now you know you liked it before you got married because you wanted a young one but after you got married and she started talking also you know you didn't want that one anymore you know she was 20 when you got married and you only really wanted the everything else but the Talking part you don't want so much but you know wives talk once in a while sometimes more often than once in a while and guess what once she started talking you're like God this she's like a kid she like child she talking about nonsense she talking about dresses talk about her friend what I care about her friend this child oh problem is a little minuscule that's what you told me right yeah you remember the conversation I said I remember like it was yesterday he says is giving you measure for measure he says explain says listen when your wife comes to you and she you work the whole day you listen lifted a building over your head you fixed a few cars you made certain deals and she comes to you with her little mini problems that the baby hasn't pooped in three days that uh you know she has a little one of them has a scratch on his face but it's because of the accident that his brother did to him but he didn't really mean it and that the neighbor hasn't said hello in three days and that maybe we need to repair the the water fountain and I think that the fridge may be broken but it may be not and all of these things and you're like this childish problem what do I care about this stuff I have big stuff to do I build buildings you think right so you complain right so let's let's see you're praying to for what you're pray to say I know you gave me a little bit of money but why don't you give me a little bit more I know you gave me a house but give me another one give me another car and give me this and give me this and give me this now the m the angels of each one of them is the size of a planet different shapes different sizes different images they come they look at this prayer and they say look at this guy look at this guy he finally got to he got to the King of [Applause] Kings he got to the king he didn't go to to to to the IRS and he finally got the clerk he didn't go to the president of the United States that answered his letter no he got to the King of Kings the only one that could do something what is he pray for what does he pray for look at this guy what is he praying for he prays for another house you finally got to the only one that can give life and what you pray for is some brick and mortar that may go bad tomorrow you pray for a car you got to the King of Kings that's what you want a car he's so childish hem a child says you I agree he's a child put his I don't deal with children I don't deal with children measure for measure you treat her like she's a child you don't want to pay attention to her guess what treats you the same way why because at the end of it all your prayers are also childish because your perspective of her is that she's less than you because her biggest K of the day is that the baby pooped thank God that the neighbor finally came back from vacation that uh the car worked that the check clear like that's the takes care of the kids she doesn't have Wall Street like you she doesn't have she's not building building she's not doing big stuff she's just a simple woman takes care of the kids but you think it's childish you think it's nothing why cuz you're Mr bigwig says you're right okay so you're big wig let's compare you to me then let's compare you to me you build buildings I build worlds everything you have I did you just pretended like you're doing it child what are you praying for car car's too small on me if you ask for a planet maybe I'll give it to you cars too small I don't I don't create cars cars I let you guys create it's too small for me child that's what happens when a person person only looks at thems and everyone else Falls by the wayside as nothing everyone else is a child everyone else is a fool everyone else is not enough they're not smart enough they're not rich enough they're not this enough and they're not that enough this is one of the things that destroys your connection to as well as destroying your connection to the world around you suddenly your wife hates you suddenly your kids can't wait to not see you suddenly every Shabbat they don't want to be home they have a sleep away where somewhere just not home if your kids want to constantly sleep not in your house that's a problem yes I understand kids like their friends but it also means that if they haven't seen you all week and they did see their friends all week and the only time they see you is on the weekend because you're so busy building buildings but they're friends they could just simply see another day but they still prefer to go see their friends only that means they don't like you there's a reason for that you made them feel like nothing you made them feel like their problems are not important their little sevivon that they were spinning and going hey wasn't important to you why cuz it wasn't worth a million dollars so when you pray to a for different things has to return the favor measure for measure so we see here is that lack of kindness can be very very damaging not just with our relationship with our spouse our friends our children our cousin customers our rabbis but also our relationship with now sometimes a person all they want is a little bit of attention and if they get it to them it's like you gave them a million dollars one of the times that M Feinstein walked into the bet midash he saw that the janitor which was an old Russian man was holding his face and mosha Feinstein noticed it and he stopped and he asked him and he spoke to him in Russian says what's wrong and this old man says oh it's my tooth spoke to him a little bit for a few minutes and the people you know people were you know following the ra all the time imagine you have mosu among you you're G to follow what he does what do he do now what does he do now where is he here like behind the everywhere after the janitor walked way the people that you know already know this janitor for years for decades he's worked in the same building for a long time says we've never seen a happier person all of a sudden the toothache didn't matter all of a sudden the pain didn't matter why mosha Feinstein spoke to me for a few minutes he cared about my problem he cared he cared that I have a little bit of pain and he spoke to me in my language and he spoke to me without telling me listen I got to go but uh good luck to you I'll pray for you what's your name again text it to me text to me text to me now when you work on yourself pays you in this world and the next and M Feinstein had the Merit to have a son-in-law by name of of MOS shis and his son-in-law tried to follow the footsteps of his father-in-law and worrying about people being conscious of other people's issues so much so that he befriended a young man that was a special needs person had some mental issues where he thought of himself as a expert doctor but also a military secret agent and he liked to be referred to as the professor and of course the treated him well would invite him talk to him in his way one of the times that he invited him to the house you know with other people this professor came with his uh radio and he decided to turn on the radio and blast it and it was really really loud and but no one had the heart to tell him to shut it off including the r but it was extremely loud so what do you do so when you care about people so much that you never ever want to hurt a fly you get like this what does he do he thinks of an idea he says Professor wait a minute he listens to the radio even closer he says to them those military secrets and the professors yes yes they are yes yes they are like somebody else gets him he says but Professor you do know I'm not in the military I don't know if I have the authority to listen to such things the professor says you're right he shuts It Off you're right shuts it off only a person that cares about everyone thinks of a k like this what does the average person do let me steal it from him but you take his attention you get his attention I'll take the radio when he comes back he won't see it they think like Bank robers criminals but if you care about everybody because you see that everyone else has something that's better than yours and not the opposite that you have something better than everybody else this is one of the things that is very easy and pleasing to talk about but very hard to do because naturally most people are arrogant to a certain extent most people do not think think there's consequence for our crime most people think they could tell everybody what to do not just anybody everybody what to do there was a woman that lived in the building ofada and uh one time everyone knew that radya did not want to waste a single minute every single minute of his life was accounted for learning T doing doing helping do I don't believe there's anybody anybody that has done more for whether you're Safari orazi in the last 100 years like he did of course some people going to tell you somebody else no problem it's not a debate it's not a a race but the point being is that CL SL was in a horrendous shape before came into this world before was somebody that took leadership by the horns and ran with it and the power that he had all came from itah and he would spend every waking hour learning to many times people would ask him if you would be the Sak hold the baby when they do the and he would agree because it meant a lot to them but under the condition of no party no uh waiting music this that just tell me exactly the minute to come come hold the baby bre I'm leaving the Whole Thing 2 minutes don't wait for me a whole line uh five hours people one after another asking for blessings the music the the the no no no two minutes comes down from his house come to the Sho comes down from the house give me the baby finished no problem you want have you of the generation hold your baby have it's a big he gives him a blessing to have such a thing but that's conditions why cuz I want to go study T that's my baby I want to go study Tor I hold your baby because I also care about him and I care about you but I want to go study to because that's my baby so when you have somebody calculate their time like that Shalom you waste it this foolish woman that lived in his building it's famous story Witnesses saw this it's actually even written in kids books in children's book she they were having a board meeting in the building about something that had to do with the building and it was known is not going to come to these meetings he's had much more important things to do than board meetings but she made us stink about it she no we cannot have the meeting of the board to decide something really critical unless all the tenants unless all of the people that own a house here in this building attend so everybody looks around they see everybody's here everyone knows is not coming it's not even a question he's the biggest Rabbi in the world you foolish lady you're not actually expecting him to come are you she goes NOP the tenant he's not here ra has to come I'm not starting the meeting until he comes what embarrassment this caused but word got Toya and he got up from his learning and went to the board meeting and he sat there and he listened to them they the nonsense that they talk about board meetings of buildings by the way the biggest waste of life in history just so you know it's ego central idea Central and a lot of other things I don't even want to mention the nightmare of nightmares but anyway I was privy to a few of them I regret every single one it's one of the regrets of my life if hasem has to re incarnate me just make sure I don't come as someone that owns any buildings or anything that I don't have any board meetings so now now is sitting over there the board meeting starts the board meeting finishes everybody gets up for the gets up and everyone walks away but as the leaves everyone walks and they wait for the woman to come and she can't move I said no come on let's go she goes I can't move she what mean you can't move she goes I can't move I lo I don't have any feelings on my legs I don't have feelings on my body I can't move his witnesses there watching this woman like what do you mean you can't move she goes I can't move she starts crying hysterical I don't know what's going on I don't know what's happening H H and everyone in a second understood what's going on you just wasted the time of the biggest R in the world the biggest in the world to come to your stupid board meeting to talk about Plumbing that's what you want to waste his time with you're playing with fire lady you're playing with fire they run to rabu vadya the please please don't be upset don't be upset at her she can't move says no no who said that she shouldn't move who says should the second he said it she got up and left I didn't say she shouldn't move the second he said she got up and walked away shocked like we're talking about someone that literally lost a feeling to their body and there's witnesses there he says upstairs who's says she doesn't move she walks away she got up that second why you're playing with fire when you play with people think they can say and do whatever they want to they don't realize these are are the people that simply serve hem These Are Soldiers of you insult it's like you spit in's face needless to say you have to be kind needless to say you have to have and give them the benefit of the doubt the says if you see a sinning sinning you actually see a making a sin don't even have bad thoughts about him but surely he's going to do CH night he's known as you saw him make a mistake don't have a second thought for a second that he already didn't do cha he's doing cha because that's the point of his TOA now of course if someone becomes was known as a in the past but already has has a repeated crime against in public and so on that's a different story but people are looking for every flaw every word to mistranslate they look to create M between rabbis you know how many times a week people send me things about different rabbis that I'm friends with in order to get me to comment on on it and say something nasty in order to agree with their nastiness so maybe they could send it to the rabbi also and create a war yeah but Rabbi said this and you said something else so what should I say they look for Wars they look for action but that's because they already canell both of us before the argument even started they see themselves as better they just want to cancel both of us out but if we have an argument that means that they're right not that not that they the rabbis are right people are constantly looking for ways to justify their sins constantly it is by far one of the most evil things in the world but also one of the most annoying it's an evil trait it's m Satan himself trying to create Wars trying to say yeah but rabbi and such said the opposite of you he said the opposite of you how come he said the opposite of you what what what what do you have to say about that why do I have to say anything about it why do I have to say anything about why do I have to say anything about it you do realize that sometimes there are two different opinions right why do I have to say anything about it but no they want you to say something why so they could advertise it it why they want to advertise it because they want to justify their sins they want to justify their evil something happened recently told you guys you're in for a story this video clip that we made recently about music has been one of my recent trying to explain to people that a musical tune by default is not Kosher or unkosher meaning whether it's a guitar from the Middle East like some of our recent Chua music uh videos or it's one of the different I don't know equipment that they use over there whatever those things are called or it's some DJ at some Club doom doom doom doom all that stuff whatever it is or it's what they use in hip-hop or what they use with violins in a part of an orchestra by default the musical tune is not Kosher or un kosher it's a m it's music you may like it you may dislike itally it's allowed whatever it is the words the behavior the things that are connected to it that will determine if it stays kosher or not meaning if you use whatever music you want something from the Middle East from times of the the uh the Arab uh that a lot of our prayers are used today are from the tunes of Arabs it's not really that's how it was initially but a lot of the tunes we have we pray in Safari shoes and so on come from Arabic songs it's not the prayer itself comes from Arabs it's the tune how we pray it you know Shalom all that stuff that's comes from different tools that came from Arabs so the tune itself was for a different song completely nonsense song but we use the tune we use the music to make it something good there's no problem with that there's no problem with using this tune it's not the words from the Arabs it's not the words of idolatry it's the tune it's the musical notes that by itself there's no way to make there's nothing to say whether you like it or not that's your problem no one cares if you like it or not doesn't make a difference if you like it or not if someone says prayers that go with that tune someone says Praises that goes with that tune whether it's trans or it's a or it's a uh I don't know uh some rap song no problem good for you the reality is that some of the music is more aggressive than others but that doesn't make it not kosher if the words the behavior that goes with it is arrogance is is is a is is cursing swear words of all types insult and things of that nature then even if it's part of an orchestra even if it's a nice tune of Orchestra be you're telling I hope everyone dies I hate everyone if you don't do that guess what you and the music are not CER why cuz n what do you mean doesn't matter that there's a little violin and what it doesn't make a difference the words and the behavior is not culture you start singing tune I am the best you're not kosher you're not Kosher what do you mean you're the best who told you you're all to be arrogant it's not Kosher the music didn't make it kosher or not Kosher it's the words the behavior that's that's it that's what people fail fail to get to their thick skull because that skull is wrapped by their ego so when I try to explain this twice one video that was already made I don't know a year and a half ago we took a clip out of it the original clip and then the explanation last week a couple of people lost their mind and started just behaving like true animals public defacement you know embarrassment all types of good things for me because we need these type of insults it's good for our and to clean the soul but the point being abai is that you see that people's True Colors come out when you dis agree with them when you disagree with them and you stand up for the truth and you realize that many times people that are cheering for you many times people that are saying many times people are saying they like what you're saying they like what you're doing they don't they agree with it they agree with it therefore they like it but the second you say something that they don't agree with everything you've said for three four five six years that has changed and transformed their life everything goes into the garbage as if you've never said it you become Enemy Number One now this is one of the problems that I will always have this is not a problem there's a solution to I spoke to somebody today and I explained to him that one of the reasons why we don't get really rich people to donate to us uh there I think there's a couple of people that have a few dollars but I I I don't I don't think there's any billionaires or even multi-millionaires that donate to us at least not to my knowledge uh and if they do please and me but the point is is that I don't and the reason why is because one of the things that Millionaires and I have a lot of experience with millionaires that they want as a result of Their donation as a result of their business is recognition respect honor an arrangement which means if they're going to donate a million dollars to you half a million 10,000 20,000 a certain amount of money to you they are in essence buying you they're in essence expecting that you from now on when you look at them you see Angels you see no foul you see no harm you see no flaw you praise their name as if they're the greatest thing in the world like for example sometimes you get some of these in the b in the beginning of theim it says all the people that they honor oh this guy's a big tadik he's this he's that in reality sometimes these people are not sikim they just donated some money but the author the poor author that wrote this book needed the money so that was the condition write something nice about this guy that donated 25,000 or 200,000 or whatever he donate that's part of the deal even if you don't know that he's really sadik he's generous at least and the says it's better to have a generous than a uh which is a ignorant person it's better to have a generous ignorant person that's cheap that's how much hem hates cheap people even if they know T he doesn't like them so the point is is that sometimes rich people they want to make donations they want conditions they want you to call them they want you to praise them they want you to see no no wrong in their actions and that means that they want you to change the truth for them now in business and in politics this is done all the time unfortunately in the Torah world it's also done all the time with a people that are fake if you're a faker you could be fake whenever you feel like it if the rash that just donated a million dollars wants you to call him a big sadik in public you'll do it why he paid for he paid to be called sadik a million dollar if you're a faker you'll say yeah yeah he's the biggest sadik he donated a million dollars he's such a righteous person and so on if you're a faker you'll say it I can't do that it's not even a matter of of of of free choice I simply can't you could pay me a billion dollars I can't do it it's one of the things that created me with this I simply can't do it I can't give compliments unless it's deserved it's actually one of the things that was difficult for me in a business world because I would only give you a compliment that you're doing a good job if you actually did a good job not because you felt bad for the day if you are a customer of mine you're a customer you just another guy if you're a donor you're a donor okay I'll say thank you I'll be a appreciative but you're not getting a scent more than you deserve I'm never going to change the truth for you that's a problem with rich people why they want you to that's the point they want to invest a million dollar so you put their name on a building you can give me $10 million I'm not putting your name on the building why should I put your name on the building for what so every single time that people come in they're going to look at your name if I hate you I'll do that if I hate you I'll do that why because that means that all of the merits for your donation will be spent in this world why should I do that to you I want you to deserve the marriage when you get to sh you get to you get something for it not a bunch of people saying you're building was donate who cares You're Building people what people say say matters what hasem says but that's the problem rich people sometimes don't think like this they want the name on the building now they want the call now they want you to tell there right now and that's a problem so when I said what I said the original video and some people that donate a few dollars rejected it I said that music is not it's it's based on uh what the words are and not the tune and I said that Nim black he says the right words he's Praises hem it doesn't matter that his music the beats are hip hop or rap whatever they are the point is his words is behavior is kosher so a few racist people I have to actually make sure that you guys know it has to do with more with race and ego than anything else a few racist people a few people that simply are just haters of everyone including themselves hated this how could it be that he is kosher no way he's this he's that he's what why what do you have to say so not only I didn't change my mind especially when they started making a whole thing sending me a million emails and making comments on Facebook and on YouTube and different places we went even stronger we made a second clip about it to elaborate to the people and give them an opportunity to do chuva and explain to them that they're doing wrong that they're wrong about what they're saying because they're judging based on their ego and their heart we are making decision based on ala based on the sages based on the Torah not based on feelings it's irrelevant whether you like the music or I like the music you don't like it don't listen you like the music of how uh your head sounds against the wall I'll give you the wall smash your head a few times what about record it if you want what do I care what music you like I'm telling you what's allowed what's not allowed people can't get through that they can't get through that that that hump it's like everything has to be according to them so when we went stronger immediately literally within 24 hours I got a couple of messages but also a couple of cancellations of donations so so far this clip is already cost I don't know maybe I don't know few dollars five $10,000 whatever it is so far now if we're a big organization millions of dollars this wouldn't really be a big deal as far as money but it's still not a big deal the reason why is because I know runs the world and it's that's the reason I'm mentioning it again in case they're watching hopefully they can do cha because it doesn't matter how much you donate you could donate a billion dollars the truth will never change you'll never buy me because you're not it's not me I'm telling you what the Torah says for For Heaven's Sake if it was me I wouldn't even talk to you in the first place I'd be on Wall Street I don't need donations I'm a Wall Street guy I'm here simply because I'm telling you what hasem says because I'm saving the time you're not going to read all these books that's what people can't get to their head they think they could you know they donate a few dollars oh I'm canceling my $200 a month I'm canceling my $50 I'm canceling my th cancel you just lost what do I care you're tell you you do you think you're hurting me you I'm crying for you your only hope your only hope was some kir that you contributing to the only thing that was going to get you out of the Gom that you build yourself every single day was to help people do now you stop that that simply shows you how far you are from the truth but this is nothing but ego nothing but ego you cannot be kind to people and have an ego at the same time sometimes you hear stories of such and such rich person donated money to some you know poor couple you know Mr this and Mr that just you know they helped them uh you know fix a car one time so he gave them a free house oh wow he's so kind no he's not kind he's really good at marketing if he was kind no one would know the story there would be a deal with the house what's the deal here's the house and there's an agreement don't tell anyone anything don't tell anyone who bought you this house it's between me and you because I'm doing it because it's me and you but once everybody finds out that this guy or that guy bought the poor people the house all it is is Market marketing marketing his name he looks better better image more people do business with him more people invest with him more people do this with him and that with him guess what that half a million dollar investment he makes it 20 fold 20 fold he makes that's what people say they they used to be a show I remember years years ago when we still watch TV we used to watch these shows with uh something boss I don't know like there was like a the president presid of a company would pretend to be an employee of the company and the people the regular employees wouldn't know that he's really the president or the CEO so he would pretend to be an employee and uh work at different places and you know see what's going on then at the end of the show he would you know tell them oh I'm really the CEO of the company I have a zillion dollars I'm the guy dada and I saw how you work and you get a bonus and you get a vacation and you get this and you get that and you know you would cry it's so nice this poor you know single mom is getting now a new vacation a new house a new this he's so kind so stupid we're so dumb we don't realize that the only purpose of why they're doing their show is not because they care it's fantastic marketing the next day their stock goes up $1 a share that's a100 billion that's $20 billion that's however many shares they have times a dollar okay so he gave a few people I don't know $20,000 they spent a quar million dollar let's say on the show the next day all the stock has to do is move a penny and they make 50 or hundred million a penny ah so kind what kind it's all show it's all a show kindness doesn't come with glamour you want kindness I'll give you a story of kindness and we'll finish with this there's a Amazing Story thato lein said in one of his and I heard it from lein used to live at a in p at a street called Solomon and he lived in the building number eight he said his neighbor for many years was an unknown Rabbi meaning he was a he had a little school but the world till this day doesn't even know who he is people in the community knew who he was but if I tell you his name no one's going to say oh yeah nothing his name was Aron buus of Aron buus lived at number six Solomon so literally a building over from R lein andus was married but didn't have any children but everyone saw m the light on his face he had his Sho he had his he was but relatively unknown outside and the mar sent cim that he had to to build a religious Jewish Community to fight against the Zionist Zionist did everything they could to destroy is much more than the Nazis by the way it's unfortunate truth many people that are Zionist or call themselves Zionist today simply do not know the history of Zionism but we've talked about this in the past so anyway a came to to fight against the zionists but the fight means both sides fight so Baus was one of those people that was there for many many years big you'd see him you see had light on his face certain people you look at them it's like you see The Beautiful People righteous people never never heard a scream from his house never heard any schite problems never heard any issues everybody could say this is now as he got older started losing it a little bit as sometimes happens to people as they get older and once in a while he would say something off like a word would come out didn't make any sense you know he'd say something and something just came as a blab just don't understand what he said it happens as you get older now during his last day his uh nephews were around him and they saw that he's sick and they called atalah atalah came and uh they picked him up from his house and they put him on a bed and they were taking him to the to uh the ambulance he was still conscious but everyone knew there's you know obviously something not not so good here now right before he went into the ambulance there people there the uh nephews are there especially everyone's worried but there's not much you can do but everyone's looking at him paying attention just just to see anything and right before he entered the ambulance he screamed what about the Filipino dancers and died now the nephews these allim this was they wanted to Simply bury themselves in the ground their Uncle the bigad instead of saying sh which is what you're supposed to do before before um going to sh supposed to say supposed to say I'm sorry last minute chba what's this guy doing what about the the the Filipino dancers and the tickets didn't know what to do with thems the whole Shiva the whole Shiva they they're crying but they're confused they don't know what to do how do we do it they want to keep the story a secret it's already embarrassing enough but word got around and one time after a little time passed a big came older came to the nephews and he said to them I heard the story aboutus shalom tell me exactly what happened so the nephews were very embarrassed I don't know what to say how to say it but listen our uncle was a tadik but you know once in a while maybe would say something off but we have no idea how to explain this right before he died his last words his last words what about the Filipino dancers get the tickets what about the Filipino dancers get the tickets what do we do with this that was around for many many years knew he says sit down let me tell you the story he says over 40 years ago over 40 years ago your uncle came here to in those days wasn't like it is today the Zionist had a lot more power and they did everything possible possible to destroy they would spend a fortune just to kill Judaism just exactly like theim maybe a little worse so what they decided to do ah we have a new idea what's an idea we're going to make a huge concert in and bring Filipino dancers and everyone's going to come and fall in love with these Filipino dances and wash them and make all types of sins and when your uncle when buus heard this he couldn't live with himself he immediately called the place and he says how big is this event he said for 5,000 people he says have you sold any tickets no no we haven't put them on sale yet he said okay I'll buy every ticket said what what do you mean you're going to buy every ticket he goes no I need all the tickets I need all of them I have people why I don't want I don't want to lose out I have 5,000 people you have 5,000 seats I got 5,000 I got 5,000 I need 5,000 tickets the ticket guy is like ah sold out sold out finished best thing in the world that's what you hope for sold down one phone call we should have made 10,000 seats B goes to the Bank borrows money that he's never going to have to pay back he simply borrows money to pay for these tickets buys all the tickets takes them to his house the show happens and the Filipino are dancing to themsel no one's there now after the show is finished and this Sak This Disaster out of the way good but you still got a loan of that's hundreds of thousands of dollars how you gonna pay for this you still got to pay for it now it's okay you did a a good deed you still gotta pay for it now where you GNA get this money from your $400 a month that you get from the where you gonna get it from so raus came to a few family members said please please help me out I took on this big mitvah to to to protect from sinning in this concert help me out a little bit maybe they laughed at him his family laughed at him goes what are you doing what are you crazy why' you do that so what what you you you cancel the concert for three hours so for three hours they didn't sin so they'll s on the fourth hour on their own or they'll make another concert what's the point why'd you do that you put yourself in the hole no we're not going to pay for it so not only they didn't help him but they made fun of of him goes to the he goes to the styp he tells him exactly what he did he says I just need to know did I do good or no the stip says not only you did good but you now have 5,000 tickets TOA you take those tickets get with you to you have nothing to worry about so tells the nephews that's what your uncle was seeing was saying why he was already seeing the next World last minute you already see what's going on he was telling sham bring the tickets the 5,000 tickets with the Filipino dancers why that's my entr to that's kindness we try to do the same amen amen [Music] n oh [Music]