HaShem’s Bank Account - Bitachon B’HaShem (7)

[Music] we're back in s Florida We are continuing our series we are in um part seven in our beton series uh the series is getting a lot of really good feedback a lot of people are uh waking up and uh understanding that we have a lot of work to do this uh continuous installment of the series that we're doing will help more and more people get closer to uh which is a uh sometimes can be a littleit a little bit of a painful process similar to how you have to make a diamond when you make a diamond it's not exactly a pretty pretty process my father God bless him uh which the sh will be for his also to Doris Bora to Leana SAR s Lana um uh also and all of I actually had a but I can't find it that's what wants knows my intentions so my father God bless him he um he's been in the diamond business for over 50 years and uh in Israel I remember we were kids he used to have a factory where they would cut diamonds and once in a while he would take us there to show us what he does and I remember when you would have you know like a uh employees on both sides and they would have this uh machines in front of them the spinning uh piece of metal spinning really really fast now take this plier looking very very sophisticated looking P looks like it's from NASA that's really big very very heavy and the whole thing is for it to be strong enough to hold this tiny little diamond and they would simply position the diamond in different directions in order to shape the diamond in a specific way and uh that's for the purpose for for the light that created for it to reflect on the diamond and show the uh the diamond's Beauty now the process of cutting a diamond is a very tedious process it's very difficult uh if you do it the wrong way one wrong move you could actually ruined the whole Diamond a diamond that uh could be worth even a few million dollars could literally lose half its value in a matter of seconds if you simply cut it the wrong way if you simply have one mistake you could ruin the whole thing I know that the um there's a famous Diamond I think it's called the Hope Diamond it's a blue diamond several hundred years ago they found it and uh since originally finding it the uh it's exchanged hands several times many people believe it's a cursed Diamond because most of the uh the people that have had it uh after they took ownership of it uh either lost their lives or you know committed suicide or other really bad things happened to them but anyway this diamond every time somebody knew took over it whether it was a new king or a queen or uh somebody else they always cut it more they always with modernized technology they cut it and shaped it further but each time they're removing a large part of the diamond away one of the owners I remember reading at some point actually cut the diamond in half or in so many words or 2/3 versus a third because uh he said there would be uh you would get more value out of it but the point being is that each time they cut the diamond number one they took a risk number two it wasn't exactly uh if the diamond had feelings it wasn't exactly like the diamond was taking a shower it wasn't a you know Pleasant process what is this like this is like a that's undergoing chuva if you're undergoing chuva if you're doing real chuva it is supposed to hurt it's supposed to hurt if it hurts that means you're going in the right direction if it doesn't hurt if your life is simple and you feel like you have in and you feel like you have in and you feel like you're doing all of the MIT wrong right and you feel like your everything is going perfect something's wrong something is seriously seriously wrong why it's not supposed to be that way it's not supposed to be that way it's not supposed to be a smooth ride why because created each and every single one of us imperfect just like he created man with a imperfect body physically where we have to have a uh Brit on the eth day he also created us imperfect as far as our character traits why now you could explain it in a million different ways but simply speaking it's because he wants you to be a partner in the creation so therefore he said I created you but I want you to feel like you're a partner of the creation because then you'll take responsibility for the creation as if you created it when it's yours you care about a lot more than when it's somebody else's like the story that we said last week when it was somebody else's kid the old woman was saying oh yeah don't worry he'll get over it it's okay when she saw the little kid bleeding everywhere she told the rabbi ah don't worry it's okay he'll get over it he'll get over it he'll grow out of it don't uh stress out but the second she found out that the kid that's bleeding is her grandson she lost her mind why because when it's yours it has a different meaning once it's yours you see it as something that is irreplaceable something that's priceless something that is a uh just uh more valuable than anything else in the world wanted us to understand that same concept and apply that same concept to our life where you understand that you are part of the creation you're are creation but you're also a partner to the creation so for men he gave us the first mitvah of Brit Mila once you do Brit Mila you in essence completed the creation of the physical aspect of it the woman obviously is also a partner in her creation because she carried a baby for nine months so once you understand that you're a partner in his creation you should logically speaking take better care of it the problem is that the is very strong and since he's in charge of manipulating our memory when we let him he helps us forget he helps us forget all the things that we're supposed to remember every single day and if we don't remember these things we can't apply them if we can't apply them we start treating our as if it's abandoned property we start treating our bodies like it's public property this is the reason why you see women walking around half naked in the streets without a care in the world like no woman that's walking around the way that they're walking around today saying oh wow I can't wait to get home I have to get a jacket I have to put something on no she's intentionally walking around in an e- modest way now it was asked how come certain rabbis don't talk about this why is it that we have a epidemic of immodesty in our generation but yet we don't talk about it very often now the epidemic is not just in the secular world because the secular world you can talk about it until you blew in the face most of them are not really sure if God runs the world most of them are not really sure that God said that you have to keep Shabbat most of them are not really sure left or right the epidemic is actually in the religious world most communities that you go to today in America and I'm sure around the world that call themselves Jewish communities I.E religious communities it's becoming harder and harder to tell that it's a Jewish Community needless to say a religious Jewish Community because the women that walk around in these communities look no different than the secular women once in a while you're going to see them wearing a but you're not going to think it's for religious reasons why because she still has no sleeves she wears a she covers her head with a but she's wearing a tank top or she wears a short skirt show short that if you look at it it's it's better you die and don't look at her it's so how come how come we have such an epidemic of IM modesty at this stage that's reminding anyone that knows a little bit about the Holocaust reminding us of what happened 100 years ago or 150 years ago when im modesty hit Germany from the Jewish side to such an extent that for the first time in history gay performances appeared on screen with the producers being Jewish all types of garbage appeared on screen on in theaters all types of immodesty one of the documentaries that I saw it's called hidden Jews of Germany Jews that throughout the Holocaust they weren't caught they were hiding they were running away from the Germans hiding in different uh people's houses and factories they got caught they ran get out now the story of these people is interesting if I guess it's like an action movie he was hiding in this place he was hiding at that place the gapa was chasing him they put posters out pretty much most wanted they were looking for these people hunting them down throughout Germany throughout Berlin but what stands out for me when I watched it is the mindset of these people that they described themselves of what they were doing especially a couple of the guys now much older when this was filmed they were already in their 70s I'm sure now they've either left this world or they're in their 90s hopefully they did chuva before they left this world but nonetheless these people what was on their mind they constantly got out if normal person knows that the Nazis want to kill them what do they do you hide and you don't get out of your hole you hide and you don't get out of the hole but a couple of these guys they tell their story is like yeah I went to the beach I went to the beach but I just wanted to make sure I was I look like everybody else and then they start talking about how now they found non-jewish girls and uh had intimate relationship with them this is what you're doing when the Nazis are trying to kill you this is what's on your mind like you you can act that's how How could somebody that's on Germany's Most Wanted they want to kill him they want to kill them how could you even think about intimacy how could you even think about anything related to that how the problem isai is that when we get so accustomed to the sin we get to a point that we do it so often whether it's wasting seed or marrying non Jews and having intimate relationship with them or it's stealing or it's cursing or it's yelling or it's eating t or any sin in a Tor once you start doing it on a regular basis the yet gives you the understanding that you need this for your survival you need this for your survival even though you don't but he tells you you need it for survival and you forget where you came from you forget what you're running from you forget where you're going to all you can think about is making more sins so now instead of worrying about saving their own lives they're worrying about having sex instead of worrying about maybe trying to help some of their brothers and sisters they're talking about going to the beach and seeing all types of stuff that's against theem so today it's no different nothing's changed in fact it's worse back then you had to go to a a theater to see pornography today you don't need to leave your house in fact it's in your hand this type of garbage could either destroy you or help you it'll destroy you for obvious reasons if you use it it'll help you if every time you stop yourself from doing it every time you see with your peripheral vision your peripheral vision you know the there's a woman on the on the sidewalk that's walking that's immodest or down the street she's immodest you already know it's you know it's coming you can't see the details but you know it's coming if you're smart and you believe in a what do you do you look away you look on the floor you do everything possible and once you pass the obstacle you overcome it she's gone she's out of your vision you don't like turn around you're gone ask hasm for whatever you want ask for whatever you want anything you want ask for ask for for whatever you want why that's how significant it is but if you're going to go look five minutes later on some on the next one you're lucky you're still alive meaning the the actual benefit of watching your eyes as men and even women it's extraordinary because every single time you look at one of these immodest women you look at something imod in generally even as a woman it destroys a little piece of your n and it makes it much more difficult for you to stay holy it makes it much more difficult for you to understand a t that's supposed to make you holy now why is it that many rabbis don't talk about this the sh says how do you get to know a person what does he praise what does he find extraordinary in life who is this hero who is this hero who who does he look up to if he looks up to one of the soccer players or basketball players or or or something like that then I don't know maybe he's like a basketball maybe he's a soccer ball maybe he's going to come back as a g reincarnation as a soer ball so he kick him from here to G that's who he is he's a socer ball that's all he is if that's his hero is a soccer player that's here today gone tomorrow that's him on the other hand if his hero is mosenu and he learns all of mosenu if his her is Raba and he tries to follow all of the things that Raba did to fix himself if his hero is one of the one of the giant rabbis of the generation and he sees how did he become a giant I want to be like him I'm gonna do like him not just say wow he's cool not a superhero like the G have a superhero and they put a poster on the wall don't buy anybody's pictures emulate them first then you could buy pictures that sikim didn't ask you for for didn't have stores selling their pictures if the guy has a store selling his pictures BR over he's not a sadik he's a capitalist now why do you have why do religious people have sikim on their wall because that's our heroes we want to remind ourselves that's what I want to be like not because he is so famous no I want to emulate him by learning this Tah I want to emulate him by following his footsteps sh says if that's your hero then you have a chance of being like him in your own level but you have a chance of being like him on the other hand if your hero is Tony Robbins if your hero is some football player if your hero is a uh the the woman from uh CNBC that keeps stealing people's money I forgot her name if your hero is people that all they do is talk about things that are against the Torah what does it say about you now Shalom simplified it for us he says some people have questions about a big RAB in that generation we're not going to mention the rabbi's name cuz I'm not in the level of any one of these rabbis to mention them by name even even though said something against him you I could say it's not a sin but he was still is not in my it's not my my battle the battle of the Giants is between them not me I'm just mentioning the LI we can learn from it Shalom when they asked him his opinion about a certain R in that generation he was considered one of the but this ra he had uh a very positive opinion about certain so says see you see the said the person who who is he who's his hero if that's his hero that's him he says a somebody that praises the awful things or he gives praise for Wicked people he himself is wicked he himself is desecrating AEM in his name meaning when you go to different people and you talk to them about wasting seed a lot of these so-called rabbis tell you no no I don't think it's a sin I don't think it's a sin yeah but it says in the it's the biggest sin not only says a sin it's the biggest yeah I don't think it's relevant to this generation you should know you don't have to any ask this Rabbi any more questions why he's not a rabbi he has officially removed himself from Rabbi title if you ask a rabbi listen Rabbi we see in a k 90% of the women don't know how to dress Maybe you should say something on Shabbat maybe you say something on Shabbat to the K about modesty you don't have to pinpoint anybody else say she's wicked she no saying anything but there a lecture mention is a says no it's not for me to do don't worry you're okay why he's not a rabbi don't say why does the rabbi not say such and such he's not a rabbi he's a doll he's like you know those those figures that you pull with strings it's all he is so any time you can ask a question why does rabbi such and such not do such and such and such and such has happens to be a rule in a tah you have to rephrase the question why does Joe Smith not rebuke people that's how come he doesn't rebuke oh maybe he forgot it's in but don't say he's a rabbi why a rabbi a real Rabbi in order for him to be a rabbi he has to he has to have he has no he's not a rabbi now how do you show you have you tell people the things they need to hear even though it hurts just like as if you're cutting a diamond you see sometimes once in a while you get new people in the crowd and sometimes they come naked to our hopefully you're only looking at me but I happen to see all of you and sometimes I see some people forgot their clothes at home they just come by themselves what do I do at that point if you pay attention to the words that are coming on out of my mouth what do I do the whole lecture changes plan a was lecture a plan B was when they arrived why that's what we need to hear if somebody thinks this is not a problem they don't they can't be a speaker so you see the lecture is about but we need to answer a very very serious question why do certain rabbis not say the full truth the real reason reason is because they're not rabbis they're simply just like the crowd but they happen to have a a speaking gig that's it don't blame the Torah don't blame hem don't blame the the religion they're just people this is a very important point that each one of us has to fix in our mind why because if you're GNA look at every single guy with a beard and say oh he's a rabbi but he's not doing such and such within two weeks you become a why after two weeks you get sick of it there's so many liars in the world say you know what the heck with it I don't want to if if the rabbi is like this if the rabbi his wife is she's walking more than the rest of the Kayla if that's the rabbi I don't want he's not my hero I don't want to be like this guy and the one that's in the picture is too far from me is too far for me is too far for me so what can I gauge it against I have the rabbi over here that his wife walks around her and the fish have the same outfit and then I have all too far for me I have nothing to gauge I give up so please before you call somebody a rabbi don't look at their business card listen to what they say listen to what they say if they say truth Rabbi they don't say truth another person another person Aila so with that being said we have a series in our hands that's very important in order for us to overcome in order for us to overcome the tun that we have of this generation of many false speakers many disasters that are happening on a daily basis every day there's somebody calls me with horrible news somebody's sick somebody's dying somebody already died just less a week and a half ago two people died in the same day I mean the amount of bad news you don't want to leave the bed that you don't get all this news I mean you never get these news but that's unfortunately one of the downsides of the job you get everybody's bad news good news rarely why because good news they're too busy celebrating people call you like it's 911 why they need help something some of the people that invested into the campaign that we have have already gave us positive responses that their prayers have have been fulfilled so that's worked sh anyone that sponsored sh has usually had very good blessings in their life people that continuously contribute to K their lives have changed drastically and it's improved their life a lot but unfortunately what could I do that most people are either too cheap or too stupid to listen to the advice that we give I'm not really sure people think that this is some moneymaking operation trust me if I if I tell you if I wanted to make it a moneymaking operation I can make it into a money-making operation I used to raise 1020 million a month from clients for business five years we're doing this six years we've doing this I've never asked one person for a dollar and usually when people tell me oh yeah I'm going to contribute I can me what you want no what should I do I don't know it's your business why I don't want to deal with it I don't want to deal with the money aspect of it but one of my students from Montreal tadik he told me last week you know Rabbi I need you to remind me to donate I was looking to myself I have to remind you to donate why do I have to remind the kid to donate why do I have to remind people to donate don't you get it 3 hours you listen to you didn't get the point donate $10 donate $100 donate $10,000 don't you didn't get the point no people don't get the point why yet is very strong and I see that sometimes I have to listen to my student so I took the advice another student of mine from Chicago already a few years she says that uh apparently we've been in her life since her one of her kids was born and influenced her life all the teachings all the things and she says listen I want you to do the the upar it's called in upar is that pronounce it right upar yeah so it's when the the boy is three years old it's a uh it's a it's not it's a Min to not cut the hair for the boy for the first three years similar to how you're not allowed to use the fruit roots of a tree for the first three years so the called upar and the called it's the same thing so she uh says I want you to cut the hair I've done it once for somebody that asked me to do it I don't know why people ask me to do it but anyway I guess you know they have some respect they want to give for the T that we teach we don't complain but anyway she says to me I want to I want you to do it because you've been such a important person in our life and uh I want you to do it now I know this woman is not exactly made of money she doesn't have much money so this trip that she's I'm not going to Chicago she wants to come to Florida or what doesn't make a difference really it's a lot of money there's the plane there's the hotel it's not for one person there's an event it's a lot of money you're talking about at least a few thousand do said I'm already going to start saving I'm going to start saving now because I have I don't know I think another six months or something like that I'm going to start saving I want you to do it so I thought about my student from Montreal and I said you know what maybe I'm going to use this advice using his advice so I said to her you know it's a very nice it's not it's not to to not cut the hair but it's a nice Min if you want to do it go ahead and do it it's not a problem we're doing with our sons it's very very cute I don't necessarily recommend doing what some parents do which is they pretty much give the entire neighborhood you know a piece of hair so the kid is traumatized at the end of the day he doesn't want to ever get another haircut in his life because 87 people he's never seen in his life just cut his hair usually you should pick one person that's it finished that's what you should do but sometimes I've seen people try to have the whole Community take a piece of this uh kid it's not a good thing it's not a good suggestion you traumatize the kid anyway I said to H like listen it's a very nice thing you want to give for the T I appreciate it but truth be told what's really going to come out of it okay so you gave me cavod thank you very much for the C but what is really going to come out of it for you better yet what's going to come out of it for the kid kid's three years old he has some stranger that he sees on the screen every day what's gonna come out of it for him okay so let's say there's a you get good but that's it it ends at that point it ends but if you take those few thousand and instead of spending it to come over here you actually donate to K we take those ,000 we buy CDs with it we send them to India we send them to Chicago we send them to Toronto we send it to Zimbabwe we send it to wherever people have not heard of us yet we send it over there now if we're going to send them three 4,000 CDs surely 800 of them are going to listen to it you know 80% go into garbage they just go on a shelf and collect dust like some people's bookshelves they have the books but they don't actually read them sometimes the CD they have the CD but they never listened to it that's marketing perspective already statistics 80% they don't listen that's fine we know that that's how Flyers work that's why companies spend you know a lot of money to print out thousands and thousands of Flyers not because they think that every single flyer will be used because they already know ahead of time 80 to 90 % are not even going to be looked at that's already part of the investment we know that 80% out of the 4,000 CS garbage not going to be looked at but that still leaves us 20% that still leaves us 800 800 people listen to put play on the musar series put Play On The Wall Street to Western Wall CD one or two 800 people surely you're going to get at least 20 to 50 % start changing their life now let's be conservative because who am I and who is this and who is that one person forget 4,000 forget 800 one person one person does chuva one person out of 4,000 CDs one person does chuva one out of 4,000 CDs one person that's chva every single Mitzvah that person does from here until the end of his life every mitvah his or her spouse does from here until the end of their life every single Mitzvah their children do and their grandchildren do and their great grandchildren do and the great great grandchildren do until mhia comes if this if you're a lucky person you have a a student like that had over 10 kids every single goes to your kids account each one of these mitv is a piece of one mitvah is a piece of one mitvah is a piece OFA one B Chua is 310 worlds Ina he did Chua his wife did Chua the kids are they're grandkids about everybody's doing mitvah now let's do the m here you can give me cavod thank you very much I'm a very big balava anyway so I need cavod every day but the reality is what's in it for you what's in it for you for you nothing nothing you could say RAB by Ru and cut my kid's hair so your kid's going to grow up 20 years old says IM what' you do for my you're gonna be embarrassed to say R by ruven cut my hair why say I could have got you 40 million people to do Chua you understand so this is why sometimes we have to remind ourselves that when we give it's not just about how much you give it's where you give and for what purpose where is the money going what are you doing with it what's the point of spending so much money on having some of these events or some of these things that people do when you look at the actual results of what's GNA what could parti you know potentially materialize out of it you see it's not even half as good as what I just explained okay so you're going to you know sponsor a uh a Kala event okay so 70 100 women are all going to eat kala for three weeks now at best case scenario you get one mitvah for each one one mitvah for each assuming they do a separate for each you got yourself one Mah for each one got times 100 people okay you got yourself let's say five kalas 2500 MIT that's not even a weak in a religious Jew's life so we have to take these things into account because a runs his world like a business because he wants you to run your world your spiritual World also like a business never look for a discount when it comes to spirituality never look for a shortcut never look for things that are easy because if it's hard that means it's a diamond that means it's a diamond but if you're it's easy for you to give to IDF it's easy for you to give to the new donut party it's easy for you to give to build a new gymnasium that's going to make people make more sins it's easy for you to give to build another extension to the scho doesn't teach Tora but has football parties it's easy for you to give you should check yourself there's something seriously wrong there's something seriously wrong with your why is telling you I don't even want your even your I don't want what does it say the only thing that can change you from saving your own life is HEM says I don't want you to save your life I can't wait till you finish why all you do is sin I'm GNA give you the opportunity to to save your life no this is the type of accounting you have to do CU every week I see on Facebook the same five six people each one donates whatever they can they try to recommend everybody else to donate and rarely does anybody ever listen but they should know that what they're doing is that's to the purest form not just what they're giving but also that they're trying to encourage other people to give same thing goes for the fim that took it upon themselves to publicize our campaigns to try to get other people to donate they took the camp campign and they shared it with their friends and they keep sharing it every day or they start a campaign of themselves on behalf of why each person donates a dollar donates a th donates 10,000 whatever it is you now have yourself an investment for a lifetime you have an investment of a lifetime because right now somebody's gonna do you well because of this money and this is I don't like talk about money but this is unfortunately something we have to do once in a while in order to remind ourselves why we're doing what we're doing another person that uh has been giving out a lot of T A lot of our CDs over the last couple of months I think we've given out somewhere in a neighborhood of a couple of hundred key roof packages now anybody that knows that really the C of packages we sell them on the website but nobody actually sells it doesn't actually sell nobody actually buys them everything is giving out for free once in a blue moon somebody sponsors once or two one or two but 99% of them all giving out for for free each one of them even if we sell it we sell it for cost I actually think it's below cost believe it or not because we keep adding more stuff to it so you do the math 200 K package it's already $20,000 it's a lot of money for a small organization if I was a big organization with a billion dollars a month like some other organizations no problem but we're not we give it and say oh wait maybe it's too much maybe we should stop no why stop I told no we can't they said yeah but it's so expensive I said so what's the purpose of our life if we're not going to use the money that gave us to go help his children come back home what's the per purpose of life what's the point how they going to come back home how are they going to come back home this is the type of Outlook that you're supposed to have if you're trying to be a kosher Jew even though sometimes it's very very hard to really mean it logically you're saying I have to give but your heart says yeah but you only have $1,000 left in your account your heart says yeah but somebody else is gonna give your heart says yeah I'll give next month I'll give next month and that's when you know that yet is not only in your life he lives in your house why doesn't come to us to tell us don't do a Mitzvah he doesn't do that he knows you want to do Mitzvah he knows you want to give yes knows you want to give you know you were trying to be aad to you watch three hours who watches three hours today of he knows you're sadik he knows you you want to do good things thank you he knows you want to do something good so he's not gon to tell you no no no don't give don't give yon don't give he doesn't gonna tell you that why he knows he's wasting his time you know what he's gonna tell you giveon give you know what what do you want to give 500 give a th 500 not enough give a th but do it tomorrow do tomorrow don't give it now now it's late 2:00 in the morning sleep on it get some rest tomorrow you're fresh tell your wife honey let's do it together let's go on the internet together donate $1,000 together make it a family thing do it tomorrow y do it tomorrow you know what yet you're right I am kind of tired but since you're we're on the same page I'm GNA give even more tomorrow good night yet thanks man pound you go to sleep guess what guess what happens tomorrow you forgot tomorrow the bills arrive tomorrow you don't have as much fire in you to give tomorrow you're not on you're not burning like you did after the sh tomorrow you don't feel like doing it as much like you know what I'll do it later I'll do it later guess what happens a th000 becomes 500 and he say you know 500 that's a lot I just got the phone bill the phone bill alone 300 let me just give 200 300 to the phone company 200 to K yeah but the other bill and the other bill before you know it maybe there's $5 coming out of your pocket if it comes at all why you're delayed you delayed it's a one that's why gave us a to start our life with to teach us a little bit of foundation about about a that has a connection with this entire series what's the first mitvah that he gives a brand new boy that comes into this life Brit Mila now technically Brit Mila doesn't really make any sense B you think about it what are you g to do you're going to take a kid when he's most vulnerable you can't even speak yet he's eight days old For Heaven's Sake wait till he's 15 he can choose for himself no he's eight days old the poor kid not only that you're going to take a piece of his skin in the most sensitive part of the body cut a finger it's better no no no we take that part okay you're gonna take that but if something happens can't have kids we going have do that okay so at least put him to sleep at least put the kid to sleep I mean some people go to the dentist they say dentist I don't want to feel anything make sure my whole head leg arms feet every my eyes I want them to sleep they're called Sleep Dentistry I actually did it one time in my life I went to sleep they did a bunch of work on my my mouth I was sleeping the whole time didn't work out because I still have to go to dentist this day but anyway I don't want to feel any pain but the baby no anesthesia he's not sleeping he's not nothing what are you doing you're giving a surgery to an eight dayy old kid K without any anesthesia and the most sensitive part of the body and you don't feel even bad about it what do you do you celebrate it why don't you come to my house let's have some music why don't you make some breas honey why don't you have some this some you start feeding and feasting you're spending thousands of dollars is a cameraman to take pictures of it what does this make any sense now even a secular person most secular people today even if some of them are atheist they still get a Brit they still give a Brit to their kids even if they're Lefty liberals most of them still do Brit for their kids even if they believe in gay marriage they still do Brit for their kids why because they understand understand that this is part of tradition why go ask him go ask him why did you do it no it's part of our tradition yeah but you don't follow the tradition you don't follow the tah listen my father did it my father did it so I did it why why did your father because his father did it why why did his father do it because his father did it why did his father do it eventually you're gonna arrive where at Mount sa eventually you're going to arrive at Mount sa mat you're going arrive at the Torah and you say wait a minute why did they do it in the Torah why why did they pick this Mitzvah first and foremost rule of don't try to make sense of everything understand the foundation of all it's not supposed to make sense it's not supposed to make sense don't try to rationalize how hasem is gonna send you the blessing oh yeah I need P so he's probably going to send me the client from Toronto this month because I've been waiting six months he's probably going to send that client oh I need this I need zuk so it's probably going to be hard because we already know each other for 20 years oh I need a this and you R don't rationalize anything why says if it's rational it's not me it's not me you want to connect to me stop trying to rationalize everything and even the things that you rationalize it's not going to help you anyway is one of the ways that a person can learn a little bit about because you have you have confidence that is the one that's running the world and this leads us to the next section of the bet that says the following he says Hashem alone provides for us on page seven Whoever has the book if you don't have the book get it from mik in the back she has a few copies please stop playing with your phones trust me I want to be home also if you don't want to be here we go home you go home and we'll finish the whole shoe but if you want to be here then at least have enough decency to watch the shoe aadya was looking very specially delicious today to to play with him but I had to leave him crying and come here learn CH with you guys if you want next time I'll stay with and you guys can teach yourself hasem alone provides for us he doesn't need our work to be able to provide for us we see this by some the says first and foremost is very simple last week we talked about how much you should work how much you should spend working we have to do we have to have some type of effort effort is a mitvah that's the obligation you have the effort success is none of your business success is none of your business effort is your business we have the obligation of effort we have an obligation to get up every morning and fight like a lion that's the obligation you have you wake up in the morning go serve a you wake up in the morning you go work to make a living wake up in the morning go learn like a monster go learn and seriously seriously look and dig and dig and dig for a new nine hours you're looking for one you didn't find it you try again the next day try again the next day success is none of your business effort is if a person looks at things that way he'll never get discouraged in his life the reason why people get discouraged in life whether it's business or spirituality is because they think that they're supposed to have success because they've exerted effort what the bet is trying to remind us here is that success is none of your business success is simply what a decides but it's also also a very very dangerous issue why this is the line that would separate a righteous Jew from a from a heretic if you say I believe in hem I follow the tah I keep Shabbat My Wife puts on clothes she looks modest she covers her hair everything is I even learn toah once a day twice a day good for you you're on a good path what about how you make a living well you know I wheel and deal I do this I do that okay that's great so goes well really the real secret is the real secret is I know how to buy I know how to buy Goods at a specific time of the year and that's the reason why I'm ahead of the game in reality what I do is I wait for such and such to go out of business and I buy stuff because I know what to buy I know where who to buy from I you my friend took all the Torah that you learn all the that you do all the that you think you have you put it all in the garbage pale sanitation department from Satan came and picked it up put it in A's account finished everything is garbage why you became a c why you C you think you the one one that made the money you think that it's because you know how to buy and you know how to sell and you know which stock to buy and you know which stock to sell and where to get customers and the marketing ideas you think that it's actually the effort that's causing the success that my friend makes you this is a very serious problem that we have why because most people have this problem most people and I'm talking about religious Jews most people believe that they are not only in charge of the effort they're in charge of the success too that's why the BET says hasem alone provides for us meaning yes you're supposed to work hard you're supposed to get up in the morning you're supposed to do really good work but never for a second think think that it's you that's actually making the money you became rich not because you knew where to buy or how to buy or where to sell who to sell none of that matters decided one day you know what I want to be rich again the fact that you made the money off of selling uh Q-tips to hotel chains is irrelevant you could have sold iPods you could have sold old games you could have sold shoes you could have sold stocks it's irrelevant what you did there are plenty of people in the real estate business that have made Millions but there's even more in the real estate business that are looking for Saka they're looking for you do me a favor do me a favor let me a couple thousand to make it this month next month I want to sell property I'll make I'll give it back to you you know how many of those guys they're in the same real estate business he works hard he works hard he's in a business 10 years he's in a business 10 years his father's this his father's that and so on and so forth they both have the same resume he is filthy rich he is broke you know how many Brokers I know in The Brokerage business that couldn't make it through the month same business in a business longer than me some of them even knew more than me couldn't make it through the month your own do me a favor can you let me a few thousand why you didn't make any money this one no nothing whole month you worked for a whole month like the whole month you worked nothing yeah I made $500 how' you do I made 500,000 now there's no way there's that much of a difference between me and you now as egotistical as I can be I know reality it's impossible for one human being to be that different from another person it's impossible impossible it's impossible for me to be that that many times better than you impossible you work 30 days I work 30 days you made 500 I made 500,000 impossible something's wrong here what's wrong wrong is the fact that we thought it's the effort decided 500 here 500,000 here so the BET says AEM alone provides for us he doesn't need our work to be able to provide for us we see this by some King why do we work as we as we talked about last month or last week has us work simply to stay out of trouble if we did not work if we did not occupy ourselves we will be making sins involuntarily non-stop it would get to a point where sin is a reflex you have nothing to do nothing to do nothing to do what you do turn on TV SIN number one nothing to do nothing to do nothing to do change the channels oh look she's half naked let's watch this s number two s number three four 5 6 7 8 9 10 by the time you finish the day you have three four 500 million sins why you did nothing all day except making sense you have to go work you have to do something with your time a lot of people tell me yeah but I don't want to work I want to study Tor okay so study T all day go be an go study 12 hours in a come back eat a little bit and study for the next few hours until you fall asleep that's what does you want to study all day go do it 99% of people don't make it a week in a why it's not easy it's much more difficult to study all day than it is to work building buildings much more difficult what do you think because you're sitting in front of a book it's easy go study for 12 hour you know what how about this let's do this test let's do a test open a nice open I want to see you study for one session of eight hours not even 12 one session eight hours straight no breaks obviously bathroom go to the bathroom but no breaks eight hours straight no phone calls no mommy no Bobby no no nothing eight hours straight no go you know how hard it is how about this without studying don't study eight hours without your cell phone eight hour no studying just eight hours of your life without a cell phone already hey come on don't be already what you just give us the not say already I can't take it8 hours no cell phone people tell me I'm having a hard time keeping Shabbat I said why you drive on Shabbat no no I don't drive on Shabbat I said we work on Shabbat no I don't work on Shabbat what's the matter why can't you keep because I have to play with my phone I have to play with my phone that's the that's so you're going to go to G for playing your phone you're going to go to Gom for eternity because you want to go see what Steve the the the the atheist was doing on Facebook that's why you going to Gom like did you think about this for a second you're actually deciding yourself to put yourself into fire forever because you wanted to check Facebook because you want to go on Twitter and to see what faran says about Jews you want to go see what CNN what new anti-semitic report they have that's what you want to go to Gom for this is do you see do you understand what kind of a laughing stock you're gonna be in sh you you understand what kind of laughing stock you're gonna be it's like yeah this guy is going to Gom only for a week because he was great but there's like a week of sins we have to clean up but he was sadik geden forever this one geden geden geden geden g a little bit of G but okay it's good it's good this guy everyone's looking at each other we don't know what to do this guy I we have to actually we have to actually give like tell everybody what he did yeah we have to it's it's a bad okay well he's going to get on why why is he going to get on shab no but he didn't work he didn't work on Shabbat oh he didn't work on Shabbat no he didn't work on Shabbat but he didn't drive on Shabbat no he didn't drive on Shabbat so why is he going to get him cuz he like to play with his phone on Shabbat he wanted to go to Facebook he wanted to see what CNN reported he wanted to see what IDF is doing he wanted to go play one of those worm games on his phone on Shabbat because he couldn't handle it and he had to play a worm game on Shabbat so we have to put him in Gand for how long AEM forever do you know what kind of a laughing stocki going to be imagine such a sentence that you have to do this you have to get AEM actually has to punish his own son or daughter because you went on your phone on Shabbat I mean do you really hate yourself that much do you hate AEM that much that you're going to force him to do such a thing what happens we get so addicted to our sins we forget their sins so that's what the BET has to remind us always know who is the one that's R running the show always remind yourself that you are in charge of the effort and not the success your effort is known in sh if you really try to keep Shabbat you will succeed if you really try to find a z you will succeed if you try to become a you will succeed not necessary that you will definitely be a successful not necessarily that you'll become a multi-millionaire not even even necessarily that you'll find a z of your of your dreams no you will be considered a success in heaven why you did your job you tried once you try there's a check mark next to your name a check mark next to your name he tried his bestem says success outcome is none of his business outcome is not of her business I decided he succeeded whether you try having kids or not that's up to you whether there going to be kids that's a sham that's also by the way the answer as a side note for the people that asked the question 5,000 times which I've written already about why if we're not allowed to waste seed why are people that already have passed their years and their ability to have children or even if they're young but they don't have the ability to have children why are they still allowed to have children let's say for example some women have cancer in their ovaries they have to remove their ovaries she could be 25 she could be 45 happens but it happens or they have to remove the uterus or a man his seed doesn't work unfortunately because decided it's not going to work so why are they still allowed and it's a mitvah mitvah for them to continue trying having kids continue trying being with their husband being with their wife why because the mitvah is to try not to succeed success is AEM and Sarah never stopped trying even though they knew Sarah could not actually have kids there's no uterus there's a piece of the body missing meaning it's physically impossible for any of the IM all the IM they had did not have an uterus nothing like meaning it's physically impossible it's not like it's unlikely it's impossible like Pinto for years he didn't have kids he went to a doctor years ago I remember when he used to go toim he told the story he says I went to a doctor and a doctor told me you will never have kids it's not a statistical like it's not it's just you're not going to have kids it's impossible for you to have kids I'm a doctor I've been doing this for 20 30 years I checked your health it's not possible for you to have kids P says to him I'm have kids when you come to theit he says if you have kids if you have a kid I'm doing full chuva I'll change my whole life a year later a year later doctor after doctor after doctor said no kids it's impossible for you to have kids says I want you to have kids but I want somebody to do chva at the same time so we're going to wait for somebody to be a superhero Dr Goodman decided to be the winner he did full CH learns to everything why he says after I saw him have kids I knew there has to be a there has to be a why was it was a physical impossibility it's not a miracle like it's just it was not possible there's a body part missing there's something missing for that to have child and then another one how has to be when a person understands I am responsible for effort and not outcome your whole life changes why because then you're never going to be upset if something didn't work out you're never going to be upset if a didn't work out you're never going to be upset if your company fails you're never going to be upset if the money if the bank account didn't uh have as much money as you need why you simply understand that's aem's business did you try hard enough if the answer is no then you have a reason to be upset at who at yourself you didn't try hard enough you failed not Hashem Hashem succeeded so the BET continues and he says after a person did what is his responsibility by working at some occupation he should trust in Hashem that he will provide him with his needs as it says in t 37 verse number five cast on hasem your ways and trust in him and he will provide for you simply trust AEM that's what the is telling you I mean this is as simple as it gets it's much more difficult to do why because we have a lot of junk interfering we have friends we have family we all types of people that are like employees of the telling us no no you can't do it you can't do well you're donating $1,000 a month for what are you insane something wrong with you you make 2,000 you make 3,000 you're going to donate 30% of your money how you going to pay your bills how what hasm gonna send you extra money are you crazy are you sick are come on this Rabbi is as this this Rabbi is that he's they're going to tell you all types of stuff like this why because they have a problem what's the problem you're doing something they can't so you are reminding them of their own failure or they're going to tell you listen what are you learning two three hours a day when you have time to make a living when you have time to play with your kids when you have time to hang out with your wife your wife's going to leave you your kids are going to leave you the neighbors are going to leave the landlord is even going to leave you everybody's going to leave you why you're learning all day you're learning all night what it's time for people come on modernize yourself watch a sh for an hour you finish I'll send you I'll send you the K I'll give you K why he said the sh in three hours I'll give you the whole summary in five minutes go work go make money you need a bigger house look you're a growing family you need a bigger house you need a bigger car you need a bigger this and a biger that yet has a lot of employees why he needs them he needs them to go do his work says if you are simple simple in your will you simply understand I have one responsibility my responsibility is to serve Hashem that's it my responsibility is to do my job he said study I'm studying he said give I give he said uh do something I'm do do I'm going to do he said pay attention I pay attention he said watch your eyes I whatever said it's in my power to do it I'm doing it if he said it of course it's in my power to do it a loving father is not going to tell you to go uh lift the car off top of your head if he knows that you can't do it everybody knows that if he tells you to go lift the car on top of your head either it's because you can do it or because he hates you loves you if he hated you trust me you wouldn't be here soav says is a simple solution to all your problems do what you're supposed to and believe that hm is going to give you success that's it what's success success is what you want no success is that you're going to at least feel fulfilled that you've done your job success is not necessarily that you're going to attain what you hope to attain success is that you are going to feel fulfilled that you've done something you've done your best you left everything on the field this was one of the things that I remember as a kid I was an athlete and one of the things that the coach used to tell us all all the time leave everything on the field meaning all week you practice all week you run Non-Stop and you lift weights and you do this and you do that and you sweat in the heat but in that case it was outside here it's inside you do all these different things to put it you know to so game day arrives on Sunday you win but the reality everybody knows is at least a 50% chance you're not going to win but what does a good coach tell his students he says listen put it all in a field meaning try your best that's all you can ask from a person you can't ask for a person to do something above his best you can't ask a person to do something Supernatural do your best if you do your best everybody will be happy with you especially you but if you don't do your best not only is everybody going to have something to say about you worse yet you are never going to forgive yourself because you know deep down inside you could have tried better you could have done more you could have pushed yourself a little harder stand up for an extra five minutes give an extra smile when you give the guy some money but the Satan tries to make sure that we worry about the big details and not the small ones and that's how he catches us you do the big mitvah but you forget about the little ones so yeah yeah what the homeless guy or the poor guy came to the Beet and you gave him a few dollars but you didn't get a Mitzvah in fact you could have gotten a sin for it why that's how you gave it to go go go go that's how the people give guy comes to the big nesset collects the money the poor guy is so embarrassed already to collect but what is he going to do he has no he has no skill set he has no ability to make money he comes to collect a few dollars from poor people from other people he's poor and people some people don't give him some people give him an embarrassment instead but the worst of all is the guy that gives a look with the money hey hey go go go don't give it's better you don't give it's better you don't give if that's the way you're gonna look at him why you're destroying the person why can't you smile at him why can't you say better times are ahead why can't you give him some hope that better times are ahead Shalom people followed him all the time for questions for answers for so on in a very very tight schedule as is obvious he was on a way to an appointment and right before he arrived at the car a poor person showed up to him and says and he gets the rabbi's attention and he starts talking to him about his problems and the driver which is one of the students of mosha Feinstein he's trying to like hurry up the guy I mean the rabbi doesn't have 10 minutes to spend with just anybody go no sure like he's trying to wait wait patiently doesn't want to say anything but he sees that the rabbi is talking to this guy and talking to this guy and listening to him and listening to him he thought maybe the rabbi is not comfortable to say to tell this guy to shoe away she said okay okay the rabbi to go Rabbi said he's talking the driver just sat there just waiting for the whole thing 10 minutes nobody even sometimes wouldn't get 10 minutes from 10 minutes he sit down he's talking to this guy outside after 10 minutes the says to him okay I now have to go I really appreciate your time says to him I appreciate your time thank you very much we'll see each other soon the guy is so happy Feinstein said Thank you to me for my time meet his day now after he goes in the car his student feels bad for what he did but at the same token he wants to learn a student wants to learn wants to learn that's is means you want to be you have to be a first you have to be a student first she says teach me there are some people that are really like serious Scholars you can't spend 10 minutes with them but this guy that's uh homeless you spend 10 minutes with him he says my obligation of for him wasn't to give him the the the $1 that I gave him or $2 that I gave him my obligation was to give him my time why because that's what he needed he needed to feel valuable the $2 are not what he was looking for he wanted to feel valuable now him and his that he had he knew who what when and how but the point is is from there we learn how important it is to give somebody a smile when you give him don't make them feel bad for asking don't wait for them to ask have the initiative make the initiative don't ask oh do you need anything don't ask people do you need anything if you want to do something do it why it's very embarrassing for somebody to say yeah I need something in fact it's they rather say no I don't need anything then to say yes I need something why it's already embarrassing that I need it you now want me to admit it too it's not enough that I'm already in need you want me to admit what you want to beg like a dog but that's the problem people have so much GA sometimes they're only going to give if you ask oh he didn't ask so he must not need if he needs he knows where to get it if he needs just call me whenever you need something call me Rabbi whenever you need something I'm right here guess what you're never going to get the call and if you got the call it's not from a rabbi a businessman why it's embarrassing people wait for people to say I need it's horrible it's a horrible Mida the leaders of of is in the Tora it talks about how they were punished they were punished some of them were punished because they waited to see how much everybody else gives when it was the T when everybody was gather Gathering the money to build the BET mdash of the desert the mishan they waited until the end they say oh listen whatever is missing we'll fillm says whatever is missing will fill we think I need you whatever is missing will fill I don't need you at all they were rebuked why you're supposed to give because your heart wants to give not because they need this is a very very important thing to remember constantly also in our day-to-day life I love you again Shalom says is a wicked wife what's a wicked wife what's a bad wife a bad wife is a wife that makes tea only after you ask she makes you dinner only after you ask honey I'm hungry okay I'll make you something to eat he say that's a bad wife terrible wife maybe you don't have gay on because of this wife that's what says gar says you have a bad wife you have no Gom why because you live in Gom every day A bad wife is a wife you have to ask her to make you tea you have to ask her to make you dinner that's a bad wife a bad husband you know what a bad husband is a bad husband waits for Mother's Day waits for a birthday waits for anniversary to buy his wife a present that's a bad husband that's a husband you could put in a garbage pill what I have to be at my anniversary in order to get a present for my husband that I give my whole life to after like you have to wait the whole year to get a present because it happens to be the day I was born that's why you're going to give me a you're not going to give me a present because you love me you're not going to give me a present because you adore me you're not going to give present because you respect me you're not going to give me present because of gratitude that I'm raising your kids you're not going to give me present because I tolerate you that no but because I was born on this day that's what you're going to give me a present for take the husband put him in a garbage pill that's a bad husband you probably don't have get home with a husband like that a husband that waits for anniversaries for for birthdays in order to buy his wife presents in order to buy his wife flowers it's a garbage husband a good husband a good wife does what they're supposed to do gives because they want to give whenever they want to give whenever they have an opportunity to give she makes tea because she thinks why wouldn't he want tea she makes dinner because she realized he must be hungry if I were him I would be hungry he worked really hard today he must be hungry Still Human After All he didn't become yet he has to eat he has to have tea he has to do I have to do why because he must need it he must want it maybe he's too shy to ask even though we're married for 20 years maybe he's too uncomfortable maybe he's too busy maybe he forgot he didn't eat whatever the case is I need to remind him I need to do something I need to do it I don't have to ask him do you want tea I don't have to ask him do you want to eat I'm just going to make it I'm going put in front of him if he eats good if not at least he knows it's available to him a good husband hband buys his wife something every time he thinks about her every time he has an opportunity he went to a store he wanted to buy himself on a little uh Sneakers bar or something but he says oh you know what there's a nice little flower over here my wife's gonna like this flower it's a $150 the flower it's a $150 for the Snickers bar you know what I only have $150 on me the flow is much more valuable than the Snickers bar I'll buy her the flow and then next time I'll buy the other Snickers bar why I could live without the Snickers bar but I can't live without my wife a good husband is going to constantly think how can I make my wife happy she has to tolerate me that's already enough for her to go to GH just to tolerate me she has to tolerate the kids they don't want to go to sleep they want to go to sleep they want to sleep and not sleep at the same time they want to play they want to jump they're climbing off the ceiling they're hitting each other they're doing all types of things she takes care of them all day she carried them on top of it for nine months she has to feed them she has to Bath them she has to clean she does all this that already deserves a present every single day but yeah you have these husband and say what it cost you $200 for a cleaning lady go get a job and find pay for this cleaning lady that's a husband you put in the garbage pill you don't need a husband somebody like that better off never get married that's an evil husband unless you want to just go straight to G no G then then then it's worth it to go with a husband like that what's the point the point is if we apply these things in our day-today life we could become better people not just better a better servant of but also better quality human being if you're going to constantly wait for other people to ask you for stuff and never take the initiative then you might as well be a vending machine press a button Coca-Cola comes out press a button money comes out ATM machine press a button you know some something comes out might as well be a vending machine maybe AEM should have created your a vending machine instead but if you're going to start thinking for yourself what could I do to improve the world around me how could I help the people around me you work for a company for example don't wait for your boss to give you something to do if he's already giving you a salary and you happen to have a job that perhaps doesn't have a full-time schedule schedule meaning that sometimes you have a job to do sometimes you sit there collecting dust don't be one of those losers that collects dust bring something go to that table why the company's paying you for your time they're not paying you to sit there they're paying you for something they're paying you to do work do something take the initiative anything else I can do anything else I can improve anything else I could do to bring more money to this company more good to this company more customers to this company yeah but you're the clerk yeah I'm a clerk but I I happen not to have anything to do right now as a clerk is there anything else I could do for now for this next hour until my next appointment until the next thing happens be one of those people be a doer that's how you can become a leader that's how you can become somebody useful to society but if you're one of those people that's only going to do once people ask you you're never going to make it not in this world or the next because simply what you've turned yourself into is simply a vending machine so the BET says if you want to succeed in life first rule know that it's the onuses on you to do success is in the hands of a you have to do take the initiative do something learn something say something think of something do something For Heaven's Sake you have 200 300 pounds of Flesh do something with it For Heaven's Sake instead of just sit there like lard do something do something even the cow once in a while gets up and eats something do something stop sitting at home and do nothing all day sleep half the day stop it do something read a book teach somebody go make something do something you know how many people people I know they tell oh yeah I watch nine of your shim a day how can you possibly watch nine shim a day what do you do you do nothing else with your there has to be something else either you're training to become a rabbi or you're secretly mosu I mean how could you watch so many sh like don't you have anything else to do I mean listen thank you very much for watching my sh but you have to have something else to you must have some kids you must have a wife you must have a husband you must even have a dog or something to walk what does he walk himself do something please people have have become addicted to their own laziness and then they blame hem for all their problems they get they blame hasem for not getting a promotion in their company no they're not promoting you because you're a loser you do nothing all day just wait for the paycheck for the paycheck you're always early but as soon as 5:00's on you're already out the door I hate employees like that by the way I'm telling you as an owner of a company we had lots of money lots of this lots of a lot of things anytime I felt like firing somebody first on the line is the guy that's always leaves on time comes on time I like him leaves on time first guy to be fired why I hate people like that why do I hate people that leave on time why does every company hate people that leave on time why because that means that the whole day you're looking at the clock the whole day you can't wait to leave who wants somebody like that I want somebody that wants to be here I want somebody that's excited to be at this place not that's look oh it's 5 o' boss I go down I go every day five o'clock I go I go know what do me a favor go don't come back go fulfill I'll fulfill your I'll fulfill your dreams go and no you don't want to be here anyway go and don't come back please don't come back do me do both a favor I I'll give you $5,000 just don't come back you don't want to be here don't be here it's the worst type of employees a person always leaves on time I remember one time I was going through a lot of struggles somebody suggested I should go to a psychiatrist psychiatrist so I said okay I tried every doctor Under the Sun so at least let me fulfill my obligation go to a psychiatrist I saw this in the movies and shows all the time that these shows you sit on the bed you tell the guy your life story it sounded like fun I said okay I'll go to the psychiatrist so I went to a psychiatrist I made an appointment somebody made an appointment for me I went to the doctor or whatever he is and I see there's a chair over there and uh I just sit there and lay down I sat there so he starts so I like all so what's on your mind said nothing well why you here no I figured I have some this that and I start So eventually I start talking I figured okay so I guess I have to talk so I start talking I have this I have a lawsuit I have a problem I have problem I have a pain all types of things that's going on and I see as I'm talking I see the guy keeps looking at the clock the guy's looking at the clock the guy's looking at the clock and as soon as I start seeing him looking at the clock I'm like he doesn't want to be here I don't want to be here why are we here and I'm thinking I'm just like okay so automatically 90% of what I wanted to say I'm not that's not coming out so I'm just trying to like at least make my wife happy she say she sent me here so I'm going to make her happy say maybe this guy's going to help you maybe so I said okay let me just fulfill this 45 minutes I'm here I'm telling you 45 minutes on the dot 44 minutes I think it was like time's up so uh we'll see you next week I said no you're not going to see me next week but thanks you don't want to be here I don't want to be here either tells us the same thing you're to come to my sh the whole time you're looking forward for the prayer to finish the whole time you're waiting for the sh to finish oh when's it gonna finish already why it's two hours already it's two hours already when is he gonna finish a sh wow this Rabbi is really going long now he wants to me die again a man SM I go the you know what next week I'm going to the uh one of the other places he goes fast he goes fast he goes faster he goes faster he prays faster I'm going to go to the Speedy Gonzalez sh Incorporated guess what says you know what you want to go fast don't come at all you want to pray fast don't pray you want the sh to finish Fast don't come now you still you still press on coming guess what you're going to fall sleep within two seconds guess what you're going to sit at the sh for two hours not understand one word guess what you're going to listen to the whole sh forget everything tomorrow the whole tomorrow you're still the same B you were the day before nothing changes Hashem says oh you prayed really fast was it good for you good at least you you you enjoyed it great okay what none of your prayers are being welcomed here why you want to go fast so I rejected it fast the BET says that if you're already going to do understand that your job is to do then take your job seriously do the do seriously you're going to already do it and you understand that you're not in charge of success so at least since you know now you have no you have no responsibility when it comes to success success is in the hands of hem so now your only job became two onefold you thought it was twofold you thought you were supposed to do and succeed we already now discovered success is not in your hands your success is achieving the doing properly if you do your a properly you are a success if you give staka properly you are a success no matter how much you gave if you pray properly you are success no matter which prayer it is whether it's if it's a uh or anything if you pray properly success you try to have kids success you try to have schom success but if you just Walt in and expect everything to work automatically just because you've appeared then you've already failed at the only job that you have therefore we first we find instances of great sadik who were in a situation in which it was not possible for them to work and provide for themselves and to miraculous ways hem provided for them wheni was in hiding from the wicked King a the Ravens brought him food continuously when shim and his son elel were hiding in a cave a carob tree miraculously grew at the entrance to supply them with food now there's a very interesting we could learn from the story of page 33b says the whole story of what happened with that I wanted to delve into a piece of it with you for anyone who hasn't heard the story I'll summarize it because it's a relatively detailed story that we could learn just the story by itself probably five I was looking at it again today I saw there so much you could learn from the story you can make a whole series just about this one story it says that rud and RI three t three three students of R were there and having a conversation and next to them overhearing was Yim yudah benim was uh a convert that's why he's called yudah benim yud son of converts was sitting next to them over here in the conversation and says overseeing the beauty of the place he says look how beautiful the buildings are the bath houses are the markets is these Romans they really uh did a good job even though they're ruling over is still they built some nice stuff that we could benefit from didn't say anything even though he saw wasn't exactly that's not a normal comment but okay quiet Rish shim was fire wait wait you're looking at it the wrong way you're thinking they did this to benefit you no they build the market so they can make money off of you they build a market fors they build the bath houses so they could have all their prostitutes there and all the prostitution over there all the harlots all the garbage over there they build the all these different things in order to collect taxes in order to make money in order to uh benefit from it doing lustrous things everything they did they did for their own desires Nothing is for you now yud the convert was impressed by this conversation and he went and told his family about it as you would know it if you ever want a secret to stay secret don't tell anybody as soon as you tell one person you officially have ruined the secret why because it's only a matter of time before that somebody will tell somebody else and that somebody else will tell somebody else and that somebody else will tell exactly the person you don't want to know that's why one time had a big message to publicize right before Yip how could you Ma how could you publicize this whole message to everybody he says oh my wife has two friends invite her over he tells his wife do invite me invite over your two friends invite them over you want my friends to come over yeah yeah invite them over and he knew these two friends were n we called in Hebrew NASA meaning they're like uh uh they like to yentes like they like to talk a lot there's another word you probably don't understand uh so they like to talk they like chitchat telling everybody everything everybody's business so he was a man with a plan he invited these two women over and he comes over to them as if he has a secret he says to them listen it's a really big issue I can't tell anybody but because you're dear friends of my wife I'm going to tell you but you have to promise me don't don't tell anybody oh of course Abu we're not going to tell anybody we're going to tell somebody of if you're going to trust us already to keep a secret you know us of course we can't we keep a secret he tells them he says says in the within an hour the entire city knew that was his plan obviously but the point is that this is how people are you want a secret keep it to yourself don't tell anybody so they're having a conversation thinking that this this convert is actually has a brain he's not going to go spread their information but unfortunately they found a guy that doesn't have a brain he said it to one person another person another person eventually he gets to the Caesar Caesar finds out about this and he says okay rabud that admired and complemented the Roman Empire from now on does Allah La anywhere he goes anywhere he's in any any uh Sho he's in any building he's in is a law he has to be the first speaker r that didn't defend the Roman Empire Exile get out of the CL we're not going to kill you but Exile shim bounty on his head first one to kills him gets the money so the story goes is that Rish shimai fleed with his son and I'm skipping some details just to save time and he gets to the cave and in the cave they're there for 13 years 12 years they're there then they come out but they've reached such a high level of Holiness that when they come out they start seeing people that are relatively religious but are still spending time dealing with this world so theim said wait this guy is dealing even working like he's not learning all the time he's even wasting time working theim created a fire created a fire started burning the guy a Shabbat call came from sh says what you come here to destroy my world go back in the cave you and your son so now throughout this 13 years Shimon and his son are eating carobs for breakfast lunch and dinner and they only have one outfit now since they want to honor Y and Shabbat they cannot wear this outfit why because in a matter of time it'll start creating holes and it doesn't look like a nice outfit anymore doesn't look like a nice suit so what do they do the whole week they dug themselves a hole in the ground they jump into they take off their clothes they jump into the hole they cover themselves and the whole day they're learning T in the CU you can't learn to with your naked so they cover themselves with the sand and they're learning T and the clothes they only put it on once a week in honor of Shabbat so after you're in sand sand is by the way how you make glass which is fascinating by the way if anybody ever seen it it's really really beautiful how turns sand into glass it's unbelievable goes into another story it's nice to see uh things how they're made it's really really fascinating how really everything he did it's unbelievable now and he gave man the to understand that this sand that's on the beach could turn into glass something that's clear I mean it's unbelievable that somebody would even think of this but glass has already been around for many many centuries so anyway R shim and his son are in a sand pile every single day if you have sand on you constantly eventually it doesn't feel so good good so after 13 years when they finally leave they come back home and says the eventually some say was the father-in-law some say he's the son-in-law I understand that it's the father-in-law of Rish Shimon meaning the uh heard that Rish Shimon came out from hiding the reason by the way why it's on one end it seems like it's that or the other son-in-law father-in-law is because technically was actually the uh father-in-law on one end because that was the husband of buya oh no brya was R's wife anyway let's continue so heard that R Shimon is out and he went out to greet him and he escorted him to the bath house and after Rish shim took off his clothes you know he was massaging him to make him feel better and he saw that his whole body was full of not scars full of mamash lines and lines like indentations into like almost as if there's like literal like he was whipped his whole body has these huge marks holes in his body made from the sand and he saw that his body so damaged that he made him cry and his tears fell into the wound and since your tears have a little salt in them shim ah it's already hurts enough the tears on so says at that moment says oily wo unto me that I see you like this wo un to me that I see the the biggest Rabbi in the world like this rimon says to him woe unto you if you didn't see me like this you're praiseworthy that you see me like this so now let's see both of their arguments on one end is right he's right he says W unto me that I see you like this why is he right because he knows that anytime you see anybody else suffering anytime you hear about an earthquake and somewhere in the world in India you heard there's an earthquake 5,000 people died or you hear that there was a war in some country or you hear that there's some type of damage somewhere or somebody some the closer it is to you the more it's connect connected to you if somebody you know died somebody you know is sick somebody you know something happened to them guess what part of the message is to you yes he's the one that got hurt yes he's the one that lost yes he's the one that such and such happened to but you still know him if you had enough Merit it wouldn't even happen to him why because everything in sh is it's measure for measure says if he deserves to get hurt he deserves to get punished I punish him but only after I review everyone else that could potentially be hurt by it if everyone else also deserves it then he gets hurt but if there's he knows a thousand people and one person is a tadik and that person doesn't deserve it in fact he deserves reward he deserves good and when he hears that his dear friend from high school his dear friend from Yesa his dear friend from the three companies ago got hurt he's gonna feel bad about it that's not that's not measure for measure I'm not gonna hurt him I'm not gonna punish him not because of him he deserves it but the guy that he hasn't talked to in five years he doesn't deserve it meaning if you had enough Merit you wouldn't see the bad stuff that you see but if you see bad stuff that actually means there's a problem with you too so says who unto me that I see you like this not just because it pains me to see you in pain but it's also I know that a is talking to me and telling me Oh I deserve this I deserve to see you in pain what have I done W on to me because I don't know what I've done because if I if I would have known I would have done Chua already I would have fixed it but then says a different concept he says no you're praiseworthy that you see it you're praiseworthy that you see it why because you're only looking at it from the negative aspect you're looking at it from the negative aspect you see me in pain you're see me suffering and you're thinking oh you deserve bad because you did bad and so on no no no what you're not seeing is that sometimes the only way that a can show you the beauty of the diamond is after you cut it a few times the only reason why made all of that happened is that I could go learn the Torah that I learned in the cave for 13 years praiseworthy are you that you see me like this because now I possess a Torah than nobody else in the world has and you're the first one to see it yes you could look at it in a bad way but it's also good too so this is just one facet one facet of the story that we can learn from the is coming soon we're very very close to it we're less than two weeks away is also accepted as the we'll learn a little bit more about him from then until now from now until then but I want to give us something to take home it's going to take a few minutes but to put everything in perspective for everybody that showed up a little late for everybody that's here from the beginning what can we take home from this entire thing explains that in reality the difference between the heretic and the righteous is two points what are these points if you have these two things on the top of your mind at all time you could be righteous if you don't it's impossible for you to be righteous you could do you keep Shabbat you could keep modesty you could keep K you keep a lot of things you could do MIT but as far as righteousness not possible what are these two points first point what's beyond this life what happens after you die if you have this on top of your mind at all times you already have half the battle if you don't you've already lost second point is what's the purpose of this life what's after this life and what's the purpose of this life these are the two simple points now why is this so important if a person person does not think about what's after this life he doesn't think about he doesn't think about reward and Punishment then he's going to act accordingly he'll steal when he feels like stealing he'll cheat when he feels like cheating why because he doesn't believe that anyone is actually accounting for any of his actions he'll simply act according to whatever he defines as good if today good is being honest he'll do that if tomorrow tomorrow dishonest works better he'll be dishonest if today he'll be loyal that feels good to him he'll be loyal today if three months from now after she gained a few pounds because she's pregnant loyalty doesn't feel so good to him he'll be not loyal anymore if he feels like being nice to her is going to be good for him he'll be nice to her if he feels like you know what I'll be nice to her as long as she doesn't get on my nerves then then he'll won't be nice to her at that point meaning he his definition of good is not going to be determined by what happens as an outcome after this life but rather What's Happening Now what he decides is good now a person like that cannot be honest cannot be good over a long period of time it's everything that he does is temporary and since his good is constantly a variable is constantly something that changes it is impossible for such a person to be a decent human being let alone righteous whereas a person that's constantly thinking about wait a minute there's GED there's G okay so if I steal that's definitely not ganeden that's not heaven okay so why should I steal them if I cheat wait a minute cheating I don't remember any righteous sikim saying if you want to go to heaven go steal cheat never heard of that not even the uh reform say such a thing okay so therefore I can't do it he starts doing calculations not based on what feels good but rather what makes sense in the end what will lead to a good outcome in the end a person like that already has half the battle W but why do you need the second part why do you need what's the purpose of life because what's the purpose of life the daytoday understanding of what's the purpose of life will help you overcome the struggle the day-to-day struggle when you have a big test and it's hard for you to rationalize what's going to be in the end it's hard for you to relate to it's hard for you to relate to Heaven it's hard for you to relate to Gom it's hard for you to relate to something that's so far away understanding that there's a purpose to this life will give you a different perspective of everything that you do every day meaning that if now you understand that every time you suffer in this world it's helping you Rectify certain sins that you've made in this world so you don't have to suffer much longer and much worse later on already your suffering now has a different value without it suffering is just torture you feel like you're just a victim all the time whereas if somebody told you listen carry this huge sack 300 lb up the mountain that doesn't sound like a fun and you don't really want to do it but if you feel like you have to you go do it but if three quarters up the up the mountain they call you say Hey listen by the way your payment is the sack if you get up to the mountain your payment is a sack you're like oh great sack it's 300 pound sack I don't care I don't care about the sack you just me I just hate you right now I'm thinking about all the curse words I can think of that you made me carry this 300 lb sack up the mountain it's like oh by the way the sack is full of diamonds always like oh why don't you call earlier dinging you start dancing up the mountain like go give me another sack you want more why because now you understand the value of it that's the value of suffering in this world value of suffering in this world when you understand that it has a huge amount of value that it's either here or it's there Everything Changes what is this like is a wellknown in the world and he said this story and he says that a businessman came to his Rabbi came to him actually he says to him I don't understand God I don't understand him he like oh of course you don't understand he goes no no but listen to me I don't understand what's going on here maybe you understand I don't understand it I keep tah I do I learn and I do everything you totally said I do it no what's the problem was listen I had a last month had a flight from London to the US I live in London go to the US only a two-day trip business trip two days over there come back finish do the deal done I get on a plane I go to the US I land within literally an hour or two I get a heart attack I'm in a hospital hospital surgery thank God saved my life is good I'm appreciative I'm in the hospital for a week everything is good but now since I don't have insurance in America I have a $30,000 bill for being in a hospital for a week now I understand that a says I deserve a heart attack I'm not questioning that I understand I deserve a heart attack I did something for sure it's definitely some sin I made in the past I understand it's better here than over there that part I understand what I don't understand is why could speed up the process six hours why couldn't he give it to me in London why I have to go all the way to America to have a heart attack and now I'm in the hole for $30,000 says look at this look at this ungrateful son of a who does not see the that gave him he says you say yourself that you understand that you deserve the heart attack he says yes you deserve it yes I don't know why but I know I deserve it if I got it I deserve it that's says says anything that happens to a person even if it's a fingernail a fingernail falls off fingernail gets hurt anything he deserves it for sure it's actually in last week's parasa last week's parasa at the end of the parasa I don't know if you guys paid attention end of the par it says their blood is upon them the anytime a person something happens to them if they decide to be a idol worshipper if they decide to be a thief if they decide to do something they don't do CH and Punishment comes to them the meaning they brought this upon themselves so you understand that he says I understand it he says here's the problem you try to rationalize God and you figure maybe he could give it to you earlier you don't understand the part the kindness that he gave you oh he saved my life he goes no no not that part the fact that he gave it to in America you don't understand I don't understand that let me explain it to you we can't understand AEM but I can give you a facet of what it could be obviously we both agree that you deserve a heart attack sure what you're forgetting is that you also in sh who says it's not the heart attack p that you deserve you deserve to lose $30,000 on your health you deserve it he says I agree he says here's the problem what you're forgetting is if he would have done it six hours earlier it would have happened in London he say yeah it's better no why in London you have insurance in London you have insurance so your insurance would have covered 29,000 out of the 30,000 you have a ,000 deductible right because yeah it's a good policy United Health is the problem you still owe 29,000 so what does a k have to do he says okay he has Insurance uh bad for him not good for him why he still owes 29,000 in Sham in heaven decree against him $30,000 to waste on health so what happens the heart attack now has to have a complication the heart attack has to have a complication you have to come back for a second surgery but you still have insurance you still that's $2,000 now and then the complication hurts the liver second surgery it's another 5,000 what you cover so far 7,000 then you have to have another surgery they give you the medicine but the medicine has a bad reaction $500 and now a four five six seveny year nightmare to cover this $30,000 Hashem says let's just get it over with Let me give it to him one shot because I love him spend the $330,000 once and he doesn't have to suffer for the next five years but instead of saying thank you to look at this look at this rude person complaining to me why did you do this and why did you do that you see if a person simply looks at the big picture without looking at the details then he's already fell pray to the Satan that's what the Satan wants us to do the Satan wants us to get the big picture but not the small details and that's one of the biggest problem problems that people have today even after they do chuv even after they're religious even after they get the basic concept of Judaism and Tor is that they don't get the small details they simply think that a manages the big picture but not the small details so that's what causes them to fail altogether they think that yeah he gave them the job but as far as the customers the money the ideas I have to do he gave him this but he has to do other things and they constantly try to wheel and deal because they're trying to figure out how they could bring more to the table instead of Simply relying on Hashem but when a person relies on a Kos in every aspect of his life then he not only gets TOA and heaven and benefits eternity but he also lives Heaven here to to finalize everything I'll give you a story to take home about Shalom at 24 years old he went to the doctor and the doctor told him and the people that was in there in there in the room with him that his heart is so weak maximum he gives him two months to live and they said uh doc why only two months he says because his heart is so weak that as soon as somebody upsets him his heart's not going to be able to handle it so of course I'm assuming that even if everybody's careful and everybody is is conscious of it something's going to annoy him at some point somebody's not going to pay on time somebody's not going to come on time somebody's going to yell something's going to H within a couple of months Max somebody's gonna have to upset him and at that point you already say Kish well as a who would have it years passed by the doctor died the nurse died the other nurse died some of the people in the room died everybody died except the rash he got to 100 years old he got past 100 years old no one really knows how old he was some say he was 105 some say he was 110 some say he was more like uh after 100 they stopped counting says that was 100 years old for at least 20 years said for for at least he says my whole life for 20 years he was 100 years old at least 100 years old for at least 20 years after 100 everybody start stops counting so they asked yes how'd you do it like what's what's you what's the secret he says all the things in the world I simply understood what wants for me all the things in the world the difficulty this this this all the things that people deal with I let it only get to my button meaning I never let it enter people mistreated in such awful ways it's embarrassing to even repeat it because the people that did it were Jews people would write post the posters all over B with the signature of but the opposite of what he said on purpose he said not allowed they Right Said rather say it's allowed on purpose not like a mistake constantly happened constantly people would come they're saying you said it's allowed they're saying you say it's allowed it's all over it's all over the streets and they're panicking yes you say okay tell him I said it's not loud no but Rabbi it's a posters it's a and people are mistaken they're trying to heat him up they're trying to okay so just tell him that I said no it's not loud no here okay same response constantly just tell him I said it's not allowed I said it's not allowed one time a group of crazy people decided that they didn't like the so a group of decided in an older age already he's already at least 90 years old at this point to decide that what's the solution Stone him they take rocks and they start throwing rocks atash the he's 90 years old he's trying to go to besset they start throwing rocks at him now you're not trying to hurt him you're trying to kill him simply okay tell them not loud how can you do such a thing how can you do such a thing for 100 years 120 how when you understand that you did what you are supposed to do you did your job you did your is you filled Your Role the rest of it is none of your business everything all the outcome all the results all the success all the failure everything is in the hands of a who has nothing to do with you you are only responsible to do every everything else not your responsibility when you really live like this and you understand the two major principles one I did my I'll have I didn't do my I don't have G to say the least secondly everything in this world has a purpose the world itself has a purpose I did my whatever the outcome is that's part of the purpose it's just not my problem hasem decided to bring these rocks at me as part of the purpose I don't know what role these rocks are filling as part of the purpose but surely has a purpose for these rocks surely these people taking my and turning it upside down to embarrass me to embarrass the toah has a purpose surely people completely ignore what I said about wigs that they're surely that has a purpose too everything has a purpose I did my job I'm finished when a person actually puts this all in the front of their B brain where they literally live like this where they know I am responsible to doem I'm responsible to serve hem like he wants me to serve him as far as what happens with all of it not my problem whatever hasem decides ID that's what he decides I'm going to operate at full force 150 M hour like a lion with a without the outcome that I desire why because at this point he arrived at a point where he doesn't desire anything himself he desires what hem desires and that's to arrive at such a point at some point in our life where our desires become hashem's desires and his desires become our desires that's the point of the ultimate level of of confidence can be achieved once a person decides to Mak hashem's desire desires into his once hashem's desires are yours it's much much easier to live life because now your is simply at 100% capacity at all times because all you have now is all you care now is all you and you're living that way not just thinking that way there's much more to say about the issue but I think today we covered enough any questions they had malim with them they had malim with them that told them a lot of different things much more than just a calendar next question I'll answer the story I'll answer the question with a story the question is if a person only has to worry about is why should he even seek business advice now business advice in general or any advice it all depends where it's coming from if the business advice that we're referring to is coming from a professional then uh he could be somebody that could help he could be some doesn't help but if the business advice is from a then you're not necessarily asking for business advice per se you're asking for D you're asking you're ensuring that what you're doing is in line with d you're in line with the opinion of the Torah whether your business is kosher or not whether your business is uh doing the best that it can and so on and so forth like for example right now there's a business industry that has uh ballooned in success at least monetarily over the last six or seven years that every single person and I'm saying this without a doubt in my mind every single person in that business definitely does not have a share on the World to come and unfortunately many of the people in in his business are Jews one day B we'll do a lecture about it but that's enough to say about that if a person seek do about a business then it's not just a business advice it's learning and doing now if it's Consulting from a professional then that's not as necessary and the reason why is because there was once a Gab that uh was a gab ofet for 20 years and that's the best job that he can get he wasn't literate he wasn't able to read he wasn't able to write but he was able to clean the Shool he was able to fix the Shool he was able to tell people what time to come what time to leave and after 20 years of doing this the the Sho expanded and the with things as they are the sh expected more from the people that are running it and I told the gabai he like listen we uh want you to start organizing things much more professionally put it on a computer put it a uh in a Microsoft Office we want you to print out reports and so on and so forth he said yeah don't you you may not realize but I've here 20 years I don't know how to read or write so all this stuff that you want me to do I don't know how to do it said well listen we're sorry but we're expanding the Kila has got much bigger we have a much bigger need so we're sorry but uh we can't can't continue to hire you can't continue to employ you and they let him go after 20 years that's part one sounds like a really sad story well since the guy did not have many skills and not have much money he decided that okay what could I possibly do I could buy and sell stuff so he went to the market and he said I don't really know anything about anything I know a little bit about tools since I worked in the Sho and I fixed a few things so you found a few guys selling hammers for cheap instead of uh $3 Hammer $1 Hammer said okay you know what I have $300 give me 300 Hammers and he bought 300 Hammers and he sold them found a buyer store down the street store down the road for $3 a hammer and he made a little bit of living off of that and he did it again next time he bought some pliers too and some Hammers and some pliers and some tools and little by little he started wheeling and dealing you didn't have to write or read or anything he just simply needed to know how to add and he knew what hammers were he knew what pliers were and started doing business this way as a kadosh who would have it within a couple of years this guy became a tycoon in the tools business he became so successful that he was now ordering millions of dollars worth of goods from China on the day that he got the biggest order over $10 million of goods shipped to him the owner of the company himself came from China with a delivery he said oh how are you yov good okay listen we have the goods it's on a container I just need you to sign here so he sees Yakov take a uh one of these little cases with just ink in it he takes his thumb puts his thumb on the ink and then puts it on the uh that's a signature he say what is this sign your name no no this is my signature it's your fingerprints I don't want your fingerprints I want a signature your name put your name because I don't know how to write I don't know right Chinese guy says to him look at that without even knowing how to write look how much success you got imagine how successful you would be if you knew how to read and write he says Mr it's the opposite if I knew how to read and write I'd still be at a a making 300 bucks a week closes one door opens the next why he has to close one in order to open the next if you believe that a runs the world you'll never waste a moment thinking it was a sad story on part one and you're never going to think it's a sad story in your part one in life if you don't think that a runs the show not only will you think that part part one was a sad story your whole life becomes one sad story why because your whole life most of the time is constantly part one it's constantly part one and you're so sad on part one that even when part two arrives you're too sad to celebrate so yes is important guidance is important whether it has to do with your success or not all depends on where the advice comes from if the advice comes from that's necessary if the advice comes from Mr or it comes from some consultant or it comes from Tony Robbins or anything like that that's a something you can uh you don't necessarily need you could use it I mean they do have some some of these Consultants some of these experts but it's not a needed part of your life like to is will give you an answer to anything so that's also another thing to consider next question yes so which part do you want to asking that I heard shower on Shabbat no showering on Shabbat is not allowed uh showering Shabbat is not allowed because you'll be warming the water if there's ever going to be a leniency in regards to it it would be with cold water but it's not on Shabbat rather on yum but in general showering on Shabbat is not allowed um you're not allowed to jump in a pool you're not allowed even if the pool is cold you simply not allowed to shower on Shabbat um again there are exceptions to every case if somebody has a pish issue and things of that nature then everything is allowed you're allowed to even feed somebody Pig if there's a life risk you're allowed to drive on Shabbat if there's a life risk but as far as showering for the most part showering is not a necessary part of somebody's life and therefore it's not allowed on Shabbat because it'll lead to a but if there was ever going to be a leniency uh it would be with cold water not with hot water next uh the Minag is there's aagag is that you're not allowed to shave or get a haircut during the the acceptable Minag is to not shave or uh or get a haircut until lb which is in about 10 days from now uh so no shaving no cutting hair now do you go to Gom for uh for shaving no but it is a Minag that's acceptable already for many many generations and that's the way that we uh do it now where is their leniency the leniency is if you're going to you're in such a business where uh you uh uh you could potentially lose money because you're not groomed so Moshe Feinstein Shalom wrote a that it's a almost 100 years ago a little less than 100 years ago that there is a leniency if your lack of grooming would lead to a loss would lead to a loss for example you are in a uh company where everybody's clean shaven and the boss says to you that listen our Law Firm you have to be like the Nazis you have to be uh you know clean shaven and if not we're going to fire you for that case you're allowed to shave it's not a sin at all it's not even a violation you're allowed to shave if you would lose your job or you lose your living that way but this leniency is an exception and it's one that a person should not use unless they absolutely have to why because the I believe it was the same year or year after the MOs Feinstein put this out that uh a person that was a businessman and salesperson said oh so uh saying that okay if if I could potentially lose money then I could shave okay so I have a customer he's a uh he's uh not not of the same Fe he's not a Jew and I know this guy he clean shaven clean cut he's that type of guy I know he cares about everything he's in a fashion business and everything if I come to him with my uh my like I just came back from Saudi Arabia he's not going to like it so much okay the guy shaves shaves arrives at the meeting to make a sale they already he's already been working on the sale for a few months he's expecting to close the deal so they have the meeting and the uh nju says to him listen I like everything you're saying I like your company I was really thinking about uh doing business with you but I have one question for you you're a Jew right he says yes he says my Jewish friends that I have they all have beards now how come you don't have a beard the guy is shocked and he says to him well because of business because of business I knew it's not presentable to have a beard because I don't usually wear a beard so for business I wasn't I didn't want to come to this meeting with you and you look at me like I uh like I would have a beard I don't know so I didn't want to turn you off I wanted to do business ah okay I'm not interested in do business with you he says but sir why not he says because anybody that puts business before their God it's not somebody I want to do business with so you can use that leniency though enjoy for business the key is to know there are leniencies in the Tor you have to use them when you need it not when you feel like it don't use all of your get out of jail free cards for no reason that's the simple advice most people today having a beer doesn't really matter quite frankly in this gen you know this last few years it's actually become somewhat of a fashion statement a lot of guim have beards so it's not exactly a sign of religiosity like it has been in the past so I don't really think it makes much of a difference as far as a haircut I mean unless you have some type of uh hormonal problem I mean how much your has your hair grown in the last three weeks that you need to get a haircut the reality is it's more of like a convenience that it is a problem if it happens to be a problem if you're a soldier in an army if if it's something like that then yes you're allowed to shave uh but uh in general you should not uh even though it's not a it's simply for for and to be close to you have to be close to the as well next okay so um we have our next year on Tuesday we have our continuation of our sh please bring your books that I gave everybody if you don't have it then I'll give you a new one when you get there but please bring them uh other thing is also next week and then next sh is on Wednesday we'll be back here next week I'm in New York for a part of the week uh we'll have a sh here on on Sunday but then the Tuesday sh we're I'm in New York I'm be in New York Monday and Tuesday and then Wednesday all depends on how I feel if I have enough I'll do a sh on Wednesday night but we'll see uh either way thank you for learning with me amen amen [Music] n [Music] n [Music] [Applause] [Music] n he [Music]