IS ANXIETY A SIN? - Bitachon B’HaShem (1)

[Music] back to our Sunday shim where after puim I think uh hopefully everybody had a nice puim um I fulfilled all of the mitzvot the uh I don't know if anybody uh I don't think we harped on it enough but uh oh here we go one second have SE uh so was a very nice por him and um I'm not really sure if we harped on on it enough the mitv of puim um you know it's if puim without the mitv is uh just a costume contest so uh sometimes people spend a lot of money on the Mish but not a lot of money on the meaning that they each one is $50 $100 but they give the guy two2 $3 like they're doing him a favor and this is a mistake this is a mistake in our understanding of the Mitzvah uh this is a mistake in our inem uh this is a mistake in just our overall ideology so uh this is actually part of the reason of why we're going to BM start a new series today um just had a couple of hours ago the uh idea to start a new series even though we're doing questions and answers I'm finding it that every week I'm the ones that's asking questions and answering the questions so maybe if we do a little bit of uh something new uh to switch things up a little bit uh but also uh something that all of us need on thear says there are certain things that need every day certain things need every day one of them is having faith inem why why is why is bet so so important the simple answer is is that without it's very very easy to be a rash very easy why because without you could rationalize every single sin every single excuse every single thing in the world to I had no choice that's it you and now tell us that the has been here for 6,000 years he has an endless amount of excuses endless amount of excuses meaning if you want an excuse to make an will give you one no problem I'll give you 20 20 for every single that you want but sometimes we do the work for him sometimes is on vacation but we still sin why because we have no if we have no inem if we have no confidence in hem we have no trust in hem then that is simply the only excuse that's necess necessary for a person to leave everything that's holy and connect to all the uh rationale that he has in order to desecrate aem's name while thinking he's doing a Mitzvah uh and this is the reason why a lot of people fail uh so I think that uh learning a little bit about is very important but we're going to do it a little bit differently than some of the other sh we're going to do a little minseries I don't know how many lectures it's going to take but we're going to do a minseries uh which is based off of a section of the BET BET by slovic uh this is uh one of the uh greatest sages that lived in the last couple of hundred years there's a small section in there that is about beton and uh this is one of the uh small pamphlets or little books 20 Page books that we give uh as part of our kiru package uh and um you know a lot of people they get these little pamplets or little books and many times people don't pay attention to it they just throw it aside because it's not a hard copy book it's not expensive you know 20 $30 book they think ah it's just a few pieces of paper put together must be not must be it's not important the reality is actually is that many times you'll find some of the best stuff some of the best stuff on these little pamplets and the reason why is because whoever put these pamphlets together whether it's this U you know bet or the uh holy nation or any of the uh the things of Amen that Foundation put together or many many other things that uh different uh people have put together different sikim put together many times they're actually the best stuff you'll find and the reason why is because the people that put together all of this stuff first and foremost if it's put together this way that means it's free if it's free it doesn't mean it doesn't cost anything it means that they care enough to go gather the money however way that they possibly can to get you the most critical information that you need in order to survive the day so if they know they don't have a big budget they're not Microsoft they're not Google they're not Apple they're just the instruction set for an iPhone cost more money than some books the instruction set said for the iPhone that you get that everybody throws in a garbage cost more money than you buy books on ars.com or Feld or something no one looks at it you throw in the garbage but but uh if you look at if you go try and replicate it go try replicating one of these instructions set of Microsoft Office or of a uh Apple products or Google any of these companies you'll see that it'll cost you15 $20 and if you're buying in bulk eight $9 but you throw in the garbage theim that are putting together some of these books they don't have $8 to put together for for one book why because then if it's $8 per book what are they going to print 2,000 3,000 what are they going to print 500 it's very hard so you have to get TR something for as cheap as possible but now cheap do you want to make sure that this cheap actually goes a long way why because you have only one opportunity to gather to GA grasp the person's attention so you're going to have to to put the best stuff on it so anyone that pays attention to these little pamphlets sometimes you'll find some really really good stuff and one of the best things that I've actually ever found is actually this bet this bet is a fantastic translation first of all very good job in translating but two it's a specific section that everybody can use a little bit of on but the way we're going to study it is going to be a little bit different than most of the time most of the time we study things where I tell you what's going on what's the page you can follow along don't follow along but in essence you can watch these lectures 500 times until you get the point if necessary with this I actually brought extra copies so each one of you should have it and we're going to go over Page by Page really try to learn this and not just read it read it you can read it by yourself you go home read it I don't know take a little bit of time and you'll finish reading it understanding it is a different story why cuz understanding it means you have to get a good grasp of every single line that's being said here what is the BET trying to tell us why is he using this verse as a source versus something else as a source how does it affect your life how does it affect the world of Judaism today what how do we how do we apply this to today that's what we're going to try to do that's why I don't really know how long it's going to take as a side note for anyone that uh doesn't know about the program that we have uh because a lot of people ask me for a uh special prayers for different things and so on as a reminder uh we have an who goes to has donated his time and effort to go to k once a week to pray for specific people that are on the list for that week uh so anyone that wants to uh sign up up to uh this program it's on the website you go on the website it's on the store you uh sign up and uh he'll whatever prayer that you want and uh by doing this uh not only will you have a sadik also pray for you for that week uh at K uh but also you'll be uh helping with uh with kiru as well now in the uh past week's parha we had a uh lot of interesting things in that um if you spend a little bit of time understanding it you'll see that uh Hashem is very very precise with the things that he wants when he tells theim to uh do something he says which is similar to how we hear from ainu he woke up which means early really early and uh each one of thean each one of the offerings that uh he asked or commanded theim to bring the cering of the tools all of the different uh things that were happening have a very very specific way where if something is not brought the way that AEM wants it you might as well throw it in the garbage with AEM one of the things that we don't understand is that Hashem is not like one of us where if you show up late to your job the B says Ah let this one go it's no big deal why you're 20 minutes late it's okay I like you you're a nice guy you're a nice guy I like you I'm not even going to say anything today because you're late 20 minutes but yesterday you were early 20 minutes so we'll mix and match that's how people act sometimes you're on late to work and you tell one of your friends listen we have a new manager new manager in the department where if I'm late he's not he's goingon to dock me so do me a favor take my uh card and clock me in clock me in and your friend does it for you by the way both of you are going to have to pay for that gazel it's considered stealing because the boss is not paying you for when you're not there he's paying you for when you're there so when someone is paying you for your time you're not allowed to go do something else even if that something else is learning Torah unless that Torah is uh you know is something that everybody else is allowed to do meaning I had one time somebody asked me a question they said listen I was able to learn T at my work listen to tah at my work all the time but one day the boss uh or the manager told me that uh it bothers them it bothers them that I listen to the tor and I said why is it bother you it's only on my headphones I'm not putting it on a speaker loudspeaker no I don't know you're acting different when you uh when when you listen to the T it's like yeah but if I didn't listen to t you would if I didn't tell you that I'm listening to to you wouldn't know it I only told you and you know a few things I told you didn't like it no listen we don't want you to listen to her because the if the owner really finds out it'll get upset at you so then the person asked me and I said well question is does the owner allow anybody else to listen to whatever they want during the job like if they want to listen to music or they want to listen to sports or they want to listen to I know comedy are they allowed to listen to it because he's in uh in a computer business he uh does all types of programming so it's not like a lot of communications with people it's a Communications with with computers so most of the people are into the designing the programs and so on and coding and uh he says no most of the people are listening to something uh news or music or something I said then you're allowed to listen as much as you want and just ignore this person that's telling you obviously don't tell them that you're listening to Torah just uh don't tell people your business same thing happened to me with another young woman that actually had the same problem unfortunately in her case it was a worst scenario why she worked in a Jewish office meaning office full of Jews office full of Jews and uh one of the people in the office bothered it bothered them that uh everybody else is listening to nonsense but she's listening to why because with me from London they'd be fine with it but if it's or that actually gonna get people to Doom we're not allow to listen to people like that because they'll change us gu to do what hasem wants so again you ask are you allowed to listen to anything else in this office if you're allowed to listen to anything else in the office then you're allowed to listen to the Tor but if you're not allowed to listen to anything else in the office then you're not allowed to listen to Tor why because the boss is not paying you to learn toah same thing with doing you know site projects or going to for lunch or smoking cigarettes all the different things that we do that we think it's it's not a big deal we have to make sure that the boss knows meaning you don't necessarily need to get permission from every single time but you need to know that this is permissible not he doesn't care it's permissible two different things he doesn't care doesn't necessarily mean it's permissible he doesn't care means that he has a lot of really important stuff to do that's much more important than micromanaging your schedule to find out when you're going in and out for cigarettes when you're going in and out and doing uh some of your own uh thing that you're doing over there that's why he doesn't care he's too busy with other stuff but he's it's permissible means that he says listen I already know that you're going to do certain things I already know that uh people are going to spend I don't know half hour a day smoking cigarettes an hour a day going to lunch I already know I'm taking into account and I'm still paying you the salary for that if he knows he's okay with it that's fine why because if you do such a thing and it's not permissible and you're just taking advantage of the manager's ignorance or business uh status is then that's considered stealing now why would somebody ever get to a point of being a keeps everything she keeps everything sadik everything is good but it's still a thief why how do we get to a point of being a thief how do we get to a point where somebody considers themselves sh Shabbat except that one time the one time they forgot something at the house on Shabbat and they really wanted to bring it they wanted to bring it but they were in an area where there was no so they know they couldn't carry it but they said listen I'm only going to take it from this house to that house quickly it's like a quick quick violation it's not a big violation how come how come we'd have a Shabbat like that part of the reason is because we don't believe that Hashem is watching every single one of our steps in life if a person really understood that Hashem is watching every part of the steps in their life they would live their life very very differently and the root of it the root of it is not having the root of it is not having confidence inem during the difficult times it's very easy to sayem if you uh just won the lotto you just got a upgrade on your uh job some promotion or you got married or something good happened in life it's very easy to say you everything is good the kids are grade in School one of them got married bash my wife is uh giving birth this that it's very easy to say bash it's also very easy to say when you're faking it too bad things are happening but you don't you don't really want to share it with anybody how you doing you really have a tragedy in your house right now I know everything is good but in reality you're crying inside you're crying inside but you don't want to share with this person cuz they're not that close to you you want you don't want to share with them to me you're that takes a lifestyle change that takes a lifestyle change now Shalom one time he heard that one of his students his main student came into town and he uh told sent the message get him to come to my house immediately it was a Friday afternoon they went got comes into the house and he writes he writes this in the book says I see the the G he's in a robe he has uh something on his head because he has a huge headache some lemon and this and that and he's looks like a mess his eyes are bloodshot red the wife is crying the Grandma's crying everybody's in a mess and he's pacing back and forth ping forth back and forth I said everything okay do you have to do this what is the on this rambam huh what what is what is the rambam saying here I'm your student you're going to ask you're telling me you're asking me to give you the commentary the understanding the explanation on the ram you he says I commend you right now to give me theat meaning the basic meaning of what is the rambam saying here takes the uh book looks at it for a few minutes it says this is theat he tells him what it says at that moment the Gina sits down he SS to his wife please I need to eat after everything settles down he finds out from the wife has not slept for 3 Days 3 days he's pacing back and forth in his house no eating no drinking no sleeping no nothing why because he's trying to get to the bottom of what is the rambam saying here now you may think the G is is eccentric he's crazy he's uh something but that means we're crazy why because the difference between us and the V is that he understood the significance of knowing what is the Torah saying here what is the rambam saying here what is AEM saying here he understood the significance of it of how it changes the world his world our world every World by actually knowing the basic understanding of what does it mean what does this mean to such an extent that as soon as he ran into something where he couldn't understand what he meant he couldn't sleep he couldn't allow himself to sleep he couldn't allow himself to eat he couldn't allow himself to to drink to nothing because he understood the significance we go to sleep every night with 500 questions on answered with no problem we sleep like babies why because we really don't understand the significance of knowing the answer now why did the Gina get to such a point because he dedicated his time throughout his entire life to such an extent that at the end of his days when he was on his deathbed his students testified to seeing him laughing and crying at the same time why are you laughing why are you crying he says I'm crying because I'm leaving a world where for $20 in those days money obviously $20 you can make a mitvah every second called for $5 you can make aah and a k every second as a Woman by covering your hair with every second kah every second you have it for5 you get make a mitvah for $20 you can buy a I'm living a world where for every second I can make a mitzvah for nothing whereas once I go to this real world the Eternal world even if I give them all the money in the world I still can't make one mitvah I'm leaving such a world such a wonderful place that's why you're crying goes well no I'm crying because not only am I leaving it but I'm leaving it after doing calculations that in 83 years there's a few moments there's a few moments M I don't know what I did since I can make a Mitzvah in every single second that me and this Mitzvah is is so valuable in the next world I want to make sure that I use utilize every second I'm now 83 years old and I know I'm doing the calculation 83 years there's a few moments in those 83 years a few moments I don't know what I did I don't know what I did theah to have a few moments and every minute that we don't know what we did we burn hours and hours every single day not doing anything people tell me oh no I've just been uh doing nothing all day what do you mean doing nothing all day N I just burned some time had some coffee went to Starbucks went to this place went to that watched a movie Just burn a few hours but now I'm here she burned a few hours like nothing why because we don't understand the value of time so what does it mean what what's the value of actually not burning time his students ask him okay so now we know why you're crying for the why you laughing he says because I remember a reading that they say that the tadim when uh when they die they get sikim to welcome them and I never knew where I stood but now I know why I see my father and yobu right here behind you and and my father is telling yobu look look look look what kind of son I'm bringing you look what kind of son I'm bringing you that's a person that didn't waste any time first understanding first reason is because he understood the value the value of knowing the truth first and foremost second thing is he understood that not necessarily everything in the Torah is going to be easy to understand but you have to fight for it because that's in essence the point that's the purpose by the way anybody that knows the air conditioner you do me a favor it's outside lower it to like whatever it is because I'm melting he understood the value of chasing theat chasing the truth however long it took and he never went to sleep meaning he never Just Let It Go like he had a big question and he just let it go that's what we do a lot of times a lot of times there's questions I remember myself when I was young I had a lot of questions I would ask one or two people the question especially when it came to Judaism and uh if nobody had the answer or if the answer they gave me wasn't really good I just let it go it's like oh this yes no maybe I let it go and uh moved on the reality is that if you let things go you're never going to get to a life without worry and that's what a life with be is now in this week's par we start with the first set of instructions it was the Eighth Day summoned Aon and his sons and the Elders of Isel and he said to Aon take for yourself a young bull for the sin offering and the RAM for an evaluation an elevation offering so here we're implementing some of the things we learned from last week but it says the eighth day we know we only have seven days what does it mean eth Day eth Day means that the first seven days only mosenu was allowed to do all of this and Hashem commanded that Aon and his sons will be inside they wouldn't go outside only mosenu would do this why because for seven days only mosu is going to do it but starting the eth day no one is allowed to do it other than Aon and his son so we see that even hem has a system even for his for everybody has a system everybody has Specific Instructions that may or may not make sense to us it doesn't make a difference if it makes sense to us but if you fast forward a couple of verses to verse number six it says M gives us the secret of all secrets he says Moshe says this is the thing that hasem has commanded you to do then the glory of hem will appear to you Moshe tells us you see all this all the system the stuff that's unusual the mitv that you don't really understand why is there any Ro why there isn't any roof why do you have to eat kosher why not Kosher why does it matter if you wear shotes or don't wear shotes or if you keep Shabbat you don't keep Shabbat or if you eat matah from this guy or matah from that guy or if it's Kal all these that for a new person don't really make much sense and quite frankly sometimes the new person has been religious for 30 years sometimes the the new person I don't mean new person he's a brand new B you know last week is this week he's no no new person I mean new to the T new to the understanding of what is the will of hem what is where because we live in a world where people think that whatever they want AEM should deal with he should just accept me as I am that's the politically correct world that we live in today and many rabbis enable people to think like this hasem loves you no matter what you know every Jew has a share of the world to come everything is good everything is great and the reality is anyone that's lived in the world for long enough knows that life is not so great life is not so great why cancer happens disease happens divorce happens theft happens robbery bankrupcy deals going bankrupt people stealing people lying people cheating all types of stuff happens in life so all of this no life is great mentality it's not really true unless you have why if you have then you know that everything that's happening is is from hasem and it's good but very very few people actually understands what it takes to actually live a life of so here first and foremost gives us the first set of instructions he says this thing whatever it is with it's chabbat whether it's shz whether it's a whether it's and working on your midot whatever it is hard or difficult or not so difficult doesn't make a difference man or woman acceptable unacceptable politically correct or incorrect this thing that hasem commanded you to do this is what you have to do then the glory of hem will appear to you meaning once you do what Hashem said then you'll feel the good from it the good is not onlya that very few few people have an understanding of what it's like in this generation because when you tell people what isaa is a bunch of learning tah he tell us to the average 25y old 35y old that doesn't really learn tah listen yeaha all the 2,000 members of the TOs all theik mob all of them are learning T and you can go there it's like sounds boring I don't learn T you want me to learn t for eternity no give me some pool tables some pools some bowling maybe some movies that's what people want because they think that that's fun so is very very hard for people to connect to even though technically that's the only reason the M says that's the only reason why you should do a mitvah for but since we don't have a concept of Whata is early on early on in our chuva we have to feel something here people need to see something right before the lecture we were talking a little bit about how we're such a demanding generation where literally we need things on demand you want to press a button something has to happen you go to a website if it takes 30 seconds to load I'm out I'm out in fact recent statistics that I read said that if it takes more than three and a half seconds to load if the website takes more than three and a half seconds to load most people meaning over 90% of people leave the website three and a half seconds when I was a kid you know in the days of anus we had something called dialup something called dialup dialup meant that you went to a you wanted to go to some place if whatever was actually available in those days there was barely anything actually available you yeah Prodigy AOL and whatever was AOL was offering you went to the website and all you had is to enjoy the that's the noise that your moto made for a good two to three minutes until you finally arrived at whatever destination you wanted and God forbid it's the wrong destination now you have to go to a different one but you had to enjoy the music of this this modem what kind of music I made for you back then it was normal 2 3 4 five minutes between web pages between Pages within the page it's normal today if you're not giving me a response right now within 3 seconds I'm out of here we order food do company say listen delivery within uh 25 minutes at 26 and A2 minutes we're already on the phone hey what's going on I ordered you you guys said 25 minutes it's late I can't believe it I'm paying top dollar here you call the guy you start yelling him like he's one of your slaves like you're par and he's one of the Jews over there mean why he's late a minute and a half God forbid he's late 20 minutes because he hit traffic or something happened it happens we're all criminals when it comes to this why because we've all become accustomed to push and something happens on demand they call it we want something exactly like he said instant gratification instant gratification is unfortunately one of the landmines of the Satan when it comes to and the reason why is because is the exact opposite works the exact opposite doesn't work based on instant gratification Works B based on how much patience you have because that's how hasem measures your actual if you expect things to happen instantly like a website like a text message like an email you expect things to happen that way and you think that Hashem is going to dance to every one of your tunes guess what you will live a life of misery anxiety and you will never have an ounce of because doesn't work that way to get you have to get one of the most valuable traits there is for man kind which is called patience without patience you're not going to survive meaning you'll survive as a life but your life is going to be full of suffering from morning tonight you'll be suffering because nothing in the world will work based on the schedule that you wanted to nothing in the world work on a schedule that it should according to your understanding according to our understanding everyone is stupid everyone is slow everyone is this everyone is everyone is deficient that's the way it is why because you have some visual in your mind some type of idea in your mind that no one can live up to so unless you understand that Hashem is the one that's causing him to be slow him to steal him to run away him to hang up on you her to curse you all Hashem is the one that's managing all of this you're not going to be able to survive as a righteous person now this seems more like Hashem is taking away our Free Will so briefly we're going to go into details of all of this but to simply answer the question no Hashem never takes away free will the way it simply Works in a very very simplistic way is that AEM makes a decree whatever the decree is decide something is going to happen a certain person is going to make a lot of money lose a lot of money he decides whatever the case is after he decides and passes the stamp on a decree signs off on a decree then he decides which things which people people which uh Creations are going to contribute into implementing this decree so for example if it's let's say lose money lose money now the guy thinks oh lose money that's most likely means I'm gonna get fired no not necessarily in fact it could be the opposite in fact the guy could get hired by a better firm get a 500% raise and he thinks loves me I was aad last year here because second day after yum Kip I got a job offer 500% race from Google so the guy is happy he walks into Google he's he's excited he has a half a million dollar salary waiting for him all he's got to do is show up all you got to do is show up he thinks what a blessing in reality this year was decreed to be the opposite for him to lose a half a million dollars why whatever he did hasem decided but how is it going to happen hem will decide throughout the whole year of how this is going to happen where he could make a half a million dollars to the job but lose a million dollars to his Investments net net yes he made a half a million dollars on a job but he lost a million dollar on investments or vice versa the point is that now Hashem decided to implement but how is he going to implement the small details okay so one uh you know one broker that was the best broker in the world for 10 years all of a sudden became the worst so instead of making him a million dollars he lost him a million dollars or perhaps one deal that was going great for three four five years with some partnership all of a sudden the guy that he was partners with went crazy and decided to uh run away with some money another 100 he contributed 100,000 he contributed 500 he contributed everybody contributed a certain amount of the loss so why does Hashem pick those people because those people chose to do what they're doing meaning they also there's a decree on them but they chose to do something bad so for example if somebody stole from him out of the million dollars somebody stole 200,000 the guy that stole the 200,000 hasm didn't tell him you have to steal the guy that stole he decided to steal 200,000 says Okay since you're G to steal you decide to steal 200,000 steal from him steal from him why because out of all the people you want to steal from they don't deserve Des it only he deserves it so steal from him a 200,000 meaning that hashem's decree was already written on how he's going to implement is going to be based on our decisions so this is the simplistic way of answering a elephant in the room that a lot of people have in regards to free choice and so on because it has a lot to do with and how really works nowu tells us that if you want to work first and foremost you have have to do what Hashem said without doing what Hashem said you're simply never going to enjoy this world or the world to come you're going to lose in both worlds you want to feel physically feel the glory of Hashem where you live a life with no worries you have problems everybody has problems that's life life means problems but you have no worry why because you know Hashem is your father and he's the one running the show what is it like Shalom said one time there was a little boy playing with the rest of the kids on the beach and he's playing he's playing and all of a sudden there's a huge you know ship cruise ship passing and you see I don't know if anybody ever been to the beach those ships they're huge so even though they're they're uh they're U far away they still look big so the kid stops playing with the sand runs to the coast and he starts going one of the older people says what is this silly kid doing and it bothered him that this kid is going so he got up out of his chair he goes hey kid no stop stop you you look ridiculous you're going to embarrass your parents like this go sit down go play with the s the kid ignored him goes he goes kid what are you doing he goes I'm saying hi to the captain to the captain I'm saying hi he goes you know the captain captain is the most important person on the ship what makes you think that the captain is going to see you look for you and even care that you're even saying hello he says well Captain's my father so he's looking for me the captain's looking for me you see when a person knows that the captain is aad he knows that regardless of what problems you have in your life the captain is your father he's the one that's managing everything he's overseeing everything but he's only going to show you the whole point at the end not in the middle and not in the beginning because then there's no point so we have to be like this little boy and know from the beginning that even though it's unlikely according to everybody else the standards for this Captain to look for me and see me even because so far away it's going to happen why because he's looking for me he's watching for me so mhu tells us in you want the glory of Hashem to appear to you you want a life of no problems whatsoever of no uh worries whatsoever first and foremost you have to do everything that hasem says what did he say you look into the tor and you'll see chuva begins with making life changes life changes that require you to become a better person according to Hashem if you're a woman you have to become a more modest woman why because if you're not a modest woman then that means that you're causing a every single second that you're alive why number one even though you may not respect the fact that you're the daughter of of Hashem Hashem does Hashem respects the fact that you're his daughter so when you walk around IM modest and other people other other creations look ah look at look at hashem's daughter look how she treats herself how look at she looks she looks like uh one of the things we saw in the zoo donkey doesn't wear clothes she barely you can't tell the much of a difference he has longer hair can't tell the difference Hashem gets embarrassed with this goes look at this this is my daughter this this is my daughter so woman that's not modest already has a very very big disconnect why because she's not valuing the gift that hasem gave her second thing is she causes his other children to sin now there's a very important when it comes to yes they came to uhin Shalom and they told him there's a boy in Thea that's called cing uh you know he's really he's not from the right family he not from the right family and we really uh want to take him out of theisha he says don't take him out of theiva no no but he it's not he's not this he's not this he's not that he's not learning he's slow he's this he's that says don't take him out of the Yesa yeah but you have to understand he's this and he's that like they're fighting against this kid this little 13y old kid it's like a whole like uh Coalition against this little kid he says listen is he hurting other kids spiritually is he telling other kids to get off the I said no that he's not doing he says you're not allowed to take him out of yes if he's hurting other kids then yes but everything else he's slow he's from this family he's from that family he doesn't know he knows all that stuff you're not have to kick him out of Yesa because he's not endangering anybody else so when a woman is immodest she's endangering hashem's other children when she's endangering hashem's other children that puts a very very big gap between her and why says you are putting the rest of my kids in danger I can't really listen to your prayers I can't really give you pay you know special privileges why because you're causing harm to everybody else it's not that you're sinning by yourself same thing goes for a man a man that wants theem to listen to his prayers cannot make these major sins that cause a cannot make cannot be one of these people that goes against Rabb publicly goes against the toah publicly acts arrogant steals you know things of that nature but also a person needs to know that they have to keep the basics starts with Shabbat there's no Judaism without Shabbat there's simply no Judaism without Shabbat from the beginning of the Torah all the way to the end a person needs to keep Shabbat like the is no excuses no uh nothing and you're only going to start feeling the enjoyment of Shabbat once you keep Shabbat like it's supposed to be kept a lot of people say listen I keep Shabbat but I hate it why why do you hate it why do you hate Shabbat no I don't know it's this it's that it's and little by little you start finding out he's not even keeping Shabbat why because he doesn't know how to keep Shabbat he doesn't know all the so he's doing things that are actually violating Shabbat but he doesn't know because he doesn't learn Al Shabbat so he's violating Shabbat so his doesn't even get to enjoy it why because he's sinning but he thinks he keeps it or she thinks he keeps it so the reality is is that when you keep Shabbat like you're supposed to keep it's a pleasure of all pleasures it's a small piece of the feeling of if you're not feeling that peace there's something wrong with your Shabbat so now if a person wants to feel all of this joy in this world will live a life where they have literally no worry whatsoever then they first and foremost need to start taking on mitv more seriously they can't just think that if they meditate a certain way or they uh you know they uh put a red string around them uh their arm or they uh read uh I know certain books even if they read 500 times a day if they don't keep the MIT it's a waste of time where doesm say this he says to the prophet in their um mouth in their lips they gave me cavod they gave me honor but in their hearts they were far away from me they were far away from me why because they did they gave me lip service they said you know they sang songs all the nice songs that people like to sing but when push came to the sh they didn't really fight to me they didn't really fight to protect my religion now the BET starts off the following he says there are certain things that are going to destroy your here we see first and foremost a rule rule among all Learners of Tor all teachers of Tor all considered why because they're Learners of Torah first rule is the things to avoid before we tell you all the things to do the little tricks you're going to get this easy one and that easy one and that easy one and that easy one there's a bunch of different different things that you can do different training that you can do do to get great extraordinary reward in heaven some stuff is so easy to do it's people don't do it it's a complete waste people don't do it you can do certain things that can give yourself an abundance of good but you see most of the sages if not all of them don't start that way none of the books start that way what do they start off with this is the stuff to avoid why because even if you do all of the little tricks all the little Gul all of the little readings of T and the groups and uh all the wonderful things like for example there's a sadik pinto that he uh implemented a few years ago a uh certain that uh some had in previous generations that became very popular in the last few years which is to read the entire book of seph a book of Deuteronomy like every Shabbat try to read it every Shabbat the whole thing or once a week but to constantly read it over and over and over again and many of his took it on many of his took it on because has an extraordinary amount of it's the one book that's actually written by mhu versus the other four books that are written by hasem himself butm wanted mosu to include this fifth book that's why in the first four books it says mhe that hem spoke to Moshe whereas in the fifth book in The Book of Deuteronomy doesn't say that says Moshe talks in first person Hashem said to meem said to me not uh not Hashem told me Hashem said to me this is what I heard and so on and so forth so there's a lot of M to learn from there anyone that actually reads the book of Deuteronomy with commentary by Rashi at least RAM and actually understands it could uh do extraordinary chuv the problem is that many people don't understand the actual Min itself don't understand what RAF Pinto actually is saying where they think all they need to do is just read it like you read a journal like you read a newspaper just read the words with or without understanding stuff just read it read it read it a million times and uh doesn't it doesn't do the trick why because T is not a uh it's not one of those things we just just uh press the button and eventually something's going to work there's a certain set of instructions certain set of instructions of how to do certain things so many people use this Gul but uh not much happens none of the promises actually happen in their life and they think that there's something wrong with the Gula no no there's nothing wrong with the Gula there's something wrong with them they're just not doing it the right way it's like for example somebody gave you a Formula 1 car Formula One car could drive I don't know 250 miles an hour won the last uh race whatever they're called won the last race could drive 250 300 miles an hour this thing is a beast and you go in there thinking I'm I'm doing it I'm doing it and you start pressing the gas nothing happens press the gas nothing happens a this is a junk nothing start hitting the car kicking the car thought they they they they you know they cheated you start screaming and yelling causing a what a piece of junk it's a lemon and the guy says heyy buddy turn on the ignition turn on the ignition all the gas pedals and the shifts and it doesn't work unless you do it right first turn on the ignition then you can press the buttons and push to this and push to that if you do certain things right it'll work if you don't it's a waste of time so the constantly told us what to avoid first why because even if you do all the good things all the things right you press the gas pedal and you turn on the turn the wheel and you press this and you press that if you didn't turn on the ignition it's all worthless if you didn't avoid all of the things that pretty much cut you off cut you off from the nation cut your connection off from none of this is going to work if if a person does not keep Shabbat if a person does not keep the basics the basics of connection between them and a this stuff won't work why because when a person violates major sins Hashem doesn't put him on a list of oh I owe him some good things some sins that a person makes hem can say I consider him my enemy even though he's my son and I love him right now he's on the status of being my enemy we see this at the end of he pays his haters cash to their face meaning sometimes he'll even give them things that will make them think that they're doing okay that they actually have a good relationship with hem they have a brand new car brand new house brand new wife brand new this brand new that everything looks good but in reality behind the scenes if they only knew that they're actually being punished sometimes hasem gives a person a a huge windfall of money as a punishment why because he knows that that money will destroy him before he had the money he was just living a regular life he was okay wife kids job every day woke up put on his pants like everybody else one leg at a time everything was going fine he was happy gol lucky people ask him so how you doing he says thank God keep Shabbat no but thank God anyway why because what's wrong with thanking God I love God I just love God my own way so everything was going fine people say oh you see you look happy goes I am happy I am happy really you really happy yeah I'm really happy he he's happy in his own way too and everything is going fine everything is going fine all of a sudden one day he gets a deal that changes his life the equivalent of a lot winning he signs a deal with Boeing he signs a deal with uh one of these uh Fortune 500 companies that immediately puts an extra 152 million in his bank account money that he's never seen such money he thinks honey we did it we did it honey we finally made it 18 months later he's divorced his kids hate him and the client left him too what happened we did it 18 months ago yes but during those 18 months that win full of money changed him he started wanting things that he didn't want before he got the money all of a sudden he want two wives or three an occasional girlfriend two on the side all of a sudden he wanted to go to certain places for vacation all of a sudden he wanted to do certain things that he didn't even think about wanting before he had the money in essence hasem gave him a gift a wind full of money to destroy him that's why and actually says is on the over there when you uh is when somebody loses money they should thank AEM but when they make a lot of money there's a m there's a debate does he thank AEM saying you know to a special blessing he's got a wind full of money or no say don't do anything you want a lot of money you got a lot of money in a short period of time stay quiet don't even say extra thank you why maybe it's a punishment maybe it's a punishment obviously if you're a righteous person then most likely it's not but how many of us can look in the mirror and says for sure I'm righteous and me we're twins we're twins we have the same Villa so now the BET starts off the following he says if you're afraid of something when you don't have to be that fear can cause the thing that you're afraid of to happen there are countless references to which means trust in God in the Tora one who lacks is actually guilty of an a of a sin this sin itself can be a cause of an individual suffering as it says in Mish in Proverbs 29:25 a person's fear will cause his falling whereas one who trusts in asem will be elevated where no problem previously existed a person's fear will cause a problem to develop in contrast if a person trusts in AEM he will be rescued from a problem that already existed so here we see something extraordinary if we really look into the details first and foremost he starts off by saying listen if you're afraid of something you have a very serious problem what's the problem you're actually making a sin against God it's actually a sin it's considered a sin to not have confidence in hasem it's aah where a person for example they say that if there was a um a war and a person was afraid afraid of getting killed afraid to go to war they say if he went to war It's a Sin from aah why because him going to war it's a uh he could put everybody else in danger so to be a afraid of a human being of a disease of not having money or anything else actually s the starts with off saying listen not only is it a sin but also it's bringing that fear to your life and you always find it that the stuff that you're always worried about happens especially when you're really really scared of it you're scared that you're not going to have money to pay rent this month what happens you don't have money to pay rent this month month you're scared that you're going to get you're not going to get to the appointment on time you're really scared you're like overly cautious you have 87 alarms this that the other thing what happen you over sleep anyway certain things we're scared of for no reason there are certain things we're supposed to be scared of we're supposed to be concerned of the Cod of our friends the cavod of our spouse the T things like that we're supposed to be concerned about but there's certain things that we're scared of that are unnecessary and the more we're scared of them we actually bring it to ourself and one of the sources that he says is that this is from SCH that the fear of a person will actually cause this falling meaning the fact that you're scared of it is the reason why it happened to you I can tell you something that happened to me we uh had a uh doctor a uh Rabbi recommend that we should get a uh certain uh type of uh you know Basra said this is good to have in a house it's good to have in a house okay so I looked it on the internet like anything else internet and I ordered two or three bottles of it just to have it in the house I don't I have little kids stuff happens they fall they jump they this they that said okay so just in case I don't have to run to the store in the middle of the night nothing is everything is good now but in case I need it I have it until now I haven't need it I haven't needed it but in case I need it I have this Basra this special Basra that uh the uh Rabbi that knows what he's talking about recommended said okay fine I bought it not 24 hours pass I needed to use it now I think about this that oh wait a minute I bought the pentration oh good that I I thought oh it's a good thing I had the pentration I need to use it oh right that's what you think wrong wrong why hem says why are you buying a cure when there's no ailment oh you're worried something's going to happen okay something's going to happen then now a lot of the people that don't have any whatsoever going to tell you wait a minute isn't it important to you protect your you have to protect yourself you have to have reserves you have to have protection you have to have guns you have to have we all this stuff that people say yes you have to if you have no if you the more stuff you have as a backup plan a backup IRA account a backup 401k account a backup bank account a backup safe account a backup uh gun a backup Uzi a backup atomic bomb a backup everything you have a backup a lot of stuff okay you have a lot of backups problem is that you have no because you're backing up because you have zero confidence in hem running the show like you want him to and sometimes hasem is going to talk to you he's going to tell you listen you bought a cure when there was no ailment why did you think I was going to cause an ailment why do you think that I was going to let why did you think I was going to cause anyone to need this and that's what is saying he's not saying don't be prepared be prepared for things that are necessary not unnecessary because if you're worried about things that are unnecessary you're actually bringing them on yourself because there was no problem before but the fear that actually the person had since it's considered a sin since it's considered a sin guess what sins what do they get sins get punishment so the person has NOA the Satan comes to hm and says hem look at this guy look at this big sinner what what did he do he B pentration oh we have to do something hem the Satan fights we have to do something this guy has zero brought pentration R look at brought pentration for no reason everybody's perfect he brought pentration he has no in you and okay okay give him a little punishment let's just just give him some a reason to use this pentration that's why mosu calls the Satan evil why he looks for everything everything look he fell here he fell here he fell here he fell here he gives you the idea listen you have kids buy some pentration well you crazy you going to go in the middle of the night or you think uh these stores open 24 hours a day which they are by the way but anyway you think they going to be open 24 hours a day maybe they need it right away you're crazy you don't have it in the house the rabbi recommended it this one recommended it you should do it is that he puts all this crazy ideas in your head next thing you know your whole house turns into a pharmacy the hospital comes to you to borrow stuff like sir uh yeah yeah we need uh we need some uh some uh dressing uh we need some uh antibiotics uh painkillers uh let me see what else is on the list hold on change the page and we have they have a shopping list they come to your house because you have so much stuff Hashem says why you have no trust in me why you have no in me why do you have a hospital in your house for what same thing goes where today it's very common for people to go on the internet and make themselves sick how by looking to self diagnose self diagnosis one of the worst things a person can do to themsel what do they do they have like a little pain on the right side or they have a little pain on the left side or they don't really have a pain but they heard that somebody has a pain and they say you know what let me let me let me do my friend a favor and start seeing what this pain on the right arm means and they start going on the internet on Web MD on this MD on on Mayo Clinic and I say oh headache tiredness laziness oh my God she has cancer honey I'm sorry baby I'm sorry I love you I know you're my best friend for 25 years but I think you have Lupus I think you have Lupus honey I'm sorry I'm sorry what the girl say what what you have well lupus how do you know you're a doctor you're a researcher you're a psychiatrist where are you no I saw on the internet headache laziness uh tiredness uh you are you light what what happened that's what we do to oursel why we have no we start going on the internet we start diagnosing oursel why because you had a little pain here a little pain there something happened you don't like you don't a person that has real the ramban raan says he doesn't even go to the doctor but that's this person that has highest level of why because the ran says that doctors are for people that have no fear of hem they have no connection to Hashem at all that's who doctors are for that's a ran in 900 years ago if he saw this generation he think he's in G home so the reality is we know where where a person can get to where literally a person that has serious connection to doesn't only not diagnose himself or anything like that but he literally anytime there's any type of issue he never thinks oh this is a problem or this is this he simply goes to the only doctor you need who I know one person like this I know one person like this where something's wrong you're thinking well you really need like a hospital 91 I'm going to call 911 no I already did oh you called 911 finished no doctors no hospitals no nothing why called a it's better than 911 it's better than 911 and that's how they live their life that's how they live their life that's real so first and foremost a person needs to do everything possible not to bring fear onto thems for no reason unwarranted fear most of the time when we make different types of crimes against hem it's because of these things it's because of our unwarranted fear where we're afraid that we're not going to be able to pay for something or buy something and therefore we start doing things that are illegal people that steal don't usually start off as wicked people usually they start off as like an act of desperation usually they're scared of not being able to pay the rent on time or the mortgage on time or they owe somebody money and they're putting pressure on them and something happen Happ s and all the pressure you know Cooks them and Cooks them and Cooks them and eventually they say I got to do something but I got to do something quick why going to work for my job I'm gonna make x amount of money it'll take me 100 years to make this money back I can't do it so I gotta do something quick and they go do something out of desperation the worst thing that can happen to them is it works out they go and they take money they cheat somebody they steal from somebody they cheat the government or they do something like for example I remember years years ago there was a show that I saw called the um American Greed and uh it showed different types of people that uh cheated the government cheated the US government because the US government has such a huge budget we talk about trillions of dollars even in those time in that day maybe it was 10 trillion dollar budget uh oh I'm sorry uh $400 billion budget the economy was $10 trillion 400 billion dollar budget that to cheat them for 501 $200,000 or even a few million dollars is easy why because there're that's so much money and it's not their money it's not the employees money that no one really cares you have to press the button in the back it's going uh dead turn on the button thanks so what ends up happening is that there's a lot of holes in the system so there's you know obviously people that are desperate or just uh not straight people they take advantage of it so there's one particular company that took advantage of them by selling the government tools but at obnoxiously expensive prices where once they finally caught them which was like five or seven years after the fact they started reviewing and auditing the statements of all the purchases and they would see they sold them one screw that you buy at Home Depot for two cents for $85,000 and they got paid a hammer you could buy for $3 9,000 all types of ridiculous prices and since everything is like systematic you know they press a button check check check check check check finished sometimes because they have somebody on the inside sometimes no but the point is is that the guy that started this company this Tool Company he didn't start off with saying I can't wait to cheat the government if he's normal he start off I I want to start a business so I could pay my bills provide for my family and hopefully I I'll land you know a couple of big clients one day once he landed the government as a client he's like wow this is great man the government is a client it's the best client in the world unlimited budget you could pretty much sell them everything forever they buy it even if they don't need it greatest thing in the world so you have the biggest biggest customer in the world then one day what happens is that the guy makes a mistake he uh instead of writing $38 on a uh on three hammers he writes 800 by mistake this 3 38.0 he forgot the zero and he got paid he got paid 3,800 for instead of $38 he said whoa I got $3800 just help me pay my mortgage came right in time what even says what a special present from Hashem he thinks it's a mitvah even and now that's what Satan tells him Satan tells him look you needed $4,000 I gave it to you see government paid you $4,000 what's the problem and unfortunately now he says oh you know what next time I get into a jam I'll do it again next time he got into a little bigger Jam next time it was a $5,000 Jam so he sold him two instead of $50 it was $5,000 he got paid again and little by little this grows little by little this is this is how it happened same thing happens with Ponzi schemes if anyone who doesn't know what Ponzi schemes are simply said it's one person that collects a bunch of people's money with a uh intention to invest their money in something that's going to make them more money than what they have right now but there's usually some type of gimmick to it where they tell you listen you're guaranteed to get a certain type of return within a certain amount of time frame which anyone that's an expert in the field knows whatever the guarantee is is unrealistic but since people's desire and obsession with money is above and beyond their Common Sense people fall for it time and time again there still a million Ponzi schemes going on right now there will be Ponzi schemes going on tomorrow and yesterday and a day before and a month from now there're always are I personally think that a good large portion of uh financial management companies are Ponzi schemes personally but you only know you only know who's naked once the uh the market is down you only know who's swimming naked once the the the waves start going back into the ocean right now you can't identify the Ponzi scheme so much unless they mess up big time because it looks like everybody's making money right now cuz the Market's up for 10 years in a row 12 years in a row as soon as the market crashes watch there's going to be a slew of Ponzi schemes slew of them one after another people are going to go to jail day after day same thing that happened in 2008 same thing a lot of the money that's being made right now is fake but anyway moving on these Ponzi schemes usually don't start as Ponzi schemes they start off with somebody's idea to make other people money and he gets people money and he makes unrealistic promises and people give money and then one day he realizes I can't deliver on these promises I messed up but his ego is too big his ego is too big to admit listen I can't deliver on his promises not only I can't deliver on the Promises I lost you money instead of making you money what happens he says okay they want some people want their money back okay I got to do something he starts giving Peter's money to Paul Paul's money to Steve Steve's money and and starts playing games with people's money and this goes on for as long as he's able to continuously get new money in as long as he's able to continue get new investors money in the Ponzi scheme can go on for 50 years like Bernie ma off but as soon as the well dries up as soon as investors say no more or they want to take the money out Ponzi schem collapses in 24 hours now the guy that had a Ponzi scheme Bernie made for example but he didn't start off that way he didn't start off with like I have an intention to steal a bill $50 billion dollar maybe he wanted to do this maybe he want to do a few moves a few quick things a few things that are not necessarily the most legit but you didn't have this grand scheme it just got out of hand usually most thieves are like that and the reason why is because they have no inem they have in themselves and as soon as their own system fails them they have nothing to fall back on because they have no Hashem and that problem manifests and causes a lot of other people to fall with them so here we see that by simply being worried simply being worried about things unnecessarily you are creating problems for yourself how much if if you do if you today if we finished here at this point how many of us can go home and spend a good 20 30 minutes thinking about all the stuff they're worried about every day for no reason everybody could do that everybody goes home say you know what what 20 minutes in five minutes I can figure out 90% of my days is worrying about nothing worrying about all the things that are unnecessarily worrying about this worrying about that worrying about worry worry nonstop most people are so worried they don't have time to even enjoy good so the bet is saying you worry you have a serious problem why your worry is a sin that sin deserves a punishment that punishment is exactly what you're worried about measure for measure so already in the first paragraph We have some serious Life Changes now how do we move forward the Prophet Jeremiah writes in chapter 1 verse 17 don't be broken with fear before them lest I break you in front of them don't be afraid before things happen because if you do it I'll actually I'll actually cause them just because you're afraid says was walking behind ra went like this you know all of us do it I do it five times a day ah like one of those like you're like frustrated with life ah I can't believe it like one of those things do it 900 times a day sometimes well apparently there's something wrong with that why you side and rauna says are you trying to bring suffering to your life suffering to my life why I just went do a lot of people do it he goes yeah that ah symbolizes something symbolizes frustration frustration symbolizes lack of you have no trust in hem you have no faith in hem you're making a sin right now hm's going to punish you for it what are you doing doing this is atana made this mistake it's not just an average Joe made a mistake why because we forget ourselves sometimes human nature he says but you making this mistake is a problem you could bring yourself some serious problems because the prophet job said the object that I feared because I feared it It Came Upon me just because I feared it that's what happened to me job was afraid afid of losing all of his money he lost all of his money he was afraid of losing all of his sons all of his kids all of them died in the same day he was afraid of losing his health got sick to a point where worms were coming out of his body all the things he was afraid of that's what happened to him meaning he got to live his own nightmare of course he was at the level to overcome it but nonetheless he says that this is a problem why because the book of Deuteronomy chapter 20 verse number one says that when you go out to war and you see horses and chariots don't be afraid of them what does it mean the rambam in his says that it's a negative not to have fear when at War if a person has fear when he's going to war he has to return from the battlefield the reason is because the fear itself may cause other people to die him and other people to die because if he dies he's afraid to die what hasm do you have no me you don't think I'm G to protect you I'll kill you now what happens if he dies not just in by Dying by himself why he dies some other soldiers depending on him to cover him he's depending on his cover he died there's no cover the guy doesn't realize he's shooting this way he's thinks he's cover for him but he died already so what happens he thinks everything's okay the guy comes back be that's two now three four five DAV Shalom would say anyone that even spoke as a mistake made a mistake and spoke between putting his arm fine his head you're not supposed to speak you put on your arm supposed to say the blessing and be quiet until you finish your head and tying your arm and even then you're not allowed to speak mundane things you're only allowed to pray a lot of people speak mundane things having on says very very bad things about people like that horrible things needless to say David says sometimes there's a mistake people make a mistake where they're not thinking and they put on theirin and the armed and somebody says hey how you doing and they say I'm good oh not to speak so what do you do you have to put on the head and do a second do second says yes even though there's a Pon there's a solution to it because you spoke in between it's still not good it's still not 100% kosher why you mentioned aem's name one more time than was really necessary you weren't really supposed to mention him the second time as the Second Blessing meaning you made an extra blessing to save your mistake that's enough I don't want you to be a soldier says I don't want you to be a soldier for me why just that is enough for hasm to kill you in a war and if you die you cause other people to die do me a favor go back to your wife play with your kids don't come to war with us we don't need you now who is this person not only is this person a GI a warrior that's you always have room for warriors but he's a sadik too what's his sin it's not like was saying his sin was you know wasting seed married woman no no people like that get death penalty no this guy what did he do what sin did he make he just spoke by accident he said in between the says do me a favor go go back to your wife why you're going to kill her us you're to kill us so here we see that a person even if a person's mind is not in the right place already we don't want him to go to war even more so even if he didn't make a sin like that where simply he had human nature which is he's afraid to die why poor guy he's already not in his best shape ever he's got three four kids at home his wife he's got a mortgage he's got a company he's got a business he's got employees he's got a lot of stuff going on he hasn't been going to the gym and now you telling me he has to go to war so he's thinking you know what I'm not like what I used to be I was 18 years old I was strong I was this I was a sniper ah now I'm a little slow and plus my knee hurts a little bit and my shoulder I don't know he's a little worried he's a little worried that maybe I'm not going to survive this war so when he says goodbye to his wife he says honey we had a good time I love you you know like take care of the kids for me like one of those goodby like I don't know if I'm going to see you again to says you my friend are not allowed to go to war why that saf that doubt that you have in your mind could actually be enough for hm to kill the person and if that person died cause other people to die do us a fa stay home okay exactly one of the one of the main things that causes a person to have lack of lack of uh connection to is because of his sins that's why the ramban the ramban says is that he's saying someone that goes to the doctor is only somebody that has no what does one thing have to do with the other it says the fact that he has to go to the doctor that means he's getting punished why is he getting punished because he made a sin why do he make a sin because he has no he has no that's why he go to the doctor so the same concept here somebody that has make certain sins so there's a certain disconnect between him and a because there's a certain amount of Disconnect between him and a that means he doesn't have full faith in hem that disconnect doesn't only lead to sin it also leads to lack of also leads to lack of everything else the I'm not going to go into cabala but I learned this once is that a the cabalist explain it this way there is a uh spiritual pipes if you will that connect our to Heaven that are connected constantly so just imagine I don't know imagine there's like a bunch of pipes or cords or whatever you want to call it to connect your n to Heaven each one of these chords represent a certain amount of space a certain amount of where you can get shefa you can get reward from heaven when a person makes a sin some sins literally cut off the cords now k k when a person let's say for example waste seed or violat Shabbat or does any goes to with a married woman that's not his wife one of these or his wife is n what does that do what does k do sh all of them at once meaning that from that moment after he cut all of them off he has to now rebuild he has to rebuild yes do CH rebuild the connections from the beginning very difficult because K is 36 different things that says this is the deal breaker where this is the weight of the entire Torah on this particular sin where in essence when a person makes such a sin it's the equivalent as if he doesn't believe in him at all because hasem says okay there's certain things that you shouldn't do there's certain things that are not advisable but there certain things that if you do them you're simply destroying our relationship what is it like a guy is married his wife says listen yelling at me I don't like it I don't suggest you do it cursing at me terrible terrible idea probably not going to talk to you for a day or two yelling and cursing at the same time add another couple of days to it don't answer my phone calls even more so list goes on list goes on but then it says says she gets to the top she says listen you hit me once I'm not talking to you for three weeks three weeks but you cheat on me for a second I'm divorcing you the hating is terrible the cursing horrible yelling awful but cheating that's it every normal woman every normal man when they know that they spouse cheated on them that's the end of the relationship why because that means that first and foremost that person has lost all respect for the other person like they have no value for this relationship number two they simply don't have the them in their future as part of the plan why because you're taking such magnificent risks next point is your heart is not with me your heart is somewhere else why if you allow your heart to be with this woman and that woman and this woman and that woman every other day that means there's something wrong and it point is that anyone that thinks about it the people that cheat I don't mean that just simply somebody had a crazy desire he got drunk or she got drunk and she did something and no mean somebody that did it where it's like a relationship they actually pre-plan this and so on but even somebody that got drunk it's also a very serious problem and the reason why is because people that get drunk or do something stupid Under the Influence it's not be they didn't do it because they were under the influence they've always wanted to do it before they were under the influence just that once they got drunk or high or whatever it is they in essence allow themselves to do what they've always wanted to do so the point being is that there are certain things that simply that's the breaking point same thing where somebody that works for a company company can say listen if you tell us that you're working every day but in reality you're cheating on the time clock every day 15 minutes every half hour no good we're probably going to dock you you show a plate we're probably going to take this you uh incomplete your work no good but you steal from the company finished why steal from the company or you take our traits Secret sell it to the uh competitors cut off why because that pretty much that shows that the relationship is has irreparable damage you no longer consider this relationship as something valuable you are now hurting this relationship which means that we have to end our ties now with a because he's not only our King but he's also our father he doesn't want to disconnect from us but at the same token he's not going to give us a free right forever if we continue sinning with the irreparable damage type of sins then we stay in that horrible status but if we fix ourselves thenm we start off hasem says that we could begin as if nothing ever happened the r actually says that he gives a fantastic uh description of it I don't remember Every Word by heart but he says the rambam says look at the B Chua before he did chuva he was considered despicable disgusting Abomination ugly awful hated but now he did chuva he's beloved he's wonderful he's beautiful hasem loves him one second why he did Chua she did Chua she decided to put on clothes she started to keep Shabbat hasem considers the past disconnect different person different person so the rabam says here that a person that is worried is going to bring a lot of problems to themsel and other people because that worry itself is literally a sin and the prophet Isaiah says in chapter 30:1 15 says with security and Trust will be your might meaning that the fact that you have you have confidence in hem that's what's going to give you strength to win the war it's not the weapon it's not the Iron Dome it's not how many planes you have it's not many bombs you have no no no you have faith in Hashem that Hashem will take care of you that's enough in reality that's the only thing that can protect you and writes in t 1186 Hashem is with me therefore I have no fear of what man may do to me since I feel hasem is with me therefore I do not fear and therefore no man can harm me at all so in our we say this every day and it's very very easy to get so used to our uh prayer that we really don't ever delve into the meaning of the words after amid we read number 25 I believe and both read it I think so no read after no actually no you don't so the uh read after after we read 25 and uh it's a very famous that so says that my soul is being lifted to my God because I trusted him what did he trust him in that he's not going to let me be embarrassed and he won't let my enemies Rejoice over me here in a first verse of this it's in essence the worry that every human being has we don't necessarily fear loss because of ourselves all the time we fear loss because of what other people think of us losing money is bad enough Lo losing status is much worse I remember one woman told me listen we have the Foreclosure happening they had a foreclosure M foreclosure happening scheduled for a certain date and they were trying to get the money together but there was a high likelihood they're not going to get the money together in the end ended up getting the money together but she told me there's something that I'm thinking about it right now and it really fits she says to me she says listen the money the the the the house I lose I lose it it's from hasem what can I do it wants to take it take it I love the house lived in the house for you know so many years I don't want to lose the house but if it goes what could I do oh so I'm wow what woman is yeah but here's the thing what I can't handle is all the neighbors are going to see the sheriff come to the house and lock the door that I can't handle that I rather die she tells me the neighbors seeing the sheriff lock the door put one of those tapes on do not enter one of the caution or whatever it says auction taking place in front of the house she says for that I rather die all the neighbors that don't like me all the neighbors that this all the neighbors all this all that a person thinks about the embarrassment that's that happens to them as a result of loss as a result of divorce as a result of things like that it's unbearable and that's actually leads a lot of people to commit suicide and do a lot of stupid things because they're literally more petrified of the shame then the are of the actual loss this actually means that they have a different problem aside from having a problem of money or whatever the issue is they also have a problem with kavod pride and pride the ramban says in his letter and he get raan is the worst mid you can possibly have unfortunately many of us suffer from it because we think that we're something special because we're smart or we're good-look or we're rich or this or whatever for some reason all of us justify some reason that we should be proud of so even David says that I have trust in Hashem that he's not going to let my enemies Rejoice over me that's what I trust even that was called himself he's a worm but not a man he said I trust that hm is not going to get me to such a point I trusted him he's not going to get to such a point that my enemies are going to Rejoice over me but he says we hope we hope all of us hope in you that we should not be embarrassed that we should not be uh uh ashamed that we should not be uh mistreated uh teach us your ways inform me your ways lead me into your uh truth Lead Me In Your Truth for you are the god of my salvation for you I I thought about you all day all day I'm hoping about thinking about youm please remember your mercies AEM your kindness the Eternal kindness that you have and my sins but my sins that I did in my past don't remember those don't don't hold those things again me against me because if you do no one can no one can stand withstand these things so here we see that himself is concerned about all this but then later on the same he says he says see my Affliction my toil meaning see all the horrible things that actually ended up happening to me meaning all the things he was worried about in the beginning he's not going to be embarrassed of all you know in front of his enemies and so on look at all those horrible things that are actually happening to me and if you compare it to my sins why am I getting made one sin and all this horrible things are happening to me and he says but what's the difference between us and please AEM you you protected my soul until now despite all this bad stuff happening to me don't let me be ashamed because I take refuge in you meaning even though I was afraid of bad things to happen and they ended up happening I'm still going to you because you're the only thing that I have why because the only thing that preserved me was my innocence my honesty I knew where I was wrong I knew where I was right I knew what's I was connected to to you from the beginning and in you is what I had my hope in so please hem redeem uh isem SL from all of its troubles and hem will redeem from all of its sins so here we see that even though some of the things that DAV worried about actually ended up happening he knew he knew that he caused it himself Hashem is right so that's why I still go back to you and that's why in the end he says please AEM redeem from all of its trouble and you're redeemed from the sins why because the sins cause the troubles the sins cause the troubles so here we see that David himself constantly worked on his own now the discussed and Trust in hem on a regular basis because they knew that without without trust in hem a person simply cannot survive one some of the examples I can give you is this was one of the students ofka he didn't start as a sage he started as someone that knew a little bit of tah religious but he started as an average uh businessman one day he's on a train and as you would have it the also goes on the train they have a conversation and without wasting much time asks his uh he says so how are you preparing how are you preparing for the future he says oh I have uh you know I have big business I sell uh Lumber looks at him he says no no no how are you preparing for eternity the future the trees they don't accept them in sham they don't accept them in sham these trees as many trees you have you can have a whole Forest still no good one tree they don't accept in sh one tree even if it's a bonsai tree still no good so the was at a level in his generation that that was enough M for him to do cha what chuva conversation finished got off the next station went to the other side of the terminal wait for the station went back all the way home all the way back home sold all of his business all of his Lumber all of his wood open 30 and spend the rest of his life teaching T teaching M and European jewry American jewry all of it started with the Sab it's that's why it's bizarre when people are anti- in this generation why because if there's no there's no all of the is you have in the world today started that from this story now theka didn't just go from zero to 150 miles an hour in one day so what would he do he would constantly test himself he says listen my rebi he had not just good M where one day he was late to the says everything okay he never late he goes oh yeah well on the way to the K in the morning at 6 o'clock in the morning I heard all night I heard that there was a uh uh in the morning I saw that there was a uh the roof for my neighbor had a piece making noise I figured you know what this is going to you know make them uh wake up it's making noise it's flapping this piece on the roof so I got my ladder and I climbed their roof and I fixed it and then I came so that's why I was late 25 minutes because I had to fix my neighbor's roof they didn't ask me they're still sleeping they don't even know he did it but he was he cared so much about the next yid that to him the next Jew losing a little bit of sleep because the roof is making some noise mattered to him to such an extent he says you know what this is worth it for me to be late to go learn to now this same he didn't only have fantastic midot where he worried about every Jew where he cared about every Jew where he cared about the T but he constantly proved it to his action and his connection with one time there was a debate between and his students now his students were weren't regular people each one is so they're having a debate it's like having the you know Giants of generation they all having a debate it's like there's like spiritual Fire coming to shamine so now they're having a debate what's the debate about says you are supposed to have 100% for every big thing and every small thing to the extent where if you believe that something's gon to happen right now hem will make it happen says now you taking it too far works for you he says no no no it's not about hasem works for you shalom it's not about works for you it's if you believe that AEM is watching everything and can do anything mamash you believe he can do everything but now you say you believe but you believe it he'll do it just because you believe in him and they had a debate back and forth is this proof that proof this proof this proof he says here I'll prove it to you all right now how I believe I am going to get a gold watch today now in those days 150 years ago to have a gold anything a gold anything well you were already rich people are poor as dirt back then if you read the bios of of that generation half the book is about the poverty they overcame I was reading this weekend the bio ofman you read about the poverty went through we wouldn't survive a day in their shoes a day I'm not talking about a week a month a year a day one day we would not survive in their shoes Shalom he would not feed his own family his wife and kids until his students in Thea 400 500 students had food and if the students at the ISA did not have chicken family is not allowed to have chicken we eat what they eat they don't eat I don't eat yeah it's a lot easier to feed five six people than four 500 so let us eat at least we'll survive no if they're not eating we're not eating unbelievable now says I believe I'm going to get a gold watch today and the Witnesses were all there there all thinking H the rabbi took it a little too far as soon as he's finished the sentence soon as he's finished like a movie like a movie five soldiers Russian soldiers come inside Burge inside the co theid people are scared what's happening you know usually Russian shoulders show up it's not good news leader of them says who's the leader here who's the biggest uh wise person here who's the biggest here in Russian everybody points what are they going to do lie every points at the rebi H okay sir here he takes out of his pocket a box he hands it to him opens the Box gold watch now obviously people will say great but what's the story behind it uh can you please tell us where' you get this watch like oh he says we were at War my buddy my best friend died at the war but before he died before he got shot and died he gave me this watch and he told me listen do this is my dying wish give this watch to the biggest in the for Jewish people that's my dying wish and then he died and I said I'm going to deliver on the promise and today I'm delivering on the PR the decree was written in sh decided he's going to be the vessel the gold watch was already decided however when when the guy died a month before a week before a year before whenever it happened meaning there was a golden watch going somewhere when said I'm going to get a watch because I believe that will give me the gold watch because I have I'm going to get it he made himself The Vessel not because he said it because he believed it so this is if this is the rabbi you can imagine the students so now the sa his student he wants to be like his rebi who doesn't want to be like his rebi so says I have to test myself so I told you guys remember I told you guys a story of where one time he went to a train station and he's sitting in the train station and uh at this point some other Jew is sitting next to him and goes hey how are you start talking says where you going I'm going where this Train's going where are you going I'm going the same place oh okay you know it's in a few minutes yeah yeah where's your ticket you have a ticket he goes no he goes well it's not free you can't buy ch tickets on on a train you have to buy it from the teller over here he says it's going to be fine what all you want but you have to buy a ticket Hashem helps but you have to help yourself no is isn't there some mitvah you have to help yourself somewhere help yourself by going to the T buying a ticket five bucks this is so the guy can't live with himself the rabbi is he's an honorable person he's sitting here with no ticket and uh he's about to miss the train 5 minutes 4 minutes 3 minutes 2 minutes 1 minute he can't take there one minute before the train he's going to miss the train I'm sure he's going to some place important the guy couldn't take it he runs to the tell buy a ticket gives the hey rabie here's the ticket but next time don't be so crazy says to him I told you be just next time be is going to come to somebody else Hashem will send me the ticket some other place meaning the whole thing was him training himself he didn't say like a lot of people say but it's like it mean means nothing it means nothing it's like sometimes you know people say to each other you see couples that can't stand each other say I love you honey love you too and your guy says I can't wait you die why hopefully you get a stroke I love you I love you honey hope you get a stroke before I get home it's fake why they said so many times they can't stand each other why because in reality just words means nothing sometimes we say I love you to hem like that we say but we're violating Shabbat we say but we're looking at every woman that moves we say we're stealing from our in our business we say when it comes to all of a sudden we don't have any money we always have money when we see all of our rich friends we always oh I just got the car you got the car also I got the car also oh I just ordered I'm on a back order I'm in a front order everybody's comparing houses comparing cars comparing watches oh is yours real yeah 35,000 I got it I got but the guy comes for ah yeah you know tough times are rough hold on let me see if I have five on me hold on a second hold on a second hey you know what I'll give you 20 gives a guy 20 like he just did listen remember me no like he just bought him a uh you're talking about million dollar cars and $100,000 house all this stuff but when it comes to the car all of a sudden nobody has any money see we say but when it comes to money we forget AEM when it comes to watching our eyes we forget AEM when it comes to learning T we forget AEM that's like a husband telling his wife I love you but in reality he's cheating on her that's like a a wife telling her husband I love you but she never ever makes anything any food for him she never cleans the house she never does anything that he wants all of a sudden anytime he wants something to eat she exactly makes the opposite like inar there's actually a story like that one of the one of the T had an evil wife she would dka make the opposite whatever he want she make the opposite so his son called on to this he says ABA she's making the opposite it's okay it's okay son so the son felt bad for his father all these years every time he ask her he wants rice she makes beans she he wants beans she makes everything the opposite so one day he caught on to it so someone want to do something good so he started telling his mom the opposite so after a couple of weeks the the father sees that all of a sudden his wife did Chua everything he asked for she's doing he says you know son your mom is really uh she's giving me she's doing serious chv goes no no ABA nothing's changed and he tells him the whole thing is really I call on to everything she she's going to do I do the opposite just like she's doing to you oh I appreciate what you're doing but says from a thing of Lies run away from so even though I appreciate what you're doing stop doing it because you're going to get used to lying you get used to lying you don't get used to sinning get used to sinning our problem is not going to be bad food it's going to be much bigger so now the didn't only try himself at the train station he constantly gave himself tests and he writes in the book all types of tests that he gave himself where one time he told himself I'm going to go to study in my cabin in the middle of the woods because I believe with fulla 100% that hem will provide me light I believe not hopefully it happens hopefully the the money comes somehow that I'm able to pay the rent no no no no I believe that I will have everything I need if we need it we buy it yeah well how you going to pay for it if we need it Hashem will provide that was his mentality he went to the woods 100% certain that hashm will provide him light how did he show that he's 100% certain he brought books he didn't tell anybody where he's going and he went to the woods now if you go into the middle of the woods already it's dangerous with no light might as well do kadish on yourself why because all the animals go there he goes into the woods he starts learning the Sun starts going down starts going down starts going down the light gets darker and darker and darker and as soon as it gets to a point where Mas all loss of light he reaches back to grab somebody's hand somehow comes out of somewhere cuz no one knew who he was he never saw the person gives him a candle and he uses the candle what's the proof the candle continued being lit for over 20 years people from all over the world would come and look at this candle as proof because anytime somebody had problems say oh what's the proof that Hashem really watches everything oh go to the mid which one the mid there's a candle over there it never goes out what do you mean mdash goes yeah mikash 20 years 20 years the candle was lit same candle never goes down why not because he said but because he believed he believed BM now to finalize tonight I'll give you a little bit of a tool to use because this is a constant problem that we all have when we're trying to do chuva hem wants to build us he wants us to have like the he wants us to like he wants us to like he wants us to to be the best we could possibly be but you cannot be the best you could possibly be without overcoming obstacles you can't so what does he do he brings us obstacles every time you pass you go to the next level guess what the next obstacle will be bigger than the last one you pass this one you got a bigger obstacle pass the next one and so on and so forth well people complain I don't understand ever since I did chuva all of a sudden I'm losing money all of a sudden I'm losing this all of a sudden I'm losing that why doesn't hasem love me why this what is it like how do we explain this Shalom explained it in a fantastic analogy he says there was one time a woman this woman she had few things going for her but she was unmarried and she wanted a one day to her surprise Mr Prince Charming shows up at the door he says yes I heard about you and uh I like everything about you and I want to get married good-looking Rich famous everything's good for him I do she doesn't know his name yet I do no no hold on a second hold on a second I only have one condition I need you to arrive at the wedding with no debt no obligations I just want you she says yeah but I have stuff to do he goes okay fine no problem I'll give you two months two months to get rid of all the stuff that you have close all the doors all the things that you have to do and then two months from now I want you to show up at the wedding okay deal so now she has to close off all debts she starts doing a financial statement she sees okay I have all of this outstanding debt I owe all this money I have this amount of money so she has to start calling people says oh listen uh I owe you $5 here you go close the account I owe you $10 here you go I ow you $50 here you go I ow $100 here you go oh I owe you $5,000 I don't have $5,000 I could settle for uh 500 that's the most I can give you no what are you crazy you owe me 5,000 no listen that's all I can do next guy listen I owe you 50,000 can't pay you anything can't pay you I'm sorry just can't do it I got to close this business we're closing down out of business sale out of business sale so she's trying to negotiate and the people are saying no yes no yes one month passes two month pass three months pass four months pass six months pass now the prince is waiting he says what's going on so one of his people says uh listen your highness um this uh loving bride of yours uh she's still trying to close the doors because you told her the condition is that there's no uh no debt no problems and she's still trying to close all the doors and uh it's simply not happening because why isn't it happening because she's trying to negotiate with everybody go give me the phone calls one of his sergeants goes listen get me all of the people she owes money to to come to the castle right now he brings everybody to the castle goes listen guys why are you always fighting with her this what you do all of you gather together and file a class action lawsuit against her all of you gather together instead of negotiating IND ually all of you gather together class action lawsuit take everything she has says your highness your genius genius now we're GNA have some power Al together save money on legal cost save headache fine that's what they do all of a sudden she's trying to negotiate all of a sudden she doesn't get any phone calls everything becomes quiet she starts to get a little worried until one day somebody shows up at the door gives 150 page document sign here there you go you've been served and she sees class action lawsuit foreclosure this closure that closer our whole world collapses she doesn't know what to do she has no idea what's going on what's Happening who could I call oh she what she calls the prince she goes I don't know what I'm going to do I'm in a lot of trouble I'm going to need at least another 6 to eight months maybe a year before I go to this wedding why he says because I have a I have have a class action lawsuit just arrived at my door he goes oh great goes what great what do you mean great goes oh it was my idea she goes what do you mean was your idea he says I told him to file a class action lwuit against you she go you want to marry me but at the same time you're advising my enemies to smash down my door and file class action lawsuit against me he says yeah she say why' you do that because you were Tak so long I want to marry you already let's finish with it give him everything and let's get married clean that's a is telling you listen I've been waiting for your to connect for 3,300 years since Mount Si every generation you mess up and you have to come back again you mess up you come back again you mess up you come back again finally you're doing Chua I've been waiting all this time but he say no I'm not ready to do 100% chuva because my friends will make fun of me my job will uh fire me my this will that my this will that okay you know what no problem your job they'll fire you the wife shall divorce you the money you don't have it anymore I'll clean you up all the problems why I can't wait to see you my darling I can't wait to see you you see if you have that means you know the problems are coming from the prince so it's not a problem it's the solution but if you don't have bet you're struggling suffering every moment of your life because you think that the prince hates you you think the world hates you you think you're unlucky you think that everything is upside down maybe I shouldn't maybe this maybe that you have constant questioning in your life this is the first section of this uh of this book next week we'll continue from the page number two but hopefully this will give us a little bit of next uh sh is going to be on Tuesday we'll continue our M Tuesday night and Wednesday we are where are we Miami Wednesday we're going to be in Miami anybody have any questions hopefully you enjoy the Sho as much as I diden oh and by the way for anybody who uh 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