IS THIS A MEETING OR AN INTERROGATION?

[Music] one of the most obnoxious things that's become a acceptable in society today is every time you meet somebody it's like a job interview so what's your name I'm your own and what do you do nothing and uh where do you live nowhere I'm homeless and uh and like what why you asking me all these questions why what do you want to know what do you am I work for you you going to borrow money for me what do you care what do you care where I live you going to come to my house I don't want you to come to my house where do I work where you want a job why why what do you want why why you asking all these questions well you know why they asking the question is trying to size you up are you better than me or no what do you do why what do you do why do I care what you do if you're a dentist I'm going say oh you know what can you check my tooth over here what you why do I care what you do I want to know how much money you make you tell me you're a plumber I say oh well you work for RO R make uh 50 bucks a day okay okay yeah here some Saka hey hey budddy hey hey you know what I next time my toilet breaks I'll call you what are you going to tell the guy guys are the guy tells you no I'm a plastic surgent I'm a uh I don't know a uh lawyer makes $900 an hour $1,000 an hour in New York because people are stupid enough to pay that including myself I'm a lawyer I'm a doctor I'm a something I'm an engineer I invented something I invented uh paper you tell the guy that automatically he knows oh this guy I'm going to respect him not respect him I'm going to continue this conversation not going to continue this conversation I could use him not use him he's a prospective client he's not a prospective client it's m completely obnoxious now I used to do it also in the business World why because I was looking for clients so I'm making it very clear yeah oh you invest in the market like that's the third question oh what's your name what do you do oh you invest in the market why cuz I'm actually I'm making it very clear I want a client it wasn't exactly the greatest at these face tof face meetings because that's just the way I am but in general it's people size you up now if they don't know enough about how much people make or they're not really so sure how successful you are because you could say you're a doctor but you could be a doctor two three years out of med school so you're still practically you know paying your uh your loans still you're not really doing anything you know you're still a quar million dollars in debt half a million dollars in debt so even if you're making a 100,000 you still don't have money to eat so what's the next question where do you live where do you live why I know the area oh you live in Manhattan which part of Manhattan oh you live in downtown okay so you're like okay you like high income but not high assets you have high income cuz big rent or big mortgage but you don't have a lot of assets oh you're in a Midtown o which part of Midtown is it the west side west side you're like okay but not so much Upper East Side nice to meet you sir why you're the most you're richest guy in New York oh you live on billionaires Road yes sir would you like for me to drive you home there's a road called billionaires Road in New York why you only if you're a billionaire you're allowed to live there it's new fascinating how much money people actually have and no life whatsoever that they actually have to make a road called billionaires road but anyway the people want to size you up they want to know where you live you start telling them a certain area and they [Music] start now they're just doing calculations like it's like the chemicals like this like mad scientist in their head has like the smoke coming out of one uh jar and the other one he's about to put it in like trying to see what can I do with this he's a this he's a that he lives here what can I do with this guy and then they continue asking you these questions like you're in a job interview it's so annoying I try to run away from these things or I try to end them really quickly how do I end them really quickly I tell them what I do that's the benefit of doing what I do now if I on Wall Street if I say I'm on Wall Street then people want to continue talking to me but now it's not the same why it happened to me actually a few days ago a week two weeks ago whatever it was I went to this new Sho and [Music] uh sitting I try not to talk to anybody at the end of the prayer I try to usually run away but sometimes people stop me um yeah I'm not as social with other people as I am with you guys and uh anyway so I tried to run away but the rabbi of the Sho or of something was there stopped me and it said uh oh so uh what brings you here so I live here uh where do you live I live over there uh oh what do you do so I knew right away this is a good one I could say I'm a rabbi but then we're going to continue this conversation I do kiru you should have seen his face it's almost like I killed every cat in the neighborhood like oh like almost like I offended him it's the strangest thing in the world it's it's bugle it bugle your mind it's almost like I told him I'm a Nazi in Disguise but I like to go to beets for fun like strange oh really what's the problem I don't sell crack the kids I try to make Jews more religious he looks at me like oh wow the conversation ended conversation ended why that's the way the world works it's the way the world works either they love you or they hate you so so anyway I wish I I wish there was like a little camera following following around all these conversations very very interesting so anyway uh my my my wife and I laugh at this stuff all the time just it's just an interesting thing but anyway we um we see this all the time people size each other up where you live how many kids do you have is this your first marriage second marriage eighth marriage and so on and so forth it's very obnoxious it's actually not good to do uh at all if you want to get to know somebody ask them meaningful questions that will yield you no benefit whatsoever don't ask people what they do for a living don't ask people where they live ask them something that's meaningful something meaningful not where they live and what are you going to if he tells you he lives around the corner from you what are you going to do stop by his house like what you have to when you ask questions ask questions you actually want to know the answer to for a real positive reason not some selfish or egotistical or uh reason because also this could lead you to sin just to give you an understanding for example you tell him you you live let's say in a place where the you know you are I don't know you live in a lower middle class neighborhood and this guy or this woman that you met she you ask her where do you live and she tells you oh I live in this place and you know this place cheapest house on the Block is a million dollars guess what immediately unless you're very righteous person that works on themselves immediately you're making a sin what's that sin jealous oh we live in a million dollar house huh what do you do where' you get that million dollars who' you rob why because we're jealous we're jealous of other people if you have a jealousy Instinct you have to you have you have to make sure not to put yourself in that situation everybody knows themselves everybody knows themselves some people don't get jealous some people doesn't make a difference to them what you have you can have a helicopter on your front yard it won't make a difference to them some people they do it depends on you everybody has something if you're a jealous person in general refrain from asking people about materialism why because when they give you an answer you'll become jealous you'll make a sin from the so anyway moving on tells us a very invaluable lesson you want to get to know somebody or you want someone to know you tell them what's important to you if family is important to you that's what you talk about if uh money is important to you that's what you talk about if tour is important to you that's what you talk about that's what you show off about same thing vice versa if you want to get to know another person see what they want to talk about what are they more connected to if this person likes talk about politics that's who they are they're a politician even if they don't work for the government there's a lot of politicians don't get the salary almost 400 million in America alone so that's the next lesson e [Music]