PREPARE FOR YOM KIPPUR - STUMP THE RABBI (24)

[Music] okay oh I forgot to turn this one on there you go sorry try this again okay to everybody just completed we are now in the 10 days of CH the time frame between um and Yip we uh have a few days to prepare hopefully you guys have some questions uh today's uh sh will be for El Rael also for forish Mercedes and all of so uh hopefully everybody had a uh fulfilling R I know that uh this time of year for anyone who goes to uh Sho regularly you uh get to see a lot of people that live in your community that you never even knew existed because they don't go to the Sho regularly uh but uh they still have a connection they still have a connection to uh Tora to uh Judaism oh and also for you uh see that some people still want to have a connection with uh and do what most of us did growing up which is uh you do whatever you want during the Year Without Really two considerations about it but then you figure you're going to fix all your mistakes in one or two days you go to SCH on but for sure you're going to go to sh and fast on uh Yip if you think you saw a lot of people on wait till you see in a few days everybody shows up especially in the last hour and a half two hours last two hours when is everybody thinks that thear is blown it fixes all their problems so they go just for the shaar they sleep all day today cuz they're fasting like everybody was supposed to do today was supposed to fast today tell some people you have to fast why because uh they G died he goes yeah but I don't know him it's like yeah you don't know R AKA either you don't know but you have to fast because yeah but it was a long time ago okay it was a long time ago mosenu was also a long time ago goes yeah but uh I'm hungry like yeah but it didn't happen yet tomorrow is the fast no no I'm already today I'm hungry about tomorrow so today was a fast today was an obligatory fast and uh trust me when I tell you nobody likes the fast even the people that do it like sikim do at times that you don't need to do it which we'll talk about a little bit today there are times that you don't need to f but if you want to be a sadik maybe you should but like anything else before you do anything you have to ask your Rabbi because your Rabbi is the one that knows if you're capable of doing it or not not physically capable of doing it spiritually capable of doing it because sometimes people jump too fast and they do things that they're not capable of doing and they end up breaking because of it it actually happens very often in the chuva world where people get really zealous very quickly all of a sudden they want to rebuke the entire neighborhood they just learned the first three of Shabbat don't light fire don't uh you know uh murder anybody because the blood is to also it's not good to murder and it's also not good to make uh the blood everywhere and uh have K they already think oh no they're mosu two days they're mhu start rebuking people and in reality they're walking so your Rabbi knows where you stand whether you can or you can't do it and if you do things based on your own assessment of yourself you're guaranteed to become a rash with your CH you're gonna become a rash why that's says in 571 first a person who's fasting by choice in essence to do sins certain sins that a person did it's not enough to just stop sinning it's not enough to just stop sinning sometimes you have to fast to repent for those sins sometimes you have to pay money sometimes both says someone who's fasting by choice to do cha and can sustain it he is at a level that he can keep it fast he's called kadosh he's a holy person holy person he comes to your house says hone somebody Kos is coming to the house why this person fast but if he's not if he can't sustain it if he's not at that level if he becomes uh weak and sick RF Kal says he can't really function he's called what a sinner it's called why but he's fasting there notah everybody's complaining about fasting for y this guy's fasting Mondays and Thursdays how come says because the the purpose of fasting is to do chuva purpose of fasting is to do chuva it's not to just stop eating if you just stop eating that's called a diet it's called a diet it's no mitzvah for dieting you don't go to Ganan for being on a diet you go to Jenny Craig maybe maybe be on a commercial that you dieted maybe they'll pay you some money but as far as Gad you don't get G for for for doing Jenny Craig you don't get Gaden for being on Slim Fast you don't get ganeden for not eating all day all you get is a maybe a stomach ache that's it why because the whole point of of fasting we learned from the Tells to the prophet tell the nation I'm not interested in them ripping their clothes and putting sacks on and putting ashes on their head as a form of repentance I'm interested in them ripping their hearts meaning change your actions be sorry for what you did and do something about it some people are really really busy about the sorry but they don't do anything about it the key is to do something about it now the commentary on the by the called by R Moshe rash says that a person who's in the middle of eating and stops himself right before he takes a certain bite that he wants to eat if you haven't noticed the last bite is usually the best one last bite usually the best one has like all the flavors it's the one you always want so the says if he stops himself before he eats it for a few seconds like he wants to eat it but he said hold on second and then he eats it that's a form of tanit that's a form of small suffering like you just fasted a little bit without actually fasting showing that what what do we learn from here it's not about your diet that who really cares you eat you don't eat it's showing that you taught yourself how to control yourself you're no longer an animal you're not like a dog that's untrained where as soon as he sees food he runs he goes through the it jumps through the W you know through the window doesn't know he sees food he jumps after it no you're like a trained person well you know there's a time to eat there's a time not to eat because even withholding something delicious from yourself for a few seconds eventually you ate it though a few seconds is actually a form of tanit we call that it's t by the Raad the Raad is the one that came up with this it's a form of T this form of uh fasting obviously it's not a full fast it's not to the same level as a full fast but you guys get the idea now now who's doing these fasts somebody that used to be rash somebody that used to sin used to make all types of sins and he realizes that okay I got to fix myself there certain sins that I made that okay I have to do the steps of chuva first step of chuva is stop First Step first step is stop the sin if you're addicted to any type of food intimacy uh television all types of things that take your time attention money and so on remove you from hasem stop first stop you don't need to drive on Shabbat you could drive on Sunday you could drive on Monday you could drive on Tuesday Wednesday Thursday you could drive any other day don't drive on yeah but I want to go to Sho walk to Sho yeah but it's too far okay don't go to Sho if it's too if the sho's too far from your house to walk then don't go to Sho on Shabbat unless you can make arrangements to live close next to the sh during Shabbat yes can you ride a bike said no and the reason why is because not that it's a the same riding a bike is not the same as driving a car CU driving a car is M lighting a fire many fires and this is the opinion of all the doesn't matter if you everybody knows that driving a car or even being on a horse and carriage was never allowed but bicycle brought a question to say technically it's not fire still said not allowed why not allowed said because what if the bike breaks the down cuz the chain falls off if the chain falls off you're going to fix it you're not allowed to fix on Shabbat that's now let to fix on Shabbat which means that this bike what are you going to do you're not going to you have a $300 bike you're on his bike you want to go to Sho all of a sudden the chain falls off which happens very often falls off you going to say oh yeah I'll fix it but now technically you can't so you GNA do I leave it here I'm GNA take it with me creates problems says don't get yourself into a mess not allowed to go on a bicycle not allowed to go on a bicycle now you're going to see unfortunately in the more modern neighborhoods especially in America it's uh almost become that people go on bicycles today and the rabbis don't say a single thing about it in many shoes here you see that people ride on their bicycles and the rabbis don't say anything sometimes they even make a special space for them in the tool to park their bicycle on Shabbat although it's not right for people to go on their bicycle because told us not it's not wrong 100% for all of these rabbis to not say anything right away about it why because it's not is like the car it's not forbidden like the car now the reality is we spend every lecture at least half the lectur is rebuking everybody in this case I understand the situation that the rabbis are in why because right now we're in such a disaster in America in Florida I don't think there's a single bitet that doesn't have an operating parking lot on Shabbat people drive to sh here as if it's a Mitzvah so the rabbis are in such they're in such a problem such a dilemma he said listen I got one guy fin he's not driving he's on a bicycle I'm going to tell this guy something let me deal with the other 90 guys that are driving to Sho first then I'll deal with the guy that's going against the and uh going on a bicycle technically you're supposed to tell everybody including the guy that's on a bicycle but in reality you have such a big disaster where 90% of the kai is on a car and he's scared to tell them something how you going to tell the guy it's on a bicycle something go tell everybody else from now on don't drive to Sho don't come go tell tell them something before you tell this guy something right so that's the Dilemma so you should know you're not allowed to be on a bicycle according to and I promise you you don't want to go against the if they said it there's a reason for it but if you see a new B cha riding his bicycle to theet don't become crazy zealous P all of a sudden and start screaming at him in the middle of the hey hey don't see nothing wait let him do what he's got to do at some point maybe invite him to your house talk to him say by the way I got this K I never heard it before pretend like you're hearding about first time and you play this they say look it's not allow say not let to go on a bicycle whyless you turn you know you fix the chain then this he's going to be more than you what he's going to say yeah but today there's a chainless bicycle a chainless bicycle he says yes you're right it's a bicycle without a chain it exists a bicycle without a chain it exists still not allowed why said already by default walk walk it's not really the bicycle it's the fact that this is also bringing the mundan to the holy and that's also the issue with people that are going with their little Scooters or skateboards apparently nobody knows how to walk anymore Hashem gave everybody legs nobody knows how to use them oh it's far far oh it's a whole 12 minute walk Rabbi am I crazy I go my scooter two minutes you want me to waste time yeah I want you to waste time why you know how many books how many books I read on the way to sh already I try to make sure that I go every anytime I move I try to live a little you know far from the sh I don't want to go live close to the sh I live one time close to the Sho was the worst thing in the world why I stopped reading but I live far from 15 minute walk far not like three miles away far is like within a mile within a mile that means I'm walking a mile there a mile there 15 minutes each way with me I'm kind of slow because my health so sometimes 25 minutes a half hour takes me you know how much I can read in 25 minutes a half hour so the whole time I'm reading I'm finishing books everybody else is on the scooters making walking to becomes a to walk to take a little book take a little pamphlet take something some something good read it the whole way yeah aren't you going to run it something yeah you're going to run into eventually you train yourself you know how to walk with reading it it's no problem I've been doing it for years it works point is you have legs you have legs gave you those legs for a reason now what if somebody doesn't want to listen I'm going to tell you a story true story I know firsthand kazal says something if people mistreat it takes it personally they're not taking it personally why they're in gedan right now they're having a good time but in the honor of his children of his soldiers that Sanctified his name he takes it personally when you go against K so kazal made a Tak where they said said that when you say the k k it's coming among everybody whether you're doesn't matter to sing the song Shalom shom everybody knows the song right you guys have heard the song not for you right okay why because when you come back from SCH on Friday in essence what's happening you're bringing twoim with you says you bring two malim with you one is a good Mal one is not so good but they're both coming with you why they come to see the house if the house is ready it's holy the table is set that the house is prepared for Shabbat that the environment smells good it's good then the good Mal says may next Shabbat be just like this one gives you but if it's not if your house looks like it's the chairs are flipping on the table there's nothing on the table your notebooks your tools are still there m is all over the place no one's prepared your your your wife is still wearing a robe she doesn't even know it's Shabbat yet the kids just got out of bed no one knows what's going on then the bad Mal says curses what he says may next Shabbat be just like this everybody's fighting next Shabbat also so now these everybody knows these says says say they come to your house so in the honor of these we when we sing Shalom these angels that's what we sing the song shalom it's not talking about it's talking about these angels welcome these angels in the honor of these what do we do he's a special guest he's honorary guest what do we do we stand we stand kazal says stand now if you sit down during time if you sit down you're not going to if you sit down you're going to get that g for coming to the shield though G you come for the shield now if you sit down during Shalom you go to Gom or no no you don't go to Gom why you going to go to Gom it's not no but do the sages get offended I told you they didn't who gets offended hm gets offended why how come you're treating my malim with such disrespect now people think ah no come on no no come on you fanatic crazy Isis Dash you Kamas okay I'll tell you a story one time there was a guy who uh says you know what I don't think you need to stand up why for what you're singing to the angels you're not singing to hem this that yeah all the excus in the world no he doesn't want to say he wants this dka sit down okay sit down everybody singing Shalom they ask the question no nobody wants to do nothing oh I'm sitting everybody else the all family standing but this guy wants to sit down okay what are you gonna tell him nothing you can't do nothing it's like a family of rabbis and okay he's sitting sitting sitting sitting sitting one Shabbat after another Shabbat after another Shabbat after another Shabbat nothing happens no Gom one day he feels like his legs starts to hurt his leg starts to hurt oh let's go to the doctor doctor says uh I'm sorry sir but uh your uh knee needs to be replaced my knee needs to be replaced replace your knee what you want my knee my knee's good cuz no yeah your knee is good but it's old yeah but it wasn't old six months ago 6 months ago wasn't old today it's old I don't know something happened something happened what happened he didn't do the then he started getting worse and worse then the other KN started getting worse and worse little by little over the next three years he wasn't able to walk anymore now everybody in the family knows this is the reason everybody in the family knows this is the reason because he didn't stand up up like kazal says that's the reason what started this problem with the legs but everybody's scared to scared to death to say anything why too late what are you going to tell the guy told you so it's too late so when kazal says something you should definitely listen to them because if they said it that means that it's not for nothing now the different kot today have so many different leniencies that a lot of people don't really know the difference between a Minh and and a lot of people get uh frustrated and leave Judaism not because of but rather because of and they blame the religion for it they blame God for it in reality they should only blame themselves why it's their fault that they didn't know the difference between Minag which is a custom sometimes people take on a so seriously they add it as a to their life as a stringency to their life when in reality they shouldn't have if they ask any that knows them well told them don't do it why you're not in that level but one of the most frustrating things that you get to see from this this position from from dealing with the public and uh trying to help guide people to do juva whether they're newly religious or they thought they were religious their whole life but now they're doing chuva finally whatever it is one of the most frustrating things is people that are no-ad alls they just decide to do whatever they want they read something in a book and they start doing it and I'm not talking about I'm talking about they taking on all types of stringencies all of a sudden they become the Ben all of a sudden they all of a sudden they want to do all the and tell everybody else tell all of in reality they're the biggest why the whole chuva is not real chuva it's all ego it's ego it's just another way for you to think that you're better than everybody else so until you are an expert in the basics of Al an expert in all the basics you should not even consider a single unless your Rabbi specifically told you this is for you and if you have to you're clever enough and you say no no but I found something I think I can do it go to your Rabbi say Rabbi can I do it just like my little kids ask me for permission if they could touch something on my desk you have to ask you Rabbi Rabbi can I do this please not oh Rabbi I decided that I'm going to take this on I decided I'm going to take this on I decided that I'm going to start fasting Mondays and Thursdays I decided that I'm going to start keeping such and such I decided I'm going to keep Shabbat an extra hour every week I decided who decided that you're allowed to decide all I saw on YouTube okay so call YouTube why you telling me call YouTube R by YouTube help me I need for something else now no but YouTube doesn't answer so how did they give you this K that you're allowed to take on the stringency no I mean it was the rabbi saw and you okay so call him what are you calling me for go call him ask him oh he has an answer okay so when he answers you have to understand rabbis are not puppets you cannot you know use it abuse it get bored of it and replace it with something else go to the toy store go buy something else when it says this is something K says you have to be afraid of this RAB like you're afraid of God if he's a real if not then why you have as a rabbi point of it's a real somebody that has you have to be afraid of him like you're afraid of God why cuz he's the one that's going to get you the G yeah but I can do myself okay good luck good luck do yourself K thought he could do by himself also a lot of people thought they could do by himself but says no you can't do by yourself why because we need to have rabbis now unfortunately sometimes the rabbis are prisoners of their own kot where the funding for the K comes from rich people that don't exactly care so much about to and the rabbi is a Afra to rebuke them I feel bad for such rabbis because it's a horrible horrible place to be in especially if you have a family kids when you make a decision whether you're going to tell people the truth or not it's not just about oh is it good for them or bad for them it's it's natural for you to think also wait they're probably going to fire me so where am I going to get a job now after they fire me just over here by my house they fired two rabbis in the last year two rabbis they fired in the last year why because both rabbis told them you have to start uh keeping Shabbat stop driving to je they fire two rabbis so point isab is that it's not so easy it's not an easy job but at the same token it's not allowed to Simply say nothing because you're afraid one of theim in the Syrian world is he was the head Rabbi in Panama and when he was still young before he became one of the they asked him to come become a rabbi of in Panama over there and he was Ish kodes and he saw that there's a lot of inter marriage all types of Gish all types of things that against the in the community can't stand that way so he saw that the uh president of the sh president of the sh his son was going to get married to a guya so he invited the son invited the son on the day of his wedding invited the son to his office he goes listen I uh want to give you a present come to my office invited the son to his office and uh son said okay the rabbi is Day of the wedding he's going to marry Christine and the rabbi is going to give a present too why cuz his father is the president of the sh he's got a lot of money so the rabbi invites him to his place and uh he comes in he goes uh listen one second I got to go get something I'll be right back stay here okay saw the kid on a David's wedding go Rabbi I got to go in a few hours the wedding no no problem no problem I'll be right back he closes the door behind him and the guy the the young guy it's about to marry the guah he sits in the office he's waiting waiting 5 minutes 10 minutes 15 minutes oh maybe the rabbi stomach a is in the bathroom you know who knows 15 minutes the rabbi can't say nothing right Cav Cav for the rabbi 20 minutes okay no 20 minutes I got a wedding in three hours pictures this that you know the whole Bagan 25 minutes the guy starts pacing back and forth in the room says you know what let me go check and he tries to get out of the out of the office he sees the door is locked start smashing on the door nothing to no avail nobody else is in the building it's a Sunday everybody's off nobody else is in the building she go huh what's going you locked me in here huh he goes he runs gets the phone phone disconnected disconnected phone no phone thank you disconnected phone nothing the guy start smashing on everything nothing he can't do anything this is before the days of uh cell phones he can't do anything the next day the next day the rabbi comes to the office opens the door the guy gets up without even saying anything to him just runs out goes to see his uh the one he was supposed to meet Christine goes toia hey I'm sorry in a second she says Ah you dirty Jew I can't believe what you did to me you filthy all the goish in the world she spews it at him embarrassed her in public there was a big reception they paid everybody already all these guests show up and the Katan doesn't show up she tell sends him to hell so now this guy says I'm going to take my revenge against this Rabbi for doing this to me next dayion is walking down the street but he hears somebody's walking behind him stops walking continues turns around and he seizes the kid with a gun because you ruined my life I'm going to ruin yours now all of us what are we doing what are we going to do over there all of us what are we doing Noe we losers why don't do it that it's for you it's for you that's what we're doing you know what he did go right here right here why I rather you kill me than you kill yourself I rather you kill me in this world than you go to Gom forever now this story is not finished the kid couldn't believe it couldn't believe the rabbi was willing to put his life on the line he couldn't do it but the father was still upset still upset the whole thing was happening so Shabbat came and the father insisted on getting an Aliyah to be the first first Aliyah to the Rabbi says I'm not reading if he's uh if he's here Rabbi I as my Aliyah I'm the president of the sh the Rabbi says if he's inside the sh president if he's inside the sh I'm not reading from the Torah not only he's not getting alah if he's inside the sh I'm not reading nobody else know how to read nobody else is going to go against the rabbi publicly even though not necessarily everybody's but you're going against the biggest in the community the presid of the show like this the president got his embarrassment said I'll deal with you after Shabbat he leaves continues to Aliah there's a lot of people there he's not going to hold up everybody else the rav goes back home he says to his wife honey after Shabbat we'll have a conversation a few things something happened in the Sho most likely we'll have to move so M Shabbat comes in at the door of the rabbi outside the window he sees the entire communities outside his house says they came to Lynch me public Lynch what they going to do what are you going to do we're here we're here we're in Panama we're not in New York Panama opens the door the sh president is at the head say I'm here to apologize you're right you're wrong and that's how he became the G in the Syrian Community now he was a huge very close Toad and many of the things that he taught them helped save the Syrian Community I wish they had more like him because there's a lot of issues that happened after he died that took some of the things that he or all the in ass Syrian Community said out of context that have made that Community a fantastic community in regards to having beautiful shoes beautiful and things of that nature but unfortunately it's another one of our communities that needs to work on learning Torah seriously because there's some very big mistakes that are public now for example the whole issues with the way they treat converts now the Tak ass Syrian Community from over a 100 years ago that they said that they saw there's so much into marriage that they said we have to save our community from now on we're not allowing converts within the community that's what the Tak was to save the community are allowed to an Essence at a law in order to save the community but it's temporary it's not permanent unfortunately theim that made that law died and no one ever took that Tak off and the people of today didn't continue it the way it was said but elaborated on it where instead of we're not accepting any converts anymore within the community today they outright reject converts meaning if you're a convert you want to go to Safra over here you're going to see the first in a in a in the door you're going to see we do not accept converts now we don't accept converts to you know if you all right is not going to convert you don't come to our sh don't come to our sh some of them even go crazy to the point where they kick you out of the mik it's happened to one of our students two of our students actually this is not what said this is not what this is what said this is the craziness of today this is when someone's zealousness goes out of context and it's not what the original said so it's not anything against the Syrian Community per Shalom see Community as the from aleo they have the oldest codex the oldest codex that we have which is the way we know how to do Nik in a t how to read the T the only reason we know how to do it is because of the the the Codex they have the oldest version that we have in the world today but but unfortunately many of the people today have become modernized modernized modernized the only Torah that they know is what they hear on an occasional Sho and the rabbis today are unfortunately a prisoners of the community if you see one of their big rabbis tell the community Hey listen don't treat converts like that that's not what theim said guess what tomorrow is's looking for a new job tomorrow he's looking for a new job tomorrow he's on the unemployment line if he does the community hey you're not allowed to go to uh the uh mixed beaches whether it's summer or it's winter doesn't make a difference not all to go to mix beaches like a lot of people go what tomorrow he's on the unemployment line you're not let the drive to sh unemployment line you're not allowed to wear wigs yeah but Asim wear wigs okay spim don't wear wigs even if you want to rely on the ashkanazi for wigs forget about the part that's only for as it's not for what are you Syrian or buaran what are you doing wearing a wig who you are you using now would you become a for one guess what the rabbi's on the unemployment line if he does this so what's their solution what's their solution they go down employment line or they can bring me for free they can bring for free they can bring anybody that's want to tell the truth for free why that's what your responsibility is you don't want to lose your job okay knows that but he still gave you a gift he gave you a sh 500 people a thousand people each one is richer than the other each one has kot for the to and so on and so forth but they all decide to become their own rabbis it's your job as a leader that knows the truth to redirect them now you know that they're not going to take it well if it's coming from you that doesn't absolve you from the Mitzvah you still have to do it you still have to do it unfortunately though sometimes the problem is the rabbi in some communities the problem is the biggest problem is the rabbi one guy called me one time and uh he says listen I'm looking can you help me with a shid I said I'm sorry I'm not in the shid business I try to help people do chva between them and cuz yeah but your cousin told me about you maybe you know a lot of people this that and the other thing I said listen once in a while I get to know people and I try but don't rely on me go to real okay so what do you need I said send me your resume send me your sh resume if I ever have something if I ever have something I'll tell you about it so the guy sends me a resume I see he's a well to-do he has everything every degree Under the Sun a doctor in this a doctor in that he's older all types of doctors and he's also from some royal family in some different country this guy he's a convert said oh we have many converts like this we could uh build the every day with such converts all right go down the line go down the line what is he looking what is he looking for you a resume supposed to what you looking for from from birth no no B CH no convert I go back to the top I say convert but the convert doesn't want a convert so I said it has to be a typo convert doesn't want a convert it's like black on black crime what what the hell is the matter with you Hey listen go go hate the white people at least at least you have a reason why you hating the world what's the matter with you what's the matter with you so this guy I call him I said listen or I text him or something said yeah I think there's a typo here says that you don't want you're convert he goes yeah convert this Rabbi okay but you're not willing to take a if she's a convert and if she's about he says exactly I said you might me tell you might tell me why goes well listen my community won't accept her I said I said I can't even make that such a story like this up I said what do you mean your community doesn't accept you're a convert you you remember that right goes yeah but they accept me but they won't accept me marrying a convert said why go I'm an Assyrian community over here they don't accept converts how get in next to his name there's a net worth called a billion dollars that's how you got in if you have a billion dollars you could beat showing what's showing in that particular part of the Syrian Community the rabbi is the problem it's not the entire Syrian community shom that one that particular one that sh it's not the K it's the rabbi it's the rabbi it's not the Kila others unfortunately mixed match point being abai we can't just go out there and make enemies with everyone and any one it does I'm not making this is not Toom insult everyone but it's to Simply understand what's a rule what's what is a what is a what what's what what are we doing here why are we doing what we're doing and that's why the says if you want to do Chu completely you have to take on some fasts as part of your chuva not right away later on as you get get more and more deep into your CH you're going to have to do take some fasts on the says that uh you really need to fast at least one time for each one of your sins but the rest of the said yeah one time yes but the 84 fast for every time you wasted seed or uh almost uh just as much for being with a Goya or even more for being angry and so on and so forth no one can do that in this generation we're a weak generation so what do you do you have to give money how much money each time you're supposed to fast you give a replacement of a meal so let's say for example wasting seed 80 84 times for every time a person wasted seed so let's say the value of a meal is $5 in America let's say it's $5 I don't know if you're in South America could be $2 if you're in uh different parts of France you're it's I don't know $100 who knows a cookie $100 over there so whatever you depends where you're eating $5 let's say a meal 84 * 5 it's 420 every time a person Wast seed they have to give $420 specifically for the sake of this specific sin now person right now is looking at himself looking at his pocket like wait a minute $420 I have $420 how how can I get started he doesn't have anything he does have anything don't worry knows what you don't have don't worry about this part of the chuv yet worry about the other stuff first stopping committing to stop watch your eyes get other people to stop what focus on that first as sees that you're doing serious TR for the things that you can do he'll give you the ability to do the things that you can't do don't worry about the things that you can't do you're not being judged for them you're not being judged for not being rich and therefore you can't give $400,000 for all the sins you've made you're being judged for the things that you can't do you can stop you can watch your eyes you can watch your mouth you can watch your ears you can do a lot of things focus on those things focus on that now a person is not going to be able to fast and therefore he's going to use meals he's going to use money instead but the balat says even if he could use money he should at least fast one time for each sin one time not 84 times one time for each sin but the rest of it pay with money so if a person wants to do such a CH the says if he's fasting for the sake of CH because he could sustain it he is a isad she is a they're holy people but if they cannot sustain it they become weak and sick as a result of it it's not even Chua it's actually another sin added to their added to their whole regimen of sins what do you mean but he fast all day all day guys suffering poor guy why is another sin because he did not get rabinal permission to do this you have to get permission to do it you can't just do whatever you want in Judaism now yeah but the rabbi in YouTube said I could do it okay so go to Rabbi on YouTube go to him ask him maybe he'll fight for you and G know too why the say such a thing to show us that the same exact action same exact thing could be considered holy or a sin same exact thing that's how important it is to know the difference the same exact action you could drink the same cup of water if you say it's a Mitzvah that mitvah creates an angel that angel is going to help protect you and encourage you to do more mitvah why because you drank some water but before you drank it you said you created another Angel and that angel is going to fight for you he's a soldier on the other hand you forgot about hem for two seconds you took you drank the you drank the water no no guess what you also created something but it wasn't an angel that your friend it was a demon that's going to hurt you it's going to encourage you to make more sins now you drank this he's going to encourage you maybe to go to White Castle he going encourage you maybe get some McDonald's he's going encourage to maybe look at some uh illegal websites on the internet that angel where came from nothing no you created it so now the same action can do same two things now when a person is doing MIT comes to comes to you figure he's in good shape comes to you figure he in good shape how come there's so many some experts they collect all the only every has all types of people some more some less but some you see that everybody over there is shab doesn't keep anything makes fun of the Torah now you would think people go to beet they all get the protection of the Tora they all should all become sadik by the time they leave how come not who has an answer for me somebody goes to besset every day not once a year not on only the whole the whole year he goes to besset every day all year never misses a day he even goes to Nets but in sh they still call how come how could such a thing be how come the Tora that he's learning and and not helping him no you guys have to give me an answer I get $50 no who can give me an answer got the guy's going to SCH every day he learns how come how could such a thing be see he's been coming to the sh you guys are sleeping you guys sleeping still wake up 10 days of CH I'm going to scare the death Out of You by the time we finish the what happens 10 days of then you're going to wake up so over says he has no what is he what is he what does he mean it means this person goes to learns learns t comes to the but is not committed to doing chuva yet meaning he comes to the sh because it's something to do it's interesting he comes to besset because it's something to do he grew up this way or his friends go there he's not doing it because he's using the Torah as the instruction set to live his life and to fix his horrible midot he's just doing it because just because so the same be says this person is still considered rash and all of his actions and all of the Torah that is learned by this Rasha who does not want to do Chua does not go to his Merit in fact it gives increasing strength to the kipot every single mitvah that he does gives more strength to the Satan to the horrible side yeah but he goes to sh he learns me everything yes but because he did not use these mitv and he did not fulfill these mitv for the sake of Heaven he's not trying to do Chua he's just doing them just because he goes to je just because he learns just because he reads just because he has nothing else to do he's old he's 90 years old already what else he goingon to do play uh Nintendo what's he goingon to do he reads okay read the K I know somebody Z told me he says he knows somebody every Shabbat he learns with a cigarette every Shabbat he says he finishes the entire sh learning a with a cigarette in his mouth smoking a cigarette on Shabbat learning meaning that the Torah by itself is not fixing anything for him he's learning it's like another subject so in sham they say this person not only is a rash but worse yet all of his MIT are giving more strength to the opposite side until he does Chua so instead of the Tor and the and the that you gave him bringing him back unfortunately he's not doing anything for him why because he himself has to want to help himself how by Desiring to change now in siman 565 the says sometimes there's a person that publicizes his fasts he tells people Hey listen guys take it easy on me today I'm fasting oh it's all what no no no it's Monday so why you fasting you know people like me We fast Mondays and Thursdays I didn't tell you about the time I fasted three days in a row I didn't tell you about that but people like me We fast Mondays and Thursdays says in San 565 someone that publicizes his fast gets punished for that fast punished now the be that wrote the commentary says what what is he saying on this he says even if people ask this person that's fasting are you fasting he has to lie and say no I'm not fasting why well you think you're better than them don't tell nobody keep your mouth shut you're doing what are you doing you're fasting you want to be biger sadik you want to elevate yourself no problem quiet don't show after that you're fasting unless they ask him to eat no no come on eat with us it's not nice for you not to eat with us it's not nice and he can't excuse himself he says listen guys I can't I'm fasting he's allowed but then there's another condition when are you allowed to tell people you're fasting the says you're allowed and you should publicize your fast if your fast is for the sake of chuva if you're fasting because it's chuva then you should publicize it in order to teach other people that they should do Chua also what happened about being uh arrogant and show off and so on and so forth it's okay it's okay to be arrogant about doing chuva it's okay don't worry it's fine it's okay to be arrogant about that meaning not AR not okay to be arrogant but it's okay will take that risk why we take that risk because someone that does real Chua someone that does real Chua the first step of doing real chuva is destroying your arrogance if you're still arrogant you haven't even begun to do chuva why because it says hates every single person that's arrogant so if you still haven't worked on your arrogance you still think than you if you still think that you're better than everybody else you haven't even begun to do cha yet but if a person has worked on his character traits then page 34b says in the place that stand even sikim cannot get to so then there's a big question I'm G to ask you guys I'm sure all of you have heard somehow somewhere that hasem even loves the he loves the now there's many verses in the Torah that say the opposite hasem says to the prophet M he's a I hate him oh says Shalom hem says no peace to the but then there's a that sayem loves the too no who wants to give me an answer on this why would hem love the he said he doesn't like him why would he love the you you're already under all I'm going to give you another he loves them in this world but hates them in the next why why would he love them in this world if they're traitors now why would he love them later interesting interesting no they help the righteous du cha how is the rash helping the righteous du cha how did as help yov how he left him for 20 years he didn't see him and then the one day he saw him he said listen I don't want to be with me and my sons are going to be I'll catch up with you never caught up with them yet is the obstacle he's doing his job is not doing his job is a traitor is going against his creator yeah je he's Jewish okay so was also Jewish you know destroyed the first give you see you guys came to destroyed the first bet mdash the says that the uh SCH made a mistake he wanted to bring mashia he used his wisdom thinking oh mashia is World Peace okay so how do you make World Peace I'll marry every Queen from every country convert all them to Judaism and uh there'll be World Peace So when he married the uh the queen or the princess from Egypt her name was shva she even though she converted she still brought her idolatry with her and got very angry about this and the says that Mal Gabriel in that moment that he married came with a spear hit the ocean in the middle of the ocean and created an island that Island was later known as Italy Rome why is that significant because the Romans are the ones that destroyed the bet mikdash so wanted to build bring World Peace Masia unfortunately his actions let to the destruction of the bet mikdash so from this queen sha they had a daughter and that daughter had a son that son's name was this is m is I brought the for you guys here and are you guys asking the question uh it's a Rashi talks about it onim one in uh on the comment on the uh on a PUK on chapter 10 PUK 13 and also commentary from a commentary from also further there is a seph seph discusses it as well and uh there's a few also the the also talks about it so a few places talk about this so now back to back to why doesm love was a Jew R so since the is the one that gave us the on being a Jew the is also going to give us the and why does AEM love why says that loves because every day he looks at the rash and he says in one second you could become a b CH in one second you can become B CH by simply deciding to stop sinning and if you become B Chu on you it is written that even theim cannot get to your level meaning hem doesn't love the rash's actions but rather he loves their potential in one second you the rash can be a sadik by doing chuva you could get to a level higher than a sadik by doing chuva that's what I love I love your potential but a person dies like this like the over here says that person gets he gets kaf and then once he finalize with he goes to g m the guy is going to regret the day he was born so we see here that it's not so simple to just do cha it's not so simple to just do whatever you want but at the same token hashm doesn't give up on anybody but we have to understand what we're doing and what why we're doing it now lastly then you guys can ask some more questions if you'd like in uh the rambam writes in that on Yip on theim get signed for Life the get signed for death but the Ben the middle sa in the middle he's in the middle his judgment is in the middle to be determined he has 10 days of CH and then y he need and the rambam writes that unless he does Chua during the 10 days of CHA this benon this Middle Ground it's not going to be B on be so the commentary on the rambam says wait a minute if he's a rash and he gets decreed to death okay we get it if he's a sad gets decree to life okay we get it but the benon the guy that's in the middle why is he getting like such a decree that he has to do chv to fix it why isn't it that he just has to do one more mitvah if he's 5050 50% sins 50% mitv it should be that if he does one more Mitzvah he's good he's sadik now right how come the rambam says no no not a mitvah he has to do chv this Ben we are Ben why does he have to do chv and not just another mitvah give me an answer no no I need an answer first no no but he says for now right now we had they're good bad the middle ground 5050 no judgment yet he needs to do CH by the time he gets to Yum K in order for hasm to put him on the favorable side on theim side so the asked how come you has to do and not just one mitvah like for example go pick up uh you know go pick up an apple say you made one more finish why not it's 50/50 the exist they don't okay they're we're not saying they going to disappear he's 50/50 another though let's say he's not 5050 you guys are in the right direction 5050 though he doesn't know 5050 okay so we'll combine all of your answers we'll combine all the answers this is the scariest part give me another answer okay so here's the commentary say the following if a guy is Ben he's Middle Ground he's got 50 50 50 sins logically if he does one more Mitzvah he has one more Mitzvah than sin he should be counted on the righteous side but the RAM says no if it's the 10 days of chuva which is where we are today he has to do chva not another mitvah say why because if he has not done chuva already after has passed and he still hasn't done chuva he arrived at the 10 days of chuva without doing chuva yet that means that the decree on in sh is much heavier on him and doing a single Mitzvah is no longer enough he has to Do complete Chua he has to completely rewire his brain his ideology and realize he has to Do complete CH not just one more mitvah why you arrived a couple of days before judgment day and you don't even realize it yet you don't realize that you're also on the line to be hung or to be rewarded as a king 5050 chance you're thinking oh because I keep Shabbat I'm okay you're thinking because I go to I'm okay you're thinking because I give a little bit of money for I'm okay that that is what makes you not okay that's what makes you not okay and that's why say the this person must do chuva because if he hasn't changed by the time he arrived at the 10 days of chuva that means that the no mitvah will be sufficient to help him other than the Mitzvah of chv so what happens to all of those the people that don't do chuva you see them still alive last year there were this year theim two years ago the they continue living now so here it's important to know that still punishes but even in his punishment he has mercy so what's the mercy is that he gives people the death penalty in different ways one of the most common ways that he gives people the death penalty is shortening their life so a guy comes to the world he's decreed to live 120 years he's decreed to live 120 years he's already 13 years old he's considered a man he continues Yip comes he hasn't done Chua chm says okay now it's 115 instead of 120 he just lost 5 years he got the death penalty he doesn't do realize he got death penalty but he got death penalty he just lost five years of his life next year has do cha okay now it's 114 next year doesn't do cha there's more sense oh now it's 110 next year next year next year by the time he's 25 he thinks he's got the whole world in his hands he doesn't realize he's only got five more years to live he digs He's Got The Whole World In His Hand he just got a business he's got this he's got that he's got everything he doesn't realize he's got five years left on his clock unless he does serious cha and change everything which is not so simple in essence he's getting death penalty every year this is the reason why if you look at the statistics online you could see it almost 18 and A5 million people die every year around the world and it's not a fair balance where you say oh it's mostly people that are 100 years old die it's not even close most people that die are much much younger than even half their life much much younger they got death penalty they died younger they were supposed to live 120 years but they didn't why they lived 35 years 40 years 45 years 50 years yeah but he had all the money in the world yeah the money is here he's not and that's how fulfills the verse at the end of it says Pays His haters cast to their face how he gives them a lot of materialism in this world in order to destroy them how so he gives them the reward for whatever mitv they did here but at the same time he's shortening their life and even more so he doesn't give them the thought process the wisdom that they need to have to think maybe I need to do chuva maybe I need to do chuva some people get the worst punishment of all in this world which is they lose the inclination to do Chua hasem removes their free choice they don't have any thought process whatsoever of doing Chu that's what the r writes in is the worst punishment in the world where a person is not allowed to do chuva this is rare it's not common at all anyone that's watching the Shu I promise you you're not part of those because people that watch the SHO usually do at some point or another but person that doesn't uh that got this punishment doesn't even think about a doesn't think about anything so that's the case okay who has some questions in the back yes hasem created everything yes why did Hashem create illnesses that will help them die so the uh mid talks about the different requests that the asked from hasem and yobu asked theem for favor said AEM until now everyone looked the same throughout their whole life they got baby they got to about 20 years old at 20 years old they matured meaning whether a guy's 20 years old or 120 years old he looks exactly the same no gray hairs no limping no uh pain in the back no teeth missing nothing he looks like he's 20 years old and then one day he sneezes and he dies no the street goes hey dies F that's how he dies this is why until this day became a custom that when somebody says somebody says when somebody somebody sneezes you say God bless you in English but in Hebrew you say la la to your health why because in the old days if you sneeze that's it it was a last sneeze his death it's like a heart attack sneeze used to be a heart attack cuz there was no illness so umov says to hasem this person doesn't know when he's going to die so he doesn't have time to prepare his family to prepare his estate to give the inheritance to the right people there's a lot of fighting a lot of conflict Hashem give us something to prepare us Hashem says you asked for it you got it what I'm going to do I'm going to give you warning signs what's the warning signs illnesses gray hairs the says every time you get a gray hair it's a warning sign from sh your time's getting closer son my daughter your time's getting closer yeah but it's one gray hair I'm 21 okay time's getting closer I didn't say today it's closer meaning every time you get gray hair do CH why they tell they calling you in sh calling sh somebody gets sick why says the time's getting closer don't think that uh for sure you're living to 120 even though uh everybody wishes you to 120 it doesn't usually happen every day you got to do so gave us sicknesses in this world as a way to warn us that our time is up and this is important to know as part of chuva the first step of chuva the first first step before learning Torah and Science and proving that God is real scientifically before learning the entire k and knowing every one of the names of the aot and it's their sons and their descendants and learning before all of that a person must ask himself one question and that is why am I in this world that's the first step of CHA why did bring me to this world what's the point what what did he he decided that this world cannot continue without me in it why why do I need to be here for what what is my purpose once a person asks thems that question legitimately and searches for the answers he will discover two things one he'll discover the reward of a Jew for fulfilling what Hashem wrote in the Torah Hashem says do all of these MIT you'll get rewarded both in this world and the next this world is temporary the next world is eternal he discover the reward for doing his job on the other hand if he continues learning Tor he'll see the risk the risk for not doing it the risk for not following what hasem said in the Torah once he discovers the risk only a fool will continue going against theem what is it like it's like somebody that got a job at a big company and the company says listen we're going to pay you a lot of money but you just got to make sure that you do your job right okay no problem paycheck every Friday okay no problem just come in make sure you wear suit and tight whatever okay no problem a week passes by two weeks pass by three weeks pass by four weeks pass by the guyy is still sitting in his cubicle doing nothing all day four weeks passed by five weeks passed by six weeks pass by three months pass by now he's getting his paycheck paycheck comes on time never late but after three months he gets a pink slip tell him we're sorry we do not need your services or better yet your lack of services anymore he goes to the bus why what did I do what do I do says exactly you didn't do nothing you didn't do nothing you nobody told me what to do so how could I do anything if you're waiting for somebody to tell you what to do obviously this is not the position for you if you're going to wait for your boss to constantly give you instructions you are a horrible employee horrible employee if your boss has to worry about whether you're going to do your job or not based on him telling you repeatedly do your job show up on time put a suit on do this do that if he has to constantly give you instructions to do your job guess what it's better not to have you why just the time that he's wasting telling you to do your job he can just hire somebody that knows how to figure things out by thems I remember having employees like this in my company nightmare to deal with every day you got to tell them what to do and it's the same thing every day why have to keep telling you what to do oh maybe something change if it change I'll tell you but until then do your job and that's why the say a side note some people sin adultery some people sin adultery many sin gin and everyone SS we know already is not a b everybody says at some point or another adultery only the real do it but G say many meaning a lot of us why G say because people do not know the laws of working how to work guy goes to work he works for I don't know PNG or something works for UPS but instead of doing his job he's on the phone all day with his girlfriend he's on the phone all day with his wife he's on the phone all day with his uh bank account because a check bounc he's trying to figure out why did the check bounce so he's sending messages to the bank no come on he's on hold for 45 minutes on his boss's time khabibi you're a thief and Sh you're a thief or better yet he's text messaging all of his friends because they all went on vacation to Cancun he wants to know what they're doing over there so a half hour 40 minutes he's on on texting back and forth with his friends oh you met oh wow you went oh you went there oh why this oh you did this oh you did that guess what you're Thief why your boss is not paying you the text message your boss is not paying you to do all those things now if your boss says he doesn't care as long as you do your job that's a different story but truth be told most jobs you cannot do while you're talking and texting and doing all types of things to other people so what happens person thinks they're sadik they go up to sh say oh here's the thief thief thief thief thief what Thief I never stole a a handkerchief what are you talking about Thief what are you talking about you work for this company 30 years 30 years you steal from them 30 years you're stealing from them why you're on your phone the whole time or better yet people do a business and the different trades diamonds and things of that nature they give money to somebody and they say listen I'll give you the 10,000 but you have to uh pay me back when you buy the goods you have to pay me $10,000 too meaning $200 extra because I'm giving you extra time to pay me guess what that's interest you if that person's a Jew you just losta and all types of laws that have to do with stealing with reat and with interest and things of that nature say a lot of people violate this stuff or better yet a person wants to be or she wants to be what the boss didn't tell her what to do boss didn't tell him what to do so he figures you know what I don't have anything what to do you know what I want to do let me open a until he tells me what to do I'm going to read why he's getting part of my he's getting part of my I'm learning he's paying me he's getting part of my I'm learning I'm going to finish finish I only have one D left it's only going to take me two hours what's the big deal oh she decides she's gonna read I'm gonna read for my boss I'm gonna read for my boss I'm G doah read for my boss start read he's not paying her to read he's paying her to I don't know build the building he's pay to other things no no she going to who pay who's who's asking to R right now yeah not now before or after work or if you have permission during work but not just because you decided a lot of people do this a lot of people do this without even thinking twice so it's important to know these things yes question as many as you want um first question is so you said that when a is 50/50 50/50 what happens if does stays so the says that every single person gets judged every year while he's in this world and the next CU opens the book of the living and the dead every year so the living than excuse uh the living we understand because the living good question uh the living we understand they keep doing more mitv more sins every day so is a uh possible for a person to uh to stay the same even if they sleep if they sleep too much it's a sin it's so you cannot like do nothing you can cannot stay status quo every second you're alive something has to happen that's why he wanted to give us all types of opportunities to get to it says that wanted to reward the nation therefore he gave them a lot of say how is giving us a lot of going to help us go to says because if you perfect one mitvah perfect it it becomes your baby you get that's why every Jew should pick one mitvah become perfect at it why it's going to give you a share of the world to come obviously assuming you're keeping the others also not your but you're the best guy in the world forgiving doesn't give you opportunity to sin but if you perfect theah give you share so the point is that a person does every second he's alive and Miami gets there even if he himself let's say hypothetically speaking got to 5050 like you said hypothetically 5050 his actions what he left in the world continues to go even after his death so let's say for example he wrote a book he wrote a book people are going to read that book now it's not such a popular book she only sells one copy a year so in sh they wait he's on 50/50 he's not going here he's not going there we're waiting for somebody to buy the book somebody buys the book and they read the book and it says in the book oh came from a monkey not from God okay now you're not 50/50 anymore now you go to G why somebody bought your book somebody bought your book that's a sin they made a sin now they think they're coming for monkeys instead of from Hashem all you wrote that uh Adam and Eve is a parable like uh our our dear friend uh Jonathan sax the former head Rabbi of London said that uh that Adam and Eve is a parable or his uh friend says that homosexuality shouldn't is not such a bad thing he wrote a whole book about it all these they're going to be judged not just in this world they're going to be judged after why because people are going to read their books has no chance in the world no chance in the world to leave this world empty-handed why he's going to take all the Sinners with him every one of his books every one of his books is no less bad than the New Testament every one of his books is full of kosher Jesus he wrote a book with a pornography star all types of Filth he wrote he calls himself a RAB so this guy is judged every year opens the book of the living and the dead meaning whatever you left in this world will be reviewed what kind of results did it generate this year you left kids in the world like his daughter just opened a sex store in Tel Aviv she called it kosher sex so every year will have to be judged for his daughter's store how much sale she made every year she does the accounting how much money she made in this kosher sex store and is getting burnt further and further in G why because what did she say to the TV interviewers she said they asked her aren't you going to be uh concerned what the rabbis are going to say you're the daughter of a rabbi you're opening a Jewish woman is opening a kosher sex store she say no I got the permission from the rabbi and they asked her what's Rabbi she goes my father I got permission from my father to open it he already started telling me about this when he wrote the book when he wrote the book 20 years ago about sex yeah he already told me this is what I got to do in my life a girl a Jewish girl a opening a sex to and she's proud of it and he's proud of it every year he's going to be judged deeper and deeper in G for what for his daughter so that's the thing no no such thing as 50/50 everybody leaves some type of Trail some type of cookie crumbs that they have that will lead them one place or another and I'll give you a joke one guy didn't do so good in the world got to sh said okay you didn't keep nothing G he's burning burning burning burning after a little while doors open they never open again know they only open one way first time one door opens it's exit who gets out hey Steve come poor Steve he's full he's a cold full of fire blood everywhere mean of guys being burned everywhere he's so excited to get out of the lava oh I'm out I'm finished yeah yeah you're done come come where am I going where you taking me oh taking to Heaven me going to heaven wow I knew hasm had mercy now I goes no it's not AEM it's your son your son did it my son I know he's not going to let me down what did he do say your son just gave a million dollar check to be organization do this guy becomes a in he starts dancing oh he's dancing in sh he's there he's going to go with the ashes his hands are falling off everything but he he's he's excited to go to heaven he goes to heaven he go he sees all theim over there he heals he's excited oh T I'm not really interested in t but it's better than being burned he starts sitting he sees RAB AKA is over there mosenu is over there wow wow it's much better than this Gom over there so he sits over there doesn't no me much to do but he's hanging out he's better than being burned one day two days three days all of a sudden G opens the samea comes where where he's looking you you you Steve come me what did I do I didn't say nothing it wasn't me let's go Steve my son is a big sadik he just donated a million dollars to this Rabon he's helping people he goes yeah yeah he donated Don come on come on you go back to Gom goes why said the check bounced so you leave trails sometimes we start something good but we don't finish it we start something good we don't finish it Hashem wants to put us in G we mess up we mess up next question so in terms of Interest K so somebody I borrow in 1920 $10 is now so if I borrowed $10 from a two in 1920 let's say 100 years old and now I have to pay them back inflation is is different so do I have to necessarily pay them back $100 or $10 uh so okay so as far as far as the uh agreement in loans first and foremost a Jew is not allowed to lend another Jew money and charge him interest so there's no leniency there with the exception of if this Jew that you're lending money and charging interest to is a Shabbat if he's a Shabbat you're allowed to charge him interest and the reason why is because according to according to the T in 12 places in seven places and pretty much everywhere across the tah a Jew that violates Shabbat is considered 100% an idol worshipper so you treat him the same way as you treat as an idol worshiper you're allot to charge of interest but say you still shouldn't charge him interest because in case he does chuva if he does chuva you have a problem turns inflation forget inflation there's no such thing is inflation give you a $100 you give him back $100 so now so what happens if a person let's say for example borrowed a $100 somebody a friend asked you for $2 and said I'm going to give you back tomorrow $200 $2 the same thing give me $2 give me $200 give me $2,000 give it back to you tomorrow and he doesn't do it he doesn't give it back to you that person is sinning why because that person made a swear that he's going to give it back to the money it's a problem Def faulting and alone it's people that don't keep their word it says in the Mish that just like a destroyed the generation of the um of the palaga the Tower of Babel he'll destroy the people that don't keep their word why cuz keeps his word you have to be like him so you cannot tell people that you are going to pay them back and don't pay them back in fact when it comes to business you have to be so careful that you're not even allowed to borrow money unless you know that you can pay back meaning if you say listen I need to buy a house I need to borrow $100,000 from my friend why you going to pay back well B not allowed to borrow that money not to take a risk with his money you called the r if you borrow money without knowing how you going to pay it back you call for every single second you don't pay him back you call R why because you took risk with his life his life being his money money is considered Dam it's considered life so you took risk with his money if you know okay I have collateral if I don't if I don't pay him back I could give him my car I give him my house I could uh I have this job that makes me the money I have a way to pay him back now it's like to pay him back no but if you have a way to pay him back you're allowed to borrow the money so you're not even allowed to borrow money from people if you don't know if you can pay them back this means that most people that borrow money are not allowed to borrow money because most people that borrow money buy borrow on like when there's Dire Straits they have no other choice so what what do you do if you have no other choice you don't have a way to pay back you need $10,000 because you need to do such and such you're in a jam you just lost all your money in the stock market you put everything into Bitcoins or something and you lost everything and now you need to pay rent you need to pay mortgage you have kids you have stuff you need $10,000 to close the month you haven't paid rent or mortgage in three months you got need $10,000 going to kick you on the streets what do you do you say okay can you pay me back I don't have a job but I'll get a job that's not an excuse you're not allow to borrow money so what do you do ask for I want staka I need staka yeah but it's bu it's embarrassing okay good good good it's better to be embarrassed here than to be one second over there and also being embarrassed is a form of Chua so borrowing money has to have an agreement you lend somebody $1,000 let's say you have to have a you have to have an agreement I'm borrowing this money for an extra amount of time let's say for a year in a year from now you're going to give me back $1,000 back you borrowed ,000 you're going to give me back a th a year from now during that year there's no a uh inflation worries whatsoever but even so you paying back what you borrowed you don't pay him back you don't pay him back what happened to it in 80 years can you make agreement thatl count it's a form of interest it's in form of Interest yes so you have to have a special you have to have a serious to see if you could structure the loan as a partial investment and partial loan where in essence if the person uh takes the money let's say for example it's more than $1,000 let's say it's $100,000 and you know that if you give him the $100,000 you don't have access to the $100,000 anymore so that means you losing opportunity you could use $100,000 to invest the money and do a bunch of other things with it but now you don't have anymore he has it so you're losing opportunity you want to get paid for that opportunity but the same token you're not have to charge interest so what do you do you do a where you structure that part of the money is a loan where let's say 50,000 out of the 100,000 is 100% loan meaning he has to return you no matter what he has to return the $50,000 back no matter what doesn't matter if he goes broke if his if his idea Works doesn't work he has to return the 50,000 out of the 100,000 no matter what and an extra amount of time if he doesn't have that extra amount of time he gets more time but the point is he has to return the money he owes you the money permanently even if he dies his family has to pay the loan now on the other hand the other $50,000 that's an investment that's risk meaning if that 50 he takes the 100,000 he invests the 100,000 whatever he wants let's say I don't know he buys a business and that business makes an extra amount of money so that 50,000 that's a loone that's a loone but that 50,000 that's an investment that investment is permitted to get a piece of the profits of that business you get a piece of the potential reward that's going to happen but at the same token if his investment goes bust he doesn't have to pay you back meaning that entire 50,000 is up to risk it goes to zero it goes to zero he doesn't have to pay that money back so that way you could structure it where you don't take a 100% risk but the same token you're not losing any potential reward you could potentially make money and that's how people structure loans when it comes to large sums of money if uh if they have opportunity and things of that nature but generally speaking it's a when it comes to interest when it comes to inflation uh when it comes to even giving a person a gift you're not allowed like for example if let's say for example somebody you uh borrowed a uh a um you know something from them you borrowed I don't know uh iPad you borrow an iPad but it was a used iPad two three year old iPad that was let's say worth $200 okay while you had it it broke you feel bad tell your friend listen they P broke but I got you this new one best one on the street it's $1,500 on me not allowed why that's interest you can give it to him as a gift but it's not the returning of the money only $200 out of the, 1500 but if you give him that whole thing just like that oh this is payback this everything not allowed why that's giving him interest you're not allowed to give him more than he gave you because the sin of interest is both on the borrower and also on the lender it's on everybody it's not just the uh it's not just one party everybody everybody is in trouble yes even if you didn't mean to if you would have known interest have known yes it's a it's a it's definitely an a that's what we have the bet mikdash the BET mikdash all of theot that we had the were for accidental sins so if somebody turned on the light or turned on fire on Shabbat accidentally not on purpose he as soon as M Shabbat comes out he realize oh I I made a mistake he has to go take a go close his business travel with thisan all the way to the BET mikdash sacrifice this he has to do himself can't send somebody has to go bring the Corban all the way to to to bet mikdash in he loses a week worth of work to go this kban why for an accidental sin not for a purposeful sin if it's on purpose it's death penalty so all of the were for accidental sins which means that we still need to do CH for them so if a person accidentally charged interest accidentally stole money accidentally violated Shabbat it doesn't absolve him from the from the uh sin it just means it's an accidental sin so it has a lesser punishment but it's still a punishment nonetheless unless he does Chua if he does Chua that sin that sin is wiped out as if it's never existed as if it never existed and he can even turn it into a mitvah yes how could anyone realistically every single transaction as asle I'll yous right so that's why a person needs to learn serious Torah uh if a person wants to become a he has to learn all of the has to become an expert in the laws of business that's also a way to become a but further yet he should always always always consult with aam before he conducts business before he does everything before he buys stuff before he makes any major transactions he has to consult with a that knows what he's doing and has people think that it's uh too much to ask before you do everything but the reality is it's the only way you can get yourself out of problems we ask our Rabbi literally everything everything we ask uh has Mercy on us but also it's part of the reason is because we use this knowledge to benefit the public whatever I learned from my Rabbi I teach you guys I teach you people online and help other people so we use the it's worth it for hem to give me a that's going to have pretty much be an encyclopedia of of of kadus that has all the answers that's why one of the head RAB said last week they had a party in last week finished another time and and says you know different places have computers they have this we have in our the says different places they have computers they have this they have that we have f anyone wants to know something they go to ask him where is this says over here over here over here over here over here so it's worth it for to give me such a that knows all these things I ask a question he gives me an answer it's worth it why because I benefit you guys and everybody else if a person uses the Tor that gives him to benefit the public it's worth it forem to gift him more but if he's selfish with his Torah then is going to give him less if uses t to fulfill the will of hm it's worth of hasm to give him more and more if he's selfish he's going to give him less so what happens if a person wants to be righteous but he doesn't know everything or even if he thinks he does he tell me ask Rabbi Rabbi allowed not allowed I'm about to do this deal I'm about to buy this house and the deal with the house is that I'm not going to buy it right away I'm going to rent it for a year I'm rent it for a year after a year I have the option to buy but the deal is that I could buy it for $500,000 unless say there certain terms the market goes up the market goes down this happened this happened this happened so you have to have the rabbi review this agreement pay money first his time because he doesn't live on M pay money first time Rabbi can I do this can I do that you sent to the bed there's a bed in Lakewood full of they're raising I think like a million dollars right now for their bed and this is you see the pamphlet the website of this bedine they have probably I don't know many many dozens of rabbis and they review these cases every day you ask am I allowed to do this deal not allow to do this deal they review contracts all day you send to or if you have aab so on and so forth now that's part one of the answer part two is realistically as I said in a recent movie that came out short film that we can that we came out realistically none of us could do chuva for all of our sins without doing kiru and the reason why is because it's not just about the sins that you know about that you have to worry it's the sins that you don't know about that you have to worry many times we make sins and we don't know that they're even sins like the example you just gave me you gave somebody something and you didn't even realize that you give it to him and it's really a form of Interest or it's a form of problem so what do you do you have to help and the reason why is because when you have another Jew do Chua or you have a non-jew convert and become a sadik that goes to your Merit every time they do a Mitzvah that goes to your Merit they are in essence helping you Rectify your past mistakes whether you know of those mistakes or you don't know of those mistakes is irrelevant there's still actively rectifying your mistakes and this is why rados Reb kadosh that wrote the mishna from him we have the entire oral Tora when he found out that his cousin R how he's treated in heaven and how is the only one that can go from world to World whenever he feels like it unlike all the other that need a Mal to take him can't just walk around wherever you want in you have to have a Mal take you from world to World unless you're R you go wherever you want so reab ask sh how come how come was my how come get such up there help you do help people do you get whatever you want you go higher than anybody else at that moment reab kados started crying started crying and running in the middle of the street looking to help people do Chu looking for looking for secular people and on that he said it's worth it for a person to chase one person to do CH for 70 years one person you helped them do cha all seven years of your life it would worth it to come to this world why because of how you're going to be treated in sham so from here we learn K is not a suggestion it's an obligation number one to save ourself from our own past mistakes that we know of and don't know of and furthermore to give ourselves a good treat by giving us a Nicea where they treat us like yes so if your friend tells you give me $2 and I'll give you back $3 tomorrow you have to say no tomorrow you give me $2 because if I take $3 from you that's interest and that interest that means that I would lose a Jew is not allowed to charge another Jew interest so you're not allowed so even if he offers you're not allowed to accept it unless like I said before it's an investment of some kind uh and therefore you're not really lending him the money it's actually you're investing in his business or perhaps he just decides to give you a gift on his own he gives you $2 and he says by the way here's a dollar go buy yourself a nice uh I don't know Twizzler or something Make some noise in the lecture is a dollar to buy Twizzlers so he decides to give you a gift on his own that's not a problem but you have to make sure that it's clear that this is a gift completely completely disconnected from the loan generally speaking you should try to stay away from that so there's no confusion in case somebody else is watching and doesn't understand why ideally it's better not to take gifts from anybody but definitely definitely never charge interest and never pay interest if a uh if you have to borrow money for example to buy a house don't borrow money from a Jew if he's going to charge you interest borrow from a bank that's controlled by non-jews which are pretty much all of the major banks are controlled by shareholders the majority of shareholders non-jews you're allowed to borrow uh money from them because non-jews are allowed to charge you interest and you are allowed to charge interest to non-jews uh but if it's a private bank that's owned by one Jew you're not allowed to do business with it as far as borrowing money from them yes yes yes no some people some people have different uh um birth uh birth marks uh for different reasons um you know gray hair is just one of the signs that could be not definitely is but could be a uh sign from Heaven that you're uh they're calling you in shamai meaning that they're trying to wake you up to do chuva um but if a person let's say for example is a albino he's albino he has no there's no color pigmentation in all of his body his eyes his uh eyelashes everything is white that's not a sign that he's he's three years old he's not so that's not necessarily A Sign it could be a sign but it's not necessarily but birth uh birth marks come from different reasons for example if somebody's born with a uh birth mark on their side on their head different body parts that is usually connected to their previous Carnation there a very famous story that was publicized uh of a little boy uh and you could see the movie of this on the internet a little boy when he started speaking he uh kept waking up in the middle of the night from a nightmare the same recurring nightmare that he's being murdered and his parents would tell him you know ask him what happened he keep telling him the same story oh he's killing me again he's killing me again he goes who's killing you how do you even know about killing you three years old this is before every house has a television like today and games that kill people for fun even if you're three years old this is like maybe 30 years ago before the parents ruined the generation so now the uh little boy is scared every night is waking up it's called night terrors so they took him to a psychiatrist and Heaven for heaven wanted this to be known this specific psychiatrist was an expert in uh in uh in the field of trying to follow people that have memories of their previous Life in the movie that did called life after death there's many of these types of stories in that movie you go to his website Divine information.com and you go life after death you there's a two and a half three hour movie there very very interesting anyway so now this boy went to this doctor and the doctor says okay tell me about your dream and he starts telling about the dream and he says do you remember who did it he goes yeah he goes what's his name he tells him the name goes you remember where it was he goes yeah it was in this country the parents are confused like how does he know this country exists it's in India we are in Europe the kid has never been to India how does he even know the name of this country how does he know the name of this city so the doctor says let's follow him let's follow the story let's track the story can you take us to where it is the boy says yeah take me to this specific City they all get on a plane they go to that city in India he tells them take me to this City here take him to the city okay take me to the woods in that particular City they go to the woods let's go inside the woods the parents are following this little boy four years old at this time into the woods they're walking they're walking they're walking the kid stops everybody stops no you tired no no he goes I'm here goes wait me here he goes I'm here on the ground they start digging they start digging they find the body right next to the body right next to the body is the murder weapon the axe and in the middle of the skull of this body is a Mark that the axe made an indent hit his head the boy had a birth mark right over here right where the axe hit his previous Carnation they tell the cops one of the cops was clever says young man what's this guy's last name who is this guy because now they only know one name what's the guy's name they look at the database guy's still alive they go to the guy the guy admits it he goes yeah I did it it's a go it's not a Jew and there's many stories like this so people that have birth marks it's a connection to their previous Carnation now please please I'm warning you don't start sending me pictures on WhatsApp of your birth marks I'm not a psychiatrist or a AI nor am I interested in your birth marks but Hashem gave it to you for a reason it's not for no reason everything is done for a reason next question last time I said something about dreams since then I'm being tortured with at least five dreams a day everybody made me a dream uh Whisperer every day I get somebody's dream oh I dreamt that my dog was limping does it mean something bad do you have a dog no but I had one in the dreams okay so I don't know maybe it means that uh one day you'll have a dog and the dog's have three legs what do you want for my life go ask the dog go it's the dog in a dream everybody thinks that their dream is like it's the uh prophecy 99% of your dreams are nonsense but generally speaking there's always a reason for everything you have a question sh yes I'm warning you about the dreams already so you're not even sure if you want to ask the question uh yes hasem can give a person warnings uh of certain things that could happen um to warn the person to do something about it it's not common but it does happen I'll give you a story I haven't told you a story in a long time I love you again I love a Shalom used to have uh the best stories and all these stories were firsthand stories meaning he saw the stories he experienced the stories so there was a uh in Israel it's a small country so everything that happens everybody knows even if it happens in a different city everybody knows you know somebody that's related to this person so years ago young girl late teenager 18 19 years old was uh hit by a bus and died but uh before she was hit by a bus people saw her act strange and one of those people was an a that was going to the of and he comes to he tells him yeah that story that happened in the news the Girl goe by a bus I saw the whole thing what happened says a few days ago a few days ago this girl came to me and uh told me that uh I know how she was like a neighbor or something and uh she told me that she keeps having a dream and her mom that died says to her in a dream come meet me on this street at this time on this day and she kept having that dream day after day and she asked me what does it mean and I said I don't really know what it means if you should go to a dream interpreter or something go to a rabbi the poor guy this was new he was new B he didn't really know that something like this happen you have to go to real serious people that that a dead tell you to go somewhere it's not uh such a simple thing especially if they keep coming back so anyway he says I was interested so she said she you know what I'm going to try it I'm going to go so I went I was following her she didn't know I was following her I was following her I was on the bus she was on the bus and the whole time I see her anxious to to go see where where her mom is keeps telling her her mom died five years ago but she's telling to come see me on this day on this block on this time and she's going she's anxious she's anxious and I'm watching her the whole time and then I see her get off the bus I get off the bus and I'm following her and then I see her stop look across the street traffic's still going but she looks at across the street it says imma and she starts running Boom the bus comes and sudden she dies true story and story like stories like this have happened this is just one of those eyewitnesses were there and one of them happened to be again so did the girl get a sign that she was going to die yes she just didn't know how to read the sign and she didn't go to the right place apparently she didn't have the Merit and apparently that was hard time whatever the case may be I don't know what Hashem decides and how he decides it but the point being is that some people do get different warning signs that their end is near unless they change something this has happened many times throughout history uh and it's documented many times throughout history with different people and uh put it this way if hasem has to give a person that type of sign then that means that Hashem has given them every other sign and they're simply not paying attention like somebody came to me the other day and said that uh she's having a recurring dream that she's feeding her baby and the baby keeps dying so I'm not a dream interpreter nor am I really such a but I read a little bit and certain things happen so you don't need to be an intram interpreter to use a little bit of what kazal says so I ask questions I said give me question give me an answer to this number one does this woman keep two does she eat kosher sheat kosher the answer to both were no she doesn't keep and she eats kosher only sometimes you know when it's convenient when the chocolate bar is kosher she eats it it's not Kosher she'll still eat it but next time when the baking egg and cheese is from soy it's kosher if it's not it's okay so I said oh okay so this is clear warning from shamim that if you don't change hm's gonna kill your kid simple it's not a k for me it says it in the T says in the that's what happens a woman hasn't keep kills her kids put off for my life it has nothing to do with the dream even the dream is just theem has mercy on you he's trying to tell you listen you didn't want to listen to the sh you didn't want to listen to this you didn't want to listen to that so he's giving you a dream you want to listen to a dream that's not you don't want to listen to a dream okay so in uh x amount of time you're going to call somebody going to tell them listen uh bad news bad news we'll finish off with this there's a well-known buaran Rabbi in is he has some really emotional stories and uh he says one time he sees this young kid Kazi kid and the shoe comes to every shoe comes to every shoe dedicated one day the kid says to the rabbi Rabbi I need to talk to you come St yeah what can I do what happened everything okay listen Rabbi I love you you changed my life doing everything oh I'm sorry I can't come to the sh no more what usually it's the opposite usually change your life this that come to you go no Rabbi I'm sorry my father he hates it he says every time doing Chua is the worst thing in the world I'm ruining everything that's not the way we are our family we're religious in our heart don't start telling people to keep Shabbat this that no you're not allowed to go to Shu I forbid you from going to this Rabbi sh I had one time Aid Russ guy came to me an atheist after started learning every day learned who's real he told his mom in is IM I did CH his mom started crying she goes oh I wish you started doing cocaine instead I'm telling you he told me this I said it's a joke right was no this is the word she used my he says my mom told me I wish you became addicted to drugs instead of doing chuva some people they're so far from that they think it's a bad thing imagine living your whole life thinking that hm is bad that's already a punishment of its own now this young kid tells the rabbi Rabbi can't come to the shield because my father says no good it's not our family we don't uh become rabbis in the family we are grandfathers of Rabbi that's it we work we do our thing that's it we're religious in our heart so Rabbi can't come says listen you got to stay strong this that next time is you a week later the kid comes but a surprise comes with him also this hote head Kazi old man just looks at the rabbi like this points to the rabbi I want to talk to you Rabbi comes to and goes yes go listen you don't know who I am you know like one of those uh tough guys you don't know who you're dealing with here but I'm telling you my son your sh no more don't mess with me he says what do you want me to tell him not to come he comes let him come what do you want from his life let him learn tah goes listen to me talk to him like aan like a gangster goes listen to me my son your no more don't mess with me because I'm not going to tell you son not to come you don't know who you're dealing with here Wars aash what's the RAB gonna do he didn't say nothing but unfortunately the kid saw this this next to sh he didn't come another week passed he didn't come another week passed he didn't come another week passed he didn't come kid what are you going to do your father goes against it this one goes against it it happened to me over here two months ago young kid started doing CH his father ruined the whole thing had a whole argument with his father father ruined the whole thing the Kid what he is right now he's not even a kid he's 25 years old but still has the influence of under his father anyway hopefully he's watching this part because the finishing of the [Applause] story give you guys an idea of what's going on so after a couple of months the kids not one day the rabbi gets a phone call picks up the phone who is it the gangster father I beg you to please come to my home for of my son my son died Rabbi comes he sees everybody's crying kid's young he's 20 25 years old young little baby he sees the father is hysterical and he sees the rabbi and he goes out to the RAB he goes why didn't you yell at me why didn't you yell at me why didn't you hit me why didn't you do this why didn't you force me I killed my son I killed my son I killed my son he said what happened the kid stopped doing Chua he went back to his old life what was his old life drugs alcohol parties a ecstasy clubs promotion [Applause] demotion okay he went to that life one day he did a little bit too much drugs overdose that finished died the father says I killed my son why would I rather have a dead son over here or a kid that's a rabbi now a kid that's about keep Shabbat what's the big deal the Rabbi says I felt so bad for the guy but there's nothing anyone could ever do for the rest of his life for eternity he's going to have to live with the fact that he murdered his son and all of these parents that live today that are sending their kids to public school in America Public School in Israel Public School in Europe or send them to go do whatever they want give them complete freedom to watch TV surf the Internet act like a be like a when they hear M they want to start doing chuva and the parents stopped them the parents discouraged them the parents tell them you're fanatic don't listen to this Rabbi guess what in sh you are a murderer in this world eventually you will be also why because you're murdering your kids you're murdering your kids what would you rather have a kid that's a fanatic about AEM or fanatic about some Game Boy fanatic about guns fanatic about girls fanatic about sports fanatic about money fanatic about all the garbage of the world instead of being fanatic about hasem what would you rather be Al your kid becomes fanatic about hem but you're not going to let him guess what in shim they're going to make you see that and you're going to suffer seriously for such a thing why cuz you're murdering your own kids some parents don't want to do chuva I got a kid came to one Shield one Shi he's in his late 20s 27 28 years old came to one Shield the CH one sh you hear him in the background this is a shoe I used to do bone one sh he came he asked a few questions that was enough some souls are so special all you got to do tell them one time they change their life now after that since then I think he's been at a total of maybe five sh but today he lives a life of a Jew goes to SCH every day learns T does watched himself got blessed got blessed he watched his bre once you started watch watching his breit 28 years he's whining and dining never finds somebody wants to get married washed his ble one year later he finds a b is he's married now married now expecting kids are you GNA find a is this Sodom and gamorra we live in Sodom and gorra he live in this guy found a is one you he went to now why I tell you this story there many of those why I tell you this story his mom empty no religious whatsoever nothing she walks around like she's uh what she walks around like but she has what she has when he started doing she said she didn't get in the way said you want to do it that's good for you go for it go for it it's good for you makes you happy to be closer to hasem go for it no problem she has Merit why even though she didn't do cha herself she has Merit why one of our sons full B so we're not saying that because your kids doing chuva you have to become a rabbi as a parent but don't get in the way at least you should be a rabbi as a parent you should be a b chuva too that's one of the of the end of days that hasem says the kids are going to make the parents do cha but at the very least don't get in the way of the kids that are trying to do CH a lot of kids are doing CH it's amazing how they he one two shim that's it finished their souls are still pure they they're not as filthy as some of ours adults from all the sins we made so one two that's enough they already want to do they're already scared you don't have to teach them about Gom five times one time you mention Gom they're scared for the rest of their life unless they're addicted to wasting seed and that makes it a little bit more difficult but the point is is that all of these stories all of these things they've happened Hashem gives each one of us warnings in different ways if each one of us delves in into our own past you'll see that Hashem has given you many many different warnings before he gave you a slap he doesn't just slap for no reason he gives you a warning shot and sometimes another warning shot and sometimes he gives you a punch why either because you're not getting the point or perhaps you're a special soul that doesn't have the luxury of time he wants you to do chuva now he wants you to do chuva now not when you're 47 and already half your life is under under your you know is behind you he wants you to do Chuan now already in your early 20s why you apparently have uh that's that's your maybe this something you're supposed to do whatever it is I don't know I'm not playing I'm not going to pretend to be got here all I can tell you is some people get their sign later in life some people get their sign early in their life but everybody gets signs everybody gets a message and every time you press snooze on that message and you ignore hasem you could rest assure that the next time he talks to you the next time he gives you a message it'll be much more painful and it'll continue to become more painful until person runs out of time or a person listens and starts doing Al that we use these 10 days of repentance and this y as a day to truly commit to that once and for all we are going to do Chua once in for all we're committed to changing not just for the things that are obvious but the things that are not so obvious not just for the things that are simple but also for the things that are difficult for us not for the things that we just we know about but also for the things that we don't know about but commit to learn about not just for the things that we like that the rabbi said and it uh it sounded funny but either way it's good but also for the things that we don't like and the rabbi said and we're going to do anyway that's what got elz ever to the extent of going from being an AR a cursed canite to being a going to alive what his cloes on he never died elel the servant of Abu is one of 10 people that went to Alive Al all of us go there dead G Al it's good enough he went there alive with his clothes on with his suit on how come when Abraham came to elzar elzar told him I have a daughter for your son needs to get married I have a daughter my daughter she's perfect girl beautiful girl she grew up in my own house sedik let her marry your son abam says your daughter can never marry my son why you're a Canaanite you are you're cursed Nation I am I'm Abu I'm the descendant of Shem descendant of Shem I'm hem blessed us you cursed can never be together says no now who is elzar at this moment elzar was first in command after abrah ainu he fulfilled the entire T whenever couldn't give would teach T so you would think you tell I tell somebody listen you're cursed I'm blessed all of a sudden says I'm B I'm cursed okay I'm fine I quit I quit I did cha already you still calling me cursed I quit El what did he say when Abu says you're cursed and I'm blessed what did elzra say you're right you're right but he didn't just say the words in his heart he didn't get offended because he knew this is not T he know his Rabbi said it that's not t even though it sounds offensive it sounds not good it's kados that's what Rabbi says the Rabbi says in his heart in his heart didn't get offended hasem says you didn't get offended by the truth you will never die you go to Alive you turn into you were now you you turn into why because you took the and you didn't get offended you didn't get offended by the you're now sometimes M sometimes rebuke sometimes the is offensive to your is never offended by the if you let yet take control of the steering wheel you're never going to be offended but if you let the yet take control of the steering wheel you'll be offended by everything you're only going to like the Mitzvah that are easy for you shabbat you keep you're going to love that mitvah keep you're gonna love that but stealing at work since you do it no no this Rabbi is he's crazy no no come on no text message why three text messages is stealing come on Rabbi KN what he think this generation of M he thinks that's okay no no everything that I do is okay everything I don't do is not okay you understand so a person needs to know it's either or it's you have to double check you have to double see doesn't mean that you uh can't breathe just means that you could do everything you're doing in a Kosher Way when it comes to work there's a time in a place to do things you take breaks you ask your boss can I do this can I do that you ask your Rabbi can I do this can I do that act like a three-year-old a four-year-old that ask for permission because sometimes you won't know why just assume that you're right and gather yourself a lot of sins and then you don't even know what you're doing on yum Kip you're doing Chua for a sin that you know about in reality in is saying if you only knew the other stuff so that's why it's very very important to be careful with the the the laws of money be very careful with the laws of arot all the issues of intimacy sex crimes you'll see that right before the end of yum Kip the last prayer is full of that that's all the CH that all of us do as CL mention every single possible sin that a person can make from intimacy issues wasting seed and nid and Goya and so on and so forth it's very very important to know this is a very serious crime in the eyes of hem no matter what generation it is next week we have a um Yip on uh Tuesday uh there's no shim next week no sh on Sunday I was planning on doing it but when shim decided that I can't do on on Sunday there is a small possibility that we may do a shoe on Thursday next week I'll let you guys know it'll be a special onetime exception but maybe I'm not sure we'll see uh either way there's going to be plenty of stuff online that uh will publicize maybe we'll do a sh online only we'll see but uh these next couple of days try to make sure that you are preparing yourself uh for uh for Yip not only by preparing the food and preparing the fast but also know what you can do know what you can't do uh anyone that is a has a m has money that they uh can donate this is a perfect time to donate especially for the sake of kiru because you want to show up to Yum with as many as possible don't show up to Yum with your savings account full of money but very littlea uh make sure that that whatever you can give you give uh aside from that aside from prayer aside from learning aside from giving also if you could uh do if you have somebody in your community that uh is brand new to the uh to to Judaism to Tor invite them invite them over to your sh invite them over to your sud that uh if you have the ability if you're uh if you have the ability to do it if you don't have the ability to do it you don't know anybody you don't know anybody you have the ability to do it you should do it help people especially people that are new don't just host people that are your friends and uh pretty much just want to show off your house and you're cooking how people that are new to the community new to the religion try to you know bring them over and and try to show them how beautiful Judaism is try to encourage them to come to the shield uh try to do that as much as you can if you have the ability if you don't have the ability where there's because of schom issues or money issues then don't worry about it focus on the other things only focus on the things you can do don't harp on the things you can't do don't worry about the issues of a uh let's say uh uh po if you're not even married yet first fin a then we're worri about puu don't worry about finishing the entire sh if you haven't finished the yet first finish the Kash don't worry about the worry about what the proms you have now don't worry about all of the sins you've ever made if you haven't even done CH for Shabbat yet first do CH for shabat then we'll start doing some other things you understand don't you can't complete the entire toah one and one shot can't complete to one shot somebody told me today listen this guy doesn't keep anything and I'm worried about all the T that he's doing what T the guy doesn't keep Shabbat what T what are you talking about t is that you're wasting time not learning T this guy doesn't even keep Shabbat what are you talking about T he doesn't even know why he's alive he doesn't understand the difference between him and a cow you're worrying about you tell the guy he's gonna tell you go fly kite you have to understand there are certain things that you teach now certain things you teach later can't teach the whole t on one leg so this this y we're going to commit to once and for all to do CH but also each one of us take on the obligation to help now and not later amen amen okay [Music] sh [Music]