WHY DO KIDS KEEP GETTING WORSE?

says in the beginning of this section it's talking about a rebellious son at the end is talking about death penalty for this rebellious son and other sinners in the middle is this beautiful captive woman and from those women came the wicked kids came AB Shalom who tried to kill his own father David because he wanted to become king came amnon who raped his own sister cried to a saying Hashem what did I do that I got these kids but the ranic goes further and he says and now I come to awaken you to an important principle meaning this is principle number two atomic bomb number two same price no that the reason that the Torah section about the Ben the rebellious terrible son and the section about the hanged man at the end of that Paras in the book of Deuteronomy chapter 21 veres 10- 23 ends up with a person getting hung and killed as a punishment it begins with talking about a rebellious son that is called a has a whole section about this how they kill him why they kill him he's you know it seems like he's underage what exactly the age is what did he do simply put is a glutton for wine and meat and for that they kill him which we'll explain in a moment because there's a lot of people that are glutton for meat and wine does that mean that they're all supposed to be killed no but we'll understand in a second but here the ran is telling us no that the reason why the Torah section about the rebellious son and the section about the hanged man are positioned near the verses of the beautiful captive woman meaning on one side in the beginning you have the rebellious son at the end death penalty in the middle the beautiful captive woman which is the woman that is if there's a war between a Jewish people and a foreign people after the Jewish people win the war they beat all the men there are obviously women and children left some of these women are single women some of them are beautiful and of course the men that are full of hormones and adrenaline are not able to control their desires so to says listen if they're in a war and he sees a beautiful foreign woman he has to wait 30 days to let her mourn the death of her family to uglify her meaning shave her head or grow her nails but if he still wants her after that then he's allowed to convert her and marry her but here thear says it's not because hasm says this is a blessed marriage it's because if I didn't allow this they would simply do it anyway and be sins Sinners so this is in essence one of the plac that Hashem gave in if you will to the human nature that he is himself created but don't for a second think that's a blessed marriage in fact it's the opposite says the Tor says the and says the ran says in the beginning of this section is talking about a rebellious son at the end is talking about death penalty for this rebellious son and other sinners in the middle is this beautiful captive women to inform you that from a captured woman for the sake of her beauty for lust a righteous man will not be born since the intention is only for crude lust and therefore came forth from her rebellious Sons fitting to be executed by the four debts of the bed here the ramban gives us an atomic bomb where he so many words he says yes you have free choice Hashem is not going to choose for you but that choice is not really free there's a price you marry that girl because she's beautiful you're paying for that what's the payment you're going to say wait a minute but the Torah allows me we went to war she's there yes you're right she's there you're allowed convert all that good stuff but that doesn't mean that Hashem wants you to marry that girl he's only allowing you to marry that girl in that war because he knows that you're going to do it anyway because you are just looking at physicality but know that that marriage is going to bring bad kids it's going to bring the rebellious sons and from there the ramban says we apply it to people that are not at War you married that girl after you saw her some nightclub or she was your secretary or your coworker or your colleague or you met her at some bar or wherever you met her and you decided you want to marry her because she's so beautiful you don't really care about our religious beliefs you don't really care about her understanding of tah you care less you just think she's beautiful that's enough the kids you'll get from that cannot be righteous yeah but you said this free choice you're right it's free choice you have a free choice to marry whoever you want to marry but that choice has a price so it's not really free it's kind of expensive because since the marriage was based on an animalistic Behavior animalistic Behavior creates animals the same concept goes other ways you married him because he's beautiful you married him because he has money that marriage cannot produce righteous kids why you married with animalistic nature animalistic nature produces animals that's what the ran is saying over here since the intent ion is only for crude lust therefore came forth her rebellious Sons fitting to be executed by the four deaths of the bedin meaning that these Sons it's not that they're going to be stupid or they're not going to be able to do math or they're not going to be able to be astronauts no no perfectly they could probably be astronauts they could be mathematicians they could do a lot of things doctors lawyers but according to the torat they're going to be Wicked meaning they're going to be some of those self-hating Jews they're going to be some of these liberal people they're going to be some of these people that according to the Torah they're going to make sins that if the sad was still around they would get the death penalty one of the four different types of death penalty whether it's stoning or burning or uh the sword or it's hanging them that depends on the sin but nonetheless they're going to be Wicked kids Wicked they also needed to they also have the ability to do CH but why would you want to bring a soul that needs to overcome so many obstacles in order to finally become righteous when the same exact act can bring a righteous soul that already is in essence inclined to do the good things and just build upon good things the proof of this this is in theah says the ran to give us another extreme example the ran goes to literally the most extreme when we think of our forefathers yov Moshe David schl all these extraordinary people sometimes it's easy to forget that the Torah did not give them any leeway to make mistakes they would judge more harshly than any of us can be because of how righteous they were so when mosenu hit the stone instead of speaking to it Hashem punished him and said that he didn't sanctify his name as if he didn't believe in him obviously M believed in hasm obviously mhu Sanctified aem's name a million other times but that opportunity he got judged DAV aav is David from mashia mashiach comes from David David the fourth pillow of the M when shim Ben came and publicly insulted him D didn't allow his soldiers to kill him he says no no no it's not him that's cursing me Hashem is allowing him to curse me meaning I have to fix myself that's why this is happening he's doing something bad hm will punish him for it but I need to work on myself because if I was doing the will of hem hasm wouldn't allow some guy to curse me especially somebody so well known as shim was there head of the so at that moment decided that he's going to be the fourth pillar of the yavid David is KES but yet David had some Wicked children he had holy schl but he also had of Shalom he also had amnon why did this happen and if this was not written we wouldn't be allowed to say it this is mentioned in the this is mentioned here by the ramban the raan says you should know that the matter of Tamar and of Shalom did not happen to King David peace be upon Him Without a Cause for both of them were the children of beautiful women captive women and for all this causes improper thoughts that Sprout that Sprout due to such a form and therefore understand the matters you are awakened to this in this chapter regarding the union and thoughts and ponderings here the ramban tells us the objective truth of the Holy Torah unbiased even though DAV wases he followed what he understood and at one time he misunderstood they were going to war David fought many wars they went to war they won the war at the end of the war there's women and children there was a beautiful woman there the Torah says after a war there's a beautiful woman you want to marry her after you go through the process of Shaving her head making sure she's ugly so maybe allowing your desire to go away but if you still want to marry her after that 30 days you can did this twice and from those women came the wicked kids came AB Shalom who tried to kill his own father David because he wanted to become king came amnon who raped his own sister as it says in the seph BET 2 chapter 13 amnon desired his own sister she was a step sister but needless to say a sister and he literally was a obsessed with her one day he pretended to be sick in order to get her to come visit him and give him food but as soon as she came in he attacked her and raped her thear says that she gave him a permanent damage for the rest of his life he wasn't able to ever do that again or anything for that matter as she in so many words broke his member but that still doesn't change the fact that he did something disgusting and awful and after he did this he hated her he hated meaning after he fulfilled his disgusting animalistic desire it didn't lead him to love her it didn't lead him to continue being infatuated about her but the opposite he hated her much more than he was infatuated with her cried to saying Hashem what did I do that I got these kids I could do chva all I was doing was following the Torah Tor says you go to war there's a beautiful woman I can marry her after we do the process Hashem says to David just because I wrote a permission doesn't mean you take advantage of that permission just because there's a party it doesn't mean you have to go just because there's kosher food doesn't mean you have to eat you should have looked at what's before it and what's after it before the captive woman of War I specifically wrote in the Torah I told you about the rebellious son to give you the hint that if you marri this captive woman although beautiful what's going to come out of her is rebellious Sons but they're not just going to be rebellious against you they're going to be rebellious against hasem hence the reason why at the end of that section I also wrote the death penalty for the for the for the uh Sinners these kids are going to be rebellious not only against their parents they're rebellious against hem rebellious enough to deserve the one of the four different types of death penalties D did CH and never never did this again but the point is it's only after he suffered suffered from these kids which is to teach us that even if somebody isid even if you're extraordinarily righteous you learned toah all day you learn toah all night but you marry somebody because of lust whatever you bring into the world is going to be rotten fruits even if somebody is the most holy woman in the world theid of women if you marry somebody because of money because of lust whatever comes out of you it's not going to be good it could turn good as a result of their actions by doing chuva but it won't start that way why it started with impurity it has to be that now we have to answer a few questions here after all of this wealth of information first and foremost the basic question is the Ben this this rotten kid this terrible son he's run he's terrible and the symbol of it is that he was a glutton of wine and meat so is that mean that everyone that's a glutton of wine and meat is going to be a sinner no there's plenty of people that are that fail in that aspect they don't know how to keep their mouth shut they have to eat constantly they have to drink they have to do these things but it doesn't necessarily mean that they're all rotten so why is it that the tah says that this if it's a wayward kid he's 12 and a half years old almost 13 they give him a death penalty they Stone him but if it's a 30y old they don't if it's a 14y old they don't why because if he's already rotten at that age that means that he came from an impure place that means that his parents whether one of them or both of them we thinking about inappropriate things during the time of intimacy which means that he came from a place of impurity and therefore unlike the other person that's drinking wine and eating meat he could just have this desire for that but still be able to do good things and develop and build and do good and be good but this kid since his root is from impurity he now has much higher likelihood to do much worse things than just simply be a glutton such as killing people raping people like the sons of David did like AB Shalom who literally tried to kill his own father like amnon who raped his own sister why they came from a place of impurity even though their father was there was a moment of weakness and that moment cost him if it cost DAV needless to say it would cost every single person if it's not just a moment of weakness but literally a lifetime of weaknesses because they're constantly following their desires now the second thing we have to answer is fine we understand we shouldn't marry somebody because of their money because of their looks only but how do we know we need to marry somebody like how do we choose do we have to marry ugly people poor people of course not marriage must have a spiritual Foundation everything else is a plus meaning if you're picking that woman to be your wife because of our holy ideology where she believes in Hashem she follows hasem she's willing to do everything necessary to serve Hashem and she also happens to be rich and she also happens to be a billionaire perfectly fine but as long as you made that choice because of that spirituality as well the other things are a benefit but the main reason has to be the spiritual aspect of it if you chose to marry that guy because he has a good ideology he learns M he learns he follows the AL he's not one of these Heretics he's not one of these philosophers that tries to create a new Torah and he also happens to be a billionaire and he's beautiful no problem enjoy your marriage you'll produce beautiful babies that won't have money to worry about at least why because the foundation is Holiness the foundation is the spirituality but if you married them only for the physical parts monetary parts Parts you're destined to be cursed you're destined to be whipped by a himself after ties you up [Music]