WHEN TO PRAY - Bitachon B’HaShem (14)

[Music] thank you for coming to learn with me this we have our new week new week we're going to start with our series maybe we'll open up to some questions somewhere in the middle I'm sure you guys are have a few questions that uh can't wait for Wednesday so if something is pressing you could ask um today's sh will also be forat David David uh also is Isaac Ben and um also a uh for rinin Ben benam son of do and also for for Cassandra L and our husband David Ben dor ran and all of will have uh tonight we're going to continue our series of we're up to uh number 14 in the series we'll go over a few things but this is one of those uh topics that you could study every day for a year straight and you still need more you could study it for 10 years straight and you still need more come come you had a good picture last week so they the fans like you so uh you can study every day of your life but you still need more why is literally means confidence but what's confidence in what what confidence in yourself many people have confidence in themselves and they still fall flat on their face sometimes people have overconfidence in themselves and they fall in their face so what's confidence what does it mean confidence it's good to have confidence in yourself if that confidence is rooted from something where you know that no matter what whether it's good or bad it comes from Hashem that's a healthy level of confidence but if you have the type of which is pretty much having confidence in your own abilities then unfortunately that confidence could be rooted from a very very bad place called arrogance and as we talked about last week who despises arrogance despises people that have arrogance why the ramban says being arrogant being overly confident thinking who you are not because it's AEM because you think that you're strong you think that you're this you think that you're that thinking that way it's like stealing the king's robe and acting like you're the king it's a joke it's a joke why you're not the king you just stole his robe meaning that if a person has confidence because of their own abilities if you will then in reality they take everything that gave them and they forgot that gave them and they're using it as if they got it themselves they forgot that AOS who is the one that gave him the brain even though the brain had the idea where did you get the brain from would the brain function without hem deciding if they lifted a certain amount of Weights when I was a kid 17 18 years old they used to lift a lot of weights and I thought it was me I mean I I understood hasm runs the world but I thought I was the one lifting the 805 PBS on top of my back and squatting it I thought it was me little did I know that eight years later I was barely going to be able to lift myself because of all the surgeries that I had but I one is 18 young and healthy would squat more weight than probably four or five of you together thought it was me hasem showed me no it's not you why I could take it away just like that so when a person has confidence in himself because of himself the root of it is evil the root of it is bad when a person thinks oh I'm going to get a job because I have a certain IQ or a certain amount of knowledge and they forgot that that knowledge and that IQ and that brain and even the idea itself is all gifted to you from Hashem you forgot it then unfortunately that's a confidence that's coming from the wrong place but it is very very important to have confidence it is very important to know that you can technically do anything you put your mind to but you have to ask for hashem's help because in reality he's going to help you with without your uh request but if you ask for his help it's in essence as if you're recognizing that it's really coming from him now the question is when it comes to confidence in Hashem when do you start praying to Hashem when do you pray most people most people they pray to hem when all hell breaks loose when everything goes wrong that's when everybody becomes sadik everybody becomes religious at the morg everybody becomes religious when everybody you know things are going bad keeper every day before he wouldn't even want to wear keep but after he lost all of his money he wears keeper every day the wife doesn't want he told him oh honey listen here's the divorce papers all of a sudden he's like no no maybe we should go learn about schom why didn't you learn before we I wanted to divorce you everybody wants to do Chua after the fact the question is are we right to pray to Hashem after things go bad or should we pray before now the says a smart person meaning smart meaning someone that has tah is very different from a foolish person meaning a person who does not have Torah why because the guy that does not have Torah he could be a man an engineer he could be uh building rocket ships he could be a genius when it comes to math when it comes to science when it comes to history when it comes to knowing all the stats for every basketball football and baseball player that ever lived and their salary count he can all that Stu but the Tora still calls him a fool why he doesn't know Tor if you don't have Tor Hashem says oh yes my one of my foolest kids why he doesn't know anything yeah but he knows all the stats he knows how much LeBron James is going to make next week he knows how tall LeBron james' son is you know how how how how big his cousin is that's going to join the NBA he knows his mother's cousin side he knows everything about all his family yeah but once he dies he's going to go up to sh they're going to ask him okay so what you do do in the world oh I know LeBron James um sorry sir uh LeBron James is in a different department it's not going to help you here it's not going to help you here what else do you know do you know any Tor do you know anything of significance if his answer is no he's going to be considered a fool but a fool in front of millions and millions of that are watching it because the answers to life can only come from the Torah now a person that does have doesn't have the wisdom of Torah he's going to pray to Hashem after the fact she's going to pray to Hashem after her husband tells her honey I don't want to be married to you anymore that's when she starts praying to Hashem she's going to start praying to Hashem once the doctor says I'm sorry ma'am you can't have kids then she's going to start praying to Hashem he's going to start praying to Hashem when the boss says listen thank you for very much for working for us for the last 10 years we appreciate your contribution to the company but you're fired then he's going to start praying to hem that's a fool that's a fo why it's too late all of you know this it's too late she wants to divorce him she can't have kids he got fired or it's too late a wise person meaning a person that has Torah knows that it's important for him to pray before the problem during the problem and after the problem meaning every single day a ker Jew wakes up with praying first thing in the morning a Jew says thank you for bringing back my into my body because you have you have belief in me that today I'm going to serve you better already you start your day with thank you Hashem I know everything is from you including my own and then you go on and your day and you start doing and you do a prayer and you go to the bathroom and after you finish relieving yourself you do another prayer thank you for making my body work because if it didn't work for even a moment oh wow how much pain that is anybody that's ever been constipated for half an hour knows how painful it is imagine being constipated for two for two three days imagine not being constipated imagine going too much imagine it hurts every time you go but you have to go a person that never experienced such pains is hard for him to relate to this pain but I promise you you don't want it so it's very very smart for every person to thank Hashem for just doing Simple Things simple things like going to the bathroom then he prays to hem puts on she prays to she does thank you hem for making me a Jew thank you hm for putting me in this world thank youm for all the difficulties because I know these difficulties are supposed to build me and so on and so forth we thank hasm for everything but most importantly we recognize that is the one that gave us the problem but also is going to give us the solution a kosher Jew is going to pray to hem before during and after the problem but sometimes we forget this sometimes we forget it Shalom his yard site was just I believe yesterday and it was a fantastic story that I heard about him from my rebi today that gives us a little bit of perspective of when you're supposed to pray onead comes to the rebi many years ago and he says listen they're having a big kenis a big uh you know speech of all these big rabbis and from all over the world they're bringing people from from Europe from this from that and for America they invited me I'm not at the level of these big rabbis but they invited me to speak and they not only invited me they invited me to speak as the main keynote speaker after the biggest Rabbi in the world so the RAB says to him good for you goes uh I don't know what to say what am I going to say in front of all these big rabbis he says this what you say and he tells him listen the r says XYZ but the rambam himself in a different book he contradicts himself but this is why and he starts explaining to him the whole journey from how the rambam got from here to the other one and then he mentions all of the other that have mentioned this literally gives him the lecture from A to Z the guy is so happy I just got a speech from the wow is imagine you have a speech one of the biggest rabbis in the world it can't go wrong so he goes to the kenes he goes to this big event hundreds and hundreds of people big rabbis small rabbis middle rabbis all types of rabbis are there now they invite the main speaker the and he starts talking andik hiso his eyes grew dark why everything he's saying is written in his paper gave him the lecture also like a copy everything he's saying he's saying and he said I have nothing to say I have nothing to say what am I going to say to these people he said m word for word word for word he said everything and the guy M the poor guy is eating his heart out he doesn't know what to say what am I say thousands of people I'm going to embarrass myself I'm sorry I have nothing to say cuz you can't just tell them listen guys you you know you should have in and you should tell your your your your K to keep Shabbat these are rabbis you have to give him something special he doesn't know what to say and he hears this the big Rabbi saying everything word for word but then he stops in the middle and he says I'm sorry I can't continue I don't feel well please I really apologize everyone I have to sit down so the the MC comes up he goes I'm sorry the rabbi can't continue anymore more but we'll have our next speaker come up and speak for us comes up and it couldn't be better it couldn't be better why everybody's saying wow we had such a great speech we're left in the middle like at the climatic event right at the most highlight event it stopped he couldn't speak anymore like wow we really want to know the answer I wish we knew the answer then this guy says the rest of the speech and everybody's like wow what a genius without preparation he already knew what he's going to bring and he finished the whole equation wow they praised him they recommended him he became the most famous Rabbi so then the rabbi actually said that that had the speech he told a story and I believe in Israel just this uh maybe last few days and my re heard it and he says whether thebi had that he knew this is going to happen or not that's not my business I don't know all I know is that the darkness that I felt when he said everything that I was supposed to say was a feeling I never wanted before but Hashem also showed me that right before the biggest salvation in my life also came the biggest Darkness right before the yes right before the greatest thing that I've ever experienced in my life was also something that felt momentarily like the biggest embarrassment was about to happen this is the reason why a Jew is supposed to pray before the problem during the problem and after the problem now have taught us that if you want to have it's one of those things that you have to work on every single day ultimately arriving at a conclusion that everything and anything that's happening in your life is an opportunity to build yourself higher to build yourself closer to a now the BET says turn to Hashem and ask him before you start exerting yourself whenever anyone is suffering or lacks whatever he needs instead of saying you know what let me try harder you know you working you're working you're working and P is not coming you're working you're working you're working and you still failed the test you're working you're working you're working the car still won't turn on you know sometimes you work on the car not that mean I never worked on cars I don't know anything about cars but I'm pretending like I knew fun story and sometimes you work on cars you work for five hours you turn it on doesn't turn on so the BET says before you do more before you say let you know what instead of working 5 days a week maybe I'll work six days a week instead of working eight hours a day maybe I'll work 12 hours a day instead of doing this I'll do more before you do that first examine your own Deeds examine your own life take a few moments stop stop whatever it is that you're doing and start reflecting on your life and say why is my Father in Heaven that loves me that Ador me that created me for my own benefit why is he causing me this suffering what does he get out of it what does he get out of me having this pain that I have this emotional pain this physical pain this psychological pain what does he get out of it now if your answer is oh maybe he likes it then you believe in the wrong God but the reality is you have to start examining why is my wife yelling at me right now that means that hasem signed off in of sh he said wife is going to yell at youron today why maybe youron did something wrong maybe youron did something wrong no no no she's wrong she's R she's like the set no no you you you first and foremost look at the person you see in the mirror first sometimes people look at the mirror but they see what's behind you you have to look at the mirror first you what did you do wrong that's what the BET says and he should try to find everything that he did that's not proper because they could have been the reasons that caused them the problem as it says in page five if one sees that he has afflictions coming upon him he should examine his deeds do Chua meaning repent from his bad ways pour out his heart before Hashem so that his afflictions will go away this sounds simple and technically it is if we already have gotten ourselves used to looking at ourselves first if you see that you don't have schom bite you don't have peace in the house you only have one person to blame you if you see you have no money you have money problems you only have one one person to blame don't blame your boss don't blame the economy don't blame the stock market don't blame the president don't blame the whoever you you are at fault for everything that's rule number one now you can go and blame the president you could blame the stock market you can blame me if you want that's not going to help you what's going to help you is if you blame yourself why cuz okay what am I doing I could change me here I can't change him I can't change Hashem I can't change anybody I can change me if I can change me that means I have a solution so the first reaction to a hardship the BET says should be to turn to hasem after you've reflected after you've seen you know what hasem I saw I looked in the mirror and in reality my prayers not so much sometimes I forget to pray sometimes I eat I don't forget to eat but I forget to say to eat we never forget nobody ever forgets to eat but to say thank you Hashem for the food sometimes we forget sometimes or what we say sometimes people say is there a shorter version of how come there's no nobody ask for a shorter version of the meal is there like a smaller meal nobody says can I have a smaller meal but they say can I have a shorter version of B how come you had an hour and a half to eat but you don't have five minutes to thank hm for the food or sometimes you have people they say listen uh can I still do why what's the problem why you don't have an arm no no I have an arm it's just that it's it's almost night it's almost night okay do it yeah as long as it's not night as long as the sun didn't go down you can still put onine the question is is this the first time or an everyday thing if it's the first time okay everybody has different issues different reasons of why they forgot or couldn't do until 5:00 6:00 7:00 at night before it's almost dark but if it's an everyday thing then I have to ask you a question how come you forget to talk to Hashem every morning what do you think the came inside the body by itself what do you think that your body is running itself at the very least you have to say thank you to by what by praying in the morning but you can say yeah but I was in a hurry but yeah but I was busy but yeah I was this but yeah I was that I understand everybody's busy everybody's in a hurry everybody's got stuff to do but you have a responsibil is the success is going to come from if you think it's going to come from you from your skill set from your strength from your efforts then you're already going about your way in the wrong direction or for example example sometimes people say to me listen how come I can't find a job or how come I don't have enough money so I say listen let's look at there's a checklist a checklist of a few things that cause you to have money problems there's many things that cause money problems according to the Torah but there's a checklist these are the big things check number one do you keep Shabbat oh yeah yeah I keep Shabbat I only drive on Shabbat okay that means you don't keep Shabbat no no I keep Shabbat I only play with my phone on Facebook on Shabbat okay that means you don't keep Shabbat at all at all you keep Shabbat why it's actually could be worse than driving playing on Facebook on Shabbat could be worse than driving on Shabbat why driving there's a limited amount of people that are going to see you drive so it's a limited amount of Facebook you have 5,000 friends all of them saw that you're on Facebook on Shabbat so don't ask how come I don't have a what do you mean you don't have you're lucky you're still alive you're on borrowed time hasem said somebody violate shabai he's going to kill him the fact that your life is a miracle so rule number one you keep Shabbat okay if you keep sh you have a check we go to the next one go to the next one how about wasting seed oh no no I don't waste seed it's just that uh we're not ready to have kids yet not you know a lot of guys they get married but they're not ready to have kids yet okay but what do you mean you're not ready to have kids yet you're just if it comes you're just going to be disappointed or you're not ready because you're doing things that are not allowed if you're doing things that are not allowed whether it's what the G called protection which is uh protection for uh for all of you know one room protection for for one room for all of the sins to go into protection for those sins because of the Gom that person is going to get for wasting seed or it's a uh they're doing things like er where instead of doing things the normal way they do things an abnormal way then that person Hashem gives him sh we call it which is salvation good blessings and he wastes it through his seed why because that seed is hisa so he gives it to all of the demons that he creates every time he wastes it and the woman whether she's his wife or his girlfriend or whoever could be she's partner in the crime 100% they're both going to have a nice Villa and G yeah but they're married to keep Shabbat okay so first thing they were good but in Gom they also have a section for people that keep Shabbat they do no says people that keep Shabbat keep keep Shabbat they have a special section in G why they have a section in G where the the fire is off on Shabbat fire the rest of the week it works though rest of the week it works so now if he did did he stop wasting seed then he knows oh okay so this cannot be the reason I'm not wasting seed so that means that two checks three when your wife when your wife sees you does she smile or she says she's like scared to see you what is he going to say next she she's like she's not sure what she's going to say next if that's what you if that's the kind of wife you have you have a very serious problem if your husband every time somebody mentions the the wife's name he says yeah what a yeah that's my wife like he's like he's like embarrassed that's his wife you don't have some bite unfortunately many homes many homes are like that how do you know how many of you know guys and girls that are married that go on vacation by themselves without their spouse raise your hand you don't have to be embarrassed they don't know they're not here how many of you know people that are married they're married but they go on vacation without their spouse I don't talk about business trips business trips happen you don't have to bring your wife or your husband everywhere you go but I'm talking about a married guy but he wants to go to a vacation with the guys a woman she's married but she's going on vacation with the girls not with the husband how many of you know people like this okay a good amount of you not a single one of those people have schom how do I know without knowing them after being married for about 16 years now you learn about schom whether you want it or not when you have slum bite when you have peace in the home that means that you want to be with your spouse all the time especially during free time you want to experience all the good things all the fun things with your spouse now vacation for most people that's like their highlight that's where I want to be everybody works the whole year so they could take one or two weeks off for vacation so if you work the whole year to save up for this one week vacation but you decided to take it with somebody that's not your spouse guess what you probably don't want to be with your spouse you probably don't want to be with them you probably want to be with somebody else your friends yourself somebody else maybe it's definitely not your spouse why because if you want to be with your spouse then you're going to be with them especially during the fun times and unfortunately today it's become very very common for men and women to go away on vacation without their spouse but that's also the reason why the divorce rate is increasing rapidly every year over 80% in Western society and unfortunately it's even affecting the Jewish world and it all starts with these vacations and other things that we forget about that are so simple yes you have a question yes both get for which part yeah well the uh when when there's a uh when there's a missing ingredient all parties that are involved all parties that are involved are uh are guilty it cannot be a one-way Street meaning if she's trying everything she can but he's just a psychopath then no she's obviously not at fault she did everything she can she's uh constantly trying to please him but he's just a mental case that's not her fault but it doesn't usually work that way usually one thing leads to the other sometimes it's not something so so obvious so for example many times you see couples that are unhappy with each other but they don't know why he's good-looking she's good-looking he has money she has money they loved each other like little everything everything was perfect before they got married as soon as they got married soon as they got married it was like they were morning day why what happened because once a twoot get together the responsibility increases drastically and the outcome of your actions both of your actions affect each other for example if a man a married man Wast seed his wife is not going to know why he's not doing it in front of her at least in most normal cases I've actually had cases where the wife knew but that's not a normal case normal cases she doesn't know he I don't know he's in the bathroom he's in wherever he is and she doesn't know but for some reason everyone every time he wants to give her like a hug hey honey how are you she's like disgusted by him she doesn't want to be next to him she always has a headache she has like a permanent headache permanent headache every time he's next to her why she thinks it's just because she's she's really tired she thinks oh I just don't feel like it he thinks oh yeah she's really tired oh really she doesn't feel like it no no it's not that it's not that you know what the secret is har knows everything har knows the sins he's making knows that he's cheating on her with the Satan's wife because that's what happens with the seed and her is disgusted by him and therefore repels him doesn't want to be next to him why what normal woman would want to be with a guy she knows it's cheating how many of you women want to go with a guy that's going to cheat on you how many raise your hand even as a joke you're not going to raise your hand why what you out your mind Rabbi what do I my missing arms or something why why would I be with such a why would I be such a guy no guess what guys every single time a man weigh seed it's like he's cheating on his wife it's just that the wife is not a physical one it's not the one that he was at the office that he thought was cute it's the one that's in his mind now this causes a lot of Slum bik problems this is also the reason why guys try to run away from their wives go on vacations the wives want to get away they run away from their husbands and so on and so forth so when a person has these problems a person has these issues where they have bad schite they have bad they have all of these different things instead of trying harder you know what maybe we should go to a marriage counselor maybe we should watch a movie together maybe we should make dinner night maybe we should walk the dog together none of those things are going to help you it may be a nice way to waste your life nice way to I don't know give the dog a little fresh air maybe the the the you know Hollywood's going to make a few dollars more because you watch the movie but it's not going to fix your marriage it's not going to fix your P it's not going to fix anything why cuz you haven't fixed yourself yet so the first and most important thing is that a person needs to see what am I doing wrong according to the book according to the book now this could be something that even someone that's smart someone that's righteous someone that is even called a prophet in the Torah can make a mistake like this and last week's par was K how many of you know the story of K you with me okay so korak most people when they picture korak they picture some gangster or some guy that's just a uh no no korak was actually tadik kak was actually a righteous person that went wrong how did he go wrong he saw through prophecy that his descendant his great grandson is going to be Shmo Shmo the prophet and he already knew that Shmo is going to be as righteous and as great as M and Aon together he saw this that sh is coming from him so he figured wait a minute if sh is coming from me of course that I'm right over mosenu I have a debate with mosu there's no way that hem is going to kill me if Shu has to come for me why because how is he gonna come how is sh gonna come if I'm gonna die why because until this moment everybody's on the same team him his wife the 250 rabbis his sons he said how could I lose debate if ifem hasem needs me to have sh that's the mistake never in his Wildest Dreams did he reflect on himself to think wait a minute yes Hashem showed me that shuel is coming for me to show me what potential I have but Hashem doesn't need me and Hashem has many many ways to bring Shu into the world he never thought about this for a second he limited hasem and what he didn't see was the fact that his three sons were going to do CH leave him go and join mosenu in the last minute and him and the 250 rabbis and his wife were all going to go to Gom and his sons were going to become and from there came he never reflected he never reflected and that's why after this whole thing happened if you remember from reading the par told take all of the pens that the rabis and K they brought aan they brought different things they use this for they use this for a sacrifice take all of those pans don't throw them out make a casing a cover for the Altar for the M why why these people they're Wicked people you just killed them because yeah I killed them but what they did they still did something good so I want to show you and I want to remind everybody's going to bring me a Corban a sacrifice that sometimes even if what you do is good if it's not with the permission of hem if it does not have the signature of hem that you're doing it the right way not just doing something good but you're doing it the right way then it's no good and this will be the reminder make a casing for the altar so that way every time time somebody else brings a sacrifice says it's not enough to just do something good it's do it the way that hasem said so it's not enough to just say oh yeah I learned T I learned T yeah if you learn Torah but you don't know how to behave then your Torah goes in a garbage pill a lot of times you have people they learn a lot of Torah but their wives are suffering at home cry all day they call me they cry oh what happened oh my my husband my husband keeps yelling at me what what what did you do that he's yelling at you nothing what do you mean you did nothing he has nothing to do he just feels like yelling you I don't know he keeps blaming me that we don't have any money he keeps blaming me that we don't have enough kids he keeps blaming me that I did this he keeps blaming me that I don't clean the bathroom 87 times a day he keeps blaming me that the the floor is not shining that he could see his reflection he keeps blaming for all of his problems he keeps BL blaming me for somebody else's problems he blames me for everything I'm like theban I said okay so you should tell your husband Rabbi ruen told him all the that he learned all day in the all he learn all he learn his entire life goes right in the same place as K garbage pale why the Torah is a tool to fix yourself if you learn it without fixing yourself you misusing the tool you misusing the tool so that's what the BET tries to tell us here is that yes you're supposed to pray to hasem but don't just think that you could pray to hasm whenever you feel like it after all hell breaks loose you have to pray to Hashem before you start the mission during the mission and after the mission before the problem during the problem and after the problem that way in the beginning you first tell hm has I know I could only succeed because of you then during the thing hasem I know that I'm only succeeding because of you and after you've succeeded or failed you say Hashem I know that whatever it was uccess or failure both of them came from you that way you have AEM in your mind at all times that way you could build your connection with now sometimes we have a problem when we pray and that we forget what we're praying about how many of you have had a situation don't be embarrassed I'll raise my hand too where you prayed but you forgot where you at of the S now if all of you don't me too sometimes you pray somehow you end up you don't know how it's there you not you didn't eat nothing how I get I don't have any Pizza next to me nothing I happened ever happened it happens right there was one time a guy praying and his friend is watching him he's praying praying and he sees his praying praying praying praying like this and he goes like this so so he thought it's a gang sign at the end of the say we part of a gang blue red which one are you goes no no no what happened what happened what was this what was this what are you uh Nixon the former president of America peace sign what is this what is it goes no I was thinking about the vacation I'm going tomorrow and I started visualizing myself on a vacation and the waitress came and I said two beers two beers two beers the guy is already he's praying to hm but he forgot he's on vacation now let me ask you how many of you if you a god you want that prayer you want that prayer the guy saying this huh better than nothing what hasem is homeless I have a question where prayer so sometimes sometimes we pray I'll answer your question don't worry sometimes we pray and we forget that we're praying sometimes we forget why we're praying the reason for this and it seems like you guys have a lot of questions I'll open up for questions after I make this point I promise the reason for this is because sometimes we've prayed so many times unlike the Christians that pretend like they praying once a week and the Arabs that pray five times a day but then they kill people and all of the other crazy people in the world we pray three times a day as Jews but sometimes we pray so much we forget what the whole prayer is about we forget it's like we got used to it you know all the words by heart you know you're kind of proud of yourself you know a 300 page book by heart how many people you know that are not Jewish know a 300 page book by heart nobody Jews know if you know how to pray you know a 300 page book by heart so you know by heart you get so comfortable you forget what you're even saying we call this meaning you got used to it now at the time of the bet mikdash the third one that's coming the Ezekiel says there's going to be rules one of the rules that it says is going to be in a bet mikdash in chapter 46 verse number n he says that if you enter the beta mikdash in a Northern gate you have to leave in the southern gate if you enter in the Eastern Gate you have to leave in the western gate now somebody asked me last week how many stones were in a bet mikdash somebody asked me who is he did you somebody here that asked me somebody asked question last week how many stones are in a BET mikdash right okay there's no answer so I didn't get it wrong there's just no answer there's estimates but there's no answer now the theab was like I told you three football fields by three foot football field Square now the bet mikdash is huge in so many words huge is huge so now imagine third is built you go with your nice car you go enter now in Israel any of you guys been to Israel you guys been all of you been in Israel you remember hard it is in Israel in the summer imagine imagine you're going there like in August it's hot almost as hot as this room right now hot right now imagine they tell you H listen yes sir thank you for coming to this way this way this way now you want to go back you parked on the Eastern Gate you're trying to get out like hey hey what are you doing sir you want you want death penalty hey what death penalty I just prayed to Hashem what death penalty if you leave from the same gate you entered death penalty hey he hey relax Mr uh Rabbi hey relax yourself with your big beard I'll go to different gate but I I parked over here right outside the gate I get here early I got here early so I could park here he goes okay you got here early to get here great but you have to leave in the opposite gate but you know how long it's going to take me to get to the opposite end and then go all the way around this huge building you're talking about another hour and a half two hours of time why can't my car is right there it's right outside the door I can see it sorry sir you cannot if you leave you break through us we have to kill you what kind of rules this what we Fanatics now the yavitz theid yavitz from a few hundred years ago said fantastic fantastic information for all of it's worth a million dollars we'll take payments now what did he say he says the rule is you are not allowed to leave from the same gate that you entered the beta mikdash why because if you leave from the same gate you entered you will see the same wall of the bet mikash twice in one day and if you see the wall of the BET mikdash twice in one day maybe your mind will get used to it and the walls of the BET mikdash will start looking to you like the walls in your house where you feel it to go in free to go out you get used to it and Shalom that you get used to the BET mikdash what do we learned from this we learned from this is that when we get used to things unfortunately we stop appreciating them if you get used to your wife you stop appreciating her you get used to your husband you stop appreciating him you get used to your kids you stop appreciating them you get used to your job you stop appreciating it you get used to the tah you stop appreciating it and what does that lead us to it lead us to Hashem having to rebuke us how does he rebuke us he gives us a problem from what we got used to you got used to your kids I'll give you a problem with the kids you got used used to your husband all of a sudden your husband's not used to you you got used to your wife all of a sudden your wife the wife doesn't want to talk to you all of a sudden you have a problem from the things that you thought were good why Hashem says you have to fix this you have to fix this now you have a question go ahead um backtracking a little bit why do it look down upon for guy to go alone on the trip with the boys is he married um well not not for but in general okay if yes okay if he's married if a man is married then he has different responsibilities than a 17 18 19 year old kid that doesn't have a responsibilities he has a wife he has kids assuming he has a life so for him to go and put everything on hold to go hang out with the boys that means that his priorities are not straight because even if let's say for example Financial he's not worried he has a bunch of money to burn for a few Generations kids he has the kids his wife doesn't want any more kids right now uh the wife is there she's not going anywhere it's still not good for him to go alone why if you're going to go have a good time why don't want you take the most important people in your life with you why why are your friends more important than your family they're not more important if your friends are more important than your family you have a very serious problem now if it's a single guy guy if it's a single guy which is more relevant to the vast majority of you going away on his own it's not problematic assuming you're going on a kosher vacation now if you're going to let's say the you're going to different places in is to go pray at next to's grave or the r Ora all the you want to you know learn together pray together do great things like that a lot of Sim do this no problem but if you're going to Vegas if you're going to the beach if you're going to some Luna Park where everybody over there is naked the Tor doesn't say it's a uh it's frowned upon it doesn't say that doesn't say that you know what Torah says Tor says Tor says it's better that you die than go on this vacation doesn't say it's frowned upon doesn't say that just say it's better you die instead why because there's a sin called gu is immorality immorality is whether it's say having sex with your own mother or your sister or your wife that's nid or a prostitute or Goya or even looking at it meaning according to the is one of the three three things in a Tor that a person has to die and not commit a sin the other other two are idolatry somebody tells you go pray to JC peny go pray to Jesus or I'll kill you you have to die somebody else tells you go kill this guy or I'll kill you you have to die your blood is not better than his you're not have to kill anybody even to save your own life last but not least you're not allowed to make a Sex crime sex crime in t means everything I just mentioned to you with a few others point being AB is that if the guys are going to a place where there's going to be zot there's going to be immorality is going to be the you know people walking around naked in the beach and by the way when I say naked I don't literally mean naked like people think naked also means IM modest naked means a woman walking around with a bikini or something like that unfortunately people walk on the streets over here like this also this if it happens that you're walking on a street somebody walks around like that it's not your fault you look away but if you're going to the place where you know for sure that's all they have over there then you have a very serious problem why because you're going to go look at her and then that image is going to enter your mind and will never leave ever ever ever ever the best case scenario is if you do chuva for this image that's in your mind that you saw in a movie that you saw in real life the best case scenario is you do chuva you regret it you cry about it and it just gets pushed back in your mind that you don't think about it as often that's the best case scenario but once your n sees something it records it for eternity so now if you and the boys are going to such a place of immorality then what are you doing the Torah says you're going to murder your own why you murder your why why you doing this to your hasm gave you a perfect you're going to ruin it no don't do it she doesn't want you to ruin your why now I'm going to speak to you guys in your language any anybody here married nobody's married yet right okay one day you're going to get married right and you're going to have kids right you everybody plans to have kids or Just dogs kids too right okay no today in modern society people don't want kids they want dogs they want two kids and a dog or two dogs and a kid it's it has to match somehow like they have to put on YouTube or Facebook look I have two dogs and the kid too in the back walking the dogs free dog walker but you want kids right Bes you're goingon to have kids now you're G to have kids just like you you're G to have kids just like you now how many of you realize what it takes to have a kid now obviously the woman has to carry this kid for 9 months it's hard it's hard I was I was never pregnant I look pregnant but I was never pregnant I promise you I was never pregnant but I can tell you for sure after having three kids I know for sure it's hard it's hard it's hard on the body during it's hard on the body after now after the wife carries these kids for nine months oh how much pain she goes to and she delivers the kids and she has to take care of the kids and she has to feed the kids and they never sleep women never sleep by the way don't ask them when do you sleep they don't sleep why because they have to feed the kids and then change the kids and then feed them again and change the kids and then go maybe the kid doesn't want to go to sleep so they can't go to sleep o it's so hard to raise the kids now after you rais this kid for 15 16 17 years now this little cute little girl come hey ABA ABA how are you ABA ABA how are you you're so happy to see this kid now how if you saw this little 15 16 year old little cute kid that you just gave your whole life for now you didn't carry the kid but you worked all the money goes to the kids to the wife to everything else now this little 16-year-old kid says ABA meet my boyfriend Jose we're getting married cuz I'm pregnant how would you feel you know I know all of you guys are young still now you're all young but you could think you could think like old you just raised this kid gave your whole life for this kid and the kid comes to you this little cute little peaches kid beautiful kid and she says hi ABA here's Mustafa Mustafa is uh running for president ofas we're having a baby we're going to call him Muhammad no no no how many of you guys are proud of your daughter still how many of you are regret the day she was born and the day you were born well guess what guess what guess what guess what you don't want this girl right you don't want this kid you don't want this your daughter come coming to you saying ABA I me Mustafa are getting married no you don't want that right guess what when you touch AB is when you touch about is today now before getting married you are doing the same thing you don't want done to you and says measure for measure that was not removed from the world you do it you go find a and touch her without being married guess what one day you get a little older you invest your whole life into raising kids your little kid's going to come home not so precious not so innocent but she's going to come with Mustafa you understand so now when a person thinks wait a minute who needs these problems okay I'm not ready to get married okay I'm not ready to have kids but I definitely don't want to set myself up for failure I don't want to set myself up for failure that hm has to repay me back for the things that I did so guess what okay don't touch me don't look at me I just want to do what I need to do in this world I want to work I want to learn I want to do what Hashem wants me to do when I'm ready to get married the time's going to come why you don't want these problems you don't want these problems now unfortunately sometimes people don't like to listen to me so they do things on their own so I have almost on a month L basis unfortunately I have young kids coming to me from different places around the world telling me about their troubles and already more than a few times I've had to convince kids that they're making they made a mistake but they're going to make a bigger one what's the bigger one they made a mistake by having intimacy before getting married but now they say listen I loved him he was such a cute guy but now that I'm pregnant he doesn't want to be with me he doesn't want to be with me anymore because he's not ready to be a husband yeah but he was acting like a husband but yeah but he wasn't ready to be a husband so he said we should uh we should terminate it that's what the medical term is for murder he wants to have an abortion now you should know just a small little tidbit about abortions number one it's considered 100% murder after 40 days at the 40th Day the enters the baby it's 100% a living breathing being so if you do it before the 40 days well there's nothing to do it for if you take a let's say for example a morning after pill which unfortunately some people make the mistake and and end up having to take the morning after after pill it's not a open permission to do such a thing but if somebody were to do that they made less mistakes put it that way it's still a mistake but nonetheless a mistake because once there's 40 days pass then it's considered 100% murder unfortunately most people don't discover that the woman is pregnant for the first day or or first week or second week usually they find out after she's missed her period which is already after a month and most of the time she doesn't tell you or she feels bad or she missed it and it's not regular and what ends up happening she tells you after she's already two three four five months pregnant and guess what she says I'm not ready to be a ima and he said guess what I'm not ready to be ABA oh okay let's go to the clinic they go take care of it okay now in sh you have two things one you're both con murderers what happens to murderers nothing good I'll give you an example now if you ever want to know what happens to an aborted baby text me I'll send you some videos I'll show you exactly what happens to them but you need to know this why because if you ever have in your mind for a second to do such a thing just know mid mid measure for measure you kill a baby you have to come back as a baby that gets killed that's not fun now if you've made that mistake already and you didn't know why number one the punishment is less number two you could do chuva you could do chuva serious chuva first and foremost take on yourself all of the mitv second of all never let another person touch you unless you're married to them third and most importantly you have to get other people to know what I just told you either by sending them the sh sending them our other shim connecting him with us whatever it is you have to publicize the truth to people why because right now people think that the worst thing that ever happened is the Holocaust six million Jews died right a million of them were kids a million kids would di died were murdered cold blood in the Holocaust but guess what since the Holocaust until today 30 36 million Jewish babies have been aborted 36 million six times six times we were killed in the Holocaust why because today it's become W what's a big deal what it's just a pill it's just a little procedure it's a big thing in sham it's a very big thing and any woman that experienced it she'll tell you it's a very big thing you don't want to experience so I promise you you don't want to make some of these some of these mistakes seem like they're not a big deal but they are they are they are a very very big deal you have to know what you're dealing with here it's not worth it for you guys to touch anybody unless you're married to them because it's only going to lead you to trouble now these vacations to go back to your fantastic question that led us to so many places these vacations if it's a kosher destination that's going to lead you to get closer to Hashem to uh to do something good in the world no problem enjoy the vacation if you're single you don't have a responsibility of wife and kids no problem problem but if it's a non- kosher destination with non- kosher activities then what do you want it's only going to lead you to bad I have one kid contacted me just a few days ago grew up in a really religious house more religious to me this kid said to me he says I don't know what happened to my life but in a matter of three months my whole life is upside down so what happened in 3 months the whole life 25 years religious hat beard payers everything gooda no three months everything goes upside down he goes ah listen I don't know I had to my my my dad told me maybe I should uh look for a career and I said I don't know I you know I don't know what to do I learned my whole life maybe I'm going to go to college maybe I'm going to go to college so he signed up to go to college now colleges today are not like colleges that they were 100 years ago you actually go to learn colleges today is like legal prostitution that's what colleges are today I'm serious I went to college I know what they are colleges today is legal prostitution first four years all you know all you learn is how how much you can drink and how much you drugs you can do and how many new partners you're going to have every week because you're competing with your friends that's what you learn in college you do not learn anything about what you're going to use in the world you don't learn a profession because you want to learn the profession you have to go to grad school you have to spend another $50 $100,000 you learn nothing in college that's why Tora says don't go to college you want to learn something you need to learn a specific task you want to be an accountant a lawyer a doctor you don't need to go to one of these colleges you could do home school you could learn college at home Hashem provided you a way to do good things at home without going to these uh places why because these places unfortunately are full of people that live a life that's the opposite of Torah the girls are in a contest who's going to have more boyfriends the guys are in a cont going to have more girlfriends and everybody meets every single night seven days a week at a place where all that happens is that so this young man that never saw anything like this in his life went to college in three months in three months he never L he never even looked at a girl in three months he became addicted addicted to intimacy to the extent where he started going to prostitutes it wasn't enough College he started going to other things why because says in the there's a small member in a man if you satiate it you feed it it'll always be hungry if you starve it it'll always be satisfied it'll be satiated meaning the more active you are the more you're going to want the less active you are the less you're going to want and you're only going to want to the appropriate times when it's aah because it's with your wife with your husband then it'sah you're actually fulfilling a mitvah but when it's not a mitvah guess what all you're doing is you're destroying yourself and these places that the is created as your surroundings whether it's the nightclubs or it's the uh it's the colleges uh places all of these places are different traps for the to bring you now if you want to do good things you want to learn you want to study want to do things there are plenty of kosal ways to do it you could ask me for guidance if you want I give you plenty of different references and places and so on and so forth but I promise you if you want to live a kosher life you have an opportunity to do it if you want to take your chances go ahead and do it but I'm telling you you're going to lose and the reason why the reason why I'm confident to say that is because you see the world today that we live in is full of loses is 80 plus per rate of divorce rates almost 100% of people are miserable 80% get divorced the rest of them are still miserable but married they just don't want to get divorced because of the money or they don't want to get divorced because they can't afford it or they can't afford it point being AB is people are miserable why because they don't have a in their life when you don't have a in your life it is impossible to be happy because your life is going to be full of mistakes yes you have a question so you mentioned that stay away from it star saate K Feed it it'll never it'll never it'll never be satiated exactly so I don't know my my personal like history I feel like if I were to stop something yes in October and now I I stop and want go right yes man so I feel like it's even more hard you know I didn't say it was easy but it would harder than no here's the thing the beginning the beginning of preserving yourself whether you're a man or a woman is very difficult it's very difficult it doesn't stop right away the urges that you have don't stop right away so you're going to have the urges for a while now all of you are already at the age or close to the age of you need to get married why because to preserve yourself for much longer is going to become more and more difficult guys girls in general don't be one of these people that's uh you know no no I'm not ready to get married I'm waiting till I'm 25 I'm waiting till I'm 35 I'm waiting till I'm 45 and then you end up being like a lot of people that are 50 still not married like everybody thinks that they're just going to find somebody whenever they feel like it like it's a hot dog like it's a uh they're going to buy a Snickers bar in the store it's always going to be available every da you go to always has Snickers bars people think they're going to find a husband a wife like that doesn't work that way you have to make sure that you get married when you're supposed to get married not when you feel like it now when are you supposed to when you're marriageable age if you're a man already at 18 you should be married 19 already is a it's considered a delay which means that all of you are either at that age or close to it now I know in modern society that's that sounds obnoxious and ridiculous but it's true it's true now I know that the generation today is very young-minded if you will or immature you could call it so for them to get married at 19 or 20 is completely out of the question why they're thinking wait I don't have money yet I don't have a job yet I didn't feel a school yet I didn't do that you have a whole list of things you didn't do that you feel like you need to do them in order for you to get married that's one of the ways the yet convinces you to make more sense why you don't need any of those things to get married all you need is the willpower all you need is the willpower to do a Mitzvah hasem does the rest what do you think that hm gave you a Mitzvah and he's gonna you're going to fulfill that Mitzvah and he's doing it dka just to make you fail like sometimes people tell me listen we're not ready to have kids why not we don't have any money we don't have any money so we're not going to have any kids so what do you think that hasem is going to actually he gave you a mitvah in the to have kids then he's going to allow the seed and the Egg to connect in order for the kid to come and go through all of that process of N9 months of torture for the woman and the man sometimes okay to bring the kid to the world just so the kid could starve to death like what kind of God do you believe in what do you think that Hashem is not going to give you the right amount of money and the right amount of environment and the right amount of everything that you need when you need it he's not giving it to you now because you don't need it now he's going to give it to you when you need it the point being is that when it comes to marriage it's not a matter of money it's not a matter of what kind of job you have it's a matter of willpower of whether you want to do the will of hem or not now I know that mentally nobody here is ready whether you're 18 or you're 25 no one's ready guess what I'm married for 16 years I'm still not ready you're never ready why because marriage if it's a good marriage if it's a healthy marriage it's renewed every day it's renewed every day every day you learn a little bit more about each other every day you get to know more about each every day is something new you experience things together the difference between you being single and you being married is that now married you fight the battle together by yourself go suit yourself smash your head against the wall yourself what do you think you to be more successful by yourself no you have two two are always going to be better than one if it's the right marriage now don't just go on the streets Hey listen marry me no that doesn't work that way you just pick somebody obviously you have to be attracted to the person you have to have you know similar mindset similar likes similar aspirations and so on and so forth you go on a few dates to make sure that they're not crazy and so on and after a while you decide okay I want to build a future with this person that's it that's enough that's how marriage is supposed to work it's not supposed to be where you pretend like you're married for two or three years by living together in a small little apartment your parents are paying for and once you save enough money to waste it all in the wedding then you get married that's what people do they go they get married they borrow money from everybody they get an apartment they get a dog to make it pretend like they're happily married they put pictures on Facebook and then said listen okay we're ready to get married what what makes you think you're ready to get married we saved $50,000 oh so you going to buy a house no a wedding so you're going to spend the whole $50,000 on a wedding yeah what about a house oh no we're renting so you're going to spend $50,000 to feed a bunch of strangers for one night that they're still going to complain anyway but you're not going to have a house you're not going to have anything else that's the that's the mentality of today we're constantly Focus about everybody else point being is that life doesn't need to be so difficult it doesn't need to be so difficult it's just that most of us are putting the traps in front of ourself by making decisions that are against theem so yes if you have somebody special in your life you have to ask yourself do I want to be with this person or not if the answer is yes then already start talking discussing planning marriage in a very near future so you don't destroy your if no break upak why you with them why you with this person if you don't want to be with them oh I'm having fun I'm having fun so how are you going to feel like your daughter is going to come to you say Aba listen me and and Mustafa we all having fun together we all having fun oh anybody's going to marry you no no we're just having fun what are you the Village bicycle everybody's going to what do you mean having fun what's the matter with you what do you mean you're having fun it's funny but it's not funny it's funny but it's not funny what do you mean you're having fun what do you mean you're letting another man put his paws on you for fun what are you a pet why would you let another man touch you if he's not going to put a ring on your finger why why why would you let another man look at you in an inappropriate way if he's not going to put a ring on your finger why I'm having fun go get a dog it's funny but it's not funny it's funny I'm laughing too inside but I know the outside I know what happens to those parents that cry to me and say I can't believe it my daughter was having fun now she's now she's with this guy Mustafa for 3 years still having fun she doesn't want to leave Mustafa she doesn't want to leave Jose she doesn't want to leave Steve she doesn't want to leave David she doesn't want to leave the guy why they're having fun well yeah they're having fun but she's now 28 29 30 35 36 how long are they having fun I have one guy that I know he's having fun with his girlfriend 12 years already 12 years they're having fun guess what as soon as he doesn't want to have fun with her anymore she's not marriable anymore not because of our age not because of our age there's there's people available for everybody but nobody wants somebody else's problems after he leaves her after 12 13 years guess what she's going to be a basket case and no one wants to marry a basket case no one wants to marry the girl that was somebody else's for 13 14 years so this is what you girls have to think about about before you let any guy even look at you this is what you guys have to think about don't waste your time don't waste your time with these these these waste of time relationships I understand getting married was not something you thought you're going to learn about or even think about today but I promise you you're doing yourself a service by if you're not ready don't touch if you're ready go for it but point being abai is that don't treat yourself like pets don't treat yourself like a garbage that everybody's allowed to look at you touch you you are a child of God you're not public property don't treat yourself like it next question no yes what's the of the difference between intentional wasting seed andal wasting seed unintentional wasting seed meaning that the guy uh did it unintentionally whether it's because he saw something during the day at some point and then he dreamt about it uh and he went to sleep and Seed came out as a result of that it's still a sin he goes to the sixth level of Gom uh if a sixth level of Gom for anyone who wants to know the details can watch my sh about Gom it's not a fun place I believe it has green fire seven the the intentional seed if he doesn't do Chua he goes to the seventh level and the seventh level doesn't end so that's it's not fun either it's but just much worse was it something that I said no next yes I thought what dreams were allowed because who says allow it's in your sleep so it's it's all unintentional you don't know what you're dreaming about you like just like what you said on on all the other shim um 99% of your dreams you don't remember so when you're dreaming it's sort of not your fault but at the same time it is because some of some of the things that you saw in the day or or maybe it's the way that you think but like your answer is in your question is that your answer is in your question so what's the answer says watch what you look at during the day so the the evil does not come to you at night what's evil evil is wasting seed meaning that although it's not intentional sin meaning the person did it themselves intentionally it's still considered a sin because it's a it's still a result of your actions you still looked at something that was inappropriate so that led to that so that's what thear says warning don't look at things that are inappropriate don't look at a woman that's not your wife don't look at things on the internet don't look at uh all the Billboards out there pretty much watch your eyes because if you don't watch your eyes it's only a matter of time before that's going lead you to dream about those things whatever you saw you saw an an attractive woman on a billboard or on the Internet orom you saw some type of uh Hollywood movie you saw it naturally that's going to create something in your mind at some point that is going to create a dream that dream will lead to wasting seed so yes you didn't intentionally actively do it yourself but you still did it yourself meaning it's still a result of your actions what is that like if let's say for example you are Target practicing you went to the shooting range is one by my house and you went to the shooting range and you started targeting practice target practice target practice and you're having a good time right but then you know you started like you wanted to pretend like you're like a little cowboy you started started you know playing with the gun you know flipping it having fun and next thing you know a bullet came out shot somebody in the face and killed him now are you guilty or no why are you guilty you didn't mean to shoot him in the face you didn't mean to shoot in the face but it was still as a result of your actions you understand same thing if somebody speeds they know in a hurry to go to a job interview they're going to get a job interview to get a million dollars a day at this job so they don't want to be late so they're driving 130 140 miles per hour on the highway driving driving driving driving driving next you know they hit somebody they kill them now are they guilty or innocent they're guilty but they didn't mean to kill them they meant to go to the place in a hurry they all they wanted to do is go to work they want to get a job to make money so they give staka and do all the good things yes your intentions could be good but the way you did it was not so the point being is that yes a person does not mean to waste seed but the Torah says if you do such and such it's going to lead to it that's why you have to protect your eyes because your eyes are the windows to your soul once you allow your eyes to look at something you are in essence recording that permanently so you look at a woman that's not your wife that image is going to be in your mind forever and it's only going to come to you at the most inappropriate times this is the reason why married psychologists many of them ruin marriages marriage psychologists or psychiatrists they think that they're giving people marriage advice but many times they ruin marriage by telling people that maybe your uh your uh your sex life is not good so maybe you guys should watch movies together inappropriate movies or maybe you should do the maybe you should they advise them to do all types of crazy things to any normal person it's crazy but to them it seems appropriate now what ends up happening is that that person sees an image of a woman and now he thinks of that woman while he's with his wife now is he married to the woman or he's married to the wife he's married to his wife Torah says something like that happens in a person's life in sh they're not really you know they say maybe that's not really his kid either a problem with that kid there's a problem with that kid the that kid is going to get is going to be a problematic point being is that your mind is a very very special place and if you allow your eyes to look at anything you're allowing things to enter your mind and they won't leave so if you see movies whether it's a I'm not even talking about the obvious movies I'm talking about even just like Hollywood movies I don't know X-Men or something like that where pretty much everybody over there is wearing bodysuits even that's inappropriate for a Jew to watch it's inappropriate for anybody to watch needless to say for Jews why because you're going to think of people that they're supposed to look like this and you're going to have that in your mind when when you are with your wife when you are with your husband that's when the Satan enters at the most inappropriate time the only other time he enters is when you pray you pray to Hashem you say AEM I'm sorry I'm sorry all of a sudden you have an image of this woman in your mind why that's exactly the spot that the Satan wants to break you either during the time that's the most inappropriate because you're with your wife or it's inappropriate because you're praying to hasem so imagine you come to uh you know the president of the most important company in the world is going to give you a job with millions and millions of dollars and what do you do the whole time you're praising his competition the whole time instead of going to the interview say listen your company is great I really want to work for you guys you guys do great things and so on and so forth say you know what competition is much better than you guys you guys you guys are the worst a your product I throw it in the garbage the whole time you're praising his competition that's not going to be a good look you're probably not going to get the job that's what happens we go to pray sometimes with things that are inappropriate in our mind when we do that Hashem takes our prayer and uh doesn't treat it too well doesn't treat it too well why because we didn't treat it too well so we have to make sure that whatever we allow our eyes to look at is something we want in our mind now in the beginning it's a little difficult because we're so used to looking at anything that moves but after a while it becomes a little easier you start getting yourself used to as soon as you see something inappropriate you look away you study about the subject you realize how much Merit you have in heaven for doing it and over time you get more and more used to it but it takes constant training constant doing and eventually you get to a point where you don't have these dreams or even these experiences if at all it becomes very very random and infrequent in the beginning it's very common to stop doing it actively yourself and then you have these dreams almost on a regular basis because your body has gotten used to it but after a while if you continue staying strong little by little those dreams will become less frequent eventually they'll become almost non-existent but a lot of the time you see people are holding themselves back and they're not doing anything with these women and uh when they go back home you know it gets to a point where it's like okay I haven't done anything with women I'm keeping that but at the same time you know like I've always wanted to so when they go to sleep that's what they think of and then when they wake up in the morning you know yes that's what happen so at the same time that person is doing the right thing but it why should it be his fault that you know he's the one that that's following what's going on and he wakes up in the morning and you know that that's just what happened you know right because so it's like this he followed the in half the instructions he followed the half the first half says don't touch a woman it's not your wife that's good you get a high five in the other part says don't look either if she's not your wife don't look at her if you don't look at her you're not going to have her in your mind you're not going to think about her you're not going to think that you want her you're not going to think that you don't want her you're not going to think about her at all so that's the other half don't follow your heart don't follow your eyes why your heart wants to be with them he said no no noem said no until I get married okay but also don't follow your eyes don't look at her either why because if you look at her it'll also lead to a sin just a different type of sin just's a different type of sin so the point being is that yes he did right but only half the battle he just has to complete the other half that's also a good thing why because it means that he only has half the equation to fix most people have the whole thing most people already uh you know have many many students unfortunately have become sex addicts they uh they're they're addicted to it with somebody without somebody doesn't make a difference some of them have uh almost lost causes almost almost lost causes but everything has a solution some are it's just a more difficult solution but nonetheless everybody has a solution it all starts with following what T says so T says don't only just follow don't just uh avoid following your heart and the desires of your heart but also your eyes too don't follow your eyes don't look at a place that you're not supposed to look at if you watch your eyes your life will change drastically because now you're turning your eyes into a CLE KES into a holy tool if you only allow your eyes to look at things that are appropriate you become a holy person you become a holy person you become a holy tool so when you read a t you're going to remember everything you read a lot of people they read T they don't remember 95% of what they read why because their eyes are used both for good things and for bad things so how much much poison does it take how much percentage out of 100% if let's it have a bottle of water if I have 50% poison 50% water is it good water or no no good right but if I have 40% poison 60% water is it good water or no no what if I have 10% poison 90% water it's good no what if I have only 1% poison 99% good water still no but it's 99 still no good right that's the you see you have to understand the Satan doesn't require you to become Hitler overnight all he wants is for you to make a sin that's small enough where you don't even think it's a sin it's not a big deal let me post an emodest picture on Facebook because ah who's looking anyway let me just look at this web page even though really I'm not supposed to let me watch this movie or this commercial for 5 minutes let me do this let me he gets you with something small once he get you with something small then that threshold changes now that something small all of a sudden becomes permissible so next time you ask for something small it's not the same thing anymore you ask for something else that's small but that's automatically much bigger than the first one so first he says just look at her oh you looked at her it's okay now to look okay next thing you know he oh give her a hug she's nice she's kind why don't you give her a hug next thing you know why don't you guys go on a date don't touch just go on dates be boyfriend girlfriend but don't touch next thing you know it's this then just this weekend was walking with my kids to I mean they were more or less religious kids in teenagers 16 17 18 years old both wearing a keeper and they're socializing now if I If I Didn't Have Eyes I was sure that two kids from public school that most likely not even Jew the conversation they were having about girls no h she's not my type no she's my type no I'm going to go out with I'm going to try this one out they start way these two religious kids are talking I was sure I was back in high school Port Richmond High School with all the green but these are two religious kids why they didn't start that way they didn't start that way they didn't start thinking that it was okay to go out with girls and try things out like the non-jewish world like the secular World they didn't think that way they started by oh it's okay to look oh my nobody said anything about not looking okay so let me uh touch oh wow when I when I brought my friend my girlfriend to the house my parents said oh wow how cute you guys are like a little boyfriend girlfriend wow that's so cute oh they even thought it was cute they got complimented for it next thing you know it's like yeah she's not my type she's not my type they're talking like uh grown-ups talking like grown-ups so what it started one two three Satan has the whole equation and that's why unfortunately many of these so religious kids uh are acting no different than the just with a keepy on just with a keepy on it is partly their fault but it's more the fault of their parents for not saying anything and it's also the fault of the rabbis and the teachers of the of the of the communities for not speaking out about this uh for whatever reason or another people think that uh talking about what I'm talking to you is not age appropriate somebody told me just last week yeah you talk about this stuff to to young people it's not appropriate for young people what do you want me to wait for until you guys are 35 and uh and and ruined your lives already this by the way according to the all the all the they will start talking about this stuff including wasting seed at the age of five even before age of at 5 years old they already start talking about what I'm talking to you today about and you guys not 5 years old yes a person could he wants and protect himself and but especially like somewhere like here in Miami everywhere everywhere you go you're going to see things pop up you don't have to be you don't have to try to look and your face there'll be something there wherever you go so how is that how are you supposed to prevent yourself from that uh you're right anywhere you go it's not just Miami even if you go to New York during the winter you'll find naked women there's naked women all the time there's immodesty all the time there is garbage all the time there's sins all the time there's it's it's not there's no way to eliminate the people from sinning no way what you can do is eliminate your sinning how um now IM modesty unfortunately has always been here and there's nothing new Under the Sun it was around during the time of Isaiah the prophet where he talks to the women that are walking around with big heels and uh short skirts in those times uh and the same thing is today 3,000 years later the point being is that you can't stop them but you can stop yourself how by limiting where you allow yourself limiting where you allow your eyes to go not only looking where you place yourself now I can tell you myself I don't go anywhere I come here my house here my house here my house once in a blue moon I get punished I have to go to the supermarket other than that I'm here at the house now I know you guys are young you still need to do stuff in the world and so on but this gives you some type of a uh understanding of how to try to preserve yourself limit your destinations malls beaches movies all of these places you have to literally delete them from the list places where there's like public a lot of people delete them from the list if you want to watch your eyes you don't want to watch your eyes then delete everything I'm saying you want to watch your eyes you have to pretty much Reserve yourself to only go to a place that there's a point to go so you're going to go to let's say learn okay you go your house straight to go learn pray straight to go pray store you go to the store get your stuff leave uh you uh I don't know you want to do something for fun or you you guys are still young and you want to have fun sometimes make sure it's kosher fun if that kosher fun is surrounded by non- kosher things you can't go so for example if your cousin your uncle your brother your whoever invites you to a wedding with mix dancing guess what you can't go why cuz over there there's the people and there's also the shim that they're creating the demons that they're creating you don't want to go to a place like that why it's going to lead you to a lot of problems and it's going to lead you to sin also so you have to allow yourself to certain places you have to be strict with yourself if you want to be strict to the extent where you're not going to sin now some people going to say no that's fanatic that's crazy but that's what Torah says that's Tor says the says that people that uh have these or go to these uh weddings or parties with mixed dance ing they have no idea how many sh how many demons They're bringing back home with them because that's what's created in those places so if a person wants to have a good time there's a way to have a good time in a kosher way if a person wants to just do whatever they want and hope for the best then you know suit yourself it's just that you have to limit limit your destinations you have to just literally restrict yourself and be very disciplined with yourself and make sure that wherever you go there is some point of being there some Point not just some point oh listen I want to have food you can eat at home also you know it's it has to be like some type of uh thought process that goes behind where am I going to go and why am I going to go there and what's the consequences of going there what's the risk of me going to this place and that's why you'll see many times the you hear many times the stories most of the time the stories are either in the bet midash or in their house bet mid or in their house why they didn't go anywhere else they usually they wouldn't go anywhere else why because everywhere else there's problems there's problems some of the there was actually One S I forget the name he actually uh had I think it was R ginski came to visit him one time he was do and they asked where does he live came to visit him and he saw when he got to his house he knocked on the door and it took almost 15 minutes to open the door he says what happened and then he open the door and he sees all these huge sacks of sand he goes why did take you 15 minutes to open the door and what are these sacks we have a war he says well listen the rambam says if you are surrounded by you have to move but if you can't move move to the desert doesn't literally mean move to the actual desert itself make your life into like a desert where you're separated from the world so what I do for myself I put a restriction to myself I put these sacks in front of my door so by the time if I want to go somewhere I go to the door by the time I remove all these sacks it takes me 15 minutes and a lot of hard work by the time I removed all the sacks I realized do I really need to go or not I think twice before I go anywhere why do I really need to go now if you have a job you have to go to your job but if you have a job that's constantly involved with immodesty then you have to think about whether you want this job or not that's why I feel bad a lot for for for people that are constantly meeting uh customers because unfortunately uh that's that's beyond your control if you could have a job that's predominantly behind a desk in a office and you don't have to meet many people that's ideal but either way it's point being is to have some type of thought process behind every decision that you make before you go somewhere think about what's going to happen as a result of it and that's going to help you a lot yes Hashem created such a beautiful world are we not supposed to go out and see it and like get pleasure from it uh there's actually AAR that says that if you don't enjoy the world you get punished but but so yes you are supposed to enjoy things in the world but that does not mean that you're allowed to sin as a result of it meaning that yes you are allowed and should enjoy different parts of the world but there is a ker way to do everything there is a kosher way to eat and there's a non koser way to eat now you can go and you can watch the Food Channel or something and you could see these guys cook all this pork and other non- kosher animals in such a delicious way and you can't say no it's disgusting it's not true it's not true it's not disgusting quite frankly I don't know I've never tasted bacon before but people tell me it's delicious some people say it's the most delicious meat in the world says don't say I'm not eating non kosher because it's disgusting because it's not true say I'm not eating non kosher because my Father in Heaven said don't that's why so that looks delicious but you know you can't have it so what do you do you can make something similar you can make turkey bacing that's kosher turkey turkey bacon or soy or so on and so forth so you could have the same flavor just in a kosher way there's also a fish called shibuta they have it in Africa also tastes like bacon there also a duck in Japan also tastes like bacon point being is that if somebody's craving bacon they could find a kosher way to have it same thing with anything else you want to go see the mountains there's a kosher way to go see the mountains go to the place where it's not full of people that's uh you're going to know that it's it's this place is the tourist attraction number one pretty much people go there but they forget all their clothes in the camp don't go there go to the place you could still see the mountain it's a very big mountain just from a different angle where those it's not the number one tourist attraction in the world it's a different angle that's not full of them same thing so you can do a lot of things in a wonderful way you want to see the ocean you could see the ocean just don't go to the beach where there's all these people you understand so there are wonderful things in the world that creat you can go see them you can go enjoy them there's no problem it's just that you have to find a kosher way to do everything if you do that you'll have a kosher life you'll have a blessed life and you'll have a life that's worth living but when a person doesn't then they simply get themselves used to satisfying themselves and every desire they have and little by little their kosher becomes saf like a doubtful when sometimes kosher sometimes not depends who's looking depends who's the rabbi you know then it's sometimes not kosher at all but who's looking then it's just not Kosher and next thing you before they know it they find themselves in a place where I can't believe what happened to my life in a few months it's upside down like the kid told me a few days ago in a sense so you have to take care of your you only get one take care of it and uh I promise you you'll have a much much better life than all of the other people that you may or may not know that are satisfying every one of their Pleasures because all of those people that are satisfying their Pleasures little by little they become desensitized to the point where even satisfying their Pleasures is unsatisfying to them so they start looking at things that are more exotic more taboo more extraordinary and uh they destroy themselves because they become numb as a result of satisfying every urge yes um so you you talk about a lot of things that people do and they get punished right they go to G them for okay so doesn't Hashem have mercy of course for people who they fell into something that they they didn't know what they were getting into like they just got into it yes from other people's fault yes never able to get out yes then they they pass away them what happens doesn't no so of course of hem takes everything into account the beautiful thing about Hashem is that he is the humblest the most merciful but he also is the one that gets the least amount of credit he does everything and anything to help us satisfy us nurture us but we always view him in the wrong perspective when we don't see his hand we think that he's not helping us at all little do we know he's the one carrying us you know like the famous story where there was a guy that uh believed that he was uh you know dreaming every day he saw Footsteps in the on the beach two sets of footsteps he was going to a good time and he saw two foots of footsteps and he told people yeah listen that's me one set of footstep steps is me the other side of footsteps is hm he's walking with me because I'm succeeding and I know it's only because of Hashem before he know it life happened and his life turned upside down and he stepped he had the same dream but this time he only had one set of footsteps and he said you know I don't understand when everything was going good I was dreaming about you you with me in a dream we were walking next to each other I pray to you every day with kavana i gavea i did this I did that and every night I would dream about you hem you were walking next to me all of a sudden I'm having a tough time and you left me now since it's a story we're allowed to say that hasm spoke to him Hashem speaks to the man and he says no no my son your mistake as you think that I left you what you don't realize is that since your problem started I've been carrying you that's why you only see one set of footsteps it's my footsteps so we don't give AEM the right credit because we always judge him incorrectly with no CU so that also applies to the famous question that people say what if somebody was not born in a religious family what if somebody got into like you said an issue he didn't even realize it's an issue well why are we assuming that that person died that way why are we assuming that that person that was born into a non-religious family died without knowing about religion he lived 708 80 90 years and of course at some point during those 70 80 90 years Hashem showed him religion showed him the Torah send him a kabad niik send him a breast liver send him a crazy guy named youron from New York send him a CD send him an app sent him a video he sent them signs countless times regardless of what corner in the world he's in he sent him those times if he still died secular as you know after seeing all of those signs then it's not hashem's fault he chose up otherwise he chose not to be religious he was given the opportunity same thing with somebody that made a mistake got into the wrong business got into the wrong sin got into the wrong addiction didn't realize it was that bad until Rabbi Ruben told them listen you're going to get the G home okay but now you heard it did you die no you just got scared to death but you didn't die that means that aadh sent this crazy guy from New York all the way here for you to hear it because he's planning on giving you another 70 80 90 years of this world only now you could do chuva so now when we compare it in sh you live 20 years with five years of sin but 70 years no sin 70 years no sin why because you listen to the you did CH you stop sinning so sh they say it's like this guy never sinned before yet he sinned for 5 years and he didn't know and he did this and he did right but then he did Chua and hasm gave him another 20 30 40 50 70 80 90 years in this world by the time he gets to sh the sin is like it's not even a memory he did so much chuv for that sin he's actually turned the sin into a Mitzvah if you really do serious serious chuv the highest level of chuva you could actually turn all of your sins into mitv to that extent so again we always assume that hasem show the person oh here is the uh sign do not enter and then he kills him right away no no he doesn't kill him he shows him a warning and then another warning and then another warning and he gives them many many signs do not enter do not enter do not enter do not enter and along the way those signs get stronger and more obvious if the person still chooses then obviously it's a clear choice it's not a choice out of ignorance it's a choice out of choice and that's what we don't take into account because we think think that hem just brought us into the world to punish us this is why when a person finishes their time in this world and they get to heaven the say the most embarrassing thing that a person will ever experience is their judgment in heaven and the reason why is because they're shown all of the choices they made out of their own free will meaning they wanted to make this choice they wanted to have this abortion they wanted to commit this murder they want wanted to enjoy the stealing they wanted to go and violate Shabbat they wanted it it's not that they didn't know and there was some uh you know innocent lamb in the middle of the field that some wolf jumped on no no no they wanted they enjoyed it they liked it and they knew it and when Hashem shows them the consequences of all of their actions in this world and how he felt and how what they did guess what the asks Hem Hem I'm so embarrassed please put me G the as to be Gom notm says you go to G no no the is so embarrassed of how awful it did and how much hm gave him help and how many opportunities he gave him says no no no hem it's not right put me in G that's the only thing I deserve it's the only thing I deserve and is not suicidal it's just that is embarrassed out of the choices that I made so yes all of us have some mistakes that we've made in our life but that's the point of theim the point of the shim is to realize yes I'm making a mistake yes to fix this mistake is going to take a little bit of effort or a lot of bit of effort and it's not going to be easy I'm already addicted I'm already this I'm already that get it hem knows but that's why the mishna says who's a gibo who's a hero who's a hero what do you think somebody lifts 800 lb a hero no who's a hero someone that overcomes his evil inclination someone that wants to do something has a desire to do something it looks delicious it looks flavorable it looks like fun and guess what it is fun but he knows hem doesn't want it and he doesn't do it it's not that he says no no I don't want to be with her because it's not fun it's not true you're a liar it is going to be fun but it's a sin it's fun but it's not allowed the bacon is delicious but it's not allowed you understand so that's a gibo Gib is someone that overcomes something delicious not someone that says oh it smells bad anyway who wants it oh she's ugly anyway who wants it oh he has only one arm and one leg who's it who wants this guy no what do you think you get rewarded for going overcoming that a monkey could overcome it a monkey doesn't even want to be with her no no it's something that's delicious that you want it and then you say no no no but my Father in Heaven said no my Father in Heaven said no then no I want it but that's the that's the key that's what makes me a Gio that's what makes me a hero I want to yell at her but I'm not allowed to yell at her why CU hasem says don't yell at your wife for those crazy people that are watching still online and they hit their wives I have a few people that tell me a few women tell tell me that they the husbands hit them religious religious husbands from from birth hit their wives because I don't know something went wrong in the ISA or something they they forgot to teach him you're to hit your wife according to if the son was here you cut their hands you're allowed to cut their hands chop their hands are allowed to cut their hands for men that hit their wives in today's world you can't cut anybody's hands we have to put them on I want to hait her she deserves to HTE not L to hit why hasem said no hasm said no point being abai is that this sins are always delicious the sins always look good always look like fun but that's why you get rewarded for overcoming them and Hashem will give you one opportunity another opportunity another opportunity and if you take him and his toah seriously you can live a life that's worth living that's magical because you're going to feel like a hero constantly because your is going to come to you 24 hours a day he's never going to stop if it's not this it's something else not this something else something it's constantly it's constantly you overcome your at the end of the day like I'm so tired but I'm a superhero why I didn't fall for the today I didn't today I don't listen I had a lot of opportunities I could have looked at this I could have done this I could have taken this I could have done by the end of the day if you're not tired there's something wrong something wrong why if you're not tired that means you probably fell for a few sins if you're tired at the end of the day from fighting the it means you're good why cuz the doesn't leave you if it's not this if it's not this if it's I'm angry so I want to yell if I'm not angry I want to this stingy angry arrogant million and a half different reasons oh I really want to embarrass him because he deserves to be embarrassed yeah but to says you embarrass somebody in public it's like you murder them sometimes for example wives think that it's a it's a mitvah to embarrass their husbands in public I don't know why I don't know somehow it's this this like there like a defect it's like a defect in in this generation that you know people think that it's okay to embarrass each other not only embarrass them but embarrass them in public oh don't look at my husband like they come to me don't look at my husband like he's tadik you know what he does and they start telling me everything that he does in front of him poor guy and his other people now if it's just us and there a marriage counseling of something okay fine but she decides to give the whole the whole in front of everybody imagine I'm at a lecture different places there's 50 60 people at the end of the lecture they have questions and his wife she decides to tell me every little embarrassing detail about a husband oh don't look at with this keeper no no last week I want to die for him I want to die for the guy said you're guaranteed not to go home go to G home the guy why a wife like this living Gom a wife like this you're living in G but that's it you're not allowed to embarrass each other you're not allowed to yell at people you're not allowed to do all of these different things because it's not good for you even though sometimes it seems like it's the right thing to do it's appropriate thing to do no I'm just educating her no I'm just disciplining him no no my friend there's a way and there's a way if you do it the right way you'll live a life full of blessings you do it the wrong way your life will be simply cursed this is what you don't want so yes it's hard but that's what you get rewarded for it yes is the reason why you do the horn series and the get like again each week and every week so that we understand the consequences of like for example sinning and or action cuz I understand like from a lot of your shim you say like um you discuss similar um topics just give different examples so is that why well to itself in general it falls into two two Basics that uh the entire t fall into there's allowed there's not allowed there's reward there's punishment that's in essence for all of history until about 300 years ago all lectures from the mosu all the way till about 300 years ago all lectures were based on reward and Punishment you do this you get rewarded you do this you get punished but obviously they would have different ways of achieve of of getting you to that point they'll talk to you about the ramban they'll talk to you about Ala they'll talk to you about different things but in essence the basis of structure of all lectures was this you get rewarded this you get punished in the last 300 years since the What's called the enlightenment movement of Mendelson and the reform and the conservative which eventually culminated with not only the reform and conservative movements but also with modern Orthodoxy they call it and open Orthodoxy and all these different types of versions of Orthodox Judaism that little by little have made the sins look like mitv and the reason why is because little by little everyone wanted to become more and more politically correct so Mendelson almost 300 years ago said be a Jew at home be a human being outside that's the problem a Jew has to be a Jew all the time so he wanted to be politically correct today people don't like to talk about specific things because they're they're uh they don't want to hurt other people's feelings oh maybe if I talk that you know say that homosexuality is forbidden in Tor some homosexual will be offended I don't care if he's offended I care that it's not allowed I don't want to offend him my goal is not to offend him or her but my my goal is to not offend AEM that's my goal my goal is not to offend AEM is to make sure that everybody knows homosexuality is not allowed and hasem considers it disgusting and so on and so forth so now if he gets offended or if his mom gets offended because she thinks it's cute and he's homosexual then that's not my problem they're being offended by you know by something that they shouldn't be shouldn't even be doing in the first place so my goal is to do what our forefathers have done for all of history which is in essence to use every body of T whether it's the or the that we did for the last couple of years or everything else to always arrive at the same conclusion which is through this work we also learn that there's reward and then there's punishment once you know that there's reward and there's punishment and you could apply it to every single thing that's in the Torah and you could see that they themselves always all the wrote everything with that as their as their focal point then you realize that's the Torah your whole life is supposed to be based on allowed not allowed allowed not allowed now once you have that once you have that basic Foundation then you can build a lot of beautiful things on that then the will work then the will work then the all of the other things that we want people to have all these different character traits all of these different positive things then all of those things will work but so long as you don't know the difference between right and wrong then whatever you build on it is going to be rotten meaning that if you have the wrong Foundation no matter how beautiful the building is it'll eventually collapse because the found Foundation is rotten so it could be a Trump Tower or somebody else's Tower and it could have all made out of glass made out of stone made out of whatever but if the foundation is run then it's not going to last one storm and the topple is over if the learning that you have the Torah teachings that you have are not based off of the foundation of reward and Punishment it's only a matter of time before it topples over it's only a matter of time before somebody finds a way to negate everything you just said and that's what's happened over the last 300 years more and more people have tried to become more politically correct in order to get fans in order to become more popular and they forgot the mission so you'll see there are certain people that have a million views on their uh YouTube they have a million views but anyone that knows a little bit of g a little bit of T watches that video and says he's a rabbi he's Jewish he's that's what he's he's actually claiming to represent Judaism what he says for he has a million views but what he says is not Tora he says things that sound good to the ear but they don't sound according to not good to hem and that's the thing so there are some people that do that because they want fans because fans bring money I'm not looking for fans I'm looking to help Jews become more Jews money hasem will send one way or another you know that's that's that's that's the key so it's it's a it's a big test because because you're in in the in the world today it's it's rare it's especially in the english- speaking World there are very very few people that you will find that speak about reward and Punishment speak about Gom speak about wasting seeds speak about pretty much everything we spoke about tonight at all ever in their life sometimes they even go against people like me where uh some some uh guy that claims to be religious just last week sent me an email says that no I think that what you're teaching is not age appropriate I said what am I teaching he says oh you're teaching about the things of Kusha meaning about wasting seed and things of that nature I said if it's not allowed to teach this then how come every Jew is obligated to learn about it at least a couple times a year in the there's several in the that specifically talk about this no the second par in Noah Noah why was the Maul the came because of wasting seed so how come Hashem said it's an obligation for a 5-year-old to learn about this but what I'm saying is not age of pro when do you want me to wait for them to be 30 years old all ruin their life oh but it's there you know it's maybe you should teach it one-on-one yeah one-on-one by the time you finish mashia is Gonna Come 10 times she's not going to have anybody to save so the point is that people are so uncomfortable with uh with this uh topic not because it's an inappropriate topic but rather because they've never heard anybody else talk about it it's gone to that point but if you look at the books the holy books from just a previous generation you see that there's countless books written about it there's countless that talked about it there's countless material about it it's just that today it's become almost like a taboo to talk about punishment at all even when I see something simple like for example that according to the Tora in 12 places someone that drives on Shabbat is considered an idol worshiper in the eyes of hasem this is written 12 times in the T not once not twice 12 times it's the most frequently mentioned sin in the T ISAT so when you mention this it doesn't sound nice why because the guy thinks of himself as Jewish he goes to Bess he just drives he doesn't think his driving is a big deal I went to boaron synagogue for a couple years when I first moved to Florida they have a whole parking lot a whole parking lot just for their about to drive in and drive out of and no one says a single thing they have a whole parking lot they're not even they're not they refuse to sell the somebody want to buy the parking lot just to stop people from sinning they don't want to sell it no this is for our members so they're helping people sin and this is big synagogue thousand families the the rabbi over there Goldberg is one of the head Dian in Florida it's not like uh some nobody nobody knows who he is this is one of the most famous people in in American Judaism now it's not you could tell you this is all this is all public information now the problem is that when I say something like a Shabbat as death penalty in heaven uh Idol worshipping and so on and so forth which is what it says in the Torah people say no that's not nice to say it's very uh degrading it's very insulting to who who is this insulting to to the good so maybe hopefully stops hopefully he stops it hopefully he gets insulted realizes oh wait a minute I'm insulted I want to check if this guy's right and he checks and he sees oh it's right oh it says he's right again he's right again 12 times he's right and the seven times and 50 times and so on and so forthem said it not yuon just repeated it I'm like a parrot you can't blame the mailman for your mail all I did is I repeated it so if you're offended by what God Said then I can't help you you have to find I don't know find a find a different religion or something but if you realize this I'm only all I'm doing is just repeating what God said what the said in the name of God there's nothing to be offended whether you're ready to take it on or not that's your business all we are is here to publicize the information in order to make sure that everybody knows there is right and there's wrong in the eyes of Hashem and the eyes of Hashem don't always necessarily agree with our eyes we sometimes thinks that something is right when Hashem says it's wrong we sometimes think that something is wrong when in the eyes of hem it's right for example is there any any way that any one of you can think that killing a baby is a good thing can you just think for a second of any equation that you could say that you know what killing this baby will be a good thing for the world you can't think of it right because you're relatively normal people now what if I told you that Adolf Hitler was also a baby and before he became Adolf Hitler he was just Adolf the little cute little baby cuz all babies are cute even if they're ugly they're still cute cuz they're little thank God they're cute so you don't kill them cuz they cry all the time but they're cute so he was cute and he was a baby and he got sick so his mom Mrs Adolf she took him to who Jewish doctor a Jewish doctor last minute saved his life now if you were the doctor you were the doctor any of you were the doctor thank you if any of you were the doctor and you saw a baby and you have a chance to kill it would you kill it no right now what if I told you this baby is going to become Adolf Hitler is going to kill six million of your brothers and sisters including you would you kill it yes you kill it right you kill it you're still not going to kill it you're going to let him kill six million people change maybe no changing I'm telling you he's definitely killing no changing he's killing he's he's got the knife already in his pocket still still at day want to we we're playing hypothetical guys play along with me don't make a new equation this is my comic book not yours you got to follow the Torah this kid is going to kill you're going to kill him or not you're GNA kill him every's going to kill him you're all normal meny you with me kill you can't kill the kid but he's G to kill six million people meny knows a little Tor so he gave us the Torah answer now okay logically we could say it's right logically we could say wrong you can fight for both sides the Torah says otherwise Torah says that at the time of MIT mosu saw that one of the most evil things that the Nazis even outdid the the Egyptians even outdid the Nazis was with what they did to babies hadat he had a skin disease so his necromancers told him that in order for him to get cured he had to bathe in the blood of 150 babies in the morning and 150 babies at night so every day they killed 300 Jewish babies if that wasn't enough these evil Egyptians would force the Jews to meet a certain quot of how many rocks how many bricks they made and if the guy didn't if the Jew did not meet that Israelite did not meet the quota instead of putting the brick in the wall they put the baby in the Wall Alive now mosenu saw this he saw the little babies little Israelite babies going inside a wall I mean it's just think about it you want to die wanted to die he couldn't take it he couldn't take it and he said I know you know I know everything but please please hem let me save this baby what the baby do what the baby do says mhe you got upset of him you question why I do what I do these are evil but if you want to save one save oneu at a moment of passion that he wanted to do the good thing guess what he saved the baby he took a baby he was already inside the wall he took the baby saved the baby and he named the baby mik after what was supposed to happen to him which is Li he was supposed to get crushed this baby by the Stones so he saved them right before they crushed them now from that moment on that baby grew up and followed mosu everywhere now what say these are evil what the baby look like cute cute little kid right and the kid learns oh he's cute as you would have it we go to Egypt fast forward to the 10 plagues fast forward we go to mount siai fast forward get the first two Commandments am is said says mosu listen every time hasem talks we die Hashem said the first commandment all of am is died hem resurrected them brought them back to life said the second commandment they couldn't handle it they died literally died hasm resurrected them then says to mosu you you go talk to him lest we die because if he talks again we're going to die again you go talk to him we're going to do and then we'll listen meaning you go talk to him then come back to us tell us what to do and then we'll uh we'll figure things out but we can't hear his voice anymore why every time hasm talks it's so holy we can't handle it our leaves our body says that every time he would talk the N would leave the body and then Hashem would send a special beautiful smelling de that would bring back their n into their body Something Beautiful anyway nowu goes to mount sa he says to I'm going there for 40 days 40 nights is miscalculates miscalculates by six hours six hours they think that m is supposed to come back at 12 and he comes back at 6 now during those TW six hours to them it's like a lifetime he's been he's been gone for for 40 days they think you're supposed to come so now since they have doubt the Satan comes anytime you have doubt in hasem you're giving an opening to the Satan Satan comes goes oh yeah m is not here you know why right he died W died yeah he died he shows him some fake movie of how this some somebody being carried by the angels and so on and so forth so they think oh I can't believe it he died listen we need a new middleman we need somebody to connect us to hasm so they come to her her listen make us uh something make us a statue her said were you crazy no I'm not making you anything say so they kill him they kill him they kill her why says what you're not willing to for to help us serve AEM you're not wor to be alive they go to help us out make us something knew they're so passionate they're so into the mitvah they're so into chv they're so into everything they're not even seeing straight so he said you know what let me just buy time let me just buy time what's the most difficult thing you could ask from people their money their money you ask them to to go climb a mountain they'll climb a mountain you ask them go you know run 19 miles for me so somebody could donate $10 they'll run 19 mil say can you donate $10 no no no I can't donate that's too much 19 mil they can run donate $10 they can't so knew this he says listen why don't you guys give me all your gold he figured it's going to take a while for them to get all the gold they get arguing about money and so on and so forth but to his surprise the was already running wild the guy started taking off all their bracelets all their earrings all their everything and they're throwing the all the gold at Aon now Aron says okay fine I wasn't expecting to get all this money right away all this gold right away but I'm still okay why if you take all this gold I have to melt it to melt gold anybody knows a little bit about jewelry business takes a lot a lot of very very hot fire first of all and second of all a lot of time to melt the gold to turn it into the little lava that looks like and so on so he says okay okay guys listen throw all the gold Into the Fire he's thinking that by the time this gold is going to melt going to be a few days so he's not worried he knows that m is coming in a few hours he's not worried but to his surprise little mikah the kid the kid comes the kid comes and he has something in his hand that belonged to mhu what's in his hand before is left Egypt they had to deliver on a promise that am said that the 12 tribes made to their brother ysf YF said to the brothers listen when you leave Egypt you have to promise me that if I died before all of you that you're going to take my bones to is take my tomb to is you have to promise me and everybody promised so mosu wanted to deliver on that promise that his forefathers made that the levie made to take uh YF out of Egypt problem is that he didn't know where he was because the Egyptians worshiped YF and they hit his body they hit his tomb so he had to find somebody that actually knew where Yik was was actually buried there was only one person that knew where that was and that was a woman by name of Sak Sak the daughter of Aer and the only reason she knew is because she was alive at the time of yusik she was blessed by her her grandfather yov that she's going to live forever until she goes to heaven so she was already hundreds and hundreds of years old and she was there and she saw and knew exactly where Yik was actually buried and she told M he's buried inside the Nile River the Egyptians hid his tomb inside the Nile River so so mosenu comes to the Nile River he doesn't have cranes like we have today he doesn't have all that stuff all he has he has AEM it's more than enough so he says okay the tomb is here we have to deliver on a promise he takes a mate which is like a piece of metal on one side he engraves the name of Hashem the holy name of Hashem on the other side of it he engraves Al Al rise bull rise because each one of the tribes had a symbol Yuda had a symbol of lion YF had a symbol of bull so he says Rise bull rise and before he threw it he spoke to the of YF he says YF I'm here to deliver on a promise of our forefathers either you take yourself out of this River raise the tomb out of the river or you're staying here he threw the mate inside the water and the Kusa from hashem's name made the Tomb come out of the water he took the tomb and left never thinking about what happened to this little piece of metal never thinking that little Mika the boy he saved years ago was hiding in the bushes and as soon as he left he jumped into the water and grabbed this little mate grabbed this piece of metal and he held it now what happens you fast forward to the point of the story that I just mentioned all of the Jews are throwing their gold Into the Fire and little mik doesn't have anything he doesn't have any gold but he has this little piece of metal so he throws the piece of metal what does the metal say Rise Bow rise what comes out of the Fire by itself without being made a bull a bull comes out and from the K of hashem's name being on that mate that bull speaks and it comes out by itself and says I am the god that took you out of Egypt are we still surprised that am is worshiped it for a little while that the worship it spoke I promise you a bull comes to the Shi and starts talking talking to us is a very good chance a few people stop worshiping it I'm telling a bull come there's a bull that's dead on Wall Street I used to live on Wall Street I used to live on Wall Street it was 15 Wall Street 15 Broad Street right in the corner across the street from New York Stock Exchange on top of the block literally a minute and a half of my house there's a huge bull you know how many people worship it people go there take pictures oh they put it on their walls everywhere they worship this bull this is the bull and it's dead if that bull started talking more people will come so you see what say to he told listen you can save the baby you can use your free choice to save the baby but if I'm killing a baby there's a reason for it because it's not it's baby in body but the N is not it's an evil n if I'm killing it there's a reason for it you don't want to trust my reason you want to do something you think you could do better so from here we see that anything that happens in the world that doesn't necessarily agree with our logic doesn't necessarily make God bad Shalom doesn't make him evil Shalom doesn't make him wrong shalom it's just that we don't understand the whole picture we just understand one part we understand that the little girl got abused or the little boy got this or the little this or all these things that are crazy happened and yes the people that did it are going to get punished but nonetheless hasem did it Hashem allowed it for his own reasons that are beyond our comprehension therefore that when we have our desires when we have our yet even though sometimes it seems like it's too big for us it's not too big for us we just think it is Hashem gave us a test because he knows we can pass it he wouldn't give us a test unless he knew for sure we can pass it no matter how hard how hard we think it is and in essence the whole goal of all of the lectures it's to number one remind us that there's a reward for the good that we do there's a punishment for the bad that we do but the definition of good and bad can only be the definition that hasem has not our own definition not what we determine is good because what we determine is good is flawed many times we have to look constantly at the book and see what does he say is good what does he say is right if he says it's good if he says it's right then you know for sure it's right and it's good but if I said it if you said it if somebody really smart says it 50/50 and that's why we constantly mention the sources and we use whether it's the ra or the or the or so on and so for because we know that if it was written in those books that's the word of God that's the word of God to me to anybody that has a little bit of that's as good as it gets that's as good as it can get because you know that's guaranteed guaranteed that even though it may not look good in the beginning in the end it always will be on Tuesday night we'll continue with the we have a on Tuesday night you guys can ask some more questions [Music] n [Music] n [Music] [Applause] [Music]