Balancing Work and God

some and welcome to practical spirituality here at Asia tour in the old city of jerusalem overlooking the Temple Mount please join the yom tov media club yom tov media club calm and help get the word out from these classes today's subject we're discussing it comes from mrs. Beth Baker from Cleveland Ohio and she asked a question that you know God's expecting a tremendous amount from us you know we've got 60 613 commandments which breaks into 55,000 laws and you know it keeps you pretty busy and so the end and it's per in its adamant least you know compelling us to fulfill these Commandments yet at the same time we're expected to work well work takes a lot of time and for many people working eight hours is just the beginning and now that we have smartphones working eight hours is like a slacker so so how are we all supposed to get done what God expects from us with work and I'd like to start with the with the pure chaos the ethics of our fathers it's actually this week every week for these seven weeks as a custom to learn one of the parshas one of the chapters of pure cows and so we generally do it after min conscious and this is the second week and in the second chapter in the second Halawa of the Mishnah and the second Mishna says from Gamliel the son of review who dunno C says terror study is good together with an occupation meaning you should Torah studies good with working you want to be learning Tara and I imagine fulfilling the mitzvahs of the Torah with work you want to work you want to be working and then it says for the exertion of them both makes sin forgotten the exertion of them both makes sin forgotten what does that mean you don't have time there's no time to sin because you're so busy fulfilling the taurus mitzvahs and learning the Torah and you are busy working so who has time for sins good reason to keep teenagers busy and the next is and then it goes even further it says some very strong which would be this is something that the rabbi's of our generation would have to answer and that is says that all who exert themselves for the community sorry all Torah study that is not joined with work will cease in the end the - meaning the Torah study will wind up ceasing whatever that means the Hebrew in there is cult or Shan Imam the lava anyone who who learns Torah but does not work sofa botella in the end it will be nullified the Torah they learned will be worthless that's pretty scary meat but Tayla I mean that strong language the English was nicer cease could mean a lot of things here it says but tail above all it means just cease to exist gone didn't didn't go anywhere pretty scary thought and and then it goes in further and says big 11th ave on and and will lead to sin tourists if you're learning Torah and you're not working you're gonna be sinning in the end definitely to be taken literally all Tara you hear from art from either the Amish or the sages is to be taken literally does it have many other meanings yes but but we have a principle that that that anything you learn in Torah never goes that far from the actual theme I mean if it's it's stating a very clear statement it never goes too far from there now you could have a measures really far from there like you could have something that's really far from what's being said teaching like there's a lot of teaching about the Exodus that are way out there you know like trees fruit trees growing as the Jews are moving through the split see and and then they're like it was like glass you can see like fish through it and and it was like there was you could like and there was like whatever all kinds of funky stuff going on there with during the Exodus and that's way off so you can be sure that whatever is written in the Torah is what happened and all the stuff that's way far away from there is and many of them are completely contradicting so they can't both be true I mean you can have two contradictory things happening at the same exact time in in mid sea oats in in experience so whatever they the they in we never go far from what's being said so the bottom line is tyre is meant to be with work now now here's something amazing and that is the iceburg commandment you know what the iceburg commandment is of the whole tour you know what an iceberg commandment is iceburg commandment if I can draw an iceberg you have any pins here just one iceberg let's say this is like you know like let's say that's like 10,000 feet iceberg where's the surface of the water right there okay so you see a couple hundred foot iceberg you like oh look at that cute iceberg let's say you're on a cruise to Alaska and you see an iceberg what a cute little iceberg I wouldn't mind living on that iceberg for a day or to camp out on the top or something what you don't see is what's underneath so an iceberg commandments when you see a cute and sweet commandment that looks fun enough and more or less friendly and later you discover what's really involved so an iceberg commandment is the ultimate iceberg commandment of the whole Torah is the very first commandment of the whole Torah what's the first commandment the Torah to be fruitful and multiply you know why God made that the first commandment he figured when you'd read that when you wouldn't keep reading every story's got to start with a good start so so it's the be fruitful multiplying now that's it looks like a fun enough commandment everyone seems to be interested in that I mean just go to town everything this seems to be one fashion store after the other everything's either a fashion story or bank to pay for it or a restaurant to to meet people or a pub or something you know then people take this one people like this commandment so anyway I mean all the rules have changed with birth control but originally it was supposed to be some kind of guarantor for women to not be left completely abandoned into their 30s plus you know the commandment was also very important for for me that whole part of life was actually supposed to be a protector interfer for females no one realized what birth control was gonna mean for the for the world of the females for that half of our human species anyway the but when you actually go into it so you you can't go into it without a spouse you got to get married because even though ease them even though physiologically it's possible to produce children without marriage but the but the children will not come out good says the statistics children raised by two committed parents come out very differently no it's not that there aren't individuals that come from one parent families or even no parent families meaning like foster home kids that became some of the best people that ever existed those it exists but when you look at the large perspective of the actual stats it's it's a disaster it's a disaster to not have two parents which means you have to have marriage well marriage is super complicated and in order to create marriage you need to deal with tons of Tara tons of Tara there's a lot of tar involved in marriage and the Torah that's involved in marriage as I mean first of all you can't get someone into marriage you can't get them out you gotta have first the exit setup properly so the first tractate of the marriage tractates there's six of about six of them maybe more I forget the exact number but the first ones called gittin which means how to get out of marriage because you can't get someone into something without explaining how to get out of it you know and they and so that's divorced there's a whole tractate of Talmud of how divorce is is handled the then there's marriage you know how do how do you bind two people together which is not just physically but also spiritually how do you how do you create a contract that will that will fuse two Souls together what do you what do you got to do to fuse souls together and that there's a lot of information there a lot of lot of of taurah is involved in that and and then you've got the and then you've got the first feminist document in history what's called Suva and very again like Suva the or in force fard a more conservative reform it's called ketubah which is the first-ever feminist document it it actually protects the female in case in case the male it turns out to be a bum or skips town or he dies or or he just divorces her it's her recourses and it takes care of her livelihood so that the estate will pop properly pay for her to to survive after that and there's no marriage without that in fact even married couples if they lose their ketubah can't even stand or the same roof without a until once written up I mean if they literally lose it it hasn't want that to write up a quickie ketubah just to sleep in the same house that night so it's you know it's an we take this stuff very very seriously to protect they protect the females and that's another whole tractate and and and then of course if god forbid there's there's infidelity there's a track tape called SOTA which deals with infidelity because what do you do when there's been a breach in the contract because of a infidelity and there's a whole track taint on that so there's like you understand there's a lot of terror involved with this one commandment of being fruitful and multiplying and then there's all the words that are being spoken he's speaking the man says certain things under there she has to agree obviously but but he's the one who says stuff under the copa and she's not going under there unless she's agreeing and but then you got a tract take called Nidoran which goes into all like neder all the although how words are binding now all those laws so there's a ton of Torah around being fruitful multiplying like big fruitful mullings cute enough but it just starts getting filled in the iceberg gets filled in with tons of tariffs but here's the crazy part ready for the crazy part crazy part is you actually start having kids and what's crazy about having kids is is you got to feed the kids have to feed kids and if you got to feed kids that means you got or what kind of work well if you got to work so then you know there's a lot there's a lot of stuff that goes on in the world of work and you've got all kinds of laws that come into effect there's contract law there's you're also gonna have to house your kids so there's a real estate law there's there's um in making a living there's there's like all kinds of discrepancies that wind up taking place between worker and employer and there's tons of law there and all of that civil law is is listed in the toe and yep there's a track tape for for any like personal damages and in the Bubba comma all the personal damages come there called the gates Bubba means in Yiddish means grandma but in our Aramaic it means gates there's three gates there's civil damages laws those are Bubba comma then there's just property property law which is the Bubba Mencia how to deal with moveable property and then yours housing your family or your factory or whatever you've got in real estate is Bubba Basra the final gate which goes into all those laws now all of this is coming from be fruitful multiply but our Tara that says you got to be fruitful multiply is the same tour that says you got to get a job and so you're gonna have to work and it's gonna bring trim meaning meaning the the whole Talmud comes out of this now here's the crazy here's there's a couple crazy thoughts to have about this one of them is separation of church and state does it sound like Judaism separating church and state no zero separation of church and state these are these are they're not separated at all this is this is going to be you know it is totally mixed in but the funny thing is how can you separate them no the only reason anyone would be crazy enough to have children besides obviously the animal instinct to be to reproduce but the only reason any would be crazy enough to do that would be that somehow there would be a greater good as a result you know other than again there's a people have maternal instinct paternal instincts but be all those instincts there's like a there's got to be a greater good and how would you know there's any greater good without God saying that there's something worth living for well if there's something we're living for there's something worth having kids for and that I could maybe impress upon my kids and this is why parents get so freaked out when their kids aren't interested in what they believe is worth living for you know and all of you kids in this room we even got a mother-daughter duo here love to test mothers and fathers yeah you have kids you know yeah yeah but raise your hand raise your have you ever tested your parents you tested your parents value system anyone here to test your parents value system that's it's it's cruel and unusual to do that because because really the only reason that your parents and especially now that we have birth control the only reason your parents had you the only reason was to impart those values that's it that's it cuz you're nothing but a liability okay no offense but your your your a major liability to your parents and into society so there must be some greater good of why it is that your parents brought you to the world and that greater good is those values but when we and so but teenagers are just cruel and unusual when they test their parents values because the parents go into the state of mind which is a direct quote from Rebecca when she had twins she didn't know she had twins she thought she had some schizo baby who was like you know like totally against her values cuz every time she passed idolatry it would like go wild and and tried to like get out and every time she passed a synagogue or a place of God worship the it would try to get out and so she thought you have a schizo a baby only to find out not such good news that she's has twins and one of them's real you know radically anti God being that will ultimately become the father of Western culture which I know a lot of you don't think of Western culture as anti God and well maybe since the Poway shooting you you see what Western culture can breed you know if you if you take God out of it you know you're gonna have anti God coming out of Western it was for sure but anyway Westerners are no friend of God babe but you can him you can influence them you know they're influenceable towards God you certainly want to start young they're using it now as a platform for prayer a moment of what are they saying a minute a minute of silence to reinstitute that incest synagogues as in - sorry range to institute that into public schools so that maybe there will be less people growing up with these kind of anti god feelings when they're when they'll be capable of causing you know damage to humanity I'm just like rambling at this point but the and I hope you guys are with me but anyway but the point is is that when Rebecca had the schizo baby inside her not knowing she had twins she said the words of llamas at a noisy llama why this meaning this situation I know he now I know he's a weird word but in all sentence than the meaning why this I why this I or why thusly am i or but the what it really means is is is I'm not sure how article translates it but it's what why am I doing this like why did I bother if this kid isn't interested in my values so what was the point what was the point of it all and every parent who's had their teenagers test their value system has this feeling of like why did I do this like why did I have sleepless noxious nine months and why did I have to work and around the clock to pay for a kid who's just gonna throw everything that the whole reason I had the kid in the first place to throw in the garbage can like why did I do that llamas annoys me what am i living for basically it means what am i living for and there's an answer by the way a lot of parents love to like kind of use that complaint and leave it at that meaning they just eat their hearts out suffer but you're actually supposed to answer the question meaning the question what am i living for I mean if the the reason I had these kids was for to impart these values for another generation of goodness you know like the way I like to say it is when people see how many kids I had to them I'm I'm a radical environmentalist I'm like a hardcore environmentalist so why have so many kids a radical environmentalist shouldn't have any kids you know as many of them don't and the so I say it was when my friends who are also big environmentalist but I grew up with when they say why'd you have so many kids I say they say because when you're when you're when you're creating more of a problem meeting more consumers when you're creating more of a problem so I understand why you would want to have fewer children but when you're creating the solution meaning the whole reason you're having these kids is to solve the Earth's crisis when you're creating more solutions so then you should have as many as possible and as one person said to an old lady when she said how many already when she saw all his kids he said till 6 million so we are here to create solutions out of our children and when the kids test the values and you say to yourself llamas oh no you see one of my why name father why am i hassling my like why am i ruining my life for these kids who have no interest anyway in the values you have to answer the question well yeah what are you living for and the answer is unfortunately for so many kids sorry for so many parents the answer for so many parents is I'm living for social acceptance meaning I got in all I got into all this cuz it's true but in the end I've lost sight I've I've strayed from the formula and now I'm paying the price and what I'm doing all this for is to basically keep up with the Schwartz's look good in the eyes of my observant community to be observant in any observant community is if there's a tremendous amount of you know looking good involved for the community in details that I'd relieved it I'm just gonna leave out of a live feed cuz it's just more than I we can handle here there's tremendous amount of details of what it takes to be considered on the up and up in an observant community and we all live in those communities because you gotta be able to walk to shul which makes us all have to be new clear eyes like we have to be around this nucleus called the shul because we don't drive on Shabbat so we're all we're like we're all in each other's laundry and we don't want our children to embarrass us and so our children get this weird message that this is not about truth but this is about looking good and deep down there's a big issue here and what the big issue is and is the scariest thing I'll say today is that there's a world we're all going to when we die it's the other side of this meaning where do you think this world comes from it says it's the we're on the other side of a spiritual realm there's there's this gigantic matrix of spirituality vibrating to the end of like those like those toys you see a checkout stands where it's got a flashlight with these little pixels of fiber-optic things that kids will buy with the color on the end you know we're the color on the end our whole physical world is the color on the end of a very Technicolor dream I Bri tional bliss that exists on the other side of this and that's called it's got a term it's called olam ha MS the olam ha amidst the world of emit of truth there's a world called the world of truth and guess what you go to the world of truth and you get to carry with you to experience you know like if I experience this water on the edge of the vibrational thing here we go ok you know not like a beer or something nothing that special that's water it's kind of tasteless especially this water the it's there was nothing special about that but if I could taste this water in the matrix vibration where it comes from the Technicolor realm then I would see it I would see the taste I would hear it it would have a sound because it is vibrational if it exists I promise you it's made of protons neutrons and electrons that are vibrating well vibrations have sound and so I can't hear the water but I can yes hear it when I get to the vibrational realms in the autumn AMS I can actually get to the true water which is you know gonna have sound too it's gonna have sight to it that's why it what's the word synesthesia is where you see the sights you see the sounds Mount Sinai you can see the sounds and and so that's the olih - we got a taste of the ulna - the world of truth at Sinai and so guess what you get to experience in the ol Mimms you get to experience whatever you do in this world but here's the scary part that I said this can be the scariest part of the class whatever you do the EMAs meaning our motives behind what we do is whether you get to transfer the points of everything you do your moat I'm gonna say that again your motivation what's motivating you what's what's behind it all the intention of it all that's what gives you transfer rights for everything you do in this world for the lmms to the world of vibrational frequency that's an important thing to know about and it's easily forgotten what you deal with societal pressures in an observant community because in an observant community it's very easily sight on why you're doing what you're doing because you really nothing you wouldn't do it anyway but there's just this fear that your kids are gonna expose are gonna expose you find their misbehavior meaning not behaving perfect I don't say miss me ever but not behaving the way the community would expect now how high are those standards for the Tina how high are those standards for the average teenager higher love this medium earth super high especially in certain societies if you raise a kid in May assuring the standards are consider more or less normal if you raise a kid in the United States of Asaph yeah you are talking about massive standards and the kids are like what the hell like had I win this lottery growing up in a observant home you know while passing billboards I once I once lived in America for like a few months that was all I could take it was supposed to be a few years but I had an allergic reaction to America left the but I had all these little kids at the time like really little kids like we had a we had like I don't know they were like maybe four and down you know little ones and I think barely see out the window in their in their baby seats in the car but what would happens I'd pull up two red lights is in LA poke two red lights but when you got near the red line there were bus stops and the bus stops had billboards and the buses had billboards and they were all you know displaying a subs best you know and I refused to pull up to them and so I would wait for lights pick four or five sometimes six car lengths back karzai reality people are you know they're like what the hell man they honking their horns and coming to fill in the space and you know some of you were kind of stuck wondering what's going on you know I would just let him honk because my kids aren't gonna see that billboard you know not that my kids would have any ability to understand what they were looking at they were tiny kids but they're not seeing that like that's too big a price to pay like I don't mind teaching tour in America but not at the risk of infecting my children with Asaph you know with with Western ISM and and so our kids have this massive standard it's way beyond what could ever be expected of a teenager with teenage hormones and teenage everything that teenagers have and meanwhile us as parents they kid sense parents fear because the whole thing about being a child is children want to know they're safe that's our job as parents is let your kids know they're safe so kids learn at a very very young age to sense their parents feeling of safety and security if the parents are feeling kids feel safe and our job as parents that didn't help our children feel safe but the kids on a very proverbial level understand our fear way before you know they maybe they know when we're afraid our kids get that cuz they're our job they're their thing is I'm a vulnerable kid so my only thing that could possibly give me that would be my parents and so before the kids got enough advanced mind you know their brains advanced enough to know about real danger their job is to just read our faces read our vibration read our our interaction with our environment that kids are reading us and and even actually the truth is that I I had a daughter who I still have this daughter but but yeah she's great but she when she was in the womb it was during it was during the we had this prime minister who was allowing for like terrible terrorism like bombs were blowing up all over drusen remember there were buses blowing up what year was is like 2001 I forgot the name of the guy I think he was killed actually oh so I know his name Rob's beam was a rep beam yeah I was rapping when Robin was Prime Minister there were a lot a lot a lot of bus bombings going on everywhere everywhere I mean it was like daily and I missed every single one of them because I teach at age and they in Old City the Jewish quarter is unknown think is in all my years and there's never been a terrorist attack in the old city in the Jewish quarter lots of the old saying never in the Jewish quarter so yeah you wouldn't think this is the safest place it Israel during times of terror but apparently it is because we're we're like one of the few neighborhoods that that think Leonar so anyway she was in the womb in the early you know my my wife's like shopping around town and and everyone swab oh man you know and people are like running by her bleeding and she's like helping people in like you know first on site you know my wife was first on site multiple times that year and anyone that daughter when she grew up any loud noises Center into a panic cuz cuz my wife experienced these the daughter felt the her caretaker the fear in the bloodstream in the you know you know it has a lot of fear has a lot of toxicity to it in our system and our musculature in it it goes in you know that's post-traumatic stress disorder for example is is it's in it's in the lining of the body my seminars once in a while I'll get someone who has PTSD hoping my seminars gonna do it for them and and it certainly is amazing with certain trauma but but there's trauma that's in the tissues and that's you know that requires other things you know they which is now you know there's a lot of plant medicines that are being studied down Johns Hopkins and UCLA and New York University in England and Israel these things that that were thought of as 1960s you know hippie drugs that are now being tested to beat seemingly the number one treatment for post-traumatic stress disorder you can look that up online if you like to learn more about that meanwhile our children our teenagers have a tremendous amount I think I learned this from you about I'm in fact I did learn this from you um rabbinic Meyer just walked in you you on it you want to join me up here after life oh I want to hear it oh really anyway but what I learned from rabbinic um our years ago is that our kids sense artists are need to look good in the eyes of society therefore our kids are reading our fear and they're saying hey it's not every kid's gonna do this only the offeror movie news you know we all hope like our kids are we hope our kids are genetically from yitzhak we don't like the kid that just raised our idols you know and every woman that the kotel right now is praying about their pregnancy ensoniq like let's be straight about this well you really want is a Yitzhak you don't want phone calls home from the principal for your Abraham child me your daughter is gonna bust up all convention you know and like break up all the lies of our societies and stuff but but we also you there's such a thing as having an Avram a V no genetic child who's there to break up your idolatry and what's the biggest idolatry for us is more important what our society says matters our observant community says then what we're actually doing the commandments for and so what happens is God sends us this magical Abraham kid destroys our idols we ask riff cos question llamas on okay and then meeting what am i living for and then we answer I'm living for MS not for my community and then all of a sudden my whole shift I start shifting in the way I do my mitzvahs and also how I relate to the kids cuz no longer out of fear and let they're gonna make me look bad as they tell with that I'm just gonna serve God with white fire service and I'm gonna make sure at least I don't wind up with nothing upstairs cuz I was so busy trying to you know look good for everybody I'm gonna do things for the right reasons and for truth and you know what whatever whoever that kid is who was skinned out who was there really God just sent that kid to wake me up so thank you for waking me up that kid's gonna figure her his or her self out when they figure his or her self out they'll work it out themselves how they're gonna do things but best thing wait anyway for a kid to work themselves out is to see their parents are a mystic are truthful or honest in their service of God so yes we are supposed to live to terror with work we're supposed to be involved in the physical world and and and this class had many themes so I just gonna leave it at that yes torque has to be with work I didn't explain why we'll talk about that another time but certainly we all got to be real truthful and how we serve God may we be blessed I mean please join the club Yom Tov media Club okay