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Shawn and welcome to Asia tour here in the practical spirituality course in the old city of Jerusalem overlooking the Temple Mount may be speedily rebuilt Peter yeah you had a question some about observance meaning someone whose Torah observant till the point we like you'd trust their concert or something I'm asking what's the practical reason you're asking me this like I need to know he's observing for some reason maybe for marriage without pronouns oh my gosh like I was expecting like with you like the guy hands your burger and you're wondering if the guy himself is observant to eat the burger he's talking about loving your neighbor like do you have to actually love your neighbor if they don't keep that keep Judaism so so it's really funny you're asking that there's two seats for two ladies right there ladies you can sit with your sister and you can say your new sister so this is a whatever it is that your your your obligation of love your neighbor as yourself is not in the case of and of a heretic someone who's become a heretic meaning a fully observant person who's dropped it all and become a heretic you have no Mitzvah to love them on the quite contrary you're supposed to hate them for going against the fabric of reality in fabric of creation and maybe they've gone against all that's good and they've gone against that but that's only a heretic and a heretics only someone who had tore knowledge was observant kept Judaism knew what they were doing when they were keeping Judaism and then they dumped it that person you're actually supposed to hate but there there's almost no one alive like that today even the kids that running around Brooklyn who you know are no longer observant even those kids are I mean if you actually tested their Jewish knowledge it's like you just you they were culturally Hasidic or yeshiva SH or something they knew they knew nothing they didn't know their knee from their elbow and so they think even them you you gotta love you understand so there's like good luck finding somebody they're supposed to hate I don't want to get into that right now but they're but you wouldn't be nice to them you know you're not gonna let them patronize your store or something like that meaning meaning all out like all-out hatred but that because it's so impractical I don't even want to discuss it and no one no one here is gonna met anyone like I met someone like this and he's dead no he died of old age you could see him you would literally drive on Shabbat with this trial on you directly yep saying could Chavez out the window and he knew like all of Torah like everything he knew it all but he's dead now which can happen anyway but but just regarding kashrut and stuff like that so people say like if you want to trust someone on the laws that you got to trust someone so the big three are laws of Shabbat laws of kosher and sexual purity if someone keeps those three they're considered observing even though they have no idea what they're doing about everything else meaning they're doing their best but they just don't really know what they're doing so even if they don't really know what they're doing but they do keep Shabbat to the best of their knowledge and they keep coach to the best of their knowledge and they keep their pants on to the best of their knowledge they are you can trust them when they hand you a burger and say it's kosher okay okay so that's that's as far as like practical laws regarding who's called observant and but even the the love your neighbor stuff's gonna go on absolutely everyone you're gonna ever meet cuz cuz they're not uh there's nobody out there like that yeah in general yeah sure yeah sexual purity also for single people they also to be considered observant they have to be you have to be have their attitude together sexually now obviously you know there's this generation you know people sometimes when they're alone will do some crazy stuff but but I don't think anyone's asking those questions too much so I think people are considered observant even if they are involved if they have a solo career going on so the I think they're still considered they're still considered observant but no one's gonna consider them non observant what does it mean neighbor so so if the English is neighbor but the the Hebrews not neighbor what's your beloved so it's even nicer than neighbor what's that it's not Gentiles Gentiles you're allowed to be as nice as you want but you don't get a mitzvah meaning you actually get one of that you fulfill one of the 613 the list of the 613 mitzvahs the positive ones are 248 2 4 8 easy to remember 2 plus 4 is 4 8 2 4 8 so there's 248 those are those are little like points you know like pac-man like you're running away from the you guys one of the first video games was pac-man you remember pac-man yeah you turn everything so you're like this look you're eating all those dots so those are the mint suppose you're eating and those little lunch bags that were chasing you those are the negative Commandments so you're eating the positive Commandments moving around the screen and you're running away from those lunch bags those little goblins that were coming after you those are the negative commitment want to stay away from that and the so to fulfill one of the commandments of love your neighbor as yourself or love your beloved you know your your companion your compatriot it's time at the Jews so you can do all the loving you want of the nations of the Gentiles but you don't get the Mitzvah you don't get the Mitzvah so like for example let's say I have a Jew and a Gentile and they're both asking me for the same favor and I've got enough time for one of them so guess what I'm doing the favor for I'm gonna do the favor for the Jew right there that's for sure I'm gonna do the favor for the Jew and and there are some very needy people I try to do my best for everybody and you were gentle but I but I will drop once once like times up from the bells ringing so time lock times gonna be allotted towards helping people who're were members of my tribe and not from any position like I really wouldn't like to help the Gentile just as much if not even more because it could be the Jews a pain in the you know what but I'll wind up helping the Jew because that's where the Mitzvah is now you might say well maybe I'm one of these Mitzvahed and mongers like a point man like just trying to get points like I don't care about people I'm just going for the points that you'd have to only you can test your heart only I can test my heart on wine why I'm in for this but I can tell you just from my own perspective and it's usually the case with all people who were not raised observing us we're not here for points we were taught and people were raised non-observant were born and raised to live for this life you can't get rid of that so the people were born and raised for the next for the next world and like a lot of kids in the observant community were raised for the next world like they're literally born and raised to think about the next world only and so I can see why it's easier for them to do mitzvahs and stuff because they're not living for this world but someone who was I mean I I'd be swimming in our swimming pool and playing flood with an aunt you know you know it was like making his wig and I'm like slowly flooding the area and you know just I was really praying for the aunt you know to wind and stuff but I knew it but my mother would come and she would step on the aunt purposely and I'd look up from the pool at my mom and she would say my father taught me that that's what happens when you die you better live the most cuz this is all you get this life is all you get now and when you're when you're raised that way and and listen it's trans generation it wasn't I say it was my father says me you're part of a long tradition of atheism here and so you better live to live every day to its fullest and you know someone asked me once someone asked me once years ago they said you know you don't really act like a believer because you you because I do so much in a day and I don't leave anything unturned like everything I do like for example tomorrow I'm going mountain biking with a club of men off-roading we're meeting at nine o'clock ordered and I in tomorrow morning so anybody so I was making my schedule and I my wife overheard me noticing the surf report said three to five feet and glassy with offshore winds tomorrow morning so I'm like I'm like oh yeah for sure paddling out tomorrow and she's like I thought you're going mountain biking with this crowd and I said well I mean what time's sunrise she's like I don't know I think six maybe okay so we're all set so that's good need Sun to serve so I'm gonna serve and then I'll mountain bike and then and then I'm gonna go get a hot sauna with a bunch of naked men you know I get slammed by eucalyptus leaves on the back and stuff that's a great way to go into Shabbos for sure and not to mention going home and helping yo home and ho and already heard heard about last week so this week I will set up my wife's candles and everything else nicely maybe even shop it a good time are people getting angry I don't know what had to do with that coming anyway but thank you for handling my comments I always feel bad that I'm missing I know but if there's a serious question though they're wondering what atheists and ants have uncomely anyway but someone did call me out on this once and I did I had to go inside my heart and say like maybe I'm just programmed this way or maybe I don't believe seriously maybe I don't believe there's a next world because my fund my foundational years the foundations of the my being word that there was no next world and so maybe I don't believe in it somehow that I'm trying to get it all done and the answer is I do believe in it and the reason I believe in it is something totally different than why the people believe in things the reason I believe in it is not just that I trust the rabbis and I do I do i for sure trust the rabbi's you know my wife for example became fully observant just because of the genius of our rabbis nothing about the living ones but she's pretty she was pretty impressed with them too but she saw the genius of the rabbis and it all happened because of hot rubella do you know what pop rock leftist you know rug leftist it's just these chocolate roll-up pastries so there was a rabbi who brought to the University of Tel Aviv hot rugelach every Thursday and so my wife discovered the hot rod left rabbi and she was going to this class and what would he do he'd bring up all the modern issues that kids are working out that are dealing with and they would the kids would discuss what they thought the right answer was whether it had to do with euthanasia or abortion or or you know political issues or all the different things a liberal conservative all these things and the kids would discuss them and then the rabbi who was well prepared would bring Jewish sources for what Judaism says and every single time he blew them away and they were just blown away so so my wife actually became fully observant still didn't even know there was a God she didn't know Torah was true none of it she didn't know Torah was divine she didn't know there was a God she nor any of any of that stuff she just said that if these people knew the answers for the last thousands of years that really do answer today's questions well I'm with them if they keep kosher I keep kosher if they keep Shabbat I keep somebody like how am i smarter than these people I'm not smarter than them and so she became fully observant just based on that it was only like a year and a half two years later I don't remember how later she was here at a shoot or actually at an event on Shavuos an all-night Torah study and at dawn when there were a hundred hundred thousand people down there praying in silence she stood on the roof here and she says oh my gosh there is a God and she had her God moment there's gonna be a better god moment hearing come on let's see the god mode well almost well that's a lot of God moment people normally I only get like half the room at best you had a God most of you you should realize you're all very lucky a lot of people never had a cot room and they're just trudging along being a good boy or good girl hopefully there's a God but they never themselves had their own God moment yesterday we did a god moment we actually had a full God moment for the whole group that was cool now anyway someone remind me what we're talking about here good luck you random fries if you could remind us don't worry oh is living life to its fullest oh how do you know you have a soul and that your soul lives on is that is that your consciousness your consciousness outlet your consciousness is beyond your brain because they've tried to find you in brain science they try to find you you realize you have a point of reference you're sitting in your seat you are not sitting over here and you're not sitting over there you have a point of reference of you and your seat right now right that's your point of reference well guess what they've scanned the entire brain that cannot find the point of reference it doesn't exist physically so if your point of reference doesn't exist in your brain it's nowhere in there yet you have a point of reference well it must be that that point of reference is is beyond space and time because it does not exist physically oh they've checked the entire brain there's nowhere inside your brain where your point of rhythm they don't even look anymore they're just if you go into the parts of the brain it's like meaning they know that taste is reporting - okay it tastes reports to you they know that site reports - they know that sadness reports to you they know that like all this stuff's reporting - that they know they've scanned every part of the brain they know what it reports to and in they fear and danger and fight and flight reflex and they know all this stuff this brain signs it's pretty old at this point but they just can't find you and it's not all of them together because there's nowhere in the brain that's that gives a point of reference a new interesting the part they use the most that really hijacks you that if you can actually quiet it through either meditation or psychedelics or something if you can get it to be quiet or you just brain staying kids cuz there's this very quiet we spoke about it yesterday it's the part of your brain that handles past to predict the future so you can actually calculate head across the room or had a like you know drive a car or stuff it's collecting all the past even your my English right now it's being used right now that part of you because it's cooked how do you know my English right now cuz I this is not English these are rational wave patterns crossing the room and hi mathematical equations now your neurons collect it and that part of the brain is matching it to all other English you've ever heard so that you can understand all the all the math because I've only spoke mathematics here and and then it it follows me hopefully well you can quiet that part of the brain completely so point you and you know that's saying you could actually totally quiet that part of the brain and you're ready for this you're ten times more present when the part of your brain that hijacks you most that actually it's so hijacked you there's a spot right here in the front or in the back so it's so hijacks you that part of your brain that it actually will make you think it's you it'll actually make you think you're it but the funny thing is is that if you actually quieten they've already checked this on MRI so they've had full MRI brain scans of people like like like expert meditators Zen meditators who know how to play at that brother man they got that brain quiet it's no more wave frequencies there and you're 10 times more present then you understand like the part that might have been you which is not you I mean anyway it's just neurons but and you're certainly not a neuro if you were neuron you'd be having a really bad hair day they got all these spikes coming out to connect to all the other neurons I said anyway but that's enough for me to know that my that that my point of reference will outlast my life I think this is where death cults come from because if you think about an only thing that's hijacking your pure presence is your brain whereas if you were brain dead so then it would not be hijacked at all something can get a death cult dance any other questions Ezra the reason that were born kids is to and there's many reasons some are kind of interesting actually like for one is that apparently you don't forget everything in the spiritual world so quickly so when you're born you just know way too much so it's better you can't talk because you just come from the spirit world you've been in the spirit world could have been hundreds of years hundreds of the earth years you could have been in the spirit world and now you're here and you kinda know a bunch of things about reality and so it's better you don't say anything just not to freak everybody also it's good if you have it if you it's good to have a couple years of your life where there was no fear you know if you think about your life I hate to say this like no offense to anybody here but your life is code totally and utterly governed by fear your whole life of who you are is your all you know what you are you're all that your fear left over you're the leftovers of all your fear meaning everything your fears held you back from in that whether it's social fear rejection or if your failure like meaning your own personal performance in the world or a fear of being controlled by others a fear of of all the unknowns which is everything is unknown like we know nothing of what's gonna be even involved and then you know all your fears of getting hurt or you know taking risks that could cause pain who you are today like literally all that's left of your identity is just like it's just it's just the refuse of a life of fear and that's why you notice that certain people are like you know they that's why you notice certain people are like highly successful in so many different ways and you're like well like what happened with this person like how'd they get to have all that success like I also have eyes and ears and nose mouth and art and brain and I got all that stuff like why are they so darn successful or why are they so at peace inside or why are they so socially comfortable or why are they so we look at these people and the reason is is because they're less governed by fear and then once in a while you get to meet someone who has no fear and they always rise up like nobody's business like for example I bet you if we had a fear index I bet a lone Elon Musk I bet Elon Musk I bet if if we were able to check fear that we'd see that he draped very very low on the fear scale and that's why he's got his hands in so many different things cuz he just doesn't have much fear and there was a man in Toronto he may be still alive actually I'm a little embarrassed that I don't know but I think he's still lying I'm not gonna say his name because I'd be really busted forget forgetting whether he died or not but um anyway but this guy was a user was a billionaire I'm not gonna say who knows and anyway but he's like he's a billionaire and and he's just has no fear he has no food and it got essentially his fear got knocked out of him by the Holocaust he's one of the miraculous survivors and he saw just like he saw you should know the ones who survived by all the mirror you know those miracles it wasn't like one big miracle it was like we're chains of timing things that like like we're so extremely orchestrated that some of them came out of there just like God wants me here like that's it and there's nothing like if that didn't kill me nothing's gonna so so they're just gone like are gonna live like extremely successfully in their lives because they're not gonna let the fear stop them yeah no fear fear always stops us it's something else that makes us do better and that is negative beliefs about ourselves which we spoke about a few days ago you know a giant list on this whole board of all our negative beliefs about ourselves now that causes certain fears but it also causes us to compensate in weird ways that makes us very successful at certain things but ours but even if you became successful because you speak negatively about yourself inside your internal self talks negative which has caused you to be successful that your success stinks he needs deodorant you understand your success meaning there are certain successful people are stink bugs because they because they're everything that's propelling them forward is coming from a place of inner disgust I understand they're being propelled by an inner disgust well that's gonna smell whereas someone who propels themselves through clean clean an internal being which is generally generated by a connection to one's soul which is a great power source and then they go out there and do it they're their success is as beautiful and everyone seems to love them no matter how successful they get because they don't stink so much and yeah fears generally a stopper it's where we stop but there's other places we go so we go where we compensate for negative self-talk we stop as a different reaction that's practical question how do we stop ourselves from all the fear from from our fear stuff so I'll give you a couple hints everybody you guys interested in how to stop yourself from your being stopped by fear how to how to use you stop twice here how to get over being stopped by your fears okay I'll give you a couple of hints and this would just be a litany of yes okay number one is use the acronym fear is false evidence appearing real and that's fun false evidence appearing real because you see other people seem to be doing it so what's your problem so it's false evidence I mean it may be real evidence but people do it and succeed so so it's getting basically false even though it may look real okay so false evidence appearing real another thing is that another thing is that fear is fear is is often juxtaposed to a no one making Venn diagram but I might erased the Venn diagram part but you got fear is his office juxtaposed to he's right the fear lover are he's saying good meaning meaning you have a fear of God and that's like I'm gonna be really careful not to do anything wrong cuz I'm afraid what might happen and then you have love of God where I love God so much I want to do all this stuff and avoid all this stuff because I want to do an avoid based on my love of God so they're really quite opposite motivations now are you supposed to have both of them one of them which one both yeah you're supposed to have full fear and full up supposed to have both you're supposed to be in love with God to do what he wants and avoid what he doesn't want and you're supposed to be afraid of God to do what he wants and not do it you should know every relationship you've ever had is is motivated by love and fear except for a boyfriend girl the only relationship that doesn't have love and fear is boyfriend/girlfriend okay why because you you can't have the real love because there's there's not a safety of fear fears here's the the fear of a divorce it's such a mess that that that I can now really feel safe enough to love with really an open heart so I have to have that downside of I have to have the downside of divorce to really love and where is a breaking up boyfriend and girlfriends like it's just too clean too easy you know it hurts but you can do it and you'll move on and the and the other is that uh that in boyfriend-girlfriend relationships there's there's there's very little you expose of what it really takes to hold your heart because you know what you don't wanna get dumped and so people will actually do this though they'll pretend to be held don't beat in their hearts being held but they really haven't exposed themselves yet and exposed themselves to the other cuz if they knew what it took to hold their heart the person would run for the life and so they'll they'll just let that someone pretend to hold them but what happens is the girl she like forgets herself and starts slowly time-release letting him know what it takes over like a year or two but uh that's a mistake cuz he's gonna get scared in the room and but you hear couples they get married and then you know they live together and then they get married and get divorced it's because hey once she finally felt safe enough to let him know what it takes he's just like what happened and then he's he's running for his life that's why it's just it's no never being a relationship that doesn't have fear in love but how do so let's get to your question have a little more of that coffee please just just a little tiny bit like really tight that's it it's just instead of water because I'm seeing water in this room no yeah you've been lipping it I have a cup I'll get rid of scum not that I don't trust your lips I mean you wouldn't take a bottle from your own son nope not what Sharon is Karen yeah you ever ask him what he feels about it another fact you won't drink from a bottle you know you guys want to discuss it now first she's concerned that was the discussion okay great you guys don't have to drink each other's germs I mean I don't care I personally don't believe in germs I don't believe in germs and I I find that the immune system is if well cared for it's not gonna there's nothing yours you're a proper floor and your stomach can't kill in the so there are certain people I think should believe in germs but there are certain people there are people that should believe in germs for sure there are things that people should believe in I means there are certain germs people should believe there are certain people that should believe in germs but as long as you're taking care of your health you don't have to worry much about it you mean they might have some super germ I've been knocked out you know but I it's worth a the few times I've been knocked out were worth it for all the hundreds of times I got to share with somebody okay so we're talking about how to get over fear so so I can only really I'm really gonna go the deep way um oh now go one more shallow way is exposure therapy it's just fail hard a bunch like get rejected a bunch it's pretty helpful to just fail a bunch of times and also to get rejected a bunch of times maybe even to do something publicly crazy please don't do that immediately after this video I do some crazy every month or two I suppose I've never harm anybody but it would be a whatever I would choose would be a win-win you know like one time I walked up to a bunch of tough army I again I do this as an exercise why does it help you if you push out let's say the fear rejection let's say you do something really wacky wacky publicly and so now you've just pushed the edge of what's possible in your life to do like you just pushed it out like to the back fence of the baseball stadium well anything else you probably wanted to do with your life it's gonna be within the realm of normal of like somewhat normal so it's good to do some wacky once in a while to just like push out the fence a bit so you can now have room to communicate yourself in the world like because you're likely to never your own your own real like your own real natural expression in the world it's definitely gonna be within the realm of having just done something crazy I mean that's gonna be way out there so I do that once mom you want some examples one of the ones I had I did I found a group of soldiers like really tough like an 18 year old soldier and I went up to like the scariest looking the one of them all a real skinhead and I think he was probably Russian and I went up to him and I put my hand on his arm and I said all this everyone was talking to this one guy so I just walked up to the back one guy and I put my hand on his arm and I said do you love me and he was like take your hand off I'm translating all this to English from Hebrew so I took my hand I'm gonna give him back his private space and I said do you love me and he's like I don't even know and I might Jeff Dean knows somebody to love them it's like just looked at me bewildered like why am I going through all this and and then I and then I grabbed his m16 it strapped on him it's not like I can go very far with it and I grabbed his own m16 and I held it up right between our faces you know between the two of us and I said I I think you better figure out if you can love someone you don't know before you use one of these things so that might have been a win that might have been a bit of a win lose but yeah maybe that was a win lose but it was it was a good lesson for him maybe like maybe anyway but I do these kind of crazy stunts once a month I by the way I taught a group to go do a crazy stunt and this guy went bharden m-16 of a soldier and went into a fountain in rubbings square in Tel Aviv and started playing he had a speaker playing Jimi Hendrix like guitar solos and he was playing on the m16 his guitar solo with a soldier standing on the edge of this fountain just going like this guy has lost his mind but here's the problems the police came and you know obviously the police are gonna show up to this situation and just like it's pretty messy took him about 45 minutes to get released from that situation you did worse getting in there is irrelevant George okay so anyway that's another but just to go a little deeper and then we'll call it a day this is by far my worst class in months by the way I haven't taught a class that's bad in like I don't know what's wrong with me that good just something's off so who ever got to watch us enjoyed I hope you enjoyed it before I delete it for sure like this is a way out of the box class really why raise your hand if this is a big delete miss class I can't save these things yeah what do you guys say watching this delete or not delete that is the question okay okay listen though on a serious note I'd like to talk a little bit about how to how to get how to disappear fear okay we're gonna talk a bit about how to disappear here for a moment and the way you disappear fear is and it's not an easy thing to do but it goes like this I'd like to give it to you as a I'd like to give it to you as an analogy life is like a maze yeah it's a maze and it's and it's full of danger life is a maze full of danger danger for your own you know I mentioned the fears rejection there's rejections waiting everywhere I mean why do you think you feel the way you do when you walk into a wedding reception like there's so much danger there okay there's danger everywhere rejection danger failure danger and we could feel bad I mean you see people on the streets who fail bad you got a control danger of people controlling you government police rabbis God spouses parents like control and then you got unknown danger lots of danger there like where there's just danger everywhere and we got to make our way through the maze of life and what happens is you hit walls you get waltz cuz if you're gonna run the maze you're gonna hit walls for sure it's a big maze that's not a little guide no the kids kind on the paper this is a big maze 3d real-time real high-stakes and you're gonna be making your way through that maze I promise anyone here is gonna play even a little big in their life you're gonna hit a lot of walls you're definitely hitting walls and and here's the difference between us and rats because rats and laboratories also run mazes see when a rat hits a wall you know it's a little stunned for a second you can see it's like just its nose back and forth like what to do and then but it makes a u-turn and it usually will not come back that way it's usually not going back there they were there better than people on this like they they'll make they have somewhat of enough memory to make that mistake once how many of us have gone down some wall some halls and hit the walls and said oh my gosh I've done this before like I've been there yeah I've been there before and I you know who you are if you have like repeated wall hits you know you just you thought you were over that one and then later you know you're later a month later a week later you're right back there again and by the way if I'm giving you advice in your life for those who I advise in this room I know who you are even if you keep coming back with similar problems and I know people like that who are married 20 years so I've been advising for 20 years and they are still hittin those walls so anyway but here's this here's the catch is that there are people and you may be one of them and there's lots of them then hit the wall and create a new world view based on this wall they've hit that explains away why there's a wall there and they set up a tent and live there for the next 50 years so the rat not only out does is that a generally won't go back towards a dead end but rats even much better than us because he for sure gets out of there even if he does go back he's gonna get out but human beings are in danger of hitting that wall and then create him to say it again listen very carefully my words creating a worldview that explains the wall I mean how many of us know I mean there's there's people involved in world religions that have camped next to a dead end and have completely totally made their worldview somehow makes sense around that dead end there and there are people in marriages like that and they're people in in businesses like that and there are people in the financial situation like that human beings are philosophical beings we're a philosophical and it's our insight and that can be your greatest thing I get to truth but it can be your enemy because you could create a life philosophy around something that doesn't work and you'll just somehow have a story to back up your insanity and everyone's and everyone who's close to you has to somehow buy into your story and ain't nobody got time for that but apparently everyone does have time today but ain't nobody got time for that with a friend I mean you believe that you have relationships that part of proving your love for them is you gotta somehow accept a story that they've built that is so clearly a fabrication of just explaining away some total failure whether it be socially or economically or or in a ton in their endeavors of you know there ability to be independent you amazing that sometimes that's called love but it by the way it is called love I do it too I'm I'm totally cool this spot here if you want I'm totally cool with it like I promise you I'm not gonna be calling the guy but if he does call me I will listen and rehear the story of him stuck somewhere but here's the scary part and this is what I meant by going deep is that in the story I told you in the analogy of the maze at least it sounded like this that the wall you hit was outside of you but yet you see someone else saw that wall and just they already saw the wall and they went somewhere else so it's your wall the wall you're hitting is part of see the walls are internal and what happens is external walls show up for us in based on scenarios that happened when we were probably really little we don't remember half the stuff that happened and so this wall just seems so darn familiar and so we snuggle up to our walls based on their familiarity even though we don't we'd never want that ultimately it's not what we want but we will we will snuggle up to walls in the maze create whole philosophies around them because they somehow work for some story we've been telling ourselves ever since we were little and then there's people who are into the fact that none of this exists that all there is is God hmm meaning this we're all inside the mind of God like this is all God meaning when we said Hashem surrounding space and time who by lo keem plural filling space and time when we said that seven times on Yom Kippur we meant it that there is no wall and that whole story for my childhood it's a nice story maybe a big be a good Hollywood seller but I don't want to be star in that role I don't want to be starring in the film I'm in yeah of course stuff happened but like I'm living in God's world God's recreating the world every day it's I'm the one who's tied his hands behind his back to cause this rerun of situation after situation because I can't stop snuggling up to what doesn't work for me I just love them my blocks I know them like a warm dirty diaper in the winter I'm just addicted to where I'm stuck it's given me identity and purpose but how many people do we know believe in God but still play that game and not even say every day in chakras I'm a hot age but two volumes to me in massive Rishi's that God renews perpetually the creation from scratch into existence every single moment they'll say that but they'll still snuggle up to that wall that somehow perfectly matches some stupid story from their childhood there that nobody's got time for but when you surrender totally to a sham and when I say totally I'm not talking about keeping kosher keeping Shabbat that's the only the beginning of it meaning the fact that you make blessings on your food now and you and you're careful with eating kosher food and you don't speak loshon Hara and you keep Shabbat you and you pray three times a day that's just the beginning that's not surrender that's surrendering maybe what you do with your lips that's maybe surrendering what you're doing with your diet that maybe surrendering with your activities once when it comes to BOTS but I'm talking about when you surrender deeply your whole life story in all of its patterns and all of the bumps and bruises and scrapes that you went through as a kid that somehow perfectly match up to the maze you're trying to get through to the point where you've snuggled up against a whole philosophy of why things just are stuck the way they're stuck so you can just like dwell in your own little misery there your story that you know you know whether you have to pay 200 bucks an hour to have someone listen to it you know if your story is so interesting why you have to go once a week to tell it at 200 bucks not that therapy isn't very important for certain people in fact I can suggest it for several people in this room just not that therapy isn't important for certain people it's important but some people are just paid to listen to your stupid story event and that nobody's got time for but when you surrender deeply to a kotas borrow foot to God and you and you let you you just release your story and then you go put on your running shoes and you head out into the maze again there's no way you're staying around those walls there's no way you're gonna let your fear stop you there they're not real they're just matchups to things that happen you and your kid and that's why someone like Elon Elon Musk I don't know what his job live was like he was probably pretty good cuz he doesn't see the same wall as you do he just doesn't get that at the mall it's you that sees your walls as walls when you bang into that wall and so if he hit that wall he wouldn't turn it into a life philosophy away stuck he wouldn't create that worldview you just say this doesn't work and he moves on and that's why his life works ask me privately so the answer really is a very deep answer and that comes with total surrender but a deep deep surrender it's not the surrender of your actions it's a surrender of your actual story of your life like can you surrender your story of your life to have already happened and it's over and to move on triumphantly courageously powerfully into a unknown future being created and orchestrated by the creator of the universe and just move out of you know let yourself get that diaper changed I just move on and live inspired powerfully and and and his conscious with a sham with total connection with him because think about it can you actually have full connection with Hashem if your whole world is just lens layered lenses of your story meaning you're not living in God's world you're living your world you're living your own story you're totally caught up in this scenario of an in a whole narrative that only you could really understand but you probably don't know half of it because who's ever really plumbed the depths of their story you don't even remember half the stuff that happened you just know that you're stuck in this narrative and it just keeps showing up that way because you magnetically draw it - we draw our stuff we're like you know what we're like we're like there's some dogs wearing that satellite dish so they don't you know chew on their foot or something so but imagine you're wearing one of those things but it's a satellite dish well you're like you're like you don't but you don't see it you're looking here you don't see a giant satellite dish around your head and you're constantly drawing the same situations back rerun after rerun after rerun because you're snuggled up against a locked a block in the maze of life that you've turned into a worldview in a flaw and you and you complain about why people treat me the way they do but meanwhile if you could just pop that disk off your head and turn it around and look at it you'd see it's covered in certain adjectives about you that draws that kind of interaction so obviously it's gonna draw that stuff but when you surrender yourself totally to up to a shim on that deeper level you can flip that disk around like a frisbee and just and then live in God's world in a relationship with God sounds scary but I'll tell you the alternatives the scary one I promise you setting up a tent in front of a brick wall with the whole universe on the other side of that wall is that's scary surrendering yourself internally surrendering your whole narrative that's just nothing more than what has happened till now because it is true it did happen it's over you know God's creating the world now and just surrendering that story and walking into an empty future of possibility that's that's you know okay it says I don't think it's scary I think it's exciting I think it's inspiring I think it's a can't wait to see what's happening next makes me excited I'm curious what's God gonna do next and anything is possible now there's no fear there she'll owe me everybody oh good shabbos we have third meow to our house hunt at Steve eleven Xander's let's see the lemon I'm third meal and everyone's welcome we don't wash around 440 something like that and what else can I tell you I know I'm Smith what are we teaching today 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