Rabbi Yom Tov Glaser: Practical Spirituality Deep Teshuva

gentlemen welcome to practical spirituality here in Asia tour in the old city of jerusalem overlooking the Temple Mount I want to just make one announcement and that is that uh that we've started my club I actually have a club we have not yet figured out exactly all the logistics but what I'm doing is I were creating a club I'm not sure what it's called either I think it's called the yom tov club i think the young or rabbi yom tov club ya rabbi Yom Tov Club Y T Bobby ry t see yeah it's like the ROTC with our ytc anyway the club is you pay ten bucks a month you get absolutely nothing for that ten dollars but being part of that Club we are going to hire a bunch of social network people and videographers and like get get like a lot more of the internet usage debt to be so uh we can have a much bigger effect out of the work I'm doing and and the truth is is I would never leave people flat if they paying ten bucks a month that's gonna 120 bucks a year for sure we're gonna do something cool I had an idea by the way and tell me what you think raise your hand if you like this idea instead of ten bucks months it's 15 bucks a month and everyone gets to submit projects everyone gets to submit anyone in the club gets to submit projects whoever submits project automatically gets into a lottery to get five bucks of the 10th 15 where we're all gonna give so let's say we got now 5000 people at 15 bucks a month five what's five thousand times five it's $25,000 to start a project so that's another idea because I'm really big on helping young people get their life started and I really believe it's ten times easier than you believe and most of that works inside of you and so and so that wouldn't it be pretty nice to get 25 grand out of nowhere just because you're in this club so anyway that's my original if you like the the extra five bucks idea for the lottery raise your hand if you think that's allows the idea keep it at 10 okay I'll think about that okay we're doing we're doing today's session and on deep teshuva and let's think about it for a second what does it mean exactly to Shuba so just repent level and I think we're not really that aware of the levels of tissue that there are so it's it's got different levels and we're gonna have to use red let's see so the different levels is what number one is to to live move right how would you call it if you're actually like doing things right live right that's right be good right [Music] what would you say like so what do you call someone who's ignoring Jewish law and me but knows he or she's ignoring Jewish law and then they decide that's it I'm gonna start keeping Jewish law that's called someone who did to Juma so what do you call that okay with it what do you call that kind of tissue and that's forget on that right anything we'll see what I'm gonna write there I so want to write something right now I mean we got this marker I'm desperate I got a right so so anyway that's one kind of Trueba and everyone calls that belly chuva those are called bow to shoeless now here's the interesting interesting thing is that ever since I've worked in outreach which is now a lot of years you know it's like longer than you most you're alive it's 27 years I'm I'm working like in a full-time outreach and all these years I meet these super holy people who are Jerusalemites and also people in Lakewood and Brooklyn Muncie him I'm meeting these holy people were totally dedicated to Torin mitzvahs and they always say to me I'll tell you the in hebrew yom tov Mattea Tahoes LD betcha chuva they say Ianto when are you gonna bring me back into Shuba meaning I have these super holy hasita Minmei assure him it just happened last night with all these drunk fools on those Hanukkah party you know last night of Hanukkah which of course wasn't really the last night of Hanukkah but we washed it before sundown and partied for another six hours so the with 96% alcohol and a live band about six vocalists it was so sloppy it was unbelievable they finally moved this kid like he looked about 15 they moved this kid he could no longer hold his bodyweight up from the enumeration so they normally you don't put a kid with all the rabbi's at the table you know tables lined with rabbis and then the Rebbe sits at the head you know and they they they so they figured like he can't hold his own bodyweight up so we'll just put him with the rabbi's they put him with the rabbis he lasted literally about maybe 10 seconds before he blew chunks all over the Rebbe stables it was so classic so and then they just removed him again they just like took him up he was like God he was like totally limp it was like a curtain or something you know and it was so funny because 800 drunk men who were trying very hard to keep their hat on you know they're all jumping up and down the whole time on bleachers so like hats are just like and they're flying onto the table and oh it was it was really a great time this year was a little more tame than usual normally it's like insane what's going on in there by the way there's a very sober group we're not like Pro alcohol this group doesn't even drink wine at kiddush they drink grape juice all year long they drink two days a year poor him and the H candle clinica kind of the night after you know but think of the the Rebbe was so drunk that he took back his life he took back his life cuz a lot of Rabbie's are controlled by their by the guidelines you don't realize this but a lot of rebus are no longer there really they're like it's almost like they're on the other end of a stick and their assistants are like running everything with the rebbe like this and we finally saw a Rebbe take his life back from these assistants of his and he stood up on his chair and started dancing on the top of his chair and it was the funniest thing to watch about six or seven probably eight different people try to convince the Rebbe to sit down and you're watching this because we're all in bleachers and there's the Rebbe up on this you know stage with his beautiful table and standing on his chair going like this with everybody like this you know and but every few minutes someone comes in tap Simmons like saying please sit down please sit at revenue you need to be sitting down right now and the Rebbe is just like like this over two and a half hours he would not be sitting on his chair he only stood on his chair until they just acquiesced they just you know with their tails between their legs what no no is the pins coming already and you you should just just shared even crazier story is one year the first time I saw it he had just become Rebbe and I saw him being controlled and I saw this guy controlling everyone it's the main assistant of the Rebbe I'm gonna leave him nameless for all the people watching this but he shows up at all you always see him in every picture of the Rebbe and all the Rebbe magazines I went and I ripped him I ripped him off the Rebbe stage and threw him under the bleachers and then I pointed to him and I said don't you dare come out of here until the party's over and he just started crying and and then I brought everyone back up who were up there and have been up there for less forty years you know who were near the old Rebbe who he threw off the stage it was a whole coup he was up to and like everyone should just all the people who've always sent to it sat next to the Rebbe should get away from him get away from the new Rebbe I've brought them back on the stage and it kept an eye on him make sure he doesn't come in 2:00 in the morning I got a phone call from him it's been such a love-hate relationship and hurry to in the morning I get a phone call I have no idea what he's gonna say and he in the rib he says the Rebbe made me call you to apologize I'm like you're forgiven never let it happen again whatever whatever it is he did to me anyway so these guys are always asking me that they want to be valet to Shuba they want to make me a ball to shoot me you know what I've always answered them I've always incident I don't think that's possible because I'm kind of taking a little jab at them like you're never gonna be able to do too but you know maybe you can do too but these Hasee demand my assuring they can't do teshuva and when they say why not they're like shocked that I would say that like why are you saying that to me and then there's shocked I'm saying that to them and I say well the reason is is because you're already fully observant and you're very careful about go observance so you're really like it's kind of hard to have someone fully observant to tissue of it and then they were kind of whatever they took that to mean whatever and they walked on other conversations I had with them I said well listen think about it someone who's secular who like like jumps up to chuhwa and now is living the lifestyle of a Torah observant Jew somebody does that that's such a big gap that there's no way to take someone who's fully observant and get them on that kind of jump you understand bump up their game on the level that someone who was raised secular bumped up her his or her game you can't take someone who's fully observant and bump them up to that level unless you're planning on creating an angel because at that point you got an angel on your hands meaning they're already till all of us if you followed around some of these holy people that I get to rub shoulders with and measuring there are waiting pretty angelic these guys like how could they take it up the level that of all truth takes it up without becoming total reclusive you know ascetics - how could they bump it up like that and there's actually a Rebbe by the name of ruff Shalom shopping the freedmen who's you know let's do a little AC you want to hit the AC I think it's a little stuffy in here well studying the panel might help see it up there yeah great Oh was on Oh was on so just turn it down a little maybe that's weird I don't hear it it's on huh maybe it's on heat is it on snowflake what's it got you on snowflake there or no it's off forget it don't worry Matt something's wrong we don't need air okay so does this Rebbe named Rashawn schockner Friedman who's the Hornish Tyler Rabiya and he's that there's two hundred cyclo rabbits there's one in Brooklyn and there's one in Israel and they're from the torski family and this Rebbe is so high up in his service of God then he's like really about to shove every minute like he's constantly moving that way and he was raised observant but he's constantly Bob Juba man now someone on the his level of Terra should naturally have a lot of followers but he's been plagued with a lack of followers no one wants to be anywhere near him actually and he has very few followers they're generally the same followers all the ears and one thing all his followers have in common is they're either Bell Joshua or their converts which is like really funny because he is so far beyond but his followers in every single aspect being raised in a Hasidic Court you understand like this should not be the people he has to deal with all day meaning it's always cool to have about you've in a convert hanging around but not everybody is and there's only 12 of them and sometimes they drop out but years we've studied this issue with the Rebbe and we never could figure out quite why it's like this and we're talking about a man that sleeps only two hours a day for the last 40 years and not every day sleeps meaning Thursday's he doesn't say Shabbos night he doesn't say which is two days in a row so he's now been up you know for 72 hours he finally sleeps after the chillin but who could stay awake after the join you know he doesn't sleep after that John and he's on a full speech fast from Friday morning Friday morning he does all this teshuva and then he goes into a recluse into seclusion till he shows up until you guys a mikvah he does chuga all day Friday you nobody does it true before he does true before all the sins of the week this guy hasn't sinned at all so they gotta be like who knows what it means for him to be doing tissue of all day on Friday we I don't think we could understand that but he stays in his speech fast all the way till around 1:00 a.m. Shabbos night he won't speak at his shop is typically there and around 12:00 1:00 a.m. Shabbos night he gives a DVAR Torah for about an hour and a half after that he'll schmooze with you but of course no one's around Shabbos Day speech fast all the way till 3:00 in the afternoon when he's finally been at the table for like two or three hours he gives another devour to her for about an hour and then he'll speak to you till he takes his nap then he's on a speech fest until Saturday night where he does like a three for our third meal and he speaks the last hour and a half of the meal and then he'll speak this persons way out there but way out there I was once I've had a couple Asia tour guys hang around him a bit and so we once had these three boys from each hoping that window a little bit which is good yeah keep that one anyway the I once brought three boys from Asia to write to him now you have to understand Asia tour boys are now allowed to date for a really long time until they need like two and a half to three years till they're ready to date someone unless they want to get thrown out of the yeshiva but and you may be worth it but ladies but the but otherwise they're not allowed to date for like two to three years why because unlike a girl if a girl keeps Shabbos for like six seven months she's basically gonna keep it the rest of her life a boy keeping Shabbos for six seven months means nothing he needs to keep Shabbos for like two and a half three years before he can guarantee a woman under the Hopa that he will be guarding the Shabbos with her for their family for the rest of their lives like that kind of commitment for a man Shabbos is very hard for men emasculating men like to mark every lamppost they walk by okay it bothers us that no one's gonna know us a hundred years from now no one's even gonna have any clue who you ever were just like you have no clue who anyone was a hundred years ago in your own family line no one's even in your own family no one's gonna know anything you did you'll be lucky they know your name and your yard site lucky and how many how many of you know your sites the date to say Kaddish for people who lived in your own family a hundred years ago meaning we're all totally forgotten and that's an important thing to know now because if everything you're ever gonna do or in this life is gonna be forgotten well you better start living for the moment and stop trying to be the big guy who's somehow made a difference because it's all like a it's a sandcastle whatever you're gonna build just a sandcastle when that tide comes in ie when you die your goodbyes to the sandcastle it's just gonna wash away so build something beautiful now like living it now living your life fully and that's the beauty of Shabbos this job is you can't do any more work you can't make your mark any more like you once Shabbos comes in this Sun hits the horizon your mark is no longer so relevant and that's hard for men it's very hard for men to let go of his mark I'm just I took a long pause I want to get back to these three students came to were fresh @h I mean you could like literally the paint was still wet you know they're keep us were like you know they still the price tag and anyways so the Rebbe says to me pulls me aside and says young tough those three boys in your who came to me they had already come a couple weeks in a row so the Rebbe was like getting a feel for them not that he would talk to anyone he doesn't talk to anybody but but he got a feel for them and he said to me were young tough tell those three boys to get ready to meet their soul mates they're gonna be getting married and I'm like Rebbe they're adacia Torah that's not gonna be possible you know they're not that's not even within the realm these guys are barely you know they barely become observant at this point and the Rebbe says you know just tell them and so I went up to the three boy and listening to my Rebbe you know he's the rivet so I go up to the three boys and I said guys get ready today they're like you're kidding I thought we can't date for like three years rabbi and I'm like listen this is what the Rebbe said and so there was this whole discussion once the three of them who would have enough courage to ask the Dean of Asia tour if they could just start dating and one of them finally I guess they drew straws one of them lost and went and asked and there were just he just laughed at them anyway all three were married by the end of the year all three boys no none of them dated no time did each one who has a crazier story than the other you know wild stories and what how they perfectly like met their soul mates happily ever after amazing and so people got wind of this story people got wind of this story and a soldier in the south of Israel who really wanted to get married he's a young guy but he was desperate to get married heard the story so I get a phone call from this soldier and he says he says I'd like to get a brother from the Rebbe I said okay this is a drew you know next time you're on leave so so it turned out he didn't get another leave what he did was he got enough of a break that he he drove up he took a bus up to Jerusalem two hours went straight to the Rebbe couldn't find his house got on a payphone and he's asking you know is this the rabbi Friedman's house and they're like yeah anyway Wally's on the phone with him one of the sons of the Rebbe walked by he goes into the house he says Rebbe that daddy there's a there's a soldier out there calling you from the payphone like right down our block you guys know what payphones right they were there were once payphones you put like some minute and makes the calls so had wires anyway so the Rebbe left his house went to the payphone to see the soldier he says are you looking for me he says your rabbi Freeman he says yeah he says what do you want he says well I want to I want to get married I want to find my soul mate and so the rabbi says okay should be blessed to find your soul mate so he goes back to the central bus station the girl standing next to him in the line is who he married at the center at the central bus station amazing and I I know this story intimately because the Rebbe won't go anywhere he doesn't leave anywhere besides where he sleeps where he learns and where he prays like that's it in the mikvah but it's no it's all in one building so he never leaves there and so he sent me for the wedding so I had to make the proper for the Rebbe you know like like standing in for the Rebbe yom tov glazier I didn't bring a guitar but I usually do if I lead away anyway so we finally realized why the Rebbe doesn't have any students were raised observant and the answer is is that is that he's transforming his life every day he's transforming life as we know it every day and if you're already observant how you supposed to transform your life I that and so people can't deal with him and so they just anyone grazed observant who gets near the Rebbe lasts for a week or two and then just never comes back or maybe a few months but then they disappear and this is that kind of high person that it would take to be to be a ball trouve on this level if you're raised observant one time the Rebbe was marrying off a child and and he needed money badly and I took a wealthy guide to his house who sold a property for a profit of five million dollars literally outside the Remy's door he's like hold on I got a phone call we're going in to learn like two for the Remy's class and you hold on he says yeah okay it's fine he was telling his people to sell it and so they sold it clicked off the phone he says hey I just made five million dollars I'm like great so we go into the house and I go to the Rebbe and I sent to the Rebbe I mean I pulled him aside before the class started as he was walking and I pulled him aside I said you see that Jew sitting in the table I said that that guy that guy just sold a house for five million dollars profit like he was selling a box of peanuts like please just connect with him like translate more for him he the guy knew knowing no Hebrew translate more it's in English but not every words translate you know you English so translate more and the Rebbe looks at me with this look in his eyes of a bit of anger and he says to me it's idolatry that I would treat him differently than anyone else it's idolatry and and went on to totally ignore the guy for like the next three hours you like wouldn't even look at him no eye contact with this guy it's idolatry and anyway but this is the kind of person we're talking about there very few people like this but that's what we mean by about to shul if you're raised observant like it's really going all the way like intense intense service like that anyway I have many more amazing Revis stories I'd be happy to tell you more but I'd like to get to the meat of the class I finally discovered how these people can do tissue I finally discovered it night just dawned on me how did how they do teshuva and the answer is inner tuba meaning outer you're keeping the commandments you're already doing that stuff so how do you do inner teshuva and that's what I discovered is that there's a whole inner teshuva and what is that inner to Shula the inner teshuva is when you realize that you are a massive transgressor of the laws of Lucian Hara when you if you can realize that you are a massive transgressor you are a URI I hate to use this word it's kind of Christian but you're a sinner when it comes to lush and huh you're a sinner and if you can do teshuva on lush and ihara you even if you're raised observant can become about to schule by just working on no more lush in horror and also to be under than one other thing what other detail and that is to be really truthful about who you are really truthful meaning you have to stop sinning with the use of lush and Hara and you have to be really truthful about who you are now what do I mean exactly by this what I mean lush and Hara who have we been speaking lush and her about who have you been speaking legend or you know you're always speaking legend or always in fact during this class every one of you has spoken loshon Hara yeah excellent say latter who have you been speaking legend har about yourself used to be question to her about yourself who's willing to stand up here right here come up to the front of the class and say the following words with all your heart and like full you know emotion and integrity and and and with charisma and with absolute truth about you that you are amazing and beautiful and and powerful and and healthy and God's gift to this world and you know who's going to be that full about the fact that you were created in the image of God because this is what you were created as meaning this is who you are so who's willing to get up here and state the truth about yourself and stop bluffing everybody with some other like plastic plastic personality that you've created to cover up your lush and Hara because deep down everyone in this room has been saying all kinds of stuff about his or her self that's forbidden to say about anybody I mean think about these words think about like let's put up some words of things maybe you'll help me a little bit one of the things people might say about themselves let's put up a few things ugly everyone else I'm getting rid of fat fancies nutty there are thin people who think they're fat with it that's like guy that's like you need a psychologist bad ugly stupid weird bad what else we got insufficient I didn't hear what you said oh yeah how about let's go right to the punch one of the things we say about ourselves lazy maybe a failure and then we and then we do lazy looks for nothing that good-for-nothings worthless shallow come on guys what else do we say you're missing the big ones what do we want more than anything else in the whole world we want to be know we want to be loved we think if we're pretty we'll be loved we want to be loved so what would be the thing we might say about ourselves unlovable unwanted a reject you know it just gets goes from bad to worse you know unlikable connect can you have good penmanship I'm just write the rest of this guy's keep it going I expect a hole at least a whole other row while I go to the bathroom [Music] Wow okay unlikeable entire a pathetic week boring bum mommy that's a nice way to think dumb annoying emotions stable deranged broken psycho a liar yeah and the list goes on and the list goes on in other words you're you're completely crazy you know why because you would never say this about the random person you'd see on the street I mean if you just saw someone on the street walking by while you were like sitting on a bus bench you never come up with one of these adjectives about that person unless of course they were like dressed a certain way that made you feel inferior oh we forgot interior so unless you maybe felt in fear but let's just say you didn't feel inferior would you ever use any of these adjectives about an immigrant in person well there's 7 billion random people walking around the streets and none of them are these things so it's statistically impossible that you are rumors then since no one else is except for you so you got to be crazy meaning you're the one who's crazy and you're the one who's schizo okay because because remember yesterday we discussed the definition of schizophrenia was was when an imaginary imaginary thing could be is seen as real and so it's statistically impossible that this could be true about you you understand none of this could be true about any of us and also another example is if I were holding a little baby up like a little sweeping you know the girls are and all the guys are gone whose is it and so I'm holding a little baby up and and the would you guys say that about this baby any of these adjectives absolutely not now it's two years old whole little two-year-old toddler cutest baby in the world yeah and we're gonna say that no five years old still super sweet cute gorgeous five year old ten years old a little harder to hold but I hope my ten year old so I'm holding my 10 year old yeah are we gonna say that about them the 10 year old no okay now it's a 50 year I'm not gonna hold the 50 no but I got my arm around a little 50 year old cutie with the baby fat still on his face or her faizan oh my goodness we ever gonna say that about them no at what point do at what point does the kid become all this at what point no the answer is the answer is never never so it's not even actually lush in Hara did I say legend horror earlier sorry there's a worse sin than legend her Russian horror means speaking badly about somebody but it's often a true statement what about a false statement in lush and horror what's that called woodsy shame ruff what's a shame Rus when it's a lie that you actually purse merch a person's reputation it's it's a it's called what is it called when you destroy someone's reputation it's called a slander but it's no but there's a term for it okay this is something it has done murder or murder so miss a summation it's called character assassination it's called character assassination that's the term for it in law me cuz you can go to even go to court for that because you assassinate someone's character and it now affected their business you're you're gonna be liable for that that's that's the court of law and even in Western law that's a it's one of the you know it's a legal term character assassination and yet every single person in this room has been involved in character assassination just under the radar and we're not going able to take you to court for that but you're definitely serving time behind the bars of these words because once you say that about yourself good luck good luck with your marriage good luck with your finances good luck with your health and you guys realize how much has to go right for you over the next 30 years pretty scary a lot of variables out there you realize how much needs to go right for you for the next 30 years like a lot has to go right a lot a lot of stuffs got to go really well and there's tons of variables I mean when I see all you right now I mean you're all look wonderful but all I see is question marks because you know Raynaud's who will I marry where will I live what will I be professional at meeting what am I gonna get good at and and how will I make a living and you know how many kids am I gonna and and etc it's all a bunch of question marks and over the next years of your life especially right now that's what I'm telling you I want to link really help young people because I really help a lot of young people get there get on their feet but what you're gonna do over the next year's is you're gonna make exclamation points instead of question marks meaning you're gonna take your question mark to a chiropractor and you just kind of straighten straighten out your spine into exclamation points this is who I married and this is my training this is what I'm good at and this is how I'm making a living and this is the city I live in and this is the house oven is the car I'm leasing and it everything is just exclamation points everywhere you're gonna turn them into exclamation points but a lots got to go right a whole bunch of stuffs got to go right and it there's no way it's gonna go right saying all this stuff about yourself which just puts you right into the statistics of the people who are not doing so well nobody wants that and I know there are people thinking about maybe going to yeshiva and like becoming observing staying in Israel for a while learning Tara but they're afraid how it's gonna affect them financially in their life meaning not using these years for you know building themselves financially they they don't realize that this could be the very best thing they could ever do because maybe maybe they'll start being truthful about how awesome they are maybe they'll they'll start getting truthful by living in a world of truth around the Torah which is true with a lot of Torah that's true and rabbis who live true to themselves and people who have done that inner tube and been true with themselves and maybe that'll rub off on you maybe you could become truthful about yourself that would make you very successful in all the variables because those variables are waiting for your inner core energy to be clean because is this clean energy to have this going on inside one's self is that clean is that clean vibrational energy you're putting into the world it's not clean vibrational energy I'm not gonna hire somebody who thinks they're in Tom or unlikable or undeserving I'm not gonna hire somebody who thinks they're unwanted I'm just not gonna hire that person I'd rather hire someone who deep down has a vibrational energy of amazing and beautiful cool and when I say cool meaning room meaning they're at peace in their hearts with themselves like truth so if you look at all these adjectives what you'll realize is that you've got an all other adjectives besides these adjectives better the way you cover up these adjectives because who in the world can go through life feeling pathetic or unloved or unlikable or ugly or stupid nobody no one could go through life like that so what do they do they put on this plastic skin deep personality that everyone should think that they're really I don't know I mean you guys tell me beautiful smart normal holy you know the most important needed person in the whole community better than everybody you know superior you know whatever overachiever workaholic miss Kabbalah you know social butterfly you understand how it goes it's there's a ton of other adjectives that we use that is a full bluff of who you are so no one gets who you are no one gets to actually get you all they get is your band-aid over a wound that needs 50 stitches not a band-aid but what we get is a whole other list of things that you've been saying you are to the world at large that no one should ever know this about you and so this is the inner Tuva this is inner Trueba so now when people were raised observant come up to me and say rabbi Glaser will read for you yom tov when will you when will you help me do teshuva Matata Sayle bound to Allah I have an answer for them that it's an inner truth it's a true of being truthful about yourself no more moti shame run no more slander character assassination on the negative no more of that but on the positive is to be truthful about how amazing you are like actually it would be truthful about that I mean how is it that you keep why do you keep Shabbat I would say Emma's we're gonna end with this and one say Amos why do you keep Shabbat and there's why do you brush your teeth all right you two from fallout why do you go to sleep at night I mean why do you eat three meals a day you're not saying Emma's was kind okay why do you get some exercise and this why do you keep kosher why do you learn to read what are you doing in Jerusalem meaning everything you're doing is a mess except for what except for who except for who you are that's the one thing you refuse to be a mess about I mean you'll be honest about everything outside of you but when it comes to you you're willing to assassinate your own character and say stuff that's not even close to true just like the little baby grew up into a 20 year old there was no point where they became this but boy did they become this inside their own heart it's their own little secret and this is where people generate from this really sad and years ago 17 years ago I started a seminar just to get people out of this mess called the possible you you can check it out online there's some beautiful videos to watch possibly you you can come to a seminar to with the next three are in Hebrew that's not for any of you people but there is a gonna be a couple men's ones at the end of winter schwa Dar Allah Father base and then and they'll be in February I'll be in New York so if anyone's come in February I think every 10th through the 14th I'm in Muncie New York men's and women's English tell them everybody and please be really nice to yourselves from now on who's teaching the next class really love dating a marriage in three and a half minutes