Rabbi Yom Tov Glaser: Stop Bluffin'!!

Chum welcome to practical spirituality here in the Jerusalem a shatori overlooking the temple so today what we're gonna discuss is is how we miss ourselves up with hush Guffey hush Guffey is one of the most dangerous things that you could ever have and you got to really watch out for a scuffle Yashica folk and destroy lives and I'll give you a few examples just to begin with what I mean by that oh by the way I'm not talking about like Torah hush gopher that's not what I'm referring I mean that could also destroy a life but meaning if you got the wrong of scuffle for your neshama you're in big trouble that's not what I'm referring to here in the Shama you know like let's say you have a ladies queue find out like you find out better place for your seats besides the entry you bring your seats in it you really we haven't even really started yet you're you're like trying not to bother anybody right so a messed up tourist couple would be like what do you do what are you do when you have a really strong hush cuff up like let's say a strong Hasidic house cover a strong little scuffle or whatever like that and what's just come a world view but a custom like you're you're a tradition that comes with a lot of worldview like like if you strip judaism world your view what do you get you get you get Torah mitzvahs holla holidays you know if you strip it of a scuffle but if you add all their stuff fun then you have the whole tradition everything that comes with you know and logic ofit is just seeing things in a way that's unique to that that tradition so example hassidim embelish cava which is a lot mellower than the lead fish show stuff oh yeah and that's it eh guffaws a little more chill then that with fish hush cover then you got like some custody couch cover that's very intense like very go for a very strict acidic hush cava and anyways so that can be great for you but the problem is what do you do if you have eight kids and one of your kids is just the opposite of that hush goof up just by Nature for example I know al it fish family and nourish a lion they have seven kids and one of their they're very very very Israeli lit fish I don't know if you know what that is but I'm still trying to figure out myself so they're Israeli lit fish it's extremely strict it makes custom look like going okay now the no but they have one son who's clearly a closet which means he's just getting he's just a round peg in a square hole he's getting squeezed all the time so I always tell them when I'm visiting the family when I go over to the house I would say this one's mine this one's mine ever since a little kid this one's mine meaning I could I could take good care of a kid like this now I begin my family who's who's in this you know very Kabbalistic acidic family that's you know our family's like super hybrid style and but I have a kid who's super like in the Box like very strict definitions of reality and he would do much better than that family so I don't think we're gonna kid swap between the two families but I certainly like I'm very loose with that kid loose about him being tight if he needs to be if he needs everything real tight you should have that and I'm not gonna like mess him up and try to make him loose where he's tight and and let him be who he is and that's what we learn about in general that's what we learn about about education is you always educate according to the child now according to you but how many people do that most people ahead you get according the parents try to create their child in their own image remember we're creating the image of God yeah well our parents try to create us in their image and which may work for some kids I mean after all they're from your genetic pool but just because they're from your genetic pool has nothing to with your tradition because you could have a tradition that just has to do other european town your ones living it and so now you guys it wasn't really you it's not really your wife and now you're raising kids in that tradition and what if it's not one of the kids so you're gonna push him until he's dropping things in anyway these types of things these hush stuff ik or min ha traditions are not Torah mitzvot so they are a bit of the bath water compared to the baby because the baby is the mitzvos the hellos and the bath water is these customs and these ways of looking at things but what happens is the the kid feels pushed out of shape enough he'll throw the baby out with the bathwater and so next thing you know the kids not doing the mitzvahs nor the customs and so it's also important when you raise children to make sure the customs are distinguished from the actual mitzvahs so that you're not blurring the difference between the actual you know the the real stuff versus the versus the stuff that's that's you know it's traditions from a particular town and we certainly want to honor tradition I'm really an honoring tradition I'm like big-time you know like for example I suggest you don't eat the ends of challah cut off the ends of the Holland don't eat them if your father didn't even though it doesn't really mean anything in it and it's it's not really necessarily true that it causes forgetfulness or anything like that but or anything else people probably made up that it means but I personally think that someone who found out that it was above my sir but my said to to confianza challah I believe that if their father did they should and only in that who are we to switch things around so if it's if it's no difference to you keep what your parents did if it is a difference and it's pushing you out of shape so you need to have a deep conversation with your parents that it makes you want to drop everything and I don't want to drop everything because I want to be live a life that's true and meaningful and aligned with reality I don't want to break with reality I just want to get healthy I want to feel that I've got some oxygen around me that my wings can flap I just need to flap my wings a bit and but I don't want to drop reality yeah definitely don't want bad so that's Jewish hush kava that's Torah hush kava to answer your question and he and the that was Taurus government but what kind of stuff is do we develop what kind of scuffles do we develop so what you'll notice is this listen carefully wherever you have dysfunction is an amazing tool this will change your life forever wherever you have dysfunction you will create a hush cuff around it you'll build your worldview around the dysfunction again wherever you have dysfunction human beings will build a worldview which is the word if you're if you're a Hebrew Shai the word is hush kapha that means worldview you'll build a hush kapha a worldview around your dysfunction that's why people who are ill for example meaning people are constantly ill will have they'll eventually build a hush kapha around their their being ill a lot and people who are often out of money they have a whole very complex post kuffar around poverty and though they'll turn it into something good and people who are and people who are very wealthy will have a big hush cuff around money and about around wealth people are accident-prone we'll build a hush cover around that people who are having issues with connection because think about it you have flow and you have limit everything's flowing limit I mean there's nothing that hasn't flown limit this electricity is flowing into my phone sorry to shake the camera but it's flowing into my phone but it's being limited at at I mean from the wall it's at 220 I doubt it's hitting my phone into 20 of my phone would be smoking right now but um it's got some kind of transformer down there that sending it does anyone know how much energy hits a hits a phone down these cables five volts okay tint my phone at five volts and and you understand it's flowing but it's limited okay the waters flowing limited by the cup everything's just flowing them and that's all there isn't creation the flow is the masculine the in the limit is the feminine every single thing is masculine or feminine or flow and limitation like this dude over here's got a longboard a skateboard longboarding he likes flowing down the street with that but boy is he careful limitations because there ain't no brakes on that thing you got brakes on that oh yeah I mean you if you can if it's kind of a longboard if you're not stopping short if someone sticks their foot out because they're jaywalking while you're ripping down the streets not really sure I'm not that sure this is keyboard you're talking to a skateboarder but this skateboarder broke his wrist last year raising outshoot with some idiot just like I'm just jamming down the street and some idiot just Jay walks right into my skateboard like literally like like I'm just flying down this hill on this guy this guy this I don't know what he was thinking he just went like right into me and and I was already passing him like but his foot perfectly got under my skin I took him down by the way I imagine not purposely meaning he went down to and but I managed to manage to be in a cast about an hour later so by the way that's the last time I skated I sided at my age I'm done with skating which is really sad it was a brand-new gorgeous board given by the owner of it's a beautiful word it was given to me by the owner who was one of my graduated high school with me I met him at my 30 year high school graduation which was really really fun going to my third year dressed like this you know in California I show up like this people are like who the hell are you and then I'm like tell them my name is like I'd probably sell it my wife would be really happy with those little ankle breakers would get out of our house things are flying around my house all the time yeah you got to see this it's a beauty anyway yeah it was interesting going to my high school graduation especially explaining to all the the surfer chicks from 30 years ago that they can't touch me I mean that just drew a little attention you know like like how about a lot of attention the entire night you know they would they would all like walk over they bring other girls over and like you can't touch him and I just feel like it's true you can't and they'd be like yes I can you know they're a little drunk you know and they're like showing that they can touch me so I'm like I'm leaving and they're like we won't touch you yeah I'll just leave yeah so anyway but it was a lot of fun when the longer nights of my life and and I think we saw the Sun Rise cuz you know there was the after party and we all just get partying the whole time I was a little surprised how hardcore people party men whoa these people you know and their forties in there you know they were pulling out stuff that I thought only teenagers pull out at parties and and the and then of course of course as soon as like the Sun rose while everyone went to sleep for the rest of the day me and my thirty years ago best friend jumped on mountain bikes and did a hardcore like three hour ride in the malibu mountains it's amazing like we are never gonna stop never till death do us part from our from our sports yeah anyway we build we build hush guffaws around our dysfunction that's what we do let me just give you an example from lab rats okay you'll see lab rats are smarter than we are okay you put a lab rat inside of inside a box and you have four long tunnels tunnels you know one two three four and you put a piece of cheese on the far right tunnel which is number four now you put the lab rats inside the tunnels and no one rat rat he's gonna go up one that's the closest one doesn't find the cheese the second one doesn't find the cheese third one doesn't find the cheese fourth one bingo finds the cheese put him back in which which tell me is he going for fourth tunnel goes in the fourth ton of there's cheese gets it again put him in Italia where is he going for time there he gets it again gets a V and gets it even gets game and then finally remove the cheese from the fourth you put in the first you put them in the in the inside of the box which ones he going for number four it's got good memory this threat goes up number four and they're up number four eight finds no cheese so he comes in and out a few more times realizes it's a futile so he goes up number three no cheese number two no cheese number one bingo gets the cheese and now you put them in again where is it going what that's the way rats work human beings they go up number one number two number three and number four find the cheese number four find the cheese find the cheese find the cheese find the cheese you move that cheese number one you note the rats do you know I mean sir you know what people do they're like rats but the rats are smarter you know what people do they pitch a tent in front of where the cheese once was for the next 50 years telling stories about how the cheese was once there but you all know it's true and you know you're telling all kinds of stories and this is your this is your special Bluff to never grow meaning this is your Bluff to stay either poor sick hurt lonely sad or whatever it is you create a stuff around it now you're stuck because you got a worldview in human beings and world here's that don't part very easily human beings in a worldview whoa I mean I don't know how you remove that you need a crowbar to remove a person from his worldview so what you realize is you've been you've been bluffing about all kinds of stuff that have you exactly what you really don't want to be but you've created a whole worldview around it to perpetuate it now why you do that as a whole different class which I'm happy to do for you all it's kind of a little part of my seminar work which is called the misery comfort zone but you all have a misery comfort zone and weak kitchen I'd be miserable so we have to create a worldview around it now why we have a world why we have a misery comfort zone that's a whole class in itself and how you get out of your misery comfort zone but for us what we're discussing is how we have built who have we we've basically pitched a tent around the world as we know it and we're and we're busy repeat the story to ourself it's gonna become something that will even potentially pass on to our children and you probably got a lot of your parents stories your parents the little stories they tell all around they the way things just are you probably are telling the similar stories of your parents and then there's of course rage and if you rebelled against the stories of your parents anyone here said that's not my story like no way yeah well those who rebelled against your parents stories I've got scary news for you that you're you're an extremely complex person now because the truth is you believe there's original story and so your meaning until you break through that original story with the proper steps and the proper work that's necessary that some of you may know now in your life but if you until you break through you have to break through their story because the truth is you believe their story enough to rebel against it so if you her belt against and put all that energy into the rebellion if you put all that energy into the rebellion you must have believed it it's actually true and so so now you got like you got a lot of unpacking to do you got a lot of unpacking to unpack that a trunk with of all the stories and some of these stories go down the line for years give an example in relationships and relationships there is what's required in relationships is a proper balance between flow and structure do you recall me a few minutes ago speaking about flow in structure okay the same thing I mean this cup is the structure that holds the flow yeah Mexicans the flow the hose isn't my cups making sounds when I swish around that's really weird nothing in there yeah the feminine is structure and the masculine is flow I don't want to get too graphic here but uh but that's the way it works okay and but it's absolutely everywhere I mean literally the windows these windows were molten glass and then we're put in a structure and and then it became a glass pane and and the frame of the windows the structure that holds the windows so so that that glass frame the pain it is now is is kind of a structure but it's really a flow when it comes to the hint the miss Garrett how do you say that the frame but it's also a window on a hinge and the hinge is clearly got got you know it's a structure it's surrounding the pin and the pin is the masculine and that and the hinge itself is that is the feminine is the structure that holds it in but literally every single thing is like that even the fabric that's woven on your that's keeping your body warm right now and the buttons on my shirt and the plug on my phone and the it's just there's no wear you'll ever look in your entire life that's not either flower structure or both going on at the same time and that's a masculine feminine that's an that's happening inside all things not there's no such thing as a gender free object no it's really interesting about English thank God is there's no gender for the words you know we we state safe gender for like pronouns he she you know things like they which they're getting rid of now these days anyway but the Hebrew has gender for everything there's gender in everything everything vegetables the earth is the feminine and the fruit is the masculine okay so okay okay here we go now everything's flowing structure now what happens when one flow ones flow gets when one's flow gets damaged meaning emotionally you get you let yourself your heart go to someone like your father but your turns out later your father can't handle that and he was like you only realized later that you were getting dissed always meaning he just can't handle intimacy and so you were constantly getting dissed by your father you never knew that and so here your heart was getting broken a million times a day and you never knew it never understood or you know or you trusted a teacher and a teacher betrays you you know that's that's exactly like I'm flow and I'm trusting this teacher and and it turns out that teacher just spoke down on my back to my parents and said things about me that I never knew he believed and now my hearts broken again if you're flowe meaning love love is flow love is flow and that's structure and that's limit and love is flow and and that's limit what we always need that you always need both because you know there are appropriate there's an appropriate amount of flow in every relationship and your poem in a structure like I would shake your hand but I'm not going to shake any of the girls hands cuz it's gonna be appropriate amount of flow but I would probably bowed towards the girl maybe you know nice to meet you because it would be an appropriate to just say maybe nice to meet you so I'd probably use some body language a little bit and so you're always in a balance of flow in structuring you want to get those things right but if your flow gets hurt from broken heartedness so what happens you stop flowing now there's several people in this room right now who don't flow properly there's several people in this room who Flo's been damaged and so and I know who you are already but don't feel self-conscious the the it's not use all of you so there's several people in the room who have had flow damage flow damage and that's a real problem cuz all of us want to be married and we want to raise children and we're gonna have to get our flow back cuz you never limit your flow from your spouse that's not that's not an option you can limit flow from a kid you know kid just did something wrong you want to limit the flow so that they get a sense of you know that you're upset and then of course you want to turn the flow back on because you don't want to damage them you just want to teach them a lesson you know how to behave properly and and but a wife a husband I mean wives punish husbands a lot but husband's never punish wives we did a lot of double standards of marriage I was just I was just with a couple where we're at a meal and and the we're with a couple and she was reminiscing about her gym days you know when she was a teenager she was in gym a lot and she's like oh sure yeah I was in gym all the time I went to gym everyday yeah my gym guys my gym guys no I just imagine her husband at the same Chaves that was saying my gym girls she wouldn't talk to him for three weeks my gym girls what was the gym girls line you know but she and her gym guys you know like that was a nerve rub fair game and is then there's a lot of double standards there but the so withholding flow from a spouse is is is not kosher it's not kosher you gotta withhold flow in lots of different relationships you know professional relationships big with all the floor you gotta have professional distance so you got a big withhold of flow your teacher withhold flow you know at least people with opposite gender people the same gender you can be fine unless of course you're one of those weirdo teachers and used to withhold flow even with the same gender people but the may they all lose their jobs sorry did I just bless them to lose their jobs anyway I just heard too many weird stories over the years the anyway but it gets damaged once it gets damaged and you can't have a proper intimate relationship by the way every relationship you have is intimate how how can you have every relationship intimate the answer is if you have it tuned that the flow and the structure are perfect that's the intimacy of that relationship that's called an intimate relationship understand this there's something called physical intimacy physical into me is the outer expression of interconnection that's only to be had with people who it's appropriate to be doing that with so like a hug might be important with the best friend or kiss for one's parents or or and obviously you know more intense intimacy in marriage but but the but it's all called intimacy you want to be someone who's intimate you want to be an intimate person and the way you do that is you have to heal where flow got hurt and let the flow come because what happens when someone's flow gets hurt they don't mess with the flow part what they do is they go to the limit part and bump up they pump up the volume of the limit you understand that's what's going on they're just pumping up lots of limit so you'll notice it in their eye contact you'll notice that they'll shift their head around when you're trying to talk to them you'll notice it with with no all I'm done that is people who flowed and got hurt will up their limit big time so up their limit big time so there's a lot less flow but you'll notice that you don't like no offense to people like that but you'll notice that you don't like them very much those are the people you don't like very much and the crazy thing is those people are desperate to be like hey what I'm gonna be connected relationships it's just that they unconsciously don't realize that that that flow got damaged they bumped up their limits and totally inappropriate levels so they don't even know what's appropriate anymore they've meaning they've lost their there's sensitivity they've lost sophistication of relationship they're not sophisticated anymore because and that's the way life is like anytime you're anytime you don't have your limits right you lose sophistication real quick so you don't even you lose your intuition what's appropriate even and by the way some of those people will will often fall hard into into weird expressions of intimacy as a counterfeit for true intimacy which should be had with all people and totally appropriate measure meaning flow in them but some of those people will do like really stupid stuff especially under the influence of alcohol and and like blow off all their limits and then get themselves hurt again because they that's part of the misery comfort zone which we're not doing today but part of their misery comfort zone would be to take to break their limits kind of in a sabot self sabotaging way and then of course put them back up again and then get all lonely again and and mixed up and not intimate and not very appreciated to be around the other way is that limit gets messed up limit can get messed up through abuse abuse is probably one of the best examples of that that's why people have been abused once will often will be abuse many times over because they just they just they're they don't know where the brakes are and so they for various reasons they they wind up in trouble over and over again but you'll meet those people and when you're a normal healthy individual speaking to someone like that it's just bizarre they can't not put on the brakes because their brakes were broken when they were young and their brakes broken by by you know someone evil who you know took advantage of a vulnerable person and now they're there their limits messed up they don't have proper limits at all so so now what got damaged for them was the limit side meaning we'd spoke first about the flow person getting damaged and then they pop and pump up their limits to an inappropriate way to the point where they're not really welcome at you know at your kiddush because they just bum everybody out and the they're just disconnected people and then you got other people whose their their their limits were broken and then that person's just you know you know just a disaster you know because they they don't know where any breaks are and they don't trust themselves at all they've lost all sophistication of yes and no when yes when not and they're and they're just messed up that way but but that's really not with this constant map that was just the exam I know all of you were like kind of tripping out on my lap in my last five minutes of class just because I was giving an example but what happens is if this stuff happens to somebody which happens to everybody the so then you build a hush cuff around it and then it gets locked in for most people a lifetime they'll live their whole lives this way and how many of us raise your hands if you have parents uncles aunts grandparents or whatever who have a certain way about them and they're just that way and there's nothing you're never gonna be doing anything about it keep your hands up if you know people in your life who probably should be normal would have hugged but can't they just don't go there they don't hug ya and there's people like that and they're I promise you there's a whole worldview backing that up they got a whole worldview around that Europeans are a good example of people who who survived the war World War two are good example of people who are their limits are put way way way way way up and they're often not going to hug anybody in fact I just recently had a participant in a seminar in America I was running a seminar and we were doing a little hug therapy there for the group you know just working on like getting back the intimacy and like being able to hug so I said we were doing hugg work and after the HUD work one of the one of the people came up to me afterward it's very European guy he never took off his hat or coat the entire time we're together which is like I was looking at maybe it got glued on at his Bar Mitzvah but this man was you know in his 40s and and anyway I asked him afterwards he came up to me afterwards a little giddy after the hug therapy and he was a little giddy and he's like just I can't believe you got me a hug in these people he says I've never hugged my own children he's never hugged his own children yeah post-war man it was flow got damaged people put the people put the limit very I inappropriately high now do you think they built a worldview around that you bet they built it well yeah sure big time and so and so your job based on what the work we've done today is to look at yourself where have you painted a picture around your craziness meaning your dysfunction meaning we're all dysfunctional in certain ways so you won't look at yourselves in weird where are you painting pictures around where do you paint the pictures around your dysfunction you know the classic the classic muscle is the famous story about the archer who always hits a bull's-eye every single time well I think you all heard that one the archer he always gets a bull's-eye everything right in the center like that right dead center of the bullseye even from great distances like 50 meters away you know like arching hit straight into the bull's eye every time so that King wanted to find him and so they he sent his men throughout the forest the King they find him they bring him to the king and the king says how did you do it I want you to train my people I'm here the best Archer ever what's your secret and he says well I simply take back the arrow I fire the arrow at the tree and then I take my paintbrush and I paint a target around it so this is very much about human nature is is us painting up painting a picture around what doesn't work in our lives we can't help but do it we're philosophical by nature human beings are philosophical by nature and we paint pictures around our dysfunction so a big key to getting to your to getting to truth and getting to your own health and your own honesty and you're not the best word Buffett is that you like to be authentic as a person is loosen your grip on your stories that you have in place loosen the grip on the picture you painted around things that don't work for you you want to loosen your grip on that and and get real there's another example is you have the liberal left today now you know the Millennial liberal left on campus I don't know if anybody noticed the liberal left on gamma is it yeah they're pretty intense and they're but the main thing their main job is to get rid of distinction get rid of structure get rid of get rid of the old archetypes and get rid of all hierarchy you know just get rid of structure to the point where even genders not gender is not binary gender is just fluid yeah gender fluid I just I just read that print someone and his wife are raising their child gender fluid I have no idea what he's the prince of but apparently that a baby and the baby will be raced gender fluid okay which is like what is that I think I think the last numbers I heard in like real science is that 1% of people are the people who really that you know I mean it's obviously doubled in the last 10 years so now it's gotten to 1% of the human population would be someone struggling with Trent like gender issues of you know beyond their Anatomy you know like just one's regular Anatomy would be their gender and but meanwhile this is getting pushed throughout the entire education system like like there's there is you know they're just stripping the world of distinction that's what they want to do why do they want to do that why do they want to do that they want to do that for various reasons but some of them are very nice reasons and that is that we should all love each other should all get along and if we get rid of all differences and we have nothing to fight about anymore we're gonna get rid of grades and we're gonna get rid of competition and we're gonna get rid of bullies and we're gonna get rid of masculinity and we're gonna get we're just gonna we're just gonna rid the world of all this done I mean eventually they'll be doing it with guns cuz that's just awaiting world I understand but they're not just solely using force at this point you just gotta be careful if it ever hits law which is why in Canada everyone crazy and Jordan Peterson went crazy in the in England in Surrey in Canada because they actually made general neutral pronouns the law like you can lose your job for refusing to call some some bearded guy named Horace you know Samantha you know and so the anyway the no but once you have something law that means I could use force once it get to use force we're in trouble cuz that means these kind of like these kind of loving ideas get unloving really quick and people are danger no one remember no one's ever more in danger of those movements than observant Jews secular Jews okay they'll still be a little anti-semitic but obscure bands are the enemy and there are the enemy because we stand for like the old right you know I didn't didn't mean right right wing's meaning the old right of like what's right what's wrong you know like like lines in the sand man there's distinctions of things like what a what is Torah Torah is just explaining all the distinctions of the world and what they do is they also want to get rid of God in this whole thing because God obviously creates guilt and guilt means you know you know once you have God now you got Bible once you got Bible and they got issues with homosexuality and other things like and it's just like you they just want to break all of this stuff down institutionally like literally from top down they want to destroy it and obviously the biggest enemy is anyone who's who's you know dedicated to keeping that a lot of people on the fence you know a lot of people are very wishy-washy out there but but if you're like fully observant and committed to that you are the enemy and and you better watch out and move to Israel quickly it is real quickly where where Israel still you know at least we still have like I mean we may have a lot of secular Jews but least they're Sephardic men are men the women are women have been never changing that man you know these they're Sephardic so one sec and the anyways so so that's what they're out to do but what is all the pseudo science behind it and what is the getting rid of God about like why you got to do that like what did God do to deserve that and what is all this stuff and the answer is it's Hasek off they got a paint a picture around the dysfunction because if you're gonna if you're meaning I we're speaking in this class so far better us as individuals but what I'm trying to do is give you an example of how how people do this in a in a much larger macro societal state where where they're they're creating a narrative now this is called a narrative and a narrative is just painting a picture a world view around dysfunction the world has has distinctions I mean we already disturb lished that every single thing is either flora Strega is it time what time is it thank you very much closing remarks we already established that why you already got a crowd okay anyway the so in a societal level people are painting those pictures they're creating those narratives now you may say well what about the torah' narrative how do you know the tor narratives truth check it out that you got to check out I suggest you check out every narrative and see if it's one worth having now there are there are people in the world who know how to exceed questions about the torah' narrative and and most of them seem to work in Asia tour so you're you're kind of in the right place geographically I rarely discussed the Jewish narrative when it comes to you know how to handle that I'm trained in it cuz I've been at this place for 27 years but but a lot of rappers including rabbinic mi are very very good at at dealing with is this just some story we put around our need for God you understand like maybe we just made a narrative and it's so much tougher we built around our dysfunction of feeling isolated and vulnerable and so we need a God you know which is how religions are formed if you think about it but as Judaism from that is at our origin is origin from people making things up because they were feeling vulnerable so anyway this is the kind of place where you can test the narrative Asia tour is a place where you can test that narrative and there's plenty of things online you know did check out Asia and know but you should know that anyone wants to destroy the terror to online there's two things going on your so you should know one is they're either using Gentile Gentile what's the word I'm looking for the theology either they're busting up Gentile theologies which is like you don't have to be a genius for that you know Mike my ten-year-old can can destroy that stuff use my antennae rolled but certainly anyone's 15 year old could and the so they're either destroying Gentile theology or here's the other one you ready for this if you get to the bottom of those atheist websites that actually do a tech tour more than the Gentile theology the you'll notice that it's that it's it's people who raised observant we're very very smart some have written many Safari C freakoid dish and then things went south for them and the only way they could possibly live with themselves as is they have to somehow create some pseudo you know atheist website to rip other people out but they they hold no water our rabbis rabbinic Meyers included have who you're about to hear rabbis elderman they they've gone in with a fine-tooth comb and those web sites it's a joke and you know it's a joke when it's being run by someone who is a tuna bagel yeah guy was raised in the Hasidic world or the mid fish world gone gone you know a wall and and now it's like can't live with himself so he has to make atheist websites to do to deal with it but they again they they also don't have water but at least they're compelling because they're dealing with our theology as opposed to gentle theology which is like it's not even it's apples and oranges why would anyone why would anyone do have an issue with God based on someone uprooting Gentile theology so this next class with rabbi Nick O'Mara is going to be across the hall here in the bigger classroom and shallow everybody enjoy