Pesach 1 (5778)

Shalom everybody goodes uh welcome to to our Essentials program and today we are moving into uh the countdown uh today the second day of the month of Nissan and we have about I don't know 12 days left I have someone for all you ladies to date by the way what there's someone who came in a town who's datable I'm sorry interupt the class but I'll be really okay so he's in town he's not going to be in town long but so a good catch how get just alert all the ladies and we'll uh we'll let you date them one at a time really serious no he's he's he's serious but it's got to be the right lady he's got to be the right it's got to be right thank you wait your bubb's there okay it's hard to get the these ladies married like keep it in mind the the over 30 crowd to help them get married so so the the energy of the times we're in I'd like to illustrate that energy let me see if I got a good pin around here and that might work uh we're going from a we're going from a minus 50 to A+ 50 and right here is the middle let's say and the minus 50 the Jews were on the 39th uh 49th level of impurity meaning they were almost like in total minus if they had hit 50 the deal would have been off with Abraham Isaac and Jacob of the promis land for the Jews I mean that was a deal contingent upon us still remaining to be Jews U but unfortunately we felt uh F we fell hard in Egypt and and it's understandable why we'd fall so hard pre Torah we're living in a society that's filled with all kinds of really intense sorcery and and they had their own technologies that were there and and what are you going to do you're you're the grandchildren or great grandchildren or great great grandchildren of of a prophet named Yakov who has passed away a couple Generations ago we were we were enslaved for 210 years so the memory of being the the great great great grandchild children of a prophet versus the intense Society they were living in which was really intense meaning it made what we're dealing with today with internet and and laptops and smartphones and and Teslas and all the stuff that draws kids who who have grandparents who are observant or even parents who are observant it still has as you know a tremendous lure but the Society of Egypt was way more intoxicating than our society our societ it's definitely intoxicating but it was more intoxicating cuz once you're dealing with sorcery and stuff like that black magic and all the ooly googly uh stuff from the dark side where Egypt was like you know really known for this so maybe grab a seat up you want to come sit up here so she can have a good place to push the come yeah let let him move up so there's seats up in there yeah sit next to anyway the it it's it's got its own draw and and it's also it's a better draw than the shallow draw of today's modern society I mean think about it if you get sucked into YouTube is that deep or shallow shallow depends what you're watching shallow even what you're watching it's a bit shallow because it's it can basically only be informational so I can't informational is a hell of a lot deeper than watching animals attack each other which a lot of people get sucked into on YouTube my lectures maybe are a little deeper but but still when you're watching it online no offense to everyone watching it online I mean one in 30 or 40 watching it online are going to take it to where I'm where we're taking it watching it on the computer yeah New York or something so anyway it's shallow and obviously the content could get deeper you know there are levels of depth but generally it's shallow whereas whereas when you're in a country that's filled with like steeped in witchcraft in every kind of sorcery and and it's like palpable and there there's there's magicians who can do stuff but everywhere and and that's just the way they lived back then with Technologies of all sorts you know I mean some say it's conspiracy theory but but many say that those pyramids and various things they've discovered in Egypt proves technologies that uh some believe are Beyond ours today and the anyway but whether or not that's true because it was going to the deeper core meaning the pull was to your the pull was to your core places what are what's our core place our core place is to feel connected that's what we all want our court all you've ever wanted was connection and think about it everything you do is just to have connection we all dream of connection like all we want is connection a lot of us believe that connection will come through various things that it won't come from um some of us know certain things that it will come from like marriage having babies or you know like ultimately why do you want a baby is because you want the connection you want the connection and and uh and us men want to be married because we want the connection and then there's the counterfeit of connection is is attention so why do we wear this why do we spend time with you know all kinds of uh you know we we put a lot of energy into attention which is just counterfeit connection but the real thing we want is connection and when you're dealing with a country that's steeped in in sorcery so connectiveness is what you get you get connected this now you got the connection of the Black Magic World of Egypt versus the fact that you're the great great great great grandson of a prophet so being the great great great grandson of a prophet or granddaughter of a prophet is a little Dusty compared now because prophecy is you know a billion times higher than black magic um and women are more natural for connection so they were able to stay current with Jacob like Jacob never died for the Jewish women of Egypt Jacob stayed alive for the Jewish women of Egypt whereas the men fell out of the the the Jacob thing like they they they lost their Jacob connection women stayed true to it in fact it's only it was only based on them the men the reason we got down to 49 levels of impurity was because the men had B basically dropped off into the SEC into the um Egyptian culture it's just because the women held out we were like right there in the balance from falling all the way falling all the way in and uh but the women refused to uh to succumb to the culture of Egypt and even though the men had lost it the women held on and therefore we got redeemed we didn't hit the 50th level the promised Abraham and Jak Isaac and Jacob stayed and you know remained established and through that we got out but like at the last moment if we did hit the 50th level then would God have been forced to not redeem us and then therefore the promise would never have been fulfilled we hit the 50th level yeah then he would have but then but then but then what about the promise he made to the promise was only if you're still Israel the promise was to B Israel yeah but we were still benel regardless of May and genetically we were banel but there's a point of of acting not basal enough that you're no longer part of B nice yeah is that why a women have more of a tend have a stronger tendency towards witchcraft than men do the connection aspect yeah yeah probably probably and but it's also um it's it's not just the the connection desire or ability it's more of the intuition you need a lot of intuition for this meaning for you to become a warlock or for her to become a witch the she's going to have a lot easier time becoming a witch and you are going to have a lot rougher time becoming a warlock because because there's a lot of intuitive stuff you're think about it what you're doing involved in that is you're channeling down energy well you got to be a a receiver you got to be a good receiver for that energy and so uh women in general are are greater receivers men are greater asserter and women are greater receivers and so women are more naturally go so I don't know if it's so much their desire to connect as as much as the issue or maybe we could say the a the being receiver by Nature makes you more wanting to connect maybe I think men want to connect as much you know I've noticed over years and years of of working with men and women that the difference between men and women is uh is that women admit that connection is what they really want men are you know would rather drive a Harley and make a lot of noise driving down the street and pretend they don't really need connection and attention will be just fine for them but once you know attention is a counterfeit of connection then you really realize that women and men are the same with connection it's just that U men don't want to admit it it's not manly to want to connect got but I will warn men that that uh don't come to your wife and say I just want to be held it it makes her feel insecure so don't don't go there with if you need to be held go to a good friend how's it going it going welcome welcome long time he come sit come sit grab some real seats I feel like woman are you do are you guys together you're a table for two right right to please your weight will be right with you where you been where New York New York where are you guys from Long Island where from Long Island s I just met a guy exactly your age wearing a plaed shirt like yours right right your age just as I was walking in in class how old I don't know whatever your ages I I can guess your age a lot better than most people because I look a lot younger than I am and you have you noticed how you suddenly know the ages of people your age you know more within a few years it's weird right cuz you guys look at someone his age and you're like you could probably guess within 20 years but we can guess each other's age within two or three years how many guess yours 36 62 you know his age SE chill out maybe I said 62 I'm saying 60 62 52 he's messing Oh no you're not 68 you're 68 wow what you drink what you have no wonder he wears a lumberjack shirt he's like climbing up those stairs powerful so how old am I you yeah 40 60 yeah 45 40 45 no 49 46 you got it what is it 49 yeah by the way my birthday's coming up Ezra you have to come to my birthday when's your birthday I didn't do that last my 50th birthday my birth I was going to make you a cake you're n you're your do I'm you oh nice last year your wife said I can make you a cake I never did that isra I don't think she needs you to make a cake okay okay listen you probably don't like cake anyway anyway so I was saying that if men ever need to like get that extra support it's better you do that with a friend and uh you're there to support your wife not not she can support you but not when you're really feeling like you just got to cry in somebody's arms anybody find someone else for that or pay a 100 bucks or something cry in a therapist's arms or but crying in your wife's arms just makes her feel completely nervous and wow who's if the captain's crying where's the ship going you know so uh by the way crying uh from emotion with your wife like like getting emotional with your wife that's beautiful that's great that doesn't make her feel lost at all she realizes she's got a real man on her hands with what sorts of emo the real person she's married to I'm talking about when you when you the little boy in you just needs to be held when the little boy in you needs to be held which is fine there's nothing wrong with it just do that with anyone but your wife what say what if she's not ready for you to cry at all yeah every woman's ready for to cry yeah okay well like at funerals and stuff on young people any deep feelings creates cry whether they're sad or happy any deep feeling and women are appreciate that their husbands have a working emotional system yeah just talk about little boy little boy stuff now we had gone down to the depths comes along the Redemption and you know we got the 10 plagues God wants to like make his name big that was the whole purpose of creation was that people should recognize God God was like very low literally on the totem pole so to speak God was low on the totem pole you're not supposed to have totem poles meaning and there was God at the bottom of the totem pole that you're not allowed to have and because of idolatry and so God came out low on the totem pole and he God just wanted to make it to the top of the totem pole and that's why God created the world what's the point of creation if not that we should recognize there's a God and God was completely unrecognized and instead of just Redeeming the Jews which would have been a lot easier on everybody God decided to go for a total Showdown and and there was this 10 plague Showdown which must have been I mean I would pay anything to watch yeah that must have been cool cuz the Jews were hanging out in this nice town called Goan a little bit outside you know downtown Egypt and and they got they were they were like a Goan it was like if whenever I hear the word Goan I always think of a Palm Desert you know in the in the Palm Springs over there like the Jews were all they were like at their Goan Country Club and there cuz you know that the second the seat turned to blood the second the Nile turned to blood the Jews were out of slavery slavery ended that really you know that yeah no more slavery we were done oh not second first plague hits soever they chilling slavery over what so why were they chilling in Egypt at that point it was just watching the show every every every plague lasted a month they got to a month what it's like a plague Festival yeah they weren't necessarily allowed to leave but they were not working anymore they were they were just chilling and watching the show on the big screen there wasn't even any Tor to learn yeah they couldn't learn tour so they just watched the plays were learning tour May anyway the bottom line is is that is that God decided that it's time to do a Big Show and some Jews took another uh almost year to leave with the 10 plagues CU it was a month of plague and uh they only got to leave 10 months later and so 10 months of watching the the whole thing and then finally the big night now the big night was was super spectacular and it was an experience the leaving of Egypt was an experience of going all the way up to plus 50 so they were down at- 49 almost at -50 and they got to fly up to plus 50 at the Seder night so it was like a major spiritual freebie why would they Z to to get to 50 it was a freebie I said it was a freebie they weren't well they J they went into the young they were we're using a little Hebrews sorry but they were not they did not Merit it it was a freebie and they got to experience the 50th level didn't they Merit they went into the yamu before it split what about the yamu that one guy went in before that's later that's seven days later we're not there we're not there right we're on just leaving yeah they leaving was what G give them what it's what give them the Merit that they left yeah why would they hang around because a lot of people want in needy yeah 80% 80% oh meaning those people you mean oh yeah they did have the Merit of not being part of that game yeah I guess so may yeah no mosha was by far the world's worst tour guide so four fths are like what right I mean think about Moses like you're asking you know you imagine you're like you're emailing your tour guide you know the travel agent and you're like so how long are we going for because uh apparently you keep saying to Pharaoh 3 days which is like why does he keep saying that to Pharaoh but they're not going for three days you ever noticed that you ever thought about that why does he keep saying to Pharaoh they're going for three days like you're Moses you're supposed to say the truth right Moses lies it was only supposed to be no it wasn't supposed to be be 40 years no no they were going to Israel forever forget 40 years it wasn't 3 days or 40 years forever we're not coming back so we're leaving Egypt there's a commandment never even to come back to Egypt it's one of the 613 you never allowed to go back to what's the answer why did he lie know why he lied going for feast to sacrifice our land it's not really lying question why why did he lie never been out it's being diploma you all a Al for diplomacy oh yeah no he's just anyway the answer is is that Judaism is not Christianity and and you're allowed to lie for the right things you're allowed to lie one of the examples our sages tell us is if you're if you're uh um I mean it was put to me like a train even though there weren't trains back then but the sages say that if you were on a you know in that case it would have been a caravan of Travelers so but let's just call it like a train if you're on a train and someone says Uh there's banded on the train and he says to so what stop are you getting on so you want to tell him an earlier stop or a much later stop yeah you want to tell them a much later stop and then get off the second the train stops make the guy think you're on the train for a long period of time so he relaxes and then you get off as soon as you can and and that's just the way Judaism works is that we we do we say what we need to say to have the ultimate you know goodness happen in the world now it's a slippery slope so you got to be careful you know if you if you think you could just lie for like the ultimate good you can get yourself in so much trouble so watch watch out for uh watch out for that you you got to be careful with what you can be um lying about and uh that's what we rabbis for so if you have like a lie coming up that you got to do in some situation call your Rabbi and ask him it's okay the rabbis are very restrict with telling the truth so they will they will be uh they're they're going to be super conservative with their answer but it may be that you're allowed to Li in different situations what's that the rabbi can lie to you the rabbi yeah the rabbi himself is not allowed to lie unless he's a loser Rabbi so if you got a loser Rabbi you may you may lie and there you know there's plenty of stories of loser rabbis we're having an epidemic of rabbis today you know I mean part of the whole her movement was 200 years ago was we're no more dealing with the enlightenment you know where they come and kind of bring all their ideas to a town of ignoramuses they we're going to make everyone a rabbi no more working at 12 13 years old you're going to go to Yeshiva and they created Yeshiva so that when the enlightenment would come mowing through these towns they would wind up having to deal with a bunch of learned Jews and that got a lot harder for the enlightenment to deal with was Jews who actually know something it was easy for the enlightenment to mow through those Jewish towns when the Jews didn't know what they were doing but the movement of yeshivas was to create a high level scholarship amongst the whole entire nation so that the enlightenment wouldn't have as big a shot at us and you see its work today we have more people are learning full-time in torist since Mount Si there has never been this many people in full-time learning it's in our entire history there's never been this amount of learning going on and it's all because of the Enlightenment now um anyway but what that does it creates an epidemic of rabbis and now you you got you could have a real hooligan playing Rabbi right because there's you know if if rabbis became a dime a dozen so after you know about 10 dozen of rabbis you going to definitely have a couple charlatans in the mix and so you you got to be careful you know you got to be careful with your choice of Rabbi make sure you got the got the straight ones yeah by the way most rabies obviously are are are straight but all it takes is One Bad Apple and it's like everyone who knows that story will say oh rabbis you understand so that's the way it works so there nice spot up here like to oh you're rabit that's the rabbitson okay good so um back to our story thanks for bringing up bad rabbis um um we were we were talking about Moses so Moses was saying the three-day thing because going up to pharaoh and saying we're just leaving forever was uh was just not going to be very diplomatic you know it just wasn't going to work with pharaoh and so you see it it just teaches you something about even Moses is allowed to say things that are not exactly what's going to be taking place but we got to leave Egypt and so we're going to say what we got to say to make it happen now but I think there's not a person in the world who would say you should say the truth to a Nazi you know if you can save save your life right so Hitler wasit um Pharaoh was Hitler and his his soldiers were Nazis and you say what you got to say to try to save some Jews now the um anyway we get this freebie we get to go to plus 50 which is like major gift total not that earned it was earned enough that the they were part of the group that went with a terrible tour guide by the way when I was talking about the terrible tour guide we got caught up in the line think about Moses as a tour guide and you're emailing with the you know this tour operator and you're like so how long are we going for no clue um where are we going exactly so we're going to Israel ultimately but you know it wasn't clear we're going to sin to the Mount Si um what do we going to eat what are we going to be eating meaning if you don't know how long we're going for I mean I know you men this doesn't mean much to you but women want to know how long this journey is going to be going on because they need to know how much food to pack and Moses is just once again he he keeps sending back question marks you know like like or he sends back the word don't know no matter what you ask me doesn't know why would anyone be worried if God just did 10 Miracles and then we're going to the drink what are we going to be drinking you know we're going out to the Sinai desert there's one thing you can know for sure it's not going to be raining down there there's not going to be Lakes there's not going to be Rivers there's not going to be water at all how long we going for what are we going to eating going to be eating what are we going to be drinking how much clothing should we be bringing for this event you know how much should we pack Moses doesn't know there's going to be Mana from Heaven he doesn't know there's going to be water from a rock he doesn't know that you can stay in your original outfits because you're going to have the Clouds Of Glory laundering your clothes I always wonder do you have to like go like do you have to like rub up against the Clouds Of Glory you know cuz they were like surrounding the Jewish Camp you know as the Jews are going through the desert did you have to like like go like this along the edge of the camp like like you get a big like tomato you know from a you drinking a tomato juice and you got a stain on your like how do the clouds Glory exactly launder your clothes and uh not only that but our shoes would grow on us like your kids are growing up out there so that was another thing like what what kind of uh you how are we going to deal with raising our kids out there what are they going to be wearing you know hand-me-downs but the clothing and the shoes would grow on the on the kids as they got bigger for the 40 years with the babies theab that weren born yet the baby's diapers just like got bigger after a while they grew they grew uh P pant leggings and stuff what diapers funny in all the years of dealing with this story no one ever brought up what the babies were wearing you know what the babies were the hand-me-downs of the toddlers the todders the people's clothes were growing on them what would babies wearing people died no boy we had kid we had people foury olds old walking out with no clothes on people's clo and strong the dead people's cloth yeah that's what I said they you were saying they wore the dead people's cloth yeah didn't people when did they start um it wasn't from the beginning was it old people were probably dying the whole time while they're in the desert I don't know you understand Moses lousy T good yeah he's got no info no info and so that's what these ladies were bringing up was that 4 fths of the Jews were like you got to be kidding I'm not going with this guy and so those four fifths died in the plague of darkness and um and the oneth that didn't die in the pl of Darkness got to go out and they had the Merit maybe that was it was their Merit so they had the Merit uh what I want to say was just since we're on this subject is which would you be would you be amongst the four fifths or would you be amongst the one in other words how practically do you live your how practical are you in life because everyone who was practical died and everyone who was like you know the personalities that say don't tell me the odds personalities you know those kinds of personalities where they're just going for it like don't tell me the odds I'm just I'm going to go and it's going to work it's called committed people people are like they just commit to it and they just know every time they commit to something it always seems to work so who would you be and if you would have been of the Practical people who did not get out of Egypt and as died in the plague of Darkness if you would have been one of those practical types so then you know then you got to do some soul searching because we're leaving Egypt in 13 days you know we're coming back to the leaving of Egypt in 13 days and and if you're going to leave Egypt you have to do a major soul searching you know what your is yourit is being too practical so while you're searching for yourit it's part of your humet is being practical this was the most impractical story the most impractical situation ever was for us just to March out into like you know but you're right you know if you think about it uh the the words uh you know Loa follow me into a desert that is completely unplanted meaning there's no food there that's that's a great sign of Merit that we are impractical so by the way there's nothing wrong with being somewhat practical but I think in matters of God's will that's when you got to drop being practical in matters of God's will so meaning if you have a Mitzvah at hand it's impractical that's where you go with the mitvah whereas in normal life you do have to work like you want to you want to be able to go to the market and buy food you got to have worked first to make the money to go buy the food so I think practic has to do with day-to- day and impractical has to do with when a Mitzvah and practical are butting up head their butt and heads so when Mitzvah practical butt heads you go with Mitzvah when when it's just regular life and there's practical then you got to act then you got to do something and be practical okay um I've noticed this comes up a lot with Shabbat with newbies newbies to shabbat it's impractical for them uh first of all the fact that there won't be any transportation to anywhere they'll be going in Shabbat for newbies that's just weird you know what do you mean we're we're going to walk and then you tell them and also please leave all everything home you're not going to have a please don't bring your wallet you know they're overseas please don't bring your passport no ID you know no nothing and uh you know just leave leave all your possessions so for those of us who are observant that's normal like to not have anything on you including on electronic devices but people are not raised that way and don't live that way to tell them oh yeah you're you're coming for Shabbat dinner make sure you leave your cell phone home they're like what I'm coming for dinner why do I have to leave my cell phone would you be in the for the fours I'm definitely a one I'm the most impractical person ever I need to like head a little more towards the 4S in a lot of my life you know like my you know what mym says this year is being such an intense one guy that uh that I like it's hard to feel stable if you're raised in my home because I'm so out there on like following God into the desert that my kids are just like they don't know if I'm going or coming coming or going which one you say coming or going they don't know if I'm coming or going so I'm a hardcore one and and so far it's worked great and the truth is my kids my kids know that's the way things work and so they realize that is the security is having a one father and and they've learned a lot of things from me that a result you I've created more or less a 1 household which you know much to my wife's sugarin it's uh you know she's slowly we're only married 23 years but she's slowly learning to trust me slowly did I mention the word slow yeah um or what is the current state of those Fours Who didn't leave Egypt and right now like what do you think they're doing what happened to all those Jews what's happening to them right now this current what's this story yeah that's that's beyond me uh could be that the the cabalists talk about it maybe the arel mentions what happens to the four F don't know okay we're good let's get back to our class we get the 50th level of kadua of sanctity big freebie after the leaving of Egypt the Jews get dropped dropped hard all the way down to where 49 2 zero they get dropped down to zero and what they do is they build their way up one two three four five six they build their way up seven weeks of rebuilding themselves to get back to 50 seven sevens what's 7 * 7 49 49 49 is s sevens and then they get to jump up to the the 5050 now they were down 49 over here they got they get up to 50 the leaving of Egypt they get dropped down to zero and they rebuild now have you guys ever noticed in life that you'll get inspired about something exciting and but like really feel the inspiration and then it kind of goes away yeah and then you're like hey where'd it go now a lot of people give up that but what you're supposed to do is that was your free beat and now you got to work your way back to it happens a lot in relationships you ever had like someone you just so connected with you're like wow like a best friend or or it could be uh it could be uh could be a marriage even like like you know the big wow of the wedding or something how are you can you turn off the AC I'm starting to freeze uh up top just to get the power thank you so much I love this silence moment thisness favorite part of the class you know what that is you guys feel it yeah there's things that grab our nervous system buzzes hums traffic sounds ambient noises they are they're so so playing on you that you don't even know that you're get a bunch of your bandwidth has been stolen by by Distraction and even shutting up an AC system immediately like draws you in when you really all of a sudden you get this bandwidth back and it's a lot of empty bandwidth cuz it's not getting stimulated and that freaks you out just enough to pop out of to pop out of the hijacking of your thinking because your thinking hijacks you because you're not your thinking you have thoughts but those aren't you and so all of a sudden having a little free bandwidth just in random nervous system pickups like an AC system when the bandwidth goes off it just enough Jiggles things so that you get you back and then your thinking becomes nothing more than thinking it's just it's not me it reports to me but it's not me and all it takes is just turning off the AC and your back I I'll give you an example can you turn it on again but turn on high like give us give us a just turn up the temperature bit go on and then the fan turn it up it only has low and high okay just stay there for a sec now now listen up yeah now it's just so bad but if had I been teaching this whole time with that in the background You' just you just kind of tune it out and tune me in and but meanwhile I'd be grabbing all kinds of bandwidth in your nervous system just because your ears they don't have a choice they have to report ears report what they hear and so it's got to report it and so it goes up the nerves hits the neurons neurons are like what the hell is the going on all the time neurons are constantly bothered by it anyway and I want you to turn it off randomly uh not randomly I'll tell you when but in a moment let's just let it be there anyway so then we're going to count seven sevens and work our way back so the example I was giving was have you ever had like for example a relationship where you sense the light of it a perfect example in the observant Community is the wedding night and the and it's like super high and maybe Chas are quite High still highly stimulating but then like you wake up after seven bras and you look across the room and you're like who the hell are you I'm married and like what happened all the fireworks and then what happens is you start your process on your way back okay hit it everyone get ready sense it what is that the answer is it's you you can you actually come out whenever the the the brain gets jiggled a little it loses one of its sensory things sends you like literally like kening into presence then you get present but the this muscle is a muscle in your own head I can do it with I don't need air conditioners to turn off to get present and so you it's kind of a cheap way to do it you know it's a lot better than 10 years in India fasting you know and the to get present all you need is I mean these days things are a lot easier all you need is the AC system to go off you know which is really amazing they say the spiritual teachers today say that what you had to do in India 20 30 maybe 40 50 years ago for years and years is now because it's it's like hit the world so now it's in the world and it doesn't take much anymore it's available okay wait what is it Consciousness Consciousness is available you don't need to go to India for that however developing developing the discipline to distinguish thinking from self that muscle of being a disciplined thinker where you don't allow your brain just to take you on the walk you're not some dog that your brain gets to take you on a walk everywhere it wants to go you're not your brain's dog you actually have a soul that has a brain that does a lot of thinking but you're not that thinking can't take your soul on a walk I mean there's no collar big enough for your soul for your thinking to take you on a w so how do we know which On's are soul which one's on brain that if it has content it's your brain if it doesn't have content it's your soul Souls don't have content only brains out now the now the uh the seven the seven weeks are us building back to it and just back to the relationship just to give you a little caveat that are us rabbis like is um I know you guys want us rabbis to show up to your wedding and stuff and like make bras and stuff you should know that any Rabbi making a brop is so not impressed you know I mean they'll make the braa they'll get all the honor you know suddenly like they're big cist on the word El no no no no no no no no sorry mele Mele I get to make right fun of rabis yeah it's Mele this is how this is how rabbis were into honor make their [Music] like suddenly the word like become this you know they remember everything they learned in the Aral about the word m you know something about the word Hashem and El skipped over completely but how many have been there where the entire staff of rabis went through the braa like that you know completely skipped over the names of God to get to their big Mel moment you know I think they should just announce their own name at the Mel [Laughter] part the sweetest old old white bearded Rabbi really old Rabbi who's who's a big Rabbi he came over to he he came over to me once and uh and he said uh he said we're we're we're quite close so he wouldn't say this to any anybody except for me then he comes up to me and he says he by the way he had not been called up to give a blessing under the so he says to me he says I I wish I could tell you at my age that it doesn't hurt when you don't get called up for a blessing but I can't he was admitting that his ego wanted a blessing he was just whispering to me after the seventh man he was sure he would be one of the seventh and was not and it was like kills so anyway um but anyway rabbis do not celebrate weddings rabbis celebrate anniversaries because what do you think rabbis are dealing with a lot of the time divorces well we weren't going that far marriages RAB rabbis do a lot of dealing with marriages but a lot like way more than they'd like to be I mean rabbis have tremendous scholarship there's a lot of things you could ask a rabbi other than the fact that your spouse is making insane you know but unfortunately more than 50% of the issues rabis deal with probably is marriages so rabbis are more much more interested in anniversaries than marriages meaning anyone can get married all you need is a pulse but to stay married to stay married is requires you got to be made of something to stay married especially in these generations and one hint I can give you ladies on because on my way in all I had was this guy speaking in the headsets where who was saying that his wife's marriage counselor you know not marriage counselor her wife's coach you know like before the marriage um he's been dealing with this for over a year and a half now the bad words of her her wedding coach you know what she said to her she said to her um these days men aren't really men so which is true I mean she was right about that part but she was like these days men aren't really men so whatever your husband says just do the opposite and uh and basically the household's up to you so you're the man and you call the shots and and you know your your husband you're you're basically just marrying a woman you're marrying a woman and just anything he says do the opposite and and that's it so this guy is on the phone with me and I fell into the trap a little bit by counseling her a bit you know where she was like putting Devil's horns on the guy and uh and I've been on the phone with this guy I mean he also made a million mistakes but don't get me wrong he's he's completely blown into and but a year and a half of hell because she didn't let she didn't make him the man she was right men aren't really men today but make him the man build your man build your man no one no woman's going to marry a man but she can at least make him the man she can turn him into a man during the a year and a half's plenty of time to make a man to turn a boy into a man but uh unfortunately she told her the first part that he won't be a man but she forgot to mention the second part of make him your man she said the opposite she said just ignore him and uh run the run the home home you know anyway and along with that um just to mention ladies is is your husband goes to the rabbi and comes home with he comes home with the goods you don't go to the rabbi your husband I blew it I let her come to me and and really in fact he should have been coming to me he blew it too he should have been coming to me way before she was and then we would never have gotten to this issue but he blew it enough that she came me that I should have I should have really nodded a bunch while she spoke to me and then had a proper meeting with the proper meaning okay um Shalom everyone we will discuss much more in PES as the days ensue I give you Rabbi eron neamar you need a bathroom break you can take one but Rabbi neam gonna start right away who's going to write oh no