Rabbi Yom Tov Practical Spirituality: Disappearing Suffering

Sheldon welcome to practical spirituality here in the old city of Jerusalem overlooking the Temple Mount at Asia Torah what we're going to do today is we're gonna talk about how to disappear suffering how do you get rid of suffering and if you think about it you're born to suffer and we spend a lot of time dealing with that suffering and some of us don't notice our suffering so much thank God and some of us are like really staring right at it a lot of the time and there's different kinds of suffering there's loneliness there's anxiety there's you know we're all gonna die you know that's not very nice you know but it just matter when and and then there's it is and then there's you know and then there's relationship suffering and and there's just so much suffering then there's your financials and your but there's there's a lot of suffering and then there's actual actual suffering you know an actual actual suffering is well it's be hard for us a bunch of privileged Jews sit in this classroom but but there's actual people in the world who are just suffering meaning there's people in the millions who don't even know we're happening in a day or two and don't know if they're going to be eating in the next day or two and there's there's a lot of people out there suffering big-time big-time so what we're gonna talk about today is how to disappear your suffering it's different ways to do it yeah yeah for sure so we will start with you what's your name ma'am Aaron I never got any we're start with mayor mayor's the first is that that suffering pain is inevitable suffering is a choice just like little kids little toddlers when they fall down that's what we're talking about that's a retirement but we have little we've had little kids we've all seen little kids fall down bad like a real wipeout and they still look up at the parents for to react now they see the parents going oh no no no and then the kids start your freaking cuz something's wrong obviously but they but they needed us for a reference cuz it's not obvious that a big bike wipeout for our toddler is paid sorry is suffering his body hurts but he doesn't know how to relate to it there are even tribes that don't relate to pain the way we do there are tribes that laugh when they get hurt there's one anthropologist was when anthropologist was in a country where where when they hit rocks on the river they had you know they get out and they carry the canoe up the mountain to the next part of the river you know we're talking a big hollowed out logs these are heavy canoes that hold like ten people so they at one point they said they all slipped and the canoe pinned one of the Indians against the tree you know told us you know like pinned till they could get it off of them it was the funniest thing that happened to him on a week of travel you know and here's this guy pinned hysterical and it was hysterical with him and the anthropologist was just like what is wrong with these but there are there is such a tribe at least one out there that was in the Amazon and yeah but that's already sick now okay so another thing about about disappearing pain is now you can always deal with now can everyone do it now right now yeah in doing that we can all deal with that now we can do it if you do with that everything you got to do for the next year now know know what's gonna happen if you're gonna let your mind start traveling down that line you get egged you get louder you get anxiety anxiety is projecting the mind down the future instead of staying in the now but now you can always handle and I actually do this as an exercise whenever I need dental work and they're coming up with me to me with that syringe right to my gums and that's the last thing you want your gums isn't needling your gums that ain't cool but I'll practice it because I'll say one needle now yeah I can deal with one needle now now I can deal with one needle in my gums cuz now I can deal with that now I can handle anything it's thinking about I mean obviously you're not gonna have a needle in your gums all the time but thinking about I don't know let's say someone has chronic back pain so you have back pain now now if it's chronic that means you're gonna have it where's the suffering come from a future future cuz right now it is what it is it's the amount of pain it is right now is what that person is dealing with but it's the projection of the future that causes the real suffering now but let's go like this check this out there's two kinds of suffering when it comes to suffering there's a kind you can fix them as a kind you can the kind you can't is the gilgul suffering it's called guilt goal suffer that's the kind you can't fix and then there's the kind well there is something you can do for guilt go suffer and we'll talk about that in a minute and the other kind is what you call the karmic suffering karmic suffering now let's talk first about the karmic so because that's the one you can really fix karmic suffering is is suffering that's caused by your stinkbug energy no offense each one of us has a bit of a stink bug in us just for example example you know every single one of us was born to love that's it you are loved ultimately but if you'll check if we interviewed all of you I bet you we'd find out that you would rather want love than have it and the proof will be when you're married whether you play games and sabotage things because you prefer to want it than to have it but almost every person you'll meet especially in the Western system in Western society would rather want it than have it lot of us don't even know how to have it because we were hurt and so we don't even know how to put I love forward in a way that feels safe to us so we just hold it back and so we further the drought of everyone's most important need now that stinkbug energy and stinkbug energy you can heal now i only use one example of love but there's all kinds of stinkbug energy i mean this is why if you take wealthy people and you could predict that there's gonna be more wealth coming their way and if you take poor people you can predict there's gonna be more poverty coming their way it's just a basic principle of reality doesn't make sense what kind of God would I mean it sounds like a lousy good you know like cruel god the wealthy pyramid I gonna have more wealth coming their way and the poor pure craigandemma more poverty coming away and we all know that's how it works yeah well it's because of their the energy that you emit is what's coming back towards you so people with money emit a certain energy that attracts money and people in poverty emit a certain energy that attracts poverty this is why the transformation which is my work I mentioned the possible use seminar that seminar is literally and only literally and only there to transform your vibrational energy that's it just so that you can start having what you want instead of getting much more of what you don't want if you notice you keep getting more of what you don't want in your life so you can actually have what you want but you got to go through a crushing crucible to get there cuz you're gonna have to face your demons if you want to do that you got to face your demons look them right in the face and go like this pretty scary very scary until you go your demons just gonna go watch it later what you need back there Daniel what's up no pronouns please just no pronouns it's not use Rd I don't know what it is it's bad - it's bad - stay with that that's what's bad if you're brought in a certain way days bad just what do you I mean depends if your if your family is stinkbug energy and it creates it creates scarcity it's not caring and loving and and invite in effervescence so if that's the way your family's you must change that if people don't share their feelings in your family that must change so your kids can be raised in a clear home with clean air you must change for sure yeah it's not even a big deal you just need courage a lot of courage but but as long as you got the courage go for it and the beauty today is that everyone knows you can't change your own we have a principle in Judaism ain't no kovash Mugsy Osama big bass is sort of a captured person like you're captured in the energy of your upbringing a captured person cannot get himself out of jail so that makes it even easier on you why because once you put up that white flag that I'm never gonna be able to do this alone well then give it someone else go put yourself in front of it done empty my scimitar but there's nothing front of any seminar leader and just bring yourself in on a silver tray like a pigeon a bin and just like drop yourself right in front of the guy and say change my life cuz I can't but how many people have the courage how many people to courage to surrender themselves to a process into a leader who can take them for a week and transform their energy how many people have that kind of courage we're also addicted to our autonomy and I can tell you just I got you out of here an amazing so same amazing say throughout the years I sometimes sniffed out that some people are doing like my seminars their way you know maybe they came to my seminar designed by me but they're doing it their way and haven't we all done jobs went to Cannes when two schools that had a way of doing things but we did it our way so sometimes I'm running a scimitar and I sniffing out that we were doing it their way so what do I do it's the penultimate night only a British man would know what the word penultimate what's penultimate mean the night before the last it just means the one before the last in anything could be the penultimate page of a book I went try a new word penultimate pin oh the one before the last so so we're the penultimate night and I can sniff out that people are doing the seminar their way which means I'm gonna no one's graduating tomorrow it's a bluff cuz they all did it their way which is the way humans are anyway so whatever so what do I do I have it everyone raised their hands who will swear that they did everything as it was designed all the homework all the work we did everything they did a following so guess what out of 30 guys 20 raised their hand 10 didn't I get the 20 to line up in front of everybody and then it was some of the 10 sitting a few like Oh God and then you know what I say it's really cruel that I do this but it's a cruel seminar so it's not that cruel in the context Emma no this isn't that cruel but you know what I actually say it's horrible I say the people standing up right now are the ones doing the possibility of similar the people sitting are doing the possibly Scimitar their way but here's what I want to tell you that wasn't what I want to tell you what I want to tell you is I was running an Israeli one I started doing it for Israelis Vizier was the Israeli I've already done eight that's why I dropped the English people and then you already kill me so we're doing one February 24th free English finally and maybe another but anyways - listen this the o if you're watching this live Muncie men's is November 10th sorry February 10th just like a couple weeks from now and women's is starts February 11th in Muncie but it doesn't matter where you live in the tri-state area come know the it was the Israelis and I just noticing that that smell of them doing it their way was super strong so I finally it's the penultimate night and I ask the Israelis I say so raise your hand if you've been doing the Scimitar exactly as it's designed you're not missing anything of the homeworks nothing you've done it all ready for this 30 men to raise their hands and now these two hidden I put them in front of everyone like they're doing the Bosnia seminar you're doing the seminar your way and it was a joke so I'm we sat there for a half hour was the end of the night is it's it was 11:00 it was time to go home we all sat there for a half hour they were so depressed when they saw my face because I was so disappointed and they know I've given my heart and soul and so I'm sitting amongst them two guys are standing up there for a half hour and we're discussing we're discussing we're discussing what what happened what the hell went wrong here you know what we realized after everyone tried I got it was a miracle I got it cuz I don't know Israeli culture the way they do I got it and then you know what I said Israelis anyone hang out in Israel a bit you know Israelis are scared to death of being friars which means in in Hebrew that means fools a getting tripped they do not want to get tricked that's why this country you know why it's hard to make a living in this country you know in no way because there's Jews put Jews amongst Gentiles they will always rise to the top because we see we see how to thread that needle like no gentle could in the financial or any other field thread that needle especially when we're playing in a Gentile world like like what do you think was gonna happen when a handful of Jews moved to Mexico City it would be running the place you know but put a bunch of Jews in one country together where everyone's scared to death of being the fool it makes for messed up lack of trust types of business affairs and the energy is not great and it's scarcity because everyone's so afraid of anyway so what happened I tell them I told you're so afraid to get ripped off you gave your money it's not a cheap seminar you gave your money you gave your time but you said you said one thing I'm not gonna give what the guy got left what's that trust well me need to put myself on that platter and put myself in front of someone to take me on that journey that's why we talked about this and you should have felt the energy in the room because they all just went like boom they're all just like yes that's it and then I said today and you want to know who's the biggest fryer of all you guys are the biggest fryers of our because in the end the reason that you're not gonna get the transformation that you came for your energy shift is simply because you didn't put yourselves into it because you were so afraid of of having lost not just your money and not just your time but your actual like you put yourself in and you didn't get your breakthrough and so that's why you don't have your break because you never put yourself keep your money and keep your time but put yourself in a vase put yourself into the life karmic energy can be shifted you gotta clean your stuff and clean up your act now you don't necessarily need a seminar for everything like and you get feedback especially if you're married to a Jewish woman oh my gosh do you get yeah we get feedback people are giving you feedback listen if you got roommates listen to what they say if your roommates are feeling resentful of having your stuff everywhere well that's feedback yeah there's a bit of a slob in you yeah and so take that feedback if people keep buying you deodorant for your birthday you're getting feedback yeah so anyway we're getting plenty of feedback and also God has a way of just perfectly having your vibrational energy get feedback and so we're all getting that feedback all the time and so we we need to hear the feedback and we need to shift our lives this stuff you can fix but what about guilt all suffering how do we fix gilgul same with gilgul suffering yokels suffering is cosmic debt from your previous life No Karma's the local stuff going on this is the big visit well is like the global level okay we think can be used interchangeably but we're distinguishing them from karmic energy to reincarnation dude the word gilgul means reincarnation it comes to more Gaga a wheel because the reincarnation like a wheel you keep coming back to this earth and you have cosmic debt all of us have cosmic debt there are certain things no matter how clean your energy is how clean your karmic energy is it doesn't matter you're gonna have to deal with this stuff the gilgul stuff by the way there's one other thing you're gonna have to deal with no matter what Wednesday I'll take question a minute there's another thing you're gonna have to deal with no matter what and that is your children cuz we're like you know how they cut the umbilical cord when the baby's born they don't really cut it not for the mother or the father I think about it whatever you guys go through your parents are going through everything you go through your parents are going through it's so freaky so freaky that we it's a crazy we're willing to have children and we have to have children we all have to have children that's a craziest thing that we have to have Charlie you know I like the liberal left today like we'll say stuff like that we're all gonna actually we're commanded to it's crazy I was just learning the Zohar I was just learning in the Zohar what happens to someone this week's partial I was in Marone a Trevi Simmons grave learning Zohar he talked about what happens to someone who chooses not to have kids meaning it had nothing to it people who couldn't have kids or nothing to it someone who never even could get married to have kids we're talking about someone who chose not to have kids or chose not to get married so they wouldn't have kids or chose birth control over kids or whatever I don't know I know let's just say it wasn't pretty and let's just say they still give birth I don't want to give you any gory details but there's still births had they're just I'm not even gonna say oh I'll say it in Hebrew I'll say it in Hebrew okay I meant I'm out of that one okay anyway but we are so linked towards children we're so linked to our children so I gotta add another one kids this one you can this one you can be this one you can't be this one okay so these we're gonna be something no matter what okay now cuz ours these souls these souls are all very connected to each other very connected to each other and in fact that same Zohar was saying that same Zohar was saying that uh that someone who comes to me married through someone who makes a levirate marriage because the there if this brother of somebody passes away with no children so the brother has to take the wife and she gives birth to the in reincarnation of her deceased ex-husband sorry her deceased husband and and that means the child born into the world soulmate is his mother it's weird but the buddy but and and it's and it says there and other kabbalists say on that puss ik on that Zohar Sartre that the that it's really hard for that person to find a soulmate really hard it's possible but really hard where is some other kabbalists intimate that it's it is the soul mate in this world when they're born into the world day I have to agree did not have a soul mate like a real swimming I mean they might have a life partner that they married but but it's not gonna be on the soulmate level okay guys we're gonna wrap this up a bit and we're this is not the soulmate class right now okay my bad for even bring up over okay now giggles there is something you can do about the gilgul stuff you ready for this what happens is when people suffer they generally resist rather than surrender and so people who resist gilgul suffering it tends to repeat itself throughout their life like they keep going through the same rough stuff and this is not karma cross stuff this is número stuff which means it has to happen and they'll actually keep going through it but it gets even worse if they resist it all the way to their death they're gonna come back and do a full repeat till they surrender what does it mean a surrender it means to accept when once they accept it they're clean they're clear of it so the way you get rid of gilgul suffering that's the inevitable suffering that's gonna come just from your life from cosmic debt from previous lives all you have to do is surrender to an exception that's it surrender to it kids obviously you got to be on a high level and realize that you got to cut your own umbilical cord and realize your kids are gonna go through stuff no matter what I mean just like just like you went through stuff no matter what your kids are going through stuff no matter why are they why your kids not gonna go through stuff you were expecting you're gonna go through so obviously your kids are and so the way to get rid of that sovereignty to realize your kids are also having their own guilt or okay everyone's Shalom Shalom