Rabbi Yom Tov Practical Spirituality: Don't Reject Money!!

shut up and welcome to practical spirituality here in asia torah in the old city of jerusalem overlooking a temple mount and today we're talking about how to master freewill so when you're mastering freewill there's there's four or five steps the first is to be constantly choosing everyone say the word constant second is to reevaluate your life once in the word re-evaluation the third is to realize you're in a battleground between the soul and the body everyone say the word battleground and then number four is the soul the soul I would say the word soul so number five is God say that word God okay now the Latin the last two are our soul and God four three and four are very related you're right you're always in a battle between the soul in the body and the and your job though how we doing seat wise we got any more seats there's a seat right there so your job is to go towards the soul how do you go towards the soul the way you go towards the soul is is there's different ways to go towards the soul but the main thing is to be a good negotiator with your body negotiate with the body the body has its desires as long as you give your body the kosher to the kosher outlet for its desires it'll open itself up to the soul so but anyway there you just incentivize the body for the most part - to get to the soul parts of things so design it's not a big subject but the main thing is that if you realize you're in a battle between the soul in the body you can throw the body a bone meaning throw the dog a bone and then get to your spiritual life and be connected to soul think of an example mm-hm I mean I have lots of examples because that's generally how I work like would you call surfing surfing is a bone for me sometimes we're paddling out Thursday God willing waves are supposed to be weighted me huge this week you felt the winds out there yes that's that's like stirring up some big waves and tomorrow it's gonna be kind of like a bathtub and then Wednesday also but Thursday it was supposed to go get back to itself we should have some good waves everyone's welcome to join me I have a nine seater van even if you don't surf you can at least get a ride to the beach back to Jerusalem for a couple hours and we could also potentially hit the beer Bazaar on the way back nothing like beer for breakfast no the anyway that was the first thing I had this morning visit me I wasn't going for B I was going for a hot drink in in the shook with I cleanse on Sundays but I passed a brewery where some of my old students work and they were just showing me a particular variety that they had brewed up over there so I think I drink about that much okay now the anyway the whole point is to soul why because every decision you make for the body in the end is going to be buried with you so to speak meaning it's not gonna go anywhere but every decision you make for the soul that's going to be eternal so you want to go for the soul you want to go for the stuff that's timeless you got a body your body's got desires you want to throw the dog about now obviously if you're single so you're a little bit stuck on throwing the dog a bone when it comes to a certain subject and so your jobs get married as quickly as possible okay you want to get married quickly so those who thought you'd wait till you're like 23 or something you want to you want to blow that off and get married earlier than that and the way you do it the quick way to get married besides going online and watching my class how to find your soul mate which really bumps it up to like six to eight months before you get engaged so it's good and watch that one but the way you get married early because do you want to get married before you ready anyone get married before the ready nobody wants get married for them ready well guess what's the best way to get ready best no the best way to get remarried just set a deadline human beings are amazing with deadlines you may have noticed this with your exams very few people studying until they've got a deadline okay deadlines are really good for you minute human beings we do much better with deadlines so those who are have a nebulous date of when you'd start dating like real dating to married and those who have a nebulous date well expect getting married to be pretty nebulous to cuz that's gonna just push itself off cuz you're never gonna get ready why would anyone ever get ready to get married but if you sis if you settle on a real date that you're gonna start dating it just something happens internally you unconsciously I mean how do you think girls got married you know girls got married for almost all of human history between 12 and 14 well how's that possible how's it possible to do that well the answer is if you've been to enough weddings of thirteen-year-old girls and you're a little girl at the wedding you know just you know have you ever seen little girls at weddings staring at the club but they're just like I mean it's just they're like stunned and they just all they can think about is them being under that hope of some day but if the girls 13 that means by the time you're 12 anything you had to do while you're a little girl you did cuz by the time you're 12 you're already like focus on that and your whole entire beam is gonna prepare itself now I'm not tell them 13 year olds get married here obviously but I'm telling you whatever the date is that you see yourself getting married is gonna be when you'll get ready for but if you don't have a date if you're just letting it be nebulous so you'll never get ready never be ready so all you got to do is set the date that you're gonna start dating for marriage dating for marriage and you'll see that the that it will come much quicker because your development won't much quicker the most I ever saw a guy growing yeshiva was a twenty old guy Sam Horowitz Sam Horowitz was he got he was too young to get married and he wasn't ready he also didn't know enough Torah he was about Reuben and he what happened was he was 20 years old he got he already knew which girl he wanted to marry so he they said a year engagement because they figured it would take him about a year to learn enough to be able to get married by the way 20 old boys need three years to learn to get married but he was going for the there's a spot right here if you want to grab it how'd you get over I'm Bryan Chertoff years ago also one of the original age students with Noah and this is an amazing place so if those of you for those of you don't already know it and for those of you who have never been here come check it out yeah amazing this sorry thank you you guys are in such an amazing place so keep doing what you're doing and keep doing what you're going all right Toto world well that was amazing I've been I've been doing this there for 27 years like these guys come in we all the stuff you're gonna do this here I don't know what you guys are up to this year all this stuff you're gonna do this here is gonna get totally like anything if you notice in your life like it just kind of enters the blender of things that happened and you did you know it just kind of blends in and you grow kind of from it but what I have noticed that people walk into this building cuz you notice we don't do small talk here at all it's never small talk it's always like direct instructions to live a great life no matter who's teaching it's always very direct it's never fluffy and it's always like exactly the thing itself like we're not talking around subjects we're not being politically correct about things we're just going to the jugular and and you're always being taught by people who are living with their talking you understand you there's no one speaks here who doesn't live it and and also none of us we've all done enough work on ourselves that we're not here to get something from you a lot of teachers are gonna get an attention when they teach meaning the reason they even became teachers was there was something missing in their own hearts from their own upbringing or whatever and somehow having all the eyes on them helps them in their lives so are they giving or taking take so they all the rabbi's here we've done a ton of big-time work we've all cried her eyes out through all kinds of our own work on ourselves and developed ourselves to be givers and and but here's the thing that that blender of life and all its memories and all the experiences I have noticed I could tell you this then close to three decades here that the stuff that people get here you can literally look back decades later like this guy you can look back two decades later 20 years later and literally point to when you're a nation time you can point to when you're in Asia tour how your trajectory got set up it's weird it's weird cuz you do a lot of stuff in a year but it's so many people can all point back years later that the information that they got while they were in this building set up a trajectory that you can trace all the way back to this room - right here so it's not to be taken lightly I I feel I really feel in here I feel a money used word pahud but it's not it's a there's like a heaviness to it because because this is your trajectory for life and and because the rabbi's don't mince words it really is the trajectory and it's and it's just so great so great and the other amazing thing is you'll notice yeah that guy looked like a black hat form ad guy from Age days of old not at all he's just doing his thing cuz none of us talk about that we don't care I won't care what you're gonna do with it cuz we know that if you get the principles set up deep in your heart and you run with it you're gonna you're gonna have you're gonna be deeply impacted and and it's gonna deeply affect your life and it doesn't matter where you wind up in the Jewish spectrum of things that's up to you well it's more up to who you marry I guess but the that's that's that's your own prerogative we're not discussing that then everyone can wind up where they wind up that's great but take the principles and apply them what was I just I'm I was telling get married younger Oh Sam so Sam made it one year in engagement which is a little rare but he was a little young to get married she was ready and you know what he did he opened up our study hall our basement he opened it every morning and he closed it every night I mean he would barely slept that year and what he did in one year we none of us boys were able to do in three years and the reason why he was able to do that was he had a deadline because he was gonna be under a hobo with a girl promising her that they're gonna be making Shabbos for the rest of eternity and not a romaine can promise that in a year but if he was engaged he could cuz cuz that's the kind of growth he'd get in a year he was able to drop the the the timeline by two-thirds just by having that date on him so everybody in this room I'm telling you right now choose a year or choose a date this year they're gonna start dating and watch your growth happen you'll notice you're just gonna automatically kind of lop off stupid stuff you do lop off certain things you wear lop off things you'd say lop off places you'd visit like you'll see it's all just gonna shed it's all gonna shed your language will shed your your whole way of being will shed as long as you know you're getting married I mean you're gonna date tip for marriage from a certain date and by the way I don't care what that date is maybe make it five years from now it doesn't matter but make a date and hold it hold to it and you'll see the growth happen and that was only one example that was that was with marriage you can do that for a whole bunch of different things in life and I made a date for myself of financial independence by next January first so so I'm but I'm already like hitting the ground running because I realize financial independence I gotta start now I'm not gonna be able to start I'm not be able to cram that one December is not gonna be the date and so but when I'm financially I'm the best person in the world to be financially independent because I don't spend any money which means I'm gonna spend it on other people like you or whomever you know and people have projects I'll fund it like I'm crazy I'm crazy about people and I don't even have to know them well in fact some of the most random people in the world I'll just totally get them started and so I'm the perfect guy and to have that wealth and and the and all of you to I am always talking wealth but I've always not gone for it myself not that I'm going for wealth but but I've opened myself up to that possibility in my life and you know you know what I'm doing this so it's a really funny thing is that I was raised in a wealthy home and what happened was the last year I lived in California my father's business went bankrupt and how I became who I became as I fully and totally rejected not only his wealth I rejected capitalism in general the whole American capitalistic system I rejected that but like intense rejection like I was like I was like a Marxist I was like redistribution of wealth you know I truly would have been very happy with communism I mean I would have taken socialism as like a booby prize to communism and I was like so hardcore rejecting that lifestyle and and all the all the evils I got to see firsthand where people's housekeepers were happier than their been there what do you call them owners employers and I was kidding about the owners but the you know your housekeepers aren't supposed to be happier than you but here's the funny thing and here's them you want to hear an amazing insight raise your end if any of you did the full rejection of the capitalist system yeah I could see you nodding okay so for you you want to hear my inside of the day there's the inside of the day because this is what I'm saying because I created a date I got this insight you hear that you know I created the date for next January first 2020 the insight hit me already on the six because there's a date and so the insight hit me you know what you wanna know the insight is is that that whole bluff of capitalism and all that stuff there's a whole other Bluff called anti capitalism meaning meaning just because and just because senselessly senselessly and selfishly becoming rich on the on the on the cash money on the account of greater society is wrong but repudiating repudiating having your own resources just means you're caught up in just the opposite bluff meaning that Bluff of like your money's made you the bluff of being anti well it's also a stupid bluff and there's no reason your wife what's your name I'm room right Ryan there's no reason your wife 10 years now yeah she'll be married to this idealistic guy but she should also have some food in the fridge I should be able to buy a new outfit you understand you get what I'm saying but it could easily be not that case if you play big people who play big with the countercultural scene the way I did can easily wind up living thriftily for no reason other than that they're waving some flag that's that flag about something that's not even true meaning meaning if you're if you think if you think like free rein capitalism like that is not true which I believe is not true if you think free wing capitalism is not true and then you're gonna wave a banner about that within Europe you're not true either because why your reaction is something not true well something not true something fault if your reaction is something false what's that make you a reaction is something false doesn't make you real just makes you excellent at falsehood you're the you're the expert on falsehood but what's true and the answer what's true is is that you have your own skills that that are worth something in the work market you got something worth something in the marketplace and and God set up a world that people are willing to it's called the law of economy people are willing to part with a lesser value to get a greater value if you're a woman apartment less when you buy a coke which I suggest you don't but if you do you spend five shekels you're making it you're making a big announcement on your five shekels that it's worth more or less than the coke by letting it go what are you what's your announcement it's worth less and when you hands of that Coke you make an announcement about the coke what are you saying it's worth more the guy behind the counter says I'm glad you feel this way because that cokes worth a lot less than that five shekel and but everybody's happy and that's the way the market works is everybody's happen cuz people are willing to let go of something to get a greater good and this is the when God cursed man for having let women dominate him and his curse was he would have to go out and earn the bread he was gonna have to go earn his bread because he wasn't being a man he listened to her and do it by eating the fruit and so he had to go out and earn his bread he has to go out there and become a man a man who's worth something financially meaning obviously we're worth something cuz God meant is worth something but he has to be someone he has to go out there and produce some kind of something that people are willing to pay him to move his bag of bones around in something he's good at whether it's naturally or he learned a skill and he's got to go out there and it's scary as hell to go do that most men would rather sleep in his parents extra bedroom till they're 35 most men are scared into death of this but that was that's the curse of man man has to go out there and move around until he gets paid and if you're not getting pay that means you didn't find your spot yet stop complaining and don't don't lick your wounds too long cuz you're gonna wind up having to forfeit your rent and give up the lease of your car and everything people aren't paying you for what you're doing you've you went the wrong way there because the feedback that you make a difference as a man is that someone's gonna pay you for that because you're gonna offer some greater good and someone's gonna pay money their money is the lesser good than the good that you offer you get that someone's gonna offer you money because their money is the lesser good of the greater good you can you can the good you can create but somebody wants to wave a banner against capitalism is just gonna wind up with whatever money lands on his doorpost and that's gonna come from you know you can play rabbi and do that game you know if you want to if you want to there's nothing wrong with it by the way it's no the wrong because that's a greater good and there's people feel that way and one of no there's gotta be rabbis in the world which means we got to give towards synagogues and give towards rabbis and give towards you Shiva's we got to give that's our money's the lesser good than the spiritual good overall good of kilala israel so we do have to we do have to pay rabbis to do their thing but i'm going to show you the alittle Kabbalistic secret jacob Yaakov represent cetera and when Asaph wrestled when the the angel evasive wrestled with Jacob where'd he nail him in the leg nailed him in the leg and Jacob came out limping and Jacob coming out limping is it's the limp of Torah scholars throughout history that people are gonna have an extra eight siharan not to support them you'll notice like someone have come to you about a widow getting widowed marrying off her kids or or an orphan getting married and you're just you'll open up your wallet but when it comes to when it comes to the kollel or you know the when it comes to Torah study you just like it's like it takes everything you've got to write a generous check for Torah study we're all we've all had that because what our legs legs support what is jacob ease torah what RJ comes legs Jacob's legs and the support of Tara and it's so hard to support Torah that's it's very hard to support Tara so it was set up through history and I guess the rewards that much more if you do support art so think twice when you're when you're getting stingy around Taurus support think twice because maybe there's something bigger there because because Taurus study is and what's gonna save our nation you know that there's an tor leadership is essential especially in our generation we're gonna need some serious to our leadership and when I say toward leaders I don't just mean kollel some time out find it leaked or that's the thing I'm doing right now is creating a club it's my it's my club and what we're gonna do is we're just gonna get this tour out there so big time right now and it's and again even though even though it's creating this club for for the for the fight for financial well-being so that so that I'm totally fiscal but it's not just that it's it's that I can hire and get social media going and and get this get this thing cranked out there so that we can save Claudia so that's all I really care about we gotta save our people anyway that I said a lot I said a lot in a long time I'm teaching discovery upstairs now and I still didn't do this I refused to finish this class this is the second time that third time because I did the earlier class on internet in building muscle let me wrap this one up and I'll title it later thank you Samia what samp to title my classes right now for you for your phones on here anyone got me on whatsapp here none you got my whatsapp you sent me whatsapp to title my classes today thank you and I sometimes I forget because I usually put the titles at first I'm not habituated yeah so I I'm just and feeling a little awkward right now cuz I was very very authentic with you guys and honest about my own little Bluffs and games I've been playing in my life that are no longer fun they're not funny games and the I think what's happened is the onus of responsibility to make a difference for the world has outweighed my silly story about money you understand like that's crazy and everywhere I go I get more and more people saying I'm watching every day I'm watching every day I'm watching every day so what we're gonna do is these people care if you care and any you care if you care about this enough so so what we're gonna do is just no one should push themselves just whatever's comfortable is I'm setting up my meeting with the web designers tomorrow we're gonna have a full-on ravi yom tov calm we're gonna have a full we're gonna have a little button to click where you can back this and then we can hire from now we can hire proper people to get get everything cranking out there properly my goal is to be you know hit joe rogan the whole talk show place cuz I'm tired of Jordan Peterson blowin the entirety hearing Jordan Peterson blow theology with he's got such a gigantic incredible reach but blows the theology Benz Shapiro millions of people watching and he blows the theology part every time and the you know no offense to him but he's it's not exactly been his focus it has been my focus though I've been studying for you know many many many many years with underneath incredible rabbis so I'm like I've got the same language as them but I haven't been out there beating the circuit I've been actually studying and developing myself under great rabbis and being able to articulate the same stuff only with accuracy when it comes to theology and and stuff like that so we got to get this out there we're gonna make this happen so so we're gonna be doing it soon it'll be on rabbi yarmulke calm it should be even this week they can already click on it and just whatever is comfortable I think will make a club and also by the way you think I'm not gonna do good for whoever's in the club whoever's in that Club we're gonna be I don't know what we're gonna make Chavez's we're gonna we're gonna all get together we're gonna like save the world we're gonna be a team and not only that develop the resources and I'm thinking of even having a lottery thing where everyone adds a little more I don't know how to do this but like everyone has like five bucks a month let's say a guy's giving ten but instead he gives fifteen and we get like let's say there's how much is thirty how much is five thousand people times five dollars how much is that what is that no twenty five five thousand people giving five dollars how much is that twenty one thousand so my do is we'd give away twenty five thousand dollars a month for anyone wants to start something meaning any man or woman who feels like they've got a project that's going to help Claudius throw in some way that will we'll have that five grand coming in I don't lots of really good ideas and then we're gonna we're gonna make it happen I want to create employment also for lots of people in the world and a million young men who want to make a good living and I feel like we can make that part of this do do a lot of good for the world shall I may everyone never gonna