Rabbi Yom Tov Practical Spirituality: Should You TRUST Yourself??

Sullivan welcome to practical spirituality here and the holy city of Jerusalem had a shooter overlooking the Temple Mount today we're going to be finishing off our outline of the five ways of mastering freewill if you're watching this on Facebook please hit share and that's not gonna have a part a lot of people with that and we also were starting our YouTube channel so please subscribe to my youtube channel that's gonna be a much bigger platform than Facebook and obviously a a lot of things to tour anytime because tour anytime sends this out to all the people who have filtered Internet and can't get you to they can at least watch the Suntory time which is amazing and a big thanks to them and it's actually brought up this whole subject that I've been thinking about regarding you know there's people with full open internet people filter and internet people with people with no internet a lot of people no internet in the in the fully observant world and and we have a Mishnah that says not to trust yourself till the day you die and what in one of those understandings of that is don't put yourself in a situation where you could fall but the problem with that is not putting yourself in the situation where follows that if you ever do wind up in that situation you're gonna fall because you don't know what you're doing you don't have any muscles built up you just grab your leak in that situation so that brings up this amazing subject of like is it better to be somewhat exposed and strong or is it better to be ladies qslide over to seats please is it better to be somewhat exposed and strong or is it better to be not exposed protected but you likely will fall hard if you ever get exposed you hear the question it's a really rough question it comes up a lot in all kinds of situations but obviously the Internet's a big one where that's kind of always there and I'm inclined to say that when it comes to internet it's better to build your muscles because because it's so pervasive and it seems every month or year it gets more perverse and it's more in everything and it's more like you're not even gonna be able to work for a living without access to it it's already like that in most professions and and so and so that being the case you know and Jews do need to make a living still you know unless mushiya comes really quickly and so then everyone's gonna have to be interfaced a bit with it and their if not a lot with it and therefore I my sense is better to build muscles there to protect yourself with with internet usage now how does that means that people could may fall hard there but the but as nasty as that is for someone to fall into internet misuse the as nasty as that is someone with a good conscience I my people with addictive personalities or or you know some kind of other major issue for example feeling very weak people feel very weak or often the ones who get sucked into internet misuse because it's a dude does give there is a sense of power with it you know it's it's you're like God seeing but not seen seeing but not seen that's godly when you can see something but not be seen doing it that's seeing but not seen it's there's a certain power to that often someone expresses their their their masculine drive to put it not very literally but just by the way women do the same thing but it's it's kind of an expression of one's drive it's a stroke its meaning it's a very counterfeit power trip that lasts for about a minute max and and it's you know but it's a bit of a disaster there so so someone who has a regular conscience will feel so nasty for having done that that will start to build some muscles to get get themselves out of that realm and then there's other people just fall into deep addiction they're now people who fall into deep addiction generally need to have total abstinence like kind of like alcohol and Kannamma stipes who can never drink and therefore need full guard because they're just not they're just they just don't have what it takes to protect themselves and then there's but the rest of humanity a few full guard rest the rest of humanity they're likely to fall into stuff pretty badly because they won't have developed themselves I don't for those circumstance those kinds of situations and and but I want to go a little deeper on that and that's trusting yourself like the Mishna says not to trust yourself what if no one trusts in themselves then who do we trust so we trust in a Shem obviously but what if you set up a whole society that believes they can't trust themselves but they trust you my sense is that it will take away people's intuition meaning people's natural instincts people's intuitive skills their ability to and to have an intuition into any an instinct gut feeling and then follow it and go by that if you if you create a whole generation of people who are seen as untrustworthy and therefore you make them have to live as if they're untrustworthy then what happens to individual intuition because what is it that we trust it when it comes to ourselves if not our intuition and now the mistress does not trust yourself now then that seems to be don't put yourself in a stupid situation where you're gonna blow it which means you got to create some kind of fences the problem is what if yet what if you impose those fences on the people I mean it's not their fence you impose the fence so it's not like something that they're developing themselves with you see someone who does something stupid once and has all the negative emotions that come with having done something stupid that's then you impose stuff to create some kind of safety net for yourself so you don't wind up in trouble but when you impose that on so then they never develop their muscles they don't develop them into intuition so then you wind up with lost people because they just don't know where they are because they never they never pushed any limits to get the push back because there's nothing like pushing limits in something getting pushed back like for example negative emotion that comes from someone who who's made mistakes you know here we're talking an Internet like concerns the internet like it internet does push back with negative emotion it pushes you back you know don't punch you right in the head you know make you feel like a dope for days you know if you if you make the wrong move there so and using the wrong move lasts for hours so so it's like it's a can knock you down hard and but then you get back up and when you get back up you get careful and then you develop yourself into someone you have a generation of people who've lost their intuitions so they're going to start becoming dependent on other people to help them make decisions but that's kind of hoping that the people making the decisions have intuition which they may they may not and and then the question is just Judaism one is doing that traditionally rabbis never told you what to do there was no such thing as a rabbi telling you what to do rally could give you a brother he could certainly let you know this is not this is what not to do but rabbis didn't used to take away free will because they don't want you to rabbits don't want you to not get reward for your choices you see if you take away someone's free will because you've made all kinds of choices for them so then they're not rewarded for that and the only reward they get for that is I guess listening to the rabbi but but all the micro decisions that usually are the reward I got taken away by the rabbi who has you know taken away that there you know the choice by whatever Tucanos whatever types of rules or regulations they may create to protect their environment the environment of their students as well and there's that they've removed a bit of the free will this is why also an outreach in outreach I I push really hard when I'm reaching out to someone and then I stop even though I couldn't completely close the deal on the spot meaning I will push real hard to the point where this guy's like if I go on for another ten minutes he's gonna have no free will but to become observant she's gonna have no free will until she becomes observant cuz it's you know you can if you know enough about how to do this kind of work and cure you can push so hard that there's there's not a lot of free will left but I'll never go there never go there when I get to that point I back out and give them their space to make some choices for their lives I don't I don't push hard there cuz cuz God did not create the world for you to do mitzvahs God created you for the world for you to choose to do mitzvahs and you didn't create the world for you to do the mitzvahs in the world me to choose to do the mitzvahs and so you got it it's gotta be a choice you make and therefore as a leader in Judaism our job is to create that's we're just we're here to create the conditions of your choosing not to make your choice and that's that's the way things used to be but many in many groups there's people are abdicating to the to the rabbis in a major way and and and with all the you know the constant to Kaunas how do you say to kind of safeguard rules in the communities they people I believe are losing their intuition now if someone chooses to say hey I'll lose my intuition I just don't want to fall no intuition for me thank you I'll just fall I mean sorry I'll just be protected from falling by being blaming this group is that okay can someone choose to do that what do you guys think is that all right meaning if you choose to say you know what forget my instincts forget my intuition forget all that I'm just joining a group that is completely and totally sealed and safeguarded from sin and we're not even gay so we don't even have to think we're just gonna do you know toran mitzvahs and everything's gonna be protected for us what do you think that's is that okay choice for an individual to choose to do that what do you guys say no you're making that choice you say yes okay so the answer is yes and no yes it is a choice and it's up to them yeah it's your life you know you want to make safeguard yourself like that go ahead but you know the issue pops out where would the issue pop up hmm oh yeah I mean yeah we spoke about that you're definitely prone to fall if you're in that situation you could fall art because you know what you're doing when it comes to falling time by the time you realize you fell you're already in Vegas so what's what's the issue the issue is your children who says who says your kids meaning little kids okay they're born and raised in it but who says your teens a raising teenagers a father and mother have no muscles because they're so busy being safeguarded by the community standard who says your teens are in who says they're interested in it so is it really a service to your children I mean it might be great for you but what about the kids and so maybe it's better to teach the kids how to flex their muscles a little bit now all of this that I'm time that's all theoretical four people were raised in the karate society the modern orthodox are already doing this and for the most part it's been more or less a failed experiment meaning they're either much more modern than the art worth attacks or they totally reject the modern orthodox upbringing and they become totally you know her ad black hat experience so they've already done this and it wound up being a lot more modern than it was Orthodox and then the and then the few that the few that didn't go that way rejected that and went for them went go for the black hat thing because they want more protection spiritually so where does that leave us what are we supposed to do what are we supposed to do with that is there such a thing as ultra-modern Orthodox anyway so there is an answer there is a solution to all of this you ready for it the solution for all of this problem that I've created here I created the problem and the reason the rate the solution to this is is Jewish spirituality is that forget everything I said just spend your time committed to spirituality so that your kids see parents for a highly spiritual people when it comes to dealing with things that require muscles like where you live or internet or or all the other option things over there you'll make your choices there I mean how much you want to let in and how much muscle building you want to do for yourself or your children or have your children building muscles probably a good idea they should build muscles so it's didn't it sounded like I was leading you all towards we should be giving our children a chance to build their own muscles and not overly filter our lives so that we have intuition and instincts so that we let the world push back so that we can find the contours of the world our environment the answer is yes I am how are we supposed to do that when we know that the whole Modern Orthodox experiment went way towards the mater and not took much towards the Torah so the answer is spirituality because unfortunately so much of the black hat world is much more into the doing than the being of it they're much more into the doing than the spiritual connection in the modern Orthodox world they had a pretty good system set up it's is that it wasn't about spirituality it was more like you do mitzvahs and you are totally integrated in the modern secular society well if you leave out spirituality in either one it fails but if you put spirituality and committed spiritual life in both saneras they both work so you can meet a modern orthodox person who's so connected and you can meet a rating person who's so connected but what the reason why you'll meet both of them is so connect is because they spent their time dedicating themselves spiritually to that connection so that turned out to be kind of a short class so let's in that one share it and we'll start again vision if you like that's that class