Attribute #7: The Strongest Relationships Are the Ones That Were Broken

[Music] welcome to our class in the great work by rabbi maisha cordovero taimed via the palm tree of dvira class number 10. this series is dedicated in the merit of being young in yes for a complete and speedy recovery and many long happy and healthy prosperous wonderful years with his parents it's also dedicated in the merit of shalom and malcolm and david and sipoira for a complete and speedy recovery of many long and healthy years are vasanam tavis to all of them amen kane yehi ratzing in the previous classes rabbi marcia cordovero showed us how in our lives we can reflect the first six attributes of the thirteen divine attributes of compassion indicated in micah chapter seven michael zayn mikhail overall they represented the first six divine attributes of compassion who is a god like you who bears iniquity who cleanses transgression for those who are one and connected to him he does not hold on to his wrath forever he is the one who desires and loves generosity and kindness and now rebecca cordovero brings us to the divine attribute number seven and that is indicated in those two words yoshov let's look inside housain the seventh attribute is yoshivirakamenu he will he will again have compassion on us what does this mean says god does not behave like humans of flesh and blood if my friend got me upset and provoked me towards anger show me even when he appeases me and we reconcile with each other very often misrats and ma'at like it's very hard to go back to the original state of affection and love we all know this once a relationship is broken even if there's trust even if there's forgiveness even if there's reconciliation misratsumat he will be somewhat appeased but it's usu it's often very difficult to get back to that original innocence that original love that existed but if a person betrayed your boner and if i betrayed the will of hashem from me and then i have remorse and i repent i do true then it's the other way around not only do we go back to the original relationship god cherishes this relationship even more this person is considered of a much closer friend than original than how he was originally vahnu this is what the talmud the gemara says in brachis says the place where bali chuva with those who do true but those who return stand the complete and wholesome righteous people cannot even stand so not just does the jew who betrays god and comes back reached the same level of the relationship as it was originally before the sin it's actually a much deeper and more intense and more loving relationship but why tom the reason is as ghazal explained in pericarboy the gemara says over there it says hashem that god created our world through the letter hey by the world to come the letter yud and our word our world with the letter hey why hey so the gomorrah says is a very interesting letter right there's a roof on the top there is a line that extends on the bottom there is a leg on the left side but there's a little space on the top and then it's completely open on the bottom so you might say it's called a pavilion an open pavilion it's open on the bottom by the way you could follow in the source sheets either open up your own time inverter you can go to the yoshima.net that's t h e y e s h i v a dot net go to time with vira number 10 or any time advert they're all the same and you view the source the source sheets are the same and you view source sheet on top of the video you could download the source sheet below the video so our world was created from the letter hey why hate from all the twenty two letters of the ibrahim and why hey so the mario says because the hay is built like a pavilion chicago writes a lot this may illuminate whoever wants to leave his world can leave what does this mean pearish the world was created with the letter hey every letter of the hebrew alphabet is a channel for a certain divine energy so the divine energy that creates this world is the letter hey now what what does this mean specifically the unique characteristics of our world unlike the higher spiritual worlds is defined by the letter hey but why she says god created this world where there is an opening a whole side of the hay is open where a person could fall a person could fall into toxicity can fall into promiscuity could fall into immorality and it's a wide space it's not like there's a little tiny hole in the hay that you could fall through no the entire bottom of the hay is open which means you have to know living in this world we have to know we are vulnerable we are extremely vulnerable if i do not discipline myself if i don't really um have control over my life how i wake up how i go to sleep where i look where i don't look what do i do in the morning what i do in the afternoon what i do in the evening a person can easily easily kalila fall we can fool we can fall into surrender fall into depression fall into anxiety fall into fear and insecurity fall into immorality fall into laziness and addiction of making bad choices this is the vulnerability that a human being is subjected to in this world this is the feature of islam hazard not any other world this is wherever you look there's no angle we're not going to find the ability to surrender to brutness and to the eight sahara to the evil inclination and to a life filled with blemishes and toxicity it's like a pavilion which is talmud is basically like because you have a roof right and you have a few beams but it's open there's no fences this is a world in which it's very easy to fill because there's no fentanyl appeared to dial it there's a huge breach protsol mata which is open towards the side of negativity which is the bottom of the heck because the top of the hay is covered and you have the leg on the right you have the leg on the left but on the bottom which represents the fact that a person could fall downwards you're not falling upwards you're falling downwards with sad mata the famous expression of rab mayor of prime minister if you're anchored above you're tied you're connected above you won't fall below but if i'm not connected above it's very easy to fall down below call me shiroid salat anybody who wants to leave his world what do we mean leave his world he wants to leave the world of of goodness of normalcy of of centeredness of balance a world of equilibrium a world of sobriety a world of of authenticity a world of truth you can leave and then i'll numb my pain with all types of distractions come a pisce there are plenty of openings there's plenty of opportunities there's no sign that i'll turn to that i will not find a breach that will allow me if i choose to surrender to sin and transgression and enter the world of externalities means the world of externality basically the world that is external it's not an internal world it's not an authentic world it's the world of shells of husks of cover-ups the world that denies who we are really and what the world is which is essentially we are all part of oneness we're all part of divinity but kitsainum is the world of externalities external distractions external cover-ups husks that camouflage truth but white you fall but there's an opening on the top remember that hey look at that hey there's a roof on the top there's a leg that comes down on the right side that's attached to the roof there's a leg on the left side but on the top of that left leg there's a little space so that even if you fall on the bottom because it's open on the bottom you can climb up and get back in to the real world through that space the door is never closed for return vehicular asks the gemara a question menachem tests why don't you come back through the same opening the same opening that allowed you to fall just climb back in if a door is open it allows you to leave you can come back through the same door why does the hay need an opening on the top for you to get back into the picture just go back in and see the gamora mistake mostly it won't work out it's not going to happen why won't it happen why won't it happen so this is what ramak is going to explain now ratsuba's what they meant to say is somebody who does trouble who returns it's not enough for him to have the same fences that that saddik that the righteous person has somebody who never fell who never sinned a small weak fence will be enough because he never went into that world somebody who has failed somebody who has stumbled somebody was transgressed and then they recreate their life like asphyx that small flimsy fence of that saudi won't be sufficient he has to be much more careful he has to be much more assidious much more attentive he has to have serious discipline and serious boundaries because that small fence that i once had that was breached and if i get back to that place it will be very easy for my it's her of my negative inclination to entice me to do it again electronically i have to distance myself completely take for example somebody who's an addict somebody who was never addicted let's take alcohol you can drink wine you could make kiddus you can drink four cups of wine you could say a nice lakayama purim as it says in gemara maguilla davizaya you could make a toast wonderful gazunte but somebody who was addicted to alcohol he can't just say oh i'll have a little bit like that saddik says no no no no that little bit is not offense for you because you are very weak the same is true with certain people who have other addictions or other proclivities or other instincts you need to stay away from it you need to be much more serious much more attentive because you are vulnerable you have been there you have fallen you have tasted you have got stuck somebody who's living in a more innocent place they can get closer to it because it's not so enticing but i who have a weakness i've been vulnerable you have to be much more on top of your game don't compare yourself to that person who never struggled and fell in these areas this is the metaphor that our sages are saying i can't go back to that opening where i fell through ali is allah the economist i have to climb up and going through a narrow door the top of the hay the asaka is which represents the fact that i have to create different boundaries for myself that are narrow i have to narrow things in i can't just be this expansive person who can experiment with everything no no you want to fool yourself you can fool yourself but you know that you're weak you know that you're vulnerable so you've got to go in through that narrow door you have to restrain yourself you have to discipline yourself for yeast my process you got to plug you got to close off those breaches i can't go back in from that same space i need to find a different opening is greater than the tsadek where the bolshova stands it's how they can't stand as the talmud says because they did not go in through the same entrance like that saddikam said that they could be with them el ninctaro they had to work very diligently they had to come up through the door on the top the opening of the top with sigvuatzman they had to mortify they have to challenge themselves very deeply they have to work through a lot of toxicity and dirt venivdal but as a result of this they become more separated from sin more than the tsatik because they have to work through the filth because they have to work through the addiction because they have to work through the traumas and the weaknesses and the insecurities this is a paradigm he's giving us a paradigm about people who struggle with so many different things in life it's so much more difficult but yet because i have to work through these things i come to places inside of me that are far deeper than what the tsadek will ever touch because i have to really work through darker places and find the light there so you're going to just reach deeper places inside your core that nobody else has to go to uncultivated roads very powerful like and therefore they ascend to what's known in kabbalah as the fifth chamber of ghanaian which is also represented by the roof of the hay which is number five stand at the entrance to the fifth chamber at the entrance into the pavilion but the balchuva actually gets to the top of it deep deep into it because he has to climb up all the way and get into the hay from the top he has to really work much more much harder when a person does truth now what's the meaning of the word shiva the new tosh of hey it says in zoya shuva is a combination of two words tashoo of hey teshuva the hay shall return al-mukhema to its place god's name is made up of four letters yud and hey and vav and hey and those four letters are reflected in our own soul and sin is when the hay gets separated from the previous three letters there's disalignment and the person gets broken and fragmented true is you bring back the hey the hey represents the shrina the divine energy that is manifested in life and when a person loses their connection with infinity that hay goes haywire it gets fragmented truva is bringing the hay back restoring it back to its place so that god shrina now lives in me he doesn't bring me back to the first love eliot the love is much much deeper and profounder baha'inu yoshovirakamenu this is the seventh attribute he will yoshovirakameno what is yoshovirakamenu you remember he will again have compassion in us but here he's saying yahshua means not just he will have compassion again the compassion will be increased he will refine them and bring them even closer than they were were before he will return us back to him with more compassion than even before that's the seventh divine attribute what does this mean in my life in your life can we live this way with other people don't hold a grudge an enmity because of a previous anger alex when you see that your fellow your friend is seeking your love yi allah you should display to him compassion and affection even more than before vyoymen and he should say you should say uliq he's like even the greatest cannot stand in the spiritual place where the balchuba where the return he stands via carveyou tachleskurva and you should bring him closer to you with the ultimate closeness of islamic even more than you bring close to you the righteous individuals who have never sinned towards you this is an amazing idea so there are people i'm friends with i'm acquaintances with it's great then we have a great relationship and i never wronged them and they never wronged me and there may even be a sincere and and profound friendship and love and then there is that colleague or that friend who has maybe betrayed me did something wrong or said something wrong or the other way i did something to him or to her whoever it is and this person now wants reconciliation they come and they ask forgiveness they say let's go back to that place so sometimes there's a side of me that says never never i'm never gonna trust this person and even even if we're gonna go back to something similar to the original relationship it's still going to be somewhat less than the original relationship he says learn from god and say you know what not only should you forgive him can you allow your heart to become even closer to this person because remember this person apologized this person had to work through the betrayal your relationship could now reach a much deeper space if you're both sincere we're not talking about if he or she is not sincere they're just trying to deceive you or trying to you know play nice and they're not we're talking about a real person now you're actually capable of a much deeper relationship you see this in a marriage all the time you know the strength of a marriage is how they deal with the marriage after the conflict after the fight because when you could connect through the weakest link then you become stronger than ever when when everything is perfect it's also a very weak relationship but when you have to work through the imperfections and the flaws and you could still find common ground and you could find room for forgiveness says now you're capable of a much much deeper connection and relationship cherish the opportunity don't just accept this person's apology allow yourself to become closer than you were ever before thank you this class is brought to you by the yeshiva.net please help us continue the classes make even a small contribution at www.theyoshiva.net donate