Chassidus Monday | Likkutei Torah Zos Chukas #2

[Music] B good morning everybody I'm sorry for my delay [Music] is par this week on Thursday we began the first MIM from [Music] the which is Page 2 page 111 in the English in the Hebrew it's n colum 2 it says for [Music] Pare the [Music] today's class is dedicated by an not bravman in the Merit of Nami amen thank you very very much all the okay what was the main point we learned in the first [Music] Shear so just before we begin um we're going to basically continue the M today and then the next tomorrow morning there's a share for women as usual 9:30 here you could tell your wives or daughters or sisters or relatives and uh tomorrow night Tuesday night there'll be a faan a big faan here in connection to the yard site of the Reb theb the 30th yard site which is giml tonight tomorrow it's going to be tomorrow night in 20 next door upstairs 8:30 p.m. everybody's invited it's for men and for women with a M and children everybody is invited That's Thursday night and I'm sorry Tuesday night Tuesday night and Thursday morning we'll have the regular she 7:45 okay what was the main point he began let say the to begins it's also that we read before speaks to Mo he says this is the law of the to that hasem commanded saying and what's the law and he goes through the whole law speak to the Jewish people the whole the whole mitzvah the red the red cow and burn it with the ashes and mix it with the water and sprinkle it on somebody who's Tomas impure so he started with a few questions first question was starts so grammatically it should have said he says it's like he's talking about someone else if you say the yank spoke to schm right and yank said this is the law that I'm telling you this is the law that yank is telling you no this is [Music] what also why does it say here that this is the law of the focuses on the word why it's called a asks a general question why it's every law is here the introduction so he started off with a that there's three dimensions in were engraved is written was written later but essentially was transmitted through the mouth Bal and the difference between engraved and written which we learned last time at length and he said through this mitvah you're going to access the engraved the dimension of the way it's engraved should be able to come into and then then be able to come [Music] into Hees not just L to fulfill to do to execute L to make it to create it last is to make from it there's a co- created there's a major creative element that's we say in you make them and he brings a few for this in order to explain all of this what does this mean how can a person ACC as this and create it and what's the connection to so he starts explaining the concept of that was the main theme we learned last week last last year Thursday the first year of this m the concept of speaking about like we say the Holy Angels the Angelic beings the the the sacred animals if you [Music] want these they're always in a state of R and also in a state of sh R means running yearning longing and Sh is returning and the explanation is the is also refers to the the whole the life force of the world is in a state of R and a state of sh and it's reflected in the heartbeat of a human being it's reflected in the breathing process of a human being the heartbeat and breath are essential to life that's how a person lives if there's no circulation of blood for a very short time there can't be again if there's no breathing that inhaling and the exhaling again the person doesn't get the oxygen we need the blood and we need the oxygen in order to be able to give to the body so to tap into on any level till the very physical what we call there's always a there's a and that's why there's inhaling and there's exhaling there's the heart expanding and the Heart Contracting which is what allows the blood to exit the heart and go through the whole circulatory process the Mahal what we call CC culation through all day vum ultimately giving the oxygen that we inhale and the nutrients and distributing it Distributing it literally uh Distributing it to every cell in the body without that the can't be there why is it in this system it's because in this system it exists on all levels on all levels it's always a of what is this in a then he so he spoke there's two Tas one is the T of longing of Yearning of pining the concept [Music] of there the element of fire which is a which is a thirst which is a pining and that's the which allows the person to transcend whatever k whatever container they're in right search ing for for more searching for more and not becoming stuck or complacent or smug and that's always the says so the is the yearning of the heart it says in that's introduction many people say it on Friday of shabas put it also in the so over there he speaks about is connected like we say in the morning so is always connected with his b in the truth in the Infinity of hem and he gives the whole his b even the source of life is I don't want I want you yourself and he brings here as uh he brings the that we always talk about the writes theas they used to hear dur would say don't want I don't want want I don't want I don't want your grenade in the alien because it's all it's all it's it's with you it's it's part of you but it's tful to you I want only you we have sitting here from shab shanan he's got a grandson of the balat from one of his daughters shanan was her name so he told me that still with Steinman Steinman so he told me that he was once sitting with ra and he said he wants to tell them over a v from the Al and he told him this V during his daving during his would say he said the whole told started to cry and he told him he says you yourself don't know what a profound Insight that is V that is so this is all the this is all the of and that's connected to the element of Fire which is The Thirst that's there's the opposite which is means to return acceptance embracing what is celebrating the present celebrating the present moment and he says sh away comes from a much deeper place you would think sh is the could be a you know just despair you just give up you know just you have breakfast today stop complaining you have an air conditioning you have breakfast you're breathing but the sh here is a sh that comes after theu if it comes after theu it's deeper than theu what's the and he says the this we explained at length comes from the concept of the awareness of that there's no there's no higher and lower because just like I F Heaven i f Earth put the concept of of of going up is not because he's present this is the of what we explained based on this what the [Music] said everything is like it says by says why does it say again they will all shove him they were all equal in goodness the obvious question is you can't say that about any person's life especially SAR her life went through a lot of lot of Gul a lot of M for 90 years she didn't even have a child it must have caused her a lot of pain there were times that she was abducted she was she was literally kidnapped by P the is it doesn't say they were all equal every day was the same s didn't live a predictable life I mean at 7 her husband was 75 and they uprooted their whole past and they started a new Journey to the unknown they they lived and S were Trailblazers they were they didn't have you know uh they didn't live in the house with a picket fence you know mowing the lawn every Sunday uh you know walking the dog and picking peaches from the backyard I me maybe they had a pick a fence around their home I'm not sure but the point is what's this not that she had a life every day was the same but what was the same was the goodness was the same she was always good in every state of life she showed up with her full goodness the software may have been different but the hardware the the T the goodness is always this there's an equality a state of equality that the person says this is a good day this is a hard day this is a bad day so then right here right now this situation this is everything this moment being fully present to this moment and all of its experiences and not all of the experiences may be always kak sometimes I have to work through something sometimes I'm facing adversity inside or outside sometimes it's very very severe unfortunately yeah we don't have to explain I mean sometimes it's real real challenges whatever they look like it could be in GM it could be in it could be internal it could be familial could be marital it could be things around us it could be our people there could be so many different things the the doesn't delegitimize doesn't minimize or undermine the the the nature of the reality but the perspective ofman means that right here right now there's a truth there's the the full [Music] truth and that's what CH and therefore does the concept of the returning and the embracing of the reality that was the main I mean we discussed some more things but that was the main the main point so these are the Tous and the AL says that all of yish is based on this because each one on its own could be a trip that's divorced from truth each one on its own could be and also a source of tremendous discontentment also an excuse for never being present and for being miserable and also creates it's a beautiful thing yearning yearning growth but always takes a could it could take a person away the same is true Shu Shu is a Gala thing but like everything it has its trap right sh could just be I get stuck in my comfort zone and that becomes another ra becomes another form of self worship the two [Music] that's of course reles to a line R is a line [Music] yeah yeah R is a line you're saying going [Music] up yeah and Sh you're saying is like a circle you're always equidistant from the center a complete circle is the same distance in every place the same distance from the center so yeah that's what he says of [Music] yeah yeah yeah wherever I am in this circle huh it's equidistant here it's and there's no higher and there's no lower so that's what he says this the second column you see the second column in the column two or 111 it's like 10 lines from the top the word starts the first word is all theas going higher and higher what we call that's all in m m is the way the Divine energy fills the world in other words it's tailor made to every world according to its chemistry so there's always expansion because how much light do you have access to how large Your Vessel is and when I expand the vessel there's more light we learned this at length shab the first the difference of and he explains there at length the tal and the right which is the earth that's integrated into the vessels so the vessels expand the awareness expands Consciousness expands which means you have access to more light more awareness more truth more depth [Music] and that's a continuous process and that's what is yesterday's doesn't do it for today last year's RI was trying to escape my shells my husks my blockages from last year but today there's another R because the journey is infinite like he said is in that 50,000 jues that's all in the light is filtered and diminished into each world and each creature according to its capacity so when I expand my capacity I open myself up to more truth and we all know this in life right the person you were 5 years ago is not the person you were today at least let's hope so you can ask your wife if it's true or [Music] not hopefully a better version yeah and that's the that's the real concept of growth I simply you know the same person you know you may have the it's the same person but it's not the same person there's so much more and what you took seriously maybe a while ago you know you see that this was all such a narrow narrow narrow perspective I simply didn't know reality you know some a person could realize their whole life they were living in a bubble they were living from such a narrow small place you know if expansion that's [Music] the but when you talk about what so right here it's just like up [Music] there above the space or the space how you see there's no space devoid of it but the way it's in the space is not limited to the experience of the space but there's no space devoid of it so it's also in the space because there a space devoid of it if it's it doesn't have to avoid anything it doesn't avoid anything saying fully present it's fully present [Music] always equally and equally present in every moment and in every situation so the greatest moment you'll ever experience is the moment you're in now and the most amazing place you'll ever be in is the moment is the place you're in right now and the most incredible person you meet is the person you're meeting right now and that could be yourself [Music] too 18 forche is the most amazing place you'll ever be in your life8 [Music] exactly 8:24 in the morning Monday is the greatest moment it happens to be it is the greatest moment because we're learning the that's just beside the point even from an objective scientific point of [Music] view that full present that full presence in life what's what does full presence come from you know that ability to be fully present it's this is everything you know so when the B says Hashem recreates the world every single moment yeah that means if I'm living with yesterday or with tomorrow I'm living with a life force that either was but it's gone or will be but it's not here the only the only meaning of life is to live with the present beat of Life the is the heartbeat it's like I'm going to live off yesterday's heartbeat it's not going to work yesterday your heart was beinga imagine a person takes a recording of their heartbeating you play this recording that's what I'm going to live off it's not a CD that you play MP3 I'm going to live off yesterday's oxygen I was breathing yesterday so we all understand the body doesn't do that but the Mind always does that I'm living off yesterday's credit cards and tomorrow's credit cards and yesterday's issues of course we remember what happened yesterday and of course a responsible person prepares you know if you have to do something tomorrow you prepare for it but where am I living living is always in the present moment of life and what is really life what what is life beyond the breath that is right now being channeled through me what I'm inhaling and I'm exhaling right that every breath that is really what life is it's the Gratitude it's the miracle of being a channel life right here right now and that has everything there's no and I just want to say it's not just you know it happens to be a gaka moment sometimes what I'm what I'm being confronted with is a very very difficult moment and the AV is a completely different a I may have to shift courses degrees but it's to be fully tuned in to right now right here right now that's what the relationship is not any distraction the Gratitude and the Miracle of this moment it's a very deep experiential it's a very deep experiential experience and it's hard because our mind doesn't you know our mind likes to control things our mind likes to put things in filing cabinets our mind takes us away from this very very fast what does it mean to be present I'm thinking about this my phone somebody's texting I have to check I'm bored but it's also okay that's also otherwise he would not cre yeah yeah Black Box yeah [Music] yeah that's what he say not only that this of is going to come out in the future is going to be so it's not just also down here you have the action precisely down here you have action the is precisely down here thei says and it's it sounds like a very very dismal a very dark na a very dark prophecy says has fallen so low she's not going to be able to get up again that's the expression in yes [Music] the the the virgin of Israel speak about the they'll never get up again it's like the fool was so bowed they'll never get up so it's a very very horrible it's like it's over you know this is like the ultimate death sentence huh that's another that's what it looks like it looks like they're never going to be able to get up again you know it's like when people felt after the Holocaust what people felt after the different it's like sometimes people feel it in their life it's like there's such a you're not getting up from this you just survive adjust says it's a whole different V you know why she's not going to get up again there's no way to get up to you can't be higher a [Music] in other words is a very very profound moment there comes a moment where you're not going to get up because you have reached your highest point you've reached your deepest point that's the V you reach a point where you can't go any higher in the sense that this has everything and sometimes that's reached in the in the is told in that lowest lowest moment when it seems that everything is gone there's complete vulnerability you're not going to get up again because you can't get any higher this is this is it this is it sometimes a person feels such a cure of such a closeness na in those moments because there's no ego there's no yes whatsoever there's complete it's complete in a paradoxical way down here you where you running to where you going to rise [Music] huh I don't know what to tell you that's how he touches usually I'm looking for an alah but you touch the ultimate ultimate truth which is is here right now fully like it says in if I go up to heaven I go into the is there so we you running that's the and this is through the Fulfillment of and in this world of action from this comes this is the element of water in contrast to fire fire is going up it's the thirst water goes down the says water is like a liquid so it always looks for the lowest surface Fire Rises by Nature so fire represents water represents fire is represented by which [Music] is right the heart is on fire you say the heart is burning with passion and he says is associated with which is what's the of what the what it's not the need to understand to comprehend to control it's so it's a paradox this this a tremendous spiritual yearning but it's coming actually from the person experiencing comes from the complete letting go I don't have to know what I don't have to Define it I don't have to Define things in a way defines things and that's why it runs away from definition sh doesn't have to Define things and therefore maybe all the truth is right here I don't have to Define I don't have to say this is what my life is this what my day is my family I don't know what it is I could say what what yeah what in the it's a state of openness always openness a state of openness never close the lid on things never Define right never close the lid it's all a form of control even very deep spiritual control but it's a form of definition requires definition it's not it's not a bad thing definition we live with definition this is a cup and this is a table and this is me and this is you that's how we live life without the Mal there wouldn't be a life this is not a tissue box this is not a table and that's not an animal and that's not a person yeah we live by definitions but there's also the element of saying ma what the question what that's that's and that creates a sh that creates a form of of acceptance of celebration of being fully present [Music] how does a person reach the state because this is a rhythm that is so paradoxical it's so paradoxical cuz I'm here I'm there who are yous this is what says that last day of his life the beginning of says literally means from hashem's right hand he gave us the fire of religion from his right me he gave us a fire of Das Das is like the religion the faith of the Jewish people to us but he says look at the Paradox here Das what anybody what's Das Das is religion it's always structure Das means the law right like it says in millas eser yeah I'm G to come not according to the law right means the religion the law of Israel what's they have a structure of religion there's a new word that the left convened in Israel you know what is to force religion on other people they speak now it's called you're trying to impose religion on everybody you know with the and T aiv all the stuff that happened before October 7th so Das is structure law that's what laws what's a a breaks all structure H is fire what's is the right and it's it's so which one is it so you have that's the whole was trying to say is is is is a creation of Ro and together that's why the greatest danger for Judaism is institutionalized religion what's institutionalized religion where everything becomes about worshiping structure that's what we spoke about it becomes a worshiping structure worshiping Comfort zones it creates tremendous judgmentalism which is based on ego so then there's the opposite extreme extrem is you break free from all boundaries that's not there manishma there there is very very detailed so what is it it's always it's where definitions don't imprison Infinity but they Channel Infinity we're not afraid of intricacies we're not afraid of details on the contrary life is made up through details through M if you say h we don't care about structure yeah don't tell that to your DNA your DNA does care about structure somebody say it doesn't matter it does matter and little tiny little things right in in in the DNA the sequence has changed just by fraction of a fraction the results could be quite catastrophic and cataclysmic the same is true in the universe you know when they say the devil is in the details it's not just the devil is in the details all of life is in the details are there any differences people we know some people cannot take too much structure they they feel imprisoned by that right some people that's true that's true that's why the is so important the the theate the the so important because the is the freedom of structure it's not getting into a structure that becomes a prison but the sh is the ability to really be able to contain to be able to access it in a person's daily life so it's the Rhythm that's what he [Music] says and I think for one one is easier like you saying for the other their nature another one is easier and that's fine different people have different different [Music] abilities I feel like we are always expecting from others what we the level we are so if we're like super religious then you expect everyone to be the same you're more relaxed you expect everyone to be relaxed but the truth says it's not like that every person has a different soul and a different journey and one person's maybe another person's Tru or converse one person's Tru Maybe another [Music] person's for two reasons first of all is right also May inab is associated with the right side kindness which is the right and then you have H do that's the H that's the left that's not is associated with the left [Music] arm says don't turn it into and don't turn it into It's a combination it's a chemistry it encompasses both dimensions this is at the foundation this is like the heartbeat of all it's living in a rhythm it's living in the heartbeat of Life [Music] of there's longing there's pining there's a daily battle for Transcendence which is and then there's complete celebration of what is [Music] which is the as scent of the feminine Waters called that's the sublimation of the self to a higher space the arousal from below and the flow of May is masculine Waters this is an expression in Caba and feminine Waters masculine Waters the feminine so to speak triggers and brings out the flow from the masculine M which is called theous from above that's like the A and [Music] the captures this in a very very Vivid way because has major two parts represents the burning of the cow into ashes that was unique for the had constantly you slaughtered the cow but now there was a mitvah to burn it and everything the says the whole par the Flesh and even Pi even everything Pi everything it became now a pile of [Music] Ashes but that wasn't enough now is you put Living Water Living Water means water from a spring you couldn't just use a from a Mikvah even though it's koser from mik rain water is not good rain water that goes into a sister goes into a bird is mik it's not it's not but this has to be what does it mean living water water that's right now alive because it was taken from a living Spring a spring that's flowing a May a May it's called May a living a living well and you put it in the K and then you mix the ashes into it and the a now goes into the ash so the water goes on the ashes that's called a mixture so what do you have you have fire to the point that's all burnt and then you need water so that's the and that's why here say this captures this all ofz every Mitzvah has it but in this is the Mitzvah this is the actual ual function the nature the fabric and the structure of the Mitzvah the the fire we spoke about and then [Music] the and this is how you access the will [Music] explain there's a long parenthesis here that goes till the till the end of the paragraph and he he's basically saying this that you have this in every Mitzvah but here it's expressed in a very in a very very Vivid way b p b the next page 112 let's begin with the first element the burning of the cow is it this week it says in the the C the Cav she receives energy from the left side side what what he mean by the left side so he brings the in in the vision of he saw on the right side on the left side in the middle in the vision of he saw on the left side the face of the Y on the right side the face of the lion that's what says and the par of course is the cow you have the sh and the par the same family the same species the bull the cow the bull is the masculine and the cow is the feminine so is connected to smile it's ma it receives from P it's like born from from the ax that's on the left what does this this is what says in Z what does this mean says the says with the left hand you reject with the right hand you bring close you Embrace that's what the gor says so he says this means is pushing away is you have it also you also have in spiritual energy have break the boundaries break through the Y and [Music] smile what's the difference of Y and Y from the right hand comes with a revelation of light with a sense of closeness there's a relationship that's what it means and that's why the the external realities what do we mean external realities external realities means that they're not in touch with their own P they don't see their P they're living off they're living off externals and the reason they're leaving of externals is because they don't see the truth of who they really are and of what reality is they can't receive from y why not because then they would be K the flow that comes with a sense of intimacy of Love of closeness I'm giving to you in a way that we feel the relationship they wouldn't be able to be they would feel who they are and what they are so that belongs to [Music] Holiness I love we say in the morning from Clippers we talking about Clippers Clippers means husks blockages shells they can only receive from means the back like the the H [Music] part like somebody throws something over their shoulders to give something to somebody they don't like they don't look at them you know if you have to give something to somebody I don't know some agreement in court you know you owe an employee who stole your business and you know RI ripped off a million dollars from you and you have to give them some severance pay whatever it is you're not going to look at them you know what I mean I'm not giving you this envelope with love I was forced Shin I throw it over my shoulder I don't even want to look at you you're giving them the money maybe you've giving them more money than you're giving your best friend but there's no relationship in the giving the money assumes an independent entity from the relationship there giving a present to somebody I love then it's not about the present it's about our relationship right some people make this mistake in marriage they think it's about the gift not about the gift it's about the card in order to be able to write a card you need a gift the gift is a in the relationship sometimes it's the opposite take the gift and leave me alone you spoiled brat leave me alone you understand the difference you gave something more expensive but instead of giving yourself you gave something instead of yourself that's the difference there's giving yourself but what should I give you I can't give you my nose I can't give you my hearts I give you a gift because I'm trying to give me you I'm trying to give you me and then there's a second gift I actually I want to keep you away from me I'm not trying to give you me I'm giving this instead of you this is very very important a very unbelievable and that's the whole everybody gets everything from hasem with do clip have from everything is from but it's a completely different relationship in it's not about what I'm giving it's about who's giving it this presence it happens to be I'm giving you life but it's about the relationship it's about our closeness so there's no separation what's clippa the whole idea of clipp is it takes the gift boom I don't even know who it came [Music] from and that's what SM is SM doesn't mean we like we touch he pushes you away no if it's coming from hasem he's giving but the giving is something that you could take it in a way that you feel you you don't know where it comes from you're pushed away that's what he's saying you understand we say in the when the comes out the enemy gets crushed says he took and he put it backwards in other words the became concealed what came out was [Music] SM so after after after after one another you have an entity called what's they only hold on to the external version of reality they think they're holding on to reality but it's only the most external version of reality because it's stripped from the soul that's present there and that's the difference of and SM also gives but it's giving in a way that I'm not looking I'm not revealed and present here so on the contrary what I'm giving you becomes a distraction it becomes a be it it becomes a he in the relationship rather than relationship [Music] itself because smile in its origin smile in its origin is not going to create because it's still it still felt what it is where it comes from but after filtering another filter another filter there comes a point where it's completely detached even though it's not detached when's it's it's it's a it's just it's a it's a it's you say It's A din in the relationship it's part of the connection there's always intimacy and that's the difference between and means Holiness what does klippa mean klippa means a shell a husk right inish it's called clipp the clip of a p the peel what's what's the definition of a peel so this is the example when I look at a banana I know that there's a banana there I there's a peel the peel is there to protect the banana I know that an orange peel has under it an orange I don't get deceived by the [Music] peel cliping it's Essence is not a concealment completely it's a shell it's a husk but then there comes a point where the Clipper becomes the reality I don't even know that there's something inside the Clipper even though there's something inside the Clipper becomes like you like a a walnut you know in a walnut you really have to crack it's hard you have to take a nut cracker and crack it cuz it's a thick dense Clipper now with a walnut we happen to know that there's a nut inside but it's just an example in cabal it's called then you have a grape for example you could even see the grape through the Clipper that's called clipp it's a translucent shell you could see the inside through the outside but sometimes you can't there's no access to it so what does this idea mean spiritually it's called Clipper why is it called Clipper Clipper means any reality that covers up it's called opaque it covers up it's dense and it eclipses it's it's it eclipses it covers up the true essence of what it is that's the definition of clip how can that be right now its entire energy is divine that's the difference of Y and smile when I give something in a way of Y what's focused is what the focus is the closeness the relationship ship the the thing I'm giving is just in the relationship the main thing is that there's a relation there's attachment but then you give something in a way that that itself becomes the reality and the attachment is not the focus here the attachment is what I got not who gave it to me when the attachment when the connection of what I got who gave was now what happens in the beginning it's still I got it from you but I'm celebrating this but after one simum another simum another [Music] simum it's like who are you this becomes the whole reality and that's the old that that's what he means in the beginning it's like wow you know you gave it to me but the focus is on the thing in kadus the focus is on the relationship on the attachment that's why clippa always looks for things I need another thing another thing another thing because I don't realize it's about the connection it's about the relationship that's more important than anything like taking a marriage right if if the husband or the wife they're looking for another thing another thing another thing what's missing I need another what's missing is the point is missing it's good to give a gift if it's a nice gift but only as a flow it's part of a flow same as true with children right go on the computer but leave me alone hey you want another tablet give another tablet you want another game but leave me alone it's not what the kid needs but at some point the kid all only asks for that why because if I can't get the source at least let me have this to entertain myself and then you know it's bad news you know when the tablet is much more exciting than tati and Mommy much more exciting because that became the new reality so clip it's always looking for things it's it's not that from the source and that's why it could be completely detached that's the difference of Yin and [Music] smile so this real asah means not giving something it's giving you it's giving me I'm giving something but this me I'm here you're here so it's me to you it's a relationship it's attachment that's [Music] I'm giving for my I'm actually giving not me I'm giving this instead of me I don't want to give me you I don't want to give you me I don't want to give me to [Music] you so this becomes a distraction what allows Clipper to become Clipper the inion of smile that's why there could be a reality that its entire identity is divine energy but in its own mind it's completely detached or self-contained to the point that on the lowest level it completely eclipses its source so that's [Music] what the was to repair this inion to repair this relationship literally to repair this [Music] relationship I'll tell you a very uh sad story I heard from the Bala from the story of the person himself his name is Rabbi Shalom lipsker from the schul in B Harbor Florida if you ever go to B Harbor they have the shul and the rabbi of the SCH is RAB Shalom biper so I once heard the story from him he said that a father came to see him a man came to see him a very very wealthy man in Florida it's a horrible story I'm just warning you but it it captures this quite well unfortunately the man says he has a dilemma he was married he had a son theor says this man decided he liked somebody else so he started to go to somebody else his wife caught him and the marriage fell apart and she left him and he gave her a get he gave her a divorce and he remarried not re he married The Other Woman his son was a teenager at this point and of course his son blamed this woman for breaking up the family so the son really hated this new woman that came into his life and they would always poke at each other and the son would constantly you know he obviously wouldn't listen to her said you're not my mother you're you're a force of evil in my life and she went back at him and back at him and his second wife gave him an ultimatum if you want me to stay in the house you have to get rid of your son if he stays in the apartment I'm not staying here anymore now son was a teenager so he tells her by lipsker I calleded my son one day and I said I have a big problem I love you but you can't stay in the house any so he gave him he says here keys I rented for you a beautiful beautiful apartment on the beach a few blocks away beautiful and the ocean view amazing he gives him another set of keys I have a car for you it's a car he gives him a credit card and he says it's unlimited the bill will come to me and then he gives him an envelope with a lot a lot of cash thousands of dollars of cash you know spending money he gives it all to him and he says but you can't come back into our apartment and if you need anything I'll come visit you I'll come to you but you can't come back here so the kid takes the keys and takes the credit card and takes the cash takes out all the cash and the keys throws it throws it back at his father he say I don't need your house and I don't need your car and I don't need your keys I don't need your credit card I don't need your cash all I wanted was a father and he left room so he comes to AB Lipan and he says what am I supposed to do I don't have a happy end to the story I'm just telling you what I heard from him right so here you have a classic example now this kid at least articulated it he got it children usually don't articulate it because either they're embarrassed or they don't have that awareness or that level of conscious perception but that's a classic example I gave you everything but I gave you nothing think because what you really needed you didn't have yeah like it says in it's better to eat some dried out vegetables with somebody you love than fat beef with somebody you hate you know you can have the most beautiful shoest dinner but there's no vibe there's no energy nobody wants to be there so you have the best food in the world but the food is not going to compensate the relationship when there's a relationship the food is a very nice uh accomp anent you know you can't have a with music music is n you need a you have music you have flowers you have a CER you have when the food becomes a distraction instead of the relationship that's what happens and that's the of in it's always a relationship there's a relationship in there's a distraction of the relationship the moments of distraction of the relationship now you have to compensate because there's a void there's a tremendous void so now I need more and more and more and more and more and more I don't feel the I don't feel the presence when you feel the presence of Hashem in your life then a little vegetable you're grateful for you come into a house there's presence you feel the presence of of a connection of relationship whatever there is there could be a broken couch but it's more valuable than a palace the a palace that extends you know three acres with with 17 B bathrooms and three tennis courts and a stable and nine pools with a jacuzzi ignited by solar [Music] energy everybody should have solar energy with jacuzzi with bathtubs with yeah but when it's a distraction then it's not a then it's poverty [Music] you know would you rather live in a house where there's you know 13 bedrooms and this tremendous but nobody connects to each other or a person lives in a little small apartment and it's it's not he comes from Ben so he knows what that means we're in m so we came from Brooklyn but even Brooklyn is not benra or you live in a little tiny but there's love people want to be there it's a whole different inion [Music] nobody no even even the when they're sitting at the table you everybody's on their phone I was once in Florida so I went somewhere to pick up food so there's a table there's a husband a wife and two children and they're sitting at a restaurant everybody's on their phone they went out to eat everybody's on their phone like this addicted you know I guess to get your son's attention you have to text him maybe he'll text you back hello I'm sitting against you what do you want to eat and you get the point so he says came since is [Music] the the says the first thing you do is after slaughtering the animal he takes the blood and sprinkles it seven times the wasn't made in the right it was made it was done in by the but you sprinkle it East to the east in the and you saw the door of the of the and you sprinkled the blood seven times [Music] there cover what's this idea the par is taken out and then its blood is sprinkled seven times towards the opening entrance into the Mish or later into the bikes so he says it's to be the pus of the the blood is the the Life Force to elevate its pus which is the which came from remember where does the par come from comes from the face of the axe and mer which is on the left side so it doesn't begin as Clipper begins as Kusha begins as the mer is the Chariot of hem The Chariot of the and that goodness is extended and manifested in the ax this to bring it back to its source that's what's sprinkling the blood is you're taking the and you're bringing it back towards the even though you're outside because you're in the par you're bringing it back spiritually you're sublimating it to the the because that is in it that's step one step two is you burn it you burn it to become ashes this was unique by the par sprinkling of the blood you had by all the beas allb you sprinkled the blood here wasn't in the was outside that was the whole point but then the second element is burning the whole thing into ashes what's this says whenever you burn wood and it becomes ashes the ashes that remains represents the core of the log of the wood that was burnt you take a log and you burn it the a what remains remains is the last thing standing everything is burnt up the last thing is the ashes it says in everything comes from the offer everything came from Earth but there's what we call another three that became that became part of itsus it became a hybrid a fire water and ear a is fire Ru is ear is water and they came they joined theer which is and that composite of offer the four elements create [Music] reality and that's what [Music] as you burn it up in fire as when you burn it up in fire the first three elements that got mixed in into making this a this dissipates in the smoke the smoke is created the smoke has an element of a and ru the so it dissipates and what's left what's left is the fourth element which is in the eight which is he calls it out it's Essence which is off Earth that's what remains and that's represented by ashes a a different way of saying it is everything has a and everything has a what's the difference means the material the the the is the brute material of it the is the form of it the form of it you always have the thing itself The Entity itself and then you have the form we give it everything this table The Entity is wood it's made of a certain type of wood that was taken from a certain tree but that was and then you have the the this is a table this is a stender this is a vessel this is this is a bookcase may be the same but the is different and because the is different it becomes a different entity it has a different fun function I can't use the book for a table I can't use theer for everything has its function that's the the the so he says when you look at the eights so he says the simple the pristine of the eights is the offer the element of Earth offer itself is Earth but what makes the of the eights the form of the a is so you have also a and when you burn it what are you left with you're left with the raw brute material that's represented by the offer by the AER so the burning disintegrates everything and it takes away all Theus and what are you left with you're left with only the core it takes away all the forms so here is using the model of [Music] the so I'm Associated today with liquid and gas and matter and energy or matter antimatter positive negative and when you take away all the all the elements right all the elements so you're left with the the the the core itself what called the what does this represent what does this represent so Al says like this every inion in life has two things the and the the is what it is the is what it becomes and it's never the same the is what it is without interpretation the is the form it takes so you have physically the form of a table the form of a tissue box it could have been a different form but what does it mean in a conceptual way the form of something is the way it's presented to us the way it looks to us the way we interpret it it's the interpretation we give to things the is the raw energy the is the form the raw energy takes and one of the big hardest things in life is to differentiate the from the the becomes so entrenched in the there's no without but it's not the same thing the is always an additional Dimension to [Music] the when you strip the from the Everything Changes you understand the but that takes a lot of Courage cuz you got to put it in the fire and let everything fall away all the Tas have to fall [Music] away when people talk about anything about their life you talking about the you talking about the so usually I can't differentiate anymore this is the story no no there's two parts to the story there's the story itself and then there's the story about the story you understand the difference what do they say ISAC what do they say in that program about the story what's what's the L [Music] huh it's not the story it's the story about the story there's the story itself that's a story there's the story right that I tell about the story that's that that's a whole different story and then there's the story I tell about the story that I told about the story and then after a couple of years I already don't know this story and the other billion stories that's stripping away the from the is everything because the itself is the that's true the I give it the meaning the interpretation the form that's a whole different story that's a whole different inion so a person can have an experience in life that it's a true experience what does that experience mean for you that's already The Sur that's not the story but the comes together with the Sur very fast so now years later I already don't know to distinguish and this is my but it's not it's what happened when I attach this to this what if I could strip the from the I could say I can give it a whole different [Music] Sur and this is a very very powerful invitation to a person to ask myself this is part of what we spoke before about the the always can be interpreted different ways it can mean different things the question is what Sur do you impose on [Music] the so for example a person will present their life as X Y and Z these are my challenges these are my blessings these are my gifts these are my resources these are my tragedies these are my [Music] issues and then say how much much of what you just said is and how much of it is if you go to the raw facts there could be a whole different interpretation but I don't come with raw facts I come with a whole a whole Litany of agendas and perspectives and expectations expectations is always a but the expectation that's the reality so this is a curse and this is horrific and this is horrible to take away the from the maybe you'll give a new Maybe not maybe you'll go back to the old Sur maybe not but can you distinguish between the and now here say something revolutionary that becomes probably one of the [Music] biggest the first one you have to do this is with your with your cow with your with youra with your passionate red animal Soul the beh that's inside of you you have to know the difference of the and [Music] the let's just look at another few lines just to get one major and then let's take a look this is this is an incredible incredible beer from just unbelievable the same thing we spoke about with the fire you have the animal Soul also comes from it's not just the cow you're animal too it Al all comes from which is the why is it an animal why is it not K why is it called a because it's from SM it goes through it goes through so theam defines itself as self-contained it's just trying to survive just like we spoke that from the comes remember from from the come and then goes to the and that's where the the their energy from go to the person same thing from my own part from from the mid from the emotions and the drives of that's where people have all their all their Cravings all their tus for all the pleasures in this world which may be permissible or they may be actually forbidden promiscuous so what do you look you look at you say fed right that's what you [Music] say say when a person wants anything a person has a a person has a passion I have a which you said where does that come from comes from the comes from the small which comes from so he says that thing that you're looking for you want that thing is a container for your desire there's a desire here maybe a piece of food it may be a crush on a person it may be anything in the world may be money maybe coved whatever it is power influence my phone my computer this experience this trip that thing is what I want but it's a k it's it's containing your Ron there's a desire here inside of me that this thing is now the k for my desire it's the container for my desire [Music] then you have the thoughts and the words they're also they're all I'm thinking about this I'm thinking about this I have a crush I have a flirtatious I have this Crush I have this desire have this yearning and I'm thinking about I'm talking about it these are all o what are they they're for they they're somehow channels for your desire certainly the action to do it don't confuse there's the and there's the the is the form of the desire but then there's the what you're looking for the is what you look the r itself not what you're looking for in terms of How It's expressed that's the K to the r what's the if you strip away all theas if you strip away all the forms you R took a form I want you I want this I want this I want that okay I get it that's all what you want in terms of the form now what do you really want go back to the he says then there's the I want this I want this but the that's not the that's the Sur that's the shape the wood took on sometimes you may want the worst thing in the world the r wasab the r put on clothes of a of a toxic or negative and it's it's bad it's not good it's destructive that's true but that's the of the it's not the it's not what you're looking for the of this the essence of this energy is not in the core it's a it's looking for something it's a that wants it craves it's passionate [Music] this energy could actually be directed towards pure goodness just like now it's directed to something that may be destructive so what do you mean so what happened there is a that hijacked it hijacked your it hijacked your will it hijacked your desire and it directed it this is what you want and now I think this is what I want and it's talking what I want he's not denying it and it may be it may be really really bad but that's called it's it's like you put on a suit that's dirty it's horrible and it smells so now you think you're dirty you're not dirty your suit is very very dirty the problem is that the suit I feel is me it's attached to me I don't know that there's a difference between me and the become so identified with the that is who I am it's not true he says it's not true so now the PO I'm gravitating he says to go away from is is a different nature you have to know what it is he says actually you could completely transform it to the other extreme where it's in love withus it really wants Deus well how could you do that because the is not bad it's not evil says my soul I desire you at night so the Z asks a question he brings in t grammatically you don't say my soul I want you my soul wants you or I want you it should say either or in in English thinking don't say my soul I want you my soul wants you or I want you my soul I want you based he's talking to you're my soul and therefore I want you that's not my soul I want you when I know what my soul is I want every person wants to live you want your soul you want your the moment you realize who you really are what your soul really is I want you doesn't want bad learned to want bad because that became its coping mechanism of how it's going to be alive that's what happened and that became the and now I don't know any other so what's the main AV disentanglement in biblical words you got to put the par in a fire you got to separate the from the that's all you have to do disentangle the from the that's the first step don't think the is the it's not it became the it's not the that's why shame the shame that we have religious shame and different types of Shame is sometimes the most destructive thing in a we turn shame into a big Mitzvah the more shaming more you could shame a b or a kid or a girl and tell them what a beh they are the better they'll become it's the exact opposite what does shame do shame puts the into the and now you think through shame you're going to liberate yourself you're not going to liberate yourself the whole of Shame is coming from the Clipper the biggest tactic of the is the shame the the whole is the opposite the disentanglement of Shame having empathy for the fact that my my desire to live was so powerful and it developed all these types of coping mechanisms which in its own mind and own brain this is what's necessary to live could you have empathy for that just have empathy for that yeah it's painful it's very painful but the word shame in terms of how evil you are it's the exact opposite it's disentangling it's actually saying you know what you're actually a very very good person you're a very very good person not only you're a good person this very energy that you think is horrible is actually a Divine energy and the moment it realizes what really life is that's what it's going to be looking for but unfortunately now I think in order to have my soul in order to have life in order to be comfortable in order to live this is what I need and that's what happens now think what is saying here you have here in 10 lines yeah 100 books in Psychology or more go think about it how many coping mechanisms do we have all the mid he says all the mid of the jealousy and hatred and anger and arrogance and insecurity and fear and confrontation you know fight and flight and freeze and fwn and melting away into Oblivion or narcissism egotism G all these mid and all the T that I have t or means all theis I have to all the I have and the list is sometimes very very long and is is an endless list because T doesn't even look bad but it's still T it's not what you need it's not what your body need it's not what your soul needs it's Tyas I'm eating a whole bag of potato chips yeah potato chips is not in hisory AOW to eat potato chips but it's dysfunctional it's it's something is off it's not good for the body so it's not good for the mind it's not good for the soul but it's an Escape so every one of these ERS that comes from theam not one of them has to do with your neam not one of them it all has to do with a mechanism that had developed and adopted throughout its life that somehow made it feel that this is what I need in order to live in this crazy world that's it if I want to live and I want to be comfortable this is what I need and now 50 years later 52 years later 60 years later whatever the number is 40 years later 30 years later I don't even recognize one from the other this is who I am nothing to do with who you are and fortunate is the person who can identify and recognize this and start the process of disentanglement you know in is a big word so people read this in all the you know so it's another M you know put it into but it's really the most important Word in Life what's the word in shabas yeah in shabas one of the what's is to select to separate you having your salad yeah mixed in garbage you want to separate Chas you're not let to that ber you're disentangling Theus from the you have to take the good from the bad if you're going to use the good right away you're allowed to do it it's not a of what means this disentangle disentangle from the dirt the is not dirty the itself he says can be transformed to The Other Extreme what you think is the worst could be the best it's an energy it's it's an energy and it's an energy that can go wrong it's an energy that can be distorted it's an energy that can be manipulated and exploited and can be completely hijacked by the ra but essentially it's not at all so this ability to be able to disentangle so now a person yeah is suffering from from Cravings from urning and they're always falling in it's anolog just Cravings it could be anger could be resentment could be even depression anxiety anxiety is a good one and unfortunately very very common take anxiety right I'm an anxious person there's something in the eye that is very very pure and it adapted a belief system they call it a schemo it de it it it adapted it's called a schemo it's like an underlying uh story that in my ne's mind anxiety is the key for [Music] survival and sometimes it's very simple it's not so complicated if I'm in Gaza I have to have some anxiety because any moment could send an RPG and I'm done so there's an element of dread there's an element of fear there's an element of everything you say and do be careful that's what war is unfortunately some people grew up with messages that life is very very unsafe you have to be on the alert 24/7 but alert 247 you can't just speak before you speak you have to think what are you going to say how is he going to look at it how is he going to look at it I can't just be free and I come there's hundreds of people now the anxiety goes up there could be a thousand enemies in the room who knows who's going to send the next missile that's going to not have anxiety actually your anxiety is is is the best part about you you're normal you're coming into a place with a thousand missiles if I grew up without safety without attach I never knew where the next missile is coming from especially if it was the middle of the night or Friday night etc etc of course I grow up what do you want me to be a free person I could be free I have to be anxious and more anxious and more anxious I have to think about every word I say a thousand times and what if I grew up without not knowing that myself thinking myself is evil so if I say something stupid it's going to bring out how horrible is I'll be ha it so everything I say I have to be self-conscious and I have to copy other people is it the good thing to say not the good thing anybody really to what I'm talking [Music] about huh this is [Music] it this is the conversations we have to start having in our community for people to become healthy there's such stigmas about talking about anxiety and struggles and and everyone is people are struggling like crazy you go around here from person to person just interview them for five minutes but no everybody's perfect everybody's perfect it's killing people it's p killing people that nobody could talk about their their uh their uh nobody could talk about EMS anymore it's like we're all perfect we come from perfect [Music] families I'm not talking about you there's always an exception every CL has a but we should bring your wife one day to the she and find out what's [Music] happening have huh he doesn't have hair that's true that's true he has gray hair because he comes to the Shia and he hears all the issues so we look at all these mid the first you said about mid is and I have to know it it's all nothing to do with they're all coping mechanisms that my poor ne's brain adopted over many many years usually the formative years and this becomes the operating system with which I I don't even do it consciously it's not conscious somebody calls me and I'm anxious this person has to get up to speak they're anxious person walks into Mitzvah they're anxious your wife says something you're triggered your kid says something you're triggered what is all this these are all neam alarm systems that's basically if you want to survive in this world these are the Midas that I develop and the same is true the yearnings and the cravings and all the tyus and talk about addictions yeah when he speaks here about tyus it includes all tyus but it's also addictions and all the fears that we have even I'm getting overwhelmed even a person I'm feeling lazy I'm not interested I'm depressed you're not depressed and you're not lazy and you're not uninterested and you're not angry and you're not jealous even your NE Shamus is actually a wonderful beautiful cute adorable animal and we love it but this poor little animal this poor little calf this poor little par paruma that was born a very innocent par yeah it developed all of these copy mechanisms in order to survive and that's what happened and now years later this is where I am I'm walking around afraid I'm walking around timid I'm walking around insecure I'm walking around self-centered I'm walking around burdened overwhelmed these are theas that I developed in order for my to survive in my perception of what my neam needs in order to have a chance to live and survive and you know what she actually did a good job how do I know you're here she did a good job you have to even you have to even sometimes thank it in her own mind she did a good job yeah maybe she pul put up put on too many bulletproof vests maybe she was hiding too much in trenches and ditches but you know what she survived you're here you even got married you even built a family you even managed to have children who are now struggling so you managed to create a new generation of dysfunction we all did that but we're here to tell the story and to start to repar the work of repairing and the work of repairing is always the work of distinguishing between and it's very hard to disting because the it's a it's a form this table is a table it's not a piece of wood anymore it's a table now make an nice table it's not so simple with a table you could you know break the table break it up into pieces it's still not going to be that original log how do you do that and there's a whole a whole when it comes you know to and all these things if you make a change that can go back you make a change that can go back not every in physicality to be able to go to be able to go back to the you have to go through all the blockages remember the biggest one of the big biggest survival mechanism is that you shouldn't know this you shouldn't know this this is one of its wor worst enemies if you know this you're going to go back to the original wound it's dangerous so you don't know this nothing happened we don't realize the biggest success of the Sur is that it's not a it's that's how it survives it's not telling you this is a this it's not who you really of course this is who you are that's how it protects you that's how if you think deep down you're evil it's not going to let you know that it protects you so well with all these mechanisms there a system in ifs they call their F firefighters and and managers and protectors this is all the Clippers that come in and write away take over the systems to to keep you safe there's like alarms that go off and you have to you have to give the neous credited did an amazing job of survival amazing [Music] I like your question that's I like just that you're asking is already a good thing the fact P to mention that's not a problem the more P you are the easier it is to do the less smart the better that's true we all need help yeah we all need help yeah this is what they have to be teaching kids in school this is what they have to be talking in yeshivas this is what they be talking in seminars this is what B and girls should be comfortable talking about this is what a classroom conversation should be and the only way it can happen is if the teacher could be vulnerable the teacher is this perfect product of our system on a pedestal who never had a problem in his life he's just perfect so every kid who's struggling and which kid is not you tell me one kid that's not struggling and the deeper kids are struggling more because they're more intelligent right the deeper kids are struggling much more the more intelligent people are struggling more you know the deeper Souls struggle more because they're more sensitive their antennas feel more so I'm like this loser and this shame and and you know you tell a boy if you only learn more you only DAV more if you doish everything will be fixed yeah you should learn and D but some there's nothing to do with that the kid is learning and D they're struggling with something so now they feel they're not learning enough they're not DAV now they learn and Dav more and they're still miserable so now I didn't learn enough and Dav more and the poor kid is suffering in silence and there's nobody to talk to CU I'm not going to reveal this because then I'm going to not have a good and I won't get into the right Yesa and who thinks I'm the best B who ever lived in history since there was no B like me yeah is now going to have a heart horrible horrible perception of me and that's the only thing I have the only thing I have is that in the yes a father told me that told him if you leave your so I'm in the and now you want me not to have that what what else do I have love I don't have attachment I don't have self-esteem I don't have authenticity I don't have one thing I have is and then next Toki so you want me to take that away cuz I should tell you what happened last night you understand so now this poor guy gets married to's daughter oh actually he can can't have in the same family to a daughter who's I don't know who's like actually wouldn't go into sem wouldn't be taken into seminaries whatever [Music] better than all of them [Music] yeah I'm saying and and and and and this okay so I'm speaking a little with humor but it exists on so many different levels so this is the beginning of the so after sprinkling the blood seven times means opening up the opening up the unraveling the from the when you unravel the from from the miracles happen cuz the is not bad and in our generation we were given gifts we were given gifts that Hashem gave our generation I guess he knew about this issue very well that people should be able to bypass their coping mechanisms because what happens is the brain is so powerful we develop so many uh so many defense mechanisms that I even if you hear this shear and it makes sense but practically the baham somehow is not always at the shear he's busy surviving he's busy somebody gotta gotta keep you safe you know what I mean so he's busy planning the day you know what's happening all in background it's very nice you tell this in a nice ver from Al listen he says you your I I've been there when you were one years old you know when when when the spaghetti hit the fan so okay I was here to protect you I'm the guy who you're here before so don't ha me with I know what I got to do and you're not going to protect me cuz if you would have protected me if you if I would have relied on you you would have been dead today I didn't rely on you you were a little innocent kid who was hurt I'm the one who protected you so let the bodyguards run the show you know let the bodyguards run their show if not you would have been shot a thousand times that's what it does and you know what he got a point the guy got a point the neab has a point he says if you want me to learn this you're going to have to talk my language you're going to have to show me that you're here you're going to have to calm me down and it's not going to be by telling me how evil I am cuz I'm the one who protected you and that's why this whole language of how evil we are and how shameful we are as though it helps is a it's the exact opposite for most people it's the exact opposite [Music] okay everybody have a beautiful day on a day of disentanglement between the and the and it always begins with awareness and compassion and [Music] authenticity hard work he giving us hard work it's hard work but it's it's the only work that's real it's liberating work this is the work of redemption this is the work of go my uncle he's calling it scary he's calling it hard this is Redemptive [Music] work to finish the bir [Music] learn today [Music] good person has anxiety yeah anxiety today is anxiety today is it's never yeah it's from two years old I know I know I know for myself what I talk about I know for myself I don't talk about other people yeah we're all in the same [Music] boat the reason I told talk about it is not because I'm an expert on it the reason I talk about it is yeah the best the best speeches are speeches from [Music] experience okay you talking about the moment so tomorrow night there'll be a big in honor of giml 30th yard site 20 upstairs 8:30 p.m. for men and women everybody is invited tomorrow morning we have our women's class 9:30 here but the fa is in 20 the next door there's going to be music there's going to be a everybody is welcome said can so he said only every only one minute whatever before left yeah yeah it comes yeah is later so one minute yeah yeah