Practical Chasidus w R' Chaim Dalfin #4 - Mai Mevoreich 1946

Chanukah hey come on move out just was thinking about you today I was thinking why didn't why didn't I see you at the donut store the twist store come on I thought you I thought you came to New York we have a beautiful group so listen so listen everyone today's Chanukah the first day of Karthika so I'll start with avert that the rebel shares about Hanukkah and the birth is you know we say that the who lifted the night are you they call neck rock edition through your holy clay honey so the first rim ask a question what's the difference what's the do that we know that why does why we have to say in the player in the trailer are you declaring a foundation that they were the ones who implemented the self-sacrifice for the Mitzvah of of Chanukah that's a basic question another basic question that is asked is how are they allowed to have maecenas net for self-sacrifice we know they're only three mitzvahs three mitzvahs that you're allowed to allow yourself to be killed for the mitzvot right yah Rogue Valley over kill the lives of to die for our gathered don't desecrate the mitzvot one of the three mitzvahs is not a rabbinic Mitzvah it's not Chanukah so that's that's another question that's asked so I'll just tell you what the representers there's many answers I'll just tell you what he says he says like this the Rambam rules the Rambam rules that the mitzvah of yarra valley over is true only for three cases it's an urban hustle when it comes to a very important person that that rule doesn't apply a very important person is allowed to have himself killed for any Mitzvah why because people shouldn't learn from him if he doesn't do it so that's why in the Hernandez Alalu that's why it says I did a clarinet walk they ship if it was according to the Rambam if it wasn't clear never updation the holy quran him they wouldn't be allowed the other year the regular eden would not be allowed to allow himself to be killed and then for the myths of Hanukkah that's the shot and this and this answer is also the idea of so both questions are answered with one with one answer according to the ramp-up specifically according to the Rambam other the first should disagree with the Rambam but that i'm bomb is the one of rules that only only the myths applies only to three mitzvahs and not anything else so how are you allowed to the answer is clear in their cooperation and their beliefs it has also explained many times that i'm dumb rules elsewhere not only is it savored Lavy that i'm bomb has a very interesting insight into who is a Alavi literally a lady comes from the tribe declared i'm right to come to the via ferrata Philippines that's ripe that I'm says la loi not only is someone born into the actual lineage of lithium Alavi but he said anyone that does the avodah of Lavy serves what does labor mean a problem you love our said me Lloyd now God will accompany me attach himself to me in other words anyone that wants to engage in an activity where there is attachment to God's visa vie the service the service of the VM is a lazy not I love the flavor you can't call up to the toilet don't get them get them get me wrong if you're not born from that lives in that tribe you don't get the second Ally a lady but spiritually everyone can be a lady so therefore when we sell you they clear that foundation yes literally it took a group of people who were Kohanim priests to do the mitzvah of self-sacrifice fighting the Greeks and and having self-sacrifice but spiritually today when we don't have a base that weakness and we don't have Romans oh we don't have Greeks that literally I mean you know saying we have enemies all over plenty but but the idea is that if I yield has becae is dedicated to a Centon then you can't ask questions why didn't he allow himself to be why does he allow himself to be killed you know no he should escape and I'm looking at these different things I have told you from from Poland and you see people who didn't who didn't to a trace they're gonna die they've got a question today whatever gave them right that they do in a favor no they didn't do a transgression first of all because it was a shot stayed him as a time of of terror and killing but even how logically they didn't you know why cuz you have no Mitzvah to allow yourself to be killed for eating kosher sorry so how logically is supposed to eat the trace and not and not be killed nevertheless we saw people who didn't do that individuals very few individuals and even they died under actually they were saved so that's that's that's a very much higher commitment where one comes to that position that ever says that if you have have attained that that connection and you feel that connection then then you're a lady ladies in a class for itself and we have to acknowledge that so that's just the verdict on the Hanukkah that I you were alert recently going back to the my mother here were talking earlier vein about a very important thing how do we balance happiness and frustration in Hebrew simcha and manitos and this is why this minor although it's a Hanukkah minor it really touches upon a much greater idea of joy and not depression but frustration and he and he basically has explained to us that it depends where you're at if you're at a place where all you that your activity consists of your powers that you work with your mind your heart but that you're accustomed to then you're right then you can't put the two together when you're happy you're not frustrated with you're frustrated not happy and the tuto don't mix but if you tap into a recess in your heart to your which is much deeper the previous LF we're over there not only do they just named Castle he says both come can come together but one leads to the other in other words a good knock out with leads to a good trainer kite happiness and a good frame of kite and a good happiness leads to a good knock out and that's why he if you'll notice I remember this by the fabrini ins with the Rebbe in the 70s and the 80s especially the seventies when he still was talking a lot about Russian Jews the Jews were in Russia there stood they couldn't get out he could be speaking and then during the the interval where they said hi and they sang and again and he can be clapping for the sands and making with his hands and it was so lively and then a few minutes later he starts talking he breaks down and he's crying and he can't chokes up and he can't talk anymore what's going on whoa where are you are you an emotive happy visit and the answer is when you're when you're really when you're really connected and plugged in it's not a contradiction on the contrary a healthy a healthy happiness brings a healthy frustration I'm not talking about a despondency and a depression that's unhealthy melancholy that's unhealthy you know that the you know that it says that brings in chapter 29 Tonya day brings it from this area covers the whole desire at night if you're not on the right like at night got to send them bad dreams bad dreams that will want you that's what it says in the Zohar I'm not making it out that's what it says right what's the what why am I saying that in other words the way we behave during the day and the way we behave it creates an entire 24/7 situation for us okay and if not tonight it's tomorrow night it's gonna catch up with you that just no you know you can't get away with it people think they can get away with it it catches up you can't get away with it so what's the time so unhealthy melancholy depression is not acceptable at any time and it again if biologically genetically one suffers from that that's it's real I'm not proposing that you need a psychiatrist that you need medicine then you need whatever you need to deal with it that's for sure um you know but we're talking about kind of onset the depression and melancholia person gives it thinks about their life and the situation and their family of crying Schoenberg chord and they weren't saying this for you Oh crying show them dice for brain over here in beth-shemesh base a few years ago I was there I happened to be the fat Brendan and these are all Yogi's them these are all your acidic guys with the pea stew the stripe on the socks and the whole garb and all that and he's talking about hundred eyes what forever dikes rabbis they're my spear from yerushalayim so he's for praying it for them and I'm sitting there I would say was a F that noon I forget what they did wasn't long before and the middle he says to them he says to them you guys you think you resisted him if I start thinking about my myself and my families as I get depressed that's what I heard him say this in front of everybody I get depressed he didn't he didn't articulate I don't know what I don't know what he meant but he says so he says you want it you want to stay away from depression you know you don't want to be sad think about other people what what can you do for other people and the more you do for other people the happier you'll be stop thinking about yourself and your situation your family on and on and it's very true and a person to know that if they go into a mode what's getting them down they need to get up sometimes physically and go outside walk around the block go to us we'll go to a candy store you know chat speak hock run you know get your mind off the self okay get the mind off the self don't play God let her sham deal with it so so so but here in this minor here we are talking about a Merinos here we're talking about you have to make an account before you go to sleep at night what did i do today what did I do who did I offend who did I talk to what did i do that's right what they do it's not right that's called the flesh banana fish submarino's it's frustrating it's looking yourself into the face and it's uncomfortable but you have to do it why do you have to do it because if you want to flourish the next day you have to work out these will at least attempt to to come to a resolve where you know I know that today I messed up this way but I'm going to try very hard tomorrow not to do that or to find ways where I'll avoid it you know such such a thoughts so that ever says he brings a good mother Heidegger the chapter of a page 117 Zion we learned yesterday just to recap and the kumaras interesting the mother man up Zeta Zeta says and my sin racial procurement alive best you don't communicate the the he later says the secrets of Torah only to arrive doesn't the head of the best didn't the whole and to all shall lead me into any one surely Brigade Makeba that his heart is anxious within himself so if there ever say explained what this means we by Dave became blame and and the answered the bottom line what does it mean me bud but it by itself it means someone who has burritos to show we don't mean anxiety that you need to take Virg you know valium and medicine and then therefore your nerves no no no we're talking about it bothers you it really bothers you and it bothers you because it's not proper or it bothers you that you didn't do enough exert yourself he slept too much he wasted too much time you know I'm saying it bothers you like I told the people in in Moscow and I gave a talk over there so I said to them bout that ever Sun was the moisture he had three sons right now but a band of hi my from and and and a bunch of the youngest so now moisture in middle of his life yet crisis I don't want to go into the details he had a crisis and he ran away and no one knew who he is and and that same aesthetic the took his wife and children and sent of Tartus row the second family there are many Lubavitch of families today that come from them I have mices what family from the children the daughters married and they have children and until today I think the cycles are abusive cycle that whole family they come from Revelation anyway so basically the same aesthetic mom has saved the whole family meanwhile where was this animation not when the worriers he hid he was hiding well they found them in a fuel I think in China in China of its or Chernobyl maybe Chernobyl there was a show and it was living in the Attic that's reefer but who found them only a few people saw most of the biological see them didn't know where he is so my father'll told me that he heard from a hustler who heard from the person who was there but I measured by the way lived very long I caught it to my calculations he passed away in 1878 and he was born before the turn of the century I believed him according to my calculations he lived into his eighties for those things that was a real Anita's young man he outlived the myth forever he outlived mother crema from he saw for another she saw technically a rival ababa Chavez write it from the altar ever his father to through the repair shop who passed away in the air in 1923 the cadaver was born in 1880 so he passed away in 1878 so he missed the free the cadet but anyway he again I don't know if he saw Marash that's my question I deliver Mirage spells to 1882 but whether he wasn't that part of the world that he saw that I've Manasa I'm not sure but he could have he could have seen him very easily one day one day there was if they were a true and disgusted noticed him and he said aha I think this is most of the Sun of the outer ever who's been hiding from us and he went over to him and he said it shallow so he says that moisture I caught you I know who you are I want to hear avert from the outer air before your father and if you don't tell me I'm going to divulge to everyone where you are were you hiding so you had no choice it was caught red-handed so he said my father said that's I'd leave for another version that side gate time is passing time is going and he said it and everyone and that's it doctor never would say things with a negative and everyone started to cry was during shallow shudders and and and and that and they accepted that and that they wouldn't divulge where he is why am I saying this because we're learning here about the manitos you know you can run and run around but the time is running right with you so therefore that needs to be a hospital nefesh that's called the Middle's so the rebus says that the shot into the murder of it up Xena ain't Mason Russia procurement alive destined well the hole shall he be glad be Keyblade and he says the Academy some say well who shall ever day begin boy why why doesn't have destined merit to get the inside information if you want to get the inside information you have to be serious then you get the inside information like I told you yesterday unfortunately many times we waste our secrets we share them with people we should not be sharing them with it's a big mistake because only a person was really dig the kid be really cares of the situation he really cares about you he's a pre mystic a type of youth that type of Jew it's worthy sharing with him what's on your heart but if you share it stammers it with someone it's meaningless you know so that's and he doesn't talk about that what what you say I did what you said yeah anyway so the point the point is that so did have a saying in this chapter that Marino's and simcha come together and you get equal the desert out there brings to chapter 34 the end the town yet in chapter 34 happiness and tears go to come together from one side of the other side now let's call now to page 117 towards the bottom of the page where he says beside the inion the last line the left line of 1:17 yes yes that remind me remind me that your question wish if we're faced with frustration problems one is to be the simcha to turn that around does he answer it seems to hate sir drops us like make us feel negative or bad and frustrated so city says you have to go and also isn't thank you yeah well yeah but I think Gila yesterday said something that says vigil Barada right if there's a sham Bishop huh serve God with simcha of the giveaway and joy and and revelation and the happiness and bit other with trembling how did the two go together and this is what we're saying that a real healthy cyntha is is is has its foundation or other in other words listen that you know we know stories of talmidim of the baal shem tov who made themselves silly and they got into GaN Eden you but that silliness isn't the silliness that that you find on the street we're talking about silliness which is equivalent to the demoted says happy hood the barrel audience quoted in the bus of the dynamite mayor Rebbe who to bury Louie maraca the class he will take it in he juggle and then the mother says he took woman and he troubled women I don't know it's possible but that's what he did he was so strong right now that's cold outwardly homeless its frivolity it's forbidden it's it's it's it's it's not the sneers but he was on a level with the head you know I don't want to say but to him the women were like act like sticks nose he wasn't sexually moved he was a big topic right so to him he was being the Sameach the fussing and color by doing that and and for whatever reason you know you can ask widened lead rebel men I don't know why he didn't trouble men he drove because the governor doesn't say that he troubles man he says he juggled women so I don't have an answer why'd he no but but but one thing's for sure that hit the Gemara is saying the governor would not quote a low-life the governor was not a quota w who the battery low you who we know so much about was buried by the way on the way up to trapped on the road that's where his cave was you can go interest haver we wouldn't we wouldn't consider him holy and special if if if he was if he was a low life so of course he was a big Sadiq so what we say if they give Lee but other the assertion be simple it has the president based on honor on a true deep you know feeling of you know being the servant Benito's the Kisha so Medina's the kedusha is a is a recipe for holiness I don't want to go into but we've seen throughout history when we deviate from the burritos the kedusha we get into trouble okay you know people ask and I don't want to get into this now if people ask you know why Labov each and their ever wives - under fled macabre so there was someone who asks the rapper the question in 1960 and he told me himself what he asked and his name is rabbi Shalom heft he lives he has a store on Coney Island an Avenue right across where vain but ravine was the gabbai in the Yungas Road is a store across the street called Health's bookstore and the owner is shown heft he's a brother of all the Habad have two brother the youngest brother today is 90 canaan another's name is he was no no he's a sydney health and that ever once in the 50s by if i brain and said sydney half say look i am you should be called no longer sydney but show him health yeah but if i pregnant that ever said Sydney as you say look I am you should be known and called a show man so this show them had told me that in 1960 or 61 his hitter sweat and flame acaba performed in his daughter's in his granddaughter's in his daughter's class he came in and played the violin guitar and it was very beautiful so he went sydney half there were three people who had an open-door policy to the rebels room that their ever said you cannot kind of door coming you don't need an appointment he was one of the three not that he used this dis permission but he knocked on the door once after this and he came in and he looked at he you know he's a half they speak direct they don't mince words so he said to the river ever i don't understand why your distance your distancing flamer flamer they spoke you're a royal friends I mean Sydney enslavement we're friends from your season right and that happen do both you know I'm saying 1940s turned about 1942 770 before the river became rebel that ever lifted his head this is what he told me and we're ever lifted and he said two words two words answer his question Kyle Aisha never said we cannot sanction clearly show that's all that's nothing to do what you know flavors still my friend and he still fussing has nothing to do with it but we as a barbecue organization cannot give a stamp of approval on coil Alicia why do I say that I say it because when you talk about simpler my shed you're asking all about simple simpler has has to be predicated on the marinos yes and a Merinos has boundaries you know the fact that some will explain more other people I have mysterious Nephilim Karabakh would always say he came to borrow Park and he stayed with mr schima Lefkowitz who lived next door to where I used to Davi so someone saw him in the Metro so he said listen I know I'm going to hell he said but at least don't be with other Jews in Hell you know that's that's that's I'm not judging Who am I to judge I can't judge but but and that's his between him and I colors Borough Hall and that's not my domain but what we know what we know from Torah but we know we know that a person that Murray knows is a is important to be the basis for simple and when Murray knows is is is the basis for simcha the simpler comes out right and that is the Evan her boyfriend which means that is the proof the proof is in the pudding the proof is in the result not everyone that says their holy and there are revie and there a rabbi and there a teacher and there have simpler and there a Pincus that's the case most of those people and situations it's not true to our exceptions absolutely and those exceptions are exceptions we've had them throughout our history let's continue learning inside because we'll never get to learn inside last line page 117 the inside her Union whom to understand this deeper we have to look at the foundation at the esoteric beginning to measure cost of the safety of Sita so now that they learn a little Kabbalah hold hold on to your hats it says in the book of creation quote ssv dice Valley top of 118 moth there are ten sweet ice without anything blowing pijo madaba close your mouth from speaking the leap called Mela had it and your heart from thinking but what if he can't do that we'll do it the amber on sleep huh and what if your heart is yearning and running and racing shuvly okay Retreat backwards now this is a quote from safely it's Edith and what we say here is Halil that's ss feeders bulimic somehow the tents leaders are like speechless our condition 'less and really they're they're pure without requiring speech without requiring thought but nevertheless if your heart does race and run towards something retreat and here comes the idea that Casa de Springs South eleven brings it all over in his writings gazelle in Yonville highest hopes of a chef you know it says about the holy chariot right that we read about sewers it says the angels that are called Cayuse right how many groups show them of angels do we have three right I found him the fire circle a dish and the third group is disruptive right stuff in the fire is very funny so one of the group's is called highest Caius means animals right but it means spiritually it's it's a it's a a level of godliness expressed through these particular angels raha kayasthas VAR highest lots of ash roof they have an interesting style of serving God they yearn and run towards a Shem they have a strong passion for God and they want to just go into the Godhead and be with our men flip out and forget about their family and forget about that and then they realize no no way we should they retreat they calmed themselves down city says this is true for every one of us when you come to surely come to clay we come to a red but we come to the clay so we want to just be with her sham but I told you the story my remember when I was driving back three in the morning from the rivers for bringing after Pesach my father drove us back we stopped intercourse bakery to get to get a hot loaf of bread the first loaf of bread after paisa but me while driving towards the bakery on the way back was a burnt-up synchronize back to Baba my father said I just came out of Dunedin I wasn't gonna eat during the for Brandon you were like in paradise and my father said I remember this I don't I don't want work I don't need money I don't need a wife I don't need kids all I need a chef that's the feeling you had when you were standing and listening to the repeted Sadiq speak about the Caliph Barco and about serving uncle is vertical but that's a feeling of rupture it's like you want to just leave everything it's a great rush but it's not reality the reality is sure hey guy you got to get up tomorrow 7:00 the morning 2001 for minion and guess what if none of you see the buckler or clearly in the mind at nine o'clock you gotta be at work so there were times my father said to me my dear son and my brothers I can't come to the front brain gonna pick you up at 2:00 in the morning I gotta get up at 6:00 2007 I gotta leave to work and three four hours I'll be a zombie at work so I'm sorry and we were you see the buffer him in Lubavitch and we couldn't take that so my mother a blessed memory who didn't work you know she would come in her school she would come one two three in the morning to pick us up and because there was very few the beverages in Borough Park we're not we weren't in 1975-76 you weren't going on a train at 7:00 at that one 2:00 in the morning because you wouldn't come out alive you know it was so bad so my mother volunteered to pick us up in her schools it makes you have a lifting but what's the point the point is there isn't actually that is roughly right there are people who've asked me I want to make alia you know in their 50 60 you know and I want to forget the repet old Peter comes from England let alone you know Peter you know Peter comes Peter read I think passed on but Peter wanted to make Ally I was a very successful businessman either in Manchester in London I think London and and that ever had you see this was a nurbs of no said that me said no he says but I wrap up my heart yearns services I know but they need you in England you know a doctor but to call their you small the the scientist nope the scientists from from st. Paul green that the green but velvel green told me he wrote to the dead but once twice three times he wants this is going back to when he was in his 40s or 50s he was a he grew up as a Bundestag in assist you don't he had a scientist he wanted to live he had enough using NASA as per you know NASA the professor and then but they want and there ever said no the students need you who velvel green who is going to bring some you describe to the students at the university finally is hard contain it it got in a plane when he came there was a letter from that ever waiting for him mazelTov congratulations professor green on your alia you know that was a decision so there it there there is a there is a roughly there's a very strong desire to do certain things in in kedusha yes yes hello both the the the pounding of the heart you know the know the heart opens or closes shibai who is Caius fatality right life force requires you who the the heart to open a closed if cosmic element doesn't we need valves and operations and and the rest is history serious so you need to have open-close open-close open-close gracias let's say yourself journey retreat during the retreat the out of the year that your homely is canceled then you can have love and fear like one in other words if you learn how to balance the the yearning together with the retreat you will can experience a love and a fear at once and so my Siravo vu de haber who luckily the fact that I Vinita are separate he knew who rocked by clickin suddenly he repeats hilla what we learnt earlier this is only in the revealed powers the other he yes we shall yes is the idea someone who has a love who divide mush and especially any heavy there's something that is drawn la [Music] lucha Murcia senior girl tomorrow explain this more because the desert these are in these explanation will stop here separate any questions anyone have any questions I doesn't have a good day