Rosh Chodesh Kislev Farbrengen 2021 #1

morning to everybody good afternoon it's kisly and today uh we're going to fabreg instead of learning inside so i hope you appreciate it because it's a very special day in the chabad calendar and i think there are many lessons that we could take and should know about so what happened on horizon slave historically what happened is that um in 1977 series of tough shin which is 1977 over 40 years ago that ever suffered um a heart attack that night during hakufas actually when they were still saying uh the the ataharay subsukim the verses of ataresa i was there so i'm telling you uh firsthand jonathan were you there too you're innocent bates i don't hear you you understand were you there okay so younger son is also a witness to what i'm telling you and um most of us didn't dream of staying inside the room in 770 there must have been three four five thousand people whatever was packed but we all dashed outside so that the you know the rabbit can have some more room we quickly heard that the rebels not feeling well and the place was you you couldn't have to understand and rosh hashanah with the yom kippur that the show was most packed and probably seemed crusader was even more than the other two days and um so we all dashed out they broke the the windows of the of the women's section above the black tinted windows where the women sit they broke them so more air can go in whether that's realistic or not i don't know but that's what they did and the place uh cleared out and the rabbit did refuse to leave 770 to leave with the shoe he said he's finishing our coffers and he actually finished our coffers they're dancing the hakofus and um and then he went up to his room this was again the night of shemini uh tough shin lam 1977. later that so then then he went into the sukkah the chabad custom is to make a kid to eat in a sukkah uh set us both at night and day so he went into the sukkah and they they gave him they offered him you know they gave him uh grape juice and that episode kiddish uh i don't make we don't make a grape juice you know and they you know felt that that's better for him than wine alcohol anyway he refused and they gave him wine and he was fine later that night about 12 1 2 in the morning i'm not sure when it was found out later that that's when he had a massive heart attack in other words what he had during hercules was considered small not a very massive heart attack but later in the evening he had a massive heart attack and he refused to leave to go to the doctor and he refused to go to the hospital so they brought doctors to him dr feldman was in crown heights doctor writer wasn't not that right a doctor gearman was in crown heights uh and several other doctors that were all in crown heights uh and they all attended to the best of their ability but they weren't of course you know experts uh cardiologists to make a long short short a long story short they uh they got a hold of dr ira weiss in chicago and ira weiss was a world cardiologist he was friendly with rabbi herschel fogerman in in worcester massachusetts and robert krimsky remember remembered that somehow and uh this was actually i think in the middle of the night when the rabbits and khaya mushka came across the 770 to be with her husband and when she came she said tara bakrinsky you know you know so many people and you can't find uh a world's expert to attend to my husband and that's one of the krinsky the idea fell into his mind that he should contact hershel fogerman who knows this dr ira weiss and uh why said i'll be on the next plane but the plane doesn't go till the next morning until it schmidt sarah's morning this was the middle of the night and the next day he got on the plane and he came to 770. and he became the attending doctor for the rebel i think he stayed with the rebber for two months or a month he didn't go he didn't leave his bedside and this wasn't simple he had he had partners he had you know associates and that's another story and then dr weiss has repeated some of the details on on online you could see many of the details that he repeats but the kitzer this was all then so the rebber survived the heart attacks and one more point it's worth no knowing is that the rebels said everyone should continue with simchat simcoe tyra that there shouldn't be no sadness and broken-heartedness it's yamtiv and uh and and he's you know recuperating and everyone should continue so they did and i was there and it was the tremendous simcha but you know knowing that you've ever had this these heart attacks it's very difficult but we did it we listened and finally the rebbe said that at the uh normally he would fabray make a fabregan at the end of simcha and this time he couldn't come down so he said that after yamcha's he will speak uh from a loudspeaker through his room that will be heard in 770. he'll speak and the doctors gave him permission i think to speak for five minutes or so a very short time and he agreed but he went on for 20 minutes i was there it was amazing what we didn't know at the time was that it's at a certain point during the the talk the the the talk that the rabbit gave the heart monitor went haywire and when you know that means that there's something serious happenings and that and dr weiss was monitoring the monitor outside of the room because you know it wasn't derek harris to be in the room the rabbit the entire time privacy etc so he saw the monitor and he freaked out and he knocked on the door and he opened the door and he went in and he saw that the rebbe is is speaking now he didn't really know what he's speaking well but later it was found out that at that time the rebel was saying the mahasiddhas the havanenyan sims was torres printed he was saying that mimer and when and and we know that by our holy rabbi and when they say a mimer it's hashem divria kim hymns the words of the living hashem going through their throat the gas mias and they're not there they're physically there but they're elsewhere and and that's why you know when the rabbi said a mimer they held on to a handkerchief under the table you could see them holding on to a handkerchief so they shouldn't have clay sannefish because you know the cessation of the soul where they literally could die god forbid so they would hold on to something material material a handkerchief in the rubbish case and so he saw that um the rebel was was doing that and they the robichrinsky and the other the owner explained to dr weiss and he calmed down because he just couldn't understand what's going on over here you know the the monitors indicating massive heart attack you know uh maybe a dying you know what i mean so he calmed down and that was that night that was that night and it was a tremendous uh tremendous symbol in in the sense of you know that look here's a a person who had a massive heart attack and a night and a half later a day and a half later he's already saying torah and speaking albeit from his bed his room but but he is doing that and that's what took place on that simple state of 1977. now he wasn't out of the woods yet as you all know that uh it takes time to recuperate and to get your strength back and so it was that that ebbet didn't leave his room in 770 for almost 40 days from right from schminy had serious night till uh tillerson kislev is is 38 39 40 days so let's round it after 40 days i like the number 40. i i it dawned on me this morning when i was in the midfield at 4 30 a.m that the 40 days that the rabbit didn't go out was like he was in heaven for 40 days you know kind of by himself in a room with hashem himself and and to have whatever whatever whatever that meant that's what took place that's my own my own thinking it's right it's wrong but the fact is that he was he was not seen in public for 38 to 40 days that's a fact okay what day was the first time that he left seven seventy it was rosh heidesh kislev it was today and this was unbelievable the high-end dancing was non-stop i mean it was you you can't imagine if you were there and your innocent problem i assume was there he will remember it was it was it was such jubilation that that our our father our deb sadiq is alive and he actually was able to leave his room and go and go to the library or go home i don't i don't recall but he left the room by the way he did not come he didn't come to a fabrian downstairs in 770 until 19 days later on you test kisliff so leaving leaving the the library leaving his room was he went home but he didn't come he didn't have a brain in public so but this was a great sim so from that day on 1977 every year ashredis kiss live the babachi has seen them worldwide celebrate the day they make a fabregan they make a sudden they say in the good name they tell over the story right etcetera and and and here is a question that our mashpia who jonas and i also knew rabbi melo bringed about many times in morristown he you know every every yomtif be it chanukah purim pesach or the khasi yamatova slave you'd base tamils you know that you're supposed to prepare yourself ahead of time right so he once rabbit siebel once asked by if i bring him that a booker asked him i think it was in 2006. it's on tape if you want to hear it in yiddish what's the preparation for this kislev in order to experience something you need to prepare if you don't prepare you know you have that type of result so what's the preparation remix evil said the fact that you're asking the question what's a good question that itself is the answer there is no preparation why yay because there's preparation for particulars for protein for individual things pesos is coming that's an individual thing prepare for it purim you test kislift but let me ask you is there preparation for breathing and living no if someone touches themselves every morning i'm alive that person is not well the essence the essence of life avi of of living i'm alive it's not something that is a question doesn't answer either you are you aren't so too rabbits people explained that that this idea of kislev for us was in a way the essence of life why the essence of life because a hasid looks at the river this is the effect this is the the vantage point from a chabad looking at the rabbit maybe others have it too but i you know i'm talking about khabad that thereby is their life so if khas showed him that abba would have not lived continued living because of his heart attack they would have lost their life now it doesn't mean you shouldn't continue it doesn't mean you have to not go on but the fact is what are we celebrating on such a day the the the discourse and connection that we have to relive life and healthy life and yiddish life and hasidis your life and total life etc oh if this is the explanation there's a reason to celebrate every restaurateur's kiss live even after gimmel thomas that's 26 years goof has returned to hashem it's still a reason to celebrate why because you're not celebrating a detail you're you're celebrating an east essence and essence doesn't change another example the people run to the coastline ravi i don't care how big of a lich he is or how big of as far does your hosted or or or or or stamiid or the guy everyone's running to the place why are you running there it's been destroyed there's no bais amigdas in fact we have you know opponents above you know and we have issues why are you running you're running because the gamora says holiness kedusha never leaves its place there is inherent kendusha at the case of right now today even though the shrina is not there in the form of the besamitos that's what i'll say stop i'm not making this up because i'll say that what do we understand from that that the hashem god almighty planted in the world situations which remind us of a connection that goes beyond the particulars the details and if you connect with that you're the happiest person because you have it and this is what we've been learning in tanya about uh two weeks ago alto rebbe says an amazing thing there in the name of of zoya and and arizona but he puts it together so beautifully and the altareba wrote this a letter to rebel aviation of berdychev who lost the son of mayor so this is a comfort level and what does he say in this lab in this letter he basically says that the life of a sadiq is a munna ava and era faith love and all for hashem that is what makes a sadiq tick not food not drink not sleep not honor and not all the pleasures of life but when that saddek is in touch with his love of our god he's on a high when his faith is is is active he's he's he's he's he's so happy because that's what exotic is so the altered writes to the lady yes it's true your son passed away i'm paraphrasing what he write what he says it's true but since your son is a sadiq therefore what he stands for what he stood for is still active and alive and this is the same the kuda of rashford's kislev today that although it's so many years later over 40 years and so people ask the question why you have hasidim celebrating which is the day the rebel became well if the rebel physically is not here anymore you know so my answer is one of the answers one of the resp reports is why do we celebrate the holiness of the basa amignus why do we celebrate events that are not only um commemorative right commemorations it's not commemorations you know uh there's a famous word hakoide le miguel ma freya that's someone who reads the megillah backwards he starts as chapter five and he works his way back looks like a chapter at the end he goes nine eight seven he goes backwards lois you haven't fulfilled your obligation but i read the whole mcgill i just did it backwards you know it's not purim well it is purim purim you make jokes but not this type of a joke you have to read the megillah from olive based gimbal not from backwards it comes along the holy balsh emptive the helicopter and he touches hakutali megillah if someone reads the megillah and he thinks that it's backwards it's old-fashioned it happened once upon a time once upon a time there was a fairy tale or once upon a time there was a king or a president but really today it's not the case you haven't really read the megillah but i read the megillah you read the megillah but if it's not relevant to you now you haven't really read the magilla if we look at rashford's kislev as once upon a time 43 44 years ago this took place then what you said no problem you're not in touch with drastic island and that's fine there are thousands of good jews and i'm not celebrating let's call a spade a spade let's not kill ourselves but here we have an opportunity and that's why i took the time today to speak about it rather than learn inside continuing the mimer because not just to arouse and awaken myself which is always necessary no matter who you are and what you are and what you do you need a high sightedness and how do you get it insiders the best ways through a good vibranium and look we're having a fabregan without moscow without negonium because of the situation you still can fabric when people hide when people get together and they share their their feelings and soon i'm gonna have you share some of your feelings i hope you'll be open enough to share some thoughts ideas of feelings it really goes a long long way it brings inspiration for us as yidden so i i'll conclude this part that when you look at the situation we've been since last march or so with the covet and the restrictions and the and and and the lockdowns and the and the isolation it's in a way similar to the rabbit being in the room isolated from a succeeded where we didn't have that access we you know that we the fabregas from then then even after those forbrangers that he came down once in a while he would speak much of shabbos on after shabbos and you would hear in a hookup in 1979 going into 80. so how is that different than me speaking now are you listening to me in fact it's a little better now because we can see each other in those days you didn't have that you know you had the you know what's the answer the answer is it's all in the mind it's all in our mind if our mindset is such that i'm really there with you i'm there with you and again going back to quoting the famous vert of the belgentive one's mind sham who nymcha that's what you are if you think you're now in albuquerque new mexico because you want to be there or somewhere on a mountain you want to be there you could really be there but you're in bet chemist and i'm in brooklyn it makes no difference because physical space does not detract from mind space and mind space is is real it's very very real it says i said this you need how do you know if two people are really good friends it's not by writing out a check no you know how you could tell if i sense that you have a simcha without you telling me and i sense that then we're really really tight friends because what's important to you is important to me and i know about it without you telling me that that's brought in hasidis this is i didn't make that up what's the point the point is that the the the real connection between people is created through the the essential bond of people that goes beyond you know the here and now and seeing and hearing each other i wrote about rabbi shalom the rebel and i wrote that they were good friends so of course the criticism came high and low really the rabbit didn't see rabbi salavacic and he didn't see the rebbe from 1971 until 1980. actually actually i'm not even sure he saw him in 1971. he didn't see him for nine years at least and maybe more and they didn't really correspond much you know a few words here a few words there is that what you call friends and i i anticipated this and i explained and later i saw that um uh rabbit telus that teluski in his book on the rabbit says the exact same thing and uh and many others started to say the same thing and explain it you know and that is that friendship is not dependent on time and space friendship is a a a a mindset reality with either you have that or you don't have it either you create it or you don't create it if you create it you can be distant for whatever reason because you can't get there you can't be there you can't talk for whatever reason you don't want to there might be all kinds of reasons but in in your deep heart you really are a friend and again the story that i told you to mendel he goes over to the book he says here's money get on a plane go to france and give my friend robert and joseph a big hug for me because at that moment his heart just became fire for love that he had for his childhood friend aaron joseph blenicky but he couldn't get on a plane he was too old or he had responsibilities in yeshiva and he couldn't fly so what does he do he he expresses that in a way that that's asking someone to do it for him so so this is the same thing with the heidi's kisliff whether we were aware of the special day whether we were unaware now you're aware of the special day and this is a day when again it's not about just one person the laboratory becoming better and then we're having by the way how many years did ever have healthy years after 78 to 92 he had 14 years which fourteen is yad yada khazaka the strong hand the rambam the yada kazakh and if you put yad and ya together 14 and 14 you get 28 which is kayak and the eraser explains that this also forms one of hashem's holy names anyway the bottom so so so so they never had 14 strong gears and i'm telling you they were very strong those were the years when there ever sent out the bulk of his luchem through in his lifetime right where what from 78 to 92 most most of the shlokan that went out went out those years myself included so so you see that he didn't capitulate to his um you know weak heart or situation uh that um kept him away from us but re rebounded right away with the hashem's help and used it for positivity so this is the day of the frederick's case you bring a little wine please um if you don't mind and uh it's a time to say lechayan to to understand that although thank you leader cup thank you that ever physically is not here and that's hashem's will okay if anyone has a complaint he should write an email a fax frederick's press god accepts all kinds of ways of communication if you're not happy why he's not here send them a complaint letter and talk to god you know i always said after gimbal thomas what's the hardest things for us to accept god what do you mean this except god who took the rebel away not hashem of course hashem oh so you can't accept what hashem did huh i have a problem with it if you have a problem with it cry laugh dance complain write scream jump do it you know and the rebel already said when the previous lover passed away and yushvat they were all the khasid who wrote to the rabbit by the way writing and they wrote and they said they said you know what's going to be how will our rebel their rebel was the previous river how will our rebbe how will our rebbe um answer us and did it be answered in writing that you should look this up that ever answered my father-in-law will find a way to answer you whether he comes through the door or he comes through the window or it comes through the roof he will answer you so it was good for the rebels say that we can can repeat that and live with it and understand that there's no boundaries of of to when it comes to rookies and that's the importance of daddy garrus akai to 27 and 28 that you probably learned in the gitas that the life of azadek is you know i learned that chapter i learned that i i with her mental foot of us he was in my house at that time and we learned it together uh we set you know we set it together and i have it on tape if you haven't seen the tape you should you see how it becomes