Wealth is not Sign of Refinment

now they're talking about having the um the vaccines so let's hope that uh there won't be any hospital bad side effects terrible side effects and um it should be good but let's let's learn the mimer i want to finish today's chapter so we can make of a vibranium tomorrow and then we'll be pretty much half halfway finished through country maya we have another about uh 12 14 my muram so um today is test kiss lab right yeah today is the york site and the birthday birthday yacht of the middle rabbit of dove bear dalton older son uh but today we say tomorrow we don't because it's the yo magi ula he also was imprisoned in the whole story about that um they ratted on him they made applies actually you know um that he was trying to build a kind of a palace to rebel against the turks and um unfortunately came through our own brothers who were at the seat of the uh of the informing and um the geola from jail was tomorrow youth kiss live so that's why khabad it was considered a very special day however because he passed away the year after you'd kiss live they didn't celebrate youth kislev the next year and it seems like subsequent to that there was always a damper on the youth kislev day where we don't find you know such a great rash made about it like they did like we do about yutez kislev i assume it's because it's because of the first original year when they were sad still that they'd ever passed away but our there but uh he reintroduced having or probably yearly for brendan's unused kissler from the mid mid 80s on uh there were until the 80s they were sporadic fabregas and youth kiss live but i think from the 80s pretty much every single youth kiss live he made her fabregan we'll talk more about that tomorrow let's go back down to the text now come to somalian page 177. the kids sir kisser and last [Music] what is the aspect of davening davening is about binding the neshomer to godliness howard the nusrama that comes into our body with all of the issues of the body and the world the material world every morning that adopts every day there are dolphins three times a day that's the opportune time for it to re reconnect itself to godliness because she is huge when is that feeler uh experiencing this hiscastros when the tvilla is reminiscent of the inner true self that's usually concealed and that inner self is true is ms so when you're diving with ms when you're diving with truth that's when there is the histories of the nashoma understandably if you don't talk with them as you don't have that uvo and that is why when you dive in such a manner it com the dominant comes but saka's coiled with a strong voice godu um and it arouses the essence of hashem so although in nature you know a person might not be feeling well and the doctors give up hope and the doctors say this and the authorities say this on and on and on that's all nature when it comes to the myeloma when it comes to ponemias there's no rules and regulations so if you connect through your dominating to that aspect there is a good chance that they'll be on some level improvement and if the person passes away or remains ill then that's a sign if you dive into emma's it's a sign that for some reason the abstract wants it to be that way which we don't understand why and we don't like but there's a soul issues reincarnation and and the mission is finished and many other issues that are associated with a person's passing even though you might say i darvened with emma's and i cried my heart out and i and i was sincere and i didn't fake it and i really meant it and nevertheless the person is ill god forbid passes on and the answer to that is answered this to many people who wrote them about these issues tamim which means sincere tia shall you be in hashem of the quechua it's a possible meaning don't play god in simple english don't play god be a tummy you know be a naive be naive when it comes to this area don't be you know don't try to outsmart hashem you know some sometimes we're going to outsmart hashem i'm going to give sadaka this amount because i want this amount back and hashem says i'll pay me back 10 fold therefore i need to fill my bank account this amount i'm going to get this amount that's playing games that's playing games just give the tzedakah from the embers of your heart and hashem will do what he needs with it he knows where to deposit it they tell the story of uh rabbi uh not palace his name i forget his name who uh the 19 early 50s he came to the rebbe i think 1950 or 51 and um he was a contractor and he did very well in nurse's role you know he came for i think russia that's israel and um the rabbi the rabbit told the you know that at the large for brennan's the rebel would they would offer people to give sadaqa for different uh institution projects that he that he ran that he had and they can write their mother's name and then their name for the for shaleema et cetera et cetera so he did that and and many times people would enclose they would write down like a pledge what they're giving sometimes they'd even put in a check whatever so he put down an amount and the river happened to notice that i don't you know and he told him i want you to give four i think four four times the amount and he and he and to begin with he gave a lot a lot of money he gave a lot it was a big donation and there but told him four times the amount so he said to himself wait a minute if i give four times the amount i'm cleaned out my bank account is cleaned out but they're ever said so he did it he did it he gave away all of his money that he had in the bank at the time to the rebel because the rubber city should do four times the amount on his way home he met someone on the ship this was before plays he would make some of the ship who was a businessman and they made a deal and with diamonds i think he was in a diamond with belgium the whole story it's online you know i don't remember all the details and basically he made like the amount the four times the amount that he gave to the rabbit and more much more and he remained a wealthy man so um you know when debris says to us to do what we need to do to act with emma's act with famous and if you believe in it sadiq and italic tells you to you know to give more to do more don't ask questions just listen and it'll be good for you you your kids your grandkids your family okay let's continue you s this was a response that the rashaab said why is it that a yid can't say that eden can't say we'll be like the guy we'll look so we'll accept from we'll accept the dregs give us some dreads but you know the drugs are lots and lots of money lots of wealth lots of materialism we'll take that says that out there sorry it won't work for you it works for a non-jew but it doesn't work for you why because you surround the problem is by nature a jew receives truly only for panemias if it's not from anemias it's not yours the story with the raw child who the king says that he's loyal to him and the servant the minister say he's your enemy and he's lying to you just ask him how much money he has he asks him he says he has a hug he has a 200 ruble 300 ruble he goes and checks in the account the king does and he says he has a thousand rules he comes back and he says i see that all these years you taco were my enemy you were my you were a faker you were a liar and you don't mean my best you're not loyal and the minister is that right for that i'm putting you in jail so he says your honor before you put me in jail let me tell you something all i have is two three hundred rubles because that's that's what i gave to tsudakka the amount i have in the bank is not mine and the proof is that you just took it away so in other words what we have is tatoo mitsubishi mitzvah mice and tavern that goes with us okay that's why sometimes you see someone you hear stories about someone who leaves a a will in the will they say put my tucker receipts in the coffin when i'm buried or you know when i'm buried such such ideas you know in other words this is mine this you can't take away from me because i caught this who gave said i should do the mitzvah and i did the mitzvah and why do i say this because the rebel ashram says here that yidna makabo from the panemias panemias is a jews a jew owns polemius is not ours so even if you have consonants you should know it's not you it's not yours let's continue the gum what when you said pizza is when you're talking about now about three chinese right yeah last week when we were when we were talking about the clippers yes you said that there could be a couple there could be a clipper that that's here and in chameleon right there's [Music] right it's also it's also for a spiritual thing as well right of course right so i'm saying this what he's talking the rebels that's that's something in this she's not talking about anything creepers or anything not not not not in this at this moment the work i think this is what you're asking the word questinius is interchangeable sometimes we use it for the clippers and sometimes we refer to superficiality and materialism of men okay good the god may it was a good question i really was it was good that you pointed that out and then said and even those that are making it well and they're really they're jews and but they're not following traitor aleph uh it should be soccer it's um a reward in other words hashem gives them what doesn't pick you up hashem gives them the reward here and their principles in in islam and it ain't a good principle because they didn't do chuva they don't show you so take your brownie points here live it up and when you get there you're gonna have to really you know put the time in as they say bayes chef a clippers it's the bounty bestowed to the clippers he loves safe nif at the end it will be terminated being that the energy given to clippers is also as we just mentioned earlier so if a jew has that temporarily and he can have that but it will be nif suck it will be interrupted it won't last so it's not eternal let's continue now it says what rises upon your spirit upon your mind says you see um there's an expression that we say it's from this passage holy see it shall not come to pass what won't come to pass that you say we shall be like the nations we shall cast off his yoke from our shoulders since he has rejected us that's what [Music] it's similar to the families of the lands the shotis aids forever who serve wooden stone idolatry [Music] so say i i swear [Music] and and pouring wrath um annihilate him i will rule over them so in other words uh it's no fun when the jews want wanted to cast away the oath that hashem made with us during the time of ezekiel what does it say the elders came of the eden to search for god is they asked a son of a coyote can that son who was purchased by him as an as a slave can he uh eat rum he said if the cayenne decided i don't want the servant and he sells them to another israel he doesn't he doesn't he doesn't leave the po in the possession of the first client yes he does that's the halal you can sell a servant so so what's what's the question you're innocent so if so why is it allowed to eat truma truma is to someone who is who's really yours who belongs to you and that's it here we see you can sell the effort to someone else so why is it allowed to eat the truth what did he say he says um leave the custody of the cayenne for the israelites yes he says yes in other words if you're going to do that you're going to get really punished okay um so um so he said to them as long as you didn't sell the evid he's still in your shoes and you jews were not sold with money [Music] you were so for free so when is it a good sale when it involves money but it doesn't involves money you still belong to hashem to the owner regret from the promise that he made so basically moshe we have here this wonderful message that the eden was like chopping around and moving around and wanted to say we're not in god's domain name said sorry he's still a part of the gym because it's not a real sale because he sold you for free when is the evidence going back to the muscle when is the evid out of the reshus of the coin which would not allow him to eat any truma if he was sold to a israel with money but if he wasn't sold for money he always retains the the the the domain of the of the of the cohan and therefore he's a lady truman gazelle next [Music] the jews want to be they're thinking about how can we not be slaves to hashem and be on our own like the [ __ ] [Music] that will never be it never will be on me hashem says i promise i won't dominate over them with a hard hand i won't let it happen [Music] emody because you already are mine top of next page 181 we made an oath and you gave your word that i made you swear that you belong to me you belong to me expression the word in yiddish as a russian lithuanian would say is garnet garnished but around here the hungarians the polars they say gornish stealthy nothing gonna help you i know i i knew i'd get yo yoni uh alerted to that one [Music] it is impossible for eden to accept their hashpaw from us they're wired differently so if you're going to try to give them their spoiler you give [ __ ] there's going to be a blowout there's going to be an explosion we're not there we're not we don't take for the market like the [ __ ] do keem and from the perspective of god's deeper inner self of love taught to us [Music] we have free will but in us in a sense when we say we have free will we have free will to act but as far as who we are you don't have free will right your suddenly your daughter doesn't have free will to decide who their parents are in today's crazy cuckoo world they think that they do with all the gender issues and everything else we have a right to decide whether we're a cat a dog a man or a women or both together oh really and the same that's what he means here look what it says rashaab writes it clearly in the name of the based on on the majority and the possibility at the end of the day you'll be forced into accepting the yoke in other words you'll be forced meaning either the good way or a harsh way but reality is going to hit you you're a yi so remember that you can't escape being a jew okay many it says medish though you are not my people for you wish to separate from me at those times i shall not be with you meaning i shall not agree with you for my force will force for by force will you be my people inside hebrew actually with a harsh he loves us so much that he's going to enforce himself on us [Music] is because the eden are plenty is therefore there in that in that ballpark in that in that zone so that from that perspective in other words it's coming from genuine love yeah you know i just think yes i'm saying these words and teaching it you know it's like tell it to tell to the people today genuine love you hate me you don't want to let me do what i want to do sometimes it takes difficult ways and things that god forbid i've done to force them to take them [Music] this means anger that means look at the command if only for such anger who provide that this anger come upon us with pouring wrath shall i rule over you that he should redeem us against our will and rule over us so in other words with the mother saying that the wrath of hashem will express itself in a way that he'll rule over us so when you cry out to hashem with a deep inner love this is an expression what does it mean the inward says what does the inward mean meaning the premium says it arouses the inward this and the essence when the afflictions of israel do reach in other words sometimes the saris that hashem brings upon us because he is forcing us to cooperate touches our opinions and our knees is aroused to truva so this is a uh an interesting uh piece over here which is sounds very muslic you know in a way it is muslim but we need to hear it let's see how did our shop sums it all up how you doing to mccullough now what we understand from all of the above because this is russian the rabbit brought mid-russian he wasn't really you know yes moshe so just a quick question when when the redmond now when the rashaba is going to be concluding everything now well he's concluding not just this he's basically including these the this last series of my maya mahon right no no no no no no no i mean he's he's he's concluding the pa the chapter where he quoted mostly uh sukim russian uh okay i'm asking because i i was under the impression that um like if we go no no no we go to the table of contents the um it says that um what we've been learning my mom five through 11 right is like uh it's there's another group together right but that that that's that's not from the rashad that's the organizer of the book you know put it together breaking it up saying that basically it speaks about one theme right okay okay i'm sorry it's all right that's all right mikhaila now what do what do we walk away with from everything we learned in today's chapter which is really the possibility we don't we didn't really learn you know there are i'm sorry i'm sorry maybe you are right because he is referring now back to the verse that he began with in chapter five which was um the possibility so may it could be he is summing up you know these six seven my moral let's see what he says and then we could understand better okay [Music] when a person blesses his heart blesses himself in his heart saying i'll have peace even if i'll do an act that's true of a sin i'll be blessed that's coming from the enticements and persuasions of the eight zahara raksha mahasay ms going back to what he began the whole miner of kunta mayan which tus where he covers the eight sahara covers up the truth um right remember from the term hathor to go astray he inclines you in the way of truth of 183 someone who wants to have life so he has to not follow the dictates of his heart but he has to have control over his heart and let him not be enticed by the falsehoods of the yates and herder the oven hateful and let him understand well darkly the ways sly ways of the yeats who puts these plays these games with the by nature is a deceptive force then you'll go in your right path the key material is you will not deviate to the right of the left are you they peter yetzer through the enticement of the eights out of a ishmael you all listen to him because all of the words of the eggs are their foundations lies so why is hashem allowing him to try to trick you and lie to you and all that to test you [Music] so in your heart you should understand this this truth what's happening and goal assured in in the way of taylormade says then you'll have real life in spiritual matters and physical matters those that say we should be like all the guy in the kabbalah even that is for the purpose of truth but they will receive punishment um from the perspective of the inner love that hashem has gone by hashem forces them even but he redeems us i'm sorry let hashem be furious with us but redeem us okay so in other words you're giving give me a punishment but but please take me out of the trouble at the end [Music] is this a summary it is you know in a way it is but no way it really isn't i mean i mean we learned so many details from in seven with pages and pages of details you know so that's why to say that it's a real summary it's not a real summary it's kind of a pep talk and a bottom line thought that ashab says that um you know going in your own way uh uh you won't be able to escape so you might as well go the katrina in the right way but when he mentions here the pity of the yates or hero i was thinking you know the the enticement the enticement of the ace of her and you know negotiating is is an act like the art of negotiating right i don't know how you feel but i feel there are certain people on certain issues there's no negotiation that's going to help because it's really all baloney it's a bluff it's not true it's a way to try to get their plot and plan for you to accept initially and then later on to suck you in and and do what they want or what he wants what she wants so sometimes the best negotiation is avoidance what do i mean by avoidance there's nothing to come to the table about because you know and and this is always a balance do do we you know if you don't come to the table you're arrogant if you do come to the table and you say your position they say you're also arrogant so what should you do so they say oh negotiate and compromise okay that's if both truly will make a compromise but not if one will at the end get their way you know because they will agree to one thing and then behind your back do other things that are contrary to what what what they agreed to and and they'll get their way because something will happen and they'll say i didn't do it what do you want from me it came from others and really they were working the whole time with the others in the other situation to manipulate you and get what they want so you have to sometimes just cut off cut off and say i don't want to have any part of you leave me alone just leave me alone and i don't know i think many times you walk away healthier and happier you know on one hand it's it's very hard to say goodbye to cut off and i don't i don't mean cut off not to say hello and be a mensch but you know sometimes you just you know people are incapable of being changing or don't want to change and and it's not something that's good for you and in your life and you need to just accept it and um and not feel that you could that you could change the other person so it's not an easy part i'm sure everyone has had issues in their lives how to deal with this but um i'm saying this because you know the the what you hear in the community for sure rabbanim and besdins and rabbis and mashp you know is like you know find a way to make it work you know and many times and of most times that's true but there are times when that's not that's not the case you have to sit you have to stand back and say i i can't get involved and you know and and that's sometimes the way you'll get the best respect i mean i've seen this i've seen this over and over you know when when you when you jump in and you start like [Music] she you end up schmutzig the altar ever says in chapter 28 in tanya you know whoever wrangles with a disgusting one will become themselves disgusting and dirty even if they win the wrestling match so remember that remember that so sometimes the best thing is to walk away that's it that's it ready yes yes the questions so on this last record are you talking about i mean it's easier said than done especially when it's removed from you but let's say you know if it's a mother or a father or a figure or a swear where you do have some kind of culpability and responsibility to you know as a kid without the aim and if they're toxic and all that i mean you've got to stay away but on the other hand the fear will keep it alive never really goes away am i right you're you you are right and the mud already says that i think it was the mother of rebbe who came down and slapped him in front of his tummy there was something or cursed him out she wasn't mentally well so what you said avi is the emmis that's the truth what i was saying is that we're not strong many sometimes we don't have that kayak and at least temporarily until you build up that kayak maybe just avoidance and and um formality is the best recipe at the time we have to separate what needs to be done to help a person with small and the emotions associated with it because that's when we get into the to the issue okay so we can have a disagreement with a parent okay it's it's just part of life and it could be a serious disagreement um but we don't we're not allowed to i just wrote about this yesterday um writing about what happened in khabar in 2013 with call of the show for cuts which i we've discussed before i think you've heard me mention it you know the self-improvement and basically it was giving men adult men and and students it was giving them the okay to bad-mouth particularly their fathers in public public mean in their setting of their group therapy and um the besides community the leaders said this was wrong and they had a meeting with 2 000 people on december 24th uh night at 24th 2013 rabbi david cohen of flatbush which peony i think knows he's a big pasik so he ruled that it's it's forbidden and that was and he wasn't a bad person you know he's a lit [ __ ] fact you know this this is not something that you do in public you have an issue with your father with your mother you you know you can have that issue you have to work it out we'll not work it out but private private we don't we don't bring these things into public so i say that to you only the same thing you know with family it's much harder you're 100 right it's it's i mean who doesn't have family issues you know extended family issues you know say someone becomes a belchuva and has you know brothers and sisters who marry out and issue everyone has the issues i mean all kinds of issues do they do you go to their home do you not go to their home do they go to their weddings i mean sensitive sensitive issues and um if we stay if we can stand back and and and consult with proper abundant friends teachers you know who are level-headed uh will find they will find a solution i told you i think i told you um i was invited to a very good friend's son's wedding manhattan by the uh over there not fort mchenry no that's in baltimore uh you know forget what it's called beautiful scenery gorgeous the tip of manhattan and was it south no no no no all the way up south shootings down no all the way by the new jersey border but all the way by by washington heights further than washington dodge where you can't go anywhere falling through it so so please speak with it so um i uh please speak over there please so so i found out you know this could be a woman rabbi who's doing the ceremony you know so i had a question what do i do it's my good friend and he and he and he's from and he knows but you know emotions are emotions his son is marrying to a jewish girl he's happy that he's marrying the jewish girl you understand where he's coming from and and i spoke to him and i said you know i'm just uncomfortable i mean i mean i i should look look look at me look at me i'm going to to a wedding with uh my wife you know you don't know you know with a shaytard you don't know she is religious she isn't religious but me you can't fake it okay i'm not taking my yamakov this is who i am my beard so i asked the shy lover of a rob who's very you know intelligent very smart sharp and he said in this case because of shalom bias for my friend i should go sit in the back be inc in inconse not as conspicuous as possible and that's it and i did i sat her back they did their hoopa which you know and uh and i left you know but but it was a very very hard decision so sometimes it's not a parent and it's not a family member but it's a good friend you know what i'm saying a good friend who you're being macari when you're learning with that you you know what i'm saying and and it was so interesting because the chabad that he another that he deals with he exempt him from coming but me he wanted to come and that's what i said to the rabbi it seems like you know i mean more to him than and it's true because i brought him into yiddish guide and i developed him and worked with him i be i you know i'm saying i was his contact to from kite you know so there's certain deeper feelings so his appreciation is on a different level but it was a very difficult situation um yeah i'll tell you i'll tell you it's late but i'll tell you a short story but very short because i got to get going i have another class yes when my father-in-law got married for the third time which she's now currently married to yeah okay so she had on the same day as the same day as they got married they got a two-for-one deal um rabbi janice friedman she did the the gay risk and the wedding on the same day okay and the picture was that the shiksha was holding a safe photora in front of the armpit but the funny part the ironic part was the picture had her and back she was wearing all black and the sign of the architecture says yeah that's good okay kevin zygosen have a good day we'll see you tomorrow so i'm gonna stop raining tomorrow okay bring your look hi i'm a little wine to say look hi and we'll have a break take care bye-bye good day