Rav Paysach Krohn - Tu B'Av Together 2026

I would like to encourage all of you to be involved in the tuba of together program which means that on tuba of we're all going to dab [music] together for people that need shidim. I want to tell you a story now a wonderful story about shidim that will encourage people [music] to get involved and even young men going out with girls that are older than them. But the main idea [music] of this program is to get people to dab it together on tuba of for anybody that you know that needs a shid. I took a [music] group of 70 people from America, Canada mixture from all over and [music] we went to three cities that at one point in Claol were very prominent as far as Yiddisheskite was concerned. One was Frankfurt, the other was Prague and the third one was Vienna. Now when we were in Frankfurt we went to [music] the ca of Fhish. Of course Absamh was a [music] great the great writer the great speaker the great person who influenced thousands of yidden and elevated them [music] and we were at his caver and I pointed out to the people that he's buried [music] right next to his wife Kana Yuru. I hope I'm pronouncing it [music] right, Kana Yudel. And I said to the people, take a look. His wife [music] was older than he was. Usually, [snorts] certainly in America, it was always the custom that the husband was older than the wife. But here, she was four years older than him. [music] And I told everyone that when he asked how can he marry a girl that was four years older than him, he made [music] a classic statement and he said for what I have to accomplish in life, I can't marry a child. [music] In other words, he set the tone for what marriage is. Marriage is a team. It's a team to accomplish not [music] only in family but in community and potentially for Claw as well. And Ramsham Hush understood that he had qualities [music] that he could inspire people, but he couldn't do it alone. He needed the Aza. And so he married a woman that was older than him [music] because he felt she was mature and she would be able to help guide him in and [music] help him in everything that he had to accomplish. And I was very very moved by that. And later in May of 206, I was speaking at a Turasaura convention. And [music] at the Turasa convention, there was 700 women for Shalas. Usually Rabal spoke [music] at that uh time frame, but he wasn't well that year. So they asked me if I would speak instead of him as shall. And I mentioned that that you see over here married a woman that was four years older than him. And that I believe that young men when they go out, they can go out with girls that are older than them. [music] They're more mature. They'll make better wives. They'll make better mothers. They can earn more. And [music] that's what I spoke about the importance even of going out with girls that are older. And I felt it was very important for two reasons. one because I really believe that an older girl would be more mature and be a better wife and be a better mother and be able to [music] assist her husband in better ways. And second of all, I wanted to give all those girls that felt that they were a little older a chance to understand that they're not out of the ballpark, so to speak. They shouldn't feel that they're so old that they can't get a shak. But Adorama let people know that they they they [music] can people can go out with them that young men can go out with them. And [music] you wouldn't believe a few weeks after that convention I got a call from a lady. I had to know who she was and she said, "Rabbi Cron, I want to thank you for making the shik of my son." I said, "Ma'am, I appreciate what you're saying, but I just must tell you, I don't know who you are, [music] and I don't think I ever met your son. Who are you?" She said, "Rabbi Kun, I want you to know I'm from Lakewood [music] and they I'm I'm a in Lakewood and I teach in a school and they gave me um a free ticket to go to the term convention." [music] So I was at that speech that you gave at Charles and I was so moved by the fact that you said about Ramsh who married a girl four years older than him. My son was going out. He was he's 24 and he was read a with a girl that was 26 [music] and he didn't want to go out with her and I said to him you know you should go out and I told him what happened with her [music] and then he told me that this girl that he was considering going out with the 26-year-old she was a descendant I don't know a great great great granddaughter of Rab Shamh and that convinced him that he should go out and lisa they went out and I must tell you they got married and you wouldn't believe this. They got married and a year later they had a son [music] and they called me. You know that I'm I was a for 55 years. They called me to do the bris. [music] I went to Lakewood. I did the bris and believe it or not they named the baby Shamsal. Can you believe it? And a year later they had another baby and that baby was born on Shamsal Hersh's English birthday. And you know they named the baby Shamsal. That's what they named the baby. And [music] so therefore, you see that abash they're doing very well today. And that's really what I want to encourage everyone who's listening to this story to know that there's nothing [music] wrong with going out with a girl that's older and they'll make wonderful mothers and wonderful wives. [music] And I wish everybody that's involved in that they should find the right ones and be able to build it by his and and accomplish [music] as did and his wife another wedding going home alone the only one shul without a talis another shabas alone let's be there for each other Wednesday July 29th is ta together the global day of tila for yadla will be ding for one another reciting eight specific for at the very same time a minion of will be ding in for all who submit their names through yim and it's free at tbove.org Two together begins this Tuesday night, July 28th, 6 p.m. with two live stream events. A conversation on dating and marriage with Archulam Lando and more. Then at 8:00 p.m. will be the first live stream women's only event hosted by Tapora Gradco with Charlene Amino and more. And on Wednesday, July 29th, two buff together will feature the live stream global event with Rabanam and Gdam leading us with Tahillum and giving in the area of Shidim. Watch it live at tuba.org beginning at 10:00 a.m. for many hours. One nation, united in file, tuba of together. Go to tubov.org to submit your names, download the tone to be said, and watch the live events. Thank you.