Should A Person Wait To Convert To Judaism?

[Music] but one of the worst of all is the last one gold meaning pride people are want to be show offs a lot of times people do things just to get a uh you know get some type of an audience they'll say things even if they don't mean them they'll say things even if they don't believe them they'll do things even if they shouldn't they'll do things even if they couldn't why they want to be praised by the public they want attention they want popularity they want likes uh pride perhaps is a the most dangerous of all of them because it could literally be in you without you knowing you could be a prideful person without even realizing that that's the reason why you're suffering so much i'll give you a couple of examples how terrible pride is many times you tell people listen why don't you do chewbaca do this do that and many times they listen and then you tell them okay you have to read you have to learn you have to do this no no it's it's too tough maybe i'll do something else maybe i'll do something easier and they complain about the difficulty of what you're asking them to do because it's going to take an extra half hour or an extra hour but they complain about it for six months why because they want it catered to them a certain way a certain size the way they want it they want you know they want you to nurse them for their whole life they want to be babies they don't want to be grown-ups and what ends up happening is that they're so focused on having things their way they forget to realize that had they not complained about the difficulty and simply did what they were supposed to do did what they were told to do they'd actually be finished by now i had this situation happen to me many times with people you know many times with people i had one time a wonderful wonderful person came to me learned wanted to convert to judaism now i told them you would be a great jew because you have good character traits you have uh you know you're a nice person you like to learn and he learned with me for a while and one of the requirements is that you have to live in a jewish community so after being with me already for a couple of years i told listen you're ready to convert you've already been ready only thing is missing is you know you don't live in a jewish community just move to jewish community and i'll convert you tomorrow i'll take you to the vet dean i'm more than happy to do it you're a good guy you're perfect yeah yeah yeah i'm still looking i'm still looking you're looking for that long okay all right well i'm not i'm not a babysitter whatever look whenever you're ready let me know but months will present team every week another three months another six months you ready or what no no no i found something but it's still 200 more expensive i said what what do you mean 200 more expensive so it's 200 more than what i'm spending now so i'm waiting for the market to drop a little bit and then i'm gonna move i wanted to eat his head i said are you kidding me you're gonna delay moving in order to convert for two hundred dollars like that's what this this is this is where we're at no come on rabbi i know i know you say i know i know you're right you're right you're right you're right you're right you're right but he's not gonna do it now because i like him and i hope he's listening to this i'm going to say this that was the biggest mistake of his life because a kadosh baku doesn't have an open door policy that remains open forever and what ended up happening is that he didn't take the advice that i gave him to just simply find a way to come up with the extra 200 find a way to do it don't delay becoming part of the chosen people for a measly 200 bucks just get it done and he had a way to get it done he just it was a unfortunately a very serious disease that like i said idolatry of money just having i want things my way i want things to fit my budget and my excel spreadsheet and my quickbooks and my the way that i'm used to things where does that come from number one it's idolatry of money number two it's ego it's ego you want things your way who says oh you want things your way how about this you're not going to become a jew how about that how about that for that you know what happened for another year i waited for him another year kept coming to my shooting and i liked him so much and i said i don't i can't believe it's been a year already since i already told you to move and you still have him for the 200 dollars yeah i know it's not available this that and eventually what ended up happening one day he just disappeared he came to every single lecture some of you know him and everyone loves him he came to every single lecture he was one of the best and one day hashem just simply took the desire to convert out of his heart for no like nothing happened we didn't get into a fight there wasn't a disagreement nothing just one day just disappeared i just stopped desiring to be a jew and he wanted to be a jew for many years even before he met me why who says if you're not willing to take a 200 risk on me we can't we can't be close okay and that's what happens that comes from ego at another time another person i told listen i understand that you believe that you are jewish and you may be right but according to there's a doubt whether you're jewish or not so you need to convert no no you have to understand my mom converted and and she's a i said yeah but you told me that she converted and she doesn't even keep shabbat her conversion is i don't know what it was but it's not a valid conversion you have to convert he took offense to it and guess what happened instead of taking the advice the guidance that's for free not ten thousand dollars like some of the shame say it is what ended up happening he stayed going why because he wanted things his way another time another person told them listen i understand you want things your way it doesn't work that way you have to learn these things in order to go to a conversion even though you believe you have a jewish neshama you know a lot of people believe that with jewishness you know because of different reasons sometimes it's real sometimes it's you know but you can't you know that's not how judaism is like some idiots think oh no i checked my dna and and i'm 70 jewish so that definitely doesn't make me anti-semite even though all i say is anti-semitic remarks there's some people that make videos on the internet they're completely anti-semitic but their disclosure is no no i'm not anti-semitic because i'm 70 jewish because i checked i checked my dna so i'm allowed i'm allowed to make fun of jewish people people think that judaism is determined based on dna so anyway this wonderful person i told them listen you have to learn these things either way you need to know because if you're going to live as a jew you need to know all these things yeah but i really believe that i'm jewish and i don't know and i don't know and i don't know i said just do it anyway just go learn these disinformation i'll take you to a bed dean they'll ask you some minimal questions you'll pass then you have this certificate that pretty much eliminates all doubt meaning if you are already jewish that certificate is nothing means absolutely nothing that's difficult just another paper that tells you like your high school graduation means absolutely nothing but if you're not jewish that certificate is everything so it eliminates the doubt you can get married you can have kids you can eliminate all doubt just get it done that's it okay i'll kill the other and people always okay guess what months would pass news how are you doing you ready it's not that much information i'm gonna ask you to become a rabbi you ready no no i still haven't gotten to yet what do you mean you haven't gone into it you said you watched all my shooting yeah i watch the show game i just i don't know i'm having a tough time really learning because i really feel like i'm jewish i don't think i need to do this it's one of the most frustrating cases i've had it many times a year would pass a year would pass a year and a half would pass instead of a month or two months you finished now i didn't start yet are you something wrong with you did you fall in your head what happened why why are you still the same whether you are a year and a half ago what happened no i really feel like i'm i don't know i don't think you're right rabbi so why do you call me if you don't think i'm right why do you ask me if you don't think i'm right go live your life right and do what you want what do you want for my life why do you bother me then and what ended up happening is that all this time would pass and guess what had they simply did what i said to do not only they would have known a lot more information than they know now but they would have already finished the conversion 15 times over well it's only a couple of months two three four months worth of studying that's it but no your insistence that you're really jewish and you're in a shama and this or not you're gonna insist you're gonna insist and you're gonna insist and two years would pass and you're still insisting but nothing changed nothing changed and that all comes from ego ego and unfortunately this is part of the job you have to deal with other people's ego constantly constantly in order to help them and this i can tell you cases from here until the world ends and it won't finish where people simply destroy themselves because of their ego you tell them this is what you have to do that's according to the torah yeah but let me see if i can find some other answer so why do you ask me why do you ask why why i have to listen to you it's not necessarily you have to listen to me but why do you have to waste my time if you're not going to take my answer go search on google other people that i deal with they take my answers if you don't want to take my answers go find it somewhere else don't waste my time i got hundreds of families that are waiting for an answer and i'm taking my time with you and that's the reality is that people have such a big ego they get in their own way and unfortunately this is one of the biggest destructions that a person could have in their own life simply allowing their ego to run their life we're very excited to offer you the new bez of the shem app 3.0 it's a newer faster app full of torah lots of kedusha by the shurim that we do myself rabbi fraim rafhaim where you'll have also newer features where you're able to use the app while you're using other applications on your phone you'll be able to share the uh the lectures directly from the app you'll be able to donate online and support our cube and our torah work that we're doing and the most exciting feature is that you'll be able to actually ask questions directly on the app and get answers from the rabbis directly from the app this is something unprecedented and bob hashem will be able to offer it thank you 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