SHOULD EVERYONE RECITE THEIR OWN BIRKAT HAMAZON?

[Music] okay Leia Levitan asks if a woman is not able to say whole blessing of bat on after a meal because of kids and whatnot is it better that our husband say the complete blessing and have her in mind or that she do our own short woman's uh uh uh version of b um well I mean it's always better for a person to do a blessing themselves if they're going to be able to uh um you know to do a full blessing uh but uh if they're able to do a full blessing it's always better for person to bless themselves I mean originally the says that the way we would do for example at the time of is that one person would read the for everybody at the table so if let's there was three four 10 50 people one sadik would read the blessing the the blessing of uh you know on the bread the last blessing for everybody and everybody else would just listen and it's a the person that is a it's a person that listens as if he said it himself and they would say am men at different times of the blessing and uh that's how it was but then saw that unfortunately the uh not everybody's aad like like where when he blessed you know the is full of blessings for sustenance for for for good things all of the good things you could possibly imagine are in hence the reason why there's the says you should have is morning bread because it's not only good for health but also it's good for to it's very good uh uh thing to do to eat bread in the morning so you could do people try to get away from but they don't realize that they're by getting away from you're getting away from the number one blessing in the entire Tora and more most importantly number one source of getting blessings into your life CU that's where you ask for all the blessings that you could possibly imagine but anyway there's a sections in the where you're reading about asking for different blessings that you want hm to give you good health sustenance this that and so on protection so noticed that sometimes the reader is a stingy person so most likely if he's stingy he doesn't want these blessings to go to his fellow he doesn't want these blessings to go to his enemy perhaps that may be sitting at the table he doesn't want to go to his to his rival doesn't want to go the blessings to go to his competition so when he's reading the although he's reading on behalf of everyone he really only means for himself so the instituted at that point that maybe it's better for you to read for yourself now if you have somebody that's a generous person that's a that a uh that does not have a evil eye and he's reading on behalf of everybody that's the preferable way that's the preferable way it's preferable for to read the uh especially if he's a giving person to read on your behalf if you have at least three men in the table but on the other hand if you uh if they everybody you don't know who's who or perhaps people a little bit competitive and so on it's better you read it for yourself now when it comes to the wife again sometimes she's not able to do the entire so if she limited to time where she cannot do the the entire complete and a husband she has a very good relationship with a husband perhaps she would prefer to actually have her husband read the for both of them rather than her read for herself again if she's tight on T but if she can read the herself it's preferable she read the herself now some are going to tell you even even if she can't read the entire it's better that she read the short version of the on but herself and that may be right for you so again it's not necessarily a uh a one siiz fits all it all depends on the person it all depends on her ability all depends on the time so this is one of those things where you can pick and choose if you will uh at different times because sometimes she can read short but her head is everywhere because the kid is climbing the wall or something or or or something's happening she doesn't really have full CET it's better that you read it for her other times she really wants to get into it even though she can't do the whole but she wants to at least get something get something so it's better that she reads it herself again all depends also depends if you have other people there and so on uh so total uh thing is number one read yourself when you can if you have uh several people there it's better that you have a read for you and everybody else say Amen again you have to have at least three men for z uh lastly in in regards to a woman when you have kids and you're short on time uh not just if you're just a single woman and you're on a way to an appointment that there's no excuses the excuses based on whether you have little children especially which usually can't take care of themselves then there is leniency that you could read a short version of the but sometimes you you want to do more than that you could have your husband read for you so again you evaluate that based on Case by case basis [Music]