Losing yourself trying to save them #relationships #codependency

When does helping someone become self-abandonment? It's not about how helpful you are or how much help you give. It's more the why. Why are you doing it? If you stop a second and you step away from this relationship and you ask yourself, what identity do you have independent of this relationship? What value do you think you possess independent of this relationship? And you don't have an answer. If your entire self-worth comes from this relationship, that's self- eraser. And the truth is that is actually not giving, it's actually taking. Because you're not really giving help to the other person. You're really subtly trying to take a sense of selfimportance, a sense of value by helping them. And the reality is, you don't need to get your sense of value from what you do for another person. Your value comes from the fact that your loving creator made you. And just because you exist, you already have infinite