This is not a self-help program

how do I say this gently I wouldn't want you to okay all right I wouldn't want you to enter into a user relationship with Hashem where you realize the benefits and become focused on that and then it becomes transactional in other words the Serenity and the clarity that it brings you are supposed to be symptomatic it's supposed to be an outgrowth it should not become the motivation so when you saying how do I get myself to care I don't want that to be the thing that you care about because then that becomes the motive and the payoff then it's not about God anymore to be in some sort of Peace like to yeah yes it'll bring peace but I don't want peace to be your objective you want the objective to be a relationship with yes