Why Modern Dating Feels So Empty

Why is modern dating a spiritual dead end? There's a presumption being made there in that question which I happen to agree with. I do agree that modern dating is a spiritual dead end. The reason is because most people today date because they're looking for companionship. They are bored. They're looking for fun. They're looking for validation. They're looking for comfort. A bunch of stuff that really is about making yourself feel good. So basically they're using a relationship as a and then what happens is they find a real and usually the most common today is a screen social media apps that kind of stuff and the real dog is always much more reliable than the fake using a relationship as your distraction. You're numbing your escape. It's very unreliable. It involves another person with free will. They usually disappoint you and they're trying to get their fix while you're trying to get your fix. In the end it's just much easier to go numb yourself on your own. And that's why it's a huge failure. Dating should be for one purpose, to figure out if this person is trustworthy to build a home with. That's it. It's a vetting process. It's a job interview. That's what it is. Obviously, there has to be an attraction. There has to be some compatibility. You have to like each other, enjoy each other's company. There has to be some human connection. But that's the same thing like a job interview. You don't hire someone who's going to be annoying. You hire cool people that you're going to want to spend time around. But the main thing is you hire someone who can do the job. And what is the job in a marriage? A job is building a home. Don't date because you're bored or lonely and you need somebody to distract you. Date because you're trying to figure out who you can partner with to do something to join with in a project of enduring value. And then after you're married, even when you have hard times, as long as you have your focus on that ultimate goal, you'll be able to get through everything. You'll be able to get through the problems. But if you were dating because the relationship is supposed to make you feel good, then after you're married, once the marriage isn't making you feel good, that's it. You're done with the marriage. So, we got to flip this whole thing around. We got to stop dating and being in relationships and getting married because we think it's something we're doing for ourselves and realize that it's a selfless thing that you do for the greater God.