The difference between being needed and being loved #relationships #wisdom #shorts

Why do some people feel safer being needed than loved? You see this a lot with people who work really hard to make themselves indispensable because they believe that's how they will have security in their relationships. That people won't be able to afford to get rid of me. Very often that comes from past experiences of betrayal where you were rejected and now you're trying to figure out a strategy how to prevent that from happening again. So needed feels a lot safer than loved. But here's what I want to tell you. Needed isn't secure either because people's needs change. Today they need you, tomorrow they don't. If you're trying to make yourself indispensable because you're terrified of rejection, it's not even going to work. The reality is that we need to grow up and we need to fully accept the reality that security does not come from people. People are fickle creatures. They're constantly changing, they're constantly on the move. Our security can never come from what people think of us. And that's why no matter how many relationships we have with other human beings, we need to have one relationship that is the basis of all other relationships. And that is a rock-solid relationship with our maker. Your relationship with your maker is unchanging and eternal just as he is. His relationship with you is based on your essential value as his creation. It's not a transactional relationship based on what you have to offer. And when you know that your only security comes from that relationship, then you can be free to interact with other people without any expectations and without any fear.