The Harsh Truth About Intermarriage Violating Shabbat And More

If the husband is a Jew and the wife is a non-Jew, the outcome is a non-Jew. If the husband is a non-Jew and the wife is a Jew, the halakha is that the child is a Jew, but there are opinions in the Gemara that he's not a Jew. There are opinions in the oral Torah that he's not a Jew. He has to go through conversion if he wants to be a Jew, the child. But aside from that, in reality, the child will not be a Jew, even if the mom is a Jew. Why? He's confused. I have a I have a Christmas tree and I have a Hanukkah. Boxing. Which one do I pick? So what happens with the product of intermarriage? Atheists. He says Hanukkah, she says Christmas. Shh. They're both wrong. I'm picking neutral. They become atheists. They become nothing. They become agnostic is what they call it. No, we're friends with everyone. Until they go against us. So now, the product is destruction. Hashem says if you're going to breed destruction, I might as well speed it up for you. Just like I help you with your mitzvot, you want to be holy, I help you become holy. You want to destroy, I'll help you destroy. Phinehas put a stop to it. Now, going back to our original question, if anyone remembers the original question. If God already knew this was going to happen, why did he punish us? If he knew we're going to do this, he knew that Balak and Balaam are going to talk. Balaam is going to try something, it's not going to work. Then they're going to try something else and that's going to work. We're going to sin. Mhm. Pinchas is going to stop it. Why even Why even kill them? As a matter of fact, in the mama say Sanhedrin page 44, it actually says that Pinchas, after he killed Zimri and Cozbi, he threw their bodies, and he screamed at Hashem, Hashem, "For this For these two, you killed 24,000 people? These two sinners? You killed 24,000 of your children?" And that's why the mama says that's why Pinchas got the blessing he did. It wasn't that he was just zealous for Hashem and protecting his honor. He was also zealous for his people, too. That is the sign of a righteous rebuke. There are two ways to rebuke people. There's a good way, and there's a bad way. There's a way that brings honor to Hashem's name, and there's a way that desecrates Hashem's name. The mistake we have today is there's a huge misunderstanding of what nice or good or honor of Hashem means versus harsh. Most people think that if you're rebuking somebody by telling them that they're a mechallel Shabbat, according to God, it means a death penalty. Or means that they're putting their Judaism on suspension. Or means that they're not allowed to say Kaddish. No one's allowed to say amen to their Kaddish. You can't drink their wine if they touch the wine. And a lot of other horrible things. They can't be a ba'al korei. They can't be a chazzan in a beit knesset. They're removed from Judaism. They're removed from any holy ceremony. They can attend if they want, but no one's allowed to say amen to any of their blessings. Why? Cuz they're considered, according to Halakha, 100% an idol worshiper. Now, a that brings a korban to the Bet Hamikdash, we take his korban. Take his korban, sacrifice it. A mechallel Shabbat that brings a korban to Bet Hamikdash, we don't take it. Because he's worse than a The is holy. wants to bring korban, shleima. As long as you're not an idol worshiper. Take his korban. No problem. But a Jew that desecrates Shabbat can't take his korban. So, now this is a problem. So, people think that if you tell this to people, this is harsh. It's truth. They say the truth hurts, and truth's too harsh. Say something else. Lie. Now, we said yesterday a nice example. If someone saw their child break something, they don't stop lightly. But if they saw their child ran to the electric socket with a fork, they're not going to say, "Stop it, honey," nicely. They're going to run, move everything out of the way. It doesn't matter if the whole house breaks, they're going to do whatever they can to stop the kid from doing it. They even if they have to tackle the child. Why? It hurts. Why you going to tackle your child? Maybe he's going to break a hand. Maybe he's going to break a leg. Maybe he's going to do that. At least he's going to live. At least he's going to live. So, when Hashem says someone that's violate Shabbat is considered an idol worshiper, he's saying it. It's not the rabbi that's saying it. The sages just wrote what God said. You can look at Parshat Ki Tisa. you could put parshat Ki Tavo, you could look 12 different places in the Torah, it says the significance of the sin of violating Shabbat and many many other sins. But specifically with Shabbat being the worst of it all. So now, if you tell this to someone, you're doing them a favor. Whether they like it or not is their business. Whether they listen to it or not is their business. But at least now, we have 50% chance that they may listen. Before you told them, there was a 0% chance of them listening cuz you didn't say anything. So there was a 0% chance of them changing. Without information, people don't change. Now we officially have 50% chance. It may be 50% that he's just not going to do it. Nothing's going to change. But at least now it's 50%. It's going to bother him. Next time he drives the car, it's going to bother him. Next time he loses money on Shabbat, he's going to blame Shabbat. He's going to Something's going to touch him. It's going to bother him. Why? Cuz you did him a favor. But many people say no, no, this is harsh. Let it be harsh, but it's still at least he's going to live. At least he's going to live. To say that you're not going to tell him because you're trying to be nice, you're not going to tell him because you don't want to offend him, you don't want to turn him off like a lot of people say, "No, no, I don't want to tell my people to all these things of what actually the Torah says because I don't want to turn them off." The problem is that you can't turn off something that's not on. If he's not keeping anything, he's not on to be turned off. The fact that he's showing up to make notes it doesn't mean he's on. Just means he comes to gather just like he does at a bar, at a sports club, at work, and any other place. He has a a of friends. There he goes. To social club. So, to say that I'm being nice and therefore I'm not saying it, there's also a Gemara for them. In the Gemara Maseches Shabbos page 54, the sages ask Hashem, "God, why did you punish the rabbis before the wicked people when you destroyed the Beis Hamikdash? Why? You would think the Torah, the significance of the Torah, the only reason this world exists is for us to fulfill this Torah. You would think the people that study it would have privilege, VIP. This is not only not VIP, you destroy them first. This is a contradiction. The Shechinah, which in essence is like a voice of Hashem, responded, "They weren't tzaddikim." The rabbis, they weren't tzaddikim. Why? Why were they not considered tzaddikim to get this special privilege VIP of protection like Chizkiyahu HaMelech. Remember last week we said a story about Chizkiyahu? Chizkiyahu, there was millions of people waiting at his door to destroy him. He said, "Okay, I finished my daf Gemara. I'm going to sleep." Millions of people at his door, they want to kill him. He says, "Okay, good night." But there's people with swords, atomic bombs outside your door, they want to kill you. "Okay, good night." He's going to sleep. Why is he going to sleep? He says, "I learned my Torah. I'm going to sleep. Hashem says if I learn his Torah, everything's going to be okay. I went to sleep. I woke up in the morning, they're all dead. Took us a few days to bury them. Why did he do it for him and not for the people of the McDowds? Why? Why? What happened? He got everybody to keep Shabbat. He put a sword in the ground and he said, "Anyone who doesn't learn Torah, leave everything, learn Torah, I'm going to kill him with the sword." The entire nation became a Everyone learned Torah. To such an extent that 6-year-old little babies 6-year-olds still babies, they knew the entire mission by heart. Hezekiah got to a point when they buried him. The in Katan says they buried him with a safer Torah. Why they buried him with a safer Torah? They said the safer Torah is holy, Hezekiah is holy. Same thing. Same thing, safer Torah Same thing as Hezekiah. Safer Torah falls, everyone has to fast. Safer Torah has to falls, everyone has to fast. Safer Torah is holy of holies. Hezekiah holy of holies. Same thing. Hezekiah So, they asked the asked So, the rabbis in the McDowds they did this, they did that, they did this, they did this. Why didn't you protect them? He said they weren't like Hezekiah. Why they weren't like him? They didn't rebuke the people tell them to keep Shabbat. When you don't rebuke the people, it says you take the sin yourself. You're a sinner just like them. So, the nice way, the nice approach I don't want to tell him cuz I don't want to turn him off cuz it says for you The is you're also the sinner. You go to and say, "Oh, I kept Shabbat 50 years, 60 years, 70 years." They know you didn't keep Shabbat at all. One Shabbat you didn't keep. But, what do you mean? I went to Shabbat, I went But, yeah, but your wife she didn't keep Shabbat, you never told her one thing. Your son didn't keep Shabbat the whole life, you didn't tell him one thing. Your neighbor didn't keep Shabbat, you didn't tell him one thing. All these people there Shabbat goes on you. Why? didn't say one thing. Nobody want to turn them off. Okay, you don't want to turn them off. Now I'm going to turn all of you on and get enough together. It's on permanently. Strong lectures are similar and different to the one that you heard tonight that are simply full of sources, honesty that's brutal but is effective. He couldn't breathe. It helped countless people get closer to Hashem because for the first time in their life they heard that there are serious ramifications for their bad actions, whatever those bad actions are.