The Lesson From The Mitzriam - Parshas Ki Seitzei- Blue Ridge Mishmar

This guy started thank you for being First of all, welcome to everybody and I want to thank you for having the smart another year to sit and learn to to to get together with a friend, maybe sing a song or two and learn some of the great Torah say hello. The schmoozing at the beginning is is maybe the acre of the garden. The schmoozing, the the great Torah, the singing for sure, but I want to thank you for having for arranging always sponsoring it. Always not taken for granted. The muscle they put out just the organizing is is appreciated. [clears throat] I thank God that for coming from so far for this. The we've all started we started whether we started our man and whether our children have started school. I had an interesting experience this week. Four boys came to Yeshiva from Mexico to Yeshiva and three of the four only speak Spanish. One could speak Hebrew a little. It's pretty I guess we're pretty like our Hebrews are pretty equal and I I decided I just see them beautiful special kids special guys. I just thought I want to learn with them. I should want to learn with them. I can't really put them in the sheer. They right now they don't know but they know they're learning English though. I don't know Spanish. We're trying to meet somewhere but they manage don't speak. So I'm learning with them. It's a gesture one of them is translating. I'm so curious what the great Torah they know right now, what they've learned because I I can't imagine what's lost in the translation. I'm speaking like like my Hebrew about Cuz maybe Hebrew. If you if you'd listen to the Hebrew, you'd I'm making up words. I'm like trying to to speak. Our past, tense, future, male, and female for sure is out the window. But at least like most words that you Sometimes the guy who's translating looks at me and he's like, "I I don't know what you're talking about." We use [clears throat] a little Google Translate, but it's We're We're struggling. But I want to say I want to I I want to say the very interesting thing that in talking to the guys, I really want to connect with them. I really have And I could say things, but there's so much you can say. Even okay, at the end we get to the Torah. Even certain things to give over. I want to tell them that that's not where I am. That's not That it's an ideal we can get. There There There's There's like feelings and things I want to tell them, and we each don't have the language for it right now. They want to tell me things. We really want to be friends, and if you don't have the language, if you can't speak, there's a Yiddisher soul who was one of the biggest pains in my life. There's a tzaddik in Eretz Yisrael who was mekariv me a lot. I'm going to say his name. It's Tzvi Myer Leib ben Avraham Shmuel Levitz. He was mekariv me nefesh. And he he went after me. He would He would tell me to come to his house. He'd invite me for Seudah Shlishit. I ate there with my wife. I ate there when I was a bachur. He was mekariv me a lot. He's in Shamayim today, and he liked me and I liked him. We loved each other. And I ran from him. I'm very bad with language, and I felt I couldn't express them. And I felt I couldn't be in a relationship. I couldn't express. I couldn't Today probably and I would What I would do, I would just talk English fast, and that's it. Whatever happens. But I My Hebrew and I'm very I have a challenge. I'm I'm below average in speaking. I have friends who quickly could speak Hebrew and Yiddish. I understand Yiddish. I can listen I listen to shiurim. I can understand fluent Yiddish. I can listen to the radio in Eretz Yisrael in Hebrew, but I can't speak. It's a It's a nisyun. I can't speak and I felt a distance from him and I ran away from him. He was mikayeim me and I ran away. And it's a tza'ar. It's a tza'ar like a zakh in olam haba. I want to I want to fix it up. It's a tremendous tza'ar. I was zocheh that my son Yaakov learned by him and was close to him and Yaakov's much better with languages. And he told Yaakov, "I want to be close to your father." He told him that. And I still didn't run. The language thing is a is a challenge. And I can say that with these bachurim, we managed as a bachur Simon. Beautiful bachur. He'll be here many shavuos. I want to be close to him. We're going to be close, but we can't speak his fresh he wants to tell me things. Sometimes we understand each other. He's told me like I understand you. He's pointing his heart like our heart out. I get what you're saying. His father told me that he understands you. Even the translation's very weak. He's a little more ahead in learning the translation about what he's getting, but we understand each other to a degree, but it's very very hard. We don't speak the language. And I want to say that what's hit me I want to say why I'm telling everybody this. Okay, I don't think it probably not connecting to many people who only speak Spanish. I want to say that when two people don't express their feelings of what's going on and we don't have the same fresh things, the same thing. It occurs to my own children if we can't be honest with what we're experiencing inside is the same frustration. So, a little we fake it. We pretend it, but if you're not, you know, people have this awkward relationship. To parents, to children. When people don't get their own story and express their own things, their frustration, it's It's thing. So, here we have a little better. We can throw around a few words. The same frustration that I Me and someone Daniel and Simon want to be close. So, we have to learn to somehow we're going to have to figure out a way that we could say things together. If we could say all the English words in the world, but we can't say here. So, it's the same frustration. Auto the manage. Manage. Auto the manage. We have to make a world that we could be open to our children. They could be open to us. We could be open to the wives. Otherwise, you're playing the same games. You have a few more words. I said. What bothered me with Rav Fram I didn't have the language. Rav Fram should have said it. I didn't have the language to express things that we are It's partly a language problem. It's partly I was working my own Sugya. I have a lot I want to tell him today. I don't know my above session. There is What will speak this Yes, I'm a son. This I'm a son. A real place. Yes, I'm a son. We will speak. But, I wanted to express. I want to express this point that two people to really speak. To really talk. To make a space to really talk. It's hitting me a lot and with these Bachurim that we're trying this like the frustration and what's lacking. So, then you start speaking. So, now good. You can say table, chair, but if you can't express manage and you write there distance in the tire. The word for intimacy is is to be Yados. To know. To know. Two people know each other. I I went to a man to beg him. A father to beg him to lean in. Guys are Talmud Chacham. A wealthy guy. Successful. But, he's a stranger to himself and as such to his children. I begged him to go to therapy and learn himself and then lean into his children's story. Like he can't cry his own stuff. He won't feel his kids stuff. So, I begged him. And he didn't want to listen. Then I told him what he mentions relationship to his mother is very awkward. They say a few words, but it's like awkward. I asked him I asked him I said, "You're an intelligent person. Shame made a beautiful world and you and your mama and you and your mama the one who carried you, the one who brought you to this earth, your mother, you can't and it's awkward that doesn't bother you?" He told me he cried the whole night the man told me. The man told me he cried the entire night. He's not exaggerating. He said, "I cried all night." Didn't sleep. He cried the whole night. Your relationship's awkward and uncomfortable. The problem is he doesn't know himself. His mother doesn't know him. Then they could talk about the weather. It's snowing outside. It's cold. It's warm. The same four conversations. By the way, if you know each other and if you don't talk deep, you see somebody that you know. When I see my son we look at each other's eyes. We nod and then we How's it going? You don't have to talk. You could sit for a fair and you know each other. You could sit down to your mama and you don't talk. You don't know you don't have to say anything. Big and so he got to go to his son. They every week his son would sit. Many times neither one said a word. People say they're talking telepathically. No, you don't They know each other. What do you mean? They look at each other's face. What do you mean? >> [clears throat] >> They're feeling each other. What do you mean? That's That's closer than a lot of people talking about about the weather. But if But if But that's if we talk. That's if there's space to talk. That's if there's space to share. That's if there's If we could be human then with our own insecurities and worries and stuff and we can make space for somebody else, two people can really connect. That's what I want to say from this week's experience. I am if anybody wants to come to Hebrew share passion give it better and if you know Spanish, please come over and help us out, but >> When they came forward, they have a beautiful have a lot of emotion. Amazing. A guy one of them complained he wants to learn more. I like tried if we I just anybody could speak Spanish with the No, I'm not. You might be saying Fantastic. Okay, I wanted it there's a few in Yanam in Parshas Ki Seitzei packed. There's a There's a few in Yanam that that I wanted to that I wanted to examine in Parshas Ki Seitzei. We'll try to be a little brief. But I want I want to sing also. David's here to sing We're going to sing also. But I want to explore a few in Yanam in Parshas Ki Seitzei. I wanted to ask there's a Gemara I'm trying to figure out. We learned Brachas last year in Yeshiva. I'm like stuck on an Akuda and I maybe the we'll we'll figure it out together perhaps. Tzav says there's a side [clears throat] that I make you happy. Don't hate person from Edom. He's your brother. Tzaddikim and Yidden are very into family and distant family. Very very into very very into family. That's always in everything. You talk about our sister. Well, I saw the spirit of Ram Shmuel Ovadia. Somebody is a cousin of his if you're like a 14th cousin. You're like Mishpacha Mishpacha Mishpacha is here. But they're very into relatives. There's a famous Maiseh with the Chazon Ish. Where somebody said he's a relative and the Chazon Ish said to him from far distance relative. And then the Chazon Ish was davening and said K'Av Rachamim Yakov. And the Yid said from far distance relative. And the Chazon Ish took the Musar and like his Makarov and Meruchak. Like a If you were that were close K'Reivim is a big Zacha B'Shor V'Salaim. Makarov K'Reivim Mishpacha is a big big thing is going on. Nachshon says it's mishpacha. So, the Torah says don't hate them the mishpacha. They we come from Yakov. It's a distant cousin. Mamish a distant cousin. Esav is very vile. But before they come from Avraham also, amazing. The Torah is cited in Ki Achicha. This is not a Kariv. It's a cousin. Amazing. It's amazing that the Zede hated me. They did bad things to us, but he's a cousin. But the fact he's a relative. Tremendous that anybody reads this pasuk to be good to relatives. I got guys in the Yeshiva. I had a guy in the Yeshiva. His grandfather is my father's first cousin. I didn't know they existed. You have a lot of relatives. It's a What's that called? His grandfather is my father's first cousin. Is that a first cousin twice removed? Second cousin once removed. Yeah, I don't know the math equation. The second cousin once removed. But he's my cousin. We're cousins. Everybody else can mess with him. I'll beat you up. He's my cousin. In the Yeshiva he has a shmira. The Torah says don't make Ki Achicha. The Torah Hashem teaches us what it means mishpacha. Then it says to say mitzri. Don't hate a mitzri Ki Ger Hayisa B'aretz Mitzrayim. in in Mitzrayim. And and we were Ger in the city. Now, pashut [clears throat] pshat They They do pashut pshat is hakaras hatov. We were Ger. Now, again they were bad for us with Saish, but at first they were good for us. The The Rishonim speak it out that that's the Kenaan and others. Pashut pshat in the Torah I assume everybody here learns is grat- is gratitude is gratitude. He took care of us Dor Rishonim, but that's gratitude. History. We were in Mitzrayim. The Mitzrim hosted us. So, you were Ger in their land. Gratitude is be good to the Mitzrim. That's pashut pshat in the Torah Rishonim. Then comes the Gemara Brachot and I'm I'm not that's how the Gamara's learning p'shat. I want to handle with this sefer. Comes the Gamara in Brachas, and the Gamara says Rebbi Yosi Darshan says follows, Darash, "Like society like society don't hate a Mitzri because you were a ger." Says, "Al Yad Varum Kal V'Chomer." Says Rebbi Yosi, "It's a Kal V'Chomer. Aman Mitzriyam that were only m'karav Yisroel tzarich achman." Yet the Torah says kach, "They did it selfishly, yet the Torah says so if you m'ayerach talmid chacham b'seich baisay, and you give him to eat and drink him and you have talmid chacham Kal V'Chomer David." The Mitzriyam who did it m'nos achman kach, so if you m'chana talmid chacham, Kal V'Chomer big stuff. If you take a talmid chacham into your house, I'm so confused. Pashut p'shat in the Torah is is is hakaras hatov. What does that have to do? What's this Kal V'Chomer? What's the Gamara saying? Pashut p'shat we have to be good to Mitzriyam with a bit of gratitude. Torah says a Kal V'Chomer. Says Rebbi Yosi, "A Kal V'Chomer if you take care of a talmid chacham, how good it is for yourself." Is it the talmid chacham has a bitul m'lacha b'shabbos? We have hakaras hatov. What's this Kal V'Chomer? We owe hakaras hatov to the Mitzriyam like society Mitzriyam. What's the Kal V'Chomer it's making here? What what's the Torah saying? You have if the Mitzriyam who did it m'nos achman kach, so if you take a talmid chacham into your house and you machil you mashke you maneh m'nachaso, wow, halachas kam l'kama the s'char is great. What's happening here? To the Mitzrayim we owe them gratitude. What's this kaval chaimer? What's happening? What's What's pashut shati? What's the Gemara saying? Now you ask what's the end of shati? What's this kaval chaimer? Pashut shat, the Mitzrayim hosted us, so we owe gratitude. What's the kaval chaimer? If you have a talmid chacham to say ba'is say kaval chaimer to the Mitzrayim did I not ask him? You have a talmid chacham you machaneh machke you machle lachas kam v'kama what a s'char you're going to get. Then what's happening? That's s'char for hosting us is gratitude for hosting us. So could be you could say I want to tell you what I'm thinking, but you could say I I first want to see if it's mucher what I'm saying. Could you What's pashut shat in this Gemara? What's pashut shat? So Victor, what's pashut What's this kaval chaimer? Now if the Gemara learned I'm going to say another pashut. If the Gemara learned that it's nothing to do with gratitude it means you have to be good to Mitzrayim. They hosted Yidden. Nothing to do with gratitude. They hosted Yidden. They were changed. That country hosted Yidden. So here they hosted sh'lo l'shem shamayim kach it impacts them kach. Imagine somebody hosts talmid chacham l'shem shamayim it for sure impacts them. If it's not as in in gratitude, so the kaval chaimer is beautiful. It's a pella, but the Gemara didn't learn it's gratitude. The Gemara learned they hosted a Yid. They hosted a Yid. They hosted Yidden. They hosted The Gemara is saying ki gairi tismachu, they hosted Don't start with Mitzrayim. They hosted Yidden. So if you host sh'lo l'shem shamayim you become such like an aid it makes a mailus. If somebody hosts a talmid chacham certainly then the kaval chaimer is like what? If you learn it's gratitude, I can't figure out Reb Boaz, them it's gratitude, it. I don't know what the cover hammer is. So, it could be the pshat is even if it's gratitude. It just means but what set our gratitude in motion is they hosted us. That wasn't like it's host cuz they hosted us is gratitude cuz they hosted us. The cover hammer is funny. But what gave them that we have a curse of time is hosting us. So, the Gamara is saying ultimately hosting a year caused that we have gratitude which saved them. So, if you host the top that's maybe the Gamara means I think the simple pshat the Gamara is learning that it's not a sugi of gratitude. Don't hate Matrium. They hosted Yidden. I would say that it makes a mile of them for hosting us. Shiloh Lano Sotsman. They hosted the Talmud of Sham Shamayim. Certainly, it's big for you. But then it comes out the reason you don't attack Matrium is not a sugi of gratitude. I would ask on that why didn't the why did the Gamara learn that way? Why didn't the Gamara say the Ramban speaks out gratitude? Rishonim speak out gratitude of Das Akeinim. What had he here says gratitude. So, I don't know why the Gamara didn't learn that way. But Gayer Gayer how you say by say is there there's a mile of them. So, it should it should have been a mile away everywhere. Some either pshat any pshat you learn any pshat you learn. Right, but if you learn it's it's the mile of hosting Yidden does that so any place should be as long as you hosted us graciously. It has to be at the beginning when they did it. Any countries didn't do it graciously. No. Early it seems they took us somewhat graciously at the beginning before they tortured us. So, then it's not a gratitude. It's Gayer you say by say you they're they're not pashut people. They hosted Yidden. What pashut somebody hosted a Yidden what that does to a country? That brings in aliya to the the whole country. A host hosting Yidden brings in aliya. And that the Gamara says cover hammer if you hosted tsadik l'shem shamayim, what it will do to you." That's pas p'shat. The Mitzrayim are different cuz they once hosted Yidden. That changes everything. They hosted Yidden is a big thing. They hosted Avraham Yitzchak Avinu, they they hosted Ya- That's that's the sugya. It seems that's how the Gamara is learning it. Pas p'sh- Gabriel is pas p'shat? I think so. Somebody Somebody figures out different than my shita. Somebody figures out different. I think that's the pas p'shat. That why the Gamara learned that way, I'm think I'm I have thoughts, I don't have a a finished product. Why the Gamara didn't learn kipshuta? I think the Gamara didn't learn kipshuta. So, I ask if somebody has what to say about this, I'm curious. It seems the p'shat in the Gamara is that is that for hosting us changes Mitzrayim forever. They hosted Yidden. I think that's remarkable. Just they hosted Yidden, it's different. And And I don't hate a mitzvah. You know you know you're talking about You're talking about somebody hosted a Yid. That's shalom l'shem shamayim. Sh- tells us first somebody hosts a talmid chacham l'shem shamayim, what that means. >> Why do you talk about talmid >> Ah, so Gabriel asks why a talmid chacham. So, that the Marsha says should say Yidden. If the word is Yidden, the Marsha says cuz it's talking about the fact that they hosted Yitzchak Avinu. So, it's talking about a talmid chacham. That's too much specifically Yaakov. He speaks about when Yaakov was there in Mitzrayim. It's interesting. So, I should say it more exactly. He's calling me out. It's for hosting a talmid chacham. The The country hosted Yitzchak Avinu. Hosted Yitzchak Avinu. >> It doesn't seem that the ruler of the country was hosting. >> Are you asking they hosted Yaakov? Also was It was Yaakov who hosted like it wasn't What do you give them in Mitzrayim the credit? But they appointed him the head if he was in And even Paro seems to have taken in Paro of he met them took in them Mishpacha for taking Yankel of you know when. So, you hosted Yankel and you everything's different. Pretty big fellow, they're great, great descendants. People talk about the Khidish in that curse of Toyiv. I want to talk about the Khidish, somebody hosted a Tzaddik. Doyrus later on, the Mitzri is not Poshe that he hosted a Tzaddik. They all dealt dealt with the Zayde hosted a Tzaddik. It's amazing. It's amazing Zach, what that means. Poshe of Shana in the Gemara, you see a random Mitzri I don't say today it's Sanche who was mevalvel the Omes. So, I don't know today if you see a guy My son traveled to Egypt and my wife and I were frightened. Now, we didn't say listen they they're El to Zayde hosted Avram. I don't Sanche would mix them then I They're not They're not the descendants. But, if you saw a Mitzri, it's a pretty big fellow. A long time ago, this El to El to Zayde who hosted a Tzaddik, be careful with him. >> They're higher than >> There's some great Khidish that El to El to Zayde who hosted a Tzaddik. Amazing Khidish. So, a lot has come to come. A Khava Khoymer for hosting a Tzaddik. I want to say over a Maise. I want to say over a Maise. It's Toyiv Shana. I want to speak about my father Rebbi Kapers Mishkavli. I want to talk about hosting a Tzaddik and the Gemara is saying it. Am Ha'aretz Talmud Khokham. I want to tell you a Maise, it's true Maise. I heard this Maise many times. The what a Yid, a Rosh Yeshiva in Eretz Yisrael, he's a nephew of Rav Aaron Feldman in the a great cementer, very special person. Funny I say a great a big person, his name is Grossman. But, he's a big person. He's a He's a He's a very special person. And we grew up in the same house. We grew up in the same house. And we we lived in Rockaway in a two-family house. And we grew up as brothers, Namish, it was a tiny house. And the upstairs and downstairs, when we would run as little kids, we sometimes would make a lot of noise on his parents' head, they took a broom, they would knock on the ceiling to just remind us to walk a little softer. At my Bar Mitzvah, my father [snorts] presented a broom, a new broom to the downstairs neighbors. Like, the first year he presented a new broom. They were very special Yidden, this mishpacha. And he he has said the rabbin, I heard him speak and I saw he didn't know I was in the crowd once. He said the rabbin that a Yid moved down upstairs and changed his life. He was an American kid, a schmuck flying around, doing his stuff and a talmid chacham moved in. He said he was everything he thought to be happy after, be very rich, and to be happy after like be be shalom and he sees this talmid chacham upstairs and it changed his life. He became a ben Torah eventually, was a yeshiva, was a very special Yid. Now, be'emes, there was an apartment upstairs, his [clears throat] family lived downstairs, and the lady before her last what's that word? Before she passed away, she said to her children, "I only rent the apartment to a talmid chacham." Now, this is Boro Park way in the early 1970s. There weren't beautiful city, it wasn't full of talmidei chacham, there wasn't >> [snorts] >> there wasn't the city in the early 70s. And this lady, before she passed away, her tzava'ah, her command, her mitzvah like kind divrei emes, she asked to rent the apartment to a talmid chacham. So, they started like looking, there was there was in Boro Park at the time. There was no what are you talking? My parents moved from Lakewood in 1974. Somehow they heard, and they heard he's a talmid chacham, and they rented it to my parents. And my parents lived there for 13 years. And my my father had a tremendous ashpa'ah. He had four children, they all became reshigeblater, like shtark. The the the the boy is a talmid chacham living in Eretz Yisrael, mamash big, and his and his sister is married to me the Ham and got the end and they all are changed their lives Mommish. My parents signed on a house, I think it was the day we signed on their first house that they bought and were leaving the apartment, on the day of the youngest one's the Mommish of art and the Mommish of art. Keilo the the grandma, "You did your job, okay, now you can move." The Mommish of art of the youngest one who now married a Tom Hacham was on the day and for many years they they kept the low price my parents, they kept this divrei emes. And Mommish the key of the Gamorah, if somebody has a Tom Hacham beside base, a lot of common and common. Somebody has a Tom Hacham is Mommish the Tom Hacham the schar and the gains. Here in mitzrayim dor doros later for people who hosted Yank Mosh Avinu with tzarich achsahn, Mommish for their own bad reasons, and there's episik tusha, there's episik something to a mitzrayim. It's not possible that all the bad they did, there remained something. Imagine somebody's Mommish and hosts a Tom Hacham, the person brings kol ha Tom Hacham tzarich base, machilu mashke, my name and chos vas common and common, it's a tremendous impact to somebody the ba'al host a Tom Hacham, tremendous tremendous impact. So I wanted to I wanted to say over I wanted to say over this maiseh specifically in Kisei Tzei where where the Gamorah Brochos learns this, I wanted to say over this maiseh. I wanted once um talking about my father and I'm talking Kisei Tzei, I wanted to read in Mesias Yesharim, this safe in Mesias Yesharim was a safe that was very carved to my father, he learned it, he taught it, he was holding in it, he was very attached to Mesias Yesharim, and there was an inyan here in Parshas Kisei Tzei >> [cough and clears throat] >> that he was outstanding in in in clean devarim, something that was huge by him to speak clearly to speak the lushin akhi was a big big thing in the house there was something that was important to miss to speak in an ice in an lushin akhi and that it shouldn't be any type of on on speech that's inappropriate and not to speak the lushin akhi was something important and the miss you sharm describes in perak aleph the miss you sharm describes about nif lip peh >> [cough and clears throat] >> and he describes his marriage he speaks a lot about the the the of nif lip peh speaks about terrible ancient for nif lip peh for inappropriate speech and first is supposed to have time nif lip peh and the miss you sharm said when he talks about it he says the a person thinks that this that nif lip peh is so is only to keep a person in like if you speak nif lip peh you're closer to doing this and that's only somebody's dumb somebody was likely to do this by speaking about it will come to this but if somebody says it as a joke okay a joke it's not so serious tell this person that's the of this and he brings he brings the of nif lip peh and he says and he describes the terrible of nif lip peh and he says this is like nif lip peh of a deeper this not a thing it brings to to it's an itself every deeper he says nif lip peh is a deeper it's a stripping away it's an it's an a itself, not exair what it comes to." It's no such self, he says, like all other arayas. Besides the gufa shel maaseh, and he brings it from Sukkim Ki Sasei. It's darshun from Sukkim Ki Sasei, "Lo yeiravcha ervas d'varim." A possuk Ki Sasei, "Ervas d'varim in a nivul peh." This is something that is a big inyan by him in in in lashon to speak in a lashon nakki, that there shouldn't be There shouldn't be speech about things. So, should speak the lashon nakki was all his life. It was like a very, very big sugya. It's a very big sugya, and something something it's complicated today, and there's there's a reason people speak a little more openly. They don't want shame associated. They're like chishbonos. And their whole chishbonos, but there's still something called nivul peh. Nivul peh, and there's a way of speaking in a lashon nakki in a very in a beautiful way in a lashon nakki. There's a way of speaking. Very, very interesting. Lashon Kodesh doesn't have words for certain things. A lashon Kodesh is the way things they they were created Everything was created with d'varim. So, what do you mean there no words for certain things in lashon Kodesh? Everything's created with So, what is it? What is it? There's a The summit says that this is not meant to be said. It's not It's not just a point There's no word for it that should be It's not meant to be said. It's not supposed There's things that are tsni'us, that are private things that are supposed to stay private. There's There's such zachan. There's again this chishbonos, and we don't want to create shame in things. There's reasons to speak things out sometimes. There's a cheshbon sometimes [clears throat] for certain And each person has with their own family and own children, there's a reason to speak something that I would call that's called level pen. That's called a person explaining things and saying things, making sure that not shame associated with things for sure. That's a good hashman and that has a place. But, there's still something called level pen. There's things that are supposed to be transmitted. And when we And we keep it always hidden and careful and and very guarded how they spoke. In some ways In some ways, if my children I I want to say this carefully cuz I don't want to make a less common. In some ways, if my son was playing basketball and said something grub, I didn't tell my level pen now. Level pen is specific, but if my son would play basketball and say something grub, I'd be more concerned than if he did a verse. I want to say that. I'm not lessening a verse. I am being mindful that our hair is cut in a way that our speaking knocky, speaking in a beautiful way, the opposite of level pen. Now, I'm not saying that's level pen. It's grub speech. My father was mocked when he read us a book. He wouldn't say the English word for hazard. He wouldn't say it. It's all life. That tremendous I'm not And again, each person He wouldn't say the English word for hazard ever. Wouldn't come out of his mouth ever. It was like a tremendous act button Allah should knock you. It was a big thing to speak. Interesting, we had him this summer. Interesting mice I want to tell this ever. This summer, a husband and wife came to a slum. It's a mice how they came. Their son was killed. Was killed by the by the by a master. Son was killed. Was a soldier was killed. And And they came these parents two beautiful children. And they still didn't They came to slum. And they spoke to them. They spoke about their son. Their son was was a big person. I I a lot of good mara. He learned rambam every day. He was a big person. Now, he was the head of an army of special unit that's 320 units of this kind, the highest unit in the army, and he was the head of a unit. And he And he ran the unit. He always wore tzitzit. They showed pictures the whole At a certain place, the whole unit was without the garden, and he was wearing tzitzit. He always was mocked because he had tzitzit. They showed after a picture after they conquered mission, everybody was jumping in the background, and he was sitting down. I don't know if he was learning or davening. He was sitting down. I think he was in filling davening. A very special tire in Yiddish in Hashem. He decide with his unit that he's not good on speaking clean. And he arranged his whole unit with Levi Dykeman. He taught them that we want to be dignified people. It's interesting cuz in Parshas Ki Sisa it starts with Milhama, and always with Milhama Samalik, it's big about Milhama. And in Milhama there's a tendency [clears throat] towards arayos. Milhama brings out the physicality, and people become very physical. People become can become very physical. I once read an account of Normandy, and a soldier described that people lose bodily control. You hear screaming, and then you hear it's yourself screaming. You hear a scream that like scares you, then you have it was you screaming. People lose a lot of bodily control during war. The fright. In his unit they spoke And the father told he had a whole He showed us letters from the guy he wrote about this that we He wanted Mishmartem Kol Davar Ahavah. They were not good on Balashan Naki, this beautiful Yid. They was not good to speak to speak Balashan Naki that he would speak. Yair Yakov was the nifter's name. He was the head of a unit. Yair Jacob they speak Lashon Hakora they manage with nothing. It was very very moving. So it's moving to hear some of the soldier in the middle of war all the scary parts of war and this beautiful year got it and he would speak Lashon Hakora. I was clearing the Masada to learn in Yeshiva this year. And I was clearing and then when I heard them speak and I heard this I decided to learn in Masada. I had such a thought it wasn't Masada but I was very moved and because of Yair Jacob in Yeshiva learning Masada. And in Masada starts with Lashon Hakora. My father would often quote the Gamorah about speaking Lashon Hakora. Speaking in the cleanest, most pure, most positive way. I would say all of us are raising families. Many were raising Mishpacha. The biggest power of the home is what's your way of speaking. Speech creates Speech creates like a whole massive of a house. I spoke to a close haver of mine who felt he needed changes in his life and the iker thing is he's going to speak sweeter at home and he's and and I met with his Mishpacha the whole family is doing better. He's speaking cleaner, speaking nicer, speaking happier, speaking beautiful dvarim. I'm not talking about pretend. A person to say good dvarim. The whole the whole atmosphere of the bayit. Somebody says good words and nice things and beautiful things and honest things. It impacts the whole Words are big thing. Words are thing. Dvarim and dvarim is the same thing and it's a big thing dvarim. And to say dvarim beautiful words and that's that creates the massive. The words we use create the massive. That's So this it moved me tremendously. This guy Yair Jacob was nothing on a unit of fighting, of battling. He was nothing but black but the Gamorah they spoke clean. He said they won a prize as the best unit in the country. And he said he met with his children. They all said, "You know, I was so so strong that a certain unity." He said, "Cuz we speak nicely. Cuz we don't curse. Lashon hara again." They were just They spoke beautifully. There was devar. So, that was I wanted I wanted to close that amongst the many paths the parish of Lashon hara, I want to tell you something interesting. It's very interesting. A guy told me a guy told me this year in Yeshiva in Eretz Yisrael, a bachur told me, "Very honest guy." He said, "I'll tell you something interesting about Yeshiva." He said, "He said a guy, Binyamin Brunner, from Arizona, an honest, very sophisticated guy. He said, 'You can go to any dorm. There's like zero Lashon hara. No Lashon hara.'" So, I said, "How do the officials do that? Like, and they learn every day Lashon hara. There's a big thing from the He said, 'You can go anywhere in the dorm. There's no There's no Lashon hara spoken. Doesn't exist.'" He said, "I was there 3 years. Nobody spoke Lashon hara." So, I said, "How do the officials do that? Like, what's the How do you get this no Lashon hara?" So, he said a thing. He said, "Lashon hara is difficult naturally to say. We're all tempted. You want to say You want to say in another What is Hashem saying to us? What's he saying to us? When you bite your tongue, what's happening? So, so we're like the old the unhealthy people. Don't say this. Don't say that. What What's happening here? What's this The mitzvahs of Hashem, they're allowed to be hard, but we're all so Yisrael Yisrael Yisrael, it's us. Mitzvahs are awesome. We are mitzvahs. Ultimately, a mitzvah should fit us. It should be comfortable. The Yisrael Yisrael Yisrael, we're allowed to be It's supposed to be comfortable with us. Then there's this Lashon hara. You have like a juicy piece you to tell your wife it's like painful. I'm sorry. Tell her quickly, fast. Like no, it's so humble the official is mazbir that it it's got to be that there's a there's something we're being pointed to. And he says to the heaven stop being busy with others and be busy with your sugia. We love handling another sugia. Just bite your tongue, be busy with your sugia. Our sugia, plug into our story. Our own all these distractions not to be busy in your story. He said he demands the guys be busy with your story. We love like blaming, timing, talking, fetching, yelling and so it's not your story. It's not your story. In the words of a very great man, stay in your lane. It's not your story. You're handling him. You're handling somebody else, it's not your story. And he said that he should be a official months of the heaven to handle your story. Be busy with your story. And he said they don't speak lashon hara, it's amazing. It's not It's not your story, it's history. You're busy with it. What are you busy with somebody else? Be busy in your thing. Stop being busy in his thing, it's not your story. Lashon hara. He said the message so resonates by the guys, amazing. Because really when you teach something, if people are not listening, then it's a casual what are you giving over. When he framed lashon hara that way, the guy told me that the Yeshiva doesn't that he like months them. Be busy with your You're talking him like what You don't You don't have Like we all have our stuff, our story, our things, our Live there. Live there. Be connected to it. Be in it. Be managing your story. The guy's like busy here, busy there. Your story. It's pointing us some way. Somebody's like tiferin in his stories. He's busy in his stories. What's he What's he knocking this one saying, putting down somebody else. Be busy in our story, our life that we have to shine, our earth that we have to bring. Be busy in our stories. And he said, "Speaking like that is the style of the guys. I want to end I'll end with this and and just not to in case you say to him I'm talking a lot about my path. I want to end it my Rebbi the thing the topic he spoke about most all the years is honesty in business." Be an Erlich person. The word Erlich was like that was like the word. That was his We all have our word. His Erlich was like a big thing and honesty and things like that. When he said Erlich like it was it was a big thing. If he complimented somebody is an Erlich Jew that was like you couldn't say better. That was a big [clears throat] thing. And honesty a very honesty business. The end of the parsha describes that right before the Sugiyahu Melech the Giyur Ayev so to speak about having honest weights and measurements. And Rashi brings the Chazal. Rashi brings that that if we're careful If Sh'qartem b'Midos, if we're dishonest, H'vei Dayeq m'Giyur Ayev, we have to be careful from the the the the arrows of the enemy. And if we're honest then then it protects us from Giyur Ayev. That's the main this inyan of what protects us from Amalek and from our enemies is is honesty. Is Erlichkeit. Is a person thing Erlich the person is honest, straight up, and straightforward in business. It's something that's so difficult. The pressures of money. We all Money's very important. Money's very big. I'm learning to be into money. My father was nervous when I was young I wasn't into money. Not so much. I'm learning that money is wonderful. Money is wonderful. Money The world is a beautiful thing money. It's beautiful. You buy things. It's very important. You buy zachan and m'kadeshin sh'tika. Buy You can buy your children pizza. Money's big. You can buy you buy good bread for Shabbat. Money is a big zach. And people want to give their family money, a good thing. But yet, we have to be careful it's done in a very honest way. There's There's a lot of gray in this, very honest. He was somebody who cried and and was strong. I would say the topic he spoke about most within any topic was honesty in business. There's a story in the Yeshiva, famous story, it's a true story. A friend of mine went to Reb Elyashiv. A guy went to Reb Elyashiv and he asked him a question. Reb Elyashiv said, "It's muttar." Mamash he said it's muttar. And the guy said, "But it is Is it erlich?" But I hear, but Reb Elyashiv said, "I know who your rebbe is." The other people erlich in the world, but somehow the way he said it Reb Elyashiv said, "I know who your rebbe is." He said, "A tremendous hakpada on He was like It's why he spoke about most. The topic more than any. He was like busy with that. He was very busy with that. A lot of his sugia from the vad was emunah. And the best place to get asked to show emunah is in the sugia of money. From the sefarim writes that harbei ameis chasidim, that people who are so from when it comes to money, they mamash they forget they're from cat. And specifically in money things to be an erlich a person That's like a big lie again, there's a big lie. Somebody can't be rich and can't have parnassah and being honest, it's a sheker chas v'shalom. I'm very upset when people say Hashem's world doesn't work. Cuz I think this world works beautifully. Somebody can be honest and have parnassah b'erech chas v'shalom, it's a mighty glazon Hashem mamash lashon hora. To say a person can't be matzliach and not honest. The people are honest, they're very matzliach. And they're mamash honest, they're mamash erlich in business. I I know people that are tremendously honest and and they make by us and and the huge to be honest, to do it right to be a winner. One of the great questions of our life in the Nassau and Nassau and Nassau did did did you deal with an arrow look kind and honesty? To just to to to run our lives in a in a way of arrow look kind in a way of truth. My father was Yadua, was a tremendous maker. The thing you got a cool cuz you know that. He he was able to be maker to big time I miss back we called him. Now what what we've been much more masculine we can't do things. We don't know we can't call my father. That's my amorous is causing no there's no upset that you can't it's just ignorance that you can't that Tom is able to say this how to do it say that. In one area you couldn't get a cooler when it's somebody else's money. You always were higher. Some of those like a surface somebody else's money hammer. I had $4,000 I known in Israel and and a rough gave me a letter get out of it my father said Daniel you pay it. I should film for sure for sure go pay the money. But I was a new kind of guy for that I pay the money. It was a question tremendous stress on honesty. That's a place a person could like manage plug into a moment in the deepest way specifically on that which was so precious that which is so important that which is so Yeah, specifically there that um I want to tell you I want to tell you a stick of maybe the tacos maybe not that there's a steer what brings a moment one says it says the Mishnah being dishonest with weights and one place it says roughly you day I'm in a tire. I don't know if you have some tire. Why is it saying a day I'm? I don't know if you day I'm you don't know what you have even though you learn with your hands maybe. That's rough with your day and I tell you. But I want to tell you that your day is the connection to our tire. We can learn and we're learning Shem's Torah, Shem's Mishpatim, Shem's Sheifta, Shem's laws. Roughly your day and I tell you that when it comes to the Ma'aser Dayen then they're disconnected to that tire. Dishonesty is the same Sugya with your day and I tell you. Your day and Ma'aser Dayen should be attached to our tire and honesty. Honesty person has money they owe, they pay the money, they have They should be in honesty and money. This is something that is Poshet. That's like a Yid. That's That's always been Yid and Yidden are very Ehrlich. People think because of the Ma'aser Dayen the stories, people think because the media has destroyed the guy who cheats. Yidden are Ehrlich. It's a famous like rule in the media. The media has like a very simplistic rule that they wrote. Dog bites man, no story. Man bites dog, story. That's like a famous media thing that they know. It's not a story of a dog bit a man. Dogs Dogs bite men. Man bit a dog, that's a story. So a Yid stole is a story. That's not Yiddish to steal. It's very not Yiddish. Very Very not Yiddish. Yidden are Ehrlich. We keep the Torah. Yidden are Yidden are honest. That's a Middah of Yiddish. Always been a Middah of Yiddish. And when a kid stole some money here a Ma'aser, that's why they're excited and Yid broke from being a Yid. From being what a Yid is. Yidden Yidden are We have Emunah Ba'Hashem. Anachnu Ma'aminim. That's the place Maybe the biggest place in our life that we can plug into Emunah. Maybe the biggest place is Ehrlich kind of money. That when it comes Ma'aser Dayen place to be a Chassid. To be careful. To be L'shem Shamayim something. I'm telling you we didn't even sing one song yet Reb Aryeh. Yes. Yes. Let's do the Madhuvanti. This fairly high key. Let's sing the Madhuvanti. >> We need that uh uh >> Yeah. Yeah. >> [singing] >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. >> [singing] >> Yeah. Yeah. >> [music] >> Yeah. Yeah. >> [chanting] >> Yeah. Yeah. >> [chanting] >> Yeah. Yeah. >> [music] >> Yeah. Yeah. >> [singing] >> Yeah. Yeah. >> [music] >> Yeah. Yeah. >> [music] >> Yeah. Yeah. >> [music] >> Sham ru. >> Others. >> Sham ru. Just you do the right key to Sham ru. Same as the main kind of cow bucked the Sham ru. >> I admit. >> Sham ru benai. >> Yisrael. >> V'yakar. >> Sham ru. >> Yisrael. >> Sham ru. >> Yisrael. >> V'yakar. >> Sham ru. >> Yisrael. >> V'yakar. >> Sham ru. >> [music] >> Yisrael. >> V'yakar. >> Sham ru. >> Yisrael. >> [music] >> V'yakar. >> Sham ru. >> Yisrael. >> V'yakar. >> Sham ru. >> Yisrael. >> The sacred monarch of the Hebrew changed this room. Like a hole we could feel it. It was a holy room with learning. A place to chill out eating with my agid, but it became like my mission by balls and schlieter came the Hebrew schmolly the Hebrew rust the people who learn here. My sons come here at different times. My issue comes here to get for a few minutes. So I was he said middle of the day Rabbi is learning with the Hebrew rust. The the Hebrew rust is a place that is a base madras. People are learning. It's a pillar. Pillar. [clears throat] Pasha have to join more. It's a pillar. People come here to learn Torah. It's become a Hebrew nights. Say the second say the people there's a call here all day. It's a different It's a different Matisse. It's a different Matisse. They've turned this to beautiful base madras. People are learning. It's It's a dream. It's a tremendous I always had a a tremendous side that I couldn't be running and running and running and I couldn't could didn't and it became a base madras to get started. It's such a simple simple ramble. It's a place of Torah. The kids should mind. My kids my issue came back at different times. It says a base madras. She came at different times. The base madras the learning with my issue different people learning here. It's a base madras. Schmolly is here different to just to base madras. A beautiful space to sing in here and ourselves. A different thing to say the way to the city to bring with my issue to base madras. So I just appreciate my balls and what you've done to this to all of us. As we have a base madras right in the middle of the city. People come, happy ones, and youngsters come to learn with the young man who made it through a young man from Lakewood. Moved here to this medish. It was the best medish in town of Big Zach. Very very Big Zach, which we say to all of us tremendous tremendous man for all of us, for ourselves, for our children, our sons and daughters. Bless you and his man of Aliyah. I should pray for an excellent job. Thank you very much.