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The one thing you’re missing when your child acts out #parenting #childbehavior #tips

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SoulWords—Rabbi Shais Taub

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Why some kids need to be understood before they can be corrected. I know a lot of people who are uncomfortable with this. They feel that it's somehow weakening the authority of the parent. That the parent should be able to correct the child's behavior without first empathizing or understanding the child's position. And maybe that's valid, maybe it's not. The reality is there are some children who literally cannot take direction until they feel safe to do so. They are so dysregulated, they can't process what you're saying. Or even if they can process it, they cannot bring themselves to implement it. They're just going to collapse. They're just going to melt down. They can't really hear you in any useful way. They have to know that you understand what they're experiencing, and then they can begin to hear you. Really, this is a practical thing. If you know a child like this, then you understand what I'm talking about. This is not some ideal that I'm preaching, it's a reality for many, many of us.