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The Real Strength of a Father #fatherhood #parenting

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SoulWords—Rabbi Shais Taub

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What the boys need from their father. Conventional wisdom is that boys need a man in the house in order to instill discipline. Without the father, you don't have discipline. I don't think that's necessarily so true. In a lot of houses, the women are the ones who instill the discipline. And it's not necessarily so that just because a father isn't there to discipline that the kids are going to be unruly and people talk about fatherless behavior. I think that's kind of actually missing the point. The real purpose of a father, and this is something that only the father can properly give his son, and even the best mother cannot give her son, the real gift that a father gives his son is not discipline, it's that the father provides self-discipline. That the father has control over his own emotional world. Meaning to say, the father models for the son how a man can be sensitive and feeling and vulnerable and yet in control. He does not explode. He doesn't take out his frustrations on others. He's a man. He holds and carries the weight without it getting out all over everyone in the home. That's what a father demonstrates and provides.