The Right Way to be Machmir

Just to go back, briefly, to some of the raid that we spoke about yesterday and to do a an abridged part two. So, we mentioned that the Pischei Tshuvah in Yoreh De'ah Siman Kuf Tes Zayin, he brings from the Sefer Minchas who quotes the Terumas HaDeshen. By the way, thank you, Rabbi Zalman Auerbach. The Sefer Minchas was Rabbi Yaakov Reischer, the Ba'al Shevut Yaakov. The Terumas HaDeshen is the Tosafos Yom Tov. So, essentially, he's quoting is the Pischei Tshuvah, the Shevut Yaakov who quoted the Tosafos Yom Tov who said that as much as we know there's an Indian in Halacha of Ba'al Nefesh Yachmir, but that's only in the event that there's some gray area. We are a Chacham who paskens, for example, out of a Beheima based on a Svara Le'Hetter. So, you have a right to be paranoid and to be Frum and to say I'm not 100% sure that this Posek got it right and as a result, even though I know in Halacha I'm allowed to follow what the Posek said, but at the same time I want to be Machmir. But said the Sefer Minchas quoting the Terumas HaDeshen that what would be if you have something that's Mutar and it's Mutar based on a Halacha Mefureshes in Shas. For example, Klalei Ne'emanus Ha'Issur or Bitul Be'Shishim. Over there, if somebody's going to go and he's going to be Machmir, not only is it Tovei'ah Al Ha'Bracha, not only is he oh wow, what a Ba'al Nefesh, but Ha'Rei Zeh Minus. What you're doing is is Minus and the reason is because you're really undermining Divrei Chazal who said that Klalei Ne'emanus Ha'Issur and who said that Bitul Be'Shishim. And even though what you're doing is a Chumra, I don't care. You're not allowed to undermine Divrei Chazal Le'Chumra. You're also not allowed to undermine Divrei Chazal Le'Chumra. So, we mentioned the Rabbi Akiva Eiger in his Iggeres Ha'Gr'a and Nefesh Ha'Chaim and Rabbi Akiva Eiger simulation and Zion season different corners where you find in the post game and in China and even the result this idea with was sensitive not to be even though are usually a good thing but not to be where you blatantly go and connect and not only is it not something that a person should do but it's actually a beginner of it could be an Indian of you could be literally touching on some of the most common things in the world. Some of the examples that we mentioned with a more in Hillcrest in simulation and Zion with regards to the laws of and if someone's there are more says it's an Indian of of Minos. We mentioned the truth of from the Rottenburg who said that he used to think that he knew people that were not to eat after in the same way that they not to eat after and he says in his mind he always thought it was a beginner of Minos. We mentioned the that says that if somebody says you can't be it's a bit of Minos. We mentioned the second which will tell that if you're going to be on a call and not rely on the head there of a Nazi I'm going to say on you that you're a memory. We mentioned the truth is who reached out to the Jacob and Alicia from Valencia and he said things that had the rush not said he wouldn't even believe the rush would have said and that was with cause this person was being and not relying on a and when it comes to a mobile that's the bottom line is I had this small board of this is that there's it's not so positive for a person to be more the market with said before that really what you're supposed to do is, you're supposed to be make. It's a fascinating idea, but if you think about it for a minute, it's something that requires beer. Because at the end of the day, we know there's a concept of Kadesh Atzmo Muflah. So, I know this is mutar, but at the same time, I want to be noig Kedushas Yisrael. Why can't I be a Kadesh Atzmo Muflah? Why is that an issue? If somebody says I don't want to eat meat because I want to be noig Kedushas Yisrael. I think that's fine, right? You have to eat meat? You're allowed to not eat meat. The nazir, according to one man is a Kadesh. Kol hayom sheb'tainu according to one man is a Kadesh. So, there is an idea where a person has a right to be machmir. So, if I could be machmir and say I'm not going to eat meat even though I know it's kosher. I'm not denying the fact that it's kosher, but I want to be machmir. So, why would it be worse to say that if a little bit of non-kosher, just think about it, falls into your kosher meat. I say I don't want to eat from this pot cuz I know there's a little bit of non-kosher over here. How could that somehow be worse? L'chora, how do you reconcile this idea with the concept of Kadesh Atzmo Muflah? Just to bring out the kasha a little bit stronger. The Michtav M'Eliyahu in perek yud gimmel turns his attention to the mida of prishus. >> [snorts] >> And he has a few prakim that talk about prishus. And I think it's kedai to just read together a few excerpts. Says the Michtav M'Eliyahu, "V'hinei klal haprisus umasha amru zichronam livracha, the general idea of prishus is what Chazal said, Kadesh Atzmo Muflah. That there's an idea that you can make yourself holy and Kadesh even with things that are mutar. V'zoi si hora'a osher shel hamilah atzmah. Prishus, and really if you understand the etymology of the word prishus, you see it in the word itself. Rotzeh lomar, li poresh umarchik atzmo min hadavar. V'hainu she'Yisrael atzmo davar heter. What you essentially do is you say that something that's really matter I'm going to treat as awesome. Why would a person do this and why is this a mile why is this a good thing should I look at the reason this is a good thing is is because if you are parish from things that are matter well you're now a few degrees farther removed from things that are awesome. Interesting point. We don't care so much that you made yourself awesome from things that are matter. If it's matter it's matter. But what we like about is that you're now so removed from this in your that I'm never going to come to go ahead and do the thing that I'm really not supposed to do in your to call The concept of preachers is is that any Indian anything that something bad can come from even if right now what you're doing is not really rough but the farther away and the more you can separate to hence the word preachers from that it's this is something that's going to be okay. It still strong talks about how do you know you have a right to even do this right? I shot the ball after a mile of warm up here and Right so we know there's an idea that has all says not so positive go ahead and just distance yourself from these things says themselves to show him how to get it's based on condition to you and we learn from their position to you there's an Indian that no to the contrary this is actually something that's good. I'm skipping a little bit and then I appreciate let me explain to you how this works. After we explain this is ready in the beginning of that everything in this world on this year I know is and you know we talked about how weak people are and how easy and vulnerable we are to do things that we're not supposed to do. He's worried about it. So from there it becomes clear that the more a person can save himself from he should do. And says the reason is because every tiny in the world even a tiny that's matter ultimately will lead a person to do something wrong. We'll just mention one martial. There are martial. Think of food. >> [snorts] >> You learn the school in from one book end to the other you check your meat is no traces is no issues not possible you allowed to eat the meat right? I'm not saying let's be honest. As soon as a person fills up his stomach after it's going to lead him to when you drink wine has no certainly if you don't just eat but you he in time he says another thing if a person goes ahead and he gets used to eating good foods forget about this and forget about the you get used to a good thing. What happens if you get used to a good thing? So you have to fund your burn rate. Let's say you can't come up with the money. Who knew that goes out and he starts wearing falsely the hat who makes you have no time anymore to serve have to make money, right? anytime. He says you start eating and before you know it, you don't have time to learn. Very simple. You could draw a straight line between those two things. So you're going to tell me precious is not a kosher thing? He says of course precious is a kosher thing. And he goes on and he goes from there to precious of other time you go and explains in chapter and verse each one of these things exactly how it plays itself out. But either way precious is a kosher thing. For precious to be mahmer it's very very kosher. Just go through the mesillas yeshurun. Right, anytime you see any thing related to one of these middos is the mesillas yeshurun. It's the clearest safer of all time. Written by the Ramchal, da via mekubala. So it's just so clear the way he lays out the importance and the hashivas of what precious is. Then the mesillas yeshurun, I'm skipping more in perek yud daled, talks more about it. He says that I think you could take precious and you could divide it into three groups. The one that we need is the second. How precious beginin. And who la chacham be emtamed. It's to always be mahmer when it comes to halacha. In fact, you know how it manifests itself? If you know there's a machlokes and there's a daas yachid, even though we don't pasken like the yachid you should be a parshan din and you should pasken like the yachid. Like if you think that what he's saying makes sense. Just make sure you're really being mahmer and not being makel. All the hot maybe fake eyes. I feel the mock me try to show up again. So you could be make all by a fake fake all. Oh, there's an Indian to be mock me. Fake it the rabble in the cooler. There's an Indian to be mock me. Who could be a ruler of the whole world of my new castle? Cuz I already learned from your castle. He named enough children with two more. When they value fake for Leo healthy manure without actively both of the fibs are pickles. What do we learn from here? So we know the tomorrow in two places. Who is I who is I? And it's a form of precious. It's what the material is showing refers to as precious bedina. Here's the bottom line. You see a person is allowed to be a pious. It's actually a good thing to be a pious. And in fact, in the world of precious, the material is showing has a sub category that he refers to as precious bedina. So I ask you, how does precious bedina stem with all this raid that if a person is mock me cuz I will sit the hollow is like this, then you're actually a man and maybe even a second memory. How do you reconcile this? How do you make sense of this? The material is showing says my forest that if I'm mock me if I say in a hollow my mistake, I could do it. And if I take on the side of whoever when it comes to fake us, so even though I'm allowed to be make all, this is already going to be all a double crochet. It's a double of condition. It's a double of precious. How exactly do you go and reconcile these ideas? Now the truth is, you could get nuance and you could say that even the material is showing is talking about not a case where everybody agrees it's motor. Where there's a dash your kid, where at the very least there's a sofa, but I think that would require us to revisit the six examples that we gave. There's no dash your kid that holds. There's no shalom when it comes to a shalom. I mean you have to learn the suya of sures of Pesach when it comes to or it's just around. You'd have to go through all these Sugias clearly and make sure you're not even going to find the Das Yochid. I'm not so sure it's going to fact check. And if that's the case, the question that was obvious that becomes a little bit more obvious after you go through the Mesillas Yesharim, I think requires beer. But the truth is the Torah it's is as obvious as the question is. And really the matter of mocking for this is the Chida. The Chida is in his Bnei Yisrael it's in Yoreh De'ah Siman Yod Zayin. So Yoreh De'ah Siman Yod Zayin is the Siman in Shulchan Aruch that talks about a Shichechah Metzukenes. And the Mechaber over there brings how the Gedolei based on Yechezkel Hanavi, they didn't eat from a Behemah Metzukenes. Says the Bnei Yisrael I quote it's a one line quote. The Daf Ke'il Oved Mitzad Chumrah Vegeder Ulekadesh Atzmo Bemutter Lo. As with the Shari Aval Oiseh Mipnei Sheyeish Lo Pikpok Be'ikar Hadin Asur La'asos Kol Shehalochah Revachah Bememak Edishah. Says the Chida, you want to understand how this Indian works? How do you reconcile on the one hand someone being Machmir with Hazal say something is Mutter as being a Min cuz you're like literally not trusting the Torah. Versus the Karet Kadesh Atzmocha Bemutter Lo and Perek Gimmel and Yod Daled in Mesillas Yesharim. The answer is very simple. If a person is Machmir Mitzad Chumrah Vegeder Ulekadesh Atzmo Bemutter Lo. If a person is being Machmir cuz he learned the Mesillas Yesharim and he understands the fact that if I want to make sure I'm never going to do a Vadai Issur, I shouldn't even do a Safek Issur. And a person says if I want to make sure I'm not going to be Nichshal in Clear Rishon, I should be Merachek myself from a Kli Sheni. And if I want to make sure that I'm not going to ever come to a point when I'm not going to have time to learn, you know what? I shouldn't get used to any time of Olam Hazeh because if I do ultimately it's going to take me down a road that somewhere down in the future it's going to impact my style and not allow me to serve a sham the way I'm supposed to serve a sham. If a person does that that's a very holy thing. But if a person says that the reason I'm being with this that because you know the Rambam says that we pass like the Rambam and it's based on the Gamorah we go after Rambam and I don't know there's a little part of me that feels maybe that is really maybe the was right got it wrong when they said that like the Rambam I don't know I did an experiment I took I made a coffee with a I made it with a and to me it looks like they cook the same. Right if a person goes down that road and he's being in the din that's already and that's already it's not okay. So really it's all about your attitude and it's all about the way you approach it. If a person approaches it with a pick book where I'm undermining I'm not 100% sure I accept this well if you're not 100% sure you accept this then already there's and if you're on the it's a it's the of the this is the worst of the worst it's the lowest of the low. If however a person is going to approach it of course I know that's said but I have such I want to make sure I'm going near a I made it with a I I may go to I'm not making a coffee cuz if I make it with a I might make it with a uh uh if you're not making a coffee on cuz it's you're a man. If I'm not making a coffee on with a because that one time you wake up and you're halfway in your sleep and by mistake you forgot to make a cuz you thought it was Tuesday. I understand so that's a it's a precious that already is is a very very so really it's all about how you approach it. If you approach it because of an insecurity in the minus. If you approach it as a are Hawkins are now [laughter] even there's a missile he talks about the preachers of and he talks about the preachers you got to make sure that you stay you know with the preachers don't cross over to the dark side where you stop eating and then there's an Indian of those things already not okay, but the point is it's all about the approach. It's all about the it's all about you know the way you go about it and the truth is this is a very very interesting thing Kumar is there something that fascinates everybody, right? And there's that you know that even though this is only a but at the same time we take on this and you have to know how to you know look at a Kumar what bucket to put into if a person takes on a Kumar connected connected often connected even my name is and you go ahead and you say that even though he wrote a that it's but at the same time I hold you shouldn't do it because wall that's not possible. That's not possible. You going against a local you playing with you playing again now you know everything's always so you usually have someone to be maybe but again I mean that so if a person's going to see a cooler that was written by Robin and he's going to say that I want to go ahead and I want I'm I'm being because I don't know the spot is the fault is the fault you know what the fault I'm not so sure you have a right to do that. This is you playing on the spectrum of minutes. This is this is this over here. The person says you know what I know you wrote a and I know he said it's but there's an Indian about could be that even wrote a in the about and I want to be a so I'm afraid that if I'm going to go ahead and you know, I'm going to you eat that I may eat something else. So in the heart in the world of my precious, it'd be nice if I was consistently like that in other areas of life, but again, I'm not going there. The bottom line is if that's the attitude and that's the it's all about the perspective. If the perspective is I'm fact thinking the I would look twice before I cross the street. If it's about I know what the dinner is. I'm not being fact thinking the dinner. But at the same time there's a concept about there is a concept about it's actually often it's a and and before you invoke look at that and go through a little bit of read and I think there's a concept about what about doesn't mean that the person that's not about is a cuz if you feel that now you're playing with me you're playing with me. Your is really a it's such a because you can be a if you know how to handle this with care and you're dealing with if you don't know how to handle this with care. This is a sensitive topic. I tried shredding it sensitively. Either way, we will stop here. This is way too much fun not to have a part three. So we'll probably revisit this.