The Very Poignant Kol Nidrei

Just the end. I really stopped there is with one hour which is really Dover be eaten matter. And that is that everyone knows that Yom Kippur at night we begin davening with Kol Nidre. And after Kol Nidre the chazzan yells the Kol Nidre but I get a garbage cycle killer on the schedule. A possuk that featured itself in today's daf, a theme that is the background of today's daf and really the entire mesechta. But the Kol Nidre with the niggun the Kol Nidre but I get a garbage cycle killer on the schedule. Gimel pa'am this is something that's said immediately after Kol Nidre. Now you ever wonder why? Why is it that right after Kol Nidre we say the Kol Nidre but I get a garbage cycle killer on the schedule. So the truth is the Makor today's is the Rama. The Rama is in Hilchos Yom Kippurim. It's in Siman 1000 10 it's Sif Aleph. The Rama says Kol Nidre the minhag is to say Kol Nidre on Yom Kippur but I get a garbage cycle killer on the schedule. And then you say the Kol Nidre but I get a garbage cycle killer on the schedule. You say it three times. Every time you say it I get a garbage cycle killer on the schedule. You say it a little bit louder than you said it the time before. The chazzan says the Kol Nidre but I get a garbage cycle killer on the schedule. And then afterwards the chazzan says three times the Kol Nidre but I get a garbage cycle killer on the schedule. And then afterwards the chazzan says three times the Kol Nidre but I get a garbage cycle killer on the schedule. The Vilna Gaon in the Biur HaGra says that why is it that the Rama said that you're supposed to say the Kol Nidre but I get a garbage cycle killer on the schedule. The Vilna Gaon is already in the Rishonim. He said the pshat is as follows. Because we're starting off by saying Kol Nidre. Why are we saying Kol Nidre? The reason we say Kol Nidre, the parsha of shas is is based on a Mishnah in the Seder the Mishnah says that there's an idea that a person should get up Rosh Hashanah what we do on Yom Kippur and you should say that all the nedarim that I'm going to make this year should be batal u'mevutal. Now it's a there's a major machlokes rishonim what really that bit is. Some rishonim say that it is what we just said it is. You're being most of my dad you're saying that I know over the course of the year I'm going to make nedarim I'm going to make shvuos I'm going to make I might be in my kabbalas nedarim I don't know. So what you're saying is that Kol Nidre any neder that I'm going to make the the nedarim that I'm going to make all right all of these things that I'm going to do I want that they should be batal u'mevutal right that's the idea that I'm telling you I'm being most of my dad that I don't mean that neder that I'm going to make during the course of the year and it shouldn't be a neder. Other rishonim went just the opposite that really what you're doing is you're getting up and you're being matir neder. You're being matir neder on the nedarim that you made in the past right? So some rishonim hold that you're being most of my dad that all the nedarim that I'm going to make in the coming year should not be nedarim. Other rishonim hold that what I'm saying is that all the nedarim that I made should not be nedarim. This is the shaila in the nusach in Kol Nidre right different machzorim different minhagim. Me Yom Kippurim she'avar ad Yom Kippurim zeh u'me Yom Kippurim zeh ad Yom Kippurim haba lelanu letova. It gets a little fapunted there sometimes right? What's the shaila? If you're going and you're being matir neder nedarim that you made the previous year then it's me Yom Kippurim she'avar ad Yom Kippurim zeh. And if you're being most of my dad assuming the nedarim moving forward then it's me Yom Kippurim zeh ad Yom Kippurim haba lelanu letova. So some do both but the bottom line is that that's where these two nuschaos come from it's based on this major machlokes rishonim where the Kol Nidre is being most of my dad on the future nedarim or it what you're doing is you're being mocked in the dorm that were made in the past. But said the villain of the guy in the beer hugger and again it comes from the original and the daughter and the flower niche and that is let's go according to the original and that all that call me joy is you're being mocked in that. Okay. So you're going now and you're being mocked in that there on all the the daughter that you made during the past year. Now we know that our Torah is the daughter is okay the daughter of my friend which means that not only are you done with the daughter and moving forward but even on my friend all the daughter that you made people are not allowed to do anything you knocked out which is a tremendous LS. The reason it's a tremendous LS because what would emerge is that even if you violated that another now that you are mocked in another of my friend on some level there was never another and if there was never another so now the choir you're good to go. So anything that you had done in the previous year on some level is not something they have to worry about. Stating that we know the tomorrow says that it says in the Torah Isha of Tara and I shall miss and the master people used to come to the spot that he used to cry. He said because my mouth is the daughter what's that person talking about? It's talking about a woman that was my couple of the years her husband was made for the years she doesn't know that he was made for the years and he's going ahead and he's violating the years. You would think that being that the years was more first as a result is not something you have to worry about. Come on Isha of Tara that being that she doesn't have that the years is more first it's for that reason that this woman is still going to make a couple of years marriage that even if we say that my friend the years wasn't a year but every second of the year is open. Every second of the year is open. If you hold that the call me joy is going to make it that we can have a the years is not going to be a year. So you're good to go. You're going to make a year in the future and this year that you're going to make in the future you're not going to have to worry about. Why you're not going to have to worry about the year because you already missed the my daughter. But what's going to be if you don't remember that you were mice and mice up? You think you made a neder cuz you did, and now you go ahead and you violate the neder. You mom is that isha, you're that woman who was makabe in the series than the series is not kind of series. In her case it's not in the series cuz the husband was made for it. In our case it's not in the series. Why? Because you yourself were mice and mice up because you said kol nidrei bidmoi shall us. And as a result it's not something you have to worry about, but at the same time isha feron vashem yislachlo. You still need slicha from Hakadosh Baruchu. So says the Being that even after you say kol nidrei, there's still an element of needing slicha based on which passing in the Torah isha feron vashem yislachlo. It's for that reason right after kol nidrei, what do we say? Venislach l'chol das b'nei Yisrael v'lageir hagor b'socham ki l'chol on bishgaga. That we're doing our part. We're going to make sure the neder is nishkai neder. But, if we went ahead and we were violated this neder versus nishkai neder, we still need slicha. We still need to come on to the vashem yislachlo. And that's this bakasha, this tfila, this is oiyerus of venislach l'chol das b'nei Yisrael. That all the Yidden that violated their nedarim, they should get their slicha. Venislach l'chol das b'nei Yisrael is behemshech to kol nidrei. The whole idea of kol nidrei is is to get rid of your nedarim right in the beginning of the leil Yom Kippur, right in the beginning of the Yom Hakodesh. But, part and parcel of kol nidrei is to also get rid of the isha feron vashem yislachlo. Says the in the Birchas Avraham, that's venislach l'chol das b'nei Yisrael. That's the perush of a tfila that we've said our entire lives and could be never even realized why it is that we're saying it. But, I want to tell you a dover nifla mamash that I saw in the Sefer Harei Kedem from a in Rav Yisrael Soloveitchik. He said something so beautiful. He said that why is it that we start calling it start Yom Kippur with Kol Nidre? The Yom HaKodesh. This is the way we start. And the truth is Kol Nidre Kol Nidre is true. This is the way you start the the the the holiest day of the year. And the truth is the the heretics that you didn't have when you come into shul Kol Nidre. Could be there's nothing more poignant on the Jewish calendar than than Kol Nidre. But let's be honest, what are you doing? It's just you're reading like a document. You're being moist in my time. You say that any neder that I made or any neder that I did make. I mean, imagine reading a legal contract and crying. I mean, this is like a very technical uh document. Even read the way it right? Just even the nusach of it. Didn't I know this I don't know the most clearly written by a Jewish attorney. And we're getting so worked up over it. The amount of emotion that's laced into Kol Nidre. It it clearly implies that there's a little bit more here than just simply uh a reference to a Mishna Seder that says there's an inyan that at the beginning of the year you should either be moist in my dawn and the dawn that you're going to make or you should be nothing to dawn they made in the past. Rabbi Asher Ber Soloveitchik tells to a lotion of themselves to show them it's good night to read two paragraphs in the Mesillas Yesharim. Every word in the Mesillas Yesharim Kiodua. Every single word which I knew as of this is in perek dalet. It's in the derech kinyan has the ears. Mesillas Yesharim talks about teshuvah and he says as follows. K'lafichus hadin mamash. Based on Shulchan Aruch Hadin, how you rule Shulchan Aruch Hadin would suggest that if a person sins, he should be punished immediately for the sin that he committed. We shouldn't wait. Immediately we should punish him. Not just that. Not only should we punish him right away, but the punishment should fit the crime. It should be befitting for someone that was mannered in Malchei Malchei HaMalachim. Not just that. The issue there should be no way out of the situation. How can a person fix what he already destroyed? How could you eradicate an that was already done? If somebody kills somebody. Can you change the reality? teaches us the opposite of the three things that we mentioned. What were the three things that that if a person sins he should be punished right away and that the punishment should be a severe punishment and there should be no way to go ahead and do it. That we give the some time. He's not going to be wiped away as soon as he sins. It's not going to be the punishment that it really should be. And not just that. And that we're going to give him a chance. So that if this person has an it should be like a nice guy. When a person that wants to do recognizes his sin. And he confesses. And he thinks and he meditates about how terrible this sin that he committed is. And he does it. Like the person who made a and is being now on the that he made. Cuz that person has complete complete remorse over what it is he did. And he wishes he would have never done it. And he gets rid of it. He says, "I'm not going to do it again." If a person has the real charatah like in the parsha of the Nedarim that you find charatah as a neder has an ability to go ahead and be oiker a neder your charatah on the aveira will be necheshav k'akiras a neder and mischabel and you can end up getting kapara. That you see from the Ramchal that the Ramchal said that what is the moshel to teshuva? If you want to find a parsha in the Torah that really is the moshel for the concept of teshuva, it's the parsha of Nedarim. gemura d'meikara k'charatah d'neder mamash. It's the parsha of Nedarim. See, he says that Yishmael on Yom Kippur, which is the day of teshuva, it's the day we're asking Hakadosh Baruchu to forgive us for not being perfect and for making mistakes and maybe even being a lot worse than that. You know, we start the parsha, yeah, we start Yom Kippur, you know, we start the holiest day of the year. We get up and we're matir nedarim and we say Kol Nidrei v'Assurei u'shvuei v'chalomei v'kinomei I want that those nedarim shouldn't be nedarim. By us being matir neder, you know what we're doing? We're being me'oirer in shamayim. We're reminding Hakadosh Baruchu there's a concept of hataras nedarim. We're reminding ourselves that there's a concept of hataras nedarim. There's an idea where a person can make a neder and it can be mischabel on the neder. And if you're mischabel on the neder, nether is neckamei kores as if it never ever ever happened. Akiras harotsin is k'akiras ameisah mamash. That's what we do when we mat the nether. We start the holiest day of the year to be mat the nether k'ilu she'einah zo shalom k'ilu because we're showing the Aibershter you showed us in the Torah there's a parsha in the dorim. And in that parsha in the dorim lik the soif in t'shuvah. That's how we start. So what do we say after Kol Nidrei? After Kol Nidrei we turn to Hakadosh Baruch Hu that just like there's an idea of Kol Nidrei venislach l'chol ha'ados b'nei Yisrael v'lageir agor b'soicham k'ilu on b'shogegah because if the muscle of the Ramchal of the Mesilas Yesharim is correct, well then the nimshal has to be correct as well. Kol Nidrei is the muscle. Venislach l'chol ha'ados b'nei Yisrael, that's the nimshal. You want to know why we're starting with nedarim? It's the Mesilas Yesharim perek daled because the makor in the Torah to this idea of t'shuvah d'amchashah that the Mesilas Yesharim gave us p'rushim as off. That there's an idea of akiras harotsin is k'akiras ameisah. If you shove a musar it could be literally as if it never happened. That is the parsha in the dorim. Is there a better way to start Yom Kippur than with the parsha in the dorim? Talk about flipping a kasha. It starts off as being the mystery of all mysteries and it's the most meaningful thing you can imagine. We're saying Kol Nidrei nachamu nachamu b'frius because we're telling the Aibershter that you gave us a parsha of nedarim and you showed us that there's something called akiras harotsin is k'akiras ameisah. Well, it's the holiest day of the year and I have charatah and I want to do t'shuvah and just like there's an idea of the nedarim on Nidrei the asarim asorai ushvuos ason al ushvuos, so too that's mechayev that there's an idea of venislach l'chol ha'ados b'nei Yisrael v'lageir agor b'soicham k'ilu on b'shogegah. Again, another detail my time we stack we stack we stack a few weeks to achieve the toyva good k'vanchah. we should be to be able to be able to learn to learn the of the next few weeks.