Time to get it right!! - POWERFUL message for Elul - Rabbi Alon Anava

[Music] we just want to make a very quick dedication I know you all want to give me names but we're not gonna have time for many names are we gonna do a quick dedication for Liette neshama for shmoop in Malda hi and the flash lemma for Libra Hobart karna hiya you know everyone still later on give me names just write it down on a clear clear handwriting on a piece of paper and you can give me names that you want me to pray for Bazaar the Shem once a week I go to very holy graves Inever to sled where I live and I pray but the note has to be with here it clear handwriting sometimes it takes me 10 minutes to figure out what it says so if you can let's do that courtesy and write it clear there's other Shem but we're just gonna make a very general behalf for everybody who needs the foie and health should have an immediate recovery an immediate health and whoever needs as Evoque should get married there's other share with the right person whoever needs a break in part massage should have behind partner shop and everything that we need and our heart desires that Bazaar - a machine will bless you all with an abundance of health and wealth for NASA happiness whatever you wish for yourself that is a line excuse me cam link da da da ba da da ba ba this is a month of a writing the the wish list you know every time I go on on a trip but Hashem Hashem doesn't like me to sit in one place so every two weeks I go on a different trip my wife barely knows how I look they send her pictures they send her links on Facebook that's how you that's your husband the one over there no no that's one the other one so so every time that I go where I go with empty suitcases and I come back with full suitcases so I'm the the schlep er I carry the presents I'm like the hero when I come back my wife orders everything on Amazon I just come with the suitcases now I'm the best father in the world I come with all the presents so when you go and you shop online you have a wish Lee and you throw everything in the cart like as if your credit card can can sustain such an amount but you just throw everything in a whistle a wish list so the month of Elul is the wish list that's when you throw everything into the wish list that's how the code in the web sites write wish lists so the month of Elul is when you throw in the list all your wishes then you have to start praying so we want to talk a little bit about the month of Elul and how i'm a filling up my wish list and how am I actually getting my wishes because we all want to get a blessing every opportunity you have you ask for Baja I walk in the street all day long people stop me either for selfies though either for Baja so I have to smile all day long and I have to come up with a lot of original boyhoods even though the Baja comes only from the kadosh Abajo but we have a tendency that we always want to get a blessing and you see somebody with a long beard Oh rabbi give me a baja because if I have am a factory of boats I have to come and invent all these Bahat all day long but beau Hashem we have a tendency to constantly want to get a baja I don't know anyone who went to a big rabbi told him rabbi I want to give you a blessing usually give me so that's the problem and that's so the solution when you know how to recognize the problem that's where the solution is and the problem is is me and me and give me and I want and I need so that's the problem not talking about me hasta Shalom but you know the month of Elul is a very special month and in many places you go you will see that they teach you that the month of Elul the name the word eylül is the acronym of many different verses and the famous one is an Illinois River doodly they are Laflamme involve llama Deauville all is the acronym of vanilla do diva totally then of course there's many others but this is the dominating one and now everywhere you go everyw the vishal you hear every lecture you're gonna go they'll tell you a rule is the acronym Avenida Doody so I was trying for many years to figure out why Daphne little diva doodlee Annie means me Dodie is my beloved talking about a Shem and then it comes back at me with Dodie lien mah Shem is my my beloved for me and really what's hiding behind this verse Aniela to thee is an e means me my existence some co is an ego we call it your shoots it shoot is a selfless and we all have this ego in me that I think that everything has to be around me and it's all about me and what do I get out of it and I'm the center of the world seven billion people in this world and I'm the center and everybody has to cater me and it's all about me I'm not saying in customer Shalom to hurt anybody but that's I'm just presenting the reality that if you ever stop to think we're constantly with ourselves I can't get rid of myself even though sometimes I would wish to have a break from myself but I can't I'm stuck with me all day long and I constantly I talk to myself I wake up I'm there too I go to sleep he's there too and this me is my existence and one of the major things we came to do in this world is to destroy this existence is not to have a me is not to have an ego you know Moshe Ladino our teacher everybody in our past all the big to the kiemce they got a title Yosef got the title Yosef at Sadiq Avram got the title Aveeno dahveed Emilia ionic orange but Moshe got the word Rubino amino means our teacher Shmuel Hanavi we don't have to go through the list of all the titles but moshe got the title obey no even though now you walk in the street if you have a long beard everybody screams you obey no but that's not the lobby no we're talking about talking about moshe lovino moshe is our teacher he came and bringing brought us the Torah motion Levine who came to teach us one thing the Torah says Visayan of Nicole there was somebody here yes to the west why did the Torah if Moshe Rabbeinu wrote the Torah and he was the most humble man ever how could he write on himself that is humble right it's a good question he asked the question is today the gentleman that was sitting here but then he left like my kids they ask a question and then they leave do they want an answer emotional men who came to teach us about one thing is how to be humble is how to not to have any ego any existence Avraham Avinu says Annie a farmer I feel I'm nothing I'm like the dust that we develop says bonito Lots I'm even worse I'm like a worm Moshe Rabbeinu says when an umma oh I'm nothing I don't even have an existence even the only existence is the master of the universe and the second that I become an existence then I push away a Shem and the month of Elul we all have the understanding that I have to do chuva that's that's the basic of all because all day long I am busy with my life and I'm human and I will do mistakes we lie a little bit our cheat here and there I will not be courteous I'm not gonna be charitable I don't feel like waking up and praying in the mean yarn and many other things Hashem says listen I understand that you human don't pretend you're not I understand let me submit not expecting you to be a dick if I would want you to be acidic then I would fire them yet settle I you know you won't have a problem you will be a today quartz Attica mash em says that's not what I want I want you to admit the meeting is saying I did a mistake I was wrong most people don't know how to admit they will come up with all the excuses why it was somebody else's fault or it wasn't my fault or no I had pressure just say I'm sorry I did a mistake it's not so hard to say I'm sorry that's why the month of Elul is also called the month of slick hoods I mean do we have to say sorry to a Shem do I really hurt and shames feelings and with all the respect a Shem don't connect doesn't get affected when I do something I'm gonna not show up to the mignon or if I'm gonna steal cheat or lie I'm not affecting a Shem he's not gonna have now a deficiency because I did something wrong I have to say sorry from everybody around me and I have to say sorry to a shame for the fact that I broke my covenant with him I don't have to say sorry to a Shem didn't make him lose money I didn't make him lose anything rather we have a covenant with the calash mohawk we have a blade and if I break the blades if I break the covenant then I have to say sorry I'm sorry that I didn't come up with to the terms of the agreement but rhenium says I want I don't care about myself I want you to say sorry to everybody around you for the ones that you screamed at for the ones that you stole from from the ones that you hurt their feelings that's where we have to come up with a slick Hotz so comes our teacher motion apparently teaches us that you have to be humble and why do you want to be humble because that's the only way of getting the baha that I wish for myself we're all coming on Rosh Hashanah with a beautiful new suits and a beautiful haircuts all clean like this with a piece of paper okay listen I need five hundred million dollars and I need a wife and I need we come with a list of demands I don't think a Shem laughs like you were laughing now when I come with a list of demands but we all common ocean with the list of demands I need - I need health and need a wife I need kids I need this and it success I need myself I need my neighbour to stop bothering me I need this person to stop suing me we come with a very long list of demands and we won the sham to fulfill that where the sham has no problem the reality is that Hashem can do whatever he wants whenever he wants however he wants we just never give him the opportunity to do what he actually can do it's like the person who asked the question and left it didn't even wait for the answer we asked him to do so many things but we don't even give him the opportunity to act so when we want to learn about the month of Elul how do I get the Baha that I want so much for myself is the entire month of Elul I have to work with myself that Annie my entire existence my entire reality has to be given to a Shem Anila today I'm taking my entire existence and giving it to the kailash bajo that I don't have any reality of my own I don't have a desire of myself I don't want to do anything for myself it's only for the kailash mohawk in the last 4 months i had back-to-back tours i came now to Los Angeles yesterday two weeks break before then I was 2 weeks in the East Coast two weeks break before that I was in Europe two weeks break before that in London every two weeks they go on a trip and I'm not too happy about that I don't like that and on this trip I did not want to come no offense to you I mean I know you enjoyed my presence but I did not want to come and I kept looking for a way how I can get out of this trip because I had up to here I was like I don't want to go anymore and on the way to the airport I was really trying to get out of this trip somehow even though there were lectures already booked the merit is if you saw this beautiful young lady on the and the entrance here my daughter she came with me and in her married I'm here because I wanted to cancel the trip and I told my wife I'm canceling the trip and then she's like but what about your daughter you already promised you're taking her so I asked her if I'm gonna cancel the trip you're gonna be very disappointed so she was like of course I was like okay we have to you have to thank her by the way on the way out on the way out you thank her and my wife everybody always thanks Mia tell them no thank me here's my wife's email send her an email tell her thank her but I really wanted to get out of the trip and on the way to the airport that's when I click that's when I understood that because I took a taxi to the to the airport that's how you know sometimes the etc throws things straight into your face even I always take a train to the I live in the North I live in the north of Israel I have to take a train to the airport and there wasn't any trains some construction no trains anyways I take this taxi he takes me to the airport I'm very tired and he's talking and talking like a Polish potato cutter you know it doesn't give me a break and that's when I understood and in my mind I was like why why I'm pushed to go on this trip I really don't want to go and that's when I realized it has nothing to do with what I want nobody's asking me if I want I don't want if I had a meeting with a shame he would tell me I'm very sorry to tell you I don't care what you want I didn't ask you what you want I'm telling you what to do now you can accept it or not but that's what's going to happen and this is what's called in the Hasidic turn batula return is annoying my own desire I have a desire it's called return I want something and I will nobody's asking me if I'm gonna get it or not if I get it that's a bonus but it doesn't mean I'm going to get it and any person that puts in front of him the list of demands if that list of demands is not equal to the will of Hashem that person is going to have a lot of disappointments in their life because it's not parallel to the plan of the master of the universe and then you start running into brick walls and things don't work out and then a person starts becoming disappointed and heartbroken and upset at a shape why is a shame not letting it happen the point is that motion of a node that comes to teach us about the Torah comes to teach us the basics of everything it says you don't have a return you don't have a desire your desire has to be one of Shem ones now when you parallel yourself to Hashem then his will becomes your will and that's the main focus in the month of Elul is that I can wish for myself something to happen the same sense but that's not in the plan this is not we don't have a stop in that in that line in this track and I have to know how to humble myself to a point that I'm running parallel to the divine plan not to my plant so we're all coming in the month of Elul we're all excited some of us are not some people like you're not excited at all because it means now a whole month have to wake up at 4 o'clock in the morning and say free hot I don't know much people that are very happy with that their skin Azima like yeah we already say 1 week that's where this fella diva-like I wish it was polish I wish so you know it comes every time every one has it advantages but then it means everybody's dreading the whole month is go now if you pray all the time and come to shoulder time and pretend that I'm enjoying it everybody's with smiles at four o'clock in the morning nobody comes up and says hey guy are you are you like me I wonder I wish I could be in bed right now the reality is that it's session auspicious time it's actually a scary time because in this month we can design so to say my entire next year I can lay down now the foundation for the entire coming year how my year is going to be full of happiness sadness tests what kind of tests I'm going to have how severe the tests I'm going to have to go through we all have to go through tests we all have to go through challenges and we all have to go through the ups and downs of this world of this life and I'm gonna have to struggle with many things and now I have a whole month to pave the way and saying okay that's how my coming year is going to be my coming here can be very successful very profitable very happy and we can be as special or maybe not so the more that I diminish myself in the month of Elul the more I create the possibility to receive the unbelievable blessing from a Shem Noah Shem you know we are called children of a Shem and Shem blessed me to have six beautiful kids and each one of them is completely different than the other one kid before I go on my trips okay I want this this this recycling I have a list if I would have to go and shop for it I wouldn't have time to even lecture but it comes with a list and don't even dare to come home without something missing on the list I'm exaggerating of course but he comes with a list I want this I want this I want that and then there's another kid they just says I just want you to come home and when you come home I want you to play with me and when you come home I want you to take me to swim over it doesn't have a demand of what he wants which I love them both equally it's not that I love one more because he costs me more but but I love them equally but for the one who doesn't ask I have much more desire to bring him things because he's surprised he shocked when I give him something wow that's for me really he's not expecting anything and he's not asking for anything so he's very happy with what he has even if I'll bring him a lollipop he'll be shocked wow you chose the right color unbelievable and on the other hand the other one that I love very much he's gets disappointed oh you bought me this band but they didn't have this blue you only had the red why couldn't you get two so it's you know it gets there you get discouraged like listen I just slept 40 kilos in suitcases then you complaining about the color so I always tell everybody we think that we came here to educate our kids our kids came to educate us if you think you're educating your kids you have a mistake I always look at my kids and I learn from them and I learned from them a lot of different things and if you're very observant to look at how you kids behave you might learn something very interesting it's not a shame the ones that don't have kids with other Jimmy won't have kids very soon but our kids come to teach us and the problem is again we have this problem with our ego that I think I'm the out here I'm the responsible one I'm the mature let me teach you and the reality is that no shrim gives me kids so they can teach me and if I know how to humble myself in front of a four year old or a seven year old and to hear their opinion you'd be surprised how wise these little kids are and what they say what comes out of their mouth and I see I observed my kids behaviors and I see how they how they they interact how they be able they talk and I liked learning from them and one kid he has no demands he doesn't ask for anything he's happy with what he has and it makes me want to give him much more more attention and more presence I feel bad if I didn't bring him enough presence one complains that the prisons are not enough and the other one doesn't and at the end of the day my relationship with Hashem is the same like with my kids I love my kids aren't conditionally even if they do bad things even if I get her a call from the school even if one behaves not nice with the other person I will still have my kids equally I'd only have more love for another kid less than the other one I love them equally and I love them with all my hearts when the good times and the bad times send them to the shim-sham doesn't look at us and says oh you have a longer beard I like you more than him and you pray three times that they are like him more than you this is a this is you know a misconception people think that a Shem likes more other people then it's not such a thing there's no such a thing Shem who sees us equally doesn't matter what you do how you are of course the Shem wants us all to be following the Torah Shem gets sad and disappointed when I'm when I don't but don't let anyone come and tell you you see a Shem loves him more than him because he's more observant there's no such a thing there's really no such a thing as shrimp sees us all equally exactly the same and He loves us equally the same doesn't matter how you behave right now there's no question here if one should follow that or not this is not the topic of course everybody has to follow what the Torah says and the Torah is for everybody there's no difference between one person and the other that's the problem with a lot of people is that they think that the Torah belongs to some people it's or it's applicable to our one group of people whatever it says in the Torah it's applying for everybody doesn't matter who you are where you came from how old you are what's your nationality what's your race what's your religion it doesn't matter the law says don't kill nobody's allowed to kill Jews and non-jews there's no difference the masses don't steal nobody's allowed to steal there's no side note saying if you between the ages of 42 and 48 and happens to be that you live in the west coast you are out to steal it says it in two words nothing no that's it end the story no questions no arguments here so Hashem sees us all equally and loves us equally so when I look at my relationships with my kids that's how I learn how Shem is relating with me I'm looking at my kids I'm looking how they behave with each other you know when my kids get along that's the biggest nuts you can ever get I see them getting along they're working together I think they can say whatever they want that's the biggest happiness to see them together and and liking each other and treating each other nice when I see them maybe fighting with each other or hustlers you don't want is taking from the other oh that's the the worst thing that I can look and to see them fighting and that's exactly how I share my shamrocks down at us and when he sees us all together and United and respecting each other and loving each other and helping each other Shem has the biggest nuts and when he sees us fighting and hating each other and arguing and taking and stealing and cheating shrim can't stand that so sometimes you know when you're looking at the list a lot of people get it wrong some people think that they have some type of an in to understand what's in the mind of a sham and they think that if you pray three times a day and you learn five hours a day too and you do according to the list and a shim likes you more and it's it's again it's a misconception because the shim says first I want you to get along I don't care how much too high you learn and I'm like I don't care how long your beard is first get along and this is the whole the whole theme of Elul is how much we can get along and ultimately we all come to the same place that we want to get a blessing now when they were here just in the hallway every step that I take somebody please give me about ha give me a half of this give me about half of that no husband I don't mind I'm just saying that the the what drives us is we constantly ask for a blessing I live in one of the most if not the most holiest places in the world and I want a husband she don't talk to Sean of about the Osher line but I think where I live is holier it's fat transfer she don't know turkey nationality Rocha line mmm we're better make dashes but for three thousand years all the biggest sages chose to hang out there so there's something there it's a very holy place five minutes from where I lived is five hundred graves each one is a bigger static than the other people come from all over the world to just touch the graves just to smell some air of this holy place and everybody comes with with III they have a problem they come with a list of demands and they go and pray and all these cumulates I became and such a holy place everybody comes when they have a problem the reality is that right now in the year 2017 well to be more precise to say the year 5777 99.999 if run a hundred percent of the population of the world are under severe stress and severe problems I can guarantee to you I know no but nobody will do it because being afraid of being shamed but if we will make now here a vote I can guarantee to you and nobody can raise their hand and say my life is beautiful where if you can say that because they're happy with what a sham gave them but the reality is that we all have a lot of problems and we all struggling in one way or another and with finance with health with relationships with so many things no need to step now on everybody's toes but the reality is that we all have some type of a problem and most of us have maybe ten of them and when we out in a public place we all put on a nice face and we smile and everything's good and we think that we're the only one who has problems and we're looking and everybody says oh I wish I had her life I wish I his life I wish I wish I wish but the reality is if we would leave to lift the veil we would stay with your problems [Music] there's a joke it's sort of funny joke but there's a joke that there was once a guy and he did everything according to the book whatever it says in the book he did he prayed three times a day woke up early in the morning learned Torah gave charity did everything that the book says he was like the number one citizen but he had the worst life didn't have luck in anything anything that he touched was a disaster and at the end of his life he walks crosses the street in a car hits him and he kills him he goes up to Shimon and he comes with demands he's like I want to see the boss how can it be my whole life I did exactly what the Torah said I had the worst life in history I want answers I want to see God the angel said listen you know everybody has problems no I want to see God okay hey take him in to the master of the universe and it says how can I help you says listen it's not fair I did everything that it says in the Quran I had the worst life ever so Jim says what do you want what do you want tell me what you want he's like I want to go back there back down I want a near-death experience I want to come down and I want a good life and I won my life to be better so Simpsons okay listen the way the system works is that everybody has to have problems that's the way the system works but I'll give you now the option of choosing your own problems with other people I don't let them do that I just give them a sack of problems and they have to deal with it that's the rule but I'll give you a discount and you can choose your own problems fair good okay go to floor 37 take a left take a right you'll find an angel sitting in one of the doors there tell him I sent you and he will help you okay he goes he gets to the room tells the angel listen the boss tell me I can come here and choose my own problems no problem he opens the door the guy walks into a huge warehouse it looks like Home Depot you know like a lot of aisles and very high shelves that you need a forklift to take it out and he's like what what's going on here the angel tells him this is the warehouse of problems she says okay how am I gonna whatever it is listen you just walk around in the aisles and you all choose you're a psycho problems that's it that's what I need to do yeah he starts walking around aisle one I'll do aisle three cease these massive sacks one is bigger than the other he says this time I'm gonna choose the most smaller sack of problems and he goes there up and down in the aisles and I finally after walking around there he sees in the corner I like as if somebody pushed there this little bag he pulls it out says ah this is it he goes out tells danger that's the one he's like okay sign here now go to the boss tell him which one you chose so he walks back into a shame and a shame as is known you chose yourself a bag is like yeah this one just shows Jimmy tells him oh I see you chose your own bag so didn't expect such an audience person when I was doing that when I heard a joke I started crying but the reality is that we all have a sack of problems and we think that my sack is the biggest one and when I look at everybody around me I wish that I would have their life and I wish I would have their money and their house and their wife and their kids and but the reality is that we all have a sack of problems and the sack of problems is not for me to whine or to cry or to complain is to be happy with what I have because the Shem says I want to give you everything but if you're not gonna know how to appreciate what you have how you're gonna appreciate when I really give you something now let's give the the same example but myself I grew up in a very wealthy home my father bought wash em was always doing very well but since I was 12 years old everything that I wanted I had to work for it and my father did not have a problem buying me something but he did the most smartest move and up until today I thank him for that because he made me work he told me you want this no problem paint the fence I'll buy you that you want that watch the garden when this watch the car you'll earn it and he made me develop the system of appreciating what I have and not just brushing things off because they got him for free and a Shem does the exact same thing was with us he says why should I give you something just for free you know what was gonna be huh what's gonna happen if I just give you something you don't gonna appreciate it you're not gonna thank me for that you're gonna neglect it you're gonna gonna push it away because it's not good enough so shams does the exact same thing and he says I want you to earn it I want you to appreciate your hard work I wish you won't bother Christ says in the book of the soil that why why the world was created why do we need this whole show 7,000 years of an entire show we have to go through exile through suffering through all these things that why who needs this headache so he quotes a verse it says Latakia Dodge Mahal is Dakota T soil Shane wanted to give more merits Moors who yachts to the nation of Israel if you talk about him - omits vote so he gave them a lot of Turin mitzvos that still doesn't make sense a mission one value hostage don't say is less the court rather shame Oritel is a kick to refine to make it better the story says that before the world was created was just a shame and all the souls were around the shame and shame was just giving everything and they're giving and giving this godly revelation and at some point the souls felt very discouraged because they just feel that they're getting and getting and getting and at some point the souls came to Hashem and told him listen all you do is you give to us we want to do something for you Hashem says no problem you want to earn what you get no problem I'll create a world I'll put you in bodies I'll give you a whole list of meats what to do and you earn it as all says that the feeling that the souls had in front of a shame because it bread of shame Mohammed ixa like a poor person that comes and knocks on your door every day embarrassed and ask you for some food so ships is no problem I'll make you work for that and of course we were like no no no we're taking a seriously were joking right but then it was already too late and a shame created the world but the reality is that Shem says I want you to earn what you get the submission that it says as the washi who's a rich person and the Mishnah continues as Samira by Falco that is happy with his portion so if you're looking in in a very external way a very superficial way yeah who's a rich person a person that is just happy with what he has he has a little bit of food he's nothing with that he has something small a little bit of money whatever it is he's happy with what he has that's why I said before the 99.9% of the people they feel that they have problems there is a small fraction of people that they actually accept the yoke they accept what Hashem gives them and says okay life is not so good right now but Bo Hashem I have this this and that and they look at the positive in their life and not in the negative but really when you want to read the verse the right way everything in the Torah has an external layer what we call it Sony Oats something that is external and there's something that is internal what's called commutes a very internal thing you can look now at a person and you think that you know what that person thinks or what they're going through but that's very external you don't know what's going on inside so everything has an external part of it and an internal part of it this external part of the verse it says as the wife she was a rich person the one who's happy with what he has that's very external then yeah you have to appreciate what you have when you actually develop the appreciation of what you have the little that you have that's when you create the opportunity to start giving the analogy with my kid the one who asked and asked and asked I'm not gonna give him less but I'm gonna give him what he asks I'm gonna give him more and the other kid that doesn't ask anything anything that I'm gonna give will be more already because he's not asking for nothing besides the fact that it wants me it arouses me to give him more same thing here with the shim-sham says if you only asked all day long fine I might give you am I not you don't ask that's when you develop the opportunity to actually get more but really the penny mute the internal part of this teaching when it says Sol semilla Sol she lost a miracle Co you have to read it completely different you have to know where to put the comma and the right place to put the commas SOR she has a miracle Co then you put a comma B he'll kosher ha vivo who's the rich person the one who's happy with the portion of his friend not his own portion and that's where the secret lies that hashem says you want to impress me is I want you to get along I want you to be happy for each other because the entire month of Elul is to start forgiving other people that hurt me and to me to go and apologize to other people Hashem says if you're gonna come through the synagogue on Yom Kippur and anything that you did in front of me what's called been Adam lama come between me and a sham Shem says I'll forgive you I will forgive you for the worst things I'll forgive you but as long as there's nobody out there that doesn't hold grudge against you they did not forgive you if you have some person that is angry with you or they didn't forgive you I can't forgive you for anything don't even come to my show so Shem gives us 40 days to go and clear the the feel out so when I come to Yom Kippur and I session forgive me for all the junk that I did the last year folded a Shannara that I spoke and all the stealing and lying and cheating and and assurances okay let me look at the record oh you know what I'm sorry to tell you but that guy over there you hurt his feelings you didn't ask for apology and that guy from there you tricked him in business and that guy he talked l'shanah Tovah about him I can't forgive you don't ask their forgiveness that's the wall that will stop me from getting my own forgiveness so Shem says I'm giving you 40 days to square everything out you owe somebody money go and work it out you took some money doesn't matter right now deliberately or by mistake then you have to pay it back you hurt somebody's feelings going to piece them Shem says first you fix between you and another person then you can come to me and if your record is clean I'll forgive you for anything now Shem says I will forgive you for anything that you did in front of me but I can't forgive you for something you didn't to somebody else so really when I want to look at the essence of the month of Elul is not what I am going to get it's not what I have to do for me to get the bahai again it's constantly if it's boiled down to me that I'm going in the wrong direction that's why the acronym here even is talking about a lily doodie means taking their knee taking them me and erasing it deleting it there's no me there's no need what do you think a shim doesn't know that you want money you think the shim doesn't know that you need to get married and have kids and have happiness and success and health Shem is not ignoring you he knows exactly what you want but you have to behave like my young son it doesn't ask much you know he tells me just spend time with me just take me to ride my bike sit and read me a story he doesn't think buy me something and again something I like one child more than the other but the the the wisdom of a four-year-old of a six-year-old is that you know how you win her shams art is by saying I don't want anything I just want to be with you I don't want you to bring me anything and that's when a shrimp actually wants to give you and if a Shem decides not to give you that's also his decision sometimes you have to go on a diet sometimes you know my younger daughter is a certain lollipop brand that she likes that it's very hard to find in Israel so when I come I have a suitcase full of these lollipops and they're healthy lollipops no no no food coloring you know sugar organic lollipops but I come with these bags and sometimes I find there was like five lollipops in their mouth I just see like sticks out of their mouths that he or she goes like that in the sticks what are these mean so and I'm like why are you having five you know if you have one a time you'll have more to enjoy why is seeking them oh and one shot in your mouth so that's a common sense of a four-year-old then we put as much as I can in my mouth then I'll maybe enjoy it more and again observe how your little kids behave do you want to put too much room in your mouth you can't even chew you can't even talk you can't even smile she just walks around with sticks hanging out of her mouth and then her whole face is like red and yellow and then she touches everything of course Shem says don't be a hazard don't don't try to put in your mouth too much I'll give you in the order what you can in the in the with the quantity what you can handle and you know a good parent says here you had two lollipops today that's it you had enough you can have $17 puffs of today this is not food this is just you know a dessert or whatever something sweet to have when a sham takes something away from my life he knows what he's doing he knows why he's taking the lollipop away because it's not good for me but at the end of the day I want to understand I want to know what do I need to do in this month because it is a very auspicious time it's really the time to fill up my wishlist and it's the time to really get the preparation of how much more Hashem is going to give me and he's going to give me what I need not what I want Shem says if I'm gonna put on my my wish list a Bentley a Shamus a I don't have you really need a Bentley you know what's wrong with the Honda it also has four wheels doesn't have more wheels than the other now that I'm construction I'm putting Bentley down if you want to drive one fine that's not a problem Shem gives us what I need that's why if I want to look at it in a very general way then I have to be happy with what a sham gives me and the more that I appreciate what a Shem gives me the Martian wants to give me more but really I have to look deep down inside and say whoa as awesome as well Sheila's americo she'll have oh I have to see where I can make space to everybody around me and this is the secret that lies behind this entire month is a Shem since I want you to get along let's see if you can get along I'm going to put around you all these annoying people and now let's see if you can get along if a sham would want us to not have this issue he would create seven billion islands and each one of us will live on an island just wave to each other and that's it Hashem says no I'm gonna put you on the same island I'm gonna put 500 million people on the same island now they're gonna start eating each other now let's see if you can get along and if you can love each other and create space to each other and appreciate and respect each other and give each other their space now let's see you do that so shrimp comes and tells us in the month of Elul you are paving your road you are creating what's called the vessel that through this vessel you will get the blessing in the next coming year we all want a blessing let's not kid ourselves we want to be healthy we want to be happy we want to have substance we have partner sir we want an easy life that's what I hear all the time I'm not looking for magistrate the bare minimum the thing is that right now you have the bare minimum so you have to be happy with what you have and a shim will give you more but Hashem says just work on yourself just first makes room for another person make room for another person to grow into shine and make space for other people and start forgiving everybody somebody cheated you in money don't don't whole garage that wasn't your money to start with somebody did something for you something went against you it seems to you like they went against you didn't nobody went against you they're just the the messenger the shelia that actually was used by a sham so whatever she wanted to do so we want to take the hint that's in this month in the Anila go diva totally in their knee that my entire existence has to be completely given over to a sham then I want to look inside myself and if you're looking at the at the external way what I need to do is I have to say yes you know it's a month of Java I have to see what did I do wrong this year and only you can really know what you did wrong you don't have to come and tell me what you did wrong you have to tell yourself what you did wrong that's why we say slick hot the entire month because in Slee hordes every couple paragraph we say something that is called V Dewey confession we confess and a shame says I don't need you to come and explain why your heart just just confess just a bit just say I was wrong that's what she wants I am the one who gave you the Yetzirah I sent you the desire I sent you the temptation I just want you to be humble and say I I was wrong again going back to the example with my kids both Hashem I have three boys three boys and three girls and boys the boys I'm not expecting my boys to be angels boys they fight they they they get in trouble one boy he likes getting in trouble the other boy also likes getting in trouble the difference between one and the other one admits and the other one comes with excuses the first one just says yeah I didn't feel like it that's it straight out why did you do that cuz I wanted to oh that I like the other one no he said and she and no it wasn't my fault it was his fault and he told him and if I don't care about your excuses just come and say I'm sorry I messed up I gave more respect to the other one that just comes and says what do you want me to start telling your stories that's what I did that's it and the story so same thing in with the Shem this [ __ ] doesn't make excuses I didn't feel like it I had pressured in one - my wife is driving me crazy whatever it is they're very easy to come with excuses Jim says I don't want excuses I want you to admit once you admit I'll take the blame already so of course we want to do what's called fishbone nefesh I want to make some type of an account what did I do this year was that 100% honest the entire year no and you have to be honest with yourself that's why again is ring is releasing this Annie this ego I can't do the right account if I'm not honest I have to be honest with myself I can lie to anybody not that I'm suggesting to lie what I'm saying I can technically lie to anyone but really I can't lie to myself and if I lie to myself I'm doing the the worst thing I can do for myself is to lie to myself I want to get better in something it's only from a hundred percent honest and saying no let's cut to the chase let's put everything on the table and I can't lie here and yes I'm not so honest I have to lie much less and yes I talk a lot of Ashura and it seems like something very simple a Shannara leshawna is not a simple thing this one is his whites one of the worst sins in the book the reality in the Shannara is why it's so bad is because I'm taking this negative power and I'm arousing it in the person that I'm talking about them a Shannara is slandering so talk bad about somebody and I'm bringing this negative energy into the world we talked about it yesterday that whatever energy that I produced then I throw into the world that's the energy that comes back at me take now a board and throw it at the wall the ball will come back and depends on the wall and depends on the ball sometimes it will come stronger than what you threw it at the wall so whatever energy you throw to the Royal that's their world the energy the world will throw back at you slow-mo melech King Solomon was the most wisest man ever lived he says come I'm up animal upon him when you look at the old days they didn't have mirrors like we have they used to look into the water and see the reflection on the water so slow moment it says come I'm up a name when I'm looking at the water and I see a reflection basically in our terminology I would look in a mirror and if I'm smiling to the person in the mirror than the one in the mirror will smile back at me and if I wave my hand to the person in the mirror the person in the mirror will wave their hand back at me you can't shoot the mirror you can't go like this in the mirror will we get confused for a second so whatever you do the mirror will react a hundred percent because the mirror is a reflection it's a mirror I know some people haven't as that's how I was when I was young I thought I can cheat the mirror I was like I would go like that and think that maybe I can confuse the guy in the mirror until I figured out no that's me who am i lying to trying to lie to me so she says this world is a mirror whatever you throw out there who comes back at you that's how it is you smile to the world the world will smile at you you'll curse through the world occur the world will curse at you that's how it works try it out one day just to throw constantly this positive energy into the world you'll see what energy comes back at you you know yesterday I landed a shame like sporting me on we throw tests I don't know what he has with me and some type of constantly putting me into these different tests like everybody right I'm not different so I land and I rented a car and when I came everything that can go wrong went wrong I came late and I never heard of such a thing she told me you late we can't give you a car stupid I'm late you can give me a car I made a reservation no so we charge you more where does it say that if I come late you charge me more anyways anything that can go wrong went wrong I ordered a certain car they didn't have it all these little things then I put my credit card you know now the credit cards have these chip I didn't have my pin I just tell just swipe it now we can swipe it anything so and you know III know sometimes I wash em test steal and and in my mind I was like this lady now is controlling my destiny so to say right if I would be on her best side right now she can do technically whatever she wants the lady behind the counter right so now that I did it in a in a in a not nice way but all I took is just a few nice words a nice smile good attitude you can't even believe what you did to help me you can't even believe and that's all it took and I could now take my own not that I have it but I'm just to giving you the example I could take my own anger my own frustration I was tired after 16-hour flight I could take all my junk and throw it at her you know what I would get I would walk out of this place without a car that's it right and I would have to now with three suitcases look for car rental instead of taking my not that I have it I'm giving exam an example instead of I could take my frustration my anger me being tired things not working out I completely ignored it I still smiling at her how are you boho Cher and I was talking to her like like a human me that's a problem that we have that we talk to other people like they're not human beings like other human being and they're the ape and that's how we treat people I mean I'm not constitutional putting anybody down but the reality is check yourself how you treat other people if you're gonna treat other human beings like human beings you know what you're gonna have a surprise they're gonna treat you nice back but we treat people like garbage and then we expect them to bow down so the proof was that I I talked to her nice with respect I smiled I was friendly with her and I didn't do it to get my ID with an agenda I just did it honestly because she's another human being I never met her and I'll probably never see her ever again and I'm not talking about now a kedusha shame of putting you know a showing that you know I'm actually a mensch and the end we became very friendly she went so out of her way to help me and I end up getting the exact car that I wanted with a better price everything worked out because sometimes the other person has the key and if you throwing your junk at that other person they'll back up and say I don't want to help you but if you you you know all it takes is a few nice words and a nice smile but genuine that person will do the world to you and she really went out of her way to help me in an unbelievable way and then I just said the magical word I don't even know where he came from I just tell you are my saving angel today oh that's it a colder and angel that's it the price went down 20% yeah and a bigger car yeah so not that I did it with an agenda it was genuine because I try to mimic my creator it says that we were created in the image of God then you have to mimic God and God love loves everybody it doesn't judge people it doesn't get upset with people it doesn't hold grudge he's not revenge ink God is the ultimate love just try to behave one day like a garden and I have done of course so not to compare and you'll see how the world is reflecting Accio soundly everything will be different you've throw this good energy into the world the world that's the energy the world is gonna throw at you you can walk into a room with a stinky energy because everybody annoys you this day and that's the energy you're coming into the room the room is not gonna accept you nobody's gonna accept your energy nobody wants to deal with your problems so you're gonna get kicked out I'm stalking but spiritually right now not physically this whole month is about looking in myself and doing an account for myself not to look for who's in blame she's you know when I a lot of people come to me for marital problems and I always sit the couple separately first let me hear the husband let me hear the wife then let me put them together and 99% of the time she's annoying he's a slob she's a mess she he she he nobody ever comes and says you know what I'm sorry to say I know I'm hard I know I'm difficult nobody says that they'll blame each other you know when I go on these trips we always make days that I meet people so not along the previous trip I had a day we had meetings back to back one guy walks in and he comes and tells me rabbi I need you to help me my wife is driving me nuts okay we talked and then he tells me no my kids they don't have zero respect to me and I don't listen to me and my employee and my did and he was complaining about the entire world and I'm sitting and looking in here my gosh the next guy who walks in tells me I need advice I don't have patience to my wife she's such a good wife I just don't have patience I always scream and you know my kids are such good kids but I lose my temper with them and my this and he all he said is I have the problem I have a problem with the anger I'm impatient I can't I was like wow look at the Hat like one normal guy he takes the blame on himself instead of blaming everybody else so comes the month and a little and says you want to clear things out is you have to look inside yourself a in one way you have to look at it is that you have to cancel my anine my ego nobody cares about your ego you have to leave him out but more than that when I run a really lookout is I have to look inside and see you know if I have an argument with somebody where did I go wrong and if something did something to me maybe I did something I'm not saying how special um to be OCD and to take all all everything to some people they take all the blame on themselves that's not healthy that's what I'm saying but I have to make a clear and honest self-assessment of myself to see where where am I going on maybe I did something wrong in any situation and was I a hundred percent maybe I could be better maybe I could be a little bit less tough maybe I could give in maybe I could give up whatever it is so the energy of the month is that we have a whole month with a very special energy that if I know how to tap into that energy I can achieve unbelievable success Hashem says just clear out the dirt and the dirt is usually coming from me not from anybody else it's very easy to point the finger and it's the hardest to admit to point the finger is very easy who did it him that's like my young daughter come into the room who did that here not here no no no I didn't know anything so and again I told you no I have no problems with my kids I love them all they just make me laugh all the time because kids think that you're stupid you know they don't understand that once I was a kid - I know all the answers and one of my donors she's like anything you ask her she did it but you were only one in the room she was like she's here before Jim doesn't like that either don't come with excuses just know how to say okay I did it I messed up I I will I messed up and I will clean the mess - so we have a very special energy in this month that allows us to clean the garbage you know on pizza we clean the house on a roll we clean the inside and if you want to come to the day of the judgment day which sounds very scary Judgment Day and one should take it very seriously one should not take this Judgment Day so easily this is not just for nothing called judgment dates when the books are open and a Shem is looking down and saying okay let's see what's going on here but I have a whole month to clear clear it out to do Chuba when you do chuhwa you clear out the record and there are two ways of doing Juba there's a high level of qu L is called qu viola achiever from love Allah means a higher level and a chuhwa Tata lower level Chava that's more true from fear and I'm afraid they'll be punished my analogy to these two levels of Chava Hashem brought us technology into the worlds as we can relate with our Shem wants us to behave so both Hashem you all using computers so the analogy that I have with these two levels of Chava you can have a folder with a lot of files on your desktop you take this folder and you throw it to the trash right now that's it you threw this folder but it's still in the trash and at any given moment you can go to the trash and pull that folder and all these files out of the trash this is a lower level Chava that you got rid of the dirt but it's still there you just pushed it somewhere but a higher level Chava is that you empty your trash that's it you've got rid of these files you got rid of it you can retrieve it it can recover it that's a high-level Java as you completely get rid of the trash and it's not sitting in the trash you empty the trash that's what we can achieve on the month of Elul that you can literally empty your trash and come to the first day of Tishrei the judgement day and I have no records it's all clean I did my Chula I'm coming here completely clean now can you imagine what type of a vessel I am toward but I can receive now from the master of the universe and if I'm looking it in a selfish way yeah I need somewhere to get a blessing because I want my life to be easier and smoother and better but when I don't pray for myself too much I just do what I'm supposed to do that's when I really get my Baha and when I really want to focus we're still in the beginning of the month we have another whole month in front of us we're not to the point is not to wake up two days before Rosh Hashanah and say oh I forgot it's 2:00 now to take advantage I have still a whole month to start working everyday I'm going to add one more thing and another thing and I'm going to work with myself and let me do an analogy where can I get better what did I do wrong the entire year where can I grow how can I make space for other people to grow around me how can I make my surrounding my life made my community my house how can I make that much much better when a much less selfish it's very easy to say shame I want this I want that I want this forgive me for this forgive me for that I find that when you make space to other people first that's when a shame pushes everything away and says okay let me concentrate on you so we want to take this month it's a very auspicious time to make organization in my closet and to really go through my entire year see where I can get better where I can add more where I can grow and mainly where I can make space for everybody around it because this is really what she wants shrim says you want to impress me get along don't be so judgmental don't be so jealous don't be so angry don't hold grudge don't be don't create this separation you know in most cases it never happened different but in most cases Alou comes after the month of Alf never skips and usually and the month of valve is to commemorate the destruction of the temple why was the temple destroyed because he not clean up because hating another person with no reason the first temple was destroyed from three sins idol worship bloodshed and forbidden relations since the sin was revealed then the length of the exile was revealed when they left you who shall I am the Prophet told him you're going to be out of you wish a lion for 70 years and that's what happened 67 years later was the story with poor him three years after that marking 70 years they came back to Ocean I'm very simple the second temple got destroyed from sea not phenom from hating another person for no reason and since the scene is not revealed then the length of the Exile is not revealed we are now still having the same problem we're already at the moment that machine can come any second the reason why we all have problems and everybody has problems some people have 20 30 40 60 things are dealing at the same time don't think it's only you everybody has problems I always say then I repeat it and I repeat it Miyoko sham were very very active online and many different things that we do we have such a huge large following that on an average day my system gets about a thousand to two thousand messages that's an average day just before the lady said I emailed you I didn't get an answer yeah because 5,000 people emailed you emailed me before you and there's only five girls and answering emails so that's the amount of emails and calls and messages that come in every day people tell me you don't have a phone or Volvo if I would have a phone the phone would I would have to carry with me batteries just to to sustain the phone not to hang up that's it I don't have a phone anymore I don't want to have a phone I don't have enough minutes a day no no no company would allow me to have a how do you call it a plan so why am I telling you all that because from the thousands and thousands of messages that we get every day I never get one message of saying hello I just wanted to tell you everything's okay I never got such a message I actually have to correct myself because a few weeks ago I said the exact same thing in election one nice lady sent me an email and said I sat in that lecture that day I just wanted to tell you everything's okay but the reality that I never got such a message all the messages are devastating stories I need to buy like boxes of tissues when I go and read all the messages every story is worse than the other everybody's suffering everybody's going through challenges everybody is pressed to the wall not because you did something don't let somebody come and tell you oh you did something a sham is punishing you sham is not a third grade teacher that punishes you because you spoke and throws you out of the class shim is pushing everybody to a corner because he wants everybody to understand that that's it my chef is coming that's time to to polish it all up and that's it and we're leaving look at the first Redemption that we have three thousand four hundred years ago and with time they were suffering too they lived in Los Angeles instead of driving Bentley's they had donkeys instead of iPhones they had bricks nothing changed just the fashion but they lived in a beautiful city full of money full of wealth they didn't have Hollywood but they had a whole Hollywood system there too nothing changed just the fashion and the phones and they also were slaves like we are slaves we are slaves to the bank to the phone company to the leasing company to the mortgage so nothing changed they also had a redeemer that came to get them out of their exile and we also have one so shame is pushing us to a wall and everybody is now pressed in some we're or another not to wine not to cry not to look for solutions to understand that that's it this is the end and ashame is now polishing the the edges so instead of wishing for myself for my business to be successful and instead of wishing myself to all these things which is nothing wrong with that is rather I should wish for myself to have the marriage to see the coming of Messiah because mashiac is gonna change everything people come and tell me I can't have kids pray for my ship no but I can't have kids pray for my shear but I can't have pray from a ship why don't you understand here Michelle's gonna one was gonna give you the Baha I can't get married pray for Michelle I don't put on the stop pray for Michelle so she wants us to pray when everything is good you don't show up to show you know in this prosperity the shows are empty when there's a depression shows a fool everybody comes in the hug of the set from Torah and they hold the curtain why what's going on suddenly you become very religious because because there's no money so we want to take this month so to really understand where we're holding to see the vision of what's waiting for us and to finally understand we're not little kids anymore that a shame is gonna patch me on my hand because they did something that's not the point to concentrate on and don't get me wrong I'm giving you now a leeway to do whatever you want the hell fair you should grow stronger we should add more to admire in our life more Mitzvah to be more observant more particular I mean look at me you know people tell me you're fanatic yeah I am there's a reason for that I'm not telling you now go become loose well think we have to be stronger into our Mitzvahed but my agenda is not how bad I am her good and my genders now am i making space for the entire world to coexist how am i making space for you to shine in your element and for you to shine and for you to shine that's all about all about me somebody gave me a very interesting comment a very interesting compliment fuchsia but Chavez's ago boku shame we have a beautiful Center and spots beautiful Shabbat meals masala sham I hope you can come and visit us and enjoy them and somebody came to me not too long ago and told me you know I enjoy coming to your Shabbat meal because the Shabbat meal is not about you it's not about you you don't give the energy that listen to me I have to talk you came to me it's my table he's like you let everybody be a star in your table you let everybody have their couple moments of Fame you don't give this energy like I'm the only around feeding you and I was like that's a very interesting comment because I want my guests to feel that don't feel intimidated don't feel that you owe me now because I fed you or you have to listen to me because I know more Torah and this comment this this compliment was so nice to hear that a person says I like coming here because I feel comfortable here and I'm not being judged how I'm dressed how I look I have a blue yarmulke a green yarmulke my yarmulke no yarmulke you don't care who I am or how I am and that's the reality is that we have to know how to make space for everybody around me I'm not better than anyone that's the ultimate teachings of Moshe you may know who technically can come and say I'm better than all of you I talked to a Shem he didn't have that attitude he didn't have this Java this pride that oh I'm so great he saw how great everybody is and he looked at every person and says you a much better than mean something you are much better than me I'm good I know what I'm good at but I'm not good at everything and every individual possesses something a quality that is a hundred times better than me and if I'm able to look at every individual and see the beauty and the greatness and each and every person because a Shem can recognize that Who am I to ignore it and if I know how to make every person shine in their way that's when I'm really preparing the space for the world to shine is to removing this ego removing this me and um it's all about me that's why you've seen our generation it's all around you know even our devices this iPhone I Mac I pad I it's only I even now people can argue with that there's a galaxy this is this as all the other but the ones who came out with it is the eye everything is me so comes the month of Elul and now's the opportunity to break it to completely aknowledge to completely break this energy of it's not about me it's about everybody around me and then everything that comes to me will fall through that's ultimately how we get to our shames heart is when I totally ignore myself I have no desires I have no wishes I have no idea I'm nothing I want to do what Hashem wants me to do she wants me to go now to two weeks to Los Angeles I'll go I have no I have no say here I rather come two weeks to Los Angeles and being hosted in such beautiful communities then to suffer somewhere else in something that Hashem says you choose how you want to be uncomfortable you want to be uncomfortable in a holy way or I want to be uncomfortable in a not nice way so we want to make a rush born we want to make an account where am i holding a I can't ignore the fact that I have to follow the Torah the Torah tells me to do I have to follow it and there more I follow it the more smoother the ride is the biggest thing that people have a problem with is that they don't know what to do they seek for advice that's the biggest problem the problem itself that's one thing the solution that is a different problem and most people go to other people to look for advice what should I do should I do this or should I do that that's the million dollar question the problem is going to stay the solution is what should I do and everybody grows and looks for advice for the wise man that will tell you what is the right thing to do and the reality is that the only one who can tell you what's the right thing to do there's a Shem only shem can tell you what's the right thing to do and how is he gonna tell it to you through you not through another person and not through the tarrant reading and all this nonsense and people go to fortune teller than hand reading and face reading nobody knows what they're talking about and you know in Hebrew who say of day it's oats we work for advice and we're looking for the short the short advice and the easy way out Hashem says I have the answer for you just know which button to press if you know which button to press or should I say in our terminology how to connect myself to the right network you know now every time that I land especially when I travel a lot you know our we don't even notice how we're depending on this technology ten years ago nobody had all this technology now you if you don't have for one second data or Wi-Fi oh my gosh I ran out of Wi-Fi you don't have Wi-Fi here what's going on with you you're walking into a restaurant what's your Wi-Fi but I relax one suppose do you have a bathroom now is that you have Wi-Fi no okay goodbye that's how much we're slaves to this world if I don't have data for two minutes oh my god the world is collapsing what's gonna happen if there's gonna be a power outage for ten days what do we have how we're gonna survive without texting all these moe geez how do you call them the Smiley's emojis if I'm not gonna text for one second some stupid face with a tongue out and this is to what we came to that all day long we're sending each other these character traits with all sorts of funny faces that's what we bicker that's what became of us so I mean just imagine a sham is looking from above and saying this is why I sent your technology to send each other smiley faces with tongues out and also to so every time that I land in a different airport right away any data I need a I need to be connected their Wi-Fi and I can you know you know how you walk with your phone and it recognizes all the wi-fi's around you but all of them have the lock and you're like you're looking for the one without the lock like as if somebody's gonna be a sucker and leave his Wi-Fi open where I live somebody name their network how did he say it I'm not giving you free internet something like that that's the name of the network find your own internet something like that funny funny name for the network but the reality is we're always looking for the network to connect so I have connection Shem says learn how to connect to me I'll give you all the Wi-Fi all the data you need just know how to connect to me it's one lady hundred kool Shem soshim says just connect yourself to my network I'll give you all the answers you need you're not gonna have all these problems of should I do this should I do that half of the people that they turn to me with question is is with it with basic things should I learn to be a lawyer should have learned to be a doctor should I live here or should I live here should I marry him or should I marry him we just don't know how to connect yourself to the source of answers oh it takes is to connect yourself to Hashem Hashem is gonna give you all the answers you need Hashem has all the ways all the creativity ways to give you your answer you just need to know to which network to get connected and you get connected to the network by by connecting yourself to the master of universe who's the source of information it's very simple but we go around in circles and when the answer is right in front of me sometimes I I see again going back to my kids I see them you know asking a million questions here and there and I tell them I have that so why don't you come directly to me iiiii will be glad to give you the answer why are you going and looking for it somewhere else so we need to know how to connect myself to the source the source is the Shem chairman is the source of our solutions of our problems of everything and now we have an auspicious time a real nine ninety percent off coupon for 30 days that a Shem says now just all I need you to do is to humble yourself is to admit that's what I'm asking just admit don't don't come with excuses right now my life was hard this was happening that doesn't matter just admit when you admit 90% of the weight just went off and mainly we have to look around us and say we're in every situation I can remove them me to make space for the you and for you and for you and for everybody else and the more you make space for the people you see that your space grows you know there's a Mishnah that says that there were ten miracles in your shall I'm and one miracle was that people would stand very squishy but they were able to bear down on deemed fulfilling wish to have him over him and in the times of the beta me - they would bow down lying down on their body not bowing down like that lying down on your stomach spreading your hands out that's bowing how could a miracle such a miracle happen you ever saw the measurements of the Potomac - how can you have thousands of people bowing down there so you can learn from the literal level but you can look at the internal part of this Mishnah the teaches you that if you bow down to each other you lower your you humble yourself in front of each other other there's room for everybody and when you don't know how to bow down to each other we don't we don't bow down to people bowing down as I'm lowering my my ego I'm lowering myself in front of you you you are probably much better than me many other things it's very easy to come and say oh I know so much of this and I'm so successful here and there that's very easy to do but to know how to lower yourself in front of another person and make the other person space that's when you make the space that's when everything becomes very large you can live in a seventeen room mansion and still be separated and distanced from your wife and kids and you can live in a studio apartment you know I at one period in my life I lived in studio apartment with five kids and it was the best time of my life and up until today my wife and me were like that was the best three months we ever had in a studio apartment a quarter of this room with five kids and we slept on the floor all together every day we had parties every day we had music and we were dancing we have videos of that was the best period of our life because we learned how to make space for everybody and to let when you let somebody share your space then your space becomes bigger because theoretically now there's more people in your space and when you push everybody away from your space then your space becomes very very small so you can leave in a 17,000 square feet mansion and you'll still be squashed in into your own four corners so Jim comes and tells you don't pray to have all the lists of things that you want I know what you want trust me you don't have to make a list I know what you want I want you to pray for his success and for her health and for his happiness and for his life to be better and I want you to make space for everybody and I want you all to be together and United and then you'll have the biggest blessing ever and that's what we need to concentrate on because the ultimate blessing is only gonna be when Messiah comes the only way to bring Michelle is only by spreading this love and respect and space for Eddie or anybody else if we don't know how to do it we'll stay in the same problems that we are we want to cut the problems short as we have to start bowing down to each other not bowing don't get me lit don't take me literally stop bowing to people that's not what I'm talking about now as you're lowering your ego in front of another person you lower your lowering your own self self Ness it makes space for air any other people to shine it's not about me I have to kill this and me this entire aney aney means me goes to the lady goes to shame what a shame wants me to do although then the rest of shame is gonna do for me as either Shamu is left is to wish you an unbelievable successful journey to have an unbelievable month that all your goals will be achieved and you have to understand that whatever you need didn't do the entire 11 months that's the time to do it the Mishna gives an unbelievable hint it says about a young woman that gets engaged the the term that the Mishnah uses for a young woman that is not married is batula a virgin and it says for a virgin that gets engaged they give her 12 months if you remember in the story when early years I came to take a live car they said okay come back in 12 months to take her and the laser says no no no my master said now so they said okay let's let ask the girl and they colder and she says no I'll go right now but we learned from that the Torah says no you can give her 12 months to get ready so the Mishnah comes and says what is the sign for the month of Elul his Virgo whatever you did not achieve in the last 11 months you can be achieving in this month you didn't show up to Dominion the entire 11 months now make sure that every day you show up to Dominion and it's like it will be retroactive Li like as if you did it the entire 11 months you didn't give charity the last 11 months you start giving it now every day whatever you didn't do for 11 months you can retroactively lis activate it by doing it now needless to say that the more the effort you do right now is basically saying to ashame okay I want to do my Chuba I'm taking on myself it's not easy so I'm gonna be easy to catch up but I want I want to prove to your shrimp says I just want to see the wheel don't worry about the result don't don't get discouraged if you're not able to or you failed I want to see the effort shrim says just put the effort let's see what happens but put effort whether you successful or not that depends on a sham just put a little bit of effort so we want to take advantage of this month and basil ahem if you really open your mind and you you you leave out this door with with something to put to action not the point is not to come here and to get the good food and a few good jokes and the point is to what am i applying tonight when I'm going out of the door what am I taking tonight this video is gonna go online in a day so you can see the rerun and right notes she's smart she's writing notes the point is to apply if you take something and you don't apply it then it's like going to the mall and looking at the windows that's it you want to apply it you want to take something and say okay what am I putting by how we say in Hebrew backless on the table come with the money put the money on the table don't talk big so the point is that you want to leave this door tonight and you're saying okay what am i applying tonight to start paving my way and the reality is and that's the most important message at the Met there's not a joke mushiya is around the corner at any second any second Michelle is coming it's like a a great wonder how is it still not here so there's no time to waste another day in another year or another 10 10 years any second Michelle can come and it's real it's not a an invention that the religious people invented I hear all these theories it's not that's the reality though now in the time machine three thousand four hundred years ago like I told you they were also in Los Angeles was just called me time and if you would tell them then you know soon your Redeemer is coming they would laugh at you even when Moshe Levin who came they laughed at him comes this old man with a beard telling them um I just spoke with a Shem and he told me that I'm your Redeemer and they're like going from here you old man we don't want to hear from you you know how many mushy us I get every day I get about 50 mushy came every week emailing me I'm the one we have to talk it's crucial that we meet we have a whole department for the for the cuckoo's the crew has a good laugh every time an email comes in i'm the anointed one we have to meet on Wednesday at 12 o'clock the funniest thing is that all this mushy FEMA on Facebook I didn't know Michele was hanging out on Facebook he has a page so the reality is but Michele I became even them then they didn't believe him so we have to learn from our history and know that we're gonna get our Moshe Rabbeinu very soon but it also depends on us and we have to prepare ourselves we have to get ready for that this is not a joke this is not like an invention that okay we've been hearing about it for three thousand years so our entire vision of how we look at things have to be completely different we're in a very very auspicious time we're a very special generation can you imagine 3,000 years they're waiting for the redemption and we're the one who's actually gonna see it people don't really understand you know I had a dream I don't share my private things I had a dream last week I have all the time dreams somebody asked me yesterday after we said die we spoke here the near-death experience and you know when I come and share my near-death experience everybody says okay now what you told me is not interesting tell me the juicy stuff tell me they're interesting things so for that you have to wait for the book to come out but people want to hear the the the interesting things tell me something that they don't tell in lectures so there are a lot of juicy stuff by the way but I had a dream last week and in the dream Michelle came and it was unbelievable the excitement you know two weeks ago I mean I came here yesterday I had don't have week break and before that I was in the East Coast on a trip and both Hashem Hashem gave me an unbelievable thoughts and we have a beautiful huge Women's Center in spats and we have a beautiful Learning Center for men for older men and we have so many things going on bawah hashem unbelievable the organization is growing and growing and you know with that comes a lot of financial responsibility so it's a burden to some extent so I was driving in the streets of New York and in the back of my mind thank you I have to worry oh my god you know this lot of money needs to be raised we have to pay for this and the show and the debt and the meals and the debt so I don't let it affect me but it's still sitting in the back of my mind and as I'm driving my eyes something flashing catches my eyes a very interesting number 278 flashing on the Billboard the lottery was two hundred and seventy eight million and I was like wow can you imagine me winning two hundred and seventy eight million dollars you know my name's you she vote I can build you know how many people I can feed you know how much tow how we can spread around the world and that was fantasizing Wow all it takes is one dollar to buy the ticket right you don't need to invest too much and I was like is that a problem for Shem to make sure that my number is the right number I didn't have time even to buy the ticket I didn't buy the ticket but the point is that I was thinking just imagine that you are the one that wins the 278 million whoa should I get the red Ferrari or the black one both and the Lamborghini but in my my nose I just imagine I will be the one just imagine the excitement oh my god I won this 278 million when I had the dream about the Messiah the excitement was like it was two hundred seventy eight billion dollars then it's here you know that my opinion is you know how many people believe mushiya who's coming not three zero because if one person would believe machine is coming then mushiya would have place to come but I did like this cuz all we need is three people that really would believe machine is coming and then Michelle will come nobody believes on a very external way yeah yeah is coming inside nobody really believes it can actually happen nobody really believes that oh my god the world is gonna change it's not a slogan or a sticker can you imagine we have to create the people that will believe that any second you know I live in the north of Israel thirty kilometres from the war every time the Jets are flying if you listen to my videos to my classes sometimes you'll hear the Jets that's how low they fly and when they fly and you barely hear them it's just a patrol but when you hear the Jets flying so low that the walls are shaking you know is action and I'm flying low because they're there they're pretending they're going there's something going on and thirty kilometres from where I live their entire armies of the entire world is fighting there you don't even know what's going on in Syria what they're showing you on CNN and Fox is nothing that's not really what's going on there there's an unbelievable war going on there they entire all the armies of the entire world are surrounding in the Mediterranean in the and all the the countries around Israel there's nothing problem there's gonna be problems with Israel Israel is the most safest place in the world but the reality is exactly like all the prophecies all the armies of the nations are next to it so it says before Michelle is going to come all the nations are gonna gather next to what shall I that's where they are so every time that we see the Jets flying I'm like that's it it's it's it can happen right now any second I get excited most people right okay they're just flying point is to get to the point that I get excited oh my gosh like my little kid that I come with the present you see the excitement you know when I come back from the trip I told you I'm like the hero the number one dad in the world cuz I come with all the suitcases my kids like hyperventilate you know there was the presence if we would be excited like my kids getting presents for the Messiah to come mushiya would already be here and in this dream that's a whole lecture just to explain the dream but it looked so amazing and there there was this unbelievable evolution to the world the world changed in front of our eyes it was unbelievable excitement to see it and to realize oh my god can you imagine when Marshall amino comes to meet slime and and to see with your own eyes the plagues can you imagine such a thing can you imagine just try to miss is not a fairy tale what they say what's going on in mitzraim can you imagine we see that this excitement oh my gosh what we were waiting for so the point is that we have to develop this excitement we have to develop this wow and we can bring the Gullah and that's what we need to do there it all depends on us though depends it's not about what am i gaining now from this world or how much more money am I gonna make what status I'm gonna have I'm gonna have more friends on Facebook or less friends on Facebook who cares about that we have such a a responsibility we have such a strong weight to change everything and one person can change the entire world and the proof to that you know sometimes you see one person walking into a room the entire energy of the room changes because our energy is so powerful some people you know they walk into the room with a very heavy energy the whole room is like it's like the party pooper why why is it sitting here go out from here and sometimes one person walks in and tire place wakes up our energy is so powerful we're like a nuclear reactor of developing energy and that's all it takes one person can change everything and when you understand that you are the one that has such a power then you start applying it and you know that I can affect now the mood in my house you can walk in with a lot of anger because the customers annoyed you and now the whole house is gonna be upset or you can walk in with this unbelievable excitement and all the house is excitement excited my wife always tells me you know when you come in the kids always listen to you how they always listen to you they don't listen to me this is because this is my attitude I don't threaten them I don't scream at them I don't come with like I'm better than you I the energy is completely different so it works on a two-year-old and a four-year-old and a twelve-year-old so it all depends what you're projecting out if you're projecting out a certain energy that's the words how it's going to penetrate everything around you so that's what we need to do the month of Elul is just to say sorry to pray all day long and say I was so bad at the Jimmy's gonna barbecue me in Hill that's not the point of of Ahlul and Lowe's is realizing wait a minute I have an opportunity here to change the world you know that on the first day of this Ray Hashem removes himself from the world and for one day Shem is out is that guy I'm out the world is sustaining on something for one day and depending on us if a Shem wants to come back on are they ashamed ashamed for the last five thousand seven hundred seventy years we somehow convinced him to come back but the reality is that we have the ability to change the code in the first day of Tishrei a number on purpose saying the first day on Tishrei Noto shoshana because a lot of people say that's the beginning of the year the reality is that the first day of Nisan is the beginning of the year not first day of Tishrei it says the washer Sharna in Hebrew it should have sent the latter Sharna the beginning of the year but it says Rosh Hashanah washes ahead means so the head contains everything that's why it's not called halat Hashanah the beginning of the year but the reality is that we're standing in such an auspicious time such a powerful time that if you go out of this door tonight and saying okay then nothing's gonna happen but if you go out from the door tonight and say I'm okay how am i applying something tonight not in three days after the weekend I'm going to wait for Labor Day weekend that's a hell of a long weekend then it's time to do something you say what am i doing today because today I can do a change and today I can apply something to my life that how am I making my stars surrounding a much better place then who's the one who's gonna benefit from it the most me not everybody not the ones that I'm doing the favor to we're so selfish that why should I help you what is it in for me but I don't understand that the more I give that's how I do more I get our sages teaches specifically on the Amanda we only have to increase a lot of charity subconsciously we say wait a minute I'm losing out here if I have a thousand and I'm giving you 900 I'm now in a deficit of 900 I'm only left with a hundred this is not good for me comes our sage and they say when you have a candle and you giving over the light from the first candle to the second candle is candle number one losing light no it's making the second candle have light and actually now candle number one has more light more fire because now he joined with another one candle number one will never lose from its fire so that's the same with me the more that I give my subconscious or my ego will tell me you're losing out don't do it don't be so generous don't be so nice don't be so charitable and care courteous you're losing out but the reality is the complete opposite the more that I give the more stronger I become the more that I give the more I in light everybody around me hypothetically or spiritually I'm creating much more light I'm not losing that's the the the the advice of the eights and I don't give so much keep some for some rainy day so our sages come and saying no specifically on a know when it's time to retrace the light then the more that you give you are empowering yourself much more and the more you're making space for shame to give you more you're increasing the space in your vessel so the end of the day we want to get the unbelievable blessing from the endless amount of will hold a shame has to give us but it all depends on us we have a very big responsibility we have a lot of things that we need to do and one person cannot do it not doesn't depend on one person depends on everybody we can't put our hopes into an one person say you do it that's what people tell me you do it will point you to do it will buy you of an airline ticket and you do it so it's not up to me you can buy me there and ticket if you want but it's not up to me it's up to everybody and the point is not to give orders the point is to initiate and to do so we all have to participate we off to add we all have to do something and rolling it together so masala sham the only thing really that's left now is to wish you an unbelievable success in your journey and to wish you a great sweet happy prosperous healthy successful full of abundance new year there's other shame we're gonna reach to the new year way way after mushiya comes masala sham should come today and if husband ami decides to delay himself and another day or two then it gives us an opportunity to make the world a little bit better and Bazaar the sham in the meantime the more that I give out the more that I get and I have a very spacious time to lay it down we have the walk of shame another 30 days we have to take advantage of every day it's like a diet you miss one day without the mate I wish you to walk out this door with a change in your heart and change in your mind and with a lot of energy to say okay how am i applying a new start a big change without the shame with our effort with all of our effort a shame will bless us to see the coming of mushiya with their own eyes and you all go back to where we belong to a little oil and there's other shame we should merit to celebrate Rosh Hashanah in botanic - masala shame should all have unbelievable success and health and happiness and everything that you do sham will bless you with the unbelievable abundance thank you so much for your patience holder sham now on your way out you're gonna find that little a young beautiful girl thank her she's mine she's not mine she came with me but next to her next to her the CDs take them they're free there's the hundreds of hours of Torah you want to hear more if you don't see these all my lectures are online on Facebook 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we're taking good advantage of technology on your way out please take CDs they're free give them out if you want to support the CD campaign it's supported by donations and another big thing is by met I told you the BOGO Hashem we have a very big hole that we open this beautiful Women's Center Learning Center in Israel now we we opening a big show and now we're praying but we have a problem there on Shabbat and on Monday and Tuesday Thursday we can't pray because we don't have a simple Torah so resolution were writing a safe filter we're hoping to have it really very very soon if you want to participate in the writing of the sefelt others cars outside where you can write your name and you can purchase either a letter or sentence or a chapter or whatever you want to participate in the set fill Torah we're actually getting three it's not one because you need reciprocal I in the show one of them I'm going going to be writing the first essay filled are we going to get then that was always my promise to the colosseo hood is the second that I have my own show and I open the stuff I have my own set of I'll write my own set felt OVA and as the several Torah that's Boeotian I'm gonna be writing it which you can Basava sham take part in it you can write your names anyone who gives us the name like I told you in the beginning I live in a very very special place every Friday before Shabbat I go into the mikveh love Dalia Kadosh and I go all the graves there hundreds of graves there once a month we go to lobby Shimon and maybe may many other graves there you can write me down your name just write it down in a very clear handwriting and not a megillah' I cannot read McGee loads it has to be a name and something short just right left but massage you do whatever it is and believe it I pray for everybody for whatever they need to to be blessed with and if you want to join a old activities that we do you can talk to my daughter or I was out there and needless to say that there's no 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