How to Improve Your Relationship with Anyone - R. Meyer Yedid - TorahAnytime.com

I was in Deal, New Jersey and my flight my son was going to Eretz Israel and he had a flight at 10:50. I don't know why I booked him a crazy flight. Shabbat's over 8:45 and we had to go to Newark and it's the 10:50. But that's what happened. So, right when Shabbat's over, we get into the car me and him and his luggage and we're on our way to Newark Airport, an hour drive. We get there, it's 10:00. So, we're already past the 2-hour international flight, okay? It's 10:00. Okay, but you know, it's happened before. You rush, you go to the front, there's only one person. Worst case, they won't take the luggage. No big deal. So, we go there and usually that time there's nobody in the airport. Just our luck that day there were delays, there was major windstorms and many flights were canceled and everyone's online rebooking their flights, which you know, each person could take about a half hour. And there's four people opened and there's about 20 people online and each one. So, we're waiting online and we're realizing after 5 minutes that there is no way this flight is going to be made. There's no way. So, I have to make hishtadlus. I'm not getting nervous. Baruch Hashem, I'm working on my anger. I don't get nervous. But I have to still do something. So, I see a lady she's not, you know, part of the team that's working on rebooking people. She's just there moving the luggage around. But at that point, anyone can help. I go up to her and I say, "Excuse me, ma'am. My son has a flight to Tel Aviv at 10:50." She tells me, "Great, so you have to wait online." I said, "I know, but it's 10:05 and if I wait online, I'm going to miss the flight." She says, "Sir, that's the rules. You have to wait online." I said, "Thank you very much. Shabbat tov." Okay? Why I said that? She's right. That's the rules. I'm waiting online. And all of a sudden, I'm remembering this class. I'm remembering this idea. I said, "Wait a second. Let me go try this." It's a real story. I'm not even making up even a joke, nothing, zero. I go up to her. I leave my son waiting. I said, "Ma'am, I just want to tell you something. You are unbelievable." I said, "The amount of patience that you have, how you leave everyone in this place happy even in difficult times is amazing. I've never seen anyone like you." I'm telling you, this woman almost passed out. "Thank you so much. I really appreciate it. You don't know." I'm telling you, another 2 minutes she could have proposed to me. She's like It was and I went back to the line. Then I saw one person was about to finish. I went back a minute later. I said, "Ma'am, there's someone finishing now. You mind maybe asking if they would take my son's passport to see?" She says, "Yeah, hold on 1 minute. Let me see what I can and he got on the flight. It's a rule. This is a rule. You give someone a compliment about something that they have, they're going to want to live up to it. Of course, you have to be sincere. And you have to do it in a way that the person really feels that it's true. You can't lie. You can't make things up. But this is a powerful tool in all relationships. Telling people about the bad things they have doesn't make them better. It usually makes them worse. It's a rule. You've just experienced another Torah class brought to you by torahanytime.com.