Ish Ish - R. Meir Simcha Sperling - TorahAnytime.com

All right, a a marriage is the most rewarding thing in the world. A good healthy marriage, unbelievable. It's a life changer, it's a game changer, it's a whole it's a different world, a different life. So, why is she looking elsewhere? What is she exploring? Why is she talking? Why is she looking? What Why? What's the shot? Ish ish. Perhaps that's the shot. That's the root. When a husband over stresses his manhood, his gavra, and he doesn't honor his wife as he's supposed to. He forgets about the after marriage. He forgets about all the different things that he learned when he was dating and he was the love and like of of course I'll open the door for you. And of course I I there's water in the car and there's tissues in the car and there's everything in the car and whatever wherever you want to go, no but I'll drive I'll drive through an ocean for you. What Of course. Of course, for sure. Of course take the umbrella. I don't It doesn't even bother me. I I could it I could be It doesn't matter if I'm wet. You just want umbrellas for you. It's pink. And then all of a sudden he gets married a half a year and you you know, all of a sudden ish ish, where is this? Where is that? And then and then fighting and whatnot, right? This is what happens over here. The matter is told to us also but the matter says that a person has to be lenient. Person has to be soft in their house. And and that's where harmony is, when there's shalom, when there's being mavatir, when there's calm, when there's soft. Don't be so intense. Don't take it so seriously. It's not that complicated. It's not so Sometimes every everything is just everything is just a big thing. Everything is just relax. Take a breath. It's okay. It's one team. You guys are one team. We're supposed to be one team. So, dabril bene yesor viamartalem ish ish, take away one of the ish. Be nice. Be kind. Be calm. The same way you were then, that first interview, you remember? That first interview when you got there, you're like ready to go, like for sure, of course. Sir, your majesty, like your majesty, what what what's happening right now? So, sometimes we have to just uh we have to remember this. We have to honor our our wives, we have to honor our spouses. And to make a a house full of harmony, to have shalom bayit, you just have to be calm. Just like relax and maybe breathe. It's not the end of the world. You're not going to remember this story in 3 months. In 3 years. You know what I'm saying? So, it's just important to uh to remember that ish ish. Now, there's another thing that's connected to this, and this is something that also we all know. I think everything that we're saying today, I think everything we always say.