It's Good - R. Joey Haber - TorahAnytime.com

Let's see if a boy wakes up late. He's supposed to go to shul and now it's been we're not going to Sunday and he wakes up late and you're like there's one reaction is I'm the worst person ever. I can't believe this. I miss the time of I miss the time of I might even miss man. That's it. Hashem is going to give me a horrible day today because I woke up late and I understand that because we really don't want him to wake up late. The other reaction is I woke up late mistake made. I don't want to do it again tomorrow but it doesn't make me off the grit. You have people who sometimes speak. You're not off the grit. If someone spoke disrespectful one time, you're not off the grid. If, let's say, you saw something you shouldn't see, very, very bad. Bad boy, bad girl, very, very bad. But you're not off the grid. And I think there needs to be a place where a person makes a mistake and at the same time realizes they can be okay. Now, here's why it's tricky. Because there's before and after. Before a person makes a mistake, we want them to realize this is terrible. It is terrible to wake up late. It's terrible to see. It's terrible to be disrespectful. It's terrible to see something you really shouldn't see. It's terrible. We want them to know the severity before. We don't want them to think, "Oh, it's show that doesn't matter. I wake up late every day because every minute I'll see everything wrong every single night." No, we don't want them before the story. We want them to know it's serious. But after, I don't want you to beat yourself up. But made a mistake. Let him go back to his father and have the relationship with his father. And that's most important.