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In the early 1900s,
Ready Ysef was looking to get married,
but he had a very big problem. Ysef, as
we know, was a very big,
but he was also very poor. He lived in
abject poverty, crushing poverty. And as
a result, he couldn't find a girl. No
girl wanted to marry him. the girls
wanted to marry boys who came from homes
who had money
and he didn't have that and all his
friends were getting married and he was
left all alone. He was lonely
and finally finally when he was older in
his 20s he met a girl
and they got engaged and in those days
they made a tanoy they wrote aar aar
that says
y is engaged to this and this girl
right before the wedding approximately a
week before the wedding
and this girl to get married we're going
out. They went out and this girl says to
say, "I want to tell you something. I am
ready and I'm willing to support you in
your Torah learning. I'm going to be
your backbone.
But I'm asking you one thing. I also
need time for myself."
Says, "Avada, you need time for
yourself. Of course." So, what does it
mean time for yourself? She says, "I
want to go to the movies. Sometimes I
want to go to the movies. He says
movies. Maza movie. And she starts to
describe to them what a movie is. And in
those days in the early 1900s, you know
what the movie was? Tarzan. It was the
first movie. Tarzan. So she says Tarzan.
He says, "My Tarzan." He says, "It's a
guy flying from tree to tree."
He says, "Okay,
and how long is this?" She says, "An
hour, an hour and a half.
He says,
"What's the purpose? I don't understand
this. It's a waste of time." She says,
"No, my friends go and I go and I want
to do it also. I want to do it with you.
I need it." Ra went home and he thought
about this and he says, "This is not for
me. It's a waste of time." Yay wasn't
concerned about Sne.
That was not the issue in the 1900s, in
the early 1900s of immodesty.
His problem was that he only wanted to
learn Tyra and not sit in a theater and
watch a a movie. And this is what he
wanted.
He spoke to at length and with guidance
they told him, "You need to break the
shak. It's not for you." He was
devastated. He waited so long to find a
girl. He's poor as can be. And how he's
going to find a shak now? A broken
engagement, no money. What are the
chances?
But he knew this wasn't for him. His
told him it's not for him.
He went out with her the next day. He
says, "I want to talk to you. I want to
tell you something. I don't think this
is for us.
I don't think I could support the
lifestyle that you want and therefore
it's not going to be a productive
marriage.
And he left.
She was dejected.
Sad.
So much so that she went to Bezdon
and made a claim against him that he
broke a contract. He broke the tanoy and
he was summoned to Bezdon.
Bezin told him
he's fine. He's clear.
He didn't do anything wrong. One D in
order to revive yourself
in a on his own in a room. He said, "I
want to tell you something. You're
right. You're right. You did nothing
wrong. You owe her nothing. She wanted a
large amount of money for breaking the
tano."
He says, "But she's in such pain, in
such agony. I want to give you advice.
do
for a girl who's in pain and pay her
back the amount of money she's claiming
from you. She says, "But I don't have a
way. I don't have money myself." She
says, "Go clean the base madish buying
and with that money, you'll pay her up
slowly." And that's exactly what you did
for the pain of someone else, the
respect of someone else. Despite the
fact that he didn't have money, he went,
he bounced, cleaned the Bish, made
pennies, paid it back to her, and
relieved himself of the debt that he
owed her, but not really owed her. It
was a pure.
Fast forward 70 years,
Rab married a wonderful woman. Her name
was Rebolit.
and they had a the wonderful family
family with Kam.
70 years later, there's a knock at his
door. He's in his 90s already. He's not
well. He doesn't see visitors anymore.
He has a gabby. And there's a knock at
the door. Who's at the door? The guy,
who's at the door? We know there's no
more cabalis kahal. She's knocking and
knocking. Finally, the guy opens up the
door and sees this older woman hunched
over. Says, "What do you want? What can
I do for you?" He says, "I want to see
the RV." Says, "You can't see the RV.
The RV is weak. The RV is sick. He's not
seeing visitors.
Tell the RV I'm his reisha. I'm his
first girl."
The guy,
which I believe was his son, says,
"What? I didn't hear about this. It
can't be. He went into his father and
says, "There's someone at the door, a
woman claiming she's your Zig Risha
says, call her in. Call her in." She
comes into the office of Reaga
and she says, "Remember me?" Says,
"Yes." And she starts to say her
sorrowful story. She lived a life of
poverty. She married a husband. He died.
She's been alone. She has no money. Ra
Yoseph says to his son, "Take care of
her. Give her from my salary, from my
check, money every month to pay her
rent. Make sure she has food in her
refrigerator and her cupboard until the
day she dies. Not until when I die. She
dies."
The woman says, "That's not why I came.
I didn't come to tell you my sorrowful
story. I came to tell you something
else.
He says, Naz,
she says, I want to tell you how lucky
you are, how fortunate you are, how wise
you are. What do you mean?
I was never able to have children.
I never had a child. Couldn't have a
child.
If you would have stayed with me, you
would never have had a family of
children.
Only because you made the wise decision
did you marry your wonderful rebbitson
and have this amazing family. You are
benched.
Could you imagine
seven decades later?
Reba Yose found out why he had to break
an engagement.
Could you imagine
what he was going through at that time?
How hurtful it was? How painful it was.
But he withtood it. And Hashem showed
him 70 years later that it was really
and truly a braha.
What do we take away from this?
We have to live life forward
and understand it backwards.
Just move on. Maybe one day we'll
understand why certain events had to
happen, why certain doors were closed on
us, and why certain paths in our life
just didn't make sense.
And this is what teaches us. We don't
need to understand the storm.
You just need to uh be faithful inside
this
