Power of Perspective - R. Mordechai Becher - TorahAnytime.com

one of the most effective methods that Martin Seligman and talbencock have found for achieving not necessarily for making you happy but for making you happier there's a difference right but increasing happiness is expressing gratitude on a regular basis to other people expressing gratitude regularly the kusary in his famous safer kuzari right is that not the original but okay in the kuzari he talks about brochus and he says the purpose of brochus is to make you happier he says when a person is about to enjoy a pleasure of the world and for a moment thinks about it contemplates that he couldn't he may not necessarily have this that he's happy that he has her and he has grateful that he has it he says he will enjoy it more that you know people can be in exactly the same physical circumstance one person be happy the other person be sad because one is grateful and the other is an ingrate example example few last year I was upgraded from economy in United to the to the fancy economy so I forgot what they're called premium economies outside aristotral I was overjoyed I was like ah it's a seat like actually with all the incredible incredible engineering abilities of aeronautical Engineers computer-assisted design physics Metallurgy Etc they're still not capable of designing an armrest that tube elbows can use this seems to be beyond the ability of Aeronautical Engineering so but being upgraded to the premium economy oh fantastic gevalding all right so I'm I'm happy and next to me in the seat across the aisle there's a guy who was supposed to get business class and for some he thought for sure he was getting upgrade to visit class and he didn't get and he got downgraded to premium economy so there's me and the other guy both same physical circumstances the same seat we're both on the aisle we're both in premium economy exactly the same he is angry and upset the whole time his flight was terrible I was in a great mood I was like ah this is fantastic I was like right now the only difference was I was grateful because I got upgraded and he was saying I deserve more okay they downgrade unbelievable so so it's not the physical circumstances but it's being grateful for those physical circumstances that is really important and reviewed our lady says the purpose of brochus is ultimately to appreciate and to think what we have