Power or be Mevater - R. Yehoshua Zitron - TorahAnytime.com

There was two partners that were not only partners in business but both their kids married into each other and uh um they had a very very interesting guest. It was a Holocaust survivor. And this guest would come in and would just, you know, like, let's just say he's a very opinionated guest, a very opinionated guy. And he would, and one day one of the the partner's wives, you know, he comes into the house. It was Arab Shabas. Everything was hectic. Everybody was starting to turn upside down. And it came to the point where she was just like going to lose it. She was, she didn't realize the Mavasa part. Yeah. She was just going to lose it on everybody. And then he comes in and he comes in and he's all relaxed. He's really, you know, he looks and he says he says that vase doesn't match the he says you know this thing. He says like and he starts giving your pointers on the decor of the shabas table and she is like rushing barely trying to make shabas. He says what he says I don't care about the I need to like hand. He says do me a favor and she go and she just blows up. She he says do me a favor. He says we'd love to have you. we want to have you just leave the decor to me, you know, leave it, you know, like just stay, but just like keep this to me. And he got very insulted and he got so upset that he got up and he left and he didn't and he didn't return for quite a few months and she felt bad about it and she would go and she would reach out to him, please come back and he's like, no, I'm not interested. A few months go by, finally they make shalom and he comes uh you know and he comes back to to the house and he ended up staying in her house more than the other than the other partner. A few years go by and he gets sick and when he's when he got sick he was full-time in this house this offended house. he was full-time in there and um after you know she waited on him head like everything that he wanted he got like he made sure that she was on the he was on the the top top priority. A few months go by after he got extremely extremely sick and he was and he was nif and uh the you know the the the court you know a few months later goes and reaches out to both the partners says you know there was a taba there was a will and we want you to go and uh you know and and discuss and discuss the will. So they both go into court. This this happened in Israel and the is right now the the money is being held in the in the in the in the court. So they both go into court and um the one of the partners, the one that was not offended, goes up and he says and he and he gives a and he gives the will that that he has. Now just to take a step back for a second, this Holocaust survivor left $7 million, not shekels, $7 million. And he put three wills. One will was both partners should split it 50/50. Then they got into a fight with this offended partner and they decide and he wrote a new will that $7 million is going to go to the unoffended partner and the one that that offended him is only going to get $1,000. Then they made up and then they made a third will and that third will is that it's going back to 50/50. So the offended party is over there and the non-offended party let's call them is over there. The non-offended party goes and presents the will and which will he present? This is the will that he gets $7 million and the other party gets only $1,000. And this guy is sitting over there, defended party in his pocket. He has a will that says that it's a laterdated will that he is supposed to get 50/50. And then he's about to pull it out of his pocket and then he thinks, "Wait a minute, our children are married." He says, "What's going to happen? You know, our children are going to go, you know, we're going to get into a feud. We're going to go into court and then the children are going to get into a feud. It's like, is it worth it? Is it not worth it?" He decided he's going to hold off and the other the unoffended party goes brings it to the to the court and he says, "Okay, looks like you get $7 million, you get $1,000." No one said anything and they closed they close the case. After they close the case, he goes over to Ra Ravner, uh, the author of the Shvi, and he says, "I don't know what to do." He says, "It's my I have, you know, a will that says I'm supposed to be getting $3.5 million. Not only is it my mud, but he's also my business partner. Should I do it? Should I not do it? What am I allowed to do? what am I not allowed to do? He says, you know, I want to do something with a, you know, with a straight head. So, RaZ says, listen, he says, you shouldn't go to court. Don't go to court, but bezdon, you're allowed to take him. So, this is thinking, he says, okay, bezon, I'm allowed to take him. Okay, maybe I'll take him to Bezon. He's thinking back and forth. As he's thinking, he thinks Rabos and he starts leaving it. Then he's thinking, he says, "Wait a minute." He says, like, "Should I take him to be? Should I not take it to Bezon? What's the ramifications that's going to have?" And Rabner like as if he's reading his mind he goes and he runs over to the door and he says even though I told you that you could take him to you could take him to beddin you should know that pays people that are people that are just forgive and forget he pays them in this world he says do what you want I want to just give you that bit of information he says thank you very much he goes home he takes out the sec the third will he rips it up he says I have no interest in doing that anymore I don't I'm not I'm not taking it to court and he says over the stories it says Six weeks go by, he was not he was involved in other businesses. Says not only with his partner. Six weeks go by and he made tenfold amount of of money that he would have made from the from the three and a half million. Right? So you talk about he made $35 million over $35 million in a period of 6 weeks. 20 years go by. This is a this is he was an American businessman. 20 years go by and he meets Ravisnner in Montreal and he didn't mention anything to Ravazer and Ravazer walks over to him. He says no. Didn't I tell you it pays to uh to be to be maturator on it? And this is the power of being mater. And now sometimes you could go and be like, "Oh, I was mater my my my where's my 35 $35 million and you know like there's a few different angles that we have to really understand this. There's levels that we have to know of where we're going." Right? So someone offended you. So you could say, "Okay, you know what? I'm a vat." But every time you see that person it's acid reflux start starts you know like you know like so why are you mvate why are you not mvate like you know like you're offended you're not meaning that there's there's levels of where it takes you there's levels of what it you know what's the ramifications from it I found this is one of the better uh you know the options to be able to be a doctor is that when someone goes and offends you and hurts you and you really want to you really want to let it go what I what I would recommend Ding for the other.