Tough Lessons - R. Yerachmiel Milstein - TorahAnytime.com

Tell you a story. Many years ago, I went, I was in Yerushalayim, invited to eat by the house of one of the Akiva Yerushalayim. Not going to say who it was because the story is a little But from the Khash of the Yerushalayim, one of these Yidden who has a sparkling face, he's extremely well known. People go to him for brochos, shiyurim, whatever it was. I had a shtickel of friendship with him for a number of years. And he when he heard that my wife and I were were in Yerushalayim for Shabbos, and he invited us to eat by him Friday night. Come in that Friday night, baruch Hashem, he had a house, I don't know how many kids and and and married kids or whatever. I remember it was a boiling hot night, it was in summertime. Boiling hot night. And there must have been, I don't know, 35 candles on the table on top of everything. And I'm sitting there like shvitzing, and he's there wearing the shtreimel and his, you know, his his his Yerushalayim Yerushalayim you know, begadim. And he's not not a not a bead of sweat. Like, you know, I I I still don't understand how to figure it out. All right. At the end of the meal, he asked if he could walk us back to our hotel room. I thought it was very strange. Why does he want to walk back to the hotel room? But, you know, he asked, so we do. Now, I'm walking with my wife, you know, so I thought it would be not Usually, you know, that Yerushalayim, you don't see them walking in with their own wives. Like, you know, like So, we walk Okay, but he he insisted on doing it. As we're walking, he says, "Reb Reb Yisrael, I just want to tell you I I I I need to talk to somebody." I said, "Okay." I said, "What is it?" He said, "You know, you know that I'm like the champion of the Agunahs. If there's a woman who doesn't get a get, I fly around the world helping them get gittin." He did. "And you know that I'm very very involved in shalom bayis. I put couples together and do all that." I said, "Okay." He says, "I can't understand it. My own son is getting divorced now." And I said, "What?" Like, "What is it?" He said, "I I I just wanted to talk to somebody. You know, to to get Who am I supposed to talk to? Everybody comes to me. So, who am I supposed to talk to? You're a friend of mine." So, I said, "No, I I said that." And I didn't say a word. And as we're walking, he looks to me and says, "I got it. I've been thinking to myself like I'm the master of shalom bayis, that I do so much good. I fly around the world and help the shalom bayis. Hashem tells me, you think you have a sensitivity for it? Come, let me show you how it really feels. And then, boy, will you have a sensitivity for it. So, did his son get divorced? He should have a bigger sensitivity. Of course not. >> [laughter] >> Kudsha Brichu is the ultimate multitasker. Everything's going on at the same time. But, not to learn from it. That's a crime. Everything that happens, everything we go through in life, it's a lesson Kudsha Brichu is teaching us. It's a lesson. And the