Hanukkah: Then & Now - Is The War Even Over?

[clears throat] Two years ago, Topshin paid dalid in Kaneka time there were many speakers speaking including myself many people were speaking different uh ideas but I think the focus of everybody was on the war as we're quite familiar with that the war was in its uh heavy stages casualties were being uh held on a constant basis I think we're quite familiar with unfortunately what was happening. We still don't know what was going to happen with the hostages and [clears throat] we were being held on six fronts. What was occurring at the time? It was very scary uh situation. Everybody was in a tremendous great fear and here we are two years later. We are now standing in Kaneka time at the same time. Two years later and guess what? Subjects have changed. It's incredible what happened. We look behind us and we see that Aza is completely in shambles including the Rashim that are still that are there that are still running around like headless people trying to still hold up themselves. Sura is completely upside down which was incredible incredible dangerous and our greatest threat. We find that they're completely dysfunctional presently and of course Iran was uh we went straight to the juggler. We got rid of them. We went to the source of their hearts and were able to get rid of their nuclear bomb in the meantime at least upon him. That's uh something that we've seen pass by us over these past few years compared to where we were a couple years ago. We think we go is incredible. We finally were waiting for this moment to be able to come when it seems to be that our enemies are maybe behind us or a little bit or something. We're waiting for the heralding of Msiah to come in at this time period and it hasn't happened. At least not yet. This whole entire 12-day war that occurred during the time of Iran was was an open miracle. No question has it. We had no doubts that finally was going to end in Msiah, but instead it ended with Trump. That's basically what it ended with. seems a little bit strange, unusual and if I could say even a little bit uh annoying type of feeling that we have that what do we do this or what are we supposed to take from this whole experience here we are kaneka again the time of mil the time of battles [clears throat] and uh like I said we are back to usual back to schedule as usual I think everyone's back to life as usual and the question is what we're supposed to do with our situation that we're dealing with at this stage and what it means or why this happens to So, first of all, if you look in Jewish history in general, we find in general that that's something that just seems to keep happening. We think that we're almost at the finish line. We always think we're almost done. Just this and now it's going to be different. And it doesn't necessarily always happen. We've gone through many pgrams, many inquisitions, many holocausts. We were thrown out of Spain. We had a mdash happen a couple times to us. We were thrown into a very serious holocaust where we lost six million people. We finally came to Israel. This is it. We're here. We finally have reached he got and it's going to be quiet. Things are going to be still as they say still. Things are going to be okay. And suddenly we find well not exactly things are still upside down. Things are still unsure. We still don't know what's going to they're already talking about the fact that these are the Iranians already have everything back to what they lost in the past. all the bombs that we blew up already are back to toko. They're already back to the situation that they were before. And it makes you a little bit like wonder where do we go from here? Where are we supposed to learn from here? Where do we take this idea? We were waiting just to wipe them out like a malik and suddenly everything's back to normal and they say what in a number of years, 10 years, 15 years, whatever it takes, but who cares in the number of years? Does it ever come to an end? Are we ever going to find some type of closure? We know the idea that are way above us and we can't know anything of his obviously we're never going to know but at least we have to come to a slight understanding which I've seen based on many different farmer understandings and we be able to try to understand how we can relate to what happened and how it relates to Kaneka also and the [clears throat] is basically like this no we don't maybe reach the finish line. Maybe it's true that we don't actually get to the place that we've always wanted to come to. But there's a reason for it because we always have to remember we always have to know keep in our minds and sometimes it's good and sometimes not that we are always under the opaces of if you reach a status of perfection of bliss of comfortness if a person's completely uncovered never has to worry about anything sort of speak. So in such a situation, you are, if I could say, a godless creature. You don't really have someone to turn to. You're not focusing on a bar like you're supposed to be doing. And therefore, au does us, if I could say, a favor. And he sometimes does things that makes it difficult. Yes. Difficult to live in this country. Maybe it's difficult to live in Gulut or whatever we are. But he does that on purpose to constantly keep our priorities straight to keep us in check to keep us reminded that we are under the wings of that we're always underneath his place. It's very interesting where Mosh Shapiro points this out. He says that we know that in Mitim and this is really what we were complaining about in the midbar in Mit the Nile came up all the time on a consistent basis. They never needed rain and they never had rain because they never had to bother with it. We weren't worried about rain because it was constantly the Nile comes and takes care of them on a consistent basis [clears throat] and that's really what we were complaining in the midbar. We wanted a place of dugim and and mumim and everything was good over there because over there things were easy. You didn't have to worry about things and there's Israel. It's a different facet. The way the dynamics works quite differently as we're familiar with we worry day to day. This this week we had a mul over here but anyways we worry dayto day about how much rain we're going to get here. Where is it going to happen? The kerat is sinking. The y and the yama is already they said too low and the kerat is not replaceable. And you always hear these types of fears that things are not so simple about the place of rain. And the answer is why is it better to be here? It sounds like maybe Egypt's more of a place of desire. But the answer is no. a place. On the contrary, when things are questionable, when we need to ask for rain, when things are always unprecedented, we're not sure. We don't always know what's going to happen tomorrow. Suddenly over there, you're thinking about a suddenly over there, you have something to do about. Suddenly over there, you don't lose your relationship with the with the one you're supposed to be keeping a relationship with. That is the idea of Israel. That's what's so beautiful about this country that even if you want to tell me we're not as worried about rain these days, but we always know nothing's ever sure here, right? You're never sure for it here. That's why people don't want to move here. Maybe I'm speaking into a camera here. We might might get to America over there. People are afraid to people discouraged sometimes coming here. But the truth is kind of wants that situation. He's looking for it because when things are not positive, when you're not sure what's going to happen, then you know where to where the address is. I when things are just content, when things are okay, people who you know kind of wake up and don't have so many problems to actually worry about in the end of the day, they don't end up focusing on as much as they can. So, if I could say when we talk about the idea of Msiah, Mashiach we just think is like this big boom boom. AH, MASHIAH IS HERE. WOW. YAY. WOO! All the pom pom comes out. We're so excited, right? That's not what Msiah is. We set the scene for Msiah to come. We're in charge of organizing and making it that Mashiach should be here. Cuz what is Mashiach about? What does it mean when he comes here besides some guy walking on a donkey and coming in and saying, "Yay!" and everybody's over. No, it's a lot more than that. It's a complete recognition of that's it. Hashem, an absod, no one else is here. Only is here. He's the one taking care of us and we know that he's there. So our is to get to that stage to make our lives daytoday recognizing in every individual decision that I make before I decide or when I'm going through a certain issue to realize that is there when we decide where to put our children when we decide the smaller things in life you know about what I'm supposed to do today or what I should do what kind of jobs I should be taking etc we have to decide that hashemic always doing it together with the ribbon who's walking hand in hand together with me. When we do that, so automatically Msiah is there because you brought him here. He's already he's already there. When you're going through a war and you just see Yadashem on a day-to-day basis instead of denying his existence and just saying how impressive we are, strong we are, etc. So by doing that, you are automatically bringing him, you're setting the scene for for Mashiah to come and to be together with us. We automatically get there. There's a Mishna that many people like to quote in it's at the end of the of and over there it talks about all the things that will happen in the time of the mash and it's a number of things that are not so simple people losing job people losing money everything that basically AI is taking care of for us right we know that AI is already setting all the things of it's going to take care of all the problems that are meant to be said in right before but what's funny is that Mishna ends after giving all the things that will occur at that time period. It says, so it sounds like these like, you know, this rhetorical words. Oh, and don't worry about it. It's going to be okay. Don't worry. I know it doesn't sound so simple. I know we're scared, but it's going to be fine. No, they're saying that's what means once once we put our address and our focus in one direction, you just brought Mashiach. There he is. He's in front of you in your world. He's there. and hopefully it will spread to everybody else's world also. You brought him into a place where that's that's that's really what it's all about. Real gula, the real success, the real gula comes when we put and address everything completely to okay and that is a little bit of the lesson that we've been learning in the past two years during this uh during this war to realize no I I'm afraid to say but we're not going to get to a finish line. Yes, surprise surprise. We're not going to get to that place where oh everything's good now. You can live here quietly. there's no problems. Everyone go just back to work as usual. No, it's not going to happen that way because it can't happen that way because we need something to always keep us on our toes. That's how we're able to um to survive. [clears throat] There's a we know that we say an alanim and listen to this line. Beautiful idea and this really brings out the idea that I want to bring out the shir. Of course we know we say in when we dive in we spoke about the fact that we were weak and we still succeeded we even though we were the we were the minimal number and we were the and the and we weren't successful still we were the ones who were on top now the questions like this and this is what the already ask the first two are not the same as the last three first we speak about the fact that we were weak, but even so, even though we were weak, wow, what a miracle. We were able to get to the we were be beat up the strong ones. We were small at the biggest amount that we were was maybe maybe 6,000. Some people say it was just the family of the Kashman. According if you look at the history books, it was approximately 5 to 6,000 our army and they were over 50. They were about 50 60,000 of yanim completely in with elephants and horses and everything like that. and we're able to succeed. And then the so that all makes sense that even though we were in such a bad spot, we were able to succeed. But then so what's it connected to the next part which talks about the fact that we were we were and that's not talking about that even though we were so small that's a totally different scenario. That's just speaking about the fact that because we were sadikim so therefore we won. So that one of the answers that I saw and this really brings out the message that I want to bring out today is that the reason that we won when we were sadik and we understand because we're sadikim but the first two is the same thing. What does it mean we were we were we were small or we were weak because we were weak and small we knew that there's no chance we would win. It was a 100% suicidal mission. What is Matahu doing? What does he think he's doing? He's not going to win. You're not allowed to kill yourself, right? You can't go and attack right now. I'm going to go ahead and attack the whole entire Russian army. It doesn't make so much sense to do that. How was he allowed to do that? He was he was how was he able to do that? Because since his focus was so much on understanding that I am completely connected to and only to realize that it's nothing to do with me. So that's why they were able to be successful. Meaning just like we understand that is able to win the Russia because he's a sad. So too by me being myself when I make myself understanding that I'm an this is it I my full address my whole position is only because I realize Hashem can do it. So too that was the reason why they succeeded not even though they were small they wanted because they were small because they were small and they didn't focus on their strengths. It wasn't because of our incredible intelligence or those those fantastic planes that we have or the M16s or the tanks or anything like that. It has to do with the fact that I'm a May myself and then you don't have any casualties and then you can actually be somewhat successful. The more we focus on ourselves, the more we took what we just suffered these past two years, the amount of casualties that we have to that we had to suffer. So it ended up coming from the same position. Kaneka is one of the most if I could say from all the holidays, one of the holidays that are the most taken as aut as a mistake. It's so funny what uh how out of place it is the the the the holiday what it's about because in essence what the whole idea of Khan was about is not about a bunch of you know something that was a big and we ended up winning oh we end up winning like now yeah oh we ended up winning no it was a battle of philosophy it was a battle of a certain understanding of course as we are familiar the Greeks were very focused on the physical body on strength on endurance and beauty. Everything that they had focused on the idea of self, of my personal capabilities, of what I am about. That's what their whole focus was on on how how the external capabilities and external uh physical way of survival. You understand? And that's what their main focus was all about. That's what they cared about much more than anything else. The whole idea of the kashim was to counteract that. The idea that we're mentioning now of an of understanding that is the one that fights our fights to understand that I'm in a place that everything's fine because I know I'm in the right hands. I'm in the hands of he's the one taking care of us. That's what the the battle was a battle of philosophy, not of strength and not of intelligence or anything like that. It had to do with a certain idea that we were coming to counteracts. What do they do? They call themselves makabe. Who is like you from the great Hashem? Right. What are they coming to counteract the idea of the battle of my my my strength of gladiators of sports of trying to be as strong as I want. Anyone who look unfortunately I come from America and um I don't mean unfortunately I come from America. I meant unfortunately from the background I came from in America. I actually when I was a child had to learn mythology. Mythology is all about Greek philosophy and had to do all about the different gods of the completely idiotic things. And you're sitting here reading this and saying they really believe this garbage? Like it's unbelievable that they actually uh fill for this. But the idea behind it was it was worshiping the the physical body, the strength of the body or the idea of of um of beauty, everything like that. It was just a worshshiping everything that was external and nothing internal. Their idols all focused on the external. They went and they forgot about the inside and they went ahead and went with the kipa with the peel that was around it. Anything that you can't see doesn't exist. Are we familiar with such a thing? Maybe maybe we learn in a scientific world that teaches such an idea. What's the word? You hear the word in English? Nonsense. What does it mean nonsense? Well, if I can't have a sense of it, I guess it's nonsense. Anything that my senses can't touch obviously don't agree. Don't don't exist. We have an expression seeing is believing. If I see it, then I can fall for it. meaning if I don't see it then it's not something that I'm really willing to go ahead and connect to. That was really the epitome of what all their was all about. Who are the real leaders when we grow up in the western world? Who are the people that everybody worships? Who are the people that they care about? The superstars or the the the the people who are dealing in in show business and all these things. You know what they're referred to in English? They're referred to as idols. He's my idol. Right? Isn't that an idol? That's a photo. An idol means in English meaning everything that it comes down to is really Greek mythology at its best in our time that we're much very focused on everything that has to do with the focus of sports and the and the and and the body and the capability athletics being able to be as successful as you can facing on the externals. That was what Greek was all about. [gasps] It was the hashbah of forgetting about something pimi something internal and focusing on something that was much more external something like we say that was really what the idea of the of the Greeks is and this is what they were coming to battle against the when they were coming to battle against this idea they were coming with the name I know that I can't do this by myself it's only and that was the battle that was going on on Kaneka you understand that's what it that's exactly what the epitome was what's so funny what's so ironic why I say this holiday I'm saying everybody you know even they celebrate pes certain extent sukas okay they'll put on their balcony even though there's another balcony on top of them but at least you know put something make ourselves feel kind of connected everyone has the mitzvah getting drunk they make sure to keep that but I'm saying what is something so ironic because taken is the battle Battle of the giants. We see it and is seen by the non-religious as one of might, of one of strength, of one of conquering. And how do I see this? When you go ahead and think about the sports teams that exist here in Israel, you know what they're called? Makabe. I find it so humorous. Why doesn't someone make a big joke out about this? Exactly what we said, Mika Mo. And really, really, the reason why they call it Makabe is because it stands for Mikl Yehudi. Who here really is Jewish? Have you ever seen these sports teams? The basketball team? I was on an airplane once flying back to America and I was sitting next to a very large, tall, I'll say American American uh I could tell, right? I could tell very uh very much like that. He didn't look very Jewish, but whatever. He started talking to me, so I started talking to him and this and that. And I found out why are you here? And he wasn't Jewish. Why was he here? I was here because he said I couldn't make it in the NBA. So he moved to the Makabe team. They recruited him. Very nice. They said, "Are you Jewish?" He goes, "No, why do you have to be Jewish? Most of my team is not Jewish. How are you representing an Israeli team when you're doing this?" So it makes sense the Makabe name. What I'm pointing out is the irony of the idea that they go ahead and assume and love and look up to the Makabim as ones who are of great strength when that's exactly what they were battling against. That's exactly what we were trying to fight against. And they ended up going ahead and taking it to the other perspective. The focusing on myself and it's unfortunately the mistakes that occur in this uh country and what has come about. There was once a basketball they I heard they do this every Kaneka. I don't know if they still do this but there was once a basketball tournament between one of the Makabe teams. I don't know. And they on purpose they do it. I heard at first I thought it was not on purpose, but I heard they do it every Kaneka. They play against a basketball team in Greece. They play the Greek basketball team. They also have a Greek the Greeks play that and there's an Israeli basketball team that plays against the Greek basketball team and it's always during Kaneka. I don't it's you have to go check on you can check on if it happens again. I don't know if it keeps going. Anyways, so this game it goes back around 20 years ago was a very close game. It was go third fourth quarter. Then Mamish to the minutes back and forth. The team was very close and then Mamesh on the buzzer in the last minute. Someone just throws the ball a half a half half court shot for Miller and it went in a Jew the Makabe. It went in and it went in and he succeeded and with that basket he won the game. The game succeeded. on the spot, someone from the crowd got up and he started and he and he screamed out loud and the whole entire crowd started singing Alan. True story. Believe it or not, just [snorts] to show you the mentality of where they are coming from, the amount that they are going and and lighting their candles has something to do with something very external with all the idols that we're familiar with. Focusing on of yan, instead of understanding and going ahead and realizing what we're really lighting, we're bringing out the light of the nama within a person, we go ahead and take a of darkness when things are not clear. It was right before the galut right before we're about to go into the mikdash and we light a candle to say in these dark times that is going to find our mitzvah theor because we know the power of the n is similar to and that's really the of of what we are discussing [clears throat] another similar idea I'm just saying based on this and unfortunately we're surrounded by and I'm just trying to clarify is also do you know that they have a a holiday that they call Yashawa, not a holiday, a day that they call Yashawa, the day of the Holocaust. We also have a yashawa, by the way, just in case you don't know, a day that we commemorate the Holocaust. It's known as tishov. We actually fast. We take off our shoes. We sit on the floor. We commemorate it like a little bit more in a Jewish way than just staying for a minute of quiet. Similar to what the go do on September 11th. Anyways, so this day of Yamasha, do you know what day they decided to pick that it should be the day of Yashawa? It's a day of the Warsa uprising or the Warsaw uprising. What are they trying to say? They're trying to say, "Oh, one day out of these five treacherous years that we went, someone did something instead of going as we say, at least someone fought back." In other words, like again we the focus is a lot about how much we should be doing, how much you have to fight and how much our strength and forgetting what the essence of the is. This is the most forgotten like I said in the past that it's just something that if we were focusing on so much the wrong place we have to take this to take it to a place of to realizing the incredible that we saw the past two years and then we saw during the of Kaneka that took us to the right place. If the of Kaneka was about a a victory, if it was a war that we won, then it's a pretty big bummer because it lasted about 150 years. All the didn't survive in the end at the end. I mean, they survived the war. The next generation, the next few generations, they didn't continue their lineage, the after 150 years, there was a mikdash. What's the commemorate? What exactly are you trying to celebrate? The answer is that's not what we're focusing on. It was a continuation of philosophy. We're about to go into a different era, an era of the mikdash and we have to go ahead and keep our minds straight. You will not survive surrounded by all these and teaching you western philosophy until you know that there's something to find something behind the curtain to look deeper than what meets the eye to realize that in every action everything that happens in my life is a yes it's not simple what I'm going through right now. I realize I'm going through a difficult time in my parnasa but I realize it's coming and I put my complete trust in him. When you put your complete trust in him then makes it works out. He actually takes it the right direction. I'm going to tell you a which not everybody knows and from this you'll find a tremendous lesson that we're learning right now. Okay. It's a in your day. So listen to the the is first of all you should know some of these are going to be difficult to keep but you should know first of all when someone comes collecting if it's a person who's really ani not a faker then you really have to give them money if you have money you're supposed to give him money that's first of all second of all and wait till the end before I just hear the punch line first the is it's brought it's a says that also if a person was used to a higher level of living meaning the guy lost all his money and he needs to recuperate and get back to what he was used to he had help in his house or he had a certain type of household style. So you have to get him back to that stage even using stuck on money. Okay, like I said, wait till the end before anyone goes ballistic on you. Okay, but officially that's the you're supposed to take care of a person. Now, at the same time, we find that I think when most people come to your door, I would reckon to say that people you don't slip them 500 500 shekels or a thund or write them a check, right? That's my guess. At least I'm married to Israel, so I think most of us are not doing that. So the question is why not? How do you get away with giving him a 10 or a 20 or a five or one? How do you get away with giving him such a small amount of money? I just got finished telling you that when he needs money, you're supposed to get him back to the situation that he was before. So you know what the answer is? The Gumar says, and it's brought down like this, there's a difference between two types of people. If there's a person who's he goes doortodoor, you're not obligated to give him the full amount that he is required. Don't worry, he's going to your door. He's going to your neighbor. He's going to a few buildings, a few cities. He'll manage to get together the money that he needs. He'll be okay. as opposed to [clears throat] as opposed to if you have someone who will never go doortodoor. Let's say lenu it's a relative of yours who lost a lot of money. He was a very wealthy person and he lost it. He will I will he will never stuck on a door in his life. It's not for me and it's just not becoming of me and you're his relative and you're the only one who knows and it's embarrassing for him. your situation. Yes, in such a situation, you're supposed to help him out as much as you can. And really, a strong amount of your micer money is meant to go to that person. First of all, he's a relative. And second of all, he doesn't know how to go doortodoor. You're the only address. You're his only place to turn if if this person relative isn't very wealthy. So, he's really supposed to help him out. Get him back on his feet and then some and even more. You follow? You hear the difference? A person who's going doortodoor depends on everybody to help him. So you're not obligated to overdo it. Give him, you have to help him because if no one doesn't, he's not going to get anywhere. You have to help him. But as opposed to if the only address that he has is you, the only place he's going to go is going to be through you. So then you should know that you should be the one who actually gives him what he needs, all he needs. This is the description of what we're discussing today of if we go to as a guy knocking on a door and saying well I need help from my boss and I'm going to need help from the doctor or I need help in my situation with because I don't know what's going to happen. I don't know how I'm going to marry off my daughter. So I'm going to call 15 and sometimes you need to. I'm not saying not to necessarily, but maybe I'll overbound my boundaries in a place where I don't need to and panicking and anxieties and worries and I got it. I'm with you. I understand the problems. I'm not trying to downplay anyone who's going through any of this these things. Or a person's busy always wondering about taking 16 extra things in order to be able to be able to compensate for a situation. So you're kind of talking to a and you're ding also. You're talking to Hashem, but you're also talking in other directions. Real is realizing, and this is a hard step, and I realize, but I want us to know where we're getting to. And this is the mitzvah of this is the what the is that I have no chance of winning. We're 5,000. They're 50. How am I going to win? I'm completely I don't know how I'm going to make it. I know I'm in your now, you have to do. We're going to speak about in a minute. I'm going to talk about that. I'm not saying not but real understanding of no gives you that success because you're that relative that knows this is my only address. I'm not going knocking at doors. I'm not looking anywhere else. You understand what the Allah is telling me? I I can't knock at doors. I can only go to one address. My relative, my rich relative upstairs, he's the one who can take care of me if he does that. So, he's obligated to take care of you. Now, he's got a to take care of you. He's obligated to put you back in the place that you were. He's obligated to put you in that place. You follow? That's everyone. You understand right? You got you got the direction here. That's where we're aiming at the idea of to get to such a stage that of a complete where I know it's only coming through uh through him. [snorts] Listen to this story and I love this. This you could use it as a mush. And it's a quasi story but I and by me this brings out the understanding between and this will answer all our questions where this will get to the next stage and finish the okay I want to express to you how we understand I'm telling you I have complete I know he's going to take care of me and I know it's fine and he'll be there it's like a r of mine one time said to me he said you know he I think it was 12 children and he said to me if it was like a little bit in my hands to figure out how I'm going to marry off all my daughters in terms of the amount of money and all that type of stuff, how to figure it out. So then I'd be worried. But he says I'm not worried anymore because it's totally not my hands. Like he has no idea what's going to happen. It was way above me. So he says it's fine. So now I know that I'm completely beyond. So listen to this mush because I think this brings out beautiful. There's a phenomenon and it seems to happen here in Israel. I don't think it happens in America. Correct me if I'm wrong, but it happens over here very often and I don't know why but you have sometimes a bird fly into your house. Has this ever happened to anyone over here? It happened by us. I don't know. We have a muresset and we you open the door the masses door the door and a lot of times a bird comes and lands in your living room somehow, right? It happens. It happens to many people. Okay, so here we have it that a bird is landing there. So what happens? So the woman jumps on the couch and she's screaming and running to do and trying to sweep her to get a broom and to screaming to her husband to try to get me and save me from this dire situation. We're in a very bad situation there. Okay. How do we get this guy out of here? So then what happens? So the husband with his, you know, with his big muscles and his sort of self-confidence comes in and says he'll take care of the situation. No problem. He comes in and he kind of tries to start, you know, the bird sees him. get scared of the of the guy and he goes and he takes off to be able to ship himself out and get out the front door, get out the door of the miret that's coming and he takes to his wings and he flies boom and he smacks right into the glass door. The door is closed now. That's a real bummer cuz he can't get there cuz then he flies into the house, right? That's it's a tough one, I know. But anyway, so you go and he flies and he goes and he flies as fast as he can. Boom. And he gets dazed and hits the uh the glass door and he falls down and starts walking back. He starts walking back away. Suddenly the husband is amused by the whole situation. Wow, this is really cool because he sees that the bird is about to take off again and do the same thing. And he flies and maneuvers and he goes to the other door, the other the other glass door and he flies and boom, he hits again. You know, the stars are flighting around his head over here. He's already hit heavy by the um by the glass door that's coming and he's going back and he's trying to recuperate this bird. He's got to get out of here 5 10 minutes. He's going to recuperate. is going to fly again. At this stage, the man is already feeling he feels bad for this bird. It's not nice. I feel bad for him for the situation. [clears throat] So, what does he do? Without the bird noticing, he's behind the couch still running away from this guy. He opens the door. He opens the door out of he opens the door. In the meantime, he and he walks away to the side. The bird comes back. The bird comes back and he's ready to take off again. He's going to this time he's going to do it. He gets up and he flies three times faster with as much speed as he can getting takeoff and boom and he flies right out the door and disappears into the west. You're wondering what are you talking about, Rabbi? Right. What is this whole story? Okay, very nice. Listen to the in this story. This is incredible. This whole entire story. First the guy is sitting there on the side and thinking what a stupid bird. He's got a bird brain, right? That's why it's called that. What? How do what is he thinking? He probably got free because he thinks that I ended up flying so fast that I was able to get out beforehand. It wasn't fast enough. It wasn't fast enough. Oh, I finally got myself and I was able to get out. So, at first he thinks, "Wow, I guess that's how it is with a person tries and tries, but in the end of the day just he opens the doors and does it is the one who does everything and we really do nothing." But then he took another step and this is a deeper step and this is a very true step and by me this was a clincher to understand this difference. He said one second that's not true. The truth is if the guy didn't go and smash his head once and twice maybe even three times I would have never opened the door. I would have went to lunch. I would have stayed home. My wife wouldn't have screamed at me. I would have never would have been busy. It's because he went and boomed and he did it again and again that I decided to open the door and that's how he was able to get out. And that's how he was able to get out. Do you see the here? Yes, we do. Yes, we try and we try and we try again. And in the end of the day, it's a does it all. We do nothing. I know that it's but it's because we put in so much effort that in the end of the day, Hashem opens the door. The door would have never gotten open if we didn't bother doing these. But at the end of the day, we always have to realize to realize that it was only because of the that came from what happens is after the fact, we're able to look in retrospect and see theem about everything that happened and that is really the assort of what I said this difference in philosophies understanding the difference when we focus on the power of [clears throat] focusing and knowing anal where to focus on That's the way it's supposed to be when we're in the middle of the when we're busy trying to work on a we try and yes we have to call the when we have the problem which is the parnasa so I have to do what I can in order to be able to take care of the parnas but in the end of the day realize that whatever came out Hashem was the one who opened the door it came completely from when you realize after the fact the next step was from him so then you won't end up having um the you will you'll be in a place of absolute tranquility because you know that is the one doing this. This is a fantastic thing when it comes to marriage. When it comes to marriage because in shidukim we try and we try again and again and you try to find that right person. You try that and then you get married and then when you get married then things change a little bit. Suddenly you realize that hm maybe I don't know anxieties questions angers why should I have what did I make the right decisions? all the questions start popping up that you never thought about beforehand but I tried so hard you were working on the you thought to me but that's exactly the someone sent a letter to someone sent a letter to Kany and he said that they he thought it was going very well it was there was a number of dates I don't know how many he was positive it was going and then they stopped and he said should I push should I push the family just called and said don't call anymore and it's very very disappointing to get such a And said and I heard the same thing. They've both said the same thing. You don't push a in the end of the day who's the one who mean what that means is during the you try your best. You got to be on your best behavior. You got to do what you need to do and you got to pick according to the appropriate thing. But when it's over and you look in retrospect, so you realize, oh, it was me. It's not a problem. I had a buck that I know that he was going back and forth. He had a suffic three or four dates with a certain person and it was a good shik to have but he was massup back and forth and then she said no and then she ended up saying no. So when he found out, you know, the parents were afraid to tell Mosh. He said, "No, he wasn't sure. It was there was a lot of good reasons to go to get married to this person and they were afraid to say it." And he was so happy. He was over the moon. You know, he was over the moon. He said, "Look, I wasn't sure. But now spoke to me. He felt he got prophecy." That was the word he said. He got straight. He now knows that this was not the right one. It was he was so happy about it. Maybe when it's so I have to make a decision. I have to know the right direction. But it's such a feeling of being in absolute serenity, tranquility, and peace when a person knows that is the one walking me from place to place. When he's the one making the decisions, I have to do my my try. But in the end of the day, I know that is the one opening the door. Wherever he takes me, that's where I'm supposed to be. That is exactly where I'm supposed to be. Not more and not less. But Mosha finds him coming to I'm basically finishing now. I'm coming to a close with this idea. But Mosha Feinstein the Dash Mosha he says this idea also everybody knows the Gmorra says Bat says that Leon right everybody knows you have a zuk and it's a mean already from before you're born etc. We're quite familiar but Mosha asks a question that nobody else asks. Why? Why don't you just say okay that's just the way it is. It's just a m in the world. The world is don't worry. Everybody's got their zebu. Whoever you married, you know, like it or lump it as they say, right? That's the way it is. What does it mean? A message mean you know that you know everybody should know this thing. It's a it's a a blanket message to everyone. So says because after a person gets married and he has those he should remember there's a bad hashem cries out to him and he says don't worry don't worry it's me it's for me don't worry it's go ahead and settle with the situation for what it is the worst thing that a person has sometimes is that he knows that there's divorce once he knows there's an option suddenly he's like well maybe it could be maybe I could try again all these funny statements that people stay when a person knows it's a bad call that this was set out So suddenly the decision works completely different just like your child. Does anyone start thinking I wish I could replace this one with another one. Can I switch with you? You mind like you know try to make sometimes you think oh wow I wish I had that one right? You don't do this is my child. This is the person that came from you. This is sorry this is the person who's a for me and yes whatever difficulties I'm going to have to go through with him but this is part of me. This is an extension of me and therefore I have no problem. I'll get him there. I'll do everything I can to be able to get him to the place he has to. That's really the opinion you should have about your husband or your spouse for that matter. Right? A person should have that opinion all the time for that idea that it's an extension of me and therefore there's no reason to question it. [clears throat] This goes exact this exactly similar to the bird case. Okay. I tell you where I heard this. I heard this statement this this idea I heard from reiseman he said one time he was about to meet he was going to be mad kaducian for someone who's a baluva very strong balu from mor sides and the parents came to him I think the parents of the kat and the if I'm not mistaken they came to him and said look we've never seen a in our lives I don't know what this thing is can you show us what it is before we set up I don't want to come completely and strange to my son's ka I don't know what I'm going to be doing so he said [clears throat] so he took him to one of the kupas that he was mad kadouch before and before the before the wedding he took him to a different so they were at the afterwards they spoke to the RV and he said no so what do you think he said I'll tell you I I didn't understand something what was the the the guy the groom over there he was standing up mumbling a lot of words all the time and shaking shaking shaking all the time shaking and mumbling what was he doing over there so he said he was doubting he was ding he was he was he was praying to she said now now it's too late right it's like [laughter] what are you It's already after the fact. And he said, "Oh, we thought about that for a second." Well, that idea it's already after the fact. You're not going anywhere. He wasn't able to do that. So, he brought a beautiful mashal to this uh to this idea about why what the dinging is afterwards. Yitk we know is the one who has been fork. He went out and no, he wasn't a young man. He wasn't a young man. And he was dinging over there. We obviously know he was dinging for right. He was I was going for find the right of course there wasn't too many options back then in the world so he was a little bit stuck and suddenly right when he finished he took his three steps did his thing he finished diving and looks up and Rifka Rifka's over there on the GM wow his prayers were answered on the spot mama he was just saying something and on the spot he saw Rifka apparently he saw that his prayers were answered and that's usually how we think we we prayed we dive in and Hashem answered But the truth is it's not true. It's not true. You know why? Elazzer was a ford. He was he was mad already. Meaning sent to mad when he gave her those rings. He said already a few days ago. You're able to be mad through you're able to go ahead and be mad through right. What does that mean? You're able to take and be mad. So Al Yez was already mad Rifka a number of days before that. Meaning even before Yitzk started Daviding, he was already married. He didn't realize, right? He was able to he was able to meet your cousin, right? He was able to he but the dabing is a part and this is really what it's about. We dab in we do our exactly like the bird case. But in the end of the day, we did everything. It's already done. It's already behind the scenes. Everything's been there. And yes, it comes from a place that I'm doing my efforts. But it's so appeasing to know that when you're going ahead and you David and your efforts and things don't look good is taking care of things in the end of the day. In the end of the day, the things are being taken care of upstairs. And that's really the of that's the of that's the of the lights that were lighting even in times like I said that were preparing for a 2,000 years of galut to teach us this message that you're not going to see me. It's dark in the beta mikdash. There was a there was there was we were it was tutt there were 10 miracles going on at least in the first day doing things were there when was there the wasiper things were fantastic you're going into galut I'm not going to be here it's dark outside the only holiday that's come during this darkest time is kaneka all the other holidays we have during the summers is during the darkest period of time from khanagan the the light the day daylight saving time starts the daylight starts getting longer from that time. It's always the darkest time because it's coming to teach us a message that yes, even though it's dark and you're lighting outside, you light on the left side, not the right, [clears throat] it's still I'm there for you to remember that as long as you put me into your life. Mashia is here. What I started in the beginning with I'm I'm here. You're living within you and then things will be complacent. Things will be taken care of will be behind us in every situation. Just watch out for the mah of the makabe from the mah from the mah of focusing on only what I see seeing is believing everything is nonsense and all that type of stuff to remembering it external I'll end with a small story we're speaking about we'll just finish with this and basically there was a who was having a while it took him a while to find he was not doing so well so finally his ro his rashiva came up to him and said what's going on what's he said I'll tell you the truth I'm having a little bit of problems because every time I bring a girl and I think that I we we're good, my wife, my mother, she ples her. She doesn't like her. She doesn't like her. It's happened four, five, six times. Every time my mother says, "Nah, no, no, no. I don't like her. I don't like her." So the roof thought about it for a little bit and he said, "Okay, I have an idea. Find a girl that's exactly like your mother. Find a exactly similar personality, certain traits, everything. Same idea, and I'm sure it'll be okay." So he said, "Okay, it was a good idea." He went after a month or two he met back with this rub again and the Rab said no I haven't heard any it's not working it wasn't a good idea he said no you're so was fantastic excellent idea he said really he said yeah I brought someone home exactly like my mother to the tea everything the person the twitches everything she was so similar and she didn't like her no she loves her she's their best friend there she loves her and you're okay yeah I'm good with it so what's the problem the problem is my father can't stand her in my father okay I've