Purim Holiday & More: Classroom Justice , Kidney Donation, Holy Objects, Favorite Sin, Moral Riddles

Good morning. Welcome. Welcome to our viewers on tour anytime as well. Will speak about and coming up. Want to dedicate the shar for him and his family should speak always. I want to dedicate the sh for the ili of benit is nama should have a constant aliyah in the for the merit of is grandson who does great things. He wants to remain anonymously but knows who he is and will shower his family with heavenly blessings. Also want to dedicate the year for the Mazto for my dear Louis his daughter Esto Lewis just got engaged too Frankle they should be able to build a successive generations following the footsteps of these great families who are very dear to me. So now we start you have to give give from whom Whoever has a generous heart and this leads us to ask the following question about a donation. There's a b whose name is 15 years old. His friend Shim need needs a kidney donation. Needs a kidney. Wuven says I want to donate my kidney, one of my kidneys to my friend Shiman, but he's only 15 years old. Can we receive a donation from a 15year-old of one of his kidneys? Does he even understand what that entails? What it means? If he is 8 years old, do we all agree it doesn't even start? Great. He's 15 years. He's 4 years old and he wants to give a kidney. Would you take it? I don't think so. He's eight. You're not sure. 15 years old. When he's 30, we'll say yes. Right. What's the cut off line? When did we say ah 15? Wait a little. Wait three more years. Wait 20 more years. At 15 years old, can we receive his donation or no? >> If you were not sure about the eight year old, you you're certain about the 15, right? You have no problem with that. >> What's that? >> Do you understand what it means to give a kidney when you're 15? >> Parents have good parents. >> No parents around. He's on his own. It's an orphan. A 15year-old calls his own child. I'm 15y old. What do you want for me? mitzvah. >> You're saying there's no issue. >> I say after mitzvah. >> After 13 in a minute, you go and give as many kidneys as you want. >> Doctor, what do you say? >> You have to BE 20 TO >> AH, that's where we're coming from. I'm sorry. >> I'm going to tell you what he said. In order to sell land that one inherits from his father, he must be 20 years old. Complete 20 years and two hairs. Before that, you can't sell land that you inherited from your father. >> Anywhere >> anywhere, >> anywhere. You're above, but you still have to wait seven more years. 20 complete years and two years or a matas not your father somebody else gave you he's about to die he gives you a matana of a is called you're not allowed to sell it theor copies the raam who explains why that is even if this kid is very very sharp he's in business for a few years already HE BUYS AND SELLS LAND ALL THE TIME HE'S not allowed to sell the land that he inherited from his father because kids under the age of Right? They go after the earthly desires. I want to having fun now. He may sell land which is worth a ton of money and he's going to buy the newest I don't know MP3 scooter whatever is hot today and in two years from now all the money evaporated. The kid doesn't have theam says he is not 100% yet understanding how this world works. You have to wait until you're 20 years old. Which means a young man who goes after fun things may be drawn after them and switch something which has a lot of value like land for money that loses its value and depreciates over time. He's a kas. Instead of buying something which is important, something which will appreciate with time, he may do u the opposite. So much so that actually discusses whether this is a or it could be that it's at a level which means it gives us less room to play with this regarding sale. What about giving a gift? >> Writes giving a gift if he is above the age of 13 even though he's under 20. We don't we don't care. Why? Because says one doesn't give a gift unless he receives some kind of a hana. You have to assume this 14 16 18 19 even though he's above but he's under the age of 20. Why did he give a gift? Because he got something from a person and therefore he is just giving back. So it's not st he loses his he loses his mind and he's giving something strange in our case there would be room to say not to receive this gift the kidney donation because the of the is not says don't receive a gift because why does he give a gift because he got something he didn't get anything his friend is in need he didn't receive anything so when you didn't receive anything we cannot receive a gift from to permit us to receive a gift from a kid like this doesn't apply here. Does he really understand under the age of 20 what a surgery entails? The danger? Do you understand what it is? You don't understand that when you're 15 years old like this, you don't understand that. However, this sh came to says there's a big difference between a kid who decides to send land and that's what the discusses and a young b who wants to donate a kidney. When one wants to sell land, who knows what he's going to do with the money? He's going to go on a big trip all over the world and spend all the money. Who knows what he's buying? But when one wants to donate a kidney, what is he doing? He is buying himself a gigantic share in the world to come. He is switching something which has much greater value than he's giving eternity. So you can't compare it. And this will be true regarding a young person who will sell some countries maybe perhaps will allow you to do this to sell a kidney. So over there he's switching it for money. Then we have the same problem that we said before. You don't understand what you're doing. You don't understand the value of things. You're giving a kidney for some money. It's the wrong exchange. But if a bah wants to donate a kidney to save his friend's life that you can you can rely on this kid once he's over the age of 13 and this kid is 15. And maybe you can even say maybe we can actually plug it into the says his gift is valid because one doesn't give a gift unless he receives something. This guy's going to receive something. He's going to receive honor and his name is probably going to be all papers. You know, this 15year-old said it's also something. It's also something. So, he is exchanging it for something and it's not just giving a gift. But even without it, you don't need that because what he's doing is a tremendous mitzvah. He's saving a life of his friend. And therefore, said that this will be valid. We can accept it once he's over the age of 13. We also have to add that today there's not too much danger in this type of a surgery. Every surgery entails some danger but minimal minimal risk and there's no obligation to give a kidney but one who does is a big sadic and aid and it's a great thing to do and um the only loss of this kid is he's going to be uncomfortable for a few days for a few weeks. He's going to be in the hospital and potentially if in the future his kidney that he has now, the remaining kidney will stop operating, he's going to have a problem. But you don't have to worry about this thing. It's a tremendous mitzvah to donate a kidney. One doesn't is not obligated to do so, but it is a tremendous mitzvah. And we must point out that throughout the entire world, the biggest group statistically that donates kidneys al that the entire world, it's a tremendous tremendous kidm. And one who does that is involved in this is a it's a great mitzvah. >> Yeah. Renewal renewal organization in New York. It's called renewal. >> Renewal in New York. There's also one here. >> Yeah. >> Since we're talking about sales, let's ask. We said that one cannot sell land that he inherited from his father if he is under the age of 20. Right. Great. How is it possible that one guess he didn't listen to us. He sold land. If he sold it when he was 17 years old, the sale is not valid as we just said. But if we find that he sold it when he was 14 years old, it's valid. Very strange. Again, two witnesses come and say, "We know exactly when the sale was. We said you're not allowed to sell land under the age of 20. So if you're older, 17, 18, we will say the sale is not valid because you always said, "Oh, but you're only 14." Oh, so sale is valid. Can it be? >> Because of the age. It's not >> What's that? >> Because of the age. >> The sale is the same cell. >> It's the same sale. >> Same. >> But I'm telling you that I found out you did IT AT 14. 14 AND A HALF. 15. SO IT'S GOOD. 17. No good. SHANOS IS UNDER 20. So you would assume that 17 is better than 14. And yet >> good deal. >> Fantastic deal. But didn't say parenthesis. Good deal. You can do it. >> Said that his brothers also sold it. Like >> said you can't do it if you're under 20. didn't say anything about your brothers and sisters. >> There's no extra details and conditions there. It says don't do it. Stay away. It's a quotes it can 17y old be confused with a 21y old. >> What do you mean? >> The buyer is the buyer. >> The buyer looked at you and so how old are you? 17. How old are you? 14. 17. Not valid. You sold it when you were 14. Valid. >> No babies. SURE. YOU GO. You went against and we said it's okay. >> Say he has another debt $1,000 and he owes $1,000. >> He is not allowed to engage in business regarding a land that he inherited. What can you do against it? >> No. No. Doesn't say that. Maybe in your edition it doesn't kind of crime a certain crime. >> Which crime is that? Doesn't say that. >> So again, >> he has an epic. >> No, no, no. Apotopus. He himself went when he's 17. He himself went when he's 14. 17, no good. He's right because said no good. 14. Fine. You have to assume that this applies to Jewish people not to him. >> Why the one is 13 years old that's says only applies to us says what about going when are so says it depends each person according to his when he starts understanding. So go is six years old and he's smart. He understands things. 8 n 10 11 what is it has to do with 13 because 13 is a measure given only to us. So if this kid was 14 years old as a and he sold it it's valid. At 15 years old he went and converted. If he sold it at 17 no good said no. So at 17 as a Jew no good. But if you find out they inherited it when he was a and he sold it at 14 when he was still a that will be val it it could be some opinions say that this will go for go as well because go after the reason explain to us what the reason before the age of 20 of to understand what you're doing and you may exchange the land for something which is foolish so that will apply to but according to according to normal understanding that this is only to Jewish people. So if you he was 14 when he sold it, it will be valid when he was a 17 as a yid. It won't be valid. By the way, there are countries today that also limit selling land. Uh UAE, Nigeria only 21 and many many countries has to do with legal adulthood which means at the age of 18 some countries US binding country you can only enter when you're 18. other countries 18 19 20 21 in the in that range many many countries will limit it the basis already right bas that many countries limit the age until the age of 24 that was in his time so it's not such a strange thing I don't know why other countries do it but we know why why we do it because the explained to us why call mdashd gives us a chance to speak about writes if you're involved in building you will see you built you will see we built writes that the furniture in the shul and the building of the shul is compared to the ba mikdesh. There's a reason why the bea is always in the middle of the shul and he talks about every single item in the shul and the way to build to construct the shul and he says that comparable to mdash. So it's no coincidence when you go to sh and many most sh have the same thing and there's a reason behind it does the same thing and they compare the building of the sh to the building of bdash we always understand it to mean when should you seek when he is near as if the king is walking in the feel was say but there's another I think it's a little less known and say not when but where and where is he found that's year long it's not just not just even in the middle of is always found in the that's where he hangs out in the and in the best medish And if a person sinned, he's full very encouraging inac 14 years ago. Today 15 years ago, that's how you remember the easy to remember because most of them are like the years especially when you get to it's like our years. So he says compare it to a to a river just like if a person is impure and he jumps into the river and he comes out and he's 100% pure so too. If a person goes to the sh and he is full of a and he comes out full of mitzvah and the sh purifies you like the mik purifies those who are impure. Amazingly come one who comes to the sh will get longevity just for coming to again the same place we reported before in says one who in the it's as if he brought a that's the language of the why it's an you went to a pure vessel that is the sh so it's as if you brought a because when you d It's comparable to bringing so you bring it in a pure vessel which after all this leads us question is a person who was watching over a sick person he's helping him he's in the hospital and he wants to know more is in his house should I make an effort to go David in the shul I'm not talking it comes on on of the guy who was who's in bed of course not he's sleeping now we know he's going to sleep for an hour do I have to have to go to the shul and d when I can d here what's the advantage of dvening by the sick person is there with the there with a sick person. So why am I going to sh because the is there we just said the is always there. Great. But the is also here. So why should I burn myself? Excuse me. Going to the sh to get the is right here. Any Indian to go to the sh when you're already involved with and the is right there. >> Never heard of an Indian go to a circus person's house there. Unless the person is asking for a minion as a test. I never heard like like a like a like like a debate like where should we go this time Korea? Go to their house. >> What's the proof to what you're saying? If there was such a thing, they were already in another school. Instead of going TO KADIKIM, WE'RE GOING OUT TO THE HOSPITAL TO THIS AND THIS DEPARTMENT ALL the will come and they will down FOR YOU BY THE we never heard of the thing, right? Yet wait, it's coming maybe after this year. Very creative. You must give me very creative. But is extremely important. So important that the base has that if a person and then he found a minion he should have again. Sorry. says compared to it's as if you didn't love him says if you ask for whatever that it is that you need but you do so in Aramaic the don't help you why they don't help you they don't understand Aramaic and different languages they're not very good at Aramaic comes at the and he brings in the name of who's the and he says it's not that the Gor wants to say that angels don't understand a word in Aramaic They do. But when they see a person who's dvening in Aramaic, they say, "Nah, we're not going to use this dvening to bring it up." But if you're dvening, you can use any language that you want, including Aramaic. And he says, "And so by the so too by the sick person again says the same thing." And the reason because of what the says that theina is found by a sick person if the is there the angels can take the take it up to even though you're using the wrong language and with that said in we say some things in Aramaic right we say an individual doesn't say it but who is a who's a sick person since is right there. He can say it. Same idea for which one doesn't say when he dens by himself. But if he's a sick person, there's many opinions that he can say it because the is right there. It's like you're dening. >> What if he's in the minion but um they said it beforehand or after him? Is that is that considered or not? As long as the as long as the laning didn't start, you can still say the yakukan even though they already finished saying it. But you're a bit you can still say it until the laning started. >> That would be like rich man offer. >> Yeah. Yeah. However, we're saying it it's the same thing by just like it's not you're missing the the more people around the more beautifification to the king and contrary to popular belief. We normally understand that going to the is that part is true. But when you go to the you have a chance to do that is when you answer when you answer since you're doing it with 10 men it's considered a so the reason to go to is to but when you do so by default you also are gaining that you won't be able to do when you're staying with the sick person or the sick person himself and it could be that this whole that say that the is there is a big to where the is there that's regarding this patient that he should be healed but not other things not related and when you go to Davin you ask for a lot of different things not related to this sick person and therefore one should go to shul of course we're not talking about it comes on the account of the sick person he's going to stay and say I'm sorry I have to go to sh that you don't do you don't leave the sick person poor Yeah, he needs your help. I'm sorry. Oh, you see we meet some in a mitzvah and there's a big mitzvah. But if you know for a fact he went to sleep or somebody else is switching just using the argument but the is here that doesn't work. One should go to the because of all the sources that we saw is an unbelievable per of the son of Ishmael is sick very sick right? So and whom do listen to and the person says why you know why the angel speaks to says don't worry listen to why we normally understand it to mean because is there listen to say what it says here WHO BECAUSE there is right there next to the sick person's bed. So listen to his prayer because he's right there. He give that's yeah >> he said that he knows that he couldn't sleep for an hour so he goes to shoot but let's say he gets up in the middle. So he >> let's talk about a case that you have somebody else who can step in. We're not talking when it comes into the account on the patient that we're not discussing. Of course if you know any second he may wake up and he's going to need you don't leave. But if you know for a fact somebody else came instead of you said why should I go is right here should go to show that in writes a remarkable thing he says here I'm warning you make sure you only why he says even the greatest can't say you know I always have kavana in my always do to have kavana. I don't remember even once not having kavana there such thing. If that's the case, if you don without kavana, he calls it, it's as if you brought a kban that has some kind of a dis disqualification that fill doesn't ascend. It stays somewhere hovering in the air of the best madish of the shoe. Later at one point you will have a good Dvening next week in a year from now in many years from now when you finally have a good Ding with Kavana all those that got stuck in the air of the sh will be able to move up toes. But that only happens in the not at home. Why says that I'll tell you why says if you have a cob and you bring it with a wrong you have a problem you disqualify the but if it's already in the if it happens while it's already great keep it there but if you had the wrong before no good so if you're in the is like a like a misb if it happens in the kesh It will stay there until one day you'll come with is going to take all your pills and take them up there. But if you d in a different place and therefore he warns make sure you d only if you think it's of it's not just of you have a slew of coalition brings from the that some gets stuck until a good comes with and takes him up. The y says the same thing and the y says even from a few years and then a good comes and takes everything along with it. The kavayasha writes the same thing. The mus writes the same thing. The writes the same thing. He can have this should always have all close to impossible but but didn't have kavana that will get stuck there. The next will be with Kavana and takes the not so good along with it all the way up to Shah the same. >> What's that? >> The same. >> I don't think so. You're trying to limit it. I'm trying to give a You're trying to bring I don't think so. I don't think so. >> All are connected. What should you do if they broke down the shoe? They closed it. They sold it. You have nowhere to What about like Phyllis? You go to the shoe, put a bag, pull it, take it to the next shoe. the next time you have it or go up since we're talking about I'm remembering now I once went to z I spent some time in his house then I left the house and I went to to a think my friend of Islam was grandson so I'm sitting there and the gabi of comes in I just saw him 10 minutes ago by so I'm joking with her I said what did I miss after I left. It was just 10 minutes ago. He said, "Oh boy, did you miss something?" What did I miss? So, I'll tell you an old man in his 90s comes comes into the prime 2 minutes after you left and sits him down right next to him. Says, "Reb." But it comes with a question. So, he tells him, "When I was very young, I think I was 8 years old and my brother was six. My father used to take us every single morning to Dav Shak with one day we misbehaved. So our father told us tomorrow morning I'm not taking you to Davin with the and we got so upset we wanted to go D with you have to pause here to that father that this is what his kids want. We want to d with at that age. So he says to you know what we did? We took our father's shoes. Put them away. The father gets up in the morning. He looks for his shoes. Where? Where are my shoes? WHERE ARE MY SHOES? WHERE ARE MY SHOES? DADDY, YOU WANT YOUR SHOES? Only if you agree to take us to the They gave him back the shoes. He took him to loved them. I said, "Sister, what's the sh?" He says, "Reb do we have to do cha?" This is 80 something years ago, 90 years ago. I was 8 years old, my brother was 6 years old. Do we have to do tr we stole from my father we we got our father upset the dismisses he said no it's okay it's fine it's fine I don't know encouraging other kids to do that after the m say it's fine maybe in fact that was the that's what the father wanted maybe to test I don't know said no but like your story I think that we should all d that this should be our sins that we stole from our father the shoes because we really wanted to go d with god in his minion I think it's a great sin to have You see a dirty tissue in the shoe. Who should pick it up? >> Any first person. >> The first person. Even you. Who told you? I'll tell you who tells you brings that. Who's that? We said before the rashi used to sweep right in front of used to sweep the floor of the sh with his beard. I guess he had a long beard and he used to sweep the floor of the sh right in front of the kesh with his beard. So I think to bend down and to pick up a tissue from the from the sh that's something even we can do another donated a beautiful to the beautiful so how do you chew up for this? I'm sorry for this told him you have to do for this. You don't have to. It's fine. Don't have to do the cha. Luven donated a beautiful paw for the aan kesh gorgeous golden letters his name his wife's name is beautiful sometime later got divorced he goes to the gaba says get my wife's name off the I come here I see my name NEXT TO HER I CAN'T I CAN'T have any that's disgusting do me a favor take my wife's I don't need it I'm asking you now to remove my wife's name there's a way to do It's not going to There's a way to do it. No problem. The Gabby asks, should he do Should he take it off or not? Yes. No. No. Why not? I can't see. I don't It's my money. I can't see my name next to her. She used to be my wife. Now she's my enemy. Why not? >> It's not his once he gave it away. Once he deleted it, he has no >> So you don't care that every single time he comes here, he has no he can't d when he sees these two names together and together. It doesn't work. He can't have kav. He is the one who deed it to the shul. Well, you want to go against him in spite. Oh, I'll show you. >> All right. What's the reason to keep it there? >> To keep what? >> To keep her name on. Is there even a reason to keep it on? She doesn't GO THERE. SHE'S >> RIGHT. THAT'S WHAT says >> take it off. >> But two seconds ago, he said no. >> Learning from the rock. >> Oh, no. You have to say however. >> However, they got both names. >> I'm sorry. >> They got both names. >> I WANT MY NAME. I DONATED IT. IT'S VERY EXPENSIVE. I WANT EVERYBODY TO KNOW THE MONEY. >> Maybe when they donated, they donated from maybe the wife. It was my money. Whatever my wife owns is mine. I donated it. I want her name off. >> I don't hear the argument to keep it all. >> What did you hear before when you did hear it? >> No, I don't. >> Good. Good. That's a great person. That's a sign of a great person. says a person is willing to say you know I changed my mind but used to come many times in he was fine and other says what I told you yesterday I made a mistake that's a sign of a great person what you saying I'm not saying you're right I don't want to be right >> yes what is it what's the benefit of leaving it on the benefit is that is there some food for the wife still cuz then it would be I don't know if >> to leave a encourages hopefully other people to donate as well. I want to have this writes in I think that there is an Indian he brings it from the is an Indian to beim or you say mitzvah he did a mitzvah he wants publicity whether for his ego or to encourage others whatever reason he's entitled to but I DON'T WANT MY WIFE'S NAME my ex-wife >> she's an enemy >> WANTS HER TO MY MONEY I DON'T WANT HER there Kadusha the bar. It has some kadusha. Can we do things with it? >> So take the the thread the golden thread that you use your name and put it in visa. >> There's no there's no visa. What's the problem? >> Where's this pro? What are you going to do with it? You're going to take something a different one, right? What are you going to do with the old one? >> Yes. No. No. What? No opinion. Or don't take the name off. Don't take the name off. >> Not sure. Yoshif says the husband is right. It makes a lot of sense that you can't see your name next ex-wife and therefore he can remove the name. You know WHICH NAME? HIS NAME. YOU WANT TO REMOVE A NAME? REMOVE YOUR OWN NAME. You gave her a gift back then when you gave it. You can't uproot now the gift that you gave her. Finish. The is hers. If you want to remove a name, no problem. Remove your own name. That's the third answer. What's that? >> Yeah. The one had the kim, right? Kuim, what's the image of the kim? What do they look like? >> Children. >> Children. What age? >> Six, seven. >> Six, seven. Who told you that? >> Not four or five. That's a bash. We only have 10 opinions. >> I found 10 opinions. What's that? >> Let's see. And of Vienna say bulls the image of bulls it's not kids different meaning different animals another opinion he says it was like two lads and he says more accurately to sayim kids I don't know what age he doesn't say six or I don't know what the says the shape of of a man face of a baby and they have wings attached to them. A few opinions. One of them it's two kuim, right? One of them, an adult. The other one, a little kid. Doesn't say what age, a little kid. The other opinion one is a shape of a man and the other shape of a woman in I'm sorry in berious because this refers to the mentioned also regarding and over there it says that they would switch from shape to shape sometimes they work like men sometimes like women sometimes like spirits and sometimes like angels and these showing you look like a bird with wings and the face of a man. Half a bird, half a man. Nine different opinions. But there's another opinion and one opinion and that is the he says the had right after that says it was the image of two friends sitting and learning to what's the message in that what do most people have hanging in their house living room in the bedroom what picture a nice view from somewhere they they went to or that they aspired to go to something that they want to remember their wedding >> mitzvah I'm not so sure it's a great idea even though a lot of people do it doesn't really make sense IN CASE I DIVORCE YOU THIS IS WHAT YOU'RE GOING TO GET NOT SO sure you want to hang it on your wall but some people do for some reason not sure why but most people put a picture of something which is dear to them something which awakens a certain memory or they want to impress other people for whatever reason with that What does a kesh put in his bedroom? The holiest place in the world that a person can enter and no one can enter only. What does decide? What picture is if decides to put in the most important place in the world a picture of two guys sitting and learning to because to him that is the most important thing in the world and anyone before he goes to learn has to think about it. I'm doing now finds so dear that he puts it as a picture in a different type of we're leaving soon we'll see why we're asking this little kids and he says you know the best way to teach children questions and answers games That's why everything is questions and answers. That's why some people steal the man to engage the kids. It's the best way to teach and for people to retain. Right. Right. So this says to do some kind of a of a game, play with the kids, a raffle, something to excite them. He saw in coffee. What's coffee? Coffee simmon. Let's still remember what's coffee writes. You should know there's no pes there's no ending pay in the entire benching. Do you notice that when you bench there is no pay ending pay why is that anyone who will say benching with kavana and these are devastating angels cannot rule over that person there's a lot of with ending pay so to allude to the person who says benching as he should they can't touch HIM THERE'S NO PACE OF ether the hater brings from the tashb is one of writes I have a kabala from my so this is a who says I have a kabala from mybis anyone who articulates benching will never lack parasa so this after seeing this these sources decided to play a game with the kids he goes into class and he says do you guys know that there is no pesopy There's no ending fee in in benching. Whoever can find a pace of it will get $20. And he holds a $20 bill and he says if you find a pace of it in benching there is no. And the kids looked and looked and of course there is no pace of feet. So he started explain to them you know why? Because the hat brings some of the tits that can rule over a person who says it and says everybody was very excited. Now they got a excitement about benching. You know what? But while he's saying it, one of the kids says, "REB, I FOUND A PIECE OF FEET IN BENCHING." And the Reb says, "Sorry, it doesn't exist." He says, "But Rebe, I have it in my I don't know what version you're using. In my there is a piece of feet." And the Reb says, "Impossible, Rebe, I have it in my can you show me?" And the kid comes close. And in fact in po and that's why I'm asking this question we sayim and wanted to destroy ALL THE JEWS YOUNG AND OLD tough in one day what is tough little kids tough pay there is ending pay in benching can I get the $20 please you said there isn't an ending pay pes in benching there is I just found one tough venim toughest bill with a pitb $20. The is asking does he have to pay or not? A whole big argument started in class. WELL, HEY IS NOT PART OF BENCHING IS a part of benching. It's in my sitter. It's in your sitter. It's in his sitter. It's part of benching. It's not part of benching. We only say >> and we only say it in. It's not part of two days a year. One day for you, one day for me doesn't have to pay. >> Doesn't have to pay. Does he miss it? >> What? >> If he misses it, >> if you forgot to say, you don't have to repeat. But it's part of benching. >> Ah, so it's say is also not part of bench because we don't repeat. We don't we don't come back. So it's not part of benching. Maybe not. >> So it is part of benching the first and second meal and not on Thursday and Wednesday. But how does that work? It's interesting what you say. $10 maybe. BUT YOU'RE SAYING THAT'S NOT PART of 10. how he said the question >> if you're going to find a pace of feet in benching I'm going to I found it >> mean like on daily benching in like >> in benching I didn't say it if I would say on daily bes in good but I didn't say it I said there is you should know in benching there is no pay >> I think you would >> you have to pay because it's a part of benching but it says you don't have to you don't have to come back and compensate if you miss it so it seems that it's not a part of benching It's part of benching. >> It is part of benjing. >> Yeah, it's part of >> it is part of benching. You have to pay. He doesn't have to pay. But >> why? Why he said it's part of benjing? >> Why didn't he play? Why? >> Because because he met obviously he didn't mean that. He meant part of >> So you're not responsible for what you say. >> It's because he's quoting from true they what they mean. >> And the kids say that mist whatever you're quoting from is wrong. That's what he meant was but he has to pay. I I'll >> I'm not yet. I'm talking about dean. What is the dean? What's the I have to pay or not? >> He didn't mean he didn't mean that. >> You don't mean you don't have to pay. You commit it in front of everybody that you do that. Ah, you're send I'm making a commitment to pay but I don't have and that happens many times when a person I'll make a bet let's take a bet I know for a fact that I'm right that's why I'm willing to take a bet I don't want to lose my money so I don't have and then writes I don't have to pay unless this was done in front of a based in u then you would have to pay or you did it um when YOU SAY FOR NOW I'm committing myself not we're going to find out later so if you do it or you have to put otherwise it's an but there's three more reasons why he doesn't have to pay is one second one when you say to a kid I'm going to give you a And then you retract. Are you called? You're a person that we cannot trust. When you commit to an adult to give a matana and you don't you're it's not a very great title to carry. Not very good. And are telling you which means it comes with a comes with a curse. We don't want that. But when you commit to a kid who's 5 years old, I'm going to give you a gift. And then you don't I think the first one who deals with the jubis is the kilos. Who's the kilos? >> Not the stipler. I'm talking 350 years ago before the stipul many with the name of that's gazi. He was from the rabbis of Ismir in Turkey and then he was the chief rabbi rabbi in his in his what he's called. He says you're not is no problem. But he himself in the quotes the comes a little before him that says you have to give the kid and you are he writes in sal that you do have to give the kid and if you don't you are and there I'm sorry exactly the opposite of what I said there and say you can retract no problem IN HIS SAYS NO YOU CANNOT but but he What's the that says that you don't have to? So the can say I hold like I hold like and I don't have to pay the kid. Second answer. Third, anytime you have a condition that is just like in Simmon smell in your when we learn about we don't go after what you said. We go after your kavana. And if it's clear to us that you never intended to pay and you said it just because you saw it in the bay who brings the tash, it was clear to you that they're right. You don't have to take because when there's a condition we don't go after the literal words we go after the just like in we go after the kavana what people understand what you meant not the literal meaning of the words and it's clear that you didn't intend to include pim you didn't see it in the because of what you said that if I missed I forgot to say I'm missing I don't have to repeat so obviously it's not a part technically speaking of venturing and then he doesn't have to more than that. What does that mean? Learns that if you made a not called what does it mean? Somebody forced you to take a what does that mean? So I'll tell you a story. Rav Kahana and Rav AI would learn by Rav. Then they would go outside and would argue what Rav meant on a certain thing. And says, "I'm telling you, it's like what I'm explaining." And says, "No, you're wrong. It's like what I'm explaining. I'm thinking that I'm right." And will tell you, "I'm taking a I'm right." Then they went back to who's right? And would say, "You're right." So the other would say, "DID I JUST MAKE say no? You were forced to because you were really convinced that that's what I said." And the gam says if you make this type of you're not this is like so he saw his he believed his who's the bits he believed when they said there is no pes he's not the only one that we'll see soon there's many others who say this there is no pit and he believed him it's as if like he took a he doesn't have to pay we have four reasons to exempt this from paying. Similarly, there was once a you should know the fifth chapter of what is it called? You should know it's the only chapter in Mishnay that doesn't have the only chapter. And if you find another chapter that doesn't have I'll give you 20 shekels. The kids see 20 shekels in front of their eyes and they go start working. says this says there is no other chapter only doesn't he's quoting the B but the B didn't say there is no other chapter the B says the doesn't have period the stretches it says and by the way it's the only one the kids take some and it start working and they worked and they worked and the following day they come to the says we find 10 other chapters in Mishna that have placed 200 shekelers. You said 20 per chapter we found 10b says but I relied on kaf is kafim wrote there there is no other even though the b didn't say it decided to I can't rely on the base on the kaf and asks do I have to pay there was another ab told his friends in class you know mybe from the previous shivaktana was so brilliant he was a bakimish expert in the entire Aisha's bubbly and he once told me that you'll never find three backto-back dapim in the gimore that raba or rabba don't appear there really can't believe it three you can't nope believe me if my said something you know he knows shame is cold it's unbelievable they said no we're not so sure about that and what if we find another three consecutive dapim that ora don't appear he says you know I was just tested by Shiva on some pages of Gora and they're supposed to give me 400 shekels. I'll give that to you. And he says, "But if you don't find and I'm right, you give me 100." And they agreed and they wrote it down and they it's not like they did everything right. Great. These guys went to work. They open up and then they came to him three days later was wrong. three and don't appear there 400. So the yeshiva wants to know the yeshiva have to pay this guy who was tested or these kids do they get it? He says I relied on my they said to you you said something we made a we made an agreement we found but I relied on this is like the withasi who relied on the this is I'm convinced it's just like our case with the guy who's relying on the that brings from the tajbets and they all don't have to pay this sh came to says you better pay why because of what you said before because says don't say to a kid, I'm going to give you something and don't follow through with this because you're going to teach the kids to be a liar. You're teaching him when you say something, you don't have to actually do it. It's terrible. What kind of is that? That's not and writes that from this that is where learned that one has to be extremely careful with little kids to make sure they always speak emis and this is like an obligation on their parents and on and therefore all these reasons why we want to exempt the potentially are rightly but they must make sure and more than that you're dealing with kids when you tell them a riddle. A riddle is not a sh you're telling them you're NEVER GOING TO FIND PAY FROM THIS PAGE to this page in benching. Guess what I did. You have to understand what the kids will understand when you're asking him a riddle meant for them. It's going to look as if the doesn't keep his word and that will be devastating and terrible for the kids and therefore for these reasons he should pay. By the way, we brought there's more. He writes in all the of all the letters appear except for pes to tell you the same idea that all the with pes cannot rule. But he says also it doesn't appear in and also the blessings before the you're not going to find a writes in there is no to tell you that if you say with and no other damaging agent can rule over it and will be accepted adds that you're not going to find a piece OF IT THE ENTIRE except of course the alanim of purim But I guess he's not qualifying it as part of the that's writes since the pes is in the name of and he brings examples of their names and and therefore you're not going to find pit in any prayer except musf because in musf you say musf musf in itself has the pit so you're stuck but otherwise You're not going to fight P of the speaking writes in you find the from the beginning of the in all the way till all the blessings you're not going to find. Why? Because and all these do not rule over these blessings. The truth is most of the blessings we say do not have a piece of it. most don't have it except I found three um that's a pit and has a p of so three but most of them do not have doesn't have it doesn't have it they don't have it in doesn't have it the in the first we mentioned it's so along and still doesn't have any pace of it. The whole Benji doesn't have it and that is the >> maybe we have it says >> okay that balance things out in Spanish and Portuguese first they add an extra verse as a final why is it there because remember the quest who was then in Poland but he was in he realized that was a fake he stopped the rot and then from then on the mus and Portuguese they went through it and tried to take out as much reference to cabala as possible >> right they took and they added this is one of the cases where they added >> what what did they add what what's the What? >> I have to see it inside to me. I'm not familiar with this. I don't know. >> We have to do some research and find out. >> You got an >> But even if they did, even if they did, they added it. It's not brought a benching. The original benching is the one without the quote that came before them. They quote it without. Now you can add anything you want in it. It doesn't make it into part of Benjing the discussed. Why did they add it? Shan them. Okay, we're gonna have to find out. Do some research and come back next week. >> They wanted to to break the connection. >> Maybe. Maybe. But it doesn't turn it into part of Beni that discussed that discussed the version that was in front of them that most of the BI. So that was Yeah. You have said and don't have it. He says the entire the says entire the entire >> but we don't count the pooling again because the pooling is >> I said without the alim because alim is unique for one day and if you missed it you don't have to repeat they're not calling it part of benching part of ding alim is not technically speaking part of benching it's an addition since we talked about purim that's the reason I brought the sh let's ask a riddle for purim very very strange can it be that one of the denim that we all do on purim is actually from the toy is to p discuss in the toy. No. Where's p coming from a little later, right? And yet you're saying it comes later. So what is one of the sources to one of the in the toy? The one of the we all do. What does it say? Thou shalt give him is a general thing. But who says one of the regarded purim is found in first of all can it be >> if I'm asking probably it is it's very strange >> so that doesn't apply to pim >> necessarily >> it's not per se but per se you give a pim >> no before >> I'm That's the concept up here somewhere. Find it with ask where do you find is not a deen of that you apply that you do every single year >> that's you read that's and if if you didn't do noise it's m many don't >> readalik >> you readalik and that's a obligation from the toyah. It's written in the toyah. It's an obligation from the toy. >> Something that you do in an obligation from the >> What does it say in the thou shall eat? >> You have a source. What do you say? >> A little bit like >> it's like do you write in poem? You drive and blame. Oh, funny brother says they should put it away from see >> that's from >> the says to do that after and a day before and a day after I'm not supposed to have any and creative poem Zatal writes in a called but he brings it because of something related. A woman is is she allowed to eat meat on the day she goes to to or not. So he writes, "By the way, you should know there is an opinion that is stronger than Shabas, which means if you have a piece of meat on Friday, Purim is going to be on Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday. Keep it for this writes there's an opinion which means his relative passed away but still wasn't buried. Is an allowed to have meat and wine? No. Says yes. Why? He has a mitzvah from the Torah to be anointed today. But that's his private mitzvah. And private mitzvah will not come and override. The applies to all of us to be happy and the which is like comes out eating meat. You said eating meat unto him drinking wine IS according to it says you did so good in the previous I ask another one >> so all of this is correct >> he says the mitzvah to eat he finds it in the cabala is it's like which means when you have a mitzvah not to do something is an individual but you have a mitzvah collectively to do something it's stronger than your private mitsah. So the the positive for the overrides your of the individual not to do this and therefore you have to eat meat from the that's the language of why it says >> because that's meat it says it says what is we mimic exactly what happened back then and therefore you why do we eat meat And why do we drink wine? Because like And since we talked about wine, I'll ask you another riddle. Because you did so good in the previous one. We learn quotes, right? We're all familiar with this. Not sure if you're all familiar with the discusses 550 different interpretations what it really means. We know there's different opinions. Do you really have to get drunk what it means? Fine. Want to drink wine and p good. How is it possible that one has a bottle of wine in front of him? It's his. No sh of no sh of doctor says you can drink as much as you want. Even his wife permits him to drink. He's not allowed to drink. He's not a doctor going to operate someone in 5 minutes. No, he's healthy, young, fit, willing, and able, whatever you want. Don't judge drink. What about next year? Don't dare drink. You're not allowed to. >> He's never allowed to drink a pool. The wine is his. It's not stolen. It's his. It's in front of him. He wants to drink. He actually likes wine. No. >> Every year. Just >> every single year. But I like you. Told me to drink. No, you're not allowed to. What about my brother, my sister, my son, my wife? They can all drink if they want. You can't >> sick. >> Oh, not nausea. >> He's not sick. >> He is healthy. He just said his annual doctor says >> he is made of any amount of stay away. How can this be? Says drink. And we say no. He whatever you want including there is no but what's that make >> he made three times of dollars from the land of yeah >> he's a coin don't join him today today because he slept enough. >> I'm sorry. >> Sleeping. >> He didn't sleep. He hates sleeping. He doesn't like sleeping. He doesn't sleep. >> So carries more weight. >> He wants to do something for him that that he has to do and not drink anymore because he doesn't go didn't sin yet and he's 99 years old. Never sinned. Hopefully he will never sin. >> You didn't hear yet? >> Three times. And he also read it to to a bunch of people as well. >> If a nonjewist touch the wine, >> I'm sorry. >> If a non-Jewish touch the wine, >> there's no non Jews in his city or country. He made the wine and he kept it and he was watching it since he made it. I don't know if he had he had time to make the wine, but he's reading three times. He has very little problem. It's a drop of wine becomes totally drunk. >> Three barrels won't make him drunk. should have heard but it came out one who knows that he was born in a mazal. If you were born different constellation is if you were born under the maz of ours potentially you can be if you're going to drink some wine you may sh someone stay away from drinking he's not allowed because of the maybe he's going to drink says we don't hold like this himself says if you have a suffic whether you are whether you were born in maz or not You don't have to worry about it because we have to go after the majority. Most people are not born in that mazal and you're engaged in the who's going to protect you. You don't have to worry. If you know for a fact you were born in some says stay away from wine. Two more things about poor says in we say every single day about what is says with both and how is it possible TO SER WHAT DOES that mean? UNDERSTAND THE WITCHES. THAT'S what tries to tell me. How do I serve everybody? It works very well on the comes to you and says give him 200 shekels. Says no give him only 20 shekels TO means you have to give him 220 shekels. That voice only if we're talking about money you should know what the say was one of the and that's a tremendous beta says a person's income is all the way until next except says three things says another a fourth so we remember it in an acronym of if you spend more you're going to get the best before your kids is going to give you more expenditures for that's from the medish and you spend more if you spend more they will give you more so loophole in the system you can get more than your decreed income if you take away you don't want to spend so much for the mitzvah comes the and says and so too for THE EXPENSES SO IF YOU'RE WORRIED ABOUT EXPENSES for and you have a question about this go to the says you owe me one I relied on you I ask you please on my behalf and give they should give me more because I relied on you we should all have plenty should be showered with good things.