The Deeper Meaning Behind a Kiss

We all know in paras it mentions about the Yakov gave Raul his future kala a kiss which of course is jumped on by the rishim already trying to figure out what is Jacob giving a kiss to Rael as the midrash already brings that the that one of the reasons why the people why did he cry one of the reasons why he cries because people were malahashim al they're whispering to one to the other hey what's yakov doing why is he kissing this girl so first of all the does say that she was a kana she was young second of all it was before matantara and c and most importantly there was a lot of meaning behind what he did as rashi already writes that he cried because he saw that we're not going to be buried together and apparently there was some not just intimate connection but some kaduca and shea that was meant to be spilled over as this farm writes in this scenario and that happened during that contact of Jacob and Raul. From here I want to bring out a very interesting concept and that is we find the concept of a kiss in many many places all over the Torah and even in the idea behind it the bottom line is as we've just mentioned the fact that a kiss has the power to kind of give over shea give over an influence to the person can give over from this person to the next sort of speak in uh sort of speak so listen to this first of all I'm going to quote to you from Marana Yseph David Aulai as a safer called Shem Abdul where he discusses many different people and over there he writes the great reigash was one of the rishim. He was one of the biggest rishim and the Rambam considers himself a Talmid and everybody always wondered why how could the Ram consider himself the Ram basically did not know him. He was seven years old when the Remigosh passed away. And he always refers to himself as a Talmet of the Remigosh. And the story came out and that is that the Rambam came to the Remigosh on his deathbed when he was passing away. And the Remigosh kissed the Rambam's hand at the age of seven and also gave him a braha. He also gave him a braha. And the Rambam says it was because of the of this kiss that I became who I became. Hear that the Rambam says because of the kiss of the reigash that he gave me before I passed away I became the Rambam what the Rambam was just one of the that stands above almost all okay he is almost above all the and he had incredible which people don't understand how he was able to do so much and he says this was my he said from nan theash I called my rebi he was my rebi from the simple kiss that's what I got we see the power of how much influence one can receive from a sad when he receives a kiss. The also writes in the safer marit from the Arizal from the great that someone who wants to get a from an has to go ahead and receive even or to go ahead and kiss the hand of the gle and there's a tremendous amount of when you go ahead and kiss his hand. I recommend only do it to aarty guttle to an eskanazi might slap you across the face but at least by aarty you can go ahead and do it. That's a B. Let's move on. In the sitter of the Yates of Jacob Emden brings an incredible letter there. I like to read it on Yum Kipper where there is a a Roman that was around a heathen that was around at the time of the avod in the beta mikdash on yum kipper. And he writes a testimony a witness eyewitness to what occurred when the coen guttle more or less was doing the avod. He writes a number of different things that he saw. And one of the things that he mentions is that when it was over and the kong guttle was on his way home, all the people in the whole entire country went to go kiss the hand of the kudul. It was a great to be able to kiss the hand of the cole like they do to the same idea. And by that they would be able to receive the of getting the kud right after the avod. He says he held him they held him up there until 12:00 at night. You got it? The man's still fasting from Yum Kipper and they still kept not just from Yumip. He also fasted him the day before. But anyways, he's still starting. They kept him there from here is a mcoy. I always take this as a source for when we finish a fast and people come and ask rabbis question left like don't just let us go home. Like why don't they let the rabbi go home? But no, they keep them on for another hour to make sure that you don't eat on an empty stomach. You don't want to eat right after a fast. You don't want to eat on an empty stomach. Anyways, that is the next place we see the power of a kiss. Next, we find parro says to Yseph after he anointed him a emperor or close to the king that the that you will that because of you everyone will will be sustained. That's the simple understanding that you will feed everyone. But the mid doesn't say that. Shak says from will kiss you because the is that as the writes that everyone should go ahead and kiss you and the midra says because you were so careful not to kiss an illegal kiss with the wife of with the wife of so therefore you also will have everyone kiss you as being a great man. Incredible. So we see the power of a kiss by a king and by a god by a god by Israel and by the co. And here we have it. And listen to this one even bigger than this. We have the opposite direction. Now now this is scary. Watch this. There's a known as kalerati which is kal in the back of the of and over there in periml. It brings that we all know when Jacob uh saw Yseph after 22 years that we all know that Rashi says it says VF that he cried but it doesn't mention any type of anything else about hugging or kissing and Rashi says because he was saying Israel very famous Rashi but little do people know that in Karabas he says it was a different reason why Yakov was not kissing Ysef he knew Ysef was a very good-looking guy and he was in Mitsay in Egypt which was a place malle lwdness Zema which is a very bad place and he was he was suspect to Ysef then maybe he was maybe he f and made a mistake with a woman that's what he was worried about and therefore Jacob didn't want to kiss someone that made such a mistake someone that shalom he wasn't willing to do and from here we learn an important idea that when a person is a bad person or if we're a Russia obviously not Ysef but when a person is doing things that you're wrong, you should stay away from his kiss. That's what the that's what the the the Mishn over there saying that you should keep away from such a person to make sure not to get an ashika from him. Later it says he gave an ashika to his sons banim and he knew that he was married legally and he was a good guy and things all got better and don't worry they made amends. It's okay. Don't feel bad for him. But you should know an incredible idea and that's why there's some people who are worried about a Russia giving them a kiss because you have to stay away from the power of the influence of a kiss that can be expressed by this person. So over there in Khaled asks ah what about we find in our para that loan gave a kiss to his children to his daughters and his grandchildren and over here is where he gave it over. So the says, well, first of all, pay attention. Yakov never received a kiss because he ran away. He made sure, and he says that in Yiddish, you made sure this bandit, this Russia, who's known as a bandit, he made sure he didn't want to receive a k a kiss uh from from him. And also it says when Jacob received a kiss from Asov or also when he re when the children received a kiss from love and it wasn't a real direct kiss. A it also says because of their tit that they had a kiss. I did one time hear that there is an idea concept that maybe that kiss of love and did put some danger and put instilled inside of us the danger of sometimes acting in an incorrect way. There's a garabatra that says sometimes we might have a na we might have a interest to go ahead and and and and trick someone in business a little bit or something like that and the Torah is what always saves us from doing that. Where does that nit that interest come from? That na comes from this kiss this dangerous kiss that we receive from love that came from one of the leodor that said this in the past and therefore a person has to be extremely careful from people like uh this okay so at least we see the power of um of what happens now we move from live to dead what about dead people so the uh the cobo brings down that after a person is buried there were no the minis after he is buried in the ground with the dirt on top of him. They would kiss the ground. They would kiss the of the for the like a parting kiss. The way they would part from him would actually bend down and come to the ground says in a I wish I had the dirt from and I'll put it on my eyes. Okay. Okay. So we see there is an idea of a parting kiss to at least someone who is important is kashu in order to go ahead and part or maybe a direct family member after he's in the ground that is and the Rambam has a letter which is brought down in the end of where he says that he went to it's a famous letter that the Ram says he went to and when he went to he went to Marata he went one day to the hotel and one day to mara One was on the 6th of Kwan and once on the 9th of Kwan and I promised he made a nether that that day will be a yto for me. It will always be a holiday for me. He saidim he would eat drink and sing and everything like that. It was a day of for me cuz I was able to see the kot. He was so excited about the fact that he was able to see the of the that he said that therefore he made a holiday on that day. But he writes over there when he did that that he went and he kissed the graves of the he went and he dabbed by them and he was able to kiss the graves when he was there. So we see this incredible phenomenon and he's keeping to the words of the zor because the zor actually writes that says uh no the he writes over there if people would know the greatness of I don't know why he picked on more than of but he said if people would realize the greatness of Jacobu they would run to the maratah and kiss it they would go and kiss it anywhere in the vicinity that they can get close to the Kev is worth kissing and he brings from that also kissed the Kev of he went and kissed the Kev of So we see from here that kissing the Kev of Kadikim are okay it is and even maybe a parting relative is okay don't make a habit of it don't start running to cemeteries and kissing everyone's graves that's not the concept okay some people put pictures of themselves on the graves don't start kissing pictures and it's also wrong to do that anyways I'm talking about you go to Sadik and that's it or maybe by a partying relative that might be okay however I was only discussing the grave to kiss a dead body is questionable that is a big it's brought in that's in whether one is permitted he brings from the safer that says he's says if someone kisses it says one can lose his children from such a thing if he goes ahead and kisses his childman. If someone loses a child, it says over here according to the one should not kiss that child again while before he is buried. Why? because it gives says the uh mavari book explains since this child is an extension of the parent and by going ahead and kissing him the child says I'm so close to his father he says why don't you join I don't want to say bad things but there something to that extent and not only that it can actually spill over to the other children also because they all come from the same source so therefore the writes people listen to the says you should not one should not kiss his children after they died we should never hear of such things I'm just mentioning for the he said and he says very strong words after that which I prefer not even to quote but he says very strong things can happen if such a thing occurs however they do bring from these as we know in when YaKob died that Yseph bent over on his father and he kissed his father after he passed away. So one of the answers is Yakovu Loy met. Yakovinu wasn't really fully dead. His eyes popped open here and there a little bit when Asa was bothering them. Sounds like he was still someone around. That's a B. Many of the say a father is permitted. Everything I just told you was by a child or other relatives but by parents theore and others the say that it is permitted to kiss one's parent as a parting parent meaning even if they go it's up to you it's good bad if a person wants to or not I'm not telling you you should or not some people say yes some people say no it's a I personally have a relative who doesn't keep any to and he was all worried cuz he ended up kissing his mother and he said oh don't tell me about it because you know I'm so religious I could care less about whether they get their keep shabbat don't worry about kissing your mother that didn't bother me but anyways everybody you know sometime like the esoteric stuff they don't like all the uh they don't like all the the basic stuff like keeping kosher anyways so that is the phenomenon of the difference to go ahead and kiss a dead person however the easiest answer for kissing is it's clear that says I'm basically finished here basically says that to go ahead and kiss it sadic everyone agrees okay the moon culture is very against kissing dead bodies he says it's malum it gives one should not do that and it can give over tuma but we find that revel when he died his talim kissed him it's a yushian shabbat he brings from a midrash that when a passed away that mosha and his son Elzar kissed him on each cheek died by nika and mosher raenu and alzar immediately kissed him on each cheek Okayim, no problem. If you have a if you're able to get to the kev, which is sometimes hard to do to the dead person. So then you are permitted to to uh to do it, but otherwise it's probably better not to. So we see the power of a kiss. It's able to give over influence and to be able to receive influence also by the comes. That's where we find the and this we're finishing basically that mentions in the Rambam brings us that the biggest of the such as Aba and others when they came to Israel they used to kiss the ground. You heard that they would bend over and kiss this beautiful land and they would go ahead and kiss the stones and they would roll around in the offer. Why kiss it? Why not this? Because the kissing made a to the kaducious arits. They were doing that in order to connect the ma book. again says they did it to connect to the that lies in this land the land over here we have a direct connection we spoke about in the novishir just recently about [clears throat] the incredible connection that we have with Israel and that's why the kesh also says when you have mitzvah the mitzvah people who love mitzvah they kiss them they kiss their lul they kiss their matzah they kiss their mar Just if you don't mind the mar or the matz that you kiss, don't give it to someone else. Eat it yourself. It's better. I don't think they're going to want your saliva on top of it. But anyways, after go ahead and kiss the mitzvah. When the safer falls down, we kiss the safer. There's no to kisser. People think it's automatically you can safer. We do it out of to show the love that we have the brings. People kiss the titus when they see it also because of the that we have people like to kiss the at the time that they do it. This is brought down from everything that we've seen. We spoke about Israel. We spoke about mitzvah. We spoke about kings. We spoke about sadikim and we spoke about everything everything that has to do with kadouch. And of course we have a muza that when you walk out people like to kiss the muza. The idea behind kissing the muza is to think what's inside of the muza. It's not as some of the as the one of the briskers said, it's not to give a spank to the muza. You know coming people go past the muza and they slap it on the face. Why are you slapping the muza? You put your hand in it and think what's in this muza. I want to be there. I want to be there before you leave the house. You want to connect to the Israel. So we see you put your you put your money where your mouth is. That's where it is. Your mouth is the k of being able to spill over influence shea kadusha and therefore we have to do it in the proper way. Shabbat shalom.