Want a Shidduch_ Get Ready to Date First

I very much believe in attracting certain things in life. How can you attract a date if you're not ready to date? If I bring you a girl tomorrow and you don't know where to take her, what to do, what to say, what resonates with a woman, what makes her feel special, why should I even bring you a girl to go out with? And that also applies, by the way, for your friends and the shadchanim. They hear you speaking on the phone. And when you tell them, "I need a shidduch. I need a shidduch." How desperate people sound very often, their instinct is to just not bring you a shidduch. Um and I say this because many of these things are things that I've struggled with with the